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Aug 17 2022

What To Do With A Judgmental Manager

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast Episode 191 Cover Image, photo of a cat in a paper bag

This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

Have you ever judged someone on your team when you happened across them sitting down at work and staring into space? Or heard someone say “If there is time to lean, there is time to clean!” Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss loved this short but complicated question from a manager wondering what to do about a fellow manager on their team who tends to look at things from a snapshot perspective – they see what is immediately happening and judge, without giving the team the benefit of the doubt or asking more questions. As you can imagine, this doesn't always go over well with their fellow managers or the rest of the team and they want to know what to do to help teach this fellow manager to stop being so judgmental and start looking at things differently. Let’s get into this…

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 191 – What To Do With A Judgmental Manager

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Episode Transcript

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Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss. You got a second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
Man I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because their phones never stop ringing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Like our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support and it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help but at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded, everybody is drowning in phone calls and so we talk about it. We've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up the front desk, check them out. It's guardianvets.com and if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardianvets.com. Hey everybody. I'm Dr. Andy Roark and this is the Uncharted Podcast. Guys, Stephanie Goss and I got a good one from the mail bag today. Have you ever worked with someone who judged the people around them? They would look, they would see somebody sitting and eating their lunch and be like, “She never does anything.” And they would make these snap decisions and judgements about people. They would sum up their whole character based on the behavior that they saw at that moment. That is a judgemental employee.
What do you do about it? How do you fix it? How do you talk to this person? How big a problem is it? Do we need to work with the whole team on it or is this an individual problem? Gang, Stephanie Goss and I unpack it all. If you have got a Judgy Judgerson in your practice, we got you covered. Let's get into this episode.

Speaker 3:
And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and the one and only Stephanie, no judgment, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
I love it. That might be the most appropriate title for this episode ever.

Andy Roark:
Totally.

Stephanie Goss:
I love it.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
How's it going?

Andy Roark:
It's good, man. Again, Summer winding down. My youngest daughter has been talking all Summer about how she wants to go to a baseball game-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And we went to the local minor league game last night.

Stephanie Goss:
How fun.

Andy Roark:
It was flipping great. We got these great seats. Big spender, I spent $13 each for them. Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Amazing.

Andy Roark:
Amazing. I honestly… There is something really wonderful about minor league baseball, like $13 for a seat. You know what I mean? You go, you don't have to really… You hang out and you got to half watch it and half hang out and-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And she got to eat hot dogs and we got shell… The peanuts and shells.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And so we broke the shells and she was like, “Can we do this?” And I was like, “Yeah, you just drop them.” One day I'm going to find a Texas Roadhouse and just blow your mind.

Stephanie Goss:
Wait till she finds the bar where you can just drop the peanut shells.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It's college kid.

Andy Roark:
100% why.

Stephanie Goss:
That's going to be right up Hannah Roark's alley.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It was a big win. So yeah, we went… It was not a good game, but she didn't know. She was like, “This is great.” I was like, “Good.”

Stephanie Goss:
That's so fun.

Andy Roark:
We may or may not have had ice cream in the seventh inning. It was-

Stephanie Goss:
Don't tell our mom.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, totally. It was pretty fantastic. So that's what's going on with me. How about you?

Stephanie Goss:
I love it. About the same, the kids and I are just hanging out and enjoying the heck out of Summer. They were like, “Can we have ice cream for dinner?” And I was like, “Yes. And then we'll eat second dinner and…”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It's just that it's about having fun. We did a hunter killer mystery together last night, which is-

Andy Roark:
That's fun.

Stephanie Goss:
Like an escape room in a box kind of situation.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I did those.

Stephanie Goss:
And it was you uncharted and you introduced me to escape rooms and I fell in love with them and then I introduced the kids to them and they have totally been digging it. And we did one with their school, through somebody we've used for uncharted and they loved it so much. And so my mom got them this one and I loved it because it was Nancy Drew. So total nostalgia for me-

Andy Roark:
That's cool.

Stephanie Goss:
Growing up when I did. And the kids have no idea who Nancy Drew is, even though they have books on their bookshelf that are Nancy Drew books but so it was great. We had so much fun and it was good. We're trying to lean into spending some intentional time together and turning off the phones and doing the fun stuff.

Andy Roark:
I think that stuff is really important. I think a lot of people are really looking for that these days. I found myself playing a lot of board games-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Recently. And there's one and I can't remember what it's called, but it's this weird… It's this puzzle game of just wooden blocks that have to fit together in a certain way and it's just really ingenious in how it's made and I'll come up with the name of it in the future. But Hannah and I… She's out of camps and stuff and so I'm looking for things to do with her.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I'm working and everything but when I get loose, I can't come home and flop down. I want to come home and engage with her because I know that she's hanging around and waiting for me to get finished. And so we've been playing board games and stuff like that. I am a huge escape room junkie. I love those. Hunter of killers are fun, my wife and I did those. The ones that I really love and they are challenging, but a quick gift recommendation for anybody out there who likes puzzles or mysteries or things like that to do together with people, there's one called Curious Correspondence.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And that's… This is not sponsored by Curious Correspondence but if anyone from Curious is listening-

Stephanie Goss:
If you want to sponsor us.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Give me a call. Let me know because I'll be your guy, because I am 100% on board with your product. Allison and I have done the first adventure, the whole adventure and they send you like one thing a month, but their puzzles are really good. And they are not easy. It takes us a couple of days to work through the things. But those are really well done, but I am 100% with you as far as trying to find things that are intentional that people could do together.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, and it's always hard, right? Because you guys might not know this about me, but I'm a bit of a control freak. And so when the kids drag out a book or drag out a board game and they're like, “Can we do this one?” And my first instinct is if it's something that I don't want to do or the book that I hate, my first instinct is to be the mom that's like, “No, not going to do that.” And so I really do have to fight that instinct sometimes. And then last night it was like, Riley pulled out this one and she was like, “Let's try something we haven't actually done,” because we have a whole stack of things and I had had it in my head when now you said let's do a game, I was thinking of the thing that I wanted to do and I was like, “No, let's do it.” And we had so much fun and it was great. So yeah. Summer's going well. It's a lot of fun.

Andy Roark:
You told me a long time ago your favorite board game. What's your favorite board game?

Stephanie Goss:
God, I really… The kids and I really dig this game called Fluxx is-

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Okay.

Stephanie Goss:
And we now have like seven different decks and I really enjoy that one. It's a game where their rules change constantly throughout the game hence the name Fluxx. And they have all different versions and they have a super nerdy fantasy version now that's got like Harry Potter, esque and a Lord of the rings esque characters and cards. And it's a lot of fun. What do you guys… You guys play a lot of games.

Andy Roark:
We play a lot of board games. Yeah. I picked up Fluxx after you recommended it and it is fun. I had a good time. We played as a family. You played Ticket to Ride-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Recently, which is a train game. I tell you when you get four people playing, it gets really fun really fast.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
That was… That way… I'm not a train guy, I was like, “We have a train game?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I was really impressed with that. There's a couple of games that we get a ton of mileage out of, the Exploding Kittens. We play a lot of Exploding Kittens. We play one called Trash Pandas, which is a card game.

Stephanie Goss:
I love Trash Pandas. So fun.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. We play a lot of Trash Pandas. And then we play… I'll give you my recommendation, there's one called Kingdomino-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Which is super fun and we play a lot of that one as well. So-

Stephanie Goss:
We have that. I haven't played it with the kids yet. We have that one. I think the one you were thinking of the kids and I found it is called Dragonwood and-

Andy Roark:
That's what it was.

Stephanie Goss:
I love that game. So much fun. If you like D&D kind of style games, Dragon went super fun and even my… Jackson was I think seven or eight when we started playing and he could figure it out. So it was great. Great for them and they actually… We got the harder version of it. I think it's Dragon Quest or Dragon Realm, something like that. And it's… They love it. It's so much fun. And that was… It's funny that you said that, because that was the game that in my head, I was like, “We can play Dragonwood, we play Fluxx and…” Right? Because that was the Nancy Drew mystery, but it was so much fun and I would 100% do something like that again. I was like, “This is not… This is definitely one of those one time use games,” because now that they've solved it, obviously we can't do it again, but totally worth the time.
Because I thought about it and I was like… My first thought as a parent was, “Well, that was a waste of money,” and I know my mom spent $25 on this thing and so I'm thinking, “That's it.” But when I stop and step back and think I would've spent way more than that if I took them to the movies for two hours or if I took them to a baseball game or whatever. And so I'm like, “That was actually…” We spent an hour and a half together and we had a lot of fun. It was totally, totally worth it. And it can have new life with another family.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
So it's super, super fun. Anyway-

Andy Roark:
That's my gauge on entertainment. That's how I gauge entertainment and I think a lot of people get lost in that. I gauge everything against the fact that a two hour movie cost me $15 right now if I go to the theater. And so if I do something with a family of four and it takes us three hours and it costs me $50, I'm like, “That's a reasonable deal.” If everybody was into it and we had a good time, I'm like, “That's what entertainment for a group costs.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
But that just… Anyway, that makes a lot of that stuff more paldo to me, because I'm totally with you, it's $25 and then you do it and you're like, “Well that's done.” Yeah. I can't look at it as a comparison to a deck of cards. You got to look at it as how many people enjoyed it and for how long do they enjoy it? All right, let's let's do some actual work here. Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Let's get to work. So speaking of judgemental and judging, because that's how you kicked me off with my name today. We've got a great mail bag question. I actually really like this one and it's funny because it comes from a colleague and someone that I actually know in real life who I have worked with before. And when I saw a pop up in the mailbox, I was like, “That's a great question.”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
But it also has sat there for a while because I thought, “How do we…” This is a… It's a big one and it's a vague one and so I'm super interested to dive into this with you. So we got an asset said, “How do you get coworkers to move past a snapshot mentality?” And they said, “I have a fellow manager on my team who sees everything in a single view format without doing a deep dive into what's really going on.” And what they mean is, they gave an example. Like for example, if this person sees someone sitting down their automatic assumption and where they go to every time is that person is not doing anything or that person is lazy. Right? And it's those kind of snap judgments and they said this happens repeatedly and with people across the team.
And so it causes grief, obviously, as you can imagine with the team there's perception that this person is mean, that they're picking on people, that they're a jerk and also it causes conflict amongst the rest of the managers, because there are lots of people on the team who are like, “Dude, what's your problem? Why do you have such an attitude?” And so they were like, “How do I get… How do I teach that? This person happens to be the lead of this management team and was like, “How do I…” This has to be a skill, right? “How do I teach people to have some empathy and compassion and be a better leader and not make such rush snap judgements.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I thought that was really an interesting… That was an interesting question. It was an interesting question. I think there's plenty of stuff here. I think that the important thing to think about is the question here is how do I deal with this behavior in my peer? Because that's what I'm hearing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
The way I would do it if I was the boss of this person is a little bit different, but not wildly different, there's a lot of similarities. Well, let's start with some head space, you're ready Right.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
So do not fall into the trap of doing to the person what you complain about the person doing to other people.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Meaning say, if this person is always coming up with snap judgements and labeling people and then they're grumpy and I'm not saying that's what we get from the letter, but you know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I immediately want to make sure that I'm not following into the thing that I don't like about this person.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. It's easy to get into the negative head space.

Andy Roark:
Exactly right. And say, “Well, this is what they do.” Look, everybody's got their strengths and everybody's got their weaknesses, right? And everybody's got mental shortcuts that they take and they have ways that they look at the world. It's just interesting. So I coach improv comedy and I really enjoy it. And I had a player. As part of the coaching… So I'll coach a team for a season and so I work with this group of people throughout a whole season and one time I was halfway through the season. And generally at the halfway point, I sit down with each of the players individually and say, “How do you think the season's going? What do you see your strong suits as? What are your weaknesses? What do you want to focus on in the second half of the season. These are the things I see you doing well and this is where I think that you can grow.”
And I do a one-on-one evaluation with each of these players. And so I have… I love the diversity of people that we play with. And we have some people who are older. And so I don't think you'd mind me telling the story. When I was talking to one of my friends who is on the team and he came in and he's 78 years old and he does improv with us and he's great. And he had a frustration. He said, “I get so frustrated because other people see me doing a scene. And then they jump in because they think they can do it better than me.” And that really bothered him. And I talked to him about it for a while.
And ultimately what I said to him was, “You've made this assumption that people are jumping in because they think they can…” They're jumping into the scene that he's putting on or he's creating and making him leave that scene there, they're tagging him out of that scene.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
So he's being moved off the stage and they're continuing on with this thing that he helped create. And I said, “You make this assumption, these people are jumping in because they think they can do it better than you.” I say, “I watch you do these things. I think that you are creating things that are fun and exciting and people want to be a part of what you've created and so they're jumping in because they want to be a part of what you're doing. I don't think that anyone thinks you're not doing it well, I think that you've succeed in creating a thing and then other people want to play in the universe that you have created on this stage. And I was going to say I think that, that's a real strength and I think it shows what a strong season you're having as far as creation and comedy and theater and things.”
And so anyway, I know that's a weird story to bring forward, but it stands out to me is I have this person who was having great success, but in his mind, the explanation was, “These people make… They jump into my scene because they think they can do it better than me.” And I look at it and I say, “I think these people are jumping into your scene because you're doing a great job and they want to be a part of what you're doing.” And that's the story that's in my head as I look at this question about the manager and they see these people in a snapshot and we make assumptions about why they are behaving the way that they are. And so if I was going to talk to the person, I would tell them that story because it is a story I say, “Hey-

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
This is a thing that I've seen in my life and I want to tell you a story about someone in improv comedy.” And then I would bring it back in order say, “My friend was wrong because he… These people had great respect for him and they were doing these positive things, but didn't look that way.” And I would say, “I see you sometimes and we have these conversations and I wonder if you don't have a similar perspective sometimes of making assumptions about what people are doing and things like that, that aren't exactly accurate.” And so anyway, that's… If I was their boss, I would probably maybe tell that story and things like that. But I don't know, I just want to be… From a head space standpoint, that story of my friend at improv is very similar to how I look at these experiences when people make snap judgments. They tell themselves stories about what other people are doing. And the sad thing is my friend was unhappy doing improv-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Until I got him to believe, no, this isn't happening because people don't like you or they think-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Less of you, this happens because they do like you and they're and you're and got him to look at this different way and suddenly he was thrilled and he was happy to be on the team. And he took this as a compliment and praise and then I told him, “I'm going to lean into making sure that people don't jump in just because they want to participate in what you're doing. They need to… I'm going to make sure people don't take this away from you, just because they're excited about what you're doing. They need to bring something new and different.” And I could communicate that to the team as I saw it and say, “Hey, pay attention to these things and…”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Anyway, I was able to adjust the problem in a way that was positive for everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I really like that. And I think that there's a piece of… I think it's a good example and illustration, as you were telling the story and you… The clear difference in mindset between thinking that people are jumping in because they could do it better than him versus they're jumping in because they're excited. Those are two radically different things and there's this quote that I love by Steven Covey and it says, we judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior.

Andy Roark:
That's good.

Stephanie Goss:
And it's such a good quote. And I heard it when I was just getting started as a leader and a manager and realized a few things about it. It resonated with me so strongly and I realized like, it is true. And to your point, we evaluate ourselves using this exclusive access that we have in our heads to the story that we're telling ourselves in our heads, right? Only we know what's going on in our minds. And there are… We know about our intentions, we know about our motivations. We also know about our own insecurities, our own worries, things that have happened in the past that have hurt us or who have gone really well. All of those things go up and roll up into a ball and are part of the self-evaluation that we make on how we're choosing to act, right?
And those internal thoughts at best are only partially known by the people around us. And even when they know they may not be understood well, or they may be interpreted very differently. The actions that we live by and our behaviors is what counts to the people around us. And so for me was always a reminder to say, “Hey, look, the team doesn't want good intentions, they want good actions, they want to be supported because they will judge you like.” That is human nature. We are all judgemental. There's no escaping, every single one of us on the planet at some point throw stones and judges other people. Right? And so I think it's really important to think as a peer, if you can recognize that and you can recognize that how you act matters, you can have some influence over your peer and to your point early on, how you address this as a peer and how you address it if you were their boss is two different things.
And ultimately, I think this might be a little bit of an episode where we visit camp tough love, because if you are truly just a peer, at some point, your hands may be tied.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And there's not a whole lot that you can do, but you can always choose your behavior and how you interact and how you lead by example. And so for me, thinking about that quote and thinking about like, we judge ourselves differently than everybody else judges us. And if we want to think about not having judgment by the rest of the team or passing judgment, we have to think about how are they looking at it, not how are we looking at it because our perception is skewed.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I agree. The big things for me when I start talking about things like this, the question that we wrestle around with is what is my responsibility to give feedback to a peer.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And I don't know that. I wonder… It really depends on the culture and the structure. Are we in a place where we give feedback to each other, do we have a system to do peer evaluations?

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Do they do 360 degree evals? Is this a thing where maybe that person's direct boss asks the other managers and says, “Hey, we're all going to give feedback on each other and you're going to give it to me and I'm going to use it to do evaluations with people. So tell me the strengths and tell me any weaknesses that you see in colleagues,” and-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
There's a million different ways to do that sort of things where if the higher ups wanted to get feedback from others about how someone was doing so they could give that person that feedback. If this is drilled down to a PR, it seems like a pretty condensed nugget of pointed feedback to say, “This is a behavior that we see,” there may be mechanisms for that. And honestly, a lot of times I think that the easiest thing would be to go through that mechanism and say, “Here's what I see in Steve. He's great. These are the things he does well. This is the big thing that I think he struggled with.” And you may have a mechanism like that. And if that's the system and you give feedback to the boss and the boss gives feedback to the person, then I would just go through that system and that's not wrong.
It's like we like for the technicians to talk to each other and give each other feedback but honestly, a lot of times let's be honest, the best thing they could do is pass it to the practice manager and allow the manager to give that person feedback or to give them an evaluation or things like that. It really depends. We've all looked at people that are our colleagues or our peers in the workplace and been like, “Do I want to give this person some constructive criticism? Is it worth the risk to me to do that? Is it my place to do it? Would I want this person to give me feedback?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I think a lot of us are like, “Sure, I would.” And go, “Would you really?” And I just think that those are all dynamics that are specific to an individual practice.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And so I'm not saying don't do it, but I am saying we sometimes have to ask ourselves what feedback is appropriate to give to a peer versus what feedback is appropriate to go through a review process versus what feedback is more appropriate just to keep to ourselves, unless someone asks us. If this person isn't asking for feedback, do I go, “Okay, well, I'm going to let go.”

Stephanie Goss:
So I think I agree with you on a big chunk of that and I disagree with you on part of it.

Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And so… But before I get into that, the disagreement piece of it, I think it's important to roll back for just a second, because I think your point is about what type of feedback you're giving is spot on. Right? And so here's the thing, the reason why a lot of us struggle with giving that feedback, particularly peer to peer, like is it actually my job to give them the feedback? My answer to that, this is where I disagree with you, is always yes. I don't have any right to say something to their boss or go above them if I haven't had the conversation with them directly, that's a fundamental core belief of mine.
I didn't always have that belief, but it shifted radically for me early on in my career. And I don't feel good. There were times where I said something to somebody else's boss and the change happened, but I never felt good about the change and what I realized over the course of working on communication skills and in therapy was that I felt guilty because yeah, the change had happened, but it had happened because I told on them or I [inaudible 00:25:25] knocked them out. Right? And so there was… For me, there was this guilt factor of like, “Okay, I really did want that change, but I didn't want the consequences of them feeling like they got told on,” because I went through that myself and it feels really crappy.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so for me, a core fundamental belief is like, look, I can say something, but I have to have had the conversation with that person directly first. And so we've talked on the podcast before about some of the rules that I've developed for myself to make that an easier process. But I want to step back for one second because I think a lot of it has to do with the type of feedback that we're giving to that person. So I think that something that you and I are very passionate about is how do we give feedback? Because so much of our jobs… Especially as leaders, but everybody on our team should be able to give feedback. And unfortunately for all of us, peer feedback is not something that… It is a skill. It has to be learned and then it has to be honed and it is not something that most of us learn in everyday life.
We don't learn the tools to truly give constructive feedback. And we all know this because we felt the results of very critical and not constructive feedback where we felt like people are just being mean, they're smack talking us. Right? We've all felt that on some individual level in our practices, in our career. And so when I think about feedback, I think a light bulb moment for me happened when I saw this model in a class and I don't know, off the top of my head where it came from. I'll put it in the show notes for you guys, but there is this concept about this feedback bullseye. So close your eyes and imagine that there's a target, right? Like a shooting target and you have the rings and there are four rings and the big outer ring is green and that is the impact ring. Okay? And so this is about talking to people about what impact their actions or their words, or… Have on you, on the rest of the team, on the group as a whole. That's the first ring.
The second ring is behavior. So what behaviors are happening that are impacting the team and those two rings are tied together, right? That makes total sense. And then you get one ring down and you could talk to somebody about their motivation. What is motivating them to behave this way and act this way that then has impact on others around them, rippling outwards, right? And at the center of that bullseye is someone's motivation. What is motivating them to… Sorry, the center is their identity, who they are. They are a mean person. They are just a jerk and this is why they are motivated to behave this way and this is how it impacts the team, right? That ripples out. When I saw that and the person who was talking about it was explaining, “Look, your job should always be to stay in the outer two rings because they are the majority.
They are the biggest, they are the brightest. They have the most impact.” When we judge someone for their motivation or we talk about their identity as a person, we get nowhere. And yet that's where we often as humans lean into when it comes to giving peer to peer feedback. Well, I think you're just being a jerk. I don't like why you're choosing to do what you're choosing to do. I disagree with that, right? We are judging the identity and motivation. We can't change that. That's not something that we can affect change on. When we talk to them about the impact that their actions have on the team. When we talk about the behaviors themselves, when you use this tone of voice, when you speak to someone in that way, when you stand there and cross your arms, those are things that we can give clear examples for, and we can impact change.
And that's a behavioral model that we don't teach. And so most of us, when we're trying to give feedback peer to peer, we don't know how to phrase it. We don't know what to do with that feedback. So most of us, to your point, Andy lean into, is it really my job? I'm not really equipped to do this. So I'm just going to say something to their manager if I have the opportunity and it's probably going to course correct better if it comes from them. And I would really argue that it is all of our responsibilities to be able to have those conversations with each other and say to your peer, like I should be able to say to you, “Hey Andy, when you talk to Sarah like that, it makes me really sad because I actually… When I hear you, what I hear is judgment.
And if I was her, that would make me feel pretty crappy about myself or the job that I was doing or whatever. I don't want to feel like that. So how can I help you do that less because it makes me really sad.” Right? Then I'm talking about the impact that your behaviors had on me as a person. I'm not talking about how Sarah felt and being empathetic and I'm showing that I could have compassion for her. Right? And that feels very different than, “Hey…” I'm just going to go ahead and tell our boss when we have an opportunity to give feedback that, “Hey, Sarah's a jerk and she's managing in a way that I don't think everybody likes.” Those two things feel really different.

Andy Roark:
Sure. No, when I say I would talk to the manager, I guess what I was trying to say is, I think a good evaluation process involves feedback from multiple people and going and being like, “Hey, you work with Stephanie Goss, what are your impressions? What are her strengths? What are her weaknesses?” I would say, “These are her strengths and this is her weakness that I say.”

Stephanie Goss:
No one person has the whole story.

Andy Roark:
Exactly right. Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Right? You have to do your job.

Andy Roark:
Right. I am not going to go and tell Stephanie's boss, “Hey, I wasn't affected by this but she exhibited behavior that I was… It's not how I would do this.” I'm not going to do that. But that's what I meant when I said, “Is it your job to go and have these conversations?” And I still go back to it. Unfortunately it does depend on culture-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
To some degree and what is acceptable and how we do it. So, okay. So what I want to do here, I want to start to get into the meat and potatoes of this. And so I think the first thing we ought to do is… I think just to be complete, we should lay down real quickly, why is the behavior that's being exhibited a problem? And so I would just put forward, as you said, to me the big thing is assuming someone's identity based on a behavior is a dead end, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Saying that person didn't show up and so they are lazy, not, they did not appear when they were supposed to be there because that's a one time thing that can be corrected, adjusted but no, they, as a person are lazy. That's lazy thinking and it's sloppy thinking and it leads you in a management hole because you can't change who someone is and it makes it easy to write people off. And that is a… Writing people off is not growing them, that's giving up on growing them.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And so that is a problem. The classic ideas of seek first to understand, yeah, assume good intent. All of those things are important and take your pick of which one you want to motivate you. But they really are behavior, not identity when we give feedback. All those things are important in making people feel seen and still being able to give them feedback. And obviously when we look at people and make judgements about why they are behaving that way and who they are, we damage relationships. Right? We isolate things. I'll also call out. This is a classic anxiety… Yeah, this is a classic anxiety symptom of catastrophizing, right? When you look and you see someone not doing a thing, you go, “That person is worthless. They don't do anything. They get… They're so lazy.” I'm going… That's catastrophizing. You are looking at one thing and telling yourself a story in your head and then behaving as if that story was true.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, and for just a second, I think we have to normalize… This piece really resonated with me because I have been this manager where I've judged. I've looked at somebody who's sitting down and I'm like, “Dang it. There's so much to be done. Why are they just sitting there?” Right? I totally understand why you can make that judgment. We all do it. And I think we have to normalize the fact that it is impossible to go a hundred miles an hour, 10 or 12 hours a day, every single one of us is human. We need breaks. We need to sit. We need to do nothing. Just because someone works for me does not mean that they are going to move nonstop for the 12 hours a day that they are working on my team. That is an unrealistic, unfair assumption and I think we have to normalize the fact that everybody on our team deserves the opportunity to sit and stare into space or do nothing-

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
At times during their shift. Right? That has to be part of the conversation but because we do what you're talking about, because we have a lot of anxiety, because we have a lot of fear, a lot of concerns, we can very easily look at one time and turn it into a thousand times.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think that's where as a leader, your job is not to judge the one time it's to… And not even to go looking for the pattern, because if you go looking for it, you will find it and that drives you into the negative rabbit hole faster and faster. Right? But it's about when it actually happens. Being able to say, “Is this behavior happening over and over again? Does this have an impact on the rest of the team or do I need to recognize this, say this is a human being who's sitting here for five seconds, cool. Good for you. I'm proud of you for sitting here and taking a break,” right? When do we start to have that conversation as leaders?
And I recognize that, that's a little bit of a soapbox, but that is part of breaking that cycle because historically as an industry I have worked with and four way more bosses who look at it from the other side of the spectrum where it's like, “Oh my God, you're sitting down for five minutes, you're lazy. Why aren't you doing your job?” That's not normal. That is very abnormal behavior. And it is something that I think we need to recognize that we're doing and work on trying to fix.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. One of the, probably, the least enjoyable experience I had in that school was when I was doing large animal internal medicine rotation. And I was there during the day and I was involved in this ultrasound and so this clinician was doing this ultrasound and I was there and I was taking notes or whatever. And I was talking to him and I was really involved in what was going on. And it was a case that I was working on everything. And so anyway, so that happened in the afternoon. And then I was on call that night and I got called in about 10:30 at night and I was there until four in the morning and I don't do well staying up overnight.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I'm never an emergency. [inaudible 00:36:14] I just… I don't. And so the next day I'm back in rounds, it's like 3:00 in the afternoon and the clinician starts drilling me with questions from the ultrasound on the previous day. And Stephanie, I couldn't remember.

Stephanie Goss:
True.

Andy Roark:
It was… I just… I didn't-

Stephanie Goss:
You're half asleep.

Andy Roark:
I mean, I was dying and so I didn't… And he was hitting me and he was getting angry that I didn't know these questions. And he just came after me in front of everybody, as far as just asking me a question and then another question and another question on top of it.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And he got really upset and he was like, “Why don't any of this stuff? I was here with you,” and blah, blah, blah.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And really went after me. And I didn't say… I didn't tell him I was up all night because it didn't seem relevant at the time, but that was the one time in vet school I was publicly chewed out in front of my colleagues. And it was funny. He came up… I still think about it sometimes. He came up to me later in the day and he said, “Hey buddy, I just found out that you were here all night. I'm really sorry about that earlier.” And I was like, “Okay, well, thanks.” But it didn't change the fact that he embarrassed me-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, chewed you out in front of everybody.

Andy Roark:
In front of everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And what's funny is I liked that guy. I liked him before and I still like him after. But I think a lot about it's he had no idea what I was doing and not what I was doing in my personal life, like what I was doing in the hospital in the middle of the night, doing these other things.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And so I think about that sometimes when I see someone sitting down or zoned out or whatever, and go, “I remember when that guy came after me and I had done nothing but work as hard as I could. And man, it made me feel so bad.” And so anyway, that's just a story from my life that I remember about making assumptions about… I wasn't sitting there, but I just… I didn't have the answers to those questions. And it's funny, everybody's fighting battle we don't know anything about and anyway, I've always remembered that. So that's a story that I file away for things like this. So I just think that's important to really remember.

Stephanie Goss:
And so it's hard, right? Because our writer can see that and they can feel that. And they're like, why can this person not have that similar mentality? Right? How do I get… That's why they wrote to us, they're asking, “How do I help this person who is a peer get over that?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think that's where I said early on, we might take a trip to camp tough love. I think the reality is, I don't know how much control you have over that as a peer. And I think the things that you… So it's a little bit of head space, but also a little bit of things to control. You can control what you can and you can lead with empathy. You can lead with compassion, you can model the behavior, right? You can, Andy you as a leader, experience that. And so it enables you to look through the lens differently now when you see it happening to other people, because you had that experience yourself, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
So our writer has the capacity to look through a different lens than the person who is… That they're writing about, who's doing the things. And the reality is you can only control what you can control. And so you can control yourself. You can control how you lead, how you engage with compassion, with empathy, with other people, and also with this person and you can model the behavior and you can talk to them. Those are all things in your control and are actionable steps and camp tough love, you can't control it all. If you're not their direct boss, there's only so much you can do to help affect change here.

Andy Roark:
Let's take a quick break and then let's take a crack at it. Let's see what we can do.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
Hey guys, I just want to jump in here real fast and give a shout out to Banfield the pet hospital for making our transcripts available. That's right. We have transcripts for the Cone of Shame Vet Podcast and the Uncharted Veterinary Podcast. You can find them at dr.andyroark.com and at unchartedvet.com. This is part of their effort to increase inclusivity and accessibility in vet medicine. We couldn't do it without them. I got to say, thanks. Thanks for making the content that we put out more available to our colleagues. Guy,. That's all I got this time. Let's get back into this. All right. So let's get into this here for a second. Now you're right. Caveats at the very beginning, you cannot change someone who doesn't want to change.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And you should always remember… We talk about that a lot.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
You cannot change someone who doesn't want to change. You can always model the behaviors that you want to see in others and that you think should be part of your culture.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And that is a power that you always have.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I do think that those two things are really important. If you want to have a chance of helping this person and you see these things, the first thing that I think is required is a trusting relationship.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I think is extremely hard to have this conversation with someone that you don't have a relationship with-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Or that you don't know or that you don't have any trust in.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Have you given them positive reinforcement in the past? Have you told them the things that they're good at? Do you know their hobbies? Do you know their spouse? Have you had dinner with them? Have you had lunch with them? Do you talk to them? Do you have… Just do you know them?

Stephanie Goss:
Do you have a foundation?

Andy Roark:
Do you have a foundation?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And if you don't have a foundation, I would say, you, my friend are on thin ice, and this is going to be very hard.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And that is something that you can't do right now, today, you have to build it over time, but there are… This is why we want to know our colleagues. This is why we give positive reinforcement whenever we get the chance. Right? Because when we have something that might sting a little bit to here, we can give it inside of a relationship of trust.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And so that's the first thing I want to say is, “Well, you could… If you have a very strong trusting relationship, you could say these things.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I would say them directly to you and to your face and I wouldn't think twice about it if we were peers, because I care about you deeply and you know I care about you.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
You know I'd anything for you.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And so if I said, “Hey, I see something, I just want to bring your attention because I've seen it a couple times and I just want to put it on your radar.” I would just say that to you, but I can do that because we have a very good-

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Foundation.

Andy Roark:
Trust-filled foundation and relationship. And so I just think that's a big part of it. And then I think you've really got two options. If you want to do this and you're trying to get your head around it, the first question I would say to you before choosing an option is what is kind. And I talk a lot about that. If you were this person, would you want to get this feedback? Would you want to know that you were getting this? And why would you want to… If you were… Sorry, if you were this person, would you want to get this feedback? Would you want to know that someone had seen these things and why would you want to know? And put that into your mind is what is kind, what is kind to this person, what is kind to the staff and what is kind to the other peers, the people who are direct… Weigh the options up and say, “Okay, is this the hill that I want to potentially die on?”
Which hopefully I'm not going to but is it worth this risk to me? So but-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
But do it, right? Okay. So what is kind. And then you got two options. So the first one is to go, if it's bothering you and you feel like this is mounting, and you have a good answer to the question, why today. If you're like, “I'll tell you why I'm going to do this today,” and you have a good reason why this needs to happen today then your best friend, in my opinion, is developmental feedback. You go in and say, “Hey, I want to talk to you real quick about something that I'm seeing.” And then I would give them… I always give them the good stuff first, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Say, “I've seen you do a lot of things. I think these are the things that you are really good at. This is the stuff that you do that I admire the most. This is the things you do that really, really impress me. There's one thing that I look at when I look at you and I look at all the balls that you're juggling that I just want to bring to your attention as a potential for you to have an easier time.” Right? And that's what I call it developmental feedback. I'm not telling you, you're something wrong-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
I'm telling you, I see an opportunity for your life to be easier. I see an opportunity for you to make better headway. I see an opportunity for you to get more out of your people. I see an opportunity for you to have less stress and get fewer people pushing back against you.

Stephanie Goss:
It's future facing.

Andy Roark:
Right. It's 100% future facing.

Stephanie Goss:
It's something they can do something about because it's not something that's already happened.

Andy Roark:
Absolutely.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And so definitely, if I'm giving peer feedback, I don't want to talk to my peers about what they screwed up last week-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Right? Because it's over, but it's future facing. Right? I can't fix what happened last week, but I can say, “Hey, I see an opportunity for the future to go more easily. And I just wanted to put it on your radar. This is a thing that I've seen.” And so that's the developmental future facing feedback. That's how I would say it, is not, “You messed up,” but, “I wanted to bring this up. I just want to tell you, I see you excelling in all of these ways. I think these are real strengths of yours. There's one thing that I wanted to put on your radar that I think could make your life easier and here it is.” I just say, “I've seen it a couple of times.”
And again, this may be… I may have seen it the only times it ever happened, but I just saw it a couple times and I just wanted mention it to you. And then you say it, right? The other thing is the mention, which is you say it when it happens. And so when they look at the person and they walk away and they come in and they close the door to the manager's office, say, “God, she's so lazy.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
That's when you say, “Hey, I need to talk to you about something.” And then you say, “I've heard you say things like this a couple of times and I know why you say it,” right? Empathy first, show some empathy. I know why you say it. We've all felt that way.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I recognize that because I have done the same thing. Right? You're setting the ground equally as peers.

Andy Roark:
Absolutely. And then you say, “When you look at… When you see someone sitting down, you seem to get frustrated with them in a much bigger scale than what is warranted given what's going on. And I just… I think it might damage your relationship with those people. I think it makes you unhappy. And I think it makes it harder for you to manage those people because you can't do anything with a lazy person-

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
But you can 100% address inefficiencies in time management.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And so then I would have that feedback like that. And again, I call it the mention because I'm not going to give them a 45 minute guided lecture with PowerPoint-

Stephanie Goss:
Great.

Andy Roark:
And documentation, I'm just going to say, “Hey, I may be off base here, but this is what… This is a thing that I see. And I just… You said that, let me just say this and you can tell me if I'm right or tell me if I'm wrong. I don't know. This is what I see.” And then you say it and then you let it go.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. And I would add to that too. You can say, “I don't want you to feel native like that. So how can I help?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Whatever you've told them is the thing… Because then it's a mention, like you said, you're doing it in real time, it's the thing that's just happened. And it isn't just like, “Hey, I think you just acted like a jerk and now I'm going to turn around and walk away.” And that's the end of the conversation, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Because that doesn't feel good either.

Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
It's like, “Hey what's… Do you need a break? Do you need to talk? How can I help?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah. This only works if you lead with empathy. You have to like this person-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And come to them as someone who is on their team and who wants to help them not as, “Hey, I'm not your boss, but I'm going to give you some tough love.” And so the tough love is for the writer who says you can't change anyone who doesn't want to change. I would not use tough love on this person because I'm not their boss. I'm going to use empathetic communication to say, “Hey, I see you and I hear you and this is my concern.” And then I'm just going to say, “What do you…” And then I'll even end with, “What do you think of that? Or does that sound reasonable? I might be completely off base.”

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And just let them go, but I'm not trying to tag them and say, “I have diagnosed you.” I'm going to say, “I don't know. I seen a couple things, let me ask you a question,” and then put it down.

Stephanie Goss:
And so here's where I agreed with you when I said I disagree and agree. So here's where I agree with you. So I think you have to… For me, my personal role is I… Look, I have to talk to you first. And if I talk to you, particularly, if we've now done the mention or had the conversation like, “Last week you said that too, and now we're having the conversation again,” then for me is… I have to ask myself the question, look, do I control their direct future? Am I their direct boss? And if the answer to that is no and I've had the conversation, particularly if I've had repeated conversation with them, then I have no qualms about talking to their boss and the context for me in talking to their boss, even if it's not a 360 review process is happening or there's something else that is happening that would make me give that feedback to somebody who is soliciting it.
But I would have no problem talking to their boss and the way that I approach that is to say, “Hey, I had an interaction with Sarah yesterday and I asked her how I could help and this is like the third time this week and then it happened again this morning. And so I could use your help as her boss in figuring out how I can be a better peer for her, how I can support her more.” Now you are effectively making them aware of the situation and you are doing it in a positive way because you are coming to them, asking them for your help, for how you can be a better peer. That looks and feels and is, I think, so much better than, “Hey Andy, you should know that Sarah's out there being a jerk to the rest of the team.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
You're the manager, you deal with it, but I just wanted you to know.” How many times as a manager have I sat in the office and someone has come and unloaded on me and basically said, “This person's acting like a jerk, I don't want to have anything to do with fixing it, I just need you to be aware of the problem because it's your job to deal with it.” No, no, no, no. That's not how this works. You have some responsibility as a peer. And so I have no problem talking to the actual boss about how I can help them. And I'll tell you why, because the answer is that if you ask to actively be a part of the solution, it benefits you too. And that sounds crazy but follow me for a second. So if I say to them, “Hey Catherine, you're her boss and I'm struggling with this. I would like to be a better peer for her. Did you know that this was happening? I need your help trying to figure out how to address this.”
You're bringing it to her attention, then you're going to talk through it. Right? And ultimately if Catherine decides that Sarah maybe should have some leadership training or some sensitivity training or some critical conversations, training, I as a fellow manager, can also get in on that because I always want to continue to improve myself. Look, the fact that you writer are sending us this email tells me that you care, that you are doing good things as a manager and that my friend, that is the sweet spot because you always have room to learn new skills, to gain new knowledge to grow. And so if you engage with the leadership to help solve this problem, you have the potential to benefit yourself as well in terms of gaining skills and this person will benefit as well. And so it is a win-win I think on both sides in that regard, only if you approach it from the perspective of, “Hey, I want to help. I want to learn. I want to grow,” and not from the place of, “Hey look, she's a jerk. This is your problem.”

Andy Roark:
Yeah, totally. I completely agree. Cool, man. I think that's the best advice that I got for this person. I hope it's been beneficial just to walk through the exercise of, do we have this conversation? Do we not have this conversation? How do we get our heads around this? What is the underpinnings of the problem that we're seeing in the other person and then how do we actually approach this person if we decide to do so. So-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I feel like that was a good… We wandered a little bit there, but I think that we ultimately got around to all the things that I really wanted to get around to.

Stephanie Goss:
Because look ultimately you pick your poison and so you can be miserable and you can keep seeing this behavior happening over and over and over or you can do something about it and your hands might be a little bit tied if you're their peer and you're not their boss. And it's not to say that it's hopeless and there's nothing you can do. And so-

Andy Roark:
Correct.

Stephanie Goss:
Do what you have in your control, pick your poison and you can do what's in your control and you can try and impact the change. And then at the end of the day, you have to recognize, is this the hill I want to die on? And if so that's a choice or am I going to stay quiet about this and I'm just going to let it go, I'm going to ignore it? Those are all conscious decisions and that's ultimately where it's like, you have to pick your poison and figure out how do you want to live with this situation?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And hopefully it involves you wanting to change it because I don't want to be miserable.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I'm with you.

Stephanie Goss:
Somebody like that.

Andy Roark:
I am with you.

Stephanie Goss:
Have a fantastic week, everybody.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, everybody. Take care of yourselves.

Stephanie Goss:
Take care. Hey friends, have you been over to the website lately to check out all the fun and exciting things that are coming from the Uncharted Veterinary team? If not, you should stop right now and head over there because we have got some awesome stuff coming late Summer and into the Fall and Winter and I want you to be there with us. We have our Get Shit Done conference coming in. The fall that is happening in October. Before that we've got a workshop coming in September from my dear friend, Dr. Phil Richmond. He's going to be talking about avoiding toxic teams, how to create psychological safety in our practices. We've got the amazing and wonderful technician, Melissa [inaudible 00:53:42] Inchkin, who is leading a workshop in October about leveraging technicians, making practice less stressful for you, them and your patients, and all kinds of other fantastic things you are not going to want to miss out on.
So if you haven't been over there lately, head on over to unchartedvet.com, you can hit forward slash events if you want to go straight to the events page, but that will show you everything that is coming. And remember, if you are an Uncharted member, your membership gets you access to all of these workshops that we do on a regular basis for free. And if you are not currently a member, you can check out the membership information because it will save you big bucks throughout the year on accessing all of the workshops and it scores you access to the conferences when we have them like Get Shit Done for less money. That's right. Get a discount and who doesn't love a good discount. Thanks so much for listening guys. We'll see you soon.

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Aug 10 2022

The Whole Team Says “I’ve Never Been Shown How to Do That”

This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

The team has been together for almost a year and yet they seem to be collectively saying “I've not been shown how to do that…” about many things. Simple things. Are you ready to pull your hair out yet? We can understand why! Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss understand the pain and frustration this mailbag writer has over this exact situation. Plus they shared that when their leadership team gives corrections to the group, it is met with feedback that they are being mean or bullying the team into doing what they want. Our writer asks “How do we hold them accountable, in a safe space, but still correct the deficiencies?” This is a FANTASTIC question so let’s get into this…

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Dr. Andy Roark:
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Stephanie Goss:
Hey, everybody. I am Stephanie Goss, and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. This week on the podcast, Andy and I are diving into the mailbag, and we've got a great letter from a medical director who says, “What do I do when the whole team says, ‘I've never been shown how to do that?”
We're not talking about super-complicated processes or protocols in the practice. We're talking about the basic things. How to do the laundry, how to sweep the floor, things like that. It's a real solid question and one that Andy and I have a lot of fun diving into answering. So, let's get into this, shall we? And now, the Uncharted Podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and Stephanie, you can do it, put your back into it, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
Ooh, I really like that one. How's it going, Andy Roark?

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's good. It is good. Things are good.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, it was heading into the back part of summer here. I can see people starting to think about taking kids back to school and some normalcy returning. I feel like we're in the last waves of people going on vacation. I'm going on vacation with my wife, a pseudo-vacation next week. We're going to go do some hiking while the kids are off at their last sleepaway camps and stuff like that.

Stephanie Goss:
Nice.

Dr. Andy Roark:
One of them's going to their grandparents' house and the other one is at sleepaway camp, and I was like, “This is our shot.”

Stephanie Goss:
Fun.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so, we're going to get out of here.

Stephanie Goss:
I like it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So, yeah, it's going to be good. But yeah, how about you?

Stephanie Goss:
Good. I have insane children who are so excited for school to start again, and I'm like, “What is wrong with you? It's not even August.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I know. That's crazy.

Stephanie Goss:
But they love their school, and they love their friends and their teachers, so they're super excited to get back. We've already started thinking in that direction and I'm like, “When am I going to cram going back to school shopping into the schedule and all of the things?” But we are in the middle of beautiful summer weather here in Western Washington. These are the weeks of the year that we all live for, and I am soaking up every bit of the sun. It is wonderful, so I-

Dr. Andy Roark:
That is good.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It is super-hot here. I was walking the dog this morning and some of the neighbors were out, and I was talking to them, and they were working in their yards, both of them. We all came together in the street, and we were talking there for a while. They were talking about the deer have been coming up and eating their [inaudible 00:03:13]. And I said, “Well, you know-“

Stephanie Goss:
I have a solution for this.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“I have not seen a deer in my yard in months.” I told them about chasing the deer away with the cowbell that I got from Mississippi State's College of Vet Medicine.

Stephanie Goss:
Did they ask to borrow it?

Dr. Andy Roark:
They did not seem sold on the idea. And I realized, I realized-

Stephanie Goss:
Shocker.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. No, well, let me just say, I realized that my solution might not work for everybody. It might be that my solution, which has worked like a charm for me, it might be that my solution worked just fine for me. Because maybe I don't have to convince the deer to leave. I just have to convince them that my neighbor's yards are…
I don't have to make a yard the deer can't eat from. I just have to make them less sure about my yard than my neighbor's yard, and then I'm golden. Especially when the neighbor's garden as well, I'm like, “Aha.”

Stephanie Goss:
Now they've become somebody else's problem.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly right. I didn't have to figure… I just have to make it… It's like when a bear chases you. You don't have to outrun the bear. You just have to outrun the people who are with you, and that's the same thing with the deer.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my God, I can't.

Dr. Andy Roark:
That's why I take you camping with me, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
Because I just laugh and make enough noise.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Because you would… I would be like, “There's a bear,” and you would, “Hehehehehe.” And I would… I have longer legs than you do, and so, I think that I would… You are my primary bear deterrent because my legs are longer than yours.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I mean I don't mind… Yeah, that is true, and you walk way faster than me. But I don't mind the wild animals as our backyard can attest. I was walking through the backyard this week, in fact, and I was like, “Oh, look, there's coyote poop, and deer poop, and bear poop. Come on, hang out in my yard.” So, you can send your deer over to my house, it's fine.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Oh, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
They're partying in the backyard.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, boy. Oh, boy.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, man. We have got a great episode this week. I'm excited about this one and I think it's going to be fun. I can't wait to see where your head is at. So, we got a letter in the mailbag from a colleague of ours who is a medical director at a practice, and they said, “Look, I have a team that has almost completely turned over about eight months ago. Less than a year in, it was all good reasons, and they really, I feel like, should be hitting the stride. They've been working together long enough now.
“I feel like this is the time where we really should take off, but we seem to be repeatedly hitting speed bumps where there are members of the team who are saying, ‘I've never been shown how to do that. Nobody told me that,'” kind of attitude about things that this medical director said are so basic that they have to have seen it before. They've all been in veterinary medicine for at least eight months. How could they not have seen this before?
And so, they were saying that when the hospital leaders, whether it's the practice manager, the medical director or one of their floor leaders, technician, team leader, or front desk team leader says, “Hey, why are you guys saying that you haven't been shown this before?” The team seems to be giving the feedback that the leadership team is being mean, or that they are getting bullied about things that they're doing wrong.
And so, the medical director is asking, “Hey, how do I hold people accountable in a safe space and still hold them accountable and correct their deficiencies because shouldn't they have figured this out by now?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, this one spoke to me. It spoke to me for a couple of reasons I'll get into. Yeah, I really felt this. Let me start off by saying that this is wildly frustrating for me. This is my personality type, and so, I feel this in my bones when they're like, “We have all these people and I ask them,” I say, “Quick, do this thing.” And they're like, “I don't know how to do that.”
It reminds me of when my kids were little and I would look down at my watch and realize that we were going to be terribly late, and I would say to them, “Put your shoes on.” And I would say, “I don't know how.” And I would say, “What? What do you mean you don't know how?” “I don't know how.” Again, I don't mean to mock the people who don't know how, but that's how I feel myself when I'm going, “Guys, let's go.” And they're like, “We don't know how to do that thing.”
Let me tell you… So, anyway, let's get into headspace on this.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep, I like it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
The first thing on headspace is let me tell you why I hate this so much. It's because I want to get things done. I am a busy guy doing busy things, lots of people to see, lots of pets to fix. The fact that you don't know where we keep lint rollers is slowing me down and I have a fundamental knee-jerk reaction to this.

Stephanie Goss:
I laugh because that's the perfect example because we can-

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm like, “You can't go in the room like that and then look like Chewbacca.” I'm like, “You can't go in the room like that.” They're like, “I don't know where the lint rollers are.” And I'm like, “Argh.”

Stephanie Goss:
That's the perfect example. Uh-huh, uh-huh, I get it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. And so, it kills me, and then it happens again and again because if they don't know where the lint rollers are, they also don't know where other things are. Or if they don't know how to do a thing, they also don't know how to do another thing.
And this coming from the guy who didn't know how to put people on hold for the first year that I worked in a practice. I would just set the phone down because no one showed me how to use the phone. I just showed up and they were like, “You know how a phone works.” And I was like, “Of course, I do.” And then I hung up on the first six people that I tried to put on hold.
So, then I would just set the receiver down and be like… I would yell to the front, “Hey, front desk. Pick this phone call up.” And so, I throw stones from glass houses when I get mad at the staff for this because I am just as guilty as they are.
All right, so that drives me nuts. Then the other thing is I hear my own voice in my own head saying the thing that I say all the time, which is if you are surprised by a thing again and again, at some point, it's not a surprise anymore, it's your business model. Which is a favorite saying of mine, which I hate it when I say it to myself.
Haughty Andy will be in his own mind going, “Well, if you're surprised by this again…” I'm like, “Shut up, Andy.” I hate it because that's also the thing, right? So, when the whole team is like, “We don't know how to do this,” and it's not one person, it's all of the people around you, and they're all not knowing how to do different things. At some point, I can't be mad at them because having untrained people is my business model.
And then I'm like, “Dammit, it's me. This is my problem and it's my fault.” And I hate when I realize that it's my fault, but it's totally my fault. And then the last thing that I have… this is an emotional journey, I know. The last part of this emotional rollercoaster.

Stephanie Goss:
It's okay. I'm here for the rollercoaster today.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh yeah, the last part of the rollercoaster is the feeling of complete overwhelm when you are like, “Oh, crap. I have to teach a large number of people how to do everything,” and they get mad when I try to teach them all the basics because eight of them say, “How dare you teach us this?” And two of them don't say anything because they didn't know, and they needed to hear it. But I have to hear about, “How dare you make us sit through a class on how to use the telephone? What idiot wouldn't know this?”
But in all seriousness, it is overwhelming. And so, all of that comes around to the reason that you and I and our team is doing the Get Shit Done Shorthanded Conference in October. We're doing this virtually. In all seriousness, walk with me here, the reason I wanted to do this conference, Get Shit Done Shorthanded, is because that feeling of overwhelm when you're like, “Nobody knows how to do all the things and I don't know how to train a group of people to do everything.”
And we are so busy, and we are so frantic, the idea of starting over with, “Here is how you put someone on hold,” is soul-crushing. It just makes you feel like you are drowning, and honestly, it makes me want to just pack my things up and go home. I'm just like, “I just…” When you look at it and you're like, “Holy crap, we have not done training on any of this stuff, and the amount of work it's going to take to get everyone on board and all at the same levels where they need to be and to fill in all of these holes in everybody's knowledge is…”
It's Mount Everest. It is so demoralizing to look at. I have felt that many times in my career. I think a lot of people are feeling that overwhelm demoralization about a lot of things in their business right now.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so, all joking aside, when I looked at this thing in the mailbag, I go, “I know how that person feels and I have 100% been there. And it feels like it is an insurmountable obstacle to get out of this and to get everybody on the same page.” And so, anyway, that is the emotional journey. The first thing is being frustrated at the people, and the second thing is realizing that if it's happening across the board with a lot of different people, it's not them. They have been set up to fail or we have holes in our business platform and our structure and our models and our training.
The last thing is then to let the fact that you have what feels like a completely overwhelming problem to deal with. You have that sitting on top of the full workload you have right now, and you need everyone to go 30% faster than they're going right now. And you have recognized that you need to go back over and start over with the basics, and it is soul-breaking.
And so, anyway, that's why I get excited about this topic. I love to talk about this, I think this is really important. We have a whole conference that is aimed at people who, whether you're an owner or a manager or a head tech or whatever, if you're feeling that overwhelmed, if things like this just feel super daunting to you, the Get Shit Done Shorthanded Virtual Conference is coming up in October.
It is a three-day… I think it's spread across three days, and it is virtual. It's 250 bucks to register, something like that. It's super affordable, there's no travel, no nothing, but anyway, that's the type of stuff that we're doing. But that's why I really wanted to wade into that specific topic. It's because so many of us are feeling this overwhelm. And I go, “No, we can…”
We had played with the idea of calling it Get Shit Done When You're Overwhelmed. That was the other title that we worked with. And so, anyway, that's the subject matter that we're putting a whole conference aimed at because I just think it's so prevalent.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I think it's about talking about solutions, which we want to do on the podcast, and at the same time, the most common feedback that we get about the podcast is it made me realize that I'm not the only one. That is a huge part of you and I's individual whys for why we do what we do with Uncharted, which that it's about connecting with your peers and recognizing you are not alone, and your problems and your clinics are unique.
And they are different than everybody else's to a degree. At the same time, the underlying things are the same, and like you, I am looking forward to being able to talk about some of this when we get to GSD. When I saw this episode, I had a lot of the same thoughts as you because… I laughed through your whole rollercoaster because I see it and I recognize it.
And it is frustrating, it is soul-crushing like you said. I'll tell you, for me, where the headspace has to start is you've got to take a deep breath because it is frustrating as hell and we know that when we get frustrated, we tend to reach, most of us, for the flaming raging sword of justice. And we just want to strike down everybody in our path and be like, “People, get out of my way. I've got work to do. I don't have time for this crap.” That's not the right answer. You got to take a deep breath and we got to get centered.
The thing that stuck out to me in the email here was that our medical director friend said that people are saying I've never been shown that for things that are so basic, they must have seen it before. I'm going to tell you something. I'm going to tell you guys a story and I'm going to give you some real true honesty.
I will tell you I consider myself a pretty okay manager, and I've done a lot of things wrong, and I've done a lot of things right in my career. I will also tell you I will 100% cop to the fact that I had great training protocols and processes and levels and all of the things that you're supposed to have, and I guarantee you that I had multiple members on my team who did not actually receive the exact same training.
It's just the facts even if you have all of those systems and structures and protocols and processes, it's different. Every time you go through it. And so, do you actually teach people the same thing every time? I would say that most of us don't because the situation changes, the day changes. The patient in front of you changes.
And so, the goal for a lot of us should be shifting our training to doing things over and over repeatedly so that it's not, “I showed you this one time.” So, that you even out those bumps along the way. We're going to talk about that when we get into things to try, but I'm going to tell you guys the story, which is laundry is actually not simple.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, that's a great one.

Stephanie Goss:
And I'm going to tell you, at my last practice, I came in one morning and some of the members of my team said, “Hey, the laundry room is flooded.” And I was like, “I'm sorry, what?” And they said, “The laundry room is flooded.” So, I put on a person-of-all-trades hat, and I go into the laundry room, and I roll up my slacks, and I dig into why is the laundry room flooded?
I'm like, okay, so the wash was totally unbalanced, and it started flooding, and okay, we've made this mistake. So, I called over the team members that were there that day who had been working on the laundry and they said, “Hey, this happened. There was a really big blanket because we had had a large patient euthanasia the day before, and they said, “It was at the end of the day, so we didn't stick it in last night. So, it went in first thing this morning, and it must have been too heavy, so it was off balance.” Okay, great. Problem solved, cleaned it up, no problem.
The next day I'm like halfway through my afternoon and I get an emergency page and they're like, “We need you downstairs right now.” I run downstairs, the laundry room is flooded again. I'm like, “What happened? Tell me what happened guys.” And so, they're like, “I don't know. Water started appearing.”
So, I came out, I'm like, “Okay, it's flooded here again, and I don't understand. It is a pretty big load. Okay, we talked about this yesterday. Maybe we need to have a repeat conversation because, oh, look, Caitlyn is here today, and she wasn't here yesterday. So, let's have the conversation again, and let's make sure everybody knows. Oh, today I'm going to post a message on Slack. Kate, by the way, if you weren't here, so everybody's on the same page you got to check and make sure it's evenly distributed.”
I'm not even kidding you, every single day that week the laundry room flooded, and I was like, “What in the actual hell is going on here?” And so, I get to the end of the week and I'm like, I don't understand. So, actually, the last day, the washing machine isn't even on. The only thing running is the dryer, and the laundry room was flooded again. I'm like, “What in the hell is happening.” So, as it turned out-

Dr. Andy Roark:
How did you guys flood the room with the dryer?

Stephanie Goss:
That's actually a thing that I didn't know was a thing because when you overload the washer and then you take the sopping wet stuff that was in the washer and you put it in the dryer, the dryer actually also has an overflow valve. So that when it drains too much water at one time, it has an overflow, and it can actually flood. That is a thing that I learned at almost 40 years old.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I was today years old when I learned that.

Stephanie Goss:
Exactly, right? I thought, okay. I thought… All these thoughts are going through my head, and I'm thinking, “I have a team full of all of these people who, they live on their own. Most of them have partners or spouses, lots of them have kids. They're all in their 20s and 30s.” I didn't think that laundry was so hard. I did think this was a skill that I was going to have to teach, and yet, I spent, at this point, once we figured it out and got the whole thing solved, almost two weeks into this process, I'm like, “Oh, wow. Okay. So, it turns out laundry is not actually that simple.”
After that week, I was raging. Man, I was like, “I'm going to murder all of you, all of you chicks.” I'm literally in the treatment room bright red, ready to throw down with somebody because I'm like, “You guys, I cannot with this. Come on.” The reality is laundry is not simple, and we had to take the step back and say, “Have I actually ever shown them what doing laundry in a veterinary hospital looks like? What it sounds like. What does it smell like when it's done and it's actually clean versus when it's not clean?”
So, I started asking them, and as it turns out, all of them had had varying different degrees of introduction to our washing machine, our system, things that they should check for that are different in our hospital that maybe weren't the case in their last hospital, or they've never worked in a hospital before.
And so, when I stepped back from the anger and the frustration, what I was able to recognize is, okay, before I go pointing my finger in the treatment room at all of them, and I'm like, “I'm going to kill all of you.” I have to look at the fingers that are pointing back at me and my team because what I recognized in that moment was, “Oh. Okay, so there actually is some ownership here on my part because I can't just assume that they must have seen it before.”
Because that was the assumption I made. I thought these are bright, intelligent people, at the time a hospital full of women. So, all bright intelligent women who live on their own, who do their own laundry, who have been doing their laundry for years, who have children who they're doing their laundry for. I think that they could figure out how to do the laundry.
Actually, that doesn't absolve me as the leader of doing my part to teach them how it should be done in my hospital and with our equipment. And so, it was a huge light bulb moment for me. And so, I share that for two reasons. One is that, look, it happens to all of us. There is always going to be that moment for all of us no matter how tenured we are in veterinary medicine or as a leader, where we have to look at ourselves and say, “Oh, okay. I actually do have some responsibility in this,” number one. And number two, the laundry isn't always that simple.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Well, I'll use an analogy that spoke to me years and years ago when I came across it. I was reading a book on the legendary college basketball coach John Wooden. And so, he coached at UCLA, a Hall of Famer. He's amazing. I read this book on him, it was talking about he's working with college basketball players at the premier school in the country for college basketball players.
The first thing that John Wooden would do on the first day when new players came onto his team, was he would teach them how to put on their socks. They would all sit down together, and they would go through the anatomy of the sock and putting on the sock. I'm not kidding, this is 100% a true story.
People would ask him about it. I think it was probably mostly for show to say, “You guys don't know anything, you're here to learn. And I don't care who you were in high school, we're starting over.” But they asked him about it, and he would say, “I don't know these kids, and I don't know what they know, and I'm assuming nothing. And so, we start with how to put on your socks and shoes the right way.” And he would do that.
I've never forgotten that because it's such an extreme example, but in another way, it also makes a point of, “Hey, we have our way that we do it here at UCLA.” I just always thought that that was really, really interesting. I think you're exactly right on how to do laundry is we make a lot of assumptions about what people know and what they don't, and everything is different.
You know it's funny, I see a lot of times just in headspace, and I'll say this is another reason that this exact problem bothers me so much because there is a spectrum in what our expectations are, and it comes a lot from who you are as a person. On one end of the spectrum is I want people to jump in, take initiative, figure it out, get things done. That is 100% where I live. I live on that side of the spectrum.
On the other side of the spectrum is there's a plan and a protocol, and everybody should be trained, and we should all know what we're doing and how we do it and how we move forward, and you need to do it the Blank Animal Hospital way. That's not bad, they're just different. You can't have, “Don't touch anything until you're trained,” and, “Jump in and figure it out and get it done.”
Again, everything is a spectrum. I am far on the first side of that spectrum, which is everybody should be able to figure it out. And so, the natural progression of living on that side is ultimately, you have a lot of holes. At some point, you're going to realize everybody has figured out different ways to do it, and there's not a lot of uniformity.
It works great when you're a startup. It works great when you have nine employees and you hire good people and you lead with a good positive culture, and the clients generally love it because they have no idea about the inconsistencies that are happening there.
It doesn't scale, and I think a lot of what we're seeing right here in this exact episode is these people started out small. They probably started out with a good culture and good people and good leadership and probably a good mission and purpose. And everybody jumped in, and they figured it out and they worked hard, and they did things. And now we've had this turnover and the practice has probably grown, but we are now at this place where the systems are broken down and we are getting big enough that people doing things different ways is becoming obvious because they're not able to communicate across this larger organization well.
And so, that's where I tend to see these things a lot. I know that this person said they had a lot of turnover. I think that creates it too, but generally, I see it, not with turnover. I see it with growth. I see it when practices hit 20 employees, and now we have a problem. That's where this comes to me.
But anyway, I'm just being honest about the fact that I hate this problem with a burning passion because it's one of my own weaknesses. Because I am such a mission-driven person and a, “Let's go…” I do great at empowering individuals to do what they're great at. I do much less well at setting systems to get people on the same page.
I still maintain that there's a spectrum there and you can go too far in the other direction. Stephanie Goss, stop laughing at me. Stephanie Goss who had… Stephanie, what's in your handbook, Goss as we call her.

Stephanie Goss:
Exactly, it is extremely painful at times, speaking from real life, as our company grows, and as we learn to scale. Poor Andy, when I say, “Hmm, that probably should be in a handbook. That probably-“

Dr. Andy Roark:
I get so mad. I get so mad.

Stephanie Goss:
That probably should be an SOP because he knows that there are instances where I'm right, and it's give and take, right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, totally.

Stephanie Goss:
There are also instances where Andy's side of the spectrum makes more sense and I have to let go of that control and let go of that need for there to be organization and structure because sometimes the spectrum works because you have the fluidity there and you move up and down the spectrum as needed, and that's part of the challenge. That's part of the give and take of being leaders. And so, it is-

Dr. Andy Roark:
To me, it is about ebb and flow. I don't mean to be cheesy, it's the yin and the yang.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
My experience, and just how I run programs and initiatives, are I do lean far into the, “Everybody jump in, let's figure it out. I believe in you. I believe we have good people. I've shown you the vision. I believe that we're all in alignment about why we're doing this work and this purposeful work.”
And generally, for me, it's that's how you start. What I've learned is you should start that way because we don't know enough to make systems. We've all worked in places where people start making systems that are stupid systems that don't work. And so, it is a great way to try new things, to figure out what works, to throw spaghetti against the wall, to leverage the skills of the group.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, see what sticks.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But then you have got to shift to the other side, which is now we've done this, it's time to systematize it. It's time to standardize it, it's time to get everybody on board and make sure that we all know what's going on. And so, I really do think it's that give and take.
And so, to the writers, I would say your frustration is 100% understood. I don't want you to lose heart, everybody goes through this, I think. Unless you start off making protocols, which you can if you came from a place that already had them or if you are just mega-organized person.

Stephanie Goss:
Even when you do that, I think you were spot on when you said everybody is going to deal with this at some point. So, I think the headspace piece really is you are not alone, and it is completely frustrating, and we see that and feel that. And so, you got to start with a deep breath and get it together because you can't attack this with frustration for sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah. And here's the sick twisted part of that is we say you can't attack it with frustration, but the truth, Stephanie, is you only deal with this when you are already overwhelmed and you're stressed and you're frustrated, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Here's the thing. If you weren't getting your butt kicked, you wouldn't care that people didn't know things because then you would just take the time to show them. And you could walk along, and you could teach them as you went, and you wouldn't even notice you were doing it. The only reason that it hurts is because you're so busy and you don't have time to do this.
And so, it's funny, you don't have this problem if you have time to deal with it because you don't even know this problem is happening, you just fix it. You only have this problem when you don't have time to deal with it, which means by design, if you have this problem, you are stressed and frustrated, which is really hard.
The last part of headspace that I want to say before we start really getting into how to get out of this hole is it is hard to stomach this idea, but it is the best salve that I have found for my own irritation. Which is you need to believe that sometimes you have to slow down to go fast. You just do. You're sprinting and people don't know things and things are breaking and there's frustration every day.
I will talk to people, and I will say, “Look, man, you got a choice. You can keep doing this and dealing every day with the same problem again and again, and the fallout, and it's not going to stop. And you are going to be dragging this burden with you for the foreseeable future. Or you can slow down, and you can get your head straight, and in three months, you can make significant strides in actually putting this problem behind you.
“But for those three months, you are going to have to slow down, and that might mean you are going to have to find hours in your day to do training, or you're going to have to see fewer cases personally, or you're going to have to… Yeah, you're going to have to take your head technician off the floor seeing rooms and do training.” And people go, “But I can't do that.”
And I go, “Well, then you're going to continue to do what you're doing. Those are your two options. You slow down and work on the problem so that you can then get past it, or you can continue on as you're doing being overwhelmed and working with people who are angry then frustrated themselves because they're not getting trained. Which of the two poisons would you like to swallow? Because you're getting one of them.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yep, I love it. That feels like a good place to take a quick break and then come back and talk about, okay, so how do we actually hold them accountable?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sounds good to me. Hey, Stephanie Goss, you got a second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, what do you want to talk about?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones don't stop ringing, and I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Like, “Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy, and the phones just don't stop.”

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk. They can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support, and it really is a Godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after-hours call help, but at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well. Which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded, everybody is drowning in phone calls.
And so, we talk about it, we've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast, and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, what is that?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Guys if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you can use some help on the phones or at the front desk, check them out. It's guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So, check it out, guardianvets.com
All right, let's get back into this and talk about what we're actually going to do with this. Have you got an action step you want to start with?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, for me, it goes back to the first part of our headspace, which is taking a deep breath. And so, I think you have to take a deep breath. And then because I think the first thing that you have to do is I think you have to look at your processes and your training and the teaching piece of it with some fresh eyes. You have to be able to look at this from that 30,000-mile view perspective, and you can't do that when you're frustrated.
So, give yourself the space, take a deep breath, get the frustration under control. And then, I think you have to take a look at what does your training process look like because, for me, a part of it is it goes back to the email that we got, which is there's team members who are saying, “I've never been shown that.” But they're things that are super, super basic, they must have seen it before.
For me, it's about asking yourself the questions like, “Does it define? Do my processes define clearly for my team what a great job looks like, what it sounds like, what it tastes like, and it smells like in my practice, in my building?” I think that there's two pieces to that. One is you have to define for yourself what a great job looks like, and I think part of it is in looking at what you have in terms of your training protocols and processes already.
And then the other piece of it is asking your team to tell you what they know. And that was painful for me when I learned about the laundry because I literally had to sit down with each member of my team and have a conversation and say, “Tell me how you do the laundry.” As I found, doing the laundry was a different process for every single member of my team.
Now, all of a sudden, I understood why the laundry room flooded for a week straight because I have 12 different people who are doing 12 different things. There's no consistency, and they weren't all aware of all of those pieces. And I would not have necessarily been able to see that if I didn't take a look.
I didn't tell them, “This is how you do the laundry.” I said, “Tell me what you're doing. I want to understand it. I'm going to close my eyes, I'm going to sit here. I need you to make me see it, I need you to make me smell it, I need you to make me taste it. What does that look like?”
In our practice, if you have done a stellar, I'm going to give you a gold star for having done this kind of job. What does that look like? And then the trick is you've got to be able to find the common ground, so you know what your idea of great sounds like. And now you've got an input from your team about what their version of great looks like.
So, how do you bridge the gap? Because usually there is a gap. You're over here, they're over there, how do I bridge these two things? Because it's not about reinventing the wheel. It's not about writing new protocols, it's not about necessarily writing new processes unless you look at this and recognize, “Okay, we don't actually have a process to teach people how to do the laundry or how to mop the floor or sweep the exam rooms after an exam.”
And you may find that you have deficiencies where you don't have protocols and processes. And that would be the exception where now here's your opportunity to use the same methodology and apply it to creating a brand-new protocol and say, “What does a great job for this look like in this clinic?” But otherwise, it's about figuring out what does that look like in your head, and what does it look like in the team's head, and where is that common ground?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree with that. Okay, let me… Can I break that into some smaller pieces?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So, I'm going to lay down for you the steps that I have taken to deal with this in the past.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay, I love it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Because it happens to me all the time. And so, I look around and people don't know things and there's holes in the system and people are doing things different ways. And it's because they have been buoyed on by my enthusiasm and by inspiring-

Stephanie Goss:
Not speaking from personal experience.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, my inspiring motivational speeches that I do.

Stephanie Goss:
Novels that you write.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly, I do. By the pages and pages that I write into Slack to inspire and motivate the team. Okay, they-

Stephanie Goss:
We heard you, Andy Roark.

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right, so I've done all these things, and now people don't know things and we're not communicating. It's not working. All right, so I'll give you the Andy Roark process. Process number one, mourn. Mourn. You have to mourn. You have to mourn the reality where people just figure it out themselves.
I will tell you, for me, that is the longest, hardest process is just giving up on what people should do. It's me polishing the sword of justice and then putting it back away being like, “It doesn't matter that they should know how to do this. Who doesn't know how to answer the phone or do the laundry? I don't know.”
It seems like a failure of society to me, but I am going to mourn the imagined reality where people just knew what to do, and then I'm going to be like, “Okay, they just don't. It's acceptance of where we are.” And I say that in a joking but not joking way.
And then I have to say, “Okay, we are going to have to slow down so that we can ultimately go fast.” It is accepting that and saying, I am willing to make the short-term sacrifices, which are going to suck. But I am going to make those sacrifices because I believe this has to happen so that I can have the job that I want and the life that I want and the business that I want.
And then, I am going to go and recruit a process person. I'm kidding, not kidding.

Stephanie Goss:
Key step, mm-hmm.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, it is a key step because I am not a process person. I don't want to make a handbook. I hate it. I don't want to do it. I don't want spreadsheets, I don't want to do any of this thing. But I look at Stephanie Goss or I look at Jamie Holms who is my right hand for 10 years, and I'm like, “Hey, Jamie, what do you think about having a handbook?” And her eyes get big. It's like I looked at her and said, “Hey, Jamie-“

Stephanie Goss:
“Do you want a puppy?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
“… would you like a yacht full of puppies?” That's the look on her face when I say, “Would you help me get this organized?” And so, find someone whose heart flutters when you show them a spreadsheet with multicolored tabs and say, “Would you help me get this in order?”
I think you need to have that person. I think it's really hard if you don't have that person, so I would try to find that… I married that person. That was the best move I have made in my career. I highly recommend it. Not mine, she's taken, but find yourself-

Stephanie Goss:
Find your own.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Find yourself a partner. If you're me and you struggle with these things, find yourself a partner who loves the spreadsheet, and lock her down. Okay, get that process person and then you're like, “We're going to fix this.” That is when you look at the mountain of work ahead of you and you get overwhelmed, and then you're probably going to cry again and be like, “This is too far.”
The next thing that people really struggle with is you cannot just tackle the fact that people in your practice have holes in their knowledge. It is too big a… It's too big. It's just too big a problem. You have to figure out how to break this apart into pieces so that you're not so overwhelmed, and you have to forgive yourself…
And also, again, you have to accept that you can't do all the things. You're going to do some of the things. You're going to get started, and you're going to break this up into a chunk that you can attack and overcome, and then celebrate and feel good about. You need to do that, and that's where I think so many people just… They get option paralysis, they get overwhelmed, they just stop at the base of the mountain and stare at it.
You can't do that. You've got to do some priority setting, and so, there's a couple of different ways that you can do priority setting. So, one, I think it's funny, I think Stephanie mentioned it there, testing is not a bad idea. Especially if there's something you know you want.
Like the laundry, if you're like, “Hey, here's a quick test. Here's a laundry test. I just want you to run through it real fast. It's not for anything, I just want to see what you know.” Bang, and it's a quick way to just see, “Okay, we have some holes. We have some problems.” So, you can do some testing.
What is the most common headache that you have? If you have client complaints all day every day, you, my friend, have a common customer service problem. And if that is the most common headache that you have is sorting out unhappy clients who have dealt with your staff, that is the thing that I would do first. I would say we are going to work on our customer service protocols, and I would pull that out.
What is the most severe problem that you have? Oh, well, we had a pet die under anesthesia recently because we didn't have our crash cart ready to go, and everybody's really upset about it. I would say that, my friend, is your most severe problem, and maybe that is where we are going to start. Pick one. Something has to go first, but what is the most common, what is the most painful?
Do you want to do this by department? Is this a thing where you're going to say, “All right, the front desk is going to work on this, and the techs are going to work on this, and the surgery techs are going to work on this”? And then you can break it apart. Not everybody has to get trained on everything, especially at the beginning as you're developing this.
Maybe the front desk is going to develop the how to answer the phone protocol, and the surgery techs are going to develop the anesthesia pain management protocol that we start with. You can split it up by department.
And the last thing is you can split it up by focus and you can say, “Guys, we're going to work on customer service, and then we're going to work on anesthesia, and then we're going to work on our wellness plans and communicating about our wellness plans.” And you can break it up into focus, but you cannot do all the things at once. It's just too big for your own sanity.
And so you can feel like you're making progress you have got to break it out into these smaller groups. And then, once you've got that, you are ready to get started. So, once you've got your window, your area, “Guys, we're going to do customer service 101, and that's what we're working on.” Or, “We're doing anesthesia,” whatever it is, but you've got a bite-sized chunk.
Then I go to the team, and this is what Stephanie was talking about before because I don't know what they don't know. The other thing is the quickest way to screw this up, especially when you're starting with the basics, is to act like you are imposing this on them, and especially them as individuals.
We saw that with the writer being like, “Oh, they get offended when I say, ‘I'm going to teach you this basic thing.'” The way you get around that is you come to them as a group and say, “Guys, this is what we want to work on, and these are the objectives I want to achieve. And so, what I want to do is talk to you guys about what protocols do we need? What are the things that people do differently, not some might do them right and some might do them wrong, but what do we do differently? What are the steps that we need to take to check clients in, to get them into the exam room, to check them back out, and to get them out the door?
“What are the areas where you guys see pushback? What are the areas that clients get upset? When does that happen?” And I want to get them to reiterate, “Yes, we see this problem. Yes, we feel pain from this problem.” And I need them to understand, this is not about you personally, Donna. This is about the whole front desk staff coming together and us all going through the same program and getting on the same page about what we do and how we do it and recording that so that we can train other people in the future.
It is very much not about calling anybody out. It's about us coming together to figure out what we need to do to support each other, and what we as a group think is the best approach. And then recording that so that we can train other people in the future.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I think you're spot on, and I think a lot of it has to do with this is an opportunity actually, even though it might be born out of frustration. This is an opportunity to develop a growth mindset in your team because the reality is there will always be change. That is the reality of life.
Someone will always get married, somebody will have a baby, somebody will move. There will always be change in our team, if not now, five years from now. At some point, it's every single one of us. It is unavoidable.
And so, we may be static. For as long as we are static as a team and work together as a team, it's not wrong to say, “We are doing a great job, and do we ever want to be better?” Because we could still be doing a great job and still want to get better. Those two things are not mutually exclusive, and where I think a lot of us screwed this up, where I have screwed this up more than once, believe me, is to look at it from the perspective as the leader of, “We are focusing on this because something is going wrong.”
If you develop a growth mindset in your team, it can be, “We are doing this right and we can still do better and leave room for ourselves to continue to grow as a group, as a team, as a hospital.” And so, we're going to look at it from that perspective.
And so, for me, this is a huge opportunity, and I think it goes back to what you were saying, which is that you take that step back and then you lean into talking about this with the team and really helping encourage them to develop that growth mindset.
Because let me tell you, the difference maker here, I have failed miserably at this, and every time I have failed miserably at this has been when it has been approached. Whether it's myself, a member of the leadership, or a practice owner. When it has been approached from the perspective of, “Everybody is doing the laundry wrong, and we need to fix this problem.”
That immediately puts everybody on the defense, gets everybody into negative headspace, and makes them feel like they are doing an insufficient job. And the reality is I did have members on my team who were doing an insufficient job. I also had members on my team who were doing a great job, and the reality was we probably were pretty balanced somewhere in the middle because the laundry room flooded every day for a week, but before that, I had months where we didn't flood the laundry room.
So, the reality is they were doing an okay job and we were in the middle. And so, when we approach it from that perspective of how do we ultimately do better as a group? Not because we were doing it wrong, but because there's always opportunity for improvement. That is a game changer.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I'm really glad you said that. I think that's just such a great, great point. It's so important and I completely agree. Number one thing people get wrong is they pull the team together and say, “Guys, we are not doing a very good job. We are sucking this up. Guys, this isn't working. We've got real problems,” and everybody gets defeated. I've seen it a million times.
As opposed to saying, “Guys, you guys are working your butts off. I want to make sure we're all on the same page. I know how overwhelmed you are, and I really think that by getting some systems and programs in place and smoothing out what we expect from each other, we can go to the next level. And then we can make your lives easier because I know how hard you're working, and I don't want it to continue. I want to make things smoother and simpler for you.”
And that is 100% how I approach these conversations, not people are doing it wrong. And some people out there who are sitting cradling their flaming raging sword of justice are like, “But Andy, they did do it wrong.”

Stephanie Goss:
They are doing it wrong.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“And they should know about their failure. And the ones who did it right should know that they are superior to the ones who did it wrong.” And that I would say, “Continue to clean your flaming raging sword, just keep it in your office.” The truth is I don't give a crap about what happened last week, you know why? Because last week is over. It is unchangeable, it is chiseled in stone, it is in the books.
I don't care who messed up the laundry last week because that's done. You know what I do care about? I do care about not messing up the laundry next week. That's the only thing because I have control over that. I have no control over what happened last week, so no, I don't care who messed it up last week. What I do care about is I don't want to get messed up anymore.
And so, I'm not going to do the blame game. I see so many people who are like, “We need to figure out who did this.” And I was like, “No, you don't. Just fix it.”

Stephanie Goss:
It doesn't matter. Fix it, yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Make it not happen again. And if no one ever knows who messed up the laundry, the world will continue to spin. And people are like… I know people whose heads explode. The idea of not Sherlock Holmesing this down until you're shining a lamp in someone's face, and they break and confess. I'm like, “No.” They're like, “That's how it has to go.” And I'm like, “No, it doesn't because there's no benefit to that over just bringing everyone together and saying, let's get on the same page and make this not happen anymore going forward.”

Stephanie Goss:
And I think the email speaks to that, which was their question was, “How do I hold them accountable?” In a safe way, sure, but how do I correct the deficiencies? I think that's because our human brains automatically jump to, if someone doesn't take responsibility for this, then I have not held them accountable. And those two things are not mutually exclusive.
You can absolutely hold the team accountable and fix the problem moving forward, without Sherlock Holmesing, without shining a bright spotlight on a person or persons. It is about… And so, this is where my answer for our writer was really, for this piece, especially when they're getting feedback from the team, that the leadership feels mean or feels like they're being bullied about things.
The transformation, for me as a leader here, comes when I personally chose to dig into the mean. That resonates with me because I have had that said to me. I have had people say to my face, “I think that you are being mean, and I don't like the way that you are approaching this.” And it's hard to hear that.
I'll tell you that on a personal level, the big change came from when I really let myself dig into that because the reality is I want change for them. I don't want to be mean. I didn't wake up today and say, “I want to be mean [inaudible 00:52:50] to my whole team.” I didn't choose that.
I don't know anybody who would. I'm sure there are some people out there who just love to be mean or love to be miserable, but most people I know, that's not the case. I didn't choose this, but I do want there to be change. When I can learn how to change the vocabulary that I'm using, and the body language that I'm using to convey the fact that I want to make change happen.
It's not about being mean. I'm not choosing to be mean. And so, I need to understand what they are perceiving as being mean or angry or bullying because it's a perception problem. You and I have talked about this before, I need to figure out, is it my tone? Is it the look on my face? Do I got some RBF happening? Did my tone reach into angry land? Am I raising the volume of my voice? Are my arms crossed? Is my body language…
And so, really, for me, it's digging into that and being vulnerable, and asking for some feedback from your team. And whether you do that with your leadership team because that's where you have safety, or whether you really generally do have safety with your team as a whole, and you can say to them, “Hey, look, I don't want you guys to think that I'm mean. I'm going to close my eyes. Can you please tell me what that looks like? When you feel that way, when I make you feel that way, what does that look like?”
And ask them to explain it to you so that you can see it. It's not about judging them, it's not about… “I hear you. I don't want to be that way. I'm not choosing that. I need you to help me to fix that behavior because I never want you to feel that way at work.”
You can only do that when you lean into vulnerability with your team, and you ask them for that feedback. But when you do that, then you have an incredible opportunity to say, “Oh, okay. I see now.” Maybe it is your tone, maybe it's your face, maybe it's your body language, whatever it is. Then that creates opportunity for you to address that.
And to your point, it is about talking to the team as a whole and saying, “How do we do better? How do we do this together?” Because it's not about Becky not knowing how to do this. It's not about Sherry as the new person being singled out in front of everybody because they're the only one doing it wrong and everybody else is doing it right.
It is about we always want to show up and give our best for our clients and our patients every day. So, how do we collectively as a group make sure that that happens? And if we're all doing things differently, if we've all been shown how to do things differently, maybe there's ways where I as the leader can help smooth that out.
But I don't know what I don't know, and you guys don't know what you don't know. So, until we talk about it and have that conversation, there's a lot of room for improvement on all sides left on the table if we don't have those conversations.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. No, I agree. The last thing that I want to say is about being perceived as mean, and also holding people accountable. So, the two things I want to just put down here right at the very end, holding people accountable is often seen as a negative reinforcement experience. Meaning I'm going to hold people accountable, which means they're going to get in trouble if they don't do what they're supposed to do.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, they're going to get disciplined.

Dr. Andy Roark:
They're going to get disciplined, and then you're like, “Why do they think I'm mean?” I'm like, “I don't know, maybe-“

Stephanie Goss:
Because the only time you hold them accountable is when you write them up.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Right, exactly. Maybe because you have a whip, and you crack it on them when they don't do what they're supposed to. The two things for me that I put on the table to address this perception of being mean, and also to hold people accountable. Number one is remember to explain your why when you are asking them to do these things.
The why should mean something to them. If you say, “You are supposed to do this because that's the protocol.” And I know people who are genuinely process people who are like, “You're supposed to do it because that's the rule.” And they're talking to me and I'm like, “I don't care what the rule is. If that's the best reason you have-“

Stephanie Goss:
I don't care.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“… you and I are not going to get along because I don't care, that's what the rule is.” You need to convince me that this is worth something, and that's just how I am, and a lot of people are that way.
The why, when we talk about making policies and doing this training is not because you don't know what you're supposed to know. The why is because we want to provide great patient care and we want everyone to be on the same page, and we want to make our clients happy. And we want to get our staff out of here on time, and we want to have people being less stressed out, and we want to have people being less overwhelmed. That is why you are doing it. Not because that's your job, it's in your job description.
I'm not saying that that's what anyone said, but I have heard those things being said. And so, when we want to motivate people and have them be held accountable, you have got to talk to them about why they're doing this thing, and you have to use a language that resonates with them.
And the other part is remember it's a whole lot easier to positively reinforce culture than to negatively reinforce it. And so, rather than thinking really hard, “How do I catch people who are not doing what they're supposed to be doing?” Think really hard about, “How do I catch people who are doing what they're supposed to be doing and reward them and thank them and praise them?” And I promise you will have a lot, a lot of success, and not nearly as much pushback.

Stephanie Goss:
And when they feel the success and they participate in this, that look, the reality is… You spoke earlier about you're standing at the foot of the mountain and you're just looking up and you're like, “How am I going to climb this thing?” The reality is there will always be a mountain.
Protocols, processes, change in our practices are constant. There will always be something that needs to be grown and developed, and every single one of our practices is a never-ending cycle. As soon as you get the whole team trained, something happens, and you start all over again.
So, the sooner you accept that as a leader, and the sooner that you recognize that speaking their language, getting them to understand the why behind it, the sooner your job in the long run of climbing that mountain. You're climbing Everest for the first time and then you're climbing it for the second time.
The sooner you get to that place, the better off you are because then, when you have a team who understands the why and who's bought in, the next time you stand at the base of the same mountain, there are people on your team who are like, “Oh, cool, I know how to do this. I will take this piece on because I recognize this. We did this before. I will lead and I will take it off of your plate.”
And in the long run, it isn't you starting over without a group at the base of a mountain. Now, you've got some sherpas who are there to climb this mountain with you, who are willing to take on some of that burden. And that only happens when you really speak to them and get them to understand the why, and they're willing to come along that journey with you.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. No, I agree. All right, my friend. Thanks for talking this through with me.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, this was a fun one. Have a great week, everybody. Take care.

Dr. Andy Roark:
See you, everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey, friends, have you been over to the website lately to check out all the fun and exciting things that are coming from the Uncharted Veterinary team? If not, you should stop right now and head over there because we have got some awesome stuff coming late summer and into the fall and winter, and I want you to be there with us.
We have our Get Shit Done Conference coming in the fall. That is happening in October. Before that, we've got a workshop coming in September from my dear friend Dr. Phil Richmond. He's going to be talking about avoiding toxic teams, how to create psychological safety in our practices.
We've got the amazing and wonderful technician, Melissa Entrekin who is leading a workshop in October about leveraging technicians. Making practice less stressful for you, them, and your patients. And all kinds of other fantastic things you are not going to want to miss out on.
So, if you haven't been over there lately, head on over to unchartedvet.com. You can hit forward slash events if you want to go straight to the events page. That will show you everything that is coming, and remember, if you are an Uncharted member, your membership gets you access to all of these workshops that we do on a regular basis for free.
And if you are not currently a member, you can check out the membership information because it will save you big bucks throughout the year on accessing all of the workshops. And [inaudible 01:01:15] you access to the conferences when we have them like Get Shit Done for less money. That's right, get a discount, and who doesn't love a good discount? Thanks so much for listening, guys. We'll see you soon.

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Aug 03 2022

How Adobe Animal Hospital is Doing Work-From-Home and Virtual Medicine – Cone of Shame Crossover

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast Episode 189 - How Adobe Animal Hospital is doing work-from-home and virtual medicine

This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

This week on the podcast, we have a cross-over episode! That's right, this is a Cone of Shame episode. Imagine a CSR working from home, checking a client out and booking appointments from his home, or a technician live-chatting with three different pet owners through the clinic webpage from her apartment, or a doctor doing telemedicine appointments from another state? This isn’t fantasy. There are practices actually making these things happen today. Christina Freeman and Summer Burke-Irmiter join Dr. Andy Roark to talk about how their clinic is breaking the mold to give employees (and clients) flexibility like never before. Let’s get into this.

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · Uncharted Podcast Ep 189 – How Adobe Animal Hospital is Doing Work-From-Home and Virtual Medicine

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Episode Transcript

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Stephanie Goss: It's a crossover episode that's right this week we are sharing an episode from our sister podcast the Cone of Shame podcast. Andy did a discussion interview with two amazing women from Adobe Animal Hospital and I just thought it would be something that our audience would love to hear, because they talked about virtual team members, virtual csrs, using technology in amazing and absolutely nerdy ways that I completely love. So we are going to listen to Andy talk with Summer Burke Armature and Christina Freeman from Adobe Animal Hospital and nerd out about how Adobe Animal Hospital is doing work from home and virtual vet med.

Meg: And now the Uncharted Podcast!

Dr. Andy Roark:
Welcome to the podcast, Christina Freeman and Summer Burke-Irmiter. How are you guys?

Christina Freeman:
Good. How are you?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Doing really good. I am super excited for this conversation. For those who don't know you… Let me just say why I'm excited for the conversation, and then I'll introduce you guys through that. You guys work at Adobe Animal Hospital, which is out in the San Francisco Bay Area. You guys are part of Uncharted, which is a community that I love and get to run. And you have been for a number of years and you are one of my fanboy hospitals that I crush over because you do these cool, cool things. You were the first hospital that I was aware of that was an open hospital, meaning that people could go basically wherever their pets go.

Dr. Andy Roark:
My head hurt for a week after I first talked to you and really came to understand what you were doing and what that meant. You guys just, you do these things that get me excited and just remind me about what's possible, and that medicine can be very different from what it has been in the past. And so I am a huge fan of you guys and the work that you do. Summer, you are the hospital administrator and the owner. Christina, you are the remote manager, which is how we come to be here today. Summer shared with me a couple of weeks ago, a new program that you guys were rolling out with what you called video client representatives.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So I'm not talking about CSRs that are answering phones from home. I'm talking about you guys have screens in your lobby that people can see traditionally, a CSR, a customer service rep. That they can see the customer and they can check out with this video screen. And you have people not just answering phone, but actually dealing with clients in the building while they, the employees are at home. And that's amazing to me. And so I was like, “I want to talk…” First of all, I want to go through the system with you. I just want to unpack it and understand what you guys are doing.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm so impressed with just… And let me just say this too. I know this is a new program, you're only doing it for a while. I love that you are doing this and putting it out, and I just think that so many people, as we're looking at the great resignation and people changing jobs and also battling burnout and people being able to work from home. That has been shown to decrease levels of burnout, when people get to spend some time and say, “Hey, I'm changing my environment. I'm going to work in a more relaxed place. Even just a limited amount of time.” I am really looking hard at burnout. I'm looking hard at efficiency. I'm looking hard at making the jobs better and more flexible.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I feel like you guys are actually out there in the wilderness doing the thing. I didn't say you were lost in the wilderness. I said you are out in the wilderness, more of a Lewis and Clark, like headed westward sort of feel. That's, how I feel about it.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Definitely.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Definitely. Those are the things I'm geeking out about, and so let's go through. I just want to go ahead and start to walk through the journey that you've made so far with you. Go ahead, why don't you guys tell me just a little bit about Adobe. I mentioned a very high level. Give me a clear picture of what you're working with as far as the hospital, what makes it special? Just so people can have a mental picture of Adobe and what we're talking about.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
I'll jump in there. Adobe is a really amazing place. We have two hospitals here in the Bay Area, one, which is a 15-exam rooms, three surgical suites, full cat and dog ICU, full lab and pharmacy. And so we're big and I love it, 15 exam rooms. Overall between our two hospitals, we have 22 doctors and about 145 team members. Yeah, we're a big guy. We have a second location about 20 minutes away that's six exam rooms, ultrasound suite. They can still do major surgeries. They're open six days a week there.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
You mentioned the thing that I think makes Adobe special and amazing, which is the open hospital. So clients can go with their pet to ultrasound. They can help us set up an x-ray and then step out. We do vaccines and blood draws in front of owners. And because of that, our have a different level of trust with us. And our doctors all practice the medicine, they feel as best. So as a business, we actually don't have a lot of hard lines with our medicine and what we recommend. We want the doctors to talk with the patients and the clients decide what the [crosstalk 00:07:15]

Dr. Andy Roark:
Talk with the patients too. You never know what you're going to get.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Where are they going, what their risks are. For vaccines, we don't say you give every puppy these set of vaccines. You talk with the owner and see what's going to be best for that puppy and for that owner. Those are the two big things that I think make Adobe in general. Christina, what would you add to that?

Christina Freeman:
Truly the open hospital, I think is one of the big things that makes Adobe different and drew me to Adobe. When I first read that applying, I was like, “Oh, that's awesome.” I had grown up in a little small town hospital where I got to go wherever I wanted to go, but yeah, I saw other people not be able to do that. So it important to me. It honestly gives a huge hospital that small town feel because you're part of your pet's care. I think that was definitely one of the things that drew me to Adobe.

Christina Freeman:
I'm not from the Bay Area, I'm from North Carolina, which is where I currently live. Why? I'm the remote manager, but I think what's kept me with Adobe is just the constant creativity and growth, and the fact that we're always changing things up to make things a little bit better for namely the pets. That's always the first and foremost. That's how we've gotten here, is keeping pets first.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Talk to me a little bit about the idea of remote work. When did Adobe start to really look at this as a concept? You guys were way pre pandemic when you started to kick this around. People are like, “Oh my God, look how far they've gotten in the last two years.” And I'm like, “No, you guys were way out ahead starting to work on this.” But help me really understand that, when did this idea of remote employees, when did that come together and why did that come together?

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
It's been some while so I always have to remind myself. I think it's eight to nine years ago we started.

Christina Freeman:
Yeah.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
What happened is, here in the Bay Area, the cost of living is very high. A starter home within an hour of Adobe, you're going to be at least 600,000 plus. And so a lot of our staff already live farther away, and then if you're going to buy a home and raise a family, oftentimes our staff would move out of the area. And that's what happened, is we had a staff member who was going to leave the area and we didn't want to lose them. We all know how hard it is to get really great staff. And when we were faced with one of our staff members moving, we were like, “No, we need to make this happen.” I was like, “I need to make this happen.”

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
We keep good team members. They're part of our Adobe family, and so how do we do this? And why are we limited by our building? Why can't we do more? And so there's so much work to do. There's always work to do at Adobe, and so we just started figuring it out, really just one step at a time, lots of trials and errors, but it was to keep our team members. And so that original person did start out, I think like many hospitals now have a remote person, which is helping answer phones, helping call back clients for us. So it did start small and it just kept growing.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You guys also started to do remote communications with pet owners. Tell me a little bit about that. That's different from having people work from home. That's having pet owners stay home. How does that come into this?

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
One of the areas that I was really excited to explore was getting into chat. I don't know about you guys, but pre pandemic, I loved chat. I actually had apparel companies that I would chat with all the time back and forth. I was on Zappos once and buying shoes. And I was chatting with this CSR on there with a question about the shoes and we ended up talking her cute pit bull that she just rescued. And so I saw that you could have a connection and get really great, fast help. And so really started looking at different platforms, what could we use? That's where we initially settled on live chat, and this is where Christina actually comes in and I'll let you take it from here because you can give all kinds of information.

Christina Freeman:
Yep. That was Summer's crazy idea. I came to her and needed to move back for my family to North Carolina and she said, “Well, if you'll stick with me, I've got a crazy idea. What do you think?” And I loved it, and so we really started small. It was truly just, we had a couple people trying some things out, but when we first started chat, it was just me for the first couple weeks. And then we grew to a couple people and added one of our doctors who was remote at the time or starting in the remote world. We were shocked at how fast our clients adopted it. Through the live chat platform, we just popped a widget up on our website.

Christina Freeman:
And so whenever someone would come on the website, the way we started originally was very organic. We would ask the client if we could help them with anything. And they would say yes or no, or some were thrilled. We really found… I think at first we were all like a little bit worried it would feel impersonal, so we really tried to give it a good conversational spin and not using forms and things like that. Just really us talking because I really wanted to create the atmosphere that this was real people, real Adobe people who knew what they were talking about and we were not a robot, and it worked. And our clients adopted it and really quickly and started coming repeat back questions day after day after day, short, little questions.

Christina Freeman:
Little questions about the hospital, little questions about their pet. We love it because we can send videos and pictures back and forth. That really helps us triage, especially like a surgical patient. We can look at that incision site without the client having to drive in and we can get really good images too. So we were thrilled at how interactive we could be with the clients. Another thing that I think surprised Dr. Lau and I, when we were first doing this, we would cover a lot of the evening hours. And we had a lot of our senior pets or our hospice pets that would come day after day after day.

Christina Freeman:
We got really invested in these people and their pets and their journey through what they were going through and just really created a nice, comfortable rapport and atmosphere with the clients that you don't always have time for in the clinic. And so we really found it not only helped clients, but it sometimes enhanced their experience with us. That was really rewarding and kept us pushing. And as time went on, word got out. And so we became pretty overwhelmed pretty quickly with the load. And so we've grown our team from one to 24 in the last two years or three years, I guess and we've been really pleased at how the clients and the staff members love it.

Christina Freeman:
We have some staff who still work in hospital that help us with chat, some on a part-time basis, so they're part-time remote, part-time in hospital. And now we have a lot of people who are fully remote. And it's helped with people whose life has changed or a medical condition has changed. And so we've really been able to keep our good people and keep their skills in this field through this.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I have to point out the elephant in the room here, at least what it is for me can. One, help me understand what chat looks like. I guess what I'm saying is, what are the most common things that people ask? And then two, the reason I'm asking this is, when you guys are talking about chat and you're very excited about it and you seem to really love it. I'm imagining complete pandemonium in chat of like your own social network and people talking about their grandkids and and like a Friendster network on my webpage. Conviince me of the return on an investment of chat.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You have 24 people doing chat. As a business owner, I'm like, that sounds like a nightmare. Convince me of the value of this. I'm trying to get my head around what this really means for the pet owner and what it means for you guys from an efficiency standpoint. It like more, not less and I want to get my head around that.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And actually before-

Dr. Andy Roark:
You're both laughing real hard as I say that. I think I'm probably having all of the anxiety and the nerves and the worries that you had at the beginning. I'm having this now of… But first of all, my first thought would be, what if this fails? And my second fear would be what if this succeeds? And I can panic in both directions. Talk me down off this ledge.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Well, actually I'm going to add to that ledge just a little bit.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Holy crap.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
It's not to brag and just really show how big this can get. Christina and her remote team, since we started the live chat in 2018 have helped 60,000 clients. They've taken 60,000 chats. And now that's not the back and forth that you can have. That's not counting each one of those. That's a single session with a client. I'm going to add that mind-blowing right there.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I feel like you're helping people in Brazil. That's what I feel. I feel like there's people who've just found you and they're like, “These people will talk to me. If you're lonely and have a pet, they'll talk to you.” That's what I feel like. Is that true?

Christina Freeman:
There was a handful. I think the farthest I've ever spoken to someone was Singapore when IAMS Pet Food stopped creating their vet diets. It became like this frenzy of finding people with these products. That's as far as it's gone. but for the, I would say 97% is our actual clients. We are careful, we don't, we do. Every time we start a conversation, we get the pet details. We look up their record.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Smart.

Christina Freeman:
If they're not our clients, we do recommend that they speak to their local hospital, just so that history is with them. We're not trying to push people off, but we do feel like, don't talk for me for 30 minutes about diarrhea and then go to your hospital and expect them to know what we talked about. That is one thing that we are pretty careful about. And the great thing about the chat is every single thing we say, every single thing we share, we upload into the medical record, so when that pet does come in a couple days later or later that day, it's all there, that history's there. So they don't have to go back through that again, our medical staff can read through that.

Christina Freeman:
Just a short thing on the ledge, and I know Summer can, can help remove people from the ledge quickly, but what we've done with our team is allow the in-hospital team to focus on the pets that are in the building, rather than you're sitting there helping a pet and you've got four people waiting on the phone that have a question for a doctor. We're able to take that load from them so they can focus. And we can seamlessly help the client. The client has no clue in cases that we're not actually in the building.

Christina Freeman:
We stay in constant contact with our doctors who are on the floor, they're feeding us advice. And so we're able to take that load off of the team in the building who need to focus 100% on the pets.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Okay. No, that makes a ton of sense.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And you bring up a good point there, Christina is one of the reasons we started looking at this in 2018 is at that time, if we all can remember past then. I know it's been eons, seems like a decade, not just three years, we were already experiencing that short staffing with technicians in particular. With the high cost of living in the Bay Area was compounded, and Adobe had always offered medical advice to our clients. We're probably way more open than most hospitals about that client calls. We will talk to them through, make sure there's no contraindications. And then if it's that vomiting lab, we'll go ahead and give them a bland diet, what to look for and when to call back.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And we were looking at losing that. That was something that I felt was really important to Adobe. And by figuring this remote piece out, we were able to keep something that I thought was part of Adobe and part of Adobe soul and just move it out of house. And that worked out really well. And yeah, to talk you off the ledge there, Andy, there are some tips and tricks behind the scenes with these chat systems that really make it helpful. One of which is, and this is good for everybody to know, they can see what you're typing before you hit enter. Remember that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Really?

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
So when you're about to be like [inaudible 00:21:10], and then you erase it, they saw it.

Christina Freeman:
They see all that.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
You see all that. So when you can already see somebody typing out about the diarrhea, and then what you're doing is there's scripts that Adobe did, ourselves, but you can have a diarrhea script. So as soon as that client is done, you press enter on the diarrhea script and it's got all the questions we always ask. How is their eating? How often? What's the color? All of that. So then that gives you a minute to either work on another chat. Our chatters who are super experienced can take multiple at a time. You can't take multiple phone calls at a time per person, but you can with chats.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Or it gives you that moment to either take a breath or to do another task, which is a lot of what the remote operators they're doing. They're then working on something else while that person fills in their answers with the diarrhea. And you're already seeing again what they're doing. So if you're like, “Ooh, they just said blood.” You're going to be ready for that and you're going to get them in the hospital. Or, this is where Christina mentioned Dr. Lau. We have two remote doctors for video visits, which came in 2019. And those doctors also help the remote team with advice, questions of, “Hey, what should I recommend for this?”

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Or if it's more specific, “This client is asking a medication question that their dog's currently on. Can you help us with this?” And so that's where behind the scenes, they'll also with that. There's a lot of tools behind the scenes to help out with those 60,000 chats that they've taken.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Okay. I have some questions. Let me start to dig into this. The idea of having some scripts makes total sense, and especially like follow up questions of when they talk about diarrhea, here are the follow-up questions. That makes my innovative efficiency smooth workflow heart so heavy. And so that totally makes sense. Okay. Talk to me a little bit about chats uploading into the medical records. That sounds like it could be a Herculean task. It also sounds like it could be turnkey smooth as silk. Which one is closer.

Christina Freeman:
You're in the middle. One of the things Summer and I have been talking about recently is there are some pain points in some of this because we're starting at the very beginning. But the great thing about it is the companies are really listening to us that we're working with. We are feeding them our problems and they're helping us solve them. So that has been great. It's been challenging to be in it, but it also, we are discovering the problems as we go that need fixing. And so the companies are super helpful to help us. We are transitioning with companies major that reason. Right now it is manual, we do copy and paste this into the record, and we're talking about six key strokes to get it in the record.

Christina Freeman:
But the company that we're talking with now is going to make that automatic. As soon as we finalize that chat, it's automatically fed into the record. This has been fun to be on the innovative front of like, “Okay, here's our problem. Help me solve it.” And so that's going to speed us up. Summer mentioned, part of the glory of chat is we can do multiple things at the same time and we can help clients at the same time. When you're speaking medically, and you're looking for medical records, and you're having to bring up the pet of, if you're a seasoned chatter, three is tops because you need to be focused and make sure, like three pets at a time.

Christina Freeman:
But as Summer said, you're stuck on the phone with one call, where with a chat. And also you don't get those visuals that we can get via chat. We can say, “Hey, could you go snap a picture of that?” The owner runs away and snaps a picture and comes back while we're helping another client, or we're picking up a phone call or we're answering an email. So there's a lot of other administrative things that we can do behind the scenes while all this is going on, while we're also helping pet owners via chat.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Cool. Who are the companies that you're working with on your chat?

Christina Freeman:
Well, we've been using live chat and we're transitioning to TeleVet. And TeleVet is a more veterinary-centered product that is helping us build the things we need and these automated things.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Hey, everybody, I just want to jump in here with a couple quick updates. If you're listening to this podcast and you're like, “Oh my gosh, vet clinics are doing stuff like this. This is amazing.” You should join Uncharted. The Uncharted Veterinary Conference and Community, that's where I met Summer and Christina, is where we learned about Adobe. This is the type of stuff that we talk about in there. Everything from open hospitals, where pat owners go wherever they want to virtual medicine, to work from home, to the classics about getting the staff to come together as a team.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Building culture, solving problems, growing people as leaders and communicators and visionaries. That's what we do in Uncharted. If you're like, “God, I want to live in this world. I want to practice medicine in this other way. I want to be the captain of my own ship.” Check out Uncharted. Guys, our April conference is coming up, April 21st through 23rd. If you've not been to an Uncharted conference, I promise you have not been to anything like this. We do choose your own adventure sessions where attendees make sessions on the first night that we then put on during the event, it is all networking focused.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You will make friends. You will talk to people who are doing incredible things. You will get re-inspired, you will get reinvigorated. You will learn techniques and tips and tricks and strategies for running a smoother, more efficient, more rewarding vet practice. That is what this conference is all about. The 21st to the 23rd, is in Greenville, South Carolina. I'll put a link in the show notes. You can become an Uncharted member. We have a vibrant online community. We talk constantly. It is not a thing where people get in there and it's a ghost town or where there's canned content.

Dr. Andy Roark:
We are constantly talking as a community about solving problems, about growing practices, about doing new and different things. About making our lives better and easier, about handling hard problems together as a group. That's what we do. So anyway, if you're not familiar, if you haven't tried out Uncharted and this episode is inspiring you, this is your call to action. This is what you need to do.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Gang, I also have to stop here real quick and just say, thanks again, to Banfield Pet Hospital. Through their help, we're able to have transcripts for episodes. And this is all about increasing accessibility, inclusivity in vet medicine, and making sure that everyone has access to the materials that we're putting out. We could not do this without them. They have supported The Cone of Shame and having transcripts and The Uncharted Veterinary Podcast, which is our other podcast. It's a business management podcast. But thanks to those guys for stepping up and leading the charge to make vet medicine more open and inclusive. They really are doing amazing things. Anyway, guys, that's all the announcements I got. Let's get back into this episode.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Talk to me a little bit about how the veterinarians support this. You've got veterinarians that do telehealth visits, and I want to put a pin in that and come back to that in a little bit. But let's just say that you have veterinarian behind the scene that is lending support. How do you back channel that? You've got someone and they're working remotely, I'm assuming, and then they're doing the chat, and then they're… How does that person feel supported and not feel like they're out by themselves? How are you handling that behind the scenes communication?

Christina Freeman:
It's been interesting. Being remote, we have built some closer relationships than we ever had in the hospital, which we… I've been working with Dr. Lau for three solid years all day, every day and I had never actually gotten to hug her until about six months ago. And we actually converged accidentally at the same time on a trip to California. She works and lives in Virginia and I work and live in North Carolina. We're close, but it just hadn't happened. But it is remarkable the trust that we've all built working together. We are in constant contact via… We use Google Hangouts a lot.

Christina Freeman:
We do a lot of remote training together with each other and with our new team members that we've grown so quickly where they are just on video all day with us, and they're just watching what we're doing or vice versa. We're watching what they're doing. So we are literally, virtually side-by-side all day, every day, which has been really good for team building and bonding and training. We've been really surprised at how the efficiency of our training through video. And it's also grown into like we're starting to train some in-hospital people through video because it is so efficient and we can be a little bit more open about times and hours and availability.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Let's let's follow that thread a little bit. So I said we were going to put a pin in the telemedicine doctor visit stuff. Let's follow the video path. So we've talked a lot about chat and then let's talk about how do you guys use video… I started off talking about the video client representative but let's go into the telemedicine part first, just walk me through your approach in video communication.

Christina Freeman:
A lot of our chats do generate into a video visit. So we're having a conversation with an owner and we're talking about new puppy owner. They've got a lot of puppy questions, but they also have got diarrhea going on at the same time. So pet stable, we've answered all the scary questions and everything's okay. So very natural progression to move into a video visit with one of our doctors. That lets the owner be at home, they don't have to come in, that lets the pet be at home, be comfortable. And we've seamlessly gone from the chat to now a video visit where they meet with the doctor. The doctor's able to see the pet and evaluate what's going on. Medication is needed or give a little bit deeper advice on how to get that pet back on track or what that puppy might be experiencing.

Christina Freeman:
Same thing on the senior side where owners contact us and they have a senior pet, got some concerns. We're able to move that into a video visit pretty seamlessly most of the time, same day. So it's very convenient for the pet owner, they don't have to leave the house. Sometimes we can go straight from a chat into a video visit if we have availability. Now that we have two doctors, that's quite often what we do. So a lot of our more, I don't want to say simple but more straightforward issues, that's how are born from chat into a video visit the natural progression.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Good. Talk to me about doctor scheduling for this. So again, I really appreciate you guys just letting me pick through this. So that's the other thing. People always say, “How do you have doctors…” I think that's a big hurdle for Telehealth is how do you make the doctor's schedules work? So do pet owners have the ability to make telehealth visits? And then also we flex chat appointments in to fill that schedule out. Is there a standby vet just support chat? Did that happen at the beginning? Or did you add in some Telehealth visits after you had built the chat up and you were having these conversations and you felt like, “Oh, now we've got enough of a caseload that would support this vet.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Share with me your thoughts on that because there's a lot of people who were like, “Oh man, we've been talking about Telehealth visits… I think for me, when I look at Telehealth, it makes sense if you can generate the volume. Because otherwise you've got that hanging out, not seeing appointments. And then if they go and start seeing appointments in the physical exam rooms and you say, “Well, how do we get them back out to be on time for these other things?” I think a lot of people are balancing these logistics and you've got this really neat outside around the way you have done this. And so yeah. Talk to me a little bit about doctor scheduling for these types of Telehealth appointments.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Okay. So yeah, with Dr Lau, who I have to give credit for, for finding our video visit platform. She found TeleVet and we originally thought we would go with a human-based video visit company because they were established, they had worked through the kinks. But it turned out that the human systems were super complicated and really didn't fit the veterinary world. So with TeleVet, the reason why we originally got excited about them is they had chat on their platform and we're like, “Okay, if we have chat and they have chat, this might work out well.”

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And they were super responsive. What we didn't realize at the time is the reason they were responsive is they were I think a two and a half person company at the time. And it was the big male who was chatting with us. Straight awkward, but. But we loved the response, we loved how engaged they were, the platform fit well, and then as we onboarded and started getting used to it, they would make all these tweaks and changes that really fit us. And again, that's what called to my heart is we were making this fit for Adobe and that was really fantastic. So I'll stop there though and let Christina talk a little more about the scheduling and how the juggling that they do over there is amazing.

Christina Freeman:
Well, in the beginning it was just Dr. Lau and I, so we had luxury and the flexibility of being at home and so we worked when the demand was high. And so we were able to monitor the website and know when people came on the website and so when they came on, we made ourselves available and we were there to chat with them and help with them and I'd ping Dr. Lau and be like, “Hey, can you do a video visit?” And she's like, “Sure.” And scrambling together from whatever else she was doing. So we were very organic in the beginning in the fact that we just saw when our clients were needing us, and so that's what we did.

Christina Freeman:
As we grew, we needed more structure, we needed a life. We were available 24/7 in the beginning just to get this work in it had figured out. But then we really did discover the peak times that clients wanted and needed us. And so we built a Dr. Lau's schedule around that. And then as we added Dr. Nakamura as well, he balanced the other parts. So we do have a doctor available to our chatters and for video visits seven days a week between the two. And I guess truly what we did is we looked at the peak request times and managed our time from that. So if you want to get started small, totally able to do that, look at your clientele, look at when they're asking for things, just very generalizing. It's going to be early evening hours and sat morning hours when clients first get home from work and they discover there's a problem.

Christina Freeman:
So you get home from work at 5:30 and you're like, “Oh, my puppy has diarrhea.” Or you get home from work and you discover your senior has had some changes during the day that you need some advice. And so running some hours in the evening, two or three hours to fit in those requests between getting home and people going to bed. And then those Saturday mornings where you wake up and you're like, “Oh, I should have called the vet on Friday.” Everyone knows what calling a vet on Fridays is like, so that's the way we started in the beginning. But now as we've grown, we have the luxury of having 24/7 or 7-day a week help during our peak hours.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Gotcha. Okay.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And also, especially early on but they still do a ton now. There was a lot of duties that the in-hospital doctors were doing that remote is able to help with and Dr. Lau and Dr. Nakamura are able to help with. So they actually do a few things. They do a lot of the general refill requests, so that now goes on a live spreadsheet online that they can access so they can go through there, especially for doctors who are on vacation, who aren't going to be in for couple of days. So instead of the technician or the pharmacy tech having to go to that doctor at their desk and be like, “Hi, sorry, but you look at this heart garden prescription.” They actually do that first thing in the morning.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And so pharmacy gets in, they've got meds to fill or clients to immediately call back and say, “I'm so sorry, the doctor's really suggesting that we need to do this blood work first. We'll get you a couple days worth.” So they do a lot of that. They've also taken on a lot of doctor flow things in regards to, “You know what? It's that last day of your work week and you just did blood work on a patient. They need to be called the next day. It's not one that should wait until next week when you're back, the remote doctors will help with that.” And they also can help with bridging even if you have two doctors on a case, that's outpatient, then they can actually help bridge with some of those callbacks as well.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And so they've helped with a lot of in-hospital things. During COVID, we were doing our shelter in place here in the Bay Area. They also became what we call the COVID doctor would help with all kinds of things just because we did go curbside, which was a huge change for Adobe from open hospital. And so all that extra work, they really helped out a ton with that. So we did initially, they weren't booked with video visits all the time, they were helping with that. We've actually, over the last couple years had to reduce how much that they're doing of that admin work because they are getting busier and busier there.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
And actually he's okay with me being pretty open about this. When COVID hit, Dr. Nakamura's immune compromised. He had to leave. And if we didn't have this option, he wouldn't been in the hospital for a year and a half. So we didn't lose the doctor, added a doctor. He sees exotics as well, and a lot of the husbandry for exams is really nice to do because you can see the tank, you can see what they're using, what they're set up is by using that video camera.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. So that makes a ton of sense. So we've talked about chat, we've talked about video consultations. What are some other jobs that you guys are doing now remotely at Adobe?

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Yeah. I've actually got the list in front of me. Christina, do you want me to read it-

Christina Freeman:
Go for it.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
… off real quick? Okay. So with our entire remote team, they do voicemails. So this is doctor voicemails transcribing them into an online live document. Doctors, go on and say, “I'll call this one, I'll just call this one back and do a recheck.” They'll then go ahead and call that client. They're doing our advice lines. So we do allow clients to still call in if they be to for medical advice and or triage. And so they're doing those advice lines, they're doing live chat, they're also looking and using TeleVet, especially for prepping clients for their video visits, things like that. They do pharmacy. We actually have a large pharmacy group now of pharmacy technicians who do all the admin work for on the floor pharmacy techs. Surgery, this is actually, I want to say something here. Surgery scheduling. Sorry.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Okay. Yeah. That's appears [crosstalk 00:41:50] like virtual surgery.

Christina Freeman:
Little robotic arm.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly. We have a robot and they log in with a PlayStation controller.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Well, actually that's our next, that's where we're going to.

Dr. Andy Roark:
That's where we're going next. Yeah.

Christina Freeman:
We're headed there.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Is robot doctors. But until then. So surgery scheduling has been an issue in Adobe since I started 14 years ago. We've always had our surgery team on the floor who scheduled. And then we had one full-time scheduler in-house. Pre pandemic, it was sometimes embarrassing to admit this. It was up to 14 days before you might get a call back to schedule a surgery. And we were just so busy, the team was busy, our single scheduler was busy. And with all of our different doctors, it's not easy to schedule. And it's not because of the team. The team is just busy. And so we have now through a year long process, fully moved this over to remote.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
We have a surgery scheduling team. They schedule all of our surgeries. We are within actually a couple of days of them. 100% taking it over after training and a prolonged period there, they got to same day callbacks within less than a week. So they now do same day call back for all of our surgery scheduling, take care of the entire process. We do now still have our surgery scheduler in-house when she came back from COVID and maternity leave. So get this, during a time when we're all short staffed and crazy, we were actually able to add a service. So be because this full-time scheduler is not doing any of the emails or voice messages that we're getting for surgery, she's able to go directly into the room. If somebody wants a schedule right now, she's in the room and she's scheduling it. So we have an in-house in-room scheduler because we have this team taking care of everything else.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. That's amazing. Let's go ahead and unpack here at the end where we started. Talk to me about the video client representative and how that works and how you rolled it out and what the reaction has been to you having virtual CSRs, actually working with clients who were in the building.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Yeah, I think it's probably the craziest idea my team has let me do.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I saw photos and I was like, “This is bonkers.”

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Yeah. When I brought it up, I think they all thought it was crazy. You could have beat it, Christina.

Christina Freeman:
Nope, totally on, totally on. It was born out of true necessity. We just didn't have enough people in the hospital to cover the front desk. And so, someone and I were talking one day and we're like, “Why don't we just turn one of those screens at the front desk around and put me on it?” And that's what we did. And we tried it out. And so it grew into… It started out with we wanted to do in-room checkouts. So each room has a computer, the doctors use to access the medical records. And so we just hijacked that computer and added a camera on. And so that was where we wanted to start, but it grew into the whole process being a virtual. So each exam room, we just added a camera to the screen. So super easy and take a lot of extra tech to do.

Christina Freeman:
And so now when you're finished with your visit, one of us pop on the screen and we are able to talk about your private address and getting all of your personal information correct in the system, your phone number, your email address, things that people don't like shouting out in the lobby. So we're able to go over that. We're able to talk about the finances, which is not great to talk about in the lobby. You're able to stay in the room with your pet, you don't have to juggle the leash. You're able to pay. We have TeleVet that we work with got really excited when we wanted to do this and so they've helped us build this process but we have credit card terminals in the rooms. And so you're able to pay.

Christina Freeman:
So the checkout process has been a real value add to the client. Clients are thrilled, they enjoy it. They're like, “Oh, this is so nice.” And we've seen adoption. I have not run into someone yet and we've been doing it since November, that's been displeased with that. So that has been nice. Now the front desk video screen is a little bit harder to sell because people are used to having a person up there, but it works. And we are able to do everything via this screen that we would do in person, the only thing Summer and I teased about, but she solved that problem too. I was like, “Well, we can do everything except clean up the pee in the lobby.” And Summer's like, “Oh, there's robotic-

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Roomba.

Christina Freeman:
… Roomba.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Like a Roomba. Yeah. With a wet-

Christina Freeman:
A mop.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
A wet mop Roomba.

Christina Freeman:
So if there's a problem, we keep figuring it out. But so when clients come into the hospital, there is a monitor there on the front desk with signage that says, “Check in here.” And it's cute. Clients smile and also they recognize us. So a lot of us used to work in the hospital, or all of us right now used to work in the hospital. So they're seeing familiar faces, they're hearing familiar voices and they're like, “Oh, I missed you. How are you?” And so we're able to keep connecting with our clients.

Christina Freeman:
And so it doesn't… I think Summer and I both had the worry that the monitor on the front desk would feel a bit impersonal. We've actually found this the opposite. We're chatting of, they're holding up their little pets, we're chatting with the dogs as well and so we've been pleased with the adoption. And also with COVID, it's been a safety measure as well, a surprising safety measure. We're able to speak to them without a mask, they're able to hear us because we're remote. And so that's helped with this process.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I imagine it's like self checkout at the grocery store. If there's a cashier standing there, I'm going to that person. But as soon as there's two people in line, totally self checking out.

Christina Freeman:
But imagine that self checkout with a human talking to, because that's the problem, you get your broccoli and you don't have your code number and you're like, “Ah.” But you've got a human there to help you with your broccoli. So we are-

Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, I know it. That's it, they can recommend ice cream flavors. All right guys, where can people learn more about Adobe and your amazing hospital?

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
Yeah. So few different areas. You're welcome to come our website, adobe-animal.com. And you'll probably see our chatters on there. If they are busy, they'll ask you to leave a message that they will respond to. And so that's the other thing with chat is you don't have to take them live by That moment if things are busy. And then also I think we sent over some picture.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes.

Summer Burke-Irmiter:
You guys, and so you can check out some pictures. Because I know initially when we talk about VCR, it can seem like this big wild concept. Once you see how simple it is. I feel like it's the post-it note for veterinary hospitals right now. Everybody in a year or two is going to be like, “Oh yeah, VCR, whatever. We're all doing it.” Because it's so easy. But right now it can be hard to conceptualize and so check out those videos where you'll see Christina and her backdrop in her home. Yep. With our lovely vinyl background, that's the background of our reception areas, and fools a lot of clients. And then you'll also see though pictures of her on the monitor around the hospital, checking people in.

Dr. Andy Roark:
That's awesome. So I'll probably put a link to our blog post about the episode and then I'll put the photos in there for sure. Also guys, we are posting podcast episodes as YouTube videos. And so we're going to drop them in there as well if you guys like your podcast as YouTube videos, you got to see photos there. Last question, Christina. I have thought the whole time that you were in some remote location because there's an Adobe Animal Hospital, big logo on the wall behind you, and that's your house?

Christina Freeman:
Yes. This is my house [crosstalk 00:50:52] here in North-

Dr. Andy Roark:
What does your family think about the fact that you have a work logo? Your husband was like, “What the heck is this?”

Christina Freeman:
Honestly, they love it. It's been a very exciting crazy journey which is my life is, but one of the great things is I'm here. I have three children, they know exactly what I do. They see it, they hear it. Sometimes they're… Actually, my five-year-old got a pencil from the pencil box while we were talking. But so that's been a great thing for myself and my family. If your kid grow up and don't know what you do, but they know exactly what I do. And it's cute because in the background, they'll be like, “Shh, mommy's helping a pet with diarrhea.” And they've learned so much too. They're like, “Are you going to tell them about the bland diet?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I could totally see that. I would be getting advice from my kids in no time. And they would be like, “Dad don't forget.”

Christina Freeman:
Yeah. Oh yeah, they keep me on track too. So live chat has little auditory cues when you have an incoming chat. And so it says in a British accent, “Incoming chat.” Now guys. Nope, nope, Nope. [crosstalk 00:52:05]

Dr. Andy Roark:
Now they're making appear on camera. Okay. All right. The wheels are coming off here. Yeah. I know how that goes. That's-

Christina Freeman:
Hi, darlings, now you heard what I said, y'all have to go downstairs.

Dr. Andy Roark:
That's me. That's my life all day, every day. I love it. It's so true.

Christina Freeman:
They heard me. I'm sure they were downstairs like, “What's she saying?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
[crosstalk 00:52:24] She's talking about us let's go.

Christina Freeman:
Like, “It's her chance roll the ball.” But they made up Carol of the bell at Christmas, incoming chat, incoming chat. So they'll run behind me and sing that and freak me out. Because I'm like, “Where?” Because once you've been chatting forever, you know the words incoming chat, [crosstalk 00:52:47]

Dr. Andy Roark:
Where you're here and just-

Christina Freeman:
Exactly. Start to salivate, so.

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right.

Christina Freeman:
They love to sneak up behind me and go, “Incoming chat.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, so cruel. I love it. All right guys, thanks for being here. Guys, thanks for listening to the podcast. I'll talk to everybody next week.

Stephanie Goss: Thanks for listening to podcast I'll talk to everybody next week. Hey, if you loved this episode and you want to hang out more with Summer and Christina you can you can hang out with them at ‘Get Shit Done' that's right, ‘Get Shit Done' is happening in October. It is October 6th through the 8th come join Christina and Summer and I AND Andy AND everybody in the Uncharted community from the comfort of your couch or your bed or your front porch because ‘Get Shit Done' is virtual. That's right! You do you and come hang out with us and talk about how do we get stuff done, particularly how do we get stuff done shorthanded. I think talking about virtual csrs is exactly a step in that direction and I'm super pumped for that workshop and more you can head on over to the website at unchartedvet.com to find out registration information, can't wait to see you there.

Stephanie Goss: And, we have to just say thanks to a generous gift from our friends at Banfield Pet Hospital we are now able to provide transcripts for all of our podcast episodes. Our friends at Banfield stepped up in a big way and said, “hey we are striving to increase accessibility and inclusivity across the profession”. To check out the transcript and find out more about what Banfield is doing to increase accessibility and inclusivity across the vet profession head over to unchartedvet.com forward slash blog and you can find each one of the podcast episodes and a link to find out more about equity inclusion and diversity at Banfield take care everybody.

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Jul 27 2022

The Tech’s Personal Life is Impacting Work

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

You have a teammate who is amazing at their job. They have great skills for the work. They get the job done well, safely, and on time. There is just one, small problem. They seem to have a trainwreck of a personal life and it bleeds into their work life with regularity. How do you find the balance between caring for a coworker and asking someone to do their job? A writer to the mailbag asks us this question and a few more. Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss both have strong feelings on this. Step onboard the bus to Camp Tough Love, friends, and let’s get into this…

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Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody. I am Stephanie Goss, and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. Are you ready? Is your seat belt on? You better buckle up because Andy and I are taking you on a ride to Camp Tough Love. That's right. We got a letter in the mailbag from a practice owner who is asking a question. There's a backstory and we'll get into it. But the question is how do I make a person an employee who doesn't cause us to lose money while still keeping them employed? Andy and I looked at this and said, there's really one answer to this question. And it involves a trip to Camp Tough Love. Let's go. Shall we?

Meg:
And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie, let's make it personal, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
It is personal this time.

Andy Roark:
Ah, it's personal.

Stephanie Goss:
How's it going? Andy?

Andy Roark:
It's good. It's good. I'm questioning whether or not I'm a good person right now.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, why?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay. So, all right, so here it is. I went to the beach with the family. Okay.

Andy Roark:
All right.

Stephanie Goss:
And I decided I was going to spend time on the beach. And so I carried a tent down to the beach and my folding chair, and I set up my tent and I set up my folding chair and I sat down in the folding chair on the sand, above the tide line, looking directly out of the beach. I didn't go swimming. I just sat in the chair, meditating, staring straightforward into the ocean. Right.

Andy Roark:
Okay.

Stephanie Goss:
And it was like nine o'clock in the morning. And there was no one else on the beach

Stephanie Goss:
At the beach. Okay.

Andy Roark:
Yes. And then this old person came walking down, and she was carrying a book and a folded chair.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
And she sat down right in front of me.

Stephanie Goss:
Stop it.

Andy Roark:
The whole beach is open, and I am there sitting, and she sat down right in front of me. And then her husband came and he looked at me and then he sat his chair down next to her.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my gosh. No way.

Andy Roark:
And it was like, imagine going to the beach and sitting down to look directly into the ocean. And two people come and sit down in front of you. It's like if you went to the movie theater and you sat down and one other person who's seven feet tall came in, and they took the chair directly in front of yours. And you're like…

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my gosh.

Andy Roark:
And so I sat there, staring at these people in front of the ocean and I thought, “What do I do? Like do I?” I was upset. I was like, this cannot stand. I had a tent and everything. And so I went to them and I said, “Hey, you guys might not have noticed, but I'm sitting right there with this tent, and I'm looking at the ocean and you guys kind of set up directly in front of me. And I know you just have some folding chairs. And so if it would be okay, if you guys wouldn't mind moving a bit.” And they looked at me like I had asked them to leave the beach. And the woman says, ‘Well, wherever we go, we're going to be in front of somebody.” And I said, “There's no one else here.”

Andy Roark:
Look around, it's an empty beach.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And they didn't really respond. And I said, “Oh, look, okay. I just thought I'd ask.” And they got up and they moved literally 10 feet and sat back down. And then I sat there and I'm like…

Stephanie Goss:
Awkward.

Andy Roark:
I know. And I'm like, am I a jerk? Because they looked at me like what idiot asks people to move on the beach. And felt like maybe I'm terrible. But if I hadn't a tent that I'd set up, then I would just move myself, but anyway. I have wrestled with this for days, and I need to know… My wife comes down and she sits down and I said, “You see those people sitting 10 feet off to the side from directly in front of us.” And I told her the story and she was like, “You should have ignored them.” And I wanted her to say, “Good for you advocating for yourself.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
“Good for you standing up.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
“And just saying what you felt.”

Stephanie Goss:
Please move.

Andy Roark:
Please move. Exactly. She said, “You should have just ignored it.”

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my gosh.

Andy Roark:
She's like, “You could have turned your chair slightly to the side and it would've been fine.” And anyway.

Stephanie Goss:
This reminds me of the, am I the a-hole-

Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
On Reddit.

Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
I really want you to post there.

Andy Roark:
I asked these old people to move, because they sat directly in between me and the water. And again, if I'd been swimming that would've been one thing, but I was literally sitting and looking at the beach and they walked up.

Stephanie Goss:
Some people have no social awareness.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. And usually that person is me, which is why I'm so concerned that I am wrong.

Stephanie Goss:
I don't think you're wrong. I would have done the same thing. And if they hadn't moved, then I would've gotten my stuff. And I would've said, “Okay, you have a really nice day.” And then I would've pointedly moved myself down and reset up my stuff very noisily.

Andy Roark:
To to side?

Stephanie Goss:
To the side.

Andy Roark:
I should have taken my tent and moved around them.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. And made a big production.

Andy Roark:
And set up between them and the ocean. Just a progressive arms race towards the water. And I should have popped a tent in front of the two of them sitting there on the beach, looking at the water.

Stephanie Goss:
That's so funny.

Andy Roark:
I didn't okay. And then I saw them every day for the rest of the time I was at the beach and I was like, “Ah.”

Stephanie Goss:
So yeah, you and I are on the same page. We're a lot alike.

Andy Roark:
Thank you. Because my wife is like, “You should just ignore them. Why didn't you ignore them?” And I'm like, “Because I'm a warrior. That's why.” I'm not a warrior. Because you know conflict and me. I love it. I'll fight with people.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh gosh. So funny. Okay. I'm excited about this one. Today's episode comes from the mail bag.

Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
We had a message from a doctor who is a practice owner and has a veterinary assistant who went to school to become a licensed technician, but never passed their boards. They have some education, they have a strong skillset. They've been with the practice for a long time. And the doctor was like, look, this is a really thorough, smart person. I value them as a member of the team. They have technical skills. They're wonderful at their job. However, they are a train wreck personally. And it bleeds into work almost every day. Everything from tardiness to just being preoccupied and being slow, struggling to get through mental fog. And the doctor said, “Look, we've met numerous times and talked about this because it's progressively gotten worse.” There's improvements that happen after we talk. And then there's the backwards slide after a few weeks.

Stephanie Goss:
And so they said, “I've already done things to make it more equitable for the rest of the team, because it impacts them.” And so-

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
-they've done things like cutting hours, changing them to the later shift, because they can't get there on time in the morning, making them ineligible for bonuses, stuff like that. So they have done some things to try and make it seem more fair to the rest of the team. And this person is still significantly impacting their peers. So they are always running behind. They are slow, especially on days when they're super foggy. Their peers are having to pick up and pick up their cases and step in so that we make sure that the client experience isn't impacted.

Andy Roark:
Yep.

Stephanie Goss:
And so this doctor was like, look, I feel for them. I feel for their personal life and their home life situation, clearly this is something that is impacting them. And I do feel like this person, both technically and personal-wise, has a lot to offer us and our team. And I'm really, really struggling with what to do, because I feel like this person is also a liability, and they're losing us money because they're slow.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And I'm paying two people to do the work that it should take one person to do. And they're like, I'm in an area where, like everybody else, we need more people. We don't have people beating down our door. And so I feel like I'm kind of stuck in this situation. And so they were just like, look, what do I do with this train wreck?

Andy Roark:
Okay.

Stephanie Goss:
And I was like, Ooh, can't wait to talk about this one with Andy.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. This is a problem that veterinarians would have. I love broken creatures, and my heart tells my entire chest, yeah, I get it.

Stephanie Goss:
I'm so glad. I'm so glad you said that. Because also when I read this, I was thinking, “Oh God, this might be the episode that we do that more people go, are they talking about my practice?”

Andy Roark:
It's like, ah, it's broken. I can save it.

Stephanie Goss:
All right. This is going to be a fun one.

Andy Roark:
I love my people. I love veterinarians. I do.

Stephanie Goss:
Bless their hearts.

Andy Roark:
Bless our hearts. Again, I say this from a place of compassion.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Sometimes compassion, it gets you in trouble in case you haven't noticed. Yeah. Okay. I'm not trying to make fun of this, but this is such a veterinarian problem to have. It's ridiculous. I love it. All right. That's fine. We can fix this. We can fix this. All right.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay so.

Andy Roark:
Here we go.

Stephanie Goss:
Where do we start?

Andy Roark:
From the tough love camp. That's where we start. Camp Tough Love.

Stephanie Goss:
Camp Tough Love. Let's get on the bus.

Andy Roark:
Everybody on the bus. Field trip at a Camp Tough Love. I think this is a summertime bit that we should keep going for good. Camp Tough Love.

Stephanie Goss:
Camp Tough Love.

Andy Roark:
With Andy and Stephanie.

Stephanie Goss:
With Andy and Stephanie. Let's do it.

Andy Roark:
Camp Tough Love. Here we go.

Stephanie Goss:
I love it so much.

Andy Roark:
All right. Camp Tough Love. We start with head space and then we sing our camp song. Let's do head space while I think of the camp song. All right, head space. Okay. All right. Deep breath. All right.

Andy Roark:
You cannot make this personal. You are their boss. You are their boss, and their personal life is not your… Don't take this wrong way. It's not your problem. Right. And I don't mean that, you guys know me, I'm not a jerk. I care about people. I really care about people. And the people who work for me, I care about greatly.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
But I'm not their therapist, and I'm not their parent. And they don't want me to be those things. They are grown ass people. You know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:
Most of them.

Andy Roark:
Most of them.

Andy Roark:
Yes. This is a personal boundary thing for me. I'm not your parent, and I can't fix your personal life. I can't. It's beyond my reach. It's beyond my power.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Okay. I can give you a good place to work. I can do everything in my power to make a positive work culture. I can do everything I can to try to make this an enjoyable place to be. I can stop the clients from being abusive to you. I can do everything I can to compensate you well, to make sure that you are treated fairly, to make sure you're considered for opportunities and advancements and bonuses. I can try to make this a fun, rewarding place to be. I can try to make sure that you get recognition for the work that you do in our clinic and that you feel appreciated.

Andy Roark:
I can do all of those things, right? I cannot fix your personal life period. Full stop. And so getting into that head space of these are the things that I can do. And I know what I can do. And I know no other things that I can't do. This cannot be personal. I cannot save this person as an individual. Their personal life has to be their business. All I can do is take care of the person when they're in the building. And when I talk to this person, it has to be about their life in the building. And it has to be about the work, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Yes.

Andy Roark:
Everybody has a personal life.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
We all have personal lives. There are quiet people in your practice that are carrying burdens you would not believe.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And they just don't talk about it.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And they don't let it affect their lives. Now, another thing to be important about here is I am not being critical of this person who's struggling in their personal life.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Yes.

Andy Roark:
I went through a period of depression a number of years ago. And let me tell you, it sucks. One star, would not recommend. It's been years, but I've never forgotten, it really freaking sucked.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Yes.

Andy Roark:
And so there are times that people have heavy burdens and they carry them and they're awful. And so this is not a moral judgment. This is not me saying this person's worthless. They're terrible. It's just me saying, this is a burden they have to carry. And I can only support them inside the confines of this job.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And the work that they do here and support that we're allowed and able to offer to our employees. And so don't think that I'm being negative on the person. I'm really not. I'm being very empathetic to that person. I can be very empathetic and still say, this relationship doesn't work. Many of us have probably dated people who we empathized with them and we cared about them, but it was not meant to be. And I didn't want to be in this relationship. Stephanie's laughing real hard. Do you want to tell us about. Nope. Head shaking. Nope. Okay. That's a bit that will not be on-

Stephanie Goss:
That's an uncharted after dark.

Andy Roark:
Gotcha.

Stephanie Goss:
No. We are on the same camp bus together here. And the other thing I think about not making it personal, is that not taking it personally and not making it personal is that I can't control anything that happens in their personal life. I can't control them as a person. I can't control their home life. I can't control any of the circumstances. I can have all the empathy in the world. I have zero control over that.

Andy Roark:
Correct.

Stephanie Goss:
So from a head space perspective, thus the only place that you should go as a leader is to think about what do I have control over. And the answer to that is, it is about work. If you make it about the work, and you do not make it personal, and you look at what is in your control, you can control. Like you said, the work environment. You can control the rules, the boundaries, the consequences, all of those things are within your control as the leader of a practice. But I cannot control anything outside of work. And so you have got to figure out how to separate those two things. And like you said, spot on, you can do it empathetically.

Andy Roark:
Yep.

Stephanie Goss:
You can do it with compassion. You can do it with kindness. And it doesn't mean that you can skip this step. This is where we're taking the bus straight to Camp Tough Love. You cannot skip this step.

Andy Roark:
Right. Totally. And I want to add to what you said too about control. Because I think this is important, but on the way to Camp Tough Love, we need to talk about the fact that not only do you not have any control over this person's personal life, but you do take liability on just knowing things.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Yes.

Andy Roark:
I mean, who knows what's going to happen? You could end up being tied up in divorce hearings.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
For what this piece person told to you.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Who knows where this goes.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And it's like, oh, this person talked about it with work. I don't want any part of any of this. That's beyond my responsibilities. It's not fair to ask me to participate in these things. I don't have any control of what the people do in their home lives.

Andy Roark:
And I don't want the responsibility of knowing what's going on.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Andy Roark:
And it's the reason a lot of us have stopped being on social media or friending our employees on social media. I don't want to know.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
It's just better if I don't know. And I am okay with that in that I do want to know what you do at work.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And I care about what you do at work, and what your performance is like at work. And so, it's really a very clean relationship for me to say, “I care about you. I want to take care of you inside the confines of work. I'm going to do all the things I can to support you as I said before. I don't know what you do after hours and that doesn't affect our relationship and that's not what our relationship is built on”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I don't say that because I'm a jerk. I don't say that because I don't care, because I would tell you, I very much do care about the person. But it's just, it's the safest thing for me. It is wildly frustrating to me to not have any control and to continue to be negatively impacted by these things. And at some point, again, all of this is on a spectrum, too. If I had someone who I worked with and I've worked with them for years and they're wonderful and they have never had any sort of problems or personal things and they come to me with a personal issue, I'm going to sit down and listen to them and support them.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Because we have a long history together. And this is the only time this has ever happened that I want to be. I care about this person. I want to be a good friend. It's different when you go, this is again and again and again and again. And it's not a one time thing. This is the way this person is behaving and operating. I cannot be involved in it.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
That's a big part of head space for me is all about that stuff.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I was going to say, I think the other big piece for me is you and I talk about assuming good intent, and that is really important here. I think you said something that was really, really important, which is, I don't remember how you said it just now, but you said basically like everybody handles their life differently.

Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And so we have to assume that they are doing the best that they can with what they have within their reach. And so our job is to acknowledge that, to make that assumption and carry out that assumption through our interactions with them, because our job is to help them navigate at work. And so if we are assuming that they are doing the best that they possibly can, and we are doing our job, then it becomes significantly easier to actually handle this. And this is where a lot of us, myself included, struggle as leaders because I will tell you, I can't tell how often the mentality is not one of assuming good intent. And it's just, God, if they could only get their shit together. If they cared about their job. Why wouldn't they fix this? That is not assuming good intent or thinking positively.

Andy Roark:
It's not, but it's a hundred percent understandable.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, totally.

Andy Roark:
Just because

Stephanie Goss:
Absolutely.

Andy Roark:
Think about what this writer has said. They're like, we changed the schedule because they couldn't get her on time.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
We have done these things. They still make mistakes, have to be looked after and they've been removed from calculating bonuses, and it's like the amount of lift that has been made just to make this person, I don't know, in some way able to stay involved in this.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And then person continues to have issues. How do you not get angry? I'm sorry. I would be. And again, that's why I said Camp Tough Love is like, you, dear writer have the patience of Job.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I never would've made it this far.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I've always been like [inaudible 00:20:27].

Stephanie Goss:
Five years. That is impressive.

Andy Roark:
Exactly right. And so to Stephanie's point, you shouldn't assume good intent. I also understand how hard that would be because at some point it gets hard. People ask all the time. It's funny. We'll talk about assuming good intent. And people always come in and say, “Andy, how do you assume good intent over and over and over again in the same person.” And I go, “That my friend is a fair question and that is much more challenging.” And so I, a hundred percent, I do want to give grace to people who would struggle to assume good intent. That is what we need to do. But also feel seen if you go, “Oh my God, that's really hard.”

Andy Roark:
I want to clarify what the job is as well. And you and I have talked about this before and here's the Uncharted philosophy on management and leadership. Your job is not to make this person happy. Your job is not to keep this person on the team. Your job is not to do whatever the clients want.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Your job, my friend, is to balance the needs of the clients, and the staff, and the doctors, and the management, and the owner corporate team or whatever.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Andy Roark:
And you are a juggler, you are a balancer. And you need to maintain that balance. And so head space is, do you think that everything is in balance based on what we've been told? Are we balancing the needs of the individual assistant/ technician? Are we balancing the needs of the rest of the paraprofessionals? Are we balancing the needs of the doctors who are working with this person? Are we balancing the needs of the pet owners who are waiting extended periods of time and who are suffering from mistakes being made?

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And I would say, I'm not convinced those things are in balance.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Again, I think a lot of managers think they need to fix all the problems. And I would say that is impossible.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
There are mutually exclusive problems where if you fix them for one person, you make them worse for another person. And that's just life. That's compromise. That's not being all things to all people.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And you can't be all things to all people.

Stephanie Goss:
No.

Andy Roark:
And so balance is the key. Are you achieving balance? And the last thing I always say when we get to the gates to Camp Tough Love, they have an inscription across the top of the gates. And as the doors swing in, and our fun bus rolls into Camp Tough Love, the inscription across the top says, “abandon all hope.”

Andy Roark:
It does not. It says, “what is kind,” is what it says. The inscription over the gates to Camp Tough Love says, “what is kind.” What I mean by that is, what is kind to the staff, to the doctors, to management and to the individual. And I'm not sure that we've been kind to the staff, the doctors, the clients. I think we've been very kind to the person who's struggling with personal problems. I'm not convinced that we have been kind to the people who need to put up with this. And at some point we need to go back to balance and saying, “Where is the greatest total net kindness?” And it may very well be going on without this person. In fact, I think that's probably where we're going.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. The tough love bus has arrived. I would agree with that. Do you think that we should make a stop here on the bus and then [inaudible 00:23:59].

Andy Roark:
Let's gas up.

Andy Roark:
Let's gas up.

Stephanie Goss:
Because this is going to be action packed ride here to the end.

Andy Roark:
I can feel it coming. There's going to be a cookout. We're going to make crafts.

Stephanie Goss:
Andy's going to sing the camp song for us.

Andy Roark:
We are. We're all going.

Stephanie Goss:
We're rolling on to Camp Tough Love.

Andy Roark:
That's exactly it. I'm going to frantically write the tough love camp song.

Stephanie Goss:
Let's take a break so you can do that.

Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss, you got a second to talk about Guardian Vets.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed, because the phones never stop ringing. And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about Guardian Vets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and Guardian Vets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk, and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a God send.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well. Which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices, because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it. We've talked about Guardian Vets, a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with Guardian Vets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up at the front desk, check them out, it's GuardianVets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So go check it out. GuardianVets.com.

Andy Roark:
All right, we are back. We are back. We've taken a break, and I have frantically written the Camp Tough Love camp song.

Stephanie Goss:
Can't wait.

Andy Roark:
Which we can sing now at the end of the episode. I think we'll sing it at the end of the episode.

Stephanie Goss:
The end of the episode. Okay. Okay. I like it.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. All right.

Stephanie Goss:
So we've gassed up and we're ready to go. We've got to stop being the wonderful, kind-hearted veterinary community that we are, and stop looking at people like, “Oh, a pretty broken thing I can fix.”

Andy Roark:
I know. And I say that in all jest, but the truth is that we are a kind-hearted community.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And we're going to be a kind-hearted community. So I took my daughter. I think I told you, I said, I think on the last episode I talked about-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
-taking my daughter to the clinic and everything died when she was there.

Stephanie Goss:
Poor kid.

Andy Roark:
I spoke to my father who's a retired surgeon, because he asked me about it, and I said, “I took Jacqueline, and everything died. And I worry that she's going to be a bit too kind-hearted for this job.” And my dad said, “I've seen a lot of physicians trained over the years.” And he said, “It's always been my impression that you can teach people to be professional, but you can't teach them to be kind.” And so-

Stephanie Goss:
True story.

Andy Roark:
-hire a kind person and teach them to be professional because you can't train a professional person to be kind necessarily.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Andy Roark:
And I thought a lot about that, and I think there's truth to it. I think that veterinarians are a big-hearted people and our culture is big-hearted.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I think that we can still be big-hearted and we can learn some professional boundaries to take care of ourselves. For me, it helps to believe not that I'm not being kind. It helps me to recognize that I am being more kind to the whole group by taking care of the rest of the staff and the clients-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
-and our team as a whole. And so I don't believe in withholding kindness. I believe in looking at what course takes the greatest kindness. And sometimes the most kind thing you can do for the group, feels unkind to an individual. But ultimately those are the choices we have to make as leaders.

Stephanie Goss:
Because the job's about balance.

Andy Roark:
Right.

Stephanie Goss:
I agree with you. So for me, our action plan starts with kindness actually, which is, look, we care about these people. So the first thing that we have to do when we have someone who is having challenges on a personal level that are impacting their work, is that we have to, we have to provide kindness and distance. So the first step of this is we have to connect them with resources. So I feel like sometimes you and I feel like broken records, but there has to be an employee assistance program in place. There has to be some sort of resources, whether you employ a local therapist to provide services to your team, whether you use an actual employee assistance program, there has to be the ability for your team to have access to resources.

Stephanie Goss:
Because your job, as the practice leader, if you don't work at a big corporation that has an actual HR department, your job as HR is to remove as many of the stressors and barriers as possible for your team when they're at work. And this is not about flaking out, is not about not holding them accountable. This is about building trust and following through with them and asking them things like, “Is there anything that you need? Is there anything that I can do as your boss to help you feel your best and do your best at work? What can I do for you on a personal level that is going to help support you here at work?”

Stephanie Goss:
Because the second piece of that is do not be a therapist. It is not your job. Remove yourself from that situation. You want to be aware. You want to be kind, you want to be brief. And most of us forget that third part. Most of us lean too much into the kindness and too much into the awareness. And we know far more, detail-wise about our team's personal lives than we should. And this is where I want to ask them that question. I want to ask, “I there anything that I can do?” I want to ask, “What's going on? How are you doing? I'm concerned about you. I've noticed some changes, and I'm worried. What's happening?” And then you want to keep that period where they share with you brief. And so that's where a lot of us struggle, because a lot of the times we spend more time with our team at work than often we do at home with our families.

Stephanie Goss:
And so when somebody on my team that I've worked with for an extended period of time, that I care about starts pouring out their heart. It is really hard for me to pump the brakes and hit the brakes at the stop sign and say, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, okay. I want to hear all this. I want to support you. But I can't.” That is a really hard move for most of us to make. And so too often, we lean away from the brevity here, and we lean into letting them spill out on us. And the best thing that we can do is say, “This sounds like a lot, and I want to support you. And the best way for me to support you is to get you some professional resources. So let's talk about what I can do. Can I provide you with therapy services? Can I refer you to an EAP? Can I refer you to an attorney?” If they're having challenges on their personal life and they need legal. What are those resources? Because it's not your job to be their therapist. And that's where the kind-hearted, loving, amazingly wonderful community that we are. That's where bites us in the every time.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Yeah. I agree with that. Well here's the truth about boundaries. Often, maybe even most of the time, setting boundaries is not about saying no. It's about clearly describing what you're willing to say yes to.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And those are different things.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
When a client needs handholding, which some clients really do. I want that client to feel like they have access to me within the boundaries that we have set out. Meaning you can leave messages and I'll respond to you. I've introduced you to my technician who is a wonderful point of contact and who will be in touch with me and can answer your questions. And she's here on the days that I'm not here. And I will call you first thing when I get back in. Things like that. I don't say no, I'm sorry. I'm not available after 6:00 PM. And you can't call me on the weekends. I tell you when I can talk to you.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
The same thing is true here. I don't want to say, “Look, stop. I don't want to be involved in your personal life.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
Or I'm not able to help you in your personal life. I want you to get help in your personal life. And I want to be supportive of you, and here is how I can do that.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And I put them into our better help program, into our EAP, into whatever. Here are the resources that we have. And then I can give them those resources, but I'm not trying to be those resources. That's just boundary setting. And I think a lot of us need to do that and set those boundaries when it comes to our employees personal lives.

Andy Roark:
And again, for the Uncharted team, we have Better Help as part of our employment package. And it's just something that we do. And it's because I want people to use it when they need it. It's something that's there that I believe in. And it's because I care. And also, because I'm not a therapist and I want to be supportive, but at the same time, I don't want to be involved in these types of personal issues as our team continues to grow, it's just not feasible and possible.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And so a lot of this is in order to have boundaries, you have to have alternate routes to support people.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I really think that's the trick that people miss. You need to be able to say, “Here's what I can do for you.” And then you need to give it to them. And then you need to be ready to move on, because you said, “This is the outlet for support for your stuff. And now let's talk about getting back on track with the caseload that we have.” And not that abruptly, but you get my point. As far as, at some point, I'm going to provide you with the resources to do with as you will, and I want you to use them and I'll encourage you to use them, but beyond that, again, this is not my job when it comes to balancing someone's personal life. And I don't want it to be my job.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think this is where the wheels fall off for a lot of people, because we get sucked into the empathy and the compassion that our field possesses in spades. And we see people on our team hurting, and we hear pieces, whether we're hearing it directly from the person or from the team. We have empathy, and we have kindness, and we care, and we want to help support them.

Stephanie Goss:
And the second piece of this. Can't just be, here's some resources get some help, right? This is where too many of us, myself, I've made this mistake repeatedly. I'm right there with you. And we have to learn how to overcome this, and it is very hard. I'm going to be totally honest with you guys, is one of the hardest lessons that I had to learn as a manager, but one of the most important, which is you have to continue driving the bus forward.

Stephanie Goss:
You have to connect them with the resources. There has to be the conversation about how you can support them. And then you have to continue rolling forward because you have to make it clear to them that what is going on at work is the work. And so you can talk about it in the lens of behaviors and specifics that are attached to their personal life that are impacting their work, but you could not make it about their personal life. So for what I mean by that, for example, is if I have someone who this person is struggling and they're consistently late, and they cannot get there on time, it is absolutely okay for me to tell them, “I cannot have someone on the team who is consistently late this frequently. I understand that there are circumstances that may totally be outside of your control on your personal life side that is impacting that. This is a boundary for the team as a whole.” This is where you lean into that balance part. And you have to have the accountability and the follow-up conversation.

Stephanie Goss:
And that's where a lot of us shy away, because we don't like conflict. We lean in too much to the compassion and the empathy and the kindness. And we forget that we have to keep the wheels rolling, and we have to address. This is where Camp Tough Love. We have to have the conversation.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And we have to talk about how do we hold them accountable? And look, the reality is, from an HR perspective, sometimes this was the case for me on a personal level. Since you and I have worked together, went through a period of time where had some things happening in my personal life that were hugely impactful to me. And it impacted my ability to show up at work with a clear head, dramatically. But one of the kindest things that you did as a boss was to say to me, “I need you to focus on these things that have to do with work, and I'm going to support you. And I am here for you.” You did all of the things to make me feel good on a personal level.

Stephanie Goss:
And sometimes the kindest thing that we can do for that person is asking them, “Hey, this is what I need from you when you're here.” Be really, really clear about what you need and how you need it and asking them to focus. For me, that was a lifeline that work was the only place at that point in time in my life where I felt like I had any measure of control. And so being asked to focus and be intentional about what I was doing was very much a positive thing and a lifeline for me to be able to say, “Here is an outlet. Here is a place where I know what is expected of me. I know what the rules are. I know what the guardrails are.” And it was a very, very positive thing.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think too often as leaders, a lot of us don't go there and don't lean into that, because we're afraid that we're going to add more stress and more pressure to them by saying, “I need you to focus. This is what I need when you're at work. This is the job, and I need you to do it.” And the reality is that a lot of times when people are going through high stress situations, they as humans, it is in our nature to lean into what are the things that we can control.

Stephanie Goss:
And for a lot of people, especially as unpredictable as veterinary medicine is, and as much as we don't know what is going to walk in the door every day, there is great predictability in the work that we do. And just focusing on the next patient that is in front of us and those tasks over and over again. And so that is where I think we have to lean into that, and we have to do our jobs, and make it clear to them that what is happening here at work is about work. It's not about your personal life, can impact, the personal life can certainly have an impact. And you can talk specifically about that if you give them specific, clear, concrete examples, like the last two weeks you've been 15 minutes late every single day. And I've had to start my rooms by myself. And then this impacts the rest of the team and the rest of the schedule in this way. That's a perfectly acceptable way to lay it out for them, because it may be something in their personal life that is impacting that. But it's not about them as a person. It's not about the situation with their life. It's about what is happening here in this building at work.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Well, thanks for saying that. I really think that, and we use the metaphor a lot where your job is a relationship, in my mind.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And so the manager, employee relationship, I think having clear expectations in a relationship is really important. And I think both people should be able to say to each other, “This is what I need.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
“This is what I need in this relationship.” And that goes both ways. The employees should be to say, “This is what I need. I need a known job schedule, like a known work schedule. And I need reliable compensation. And I need to be able to see myself advancing in the future.” Whatever their needs are.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Andy Roark:
They should be able to say that and the employers should be able to hear what their needs are. And so it's the same thing here. When we have this employee, our writer, “What are your needs?” And you need to be able to communicate them. And what bothers me a little bit about this and why I say were going to Camp Tough Love is what is required to be on this team.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
To me it doesn't sound like anything. It's like, you can't show up. That's okay, we'll change the schedule. You make mistakes. It's okay, we'll have somebody check your work. Bad attitude. It's all right. We'll just take you off the phones. There is no requirement to be on the team from what I can tell from this brief writing.

Stephanie Goss:
[inaudible 00:41:15] it hurts.

Andy Roark:
It is exactly right. And it's because of they are so kind and wonderful and their caring. You have got to decide what it means to be on your team.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And then you have to look at the person in the eyes and say, “I understand you're struggling. I want to support you. And here are some options that we have to support you through work.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
When you're here at work, these are the things that I need.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
This is what I need.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And it's non-negotiable.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And the big thing that I kind of come back to on this is the writer says, “It's really hard to find people.” And that's a real challenge. And they say, “That would be a hardship, letting this person go.” But let me ask you, “What is the hardship of keeping this person? How are other people being impacted by this person continuing to be on your team?” I promise you, there is an impact that is actively happening right now, in that regard. I'm not convinced that what's happening now is better than if that person was not there.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Because think about it. You're so spot on. What is the impact of letting this one person go? That's what we focus on. I would challenge all of you to think about what would be the impact if two more of your team left, because they couldn't deal with it anymore.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Now you're not short one person. Now you're short two people, and you still have all of the problems that come along with this person. And so this is where, what is kind, is so important. And what we talked about before that, which is your job is balance. It is your job as the leader to think about, how do I balance these things out? And sometimes the kindest thing and the most balanced thing is to take care of the team as the whole.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And look at the expectations for the team as a whole and say, “Hey, it's time to call a spade, a spade. The other five members of this team, or 10 members of this team, or whatever are working together. And we're not having these problems. There is a common denominator here.” And the kindness is to say, “These are the standards. These are the things that you are not doing. These are the expectations I have. These are the ones that are not being met.” Here's how, here's why, giving concrete examples, and then having the conversation with them about like, “Look, you're not measured at work by your personal life. I don't care about your personal life. There is no judgment from me. There is no impact from our perspective of your personal life, except for you have got to be able to do the work. And if there are things that are impacting you, that are keeping you from doing the work, that is what I need to know, because I need to help you make a decision. And the decision may be that this is not the right time and the right place for you.”

Stephanie Goss:
And so often that's the giant elephant in the room-

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
-that nobody wants to say. And I get asked that question a lot because one of the things that I am not a kind of person who brags. Andy will attest to this.

Andy Roark:
That's true. Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
I hate the attention. I blush profusely. If you ask me to tell you things that I do well, and I'm tomato red, as I'm about to say this, but one of the things that I have always done really well in my personal life and in my professional life is be kind. And I have had the ability to navigate those hard conversations and have repeatedly had conversations with team members where I have looked at them and said, “Because I care about you, I think, and we could discuss this, but I think the best thing for you is not here.”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
This place, this job, the role, the environment, whatever it is, is not a fit for you right now. And I want to help you be in a better place.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Because right here, right now, that is not happening. And I have had that conversation and have had the tears and even sometimes the unexpected anger or other emotional response that comes from recognizing that, and working through that. And I also will say that the reason that I feel good about it and know that it is something that I do really well is because I have managed to retain relationships with the majority of those people that I have had conversations with. And in fact have had some of them come back to me and say to me afterwards, “At that time, I was pissed. I hated you. I was so angry. And looking back now, with the perspective that I have, it was the right decision. And I appreciated you being honest enough to say look, this is something we should talk about because you're really struggling here. And I don't want to see you struggle, because I care about you as a person.”

Stephanie Goss:
That is the hardest thing to do. And I get asked a lot, “How do you do that?” And I will tell you guys, “There's no magic bullet. There's no recipe. I'm not more innately good at it than anyone else. It just comes from practice and leaning into the…” It is uncomfortable. It is so uncomfortable. My palms still sweat every time I have to have one of those conversations.

Stephanie Goss:
And this is where we're sitting in front of the campfire at Camp Tough Love, because the reality is it's never going to get easier. It's never going to be easy. It doesn't mean that you can avoid it. Because you can't. And I will tell you that if you do bury your head in the sand and you avoid it and you keep… And bless their hearts, for this practice owner who has tried all of these things and I'm just like, man, you have hung in there for so long. And for a lot of people, they're like, I feel like I'm giving up on this person. And it is not about giving up.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It is about being kind and being supportive of them, even if that means that the best place for them is not on your team.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Because the kindest thing is to take care of the rest of your team.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It's the sunk cost fallacy. It's like, we've worked so hard to keep this person here for so long. If we go now, it'll all be lost. And we go, look, if this person walked in the door right now and asked you to hire him, would you do it? The answer is, “Hell no.” The other question… Yeah. It's trivia night at Camp Tough Love.

Stephanie Goss:
Hell no.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It's trivia night at Camp Tough Love. Would you rehire this person right now, today? No. How would you feel if you were on a team where there was a person who no matter what drama they brought was never let go. They were just moved around and schedule changed and protected again and again, and again. Would you want to be on a team where that was how things worked? The answer is no. High performing teams want to have high performing people.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And at some point they want to believe that people get cut if they don't perform. Because I don't want to be on a team where you cannot be a big enough distraction that you get removed from our team. No matter what, we'll keep you here. I go, “Ugh. That sounds like a lifetime of headaches for me.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
As the person who is really conscious about getting their work done. And so anyway, I get back to balance for the last time. That's all I got. Have you got anything else?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. No. For me, where we end is our practice owner asks how do I make this person an employee that doesn't lose us money and keep them employed. And I would say that this whole episode has been soap boxed by you and I saying that 99% of the time, the answer is you can't.

Andy Roark:
You don't have the power.

Stephanie Goss:
You don't have power [inaudible 00:48:50]. It's not in your control. And I will also tell you that as a manager, I have had the tough love conversation, and people can change. And sometimes it is being kind and being open and honest about the impact that someone's behaviors are having on work and focusing truly on what is in their control and what is in your control about the work environment. Sometimes having that conversation is enough and the person can actually change. And so I won't say that this person can't become that employee, but what I will say is you can't make that happen.

Andy Roark:
Correct.

Stephanie Goss:
Your job is to make the conversation happen and then have an actual action plan and a timeline for what that change has to look like. And it cannot be another five years, another 10 years. We're talking about have the conversation-

Andy Roark:
30 days.

Stephanie Goss:
30 days. And if you make the 30 day mark, what does the next 30 days look like? I've been in recovery for a long time. You take it one day at a time. And when you get through that day, it's the next day. And it's the same kind of thing with someone who has long-term challenges like this, you have got to set clear expectations and a short time period and then make a plan for what does the next follow up look like. And so I think it's not all without hope. I think you can change. You can help the environment change for this person. And so I would say to our writer, if you have not had that very clear, very kind, what can I do to support you because here are the expectations. And if you cannot start meeting those expectations, we are going to have to talk about change. If you have not had that conversation, I would 100% have that conversation.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
But you cannot control whether you can keep them employed. That is within their control.

Andy Roark:
100 percent. You cannot fix their personal life. Nope. Nope. Can't. Nope. Don't. Let it go. All you can do. If you really want to keep this person and you want to fight to the end, you can go to this person as Stephanie said, and you can tell them what you need for them to continue to be part of the team. And you can mean it, and you can give them 30 days to get on board, and there has to be a radical change. And then that will have to continue.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And if we start slipping back into this, we are going to have to end this relationship. It can't be a quick correction and then back. There needs to be a 30 day, a 60 day, and a 90 day check in to see where we are, and you're going to have to be serious about, “Hey, look, I like you. I want you to be here. This is what I need from you. You either going to have to step up and get focused and deliver when you're here at work, or you're going to need to go somewhere else because we can't continue to carry you here.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And that doesn't mean I don't like you. I do like you, and I want you to be here, but you are going to have to want to change and you're going to have to make that change.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And so we got to do that. And with that friends, it's time to sing our Camp Tough Love song. Our camp song. Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
Let's do it.

Andy Roark:
Well, it's Camp Tough Love, like drinking dish suds. See the creation of a termination. Get ready for a safe talk. You might need a stress walk. That's what we do at Camp Tough Love.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. Yeah. That was amazing.

Andy Roark:
Thank you.

Stephanie Goss:
You're getting a standing ovation from all of the listeners. That was-

Andy Roark:
That's right.

Stephanie Goss:
-amazing.

Andy Roark:
Thank you. It was. We had literally 45 seconds during our break and that's what I got.

Stephanie Goss:
I love it so much. Kelsey Beth Carpenter needs to make our musical dreams come true with that one.

Andy Roark:
I honestly had that thought as well. I was like what if we got Kelsey to do this, and then we would just drop it into episodes.

Stephanie Goss:
That would be amazing.

Andy Roark:
And now it's time to go to Camp Tough Love. And then the song comes on. Oh my God.

Stephanie Goss:
This is the beginning of something magical on the Uncharted podcast.

Andy Roark:
If only we had access to Kelsey Beth Carpenter and a recording budget that would allow for such ridiculousness.

Stephanie Goss:
If only.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. If only.

Stephanie Goss:
If only.

Andy Roark:
All right.

Stephanie Goss:
Have a wonderful week, friend.

Andy Roark:
See you guys.

Stephanie Goss:
We'll see you again at Camp Tough Love. I am sure.

Andy Roark:
That's right. Al, you old people, get out of the way. Move down the beach. You can't sit in front of Camp Tough Love.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, gang, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. And as always, this was so fun to dive into the mailbag and answer this question. And I would really love to see more things like this. Come through the mailbag. If there is something that you would love to have us talk about on the podcast or a question that you are hoping that we might be able to help with, feel free to reach out and send us a message. You can always find the mail bag at the website. The address is unchartedvet.com/mailbag. Or you can email us at podcast@unchartedvet.com. Take care of everybody, and have a great week. We'll see you again next time.

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Jul 20 2022

Cyber Bullying and What it Means to be Cancelled

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

If you are in veterinary medicine, you've heard conversations about cyberbullying. Ranging from clinics getting beat up in local social media groups to experiences like the recent one the team from Maine Veterinary Medical Center had to navigate, veterinary medicine is seeing the impact of words from keyboard warriors. Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie Goss were talking through some of their thoughts on cyberbullying, cancel culture, and the impact of negative words from the public on the team. Let’s get into this…

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Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody. I am Stephanie Goss. And this is another episode of The Uncharted Podcast. This week's episode is a little bit of a heavy one.

Stephanie Goss:
Andy and I are talking about cyberbullying and what it means to be canceled these days. And we are going to talk specifically about a case that has taken both mainstream media and the attention of the veterinary medicine community recently.

Stephanie Goss:
We are going to talk about the main hospital that was recently involved in an infamous case of cyber bullying. But if you want to hear more information and get the inside scoop on that story, head on over to The Cone of Shame Podcast. The July 7th episode has all of the details.

Stephanie Goss:
We'll drop a link below in the show notes because Andy had the opportunity to talk to the doctor involved in that case and their marketing media manager, as well about how their team dealt with the situation both during and after.

Stephanie Goss:
But what Andy and I wanted to talk about today is the idea of what it means to be canceled in veterinary medicine. This is something that is near and dear to my heart as a manager.

Stephanie Goss:
Because I think it's something that we don't talk about enough and we need to start talking about it more and make our teams aware of things that are happening when it comes to cyber bullying and the comment section that has taken over the world.

Stephanie Goss:
But also is near and dear to Andy, as someone who lives his life very publicly on social media, and who has experienced the ugliness in the backlash that can come with being online.

Stephanie Goss:
And so we are going to talk about what do we do? What does it mean? What does cancel culture mean? What do we do when our clinics are involved in situations of cyber bullying? Varying degrees.

Stephanie Goss:
And while it was a very heavy one, this was a really good episode and we really enjoyed talking about this and I hope you enjoy it as well. So let's get into it, shall we?

Meg Pearson:
And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and Stephanie burn it all down Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
That's so appropriate. How's it going, Andy?

Andy Roark:
It's good. Life is good. Yeah. We're in the thick of the summer here.

Stephanie Goss:
Is it swelteringly hot over there?

Andy Roark:
It's pretty brutal. Yeah. It's pretty brutal. Been some good swimming pool sitting weather but overall it's pretty brutal.

Andy Roark:
It's been a busy time at the clinic. I took my oldest daughter with me a couple days ago. She wants to be a vet, she thinks. And so she went in and everything died.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, no.

Andy Roark:
It's when you bring your kid to work. And there was literally a crashing kitten. There was a one week old puppy that was DOA. There was a transfusion cat. Not all of them were mine.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. But just that kind of day.

Andy Roark:
But more than one of them was mine. Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It's so hard.

Andy Roark:
We just drove home in silence. And then we were pulling into the driveway and we pulled into the garage and I stopped and she just sat there that she said, “Does that happen a lot?” I was like-

Stephanie Goss:
Poor kid.

Andy Roark:
“Not to that degree. Not to that degree, but it does happen.”

Stephanie Goss:
Poor kid.

Andy Roark:
So her mother asked her, “Do you still want to be a veterinarian?” She was like, “Oh yeah, oh yeah, I do.” So she wasn't totally turned off so that's good. It was bring your kid to death day.

Stephanie Goss:
That's so hard. You think about going to work with your parents, this exciting thing and you're discovering what it's like to be a grown up, and then that was a reality check.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It's okay.

Stephanie Goss:
That was some serious adulting there.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. We made it though. How about you?

Stephanie Goss:
It's good. It's really good. It's the middle of the summer crazy. So lots of travel is happening and camps and all of the things. So it's crazy busy, but it is really good.

Stephanie Goss:
We're working on lots of fun stuff that is coming from Uncharted and there's lots of stuff happening behind the scenes and our team has been growing.

Stephanie Goss:
And so things are good. It's busy. I'm not going to lie, I am ready for some summer weather. Summer here in Western Washington generally starts right about this time, so we're recording this just after 4th of July.

Stephanie Goss:
And the summer starts the 5th of July and the first two days of summer have been very disappointing. It has been overcast and gross.

Stephanie Goss:
And I'm like, “For the love of all that is holy. Can I please just have some sunshine?” Because this year weather wise has been awful, but it's good.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Good. That's awesome. We got big stuff coming from Uncharted in the back half of the year. And we just finished up the first launch period for the Dr. Andy Roark Exam Room Communication Toolbox online on demand course. And we hit and exceeded all our sales goals, which were legit. So yeah, super happy with that. Doing good stuff.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I'm excited to hear how it's going for people in their clinics. We've had a lot of people who have gotten the course and we're starting to hear the feedback and the follow up, and I'm super excited to see how that is going.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I think there's a lot of people who are looking at it for the fall to to start doing some exam room training and stuff with it then.

Andy Roark:
And so I learned with the angry client course that we have that people get it and then they just use it along and along, which is why I made it so modular this time, just to really make it easy to break up and use.

Andy Roark:
But I suspect we'll be getting feedback on the course for the next year or two as people use it in different ways and I'm going to keep updating it and adding new stuff and replacing stuff if I feel like it ever feels outdated, it needs to be freshened up. So anyway, that's the plan.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think one of the things that's great about it is that right now it's a great time to have something that is asynchronous, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Because everybody's shorthanded, everybody's super overwhelmed. And I have actually been talking to a bunch of vet friends from outside Uncharted this last week, just catching up with people, because the kids are gone and I actually can have a phone conversation without getting interrupted. It's amazing how that works.

Stephanie Goss:
But I've been talking to people and they're just like, “I'm training four new people at once.” One of my friends was like, “We literally have eight new people who have started in the last 30 days and it's chaos.”

Stephanie Goss:
And so we were talking about how nice it is to have a plan and a structure that allows you to be like, “Okay, today is one of those days where I literally cannot with you, and don't take it personal, but I cannot. I need to focus on our patients or our clients or whatever. But here's some learning, here's a actual structure.”

Stephanie Goss:
And so to be able to use it, asynchronously is super, super awesome. And I am really looking forward to diving into, we've got the Get Shit Done conferences coming up in October, and we're totally talking about how do we get shit done shorthanded because everybody's shorthanded right now.

Stephanie Goss:
And we have to start to think outside the box and think about how do we redo some of the stuff that we've done the same way for a really long time because what we've always done is not working.

Stephanie Goss:
And so I'm super excited to get together with everybody and have some really good conversation about how do we solve some of these challenges.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. You don't need to be an Uncharted member to come to that either. So we try to make it really accessible. But yeah, it's virtual, everybody can jump in.

Andy Roark:
But yeah, we've got a ton of stuff coming out the back half of this year. And then next year is going to be the year of Uncharted I think. It's looking pretty incredible in a lot of ways.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. We're going to have some fun. This episode, I don't know how fun this episode's going to be, but I think it's a really timely one and I think it's something really, really important to talk about. So you just recently, I think the episode dropped this week, right? Today.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. July the seventh is the day that we're recording this. It's the Cone of Shame episode. I got to interview the lead doctor. She's an emergency critical care specialist and the communications manager for Rarebreed Vet clinics.

Andy Roark:
Their hospital was the hospital in Maine, and I'm intentionally not giving a ton of details, because I don't want to stir things back up for them.

Andy Roark:
But they were that hospital in Maine that the world watched recently as they got really absolutely trashed online.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And I think they got a lot of attention in the vet world because I don't know that they did anything really quote unquote wrong.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And I think that's why so many people paid attention. I think it was a very scary and upsetting case for a lot of people because I think most of us could see ourselves being this practice.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
That really got torched. And so for those people who don't know the story, there was a hospital, it was emergency hospital and they had people come in-

Stephanie Goss:
They should go listen to the episode, right?

Andy Roark:
Oh yeah. Well, yeah. You can hear in detail. If you want to hear it all Cone of Shame veterinary podcast is the other podcast I do.

Andy Roark:
The July 7th episode is called something like what does it mean when your vet clinic is canceled? And they share their stor. And so you can absolutely get all the details there.

Andy Roark:
The gist of the story was that they had a very, very, very sick patient that needed a major surgery, $10,000 plus surgery to save this young patient and the owner did not have the finances to do that, which is terrible.

Andy Roark:
After a lot of discussion, the owners said, “Is there someone else that would take this dog and pay for the surgery? And I would give them the dog.”

Andy Roark:
And the clinic found a group, found a rescue group that would pay for the surgery.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And take the pet. And then after it happened, the owner was a bit confused about what happened or they had a lot of emotions-

Stephanie Goss:
Second thoughts.

Andy Roark:
Second thoughts. And exactly. I'm not trying to determine what their thoughts were. I think it would be a horrible experience for anyone to go through.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
But anyway, they ended up on the local news, which was picked up by national news, and also they was on the first page of Reddit, which is a huge internet site.

Andy Roark:
And anyway, literally thousands of angry phone calls came into the vet clinic in one day. Yeah. And they had to shut the phones down and death threats and a police presence was required and it was just this absolutely horrible thing.

Andy Roark:
And so anyway, that's the basic story of what happened there.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. So today, you and I aren't necessarily going to talk specifically about them, but in talking about this case and in you doing the Cone of Shame episode with them, you and I were talking back and forth about cancel culture in general and cyber bullying.

Stephanie Goss:
And you and I both said we can totally empathize here because it's so easy to imagine our own clinics in their shoes, right? And we were talking about the context of that feeling you get when you get a crappy review or your name gets dragged through the mud in local Facebook groups.

Stephanie Goss:
You certainly have dealt with the online trolls and commentary through the Dr. Andy Roark site over the years, right? I think all of us immediately felt this empathy towards this clinic.

Stephanie Goss:
Because we looked at it, I know I looked at it as a manager, and was like, “They did so many things right and they were smart.”

Stephanie Goss:
And yet they're still in the middle of this and it was heartbreaking. And like you said, I think that's why so many of us in veterinary medicine looked at this and went, “What the heck and how do we change this? How do we stop this?”

Andy Roark:
They had documentation of everything. They had legal documentation. They had signed contracts. None of this was fly by night.

Andy Roark:
It was all stuff that they had clearly set up to be able to make things like this happen. And they still ended up dealing with a lot of over the top reactions and a lot of hate.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And one of my personality traits is when things like this happen, I tend to look at it and go, “Well, can we learn from this?”

Andy Roark:
And I feel like there's got to be something that the rest of us can take away because I'll be honest, I don't think this is going away.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
I think this is probably becoming more common, at least in the short term. I hate it. Veterinary practices make good villains. It's very easy to whip people up into an emotional frenzy.

Andy Roark:
Everybody hates a hypocrite, they hate a hypocrite. And the other thing is, everybody wants a simple story. And there's a lot of of narratives in politics where there's a very simple story that you go, “That doesn't makes sense.”

Andy Roark:
It's like, doesn't matter if it doesn't make sense, it's simple. And people can recite it and they understand it. And so the narrative that the greedy vet clinic took advantage of the powerless pet owner, it hits emotional chords with people.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And they react strongly to it. And that's what social media runs on, is strong, emotional reaction.

Andy Roark:
And when I say vet vets and vet clinics make good villains, I mean that from a psychological standpoint and from an algorithm response standpoint.

Andy Roark:
We are in a position where we can be made targets because of the trust the public has in us, because of the reputation we have as advocate for pets.

Andy Roark:
People can tell a story that paints us as hypocrites, as people pretending to care when we don't and that gets an emotional reaction pretty regularly.

Andy Roark:
I don't think this is going away and I hate to say it, but I think it's going to be part of our profession. And that's why I think it's something we should start to talk just pragmatically about.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. Think about how many of us have had the conversation with our front desk teams when you have the client on the phone or in the building who has pulled the emotional blackmail card and said, “If you really cared about animals, you would help my pet.”

Stephanie Goss:
It's that same feeling and response, I think. Let's be real, veterinary medicine was very slow to get online and to get involved in social media.

Stephanie Goss:
And so for so many of us, it was that personal experience, right? Or it was somebody at the dog park who was telling everybody at the dog park about their crappy experience, but it was small and it was local for so many of us for so long.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think now cases like this and things that we are starting to see on repeat have really made it feel more personal for a lot of us.

Stephanie Goss:
And also it's that gut feeling of like, “Oh, this could happen to my clinic.” You hear about it and it happens to other people, it happens in other places. You don't think about yourself being in their shoes.

Stephanie Goss:
And now I feel like it has happened repeatedly enough. And there have been more cases like this, where the ducks actually were in a row.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And the right things were done and the team still was just massacred over it. And so I think it has become something that is absolutely something that we need to talk about.

Stephanie Goss:
And more than just talking about it, I think every one of us has to think about how do we handle it? Because yeah, it may not be us today, but we need to be able to be ready if it is us.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Oh, I agree. And it's funny when I was talking to the vet clinic that went through it. I said, “This really spoke to me.” Because it was only a month or two ago, I had a puppy that came in that had a broken leg and the owner did not have the funds to pay for the animals broken leg.

Andy Roark:
And I didn't know what I was going to do because this is a one year old happy dog other than the fact its leg is broken but it's a hard orthopedic procedure.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And they don't have it. And it's everybody on a fixed income. And she made it easy on me because she said, “Hey,” and this is awful to here, but she said, I'm glad she was honest. She said, “Hey, this dog was a gift to me. And I don't have the energy to take care of it. I didn't ask for a dog. If there's someone else who would take this dog, then I would 100% percent surrender it.”

Andy Roark:
And I like many other vets knew someone else who would take the dog. It was not one of our staff members. It was nothing like that and you and I can talk about that stuff in a bit.

Andy Roark:
But anyway, I had somebody who would pay for the surgery and do the thing. And so we did it and I just look and say, “I'm not going to crap on the emergency hospital for what they did because I did the same thing.”

Andy Roark:
Because when you're there and they're like, “I can't afford it.” And you're like, “I don't want to put this animal to sleep if somebody else would be able to provide the service.”

Andy Roark:
And again, and I also get where the patent owners come from. There's a lot of nuance here. So let me frame this up a little bit and say the number one, real absolute burn down the building scenario that I see often involves people surrendering pets because they can't afford care.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And boy, that is a time honored tradition by veterinarians where you say, “Well, you can't afford it. Why don't you give us the dog, surrender it, and we'll either see what we can do or we'll get somebody else to pay for it,” and things like that.

Andy Roark:
And as a vet, I know that comes from a good place. I know it's not a secret thing of, “Oh, that's such a great dog. I want to have it.” That doesn't happen.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
But I also can understand how you're the pet owner and you say, “I love my pet. I cannot afford to pay for this service. You're willing to do the service and then give the dog away. Why don't you give it to me? Because I love it more than anyone else will love it.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And I see that a lot. I see that especially a lot when there's not someone who's like, “I will pick up the bill.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
But anyway, there's a lot of weird things like that in the way that we have traditionally done these types of cases. I think it's getting worse because guys, we didn't used to do $10,000 surgeries.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
That just didn't happen. And so that's not a thing that existed in the past. So that ratchets up the stakes. And now we've got these procedures that people really struggle to pay for.

Andy Roark:
And then the other part was we didn't have social media where someone would be angry and go out and share their story and elicit emotional reactions, warranted or not, from other people. That just didn't happen.

Andy Roark:
And so now we've really seen, even though we've done this for a long time, the repercussions now, and probably the frequency with what you're doing, is very different. And so I think that's really put us in a tough place.

Andy Roark:
The other one is just this simple, my pet died. And there are circumstances we've all seen where those things come out with one side of the story being told online. And it can be a horrible experience for the vet clinic.

Stephanie Goss:
So let's start like we do from the head space perspective and then I think you and I have some things we want to talk about specifically in terms of how do we handle this?

Stephanie Goss:
I don't think you can avoid it, right? We are not solely in control because it involves clients, right? It involves people outside of our control.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
But how do we mitigate the impact for the team certainly, and for the clinic? But from a head space perspective, where do we start with this?

Andy Roark:
So I thought a lot about this, because I was like, “What's the takeaway from what we've seen and when we see clinics just getting burned online and things like that? And their reputation is really just taking a beating.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I think the first thing is, and I could speak from personal experience, as someone who has been torched and pitch forked online many times for different things.

Andy Roark:
It feels awful. It's easy to look at other clinics and you haven't gone through it, and you're like, “Oh, well, it's just a bunch of people online.”

Andy Roark:
It feels like your reputation is being destroyed. Everything that you've built is being torn down. If you are the doctor that is being named here, you feel like no one's ever going to trust you again to do your work and that all of the good you've done in the past doesn't count for anything.

Andy Roark:
And I can tell you that is a horrible, emotional experience, but I have found that to be the most common path for most of us who are going through this and so just know this feels awful.

Andy Roark:
It taps into this caveman part of our brain, right? The tribal status part of our brain where we are these tribal community building people, right? And being shunned from the fire circle is to die in our caveman mind.

Andy Roark:
And when we see our reputation being torn down, we are being publicly shamed by the tribe. It presses emotional buttons in us that are real hardwired and that are ancient.

Andy Roark:
And boy, it gets a response that's really hard to imagine if you haven't been through it. Those are the big opening validation things is just know if this happens, it's going to be awful.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, and I think you and I talk a lot about head space obviously on the podcast. And one of the things when it comes to dealing with a lot of other situations that we have talked about repeatedly is the idea of we can't take it personal.

Stephanie Goss:
And this, I think maybe more than anything else we've talked about, it almost feels when it's you, when it's your clinic, when it's your medicine as a doctor or a paraprofessional staff, or when you're getting ripped by a client for the way you treated them from a customer service perspective, I felt like it was impossible to not take it personal, right?

Stephanie Goss:
And I know rationally in my head that there is a person on the other end of this. There's a pet owner who is emotional, who loves their pet, who cares, who is hurt.

Stephanie Goss:
And I know that rationally hurt people hurt people, right? We've talked about that before. And yet more than anything else, this is a place where from a head space perspective, it is really, really hard.

Stephanie Goss:
And for me, being in the middle of it at one point in time with my clinic, it felt impossible to not take it personal.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And that's a really hard thing. We should acknowledge that. And rationally, I think a lot of us know in our brains, we should not take this personal because hurt people hurt people.

Stephanie Goss:
But knowing that and actually embracing it and breathing it and living it is really, really, really hard.

Andy Roark:
Well, this is why it's so much harder in situations like this. When there's an angry client and they call you and they talk to you and they say, “You are stupid.”

Andy Roark:
You go, “That's one person. And that's a hurt person.” The problem with stuff like this is you have what appears to be a thousand people all agreeing that you are stupid.

Andy Roark:
And so me saying, “Well, that's her opinion and she's an angry person.” That's much easier for me to keep that in proportion than, “A thousand people told me that I am terrible. How could a thousand people be wrong?”

Andy Roark:
There's so many of these people and they're all so angry and they're all talking about how horrible I am or about how horrible the clinic is.

Andy Roark:
And that's where, social media as we have it, it really drives this. Things to remember here with social media are a few people can sound like a ton of people.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And the first time I got into it with a group that did not like something that I had said, or not said, I ultimately ended up going back and finding it was six people.

Andy Roark:
But they used all the different platforms, they called on the phone, and then when one of them would post, the other ones would jump in and comment and tag other people.

Andy Roark:
But really there was six people who were all clearly well connected and they may have all been related. They could have been one person with six accounts. I don't know.

Andy Roark:
But man, it felt like a stampede when it was happening. But you're hearing all of these voices. And so social media is awful about making a couple of people seem like a ton.

Andy Roark:
It's also awful about making the most passionate voices seem like the most important and the loudest. And that is one of the things that I, as a beef, I really have a social media is people like it gets everyone a voice.

Andy Roark:
It disproportionately amplifies the angriest people. It makes small groups seem like big groups, especially fringe groups, and it amplifies misinformation and things that aren't true because those things get a lot of attention and they spread quickly.

Andy Roark:
And so it's not like just having a conversation. It is set up in a way that really is negative in its impact on people who are at the receiving end of this.

Andy Roark:
The last part about it is our own psychology too, is stepping back. And I talked about a caveman status and we've talked about negativity bias a ton of times.

Andy Roark:
We tend to remember the bad things that happen over the good things.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
We have a bias towards remembering what went wrong at the clinic instead of what went right. When it started off, and I said, “I took my daughter to the clinic and everything died.” Of course, that's not true.

Andy Roark:
There was actually a litter of, there-

Stephanie Goss:
There was puppies.

Andy Roark:
There was. There was a laundry basket full of puppies that came in and my daughter just melted and loved it.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And she talked about that as much as she talked about the other stuff. But I only like, “Oh, this was awful.”

Stephanie Goss:
Everybody died.

Andy Roark:
Everybody died. That's negativity bias. And I have it just like everybody else does. And so anyway, but of course that negativity bias it makes it so hard for us to remember the good things that we do. All the thank you's that we got.

Andy Roark:
It makes it really easy for us to remember, especially the hateful things that people say. And so all of these things just tee up on us.

Stephanie Goss:
It's so interesting because you're totally right about the few people look like a lot. I was reading an article this week written by a mother and she was presenting a side of parenting that is something that was not talked about a lot.

Stephanie Goss:
And the article really resonated with me in a huge way. And I was like, “Oh my God, it feels like somebody crawled inside my brain.”

Stephanie Goss:
So I very rarely go in the comment section because I know what the comment section is like, because of what we do for a living.

Andy Roark:
Oh, exactly.

Stephanie Goss:
So I very rarely travel and traverse the comment section, but I appreciated this article so much. I opened it up and I was pleasantly surprised because the first 20 comments were all from people like me who were just like, “Oh my God, thank you for sharing. We don't talk about this. I appreciate this.”

Stephanie Goss:
And then immediately I lasered in on the first horrible, horrible comment from someone who was like, “You're an awful person. You're a horrible parent. People like you shouldn't be allowed to have children.”

Stephanie Goss:
And then there was a whole litany of comments from other people who agreed with that person, right? And I remember thinking to myself, “If I was the writer, I would 100% have ignored all of these positive comments about how this resonated with so many people and I would've focused solely on that negative people ripping you apart.”

Stephanie Goss:
And your point was so good because after a while I looked back and I looked and I was like, “The good and the positive comments here actually really truly outweigh the negative.”

Stephanie Goss:
But I guarantee that for that person the negative was really hard to ignore because it was small, but it was so awful.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It was that same feeling. And as a clinic, every time something negative gets brought up in a community group or one star review, there are always those amazing, wonderful, Mrs. Jones clients who bring your team cookies and Christmas gifts and they immediately jump on and say all of the good, wonderful, positive things.

Stephanie Goss:
And yet our brains are just hardwired to dismiss that good, I think so much easier than we can let go of the negative. And it is hard. This is a hard head space one to overcome.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
I think because you have to be really intentional and it takes a lot of emotional work, which is hard. And so for a lot of us, it's like, “Oh, okay.”

Stephanie Goss:
It's easier to let that little negative voice start shouting and ranting in our heads and think, “Well, maybe I am a bad doctor. Maybe I did do something wrong. Maybe I should have offered to do the surgery for free.” Right? “Am I a horrible person?”

Stephanie Goss:
And it's really easy to let yourself slip into listening to that voice in the moment of like, “If I was a good person, maybe I would've done this.” Which is so negative. It's hard and it's crappy.

Andy Roark:
Well, of course. And the benefit of hindsight is great. So as I've been doing this for 15 years now online, and the number of people who will show up with hindsight and say, “Oh, well, you should have seen this.” Give me a break.

Andy Roark:
After you know how the story ends, you can totally go back and critique decisions that are made.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
All right. So I'm going to wrap up head space here with some positive head space.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
Because I want to validate the crappy sludge that people are going through when they get dragged into a local Facebook group, when they get beat up online, all those things.

Andy Roark:
All right. Now it's time to get our head into a place that is going to be good. Number one, note that this often is not fair. Life is not fair. This is not fair.

Andy Roark:
This is one side of the story that's being told publicly. And because of our professionalism, because of medical ethics, because of legality, we're often not able to tell our side of the story. We're generally not able to tell our side of the story.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And that is not fair, but it's real. So at least take heart in the fact that this is not fair and most of us know it's not fair.

Andy Roark:
Keyboard disassociation is real. People will say horrible things online that they would never say to a quote unquote, real person.

Stephanie Goss:
Right? Yes, yes.

Andy Roark:
There are a lot of people out there, I think who have a good heart, especially when it comes to animals. I think a lot of them often feel powerless and impotent to actually affect change for animals they care about.

Andy Roark:
And so when the opportunity to punish someone that they are told is a villain comes up, they do it with glee, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
There are people out there I swear who all they want to do is beat somebody up, but they don't want to be a bad person. So they wait for the opportunity to beat someone up and tell themselves that they're a hero for doing it.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And they jump on those opportunities. I think that you see those people, they're just brawlers online, but they only are bullies when it's justifiable.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And I don't like that. That is a subculture on the internet, but those people just lurk out there looking for something to do.

Andy Roark:
And the last part is, and this is the one that hurts me, this is the one that stings is when our colleagues, other veterinarians, vet techs, people who work in vet clinics, they will often come in and critique and they'll say, “Well, you should have done this or you should have done that.” And again, hindsight is 22.

Stephanie Goss:
Should is a dangerous word.

Andy Roark:
And you say well, “Why did they do that? When I'm getting beaten up online, when people are saying I'm terrible, when I'm getting a one star review and people are piling on, why would another person who doesn't know me, come in and say that?”

Andy Roark:
And the answer to that question, I believe is, we as colleagues, we want to believe those people made a mistake.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
Because that means that it won't happen to me because I wouldn't make that mistake. And we can tell ourselves that this is not going to happen to me and we can feel safe.

Andy Roark:
And so when you see people online who come in and say, “Well, they never should have done this and they never should have done that.”

Andy Roark:
Those people are trying to convince themselves that this would not happen to them because they would know better. And that my friends is bullshit. And it is. But you see it all the time.

Stephanie Goss:
True story.

Andy Roark:
And again, you see it in horror movies, people are like, “Oh, what an idiot. She ran into the basement. I would never do that.”

Andy Roark:
You're saying that because you want to believe that you would survive the horror movie. But you wouldn't, you would be killed.

Andy Roark:
You may not have run in the basement. You would have done something equally stupid, and you would've been staked to a tree with a big butcher knife like the rest of us.

Andy Roark:
Suddenly off topic. But it's really hard for me not to take the feedback from my colleagues of why didn't you do this? That's a dagger in my heart.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Yes.

Andy Roark:
I believe that a lot of times it is people they're thinking themselves, “Why would this not happen to me? I better come up with a reason. Something that I would do differently.” And then they do that.

Andy Roark:
Remember that these things are a force of nature. I really believe that being torched by an internet mob is being hit by lightning at this point with that general frequency, it absolutely happens.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And there's not a whole, whole lot you can do about it. We like to believe we have a lot more control than we do.

Stephanie Goss:
And we don't.

Andy Roark:
And we don't. And your good heart is not going to necessarily get you out of this. In fact, we can look at the things in Maine and say, “Sometimes no good deed goes unpunished. Sometimes going above and beyond is really what sets you up to make people really angry.”

Andy Roark:
And boy, that's unfair, but it is 100% true. So I think these things are more and more just something that happened. And there are cases where people do bad stuff and they get caught. Don't think I'm not saying that.

Andy Roark:
But in most of the instances I see, this could have happened to a 100 other practices that same day.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Anyway, this too shall pass. And after talking to a lot of people, myself included, who have been through things like this, it feels terrible. It runs its course.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
People get bored and they move on. This is going to be a terrible 72 hours and a generally crappy week but 12 weeks from now, this will be an unpleasant memory and your clients will be coming, they'll be there just like they were before.

Andy Roark:
And honestly, they probably won't remember it. And this is on a basis of whatever happened was unfair representation of what the vet did. Not something awful that truly happened.

Andy Roark:
But for the most part, this too shall pass. And in every one of my experiences in clinics that I've talked with as they've gone through these things, 12 weeks later, the clients who actually came in the door still come in the door.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And there's things that we can do to mitigate the damages and to make this as-

Stephanie Goss:
Survivable.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Exactly right. Well, there's things that we can do to mitigate how painful this is going to be.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And I think we should talk about those after the break. But let me check in with you, any final head space pieces before we move on to action stuff?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. No, I agree. I think when I was thinking about it, we were talking about this too shall pass. Again, when you're in the thick of it's really hard to imagine that it's going to blow past, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Because it's all consuming. That's all you can think about. And from an outside perspective, when this happened and I can think of lots of other examples, including some with you and the doctor Andy side, you think, “Oh my God, this is never going to go away.”

Stephanie Goss:
And it was all over. I have been staying off of social media for a whole bunch of reasons lately.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, yeah, totally. I got you.

Stephanie Goss:
And yet when this happened, I got multiple texts and calls from people who were like, “Have you seen what happened to this hospital?” And I was like, “No. Because I haven't been on social media.”

Stephanie Goss:
And I opened it up and there are hundreds of people that I am connected with online who I know from veterinary medicine. Literally almost every single one of them had posted something or reposted something.

Stephanie Goss:
And it was everywhere and for days and I thought, “This is never going to go away.” But then something else stupid happens in the world and our media culture takes over and then it was old news and it really did.

Stephanie Goss:
But in that moment, even as an outsider, I looked at this and said, “Oh God. This is not going away anytime soon. This is intense. It's everywhere.”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think it's good advice. It will pass and that doesn't make it any less painful, let's acknowledge that. It does feel crappy. It is not fair. It doesn't make it any less painful in the moment, but we can all do hard things for a certain period of time, right?

Stephanie Goss:
And so I think this is one of those things where I think you have to lean into it and say, “I can put one foot in front of the other and I can do some of the things we're going to talk about next. And I can lean into my team and sooner or later it will go away.”

Andy Roark:
Yeah, yeah. And just to be clear, when you looked at the vet pages, almost all of them were supportive of the vet clinic and stuff.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, yes.

Andy Roark:
And I thought that was a wonderful thing from our side of the profession. And again, if you want to hear their story, it's the July 7th Cone of Shame, that podcast.

Andy Roark:
But the profession, a lot of people really came out very positive for them and that's great. Let's take a break and we'll come back and let's get our ducks in a row just to protect ourselves as best we can.

Stephanie Goss:
Sounds good.

Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss. You got a second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones.

Andy Roark:
You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well.

Stephanie Goss:
Which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls.

Stephanie Goss:
And so we talk about it, we've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast, and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
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Andy Roark:
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Andy Roark:
All right. So, what do we doing here, Steph? Are there things that we can do? We're excited as a force to nature. Does that mean we just throw our hands up and just let it go and hope that we don't get hit by lightning?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes and no. It depends. Right?

Andy Roark:
Acceptance is important, but also yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
I do think that, okay, you know that lightning strikes happen.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And you can't control that. And yet, does that keep me in my house for my whole life to avoid the lightning? No. And I think we have to adopt that same mentality, right?

Stephanie Goss:
We have to open our eyes to the fact that this is a cultural shift and it is happening more and more frequently, like you said.

Stephanie Goss:
And I don't want to live in my house and hide for the rest of my life, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so at some point I think that all of our rationales have to shift to this is a possibility. It might be a small possibility, especially if we do things to set ourselves up for success. But even if we do all of the right things, it could still happen.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It is a force of nature. There's a quote from the Quran that roughly translated is, it says, “Trust in Allah, but don't forget to tie up your camel.”

Andy Roark:
And I'm like, “That's it. A 100%.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Well, we're going to trust that everything is going to be okay from above and at the same time, I'm still just going to go ahead and do the basic thing that I can do to prevent hardship for myself.

Stephanie Goss:
I love it. It's brilliant.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It's pretty great.

Stephanie Goss:
That's right, right? Yeah. There are things that we can do and we're going to talk about some of those and things that we should do, because we want to try and avoid it if we can.

Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And there are things we can do preventatively and then to avoid it and then things that we can do to mitigate the impact when it does happen. But I think you have to recognize that it's possibility.

Andy Roark:
Sure. Of course. So first part is acceptance. It might still happen, but there are things that we can do it. So I was thinking about this a lot and go, “Okay, well, what do we do?”

Andy Roark:
Well, we do have things. We can at least put our thumb on the scales. We can reduce the probability of this happening. And we can try to reduce the severity of things like this happening when they do occur.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And so those are the big things that I'm going out. Obviously if we can, we're going to avoid it. So how do we avoid it? Clear protocols and intentional decisions, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Especially about money and surrender.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
What are your policies when clients can't afford procedures? Do you allow people to surrender pets? I am getting less and less okay with this just because of how the world is changing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I don't like people surrendering animals and those animals getting passed off to the staff. There's a lot of things I don't like about that.

Stephanie Goss:
One of my biggest pet peeves.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. And that's really hard to defend. It's like this person who wants the pet can't afford it, so now we're going to give it to Carol who has too many pets and doesn't really want another one, but she's going to take it because we're going to emotionally blackmail her into doing so.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I don't like that. So anyway, what are your policies? Are you doing this? How do you do this? What paperwork is involved in this? Does the pet owner have a chance to come up with money and get the pet back in a certain amount of time?

Andy Roark:
All of those things need to be thought out about what exactly are you doing?

Stephanie Goss:
And let's be clear, in this case in particular when I looked at it, I wanted to stand up and like give this hospital a standing ovation, because I was like, “Look, here's this hospital that had policies, that had protocols, that had thought about some of this and done all of the right things.”

Stephanie Goss:
And then I took a step back and I looked at my own practices and my friends' practices and did some asking. And for most of us, we haven't talked about it. We haven't thought through it.

Stephanie Goss:
For most of us, the common situation is, Dr. Roark goes into the exam room and then the proverbial shit hits the fan. And then Dr. Roark comes out of the exam room and we all huddle up in the treatment room and go, “What are we going to do here?”

Stephanie Goss:
Because we do care and we want to take care of the patient, we want to take care of the client. And so we're making those decisions, not only are we making them in real time and on the fly, but we're making them in times of very high emotions.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Which is really stupid from a business perspective. That's the worst thing that we can do to take care of our teams, to take care of our patients and our businesses.

Stephanie Goss:
And so I think the smartest thing that we can do is acknowledge, like you and I started this by saying we have to acknowledge that this is a thing that is happening more and more frequently.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And that it very well could be us. And so taking the time to sit down and talk through what actually are our protocols? And not just the surrender piece is a big, huge, hairy piece of it that has to be talked out from a lot of different angles.

Stephanie Goss:
But all of the pieces leading up to that, when it comes to, how do we talk to clients about finances? The first time we're having a financial conversation with the client should never be in that case of an emergency, right?

Stephanie Goss:
And for so many of us, it's the same as it is when we're having the surrender conversation. It's happening because now the emergency has happened or now the unexpected has happened. And the owner has said, “I don't know what to do here.” So we're having that conversation for the first time.

Stephanie Goss:
And so for my fellow managers out there and practice owners, this is where we have to look at the fingers pointing back at ourselves and take the reins back a little bit here and say, “Okay, there are a lot of steps along the way here that have to really be thought about and talked out and decisions made.”

Stephanie Goss:
And then not only the decisions made as a team, but then communicated to the team so that every member of the team knows when this situation happens, even if it's a once in a blue moon situation, what to do, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Your team should know what happens when there's a fire in the building. You shouldn't have a fire in the building with any regularity, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
But if that happens, every member of your team should know what to do. And that adrenaline takes over. It should be the same in this situation.

Stephanie Goss:
Even though we're way more likely to face having to have the financial conversation or the emergency conversation, or the surrender conversation, way more often than we are a fire in the building.

Stephanie Goss:
But we put more time and energy into that disaster planning than we do into this. And so this is where I can't soapbox on this hard enough.

Stephanie Goss:
We have got to take a step back and spend some actual time developing plans and protocols, not just on the surrender piece which is huge and important, but also on the financial part of it.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I would say having those protocols, making those decisions at an unemotional time away from the moment it happens.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Away from the situation. Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Training your team on communication, right? And that's your doctors and your people. How often do we see people being to torn up online, not because of anything they did, but because of how what they did was communicated to the pet owner. That's 99% of the time.

Andy Roark:
And so make sure you've got good protocols to communicate with. I'm a huge fan of sending home notes, medical notes, your soaps, however you want to set it up.

Stephanie Goss:
Documentation.

Andy Roark:
Documentation, but also giving that to the pet owner explaining what happened, even in brief terms. But just trying to make them feel supported in what happened, make sure that they try to feel okay about it.

Andy Roark:
And again, we're all working against time deadlines, but the better job we can do of that, the lower the chance of us getting hit by lightning. So those are the big things for me, as far as reducing your probabilities.

Andy Roark:
Good protocols that are well thought out, have as many payment options that you can, or at least a clear structure of payment options to help people afford care in a way that works for your practice.

Andy Roark:
And then good communication training so that people are good at communicating sensitive topics and things like that. And so that's how we reduce the probability.

Andy Roark:
And the second thing is trying to reduce the impact when this does happen. And the biggest way to reduce the impact is to have a great reputation with your current clients and with your community.

Andy Roark:
And that's something that you actually do have the power over. People will say to me, “Andy, what's the best way to handle a truly awful unfair one star Google review?” And I'd be like, “The best way to handle it is to have 500 five star reviews already.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, yes. I'm so glad you said that because it is such a soapbox. You ignore it because you should be able to ignore the one off random one star review or maybe your team really did screw something up and maybe there was some truth in what is being shared.

Stephanie Goss:
But your reputation should be able to absorb that hit because you're focused on the good and so many of us ignore that and do the panic flail about and go, “Oh, now I have to deal with the negative.” And we focus so much time and energy on that.

Stephanie Goss:
And I have looked repeatedly at colleagues and said, “What if you took the amount of energy that you're spending on this and put it into actually talking to the clients who are happy with your services?”

Stephanie Goss:
And getting them to write reviews and getting them to share their story and leave that information. That is far more advantageous for all of us to focus on that good, so that we can absorb those things, right?

Stephanie Goss:
I don't think that there's actually anything, even with a good reputation in something like this, where the mob mentality sets in and it is the thousand calls in a day to the clinic. I don't think there's anything you could do to mitigate that.

Stephanie Goss:
But the piece of this that often gets focused on is, “What do I do with that one star review?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
That is something that you absolutely can focus on the positive and outweigh that in.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I agree. I think that's the best thing you can do. I've seen people get defensive and that generally goes badly.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Once the narrative starts it's hard to wade into that and have any sort of a positive outcome. The one side of the story has been told and getting people to change their minds.

Andy Roark:
It's amazing. No one's going to believe this when I say it, it turns out people on the internet are not really interested in changing their minds.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
I don't know. But again, broad generalities, not true of everyone, but internet mobs in general, they're tough to turn around.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Deep breaths. This too shall pass. Don't respond immediately. You need to try to get your head straight. You need to try to get some perspective.

Andy Roark:
And the immediate response is generally the defense and emotional one. And that escalates rather than diffuses the situation.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Circle up the wagons, talk to the team, quick team training, right? What do they say when angry people call? What do they do if people have questions when they come in? What are we allowed to say? What are we not allowed to say?

Andy Roark:
And if you say, “Andy, I don't know the answers to those questions.” I would say, “You need to get your PLIT representative on the phone. You need to look at your liability insurance.”

Andy Roark:
That you should already be in contact with those people about, “Hey, this is happening. I'm expecting a board complaint as a distinct possibility.” If you don't have that insurance, you need to get that insurance.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
But you do not want to be without support for this. So included in your license defense should be advisement on things like this. Get that advisement. Figure out what you can say and what you can't say and start to work on what your response is going to be.

Andy Roark:
There's a ton of resources out there and there's more and more coming along. The AVMA has really good cyber bullying resources. Not One More Vet is putting out more and more, they're really focusing on this. I think AAHA has some resources.

Andy Roark:
We want to turn off commenting on social media sites. It may get so bad, especially if your mega internet being [inaudible 00:55:03], you may end up turning off the phones and just reaching out to people who have scheduled appointments to communicate with them coming in.

Andy Roark:
I've seen it happen. People go, “I'll never turn off the phones.” Fuck that. If you have literally thousands of phone calls coming in a day, and again, it's a small number of people looking like a lot.

Andy Roark:
These are robo callers. They're bots that just call and immediately call again, immediately call again. At some point you may have to actually do it. It's just a thing that happens.

Andy Roark:
So anyway, get the resources together, figure out what you can say, communicate that to your team, give them some language to use.

Andy Roark:
Remember the phrase let's practice what we're going to say, turn off your online reviews, turn off your comments on your social media. You might have to turn your phones off for a day or so.

Andy Roark:
And hopefully not. That is the absolute worst case scenario.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
But beyond that, just remember that this too shall pass.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I think the other thing too, I think those are all great things and there are some great resources out there that have been put together in our industry in terms of cyber bullying in particular.

Stephanie Goss:
And I definitely would think about like having our teams prepare for that and do some education and figure out some of this stuff ahead of time.

Stephanie Goss:
And then the other thing too, this is where I'll soapbox, instead of what does your handbook say? This is where you lean into professional help if it gets really bad.

Stephanie Goss:
And think about maybe you do need to get somebody to help with PR. Maybe you do need to talk to an attorney to find out what you can say and what you can't say or someone from a marketing or PR firm, those are wise investments if you're really facing the keyboard mafia.

Stephanie Goss:
The other thing that I think is so, so important is you have to think about taking care of your team as well.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so this is one where I would absolutely say, this is a great example of why we need EAPs Employee Assistance Programs, because the team, this is going to be hard on them mentally, emotionally, potentially physically, if people come to the clinic and are picketing and bullying outside of the clinic, right?

Stephanie Goss:
There's all these potential impacts here. And so having support for them, thinking about bringing in someone from the community to be a professional resource. Because as a manager or a practice owner, that's not my job. I shouldn't try and make it my job. And the team needs support.

Stephanie Goss:
I think about the poor doctor in the case in Maine and the team who was a part of that case, right? They're giving themselves emotionally and doing their best to take care of their patients and they're still getting crapped on.

Stephanie Goss:
And then they're getting death threats and it is personal. People literally are calling and leaving death threats for the team. That has a emotional, psychological impact far beyond what I think a lot of us can imagine.

Stephanie Goss:
And so the last piece of that for me is that there has to be support and resources for the team. It is not your job to know what those resources are from a professional perspective.

Stephanie Goss:
But as a practice leader, it is a 100% your job to make sure that your team has access to those resources. And get them taken care of.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I agree. The last thing that I would say is lean into the work and lean into your purpose. So if you're going through this, try to keep your team focused on the actual clients in the building.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
On doing the work, on taking care of the pets, on serving the people who are not faceless people on the internet, but are actual real people who know you and who come in.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I think that's the most mentally healthy thing you can do is try to recognize that a lot of this is noise. And the people who actually come in and know you, they're the ones who matter.

Andy Roark:
And the pets that you're actually going to put your hands on, those are the ones that you can help. And so just trying to focus in and really think not in the existential threat level, but in the what's right in front of me that I can actually do?

Andy Roark:
And who here can I actually show how compassionate I am to? That's all you can do. And so I think that's where you should focus and you try to get the team to focus there. I think that's about the best path forward.

Stephanie Goss:
Whew. Man.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. That's heavy.

Stephanie Goss:
This is a heavy one, a real heavy one. My heart goes out to this clinic certainly and all of our colleagues who we have watched go through it. This is hard.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It is hard. It is heavy. And I think the number one thing that all of us can do is acknowledge there is a possibility, maybe a very small statistical possibility, we think about the millions of vet clinics out there.

Stephanie Goss:
But I think we have to stop thinking, “This couldn't happen to me.” And start thinking, “What would I do if this happened to me?” Right?

Stephanie Goss:
And start to think about how do we take care of our clients, our teams, our patients, ourselves, and really think proactively and not reactively here.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, yeah. I agree. Once you're in it, you're in it and there's not a great way out.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Avoidance is the best strategy and know that that's not entirely in your control.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
There's always benefits to over communicating. There's always benefits to having a plan. I think that that's all you can do. And then just know that sometimes it happens.

Andy Roark:
It's going to happen to the absolute best of us. Keep your chin up and just know unfortunately I'm afraid this is part of modern medicine.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, man. Well, have a wonderful week in your work. Friends, have a great week and we will talk to you all again soon.

Andy Roark:
See you everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, everybody, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. Thanks so much for spending your time with us. We truly enjoy spending part of our week with you as always. Andy and I enjoyed getting into this topic.

Stephanie Goss:
I have a tiny little favorite ask. Actually two of them. One is if you can go to wherever you source your podcast from and hit the review button and leave us a review, we love hearing your feedback and knowing what you think of the podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
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