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Apr 12 2023

My CSR is Giving Out Too Much Medical Info

This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss dive into a conversation about some worries that a practice manager friend had about their CSR giving out TOO much information to clients. This CSR hasn't had any medical training however they have been in their position with the hospital for a few years and they feel really confident talking with clients. While nothing bad has happened yet, this manager is wondering how they address it before unqualified medical advice might get shared, no matter how good the client service intentions are. Let's get into this….

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 226 – My CSR Is Giving Out TOO Much Medical Info

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Episode Transcript

Stephanie Goss:
Hey, everybody. I am Stephanie Goss, and this is another episode of The Uncharted Podcast. This week on the podcast, Andy and I are tackling a question from a manager who feels like they have a CSR who might be overstepping their bounds, and it's kind of happening repeatedly. They have been giving advice or getting into medical conversations with clients, and this manager is pretty concerned that it might go off the rails, although it hasn't happened yet. So before it does, they're reaching out for some help. This was so much fun. Let's get into this.

Meg:
And now, The Uncharted Podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and the one and only Stephanie my name is no Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
That's right. My name is no.

Dr. Andy Roark:
My name is no.

Stephanie Goss:
How's it going, Andy?

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's good. The spring is here in South Carolina and that makes me super happy. I spent the weekend spreading mulch in my yard. And I know that sounds awful, but man, I love it. I love being outside. I love just having a thing that I just do. It's one of those things where the time just flies by because I'm just kind of working and raking and looking around.

Stephanie Goss:
Doing your thing.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I listen to music and I listen to audiobooks and stuff, and just kind of work outside. Yeah, it was pretty wonderful. How about you?

Stephanie Goss:
It is not. I mean, it is spring in Washington, but it is still freezing cold and my bulbs are an inch out of the ground and they're not going to get any bigger any time soon because it is still too cold. But it's good, it is busy right now. When we're recording this, we're a week away from our practice manager summit, and so there's a lot of craziness getting ready for that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, man.

Stephanie Goss:
And we've got a lot happening in our community right now and working on new content and so many projects.

Dr. Andy Roark:
For those who don't know how Uncharted is blowing up in 2023, we've got our practice manager summit, which is virtual. We have our April in-person conference, which everybody's coming to. You and I are starting a new thing called our development path, where we, you, and me, and Maria Pirita, meet with members of the community every two weeks. And we're going through workshops that we've developed over the last couple of years. And every two weeks, people can drop in, and we have some pre-work, and we have some actual work, and then some takeaway stuff. And we're just going to spend from now until end of the summer just working with the community members on some really key essential stuff, and so that's kicking off. We've got our handbook helper, where you and Ron Sosa and Maria work on helping people get their handbooks actually done and created. We've got our hallway conversations. We've got our workshops that are soon going to be carrying RACE CE with them, all this stuff is new this year. It is bonkers how much stuff we have going on. But man, the future looks bright, I'll tell you what.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. It is very exciting and also, I was just working with Tyler. And she and I were working on some resources for some of the stuff coming up and having the conversation that I love being busy and I love chaos. I get bored really fast, and so I like it when we have a lot of things going on. It feels cyclical, and it was this way in practice too. I would be busy, busy, busy, and handling, handling, handling, handling. And then kind of really without knowing, it very quickly tips into the, okay, now I'm actually feeling panicked and overwhelmed. And I think I hit that point this morning and I actually sent you a message like, “I am feeling overwhelmed,” because I was literally working with Tyler. We're designing some stuff in Canva. I've got her in one earbud, and then I have a different set of earbuds in the other ear because I'm listening to a recording of a session that we just did to try and pull information to reply to an email. And it's just like, “Okay, this feels like I've hit that place of overwhelm.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah. It's always that balance. You know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
The classic performance state is you want to be stressed. You don't want to be distressed. And you don't want to be bored.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But the idea that you're going to get to the right amount of stress to keep you motivated and engaged and not dip above it or below it, that's not going to happen. And so we know our business is cyclical. The first quarter of the year is always bonkers.

Stephanie Goss:
It's crazy for everybody. I think in the practice too because when you're in the practice, it would always be like, “Okay, it's the new year.” And for a lot of practices, I know December tends to be really quiet and even sometimes into January. For my practice, December was always bonkers, maybe because we did boarding, and so we had a lot of stuff around the holidays. But it would be crazy, and then you have dental month, and then you head into spring and the fleas start popping, and it's just a crazy time of year I feel like for everybody. And also, for anybody who is in vet med and has their own sport activities, or their kids are involved in sports, everything has started happening. And now I'm going different directions at the same time for the different kid activities, and it's a busy time of year.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I feel that the world has now opened back up post-COVID.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It took a long time. This was the first year. You and I have been going to VMX in Orlando and Western Vet Conference in Vegas pretty much every year, even sort of through the pandemic because they're just really big events and they're important in our industry. But this was the first year that I was there and I really thought I'm going to need to go to some more events this year, besides these two. I haven't done that in a couple of years. I've been like, “Yeah. I need to go out and get engaged at some other things that are going on,” because I can tell the industry is picking back up and life is kind of getting to normalize. And the same thing back at home life. We're looking at summer camps and things for our kids. And it's time for them to sort of reengage and do this. And I don't know if you feel this way, but I've really been trying to hold onto some of the perspective I got during the pandemic where I thought, “Hey, myself, my family, have been a bit over-scheduled.”
And there's just really great thing about being less scheduled, and I know that. And at the same time, as everyone around me picks up the pace and picks up the pace, I feel this vortex pulling me back into life as it was before the pandemic of, I'm not back where I was of every night, my family has something going on. But I can see it from here. And unless we say no to some things, it's going to be that way by the end of this year. And it's really been a test of what I learned in the pandemic, and I said I wanted … The default is not to stay on the sidelines. The default, at least for me, is to get sucked into the action. And I am really asking myself some questions about that.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I feel that too. I was looking ahead at the calendar and thinking about summer and kid organization. And in looking at the calendar, I think there's literally two weekends the whole summer that don't have something scheduled, and between camps and travel and family time. And yes, some of it is family, quality family time and time unplugged. And it's all stuff that I want to have on the calendar. And at the same time, when I look at it and I look at that 12-week span, and there's literally something every weekend except for two, it does feel that slippery slope of overwhelm in the sense of: Are we going back to being over-scheduled and over-committed, and feeling like: When are we going to just kind of hang out and do the summer thing? You know?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I saw this book recently, and I was sort of … It was an interview with the author about the book. But the title of the book was something like In Defense of Hanging Out, and this person just wrote about sort of … You remember when you were younger and your friends would come over. You would spend time with them.

Stephanie Goss:
Hang out.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And you're not actually doing anything.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, you're bored.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You're just bored together. And this person was making … They were pointing to the science of loneliness and connection and things. And they were talking about how that just being there and being bored, and not being on your phone, but just watching TV you didn't care about together, and mostly talking how much that means to us as far as making connections and friendships and feeling like we have a place. And I look at my own life, and I'm like, “Man, I don't hang out.” It's antithetical to kind of who I am and how I've been. But I also recognize that there's a downside to that choice, which is I don't have those friends that are just around, or I don't have friends I'd be comfortable just walking into their house. I don't have those friends. And of course, I wish I did.
But at the same time also, I'm not willing to make unstructured time in my schedule to not do anything. I don't know how that fits. And maybe it'll feel differently after the kids have grown up and kind of flown the nest. Maybe when I'm an empty nester, I'll have hang out time. But I just don't know. But anyway, all that stuff, it all kind of feels like it fits together in me and looking at life, and looking at being over-scheduled versus under-scheduled, and the benefits and the drawbacks. But it's been an interesting time as the pace has picked back up, and picked back up around me saying, “Am I engaging in this?” If I'm going to engage in it, which I think I am, I'm going to be real intentional about it and just really pushing myself to not say yes to everything that comes my way. But I am with you as far as feeling like the pace has picked up and picked up.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, for sure. Well, I am super excited about this week's topic of conversation. We have a practice where there is a CSR who seems to be maybe overstepping their bounds. They are giving advice or just kind of wandering generally into medical conversations with clients. And this is a CSR who does not have medical training, is not qualified to have medical discussions, although she has been in the vet field for a few years now. Right? So she's gained knowledge both intentionally through training to have some background in the practice, but also kind of unintentionally just as you do on the job observing veterinary medicine. And so they feel maybe more qualified than they actually are, and they want to really help the clients. And so clients are asking questions and they're getting themselves steered into conversations where the supervisors in the practice feel like you're not qualified to have these conversations, and you might be overstepping your bounds.
And nothing bad has happened yet. There hasn't been any catastrophe like a client's gotten wrong advice or anything like that. But the manager was looking at the situation and going, “I feel like this is heading towards potential disaster, and I'd love to know how to handle this kind of situation because I want the team to feel empowered. I want them to be able to problem-solve for clients. And I don't want untrained team members getting themselves into trouble giving medical advice or medical information out to clients that they're not qualified to give,” and so they're wondering. How do you handle both talking to the CSR about it without making them feel like they don't know how to do their job, and also implementing systems and protocols to support the front desk when they don't have that medical training?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. This is so common. And it's often the front desk. But honestly, I see it with assistants.

Stephanie Goss:
Or the kennel.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Or the kennel, yeah. But even some of the technicians can waver over that line into diagnosing things like that.

Stephanie Goss:
Absolutely.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So I see it a lot. And let's go ahead and start in headspace, and I think it's important to step back from this because I have seen people go right … They pull their flaming, raging sword of justice and say, “You're not qualified to make these decisions or give this information that may not be totally factually accurate. Or you're just sort of giving your theories here instead of having the doctor look at the pet and actually figure out what's going on.” And I have seen people just really get emotional and there's a righteousness aspect to this, and I get it. I do get it because it can be dangerous. There's real risk to the pet and there's real liability for the practice here, so it's not totally benign.
At the same time, I really do think it's important to be honest and step back and look with grace on the people who are doing this because here I am every week on this podcast and on the other podcast I do, Cone of Shame, talking about leveraging your paraprofessionals, leveraging your support staff, the technicians taking work off of the doctor plates, and the front desk being the mouthpiece for the practice, and really helping us streamline communication, which is a huge time burden on a lot of doctors. And so let's at least look at this and say, “Okay. I understand how overstepping here happens,” and quite honestly, I would much rather have the conversation to kind of rein some people back in than I would having the conversation of, I need you guys-

Stephanie Goss:
To step up.

Dr. Andy Roark:
To do something beyond taking a message.

Stephanie Goss:
Right, and passing it along.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And telling the client that I'm going to call them back because that's soul-crushing to me after a while. And it's a burden that I can't bear. So I would much rather rein in someone who's trying to help than I would try to motivate someone who doesn't have that inclination at all, and just wants to pass the conversation off to somebody else. And so I think that's a good opening position is to go, “All right, there's a spectrum of how much we want, or how much we're able to support people, and who's able to support people.” And it's not help them or don't help them, it is understanding what that spectrum is. And where do I engage? And then where are the limits where I need to not engage even if I have clear ideas about what happened. And I want to give grace again to the front desk or the techs here.
How many times do you take a message from the pet owner? You know what the doctor's going to say because you've heard him say it a million times. And then you go and you ask the doctor, and the doctor says exactly what you thought that they were going to say.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You know what I mean? And then you come back and you tell them exactly.

Stephanie Goss:
You're like, “I could've saved myself that time.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
How long does it take before you say, “I know what they're going to say. I'm just going to tell them.” And the truth is, there's subtle differences. And that one time you go, “I know what they'd say,” but you're wrong because this one's a little bit different, and you didn't catch the difference. And now we've got a real problem.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. And I think there's a real Jedi mind trick there when it comes to training. So when we get to action steps, I want to circle back to that because I think there's an easy way that you can train the team on what to say that will help keep them feeling empowered and feeling like they are actually moving it forward, but also creating the space for someone who does have the medical training to double check them.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I want to shout out to this manager that reached out as well because I know a lot of people who would know this was going on, but they would not motivate themselves to intervene until-

Stephanie Goss:
There was an actual problem.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Maybe it'll be okay.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Or we'll address it when there's a problem. And they wait until something bad happens and then they have sort of this come to Jesus talk sort of thing. And I go, “I love the fact that you're seeing this before it has blown up. And your intention is to actually intervene now.” And I think that takes some discipline and I am super happy with the question of, before this, before something bad that forces us to deal with this comes up, I would just like to go ahead and get this back under control, so I like that a lot.

Stephanie Goss:
And before it feels like something punitive, where you're getting in trouble for something that you did, versus, “Hey, I see you doing this thing, and I appreciate you wanting to help the clients.” And so here's how we wrangle that. Right? You have the opportunity here for it to be nothing but positive for the CSR, or the kennel assistant, or the assistant in the sense of their growth and development. And I think that is huge and that is key, and I also love that they are looking at it proactively because I think when you have to have that conversation in the negative, it changes everything for how that conversation is received, how you have to impart the training at that point because then it's just like, “Well, now I'm just teaching you so that we can fix your mistake,” and that doesn't feel good to anybody.

Dr. Andy Roark:
That conversation is easier to have. It writes itself. When there's a problem and it is a punitive conversation, you're like, “Well, how can she argue when I say, ‘You did this, and it blew up, and this is the outcome. And this is why you can't do this anymore.'” You go, “Oh, well, that's a much easier conversation than, hey, nothing has happened so far. And I need you to change your behavior without hurting your feelings.” It takes much more grace to have the second conversation than the first. However, I don't want something punitive to happen. And there are consequences to something punitive happening, which is probably a pet having a bad experience, which we really don't want.
And the other thing is if you do it right, you can do this very gracefully and just avoid a lot of pain. I think a lot of people just don't know how to have this conversation, and so they wait until something bad happens, and they don't have any choice but to have the conversation, and they point right to the thing and say, “This is what happened and we need to make changes.” And a lot of times, that's a horrible conversation for the person who made the mistake because they're being held accountable for something bad that of course they didn't mean to have happen.
I think that's another part of the head space is empathizing with the person at the front desk who's doing this. Everybody wants to grow. Everybody wants to take on more responsibilities. Well, a lot of people want to take on more responsibilities. Everybody wants to feel like they're growing and developing. Everybody wants to help. Everybody wants to feel valuable and feel like they are-

Stephanie Goss:
Contributing.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, they're contributing. And so when we say, “Well, why does this happen?” And you look at those, you go, “Okay, this is generally not coming from a bad place. It's not an arrogant place.” I'm assuming it's not that the doctor is a doofus, let me tell you what you should actually do. That would be a bad place. But that's not what see. You know?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. No, it's generally coming from a place of good intention, of I want to problem solve, I want to help this client, or I want to resolve this situation for someone. To your point, it comes from that desire to help, really. And so it's easier to slide the flaming, raging sword of justice back into its sheath when you think about, okay, this person really wants to help take care of the clients. And as a manager, isn't that the number one golden quality you want in a CSR, is someone who wants to help take care of clients?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
For me, it is. Hell, yeah. So let's nurture that and it just might need a little bit of wrangling and a little bit of direction. You know?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes. Yeah. I completely agree with that. It needs some wrangling and some direction. And so the next part of sort of head space before we go in there is, we need to figure out what that wrangling and direction really is because if you go in and you say, “Stop saying too much to the clients,” the obvious question is-

Stephanie Goss:
What does that mean?

Dr. Andy Roark:
What is too much?

Stephanie Goss:
Right. What did I do wrong?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Do you want me to not say anything? What do you want from me? And I think that very much can lead toward frustration. I have seen paraprofessionals, techs, front desk people, put in a bad spot where they get in trouble for overstepping, but they don't know what constitutes overstepping. Or they'll be given one example, and they're like, “Is that the only time, or are there other ways?” And so you get them into this fearful head space, where they don't know what they're allowed to say, and so they either just go, “Forget this. It's just a job. I'm going to ratchet way back and I'm not going to tell them anything.” Or they say, “I'm going to help them and I'm going to look over my shoulder every time because I'm worried that I'm not supposed to tell them this bit of information.” And we really, really want to avoid that.
And so the next part of this is making a plan of how you're going to have the conversation. So the first thing is just for you, just for you the manager. I always do this with pen and paper. It helps me to write things out. But what are the risks here? What are my concerns? Do I have any examples not from this person, but from places I've worked, or things I've seen in the past, where I say, “Here's the type of thing that I've seen. Can we talk about the risks to the patients and the liability?” And a lot of times, the liability is easier to talk to because then I don't have to say, “Hey, I'm afraid you're going to screw this up.” I can say, “Hey, you can do everything right, but if it comes from you and not from the doctor, even if it's correct information, once it crosses into that medical diagnosis, treatment, adjusting treatment plans frame, we're opening ourselves up to get really punished.” And you may not make a mistake at all, and a lot of times, that's much easier for people to hear than, “If you screw this up, it could get really bad.”
I would mention if we have a technician or a front desk person who gives inaccurate information and they miss a detail that was important that the doctor would've spotted as different from what the norm is, that's how we get real problems as well. And so I would start to say, “What are the risks here? What are my concerns?” And I would talk about my concerns from a medical outcome standpoint, and then also a customer service perception. What do the clients think? What's their perception? Do they think the doctor knows what's going on and the doctor does not know what's going on, and they find that out?
And then last, but not least, from a legal liability standpoint of: Are we getting exposed here to where we can get in trouble through no real fault of our own necessarily? And sort of frame it that way. But that's kind of how I'd start to set that stuff up, so I know when I go in, I can tell them the why. And I think the why is important. I don't want the why to be, “Hey, you're just a front desk person. You don't get to tell the pet owners this.” That's a terrible why.

Stephanie Goss:
Nobody wants that job.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Nobody wants to hear that. And of course, none of you hopefully would ever say that. But I have heard things that kind of … That's the flaming, raging sword of justice response is, “You're at the front desk. You don't answer questions about medications.”

Stephanie Goss:
Well, and there are, to be fair, and to leave space, every practice operates differently, and there are practices out there that operate very successfully, where the front desk does not have anything to do with medical questions. And so there are protocols and workflow that supports the front desk not having any involvement without it coming across as, I'm the receptionist at the law firm. Dr. Roark's office. Can you please hold? That's not their job. They're still doing an exceptional and very important job at the front desk. And there are lots of practices that have people at their front desk who are playing a dual role and have training and workflow and processes hopefully in place to support those team members doing those things. So it's not to say that you can't have a practice where that is the case because I think there's probably practices listening to this who are going, “Well, my CSRs don't do anything with medicine and I don't want them to do anything with medicine.”
And I think it's important to say we're not trying to say it should be one way or the other. And when those things are successful, regardless of how you have it set up, it is because there is the why, and everybody understands, and everybody's on the same page. And to this manager's question's point, there are policies and protocols and processes from a workflow perspective that support everybody rowing in the same direction.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes. Yeah, I agree with that. Yes, I completely agree. In that same vein, the last sort of part of head space for me is: What is the protocol going to be? Right? It's much more challenging to talk to this one technician or one front desk person and say, “You're not able to say this thing,” than it is to say, “Guys, front desk, CSRs, let's come together. Let's talk about what medical questions fall into the front desk purview, and what needs to go to the technicians, and what needs to go to the doctors, and how we triage these calls, and what information we're willing to give over the phone and what information we're not.” And then just start to lay that down because if your system is, hey, every time the phone rings, you're just going to make a judgment call and see if it feels good, or it feels not good.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep, game-time decision.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, game … Yeah, exactly right, a game-day decision. We answer the phone, see how you feel, feel it out. If you think you might get in trouble, you should send it back. That's not good. You should have some type of guidelines for them. And so I think that holding people accountable for what they say without giving them some sort of base guidelines of what is acceptable or what we want in the practice, I don't know that that's really fair. And that does make us stop and we have to have some honest thoughts and conversations about what is appropriate for the front desk to talk about, and what needs to go to our technicians, and what needs to go to our doctors. But I like … We're going to talk about when we get into action steps about how to sort of build those and figure out what they are.
I think your point earlier was really good. There's not a right answer to this. It really is. It's your practice model, it's the style of medicine that you practice. It's the personnel that you have. If you have a bunch of CSRS and your really short on techs and doctors, then figure out how to empower the CSRs. And there may be a training part of this that gets them up to these places where they can have these conversations. You would run that differently than if you have two CSRS and a bunch of techs and doctors. I go, “Well, send that stuff to the techs. Get it off the front desk.” They're trying to answer phones and check people out. There's no reason for them to be answering medical questions. Kick that stuff back. So there's not a right way to do it other than to look at your liability and say, “People at the front desk should not be diagnosing, prescribing, recommending treatment plans, things like that.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, yeah. I love that. And I love your point about knowing the why and starting there. Why are we doing this? Because I think that helps each of us address that individuality in our practices. Why do we have it set up the way that we have it set up? And if we don't have a strong answer to that why, it may open up opportunities for us to look at it and be like, “Well, maybe what you just said is right. Maybe when we started doing this, we had seven CSRs that all rotated through the front desk. And now we're down to two.” And maybe we didn't really have a why, or the why that we had was different than it is now. And it creates that opportunity to define it. Why are we doing what we're doing?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah. Or maybe when we were smaller, everybody was cross-trained.

Stephanie Goss:
Right, yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Maybe the techs and the assistants moved up and worked the front desk, and so when someone at the front desk answered, they also had a significant amount of time in the back, and they had medical training that we don't prioritize now. Those things change over time.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. And I was going to say I think where I really commonly see this as a pain point for practices is when you are small, one or even two doctor practices, cross-training is a necessity because usually you have a smaller team and people are wearing dual hats. And as we hit and shift into that multi-doctor, 10 plus team member, then you start to develop more niche roles within the team, and that's where we tend to have struggles because, to your point, there was somebody who was cross-trained at the front desk, and now we've got some front desk team members that don't have that cross-training. And now we're realizing that we need to develop these policies and protocols. And so it doesn't always occur as a result of someone doing the wrong thing. Right? Sometimes it's just about our growth as a practice and sitting down and thinking it through.
And I love what you said as a manager, to start with the pen and paper. And say, “What are the risks? What are my concerns? What am I worried about?” And then write it down from there and say, “Okay, if this is what I'm worried about, what information would I want the front desk to give out?” And then what is the why here? And then moving it along and saying, “Hey, practice owner, partner, or medical director partner, or doctor leadership teams, this is what I'm thinking about from a nonmedical perspective. What do you think? What is your why?” And layering it in so that you have that transparency on both sides, to your point where: If the doctor looked at it, are they going to view it slightly differently? Because you don't know, none of us know what we don't know. Right? And if I'm a manager, maybe like in my case, I have medical training, and so there was lots of times where I could anticipate what my doctors were probably going to ask about because I had that training.
But when I was working with colleagues who were new managers, who didn't have the medicine training, I had to really force myself to think. What do they not know? Right? I can assume lots when it comes to customer service, but I can't assume anything when it comes to the medicine because things that I would instinctively think to ask, they're not necessarily going to know to ask because they don't have that training, and really thinking about that and having somebody else look at that stream of consciousness kind of writing was really instrumental for me in helping try and figure out what my policies and protocols should be.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree. Let's take a break and then we'll come back and jump into some action steps. Let's fix this problem.

Stephanie Goss:
That sounds great. Hey, friends. I want to make sure that you know about an upcoming workshop that you're not going to want to miss. And I know I say that about a lot of our workshops, but I mean it about this one. Well, I mean it about all of them, let's be real. But this one holds a special place dear to my heart. Two reasons, one, my friend, Dr. Jen Quammen, is leading the workshop. Number two, it's about technology. And if you've listened to the podcast, you know what a techno nerd I am. I am super excited to have Jen with us thanks to our friends at TeleVet. She is going to be talking on May 24th at 8:00 PM Eastern, so 5:00 PM Pacific, about trending technology in the veterinary space.
Now I love technology. We talked about it on the podcast. We've had guests on the podcast. And one of the conversations that has been going around and around in a lot of the groups I'm in lately has been about ChatGPT or artificial intelligence, AI. And so if you've ever wondered about using AI in your practice, or if you have wondered about wearable technology for pets, communication tools and techniques that use artificial intelligence, or advanced technologies, those are the kind of things that Jen is going to dive into during this workshop because most of us have wondered when we've talked about those technologies, if they actually will save us any time or energy, or if they're just a new trend. So Jen is going to dive into some of the things that have come to market, some of the things that are actively being used in veterinary medicine that you might not know about, and ways that we can incorporate technology into the veterinary space in a way that works with us and not against us.
So if this sounds like something that you'd love to get in on, head on over to the website at unchartedvet.com/events to find out more. We'll see you there. And now, back to the podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right. So it occurred to me recently, you and I used to talk about SAFE conversations in basically every episode. And then I think we did, after 200 episodes, we were like, “I think everybody's got it.”

Stephanie Goss:
Everybody knows.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. But we continue to gain listeners and gain listeners. And I'm like, “All right. We should bring the SAFE conversation back every now and then, just so people remember it.” All right, so you got to start these exercises with your safe conversation. So SAFE, S is for smile. Can you sit next to this person and can you smile at them? And if you can't sit next to this front desk person, or you can't sit across from them and genuinely smile at them, you're probably triggered, and today is probably not the day to have this conversation. If you're triggered, frustrated, upset, you are going to be less effective than if you are not. You might need to put this conversation on the calendar for two days from now, so it does not get skipped because you will feel better and that's an easy way to not have the conversation. So put it on the calendar, but make sure you can sit next to this person and you can smile at them.
A is for assuming good intent, or assuming noble intent is a way I've been saying it recently. And I just assume that this person is doing their best and they're trying to help, and they have good intentions. And you and I, I think we laid that down in head space when we said, “Everybody wants to help. They're trying to help the pet owners. They're trying to help the practice.” They have good intentions. And so let's not get mad at them for being awful. They're not being awful. They're being good. They're just making a mistake or they're behaving in a way that we need to make some adjustments. Let's assume the best possible intentions on the part of the person we're going to talk to. F is fail.

Stephanie Goss:
For the A, the other thing too, there's one thing that I would add to that because sometimes, and I've been there as a manager, where I'm looking at it and I'm like, “Okay. I know they were trying to help the client,” but I'm asking myself. “What were they thinking? Why were they telling the client what they were telling them?” Right? And I can totally hallucinate a place where you're looking at this going, “I literally have no idea why they would have told the client what they told them.” I truly don't understand it. And I think that in assuming good intent for having the SAFE conversation is: Can I ask them, “Tell me what you were thinking”? Can I smile at them and say, “Tell me where you were going with this. Where were you going?” So that you can really, truly try understand because I think that assuming good intent sometimes we can, sometimes we absolutely can be like, “They were just trying to help the client.”
But sometimes I have sat there and been like, “I literally have no idea why they did what they did.” And it's really hard to assume that good intent because I have no understanding. And so for me, sometimes I have to replace that with, “Can I just ask them, tell me more? Where were you going? What happened? Where were you going with this?” To be able to get to that place where I'm like, “Oh, okay. Now I understand and I really can feel like you were trying to help the client, even if I would've done it completely differently.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah. Yes, I'm glad you said that. So F in SAFE is failure. Has this person been set up to fail? And what here is my fault? And I have those thoughts of, “How has this person been set up to fail?” And then what here is my fault? Because the more of this I can take ownership of, the more likely this person is to hear me and hear what I'm saying. And so if this person is answering these questions, but we have not clearly laid out guidelines for what the front desk should say, or what the expectations are about what they send back to the doctors and what they don't, then that's on me. Right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
This person has been set up to fail because they weren't given guidelines. They were told to help the pet owner without clear guidelines about what our liability concerns are, or what the doctors want to have happen. And if I'm the manager, that's my fault. It's my fault for not having a policy in place. Now I'm not going to beat myself up about it too much, but by me saying, “I recognize that there's no policy,” and that's on me, it often helps people to be less defensive because they don't feel like I'm trying to say there's a terrible problem and it's your fault. I'm saying there's a problem.

Stephanie Goss:
You're sharing the responsibility.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. And I own a chunk of it, but let's figure out how to fix it. And so that's F, and the last thing is E. What is the end result? And what does the end result look like? And that's one's going back to why I said I always sit down with a piece of paper and say, “What is the end result?” Is it the front desk sends everything back to the techs and the techs elevate it?

Stephanie Goss:
[inaudible 00:40:54].

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, hopefully not. Is it that there are categories that we agree on, where this goes to this person, and this stays up front, and you guys are empowered to answer these questions but not those questions? [inaudible 00:41:07] is probably about kind of where I would try to go. But what is that end result? And you should know what you want to have happen before you go in there because I have seen people do this conversation and they go in, and they're like, “You can't do that.” And the front desk says, “Well, what am I supposed to do instead?” And they're like, “I don't know, but not that.”

Stephanie Goss:
And then it goes nowhere.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then it goes nowhere, and everyone ends up angry and frustrated. But I joke, but I have seen that and you probably have too.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, yes. Okay. So we're going to start with the, we want to have a SAFE conversation. Right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Totally.

Stephanie Goss:
And we're in a good head space. And we're ready to talk this out.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Totally. So roll in and start with the positives. Talk about everything we talked about, about assuming good intent and giving grace to this person. Do that to them. Don't go in and say, “Hey, look, we've got to talk. There's a problem. You're messing this thing up.” Go in and say, “Hey, I really appreciate all the work that you're doing at the front desk. I understand you have a lot of knowledge to share and it is wonderful to have someone at the front desk who generally knows how our practice runs, and has so much experience and familiarity with our cases. And I really, really appreciate that. And that's a real asset that you have and that you bring.”
And just start by laying down the good stuff. And the next step for me is I would ask for help. I like to ask for help. I would say, “I need your help. When we're looking at how calls are getting handled up at the front desk, we have some liability concerns, and this is what they are. We get questions that come in, and when they're medical questions, and they get answered at the front desk, there is a chance that if these things go wrong, or if the pet owner's not giving us all the information, and let's say that you take the call and they don't give you all the information, but the information they give you seems pretty straightforward. If you tell them what to do, and it turns out that because they didn't share information, their pet ends up in the emergency clinic, they can come after us in a big way because someone at the front desk told them they didn't have to do anything, and now they're at the emergency clinic.” And there's real liability there.
And then I would start to ask them and say, “I want you to be engaged,” and go back to my list of the things that I want. I want you to be helpful. I want you to keep taking work off the doctor and the technicians' shoulders. I want you to share your knowledge. I want you to feel like you're developing, and I want you to know that you're a big part of this team. And I need to figure out how we can set up some guidelines and a system so that you know what to handle and what to send back, so that you're safe and we're safe and the pets are safe, even if the pet owners are not being communicative or they're not giving us all the information.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I think for me, the approach to this conversation, you do a workshop about getting team buy in. And part of what you talk about is getting people on board, especially the people who might be of a different opinion than you, and how to get those people on board. And so when i think about framing this conversation, and I think about this person, I'm aware of this because I feel like this is a challenge with this person. And at the same time, this person might be able to be my superpower for getting the team as a whole on board, and also for unlocking what other challenges might be present because maybe this person is trying to help, and that's their motivation. And so they're storming ahead without all the information.
And also, if I go into this conversation really open and open wide, and ask them to tell me about how you're running this. Where's your head at? How are you approaching it? I also could totally see a place where, as a manager, my thought is, “Well, are they asking their team at the front desk for backup? Are they fact-checking each other? Do we have places where communication is potentially breaking down?” It opens up the door to other potential areas of challenge in the protocol and process here. And so now I have the opportunity to take someone who I am concerned about because I feel like they're kind of just charging ahead and giving the clients information, and I know it's coming from a good place, but I also have the potential to rope them into being a helper for me in having the conversation with the front desk as a whole and getting the team's buy in on, “Hey, guys, let's talk about this from a liability perspective. Are there other things that we can do, easy things, that really are just a double check?”
Maybe it doesn't have to be I'm just going to take a message and pass it on to the technician. Maybe it is, can we say, “Is there somebody else at the front desk that you could fact check it against before you give the client … ” Can you put them on hold for two seconds, say, “This is the question. Am I missing anything?” To your counterpart sitting right next to you. Or maybe the front desk can work together as a team and come up with a flowchart for: How do we answer some of these common questions? There could be lots of opportunities, and by asking, trying to recruit this person, who you have a problem with, to that discussion, not from that punitive place of you're doing this thing wrong and this is why we're having the conversation, but from that place of, “Tell me how you feel like this is going for the front desk because I have some liability concerns and I would love to know your thoughts.”
You are recruiting them as an active, I want to know what you think, kind of person, and that elevates them internally a little bit. Now it's not I'm in trouble for this thing. But it's, oh, she's asking me for my help and she wants to know what I think. And that is one of the first keys that you teach about unlocking that buy in feeling with the team. Right? You're taking someone who could be a detractor and you're getting them on board. And you're getting them excited about solving this problem together.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, yeah. Thanks for saying that. But that is absolutely it. And the reason I shouted out the manager at the beginning of the podcast is because since nothing bad has happened, I think you can pull this off pretty well. You can even say, “Nothing's happened. We are all in the clear as far as I know. But I'm having this concern. I want to talk to you guys about it.” And that just further takes it away from you screwed up. No, nothing has happened. I'm going to be upfront about that. But this is the thing where I'm having these concerns. I've seen this things. And what do you guys think about it?
One of the other tools that I really like about this is when you're sitting there with your pen and piece of paper, and you're trying to say, “What are the guidelines? What are the policies?” Coming up with some examples, some cases, and saying to yourself, “Okay. If the squinting dog calls, what do we do with that? Where does that go?” If the Yorkshire Terrier who's been in again and again and again for diarrhea calls, is it okay for me just to tell them to use the FortiFlora that they have at home? Or do I need to tell them to come in? And I think coming up with some cases of these types of phone calls that you worry about, and maybe some of them that you don't worry about, and come up with a list of some cases and some examples. And that's going to help you figure out where those lines are because if you're like, “I'm fine with them answering these questions, but not those questions,” once you know that, then you can dig in and say, “Well, what is it about these questions that makes them okay, that makes these other questions not okay?”
And then the last thing is that when you have that conversation with the front desk, you can say, “I've got some examples and I want to kind of run them by you guys and see what you would do with them.” And then give them the examples. This person calls and this is what they say, and this is the information that they give to you. What are you guys feeling about this case? How do you think that something like this should be handled? And just do it, I would do it as a small group discussion and low stakes. And just say, “I just want to kind of hear where you guys are,” and let them talk. Don't say, “What do you guys think? I'll tell you what I think. I think this should get referred to the doctors.” No, see where their heads are.

Stephanie Goss:
[inaudible 00:49:10] on your hands.

Dr. Andy Roark:
If they say something you do not agree with, don't say, “I don't agree,” say, “Tell me more about that. Tell me why that's your decision. Tell me why you feel that way.”

Stephanie Goss:
Help me understand.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Because now what I'm looking for is: What is the thought process that they're using to make this decision? Because if I say to them, “This is the case,” and they say, “Well, I would answer it.” And I say, “No, that's wrong, you'd send it back.” Next question.

Stephanie Goss:
They're going to shut down.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. They don't understand why.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. No, I think that's great. And the other thing too I think is, especially if you are a manager who came from the patient care side of the hospital, there is a whole big tangly, messy world at the front desk. And if you haven't done that job, the best thing that you can do is recruit them to help you understand and have them … Because I promise you, your list will not be inclusive of all of the variables that clients throw at the front desk all day, every day. If you don't have that perspective, if you are a manager who came from the front desk, you might be able to come up with all the scenarios yourself and you're really going to have to force yourself to do what you said and kind of sit on your hands and bite your tongue, and let them talk. And that is a really hard place to be, but force yourself to do it because the benefits you get from letting it come from them far outweigh you getting to share your idea.
And if you're in the middle, I think it's hard because you understand it from both sides, and that was the hardest for me. I had to tell myself sometimes ahead of time. Okay, there's duct tape on your mouth. Do not try and solve the problem. Let them do it. But I do think that there's those variables and the insight. And it never ceases to amaze me how even when I sit down, even after all this time with all of my experience, when I sit down and try and come up with the variables, how often the team still throws something out there that I'm like, “I wouldn't have even thought about that. That's fantastic.”
And so I think that there is huge value in letting them be a part of figuring it all out, from the process to: Where are those boundaries, to where are the areas of concern? Where are things breaking down? Where are we having trouble? Because they may be the first ones to point out to you, well, there's never a technician available when we need to ask those questions because we only have one, and they're in surgery. And so we're not quite sure because what we're doing now isn't working. But interrupting them in surgery isn't working, and so we feel like we can't win. You get those kind of details when you ask them, “Tell me more.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I really like that a lot. I think you go into this meeting. You do everything that we just sort of talked about. You take notes. You seek to understand. And then you say, “Thanks, guys. I'm going to go think about this. I think we've got really good ideas. I think I understand where you guys are coming from. I'm going to look at this a little bit and try to come up with some guidelines and a policy. And I'll be back and we'll go over them together.” And then step away and come up with your policy. What is your policy for front desk handling incoming phone calls? And try to give them some concrete guidelines. They don't have to be perfect, otherwise, you're going to have a telephone book of rules, if this, then that. And if this, that flowchart. No, just try to give them some basic guidelines.
And then bring it back to them and say, “Hey, guys. These are sort of the guidelines I came up with. What do you think about them? Do they make sense?” And then talk it through. And then the biggest thing is, I would set the expectation that this is, we're going to try this. And if it turns out that this is way too conservative and guys are not being able to answer basic questions, and things are getting to the techs that they don't need to be handling, we'll make some adjustments. And if you guys feel like, hey, I'm getting put in these positions, and by the guidelines, I should be handling this myself, but I'm not comfortable doing that, we'll make those adjustments. But we're going to start with this. These are our guidelines to get started, so let's commit to doing them and see how it goes. And we're going to start these at the end of this week. And give it to them.
And then just start to enforce the policies and enforce them gently, but clearly, and just sort of say, “Hey, this is what we're looking for. Hey, that's not the policy that we set. Come on, help me out.” And I would not set the policy and then start enforcing it with lead pipe cruelty. But I would enforce it. You can be gentle and consistent. And if someone continues to not follow the policies, now we're starting to have not a problem about what you're saying to the clients, but about the fact that we made this policy, we made it together, and you're not supporting the policy. You're not following the policy. And we're having this problem about a willingness to follow our practice, policies, and protocols. And then we would have that conversation, and that's a bit of a different conversation than you're not qualified to make this decisions. And so I think it's an easier conversation.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think in that ground that exists between figuring it out as a team and setting up this is where we're going to start and this is how we're going to approach it, I love how you laid that out. And looking at: How do you guys do your job really well and provide value? I think that often, that is where the F in the SAFE conversation becomes really clear for you as a manager because this is your opportunity to help them sink or swim. And a lot of times, we struggle with the training, and the true training, and the true strengthening of those protocols, and supporting. And a lot of times, there's a challenge like this, we'll talk about it as a team. And then because the craziness that happens day to day, and there's no bad intention here, but things fall through the cracks. Then we're like, “We did some training. We talked about it. We even did maybe some role playing on how we would answer these questions when they come in, but it was a one and done.” And then we don't have consistency in the follow through.
And to be able to expect, particularly new team members to actually learn from one and done is really a failure on our part. It's a place where I've failed as a manager repeatedly and that's honestly kind of why I'm bringing it up. But I think it's really important place for us to look at. What are we doing to set them up for success? Because if we don't look at it from that perspective and have a plan that goes beyond this one conversation or this one set of conversations, if we don't have a plan that includes training and consistency, then we are setting them up to fail.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I agree. Well, cool. I think that's all I got. You got anything else?

Stephanie Goss:
No, I think this is a fun place to end.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, cool. Well, thanks, guys. Thanks for tuning in. I hope that was helpful.

Stephanie Goss:
Take care, everybody.

Dr. Andy Roark:
See you, guys.

Stephanie Goss:
And that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. As always, thank you for spending some time out of your week with us. We really enjoy spending our time with you. And before we go, I just want to say a very big bottom of the heart thank you to some of our industry partners who help make our Uncharted events possible. In specific, we are heading into our April Uncharted conference. Can't wait to be together in Greenville. And we have some very special anchor club sponsors that I want to take a quick second to say thank you to. To our friends at Nutramax, Nationwide, CareCredit, Chewy Health, and Hills Pet Nutrition, thank you so much for being anchor club sponsors in 2023 and help making our April conference one of the best. Can't wait to see everybody in Greenville. Take care, everybody. See you next week.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: CSR, Information

Apr 05 2023

When You Hire Within, They Can’t ALL Get the Job

This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss are in the mailbag to tackle a question about what to do when you are hiring from within the team for a promotion. You might be thinking “this doesn't sound like a problem!?!?” Well, the challenge for this practice lies in the details. They had multiple team members who threw their name in to the ring for the job and they have chosen the one who they feel is the best fit. Which means it is time to let the one who was chosen know AND let the ones who were not chosen know what that means for them. This is a fantastic letter with great questions that we had a lot of fun discussing. Let's get into this…

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 224 – When You Hire Within, They Can't ALL Get The Job

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We want to hear about your challenges and would love to feature your scenario on the podcast.

Submit it here: unchartedvet.com/mailbag


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Episode Transcript

Stephanie:
Hey everybody, I am Stephanie Goss, and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast.
This week on the podcast, Andy and I are headed back to the mail bag. We got a great question this week from a hospital who is getting ready to promote a lead CSR from within their team. You might be thinking, Stephanie, this doesn't sound like a problem, this sounds like a great solution. In fact, it is. It also creates some problems because this practice had multiple team members who are interested in the position, had some qualifications and stepped forward to say, I would like to throw my name into the ring. So this practice looked at everybody, they did their interview process, and now they have chosen their candidate who they think would be the best fit for the job, and they are wondering how do we go about setting this person up for success, and how do we go about telling the people who don't get the job that they're not getting it and keep the peace? Great set of questions. Super excited to dive into this one. Let's get into it, shall we?

Speaker 2:
And now the Uncharted podcast.

Andy:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie, you're the one that I want, ooh, ooh, ooh. Goss.

Stephanie:
Oh.

Andy:
I think I nailed that. I think I nailed that one.

Stephanie:
You did nail that. That was great. I'm still irritated with you, but that was great.

Andy:
That was so funny. I did The old, we're not…

Stephanie:
Are you ready? Yes, I'm ready.

Andy:
Are we ready?

Stephanie:
No, I'm not actually ready.

Andy:
Let's go. It was a hundred percent that. Yeah.

Stephanie:
Oh, you're killing me. How's it going?

Andy:
Oh man, it's good. It is really good. It's really, really, really good. Guess what?

Stephanie:
Are you trying to convince yourself that it's really good, because that's what that sounds like?

Andy:
No. Something wonderful is settling in my brain. I was looking at our podcast numbers.

Stephanie:
Oh yeah?

Andy:
Just a moment ago. And we have a million plays on the Cone of Shame Podcast.

Stephanie:
Stop it.

Andy:
We hit a million plays. A million people have downloaded the other podcast onto their phones, and we have about 950,000 Uncharted plays.

Stephanie:
That is amazing.

Andy:
That means we are about to hit 2 million plays between the two podcasts that Uncharted runs.

Stephanie:
All right people, listen up. Here's your job. We need 50,000 downloads. Tell your friends.

Andy:
Start sending episodes to your friends.

Stephanie:
Oh my gosh, that's amazing.

Andy:
Honestly, if you stop and think about a million people listen to that podcast, and a million people, almost, have listened to this podcast, that's incredible. I don't look at the numbers a whole lot because, I don't know, at some point you do a good job and you do what you enjoy doing and you should check the numbers enough to make sure that you're on course. But living in there and looking at numbers all the time and wondering why people listen to one thing and not other things, that's not healthy. It's like posting things on Instagram and watching the likes come in. You go, this is no way to live.

Stephanie:
Well, it's still surreal to me, A, that people listen to you and I have conversations every week.

Andy:
I know.

Stephanie:
I mean, when I think about getting to a million plays with Uncharted, they're in the back of my head. I'm like, is this just Patty listening to us and downloading every episode like a hundred times? For those of you who are new, Patty's my mom, and she was our first loyal listener.

Andy:
She was the first subscriber that we had. The first dozen plays. It all came from Patty.

Stephanie:
But seriously, there is a part of me, and it's funny, I don't think it will ever go away from me. I think it's a little… like imposter syndrome is a real thing, but every time you and I go somewhere and people are like, “Oh my gosh, I listened to the podcast”, it is a very amazing and humbling experience for me every time. But also I appreciate that because it's still… I mean, I love what we do and it really just feels like you and I having a conversation in your basement, just not, it doesn't feel like work.

Andy:
We're in your closet. Yeah.

Stephanie:
Sitting in my closet having a conversation.

Andy:
It's like you and me cuddle together in your closet, is how it feels.

Stephanie:
Oh man. Okay. I am excited about this week's episode because we have a mailbag conversation. Speaking of people giving us nice compliments, we have a mailbag conversation this week and it started off with them saying, thank you so much for what you do on the podcast.

Andy:
Which is a pro-tip. If you want to get on the podcast, if you write us and tell us that we're great at the beginning, that's probably going to get on.

Stephanie:
Shut up. No, but it's funny because I get this more than any other feedback. I get this from people and I'm always amazed at the timing. The episodes just always seem to coincide with conversations. And I've had people tell me, “You know how you always say, I'm going to wonder, are they talking about my practice”? And I say that because it's a real thing.
And I also tell people, it's funny to me how many times you and I have something that is planned because of a mailbag conversation, and when we get to recording that episode, I can see parallels in our own business, about Uncharted, or I can see parallels in our community or in my personal life. And it's amazing to me how many times we talk about something and I'm like, “Oh, I really needed to actually hear that”, as we were talking about it. And so they gave us that feedback, and so thank you for saying that. And I recognize that because it happens to us too.
But this was a mailbag conversation about a situation that is occurring in a clinic where they have an opening for a floor lead position in their practice. And so they have multiple people on the team who have expressed interest in stepping up into a larger role, into a leadership role. And they have been working on developing multiple people and mentoring multiple people within the practice to try and grow them into leadership. And so up until this point, there was no clear front-runner. They all were doing a good job and they were trying to figure out who might be the best fit for this. And so they're at the point where they have to make a decision and one person has started to stand out as, I think this would be the best fit and the person that we could coach the best to be in this role.
And they are like, okay, now that we've identified who that person is, I don't want to upset or hurt the other people who have expressed interest because they're all a part of the team. And so their ask was, how do I approach this diplomatically, both in terms of telling the person who we're going to offer the position to, but also telling the others that they are not getting the position, because it feels very different than when you hire from the outside. You can just tell anybody like, “Hey, we went with another candidate and here's why”. And they were like, it feels different when it's internal, and so how do we manage this?

Andy:
It is different when it's internal. It's very, very different.

Stephanie:
It is.

Andy:
This is really hard. And I always try to take mailbag questions where they are and go from there and not be like, if we could go back in time, how would it? I'm just going to say here, if you're thinking about something like this and you're considering having multiple people inside go towards a role, you should be really intentional, really intentional about how you communicate and what you communicate. Because it can be very, very challenging to get multiple people inside your clinic excited about a role and then give it to one of them and not the others, and have those people who didn't get it continue to feel appreciated and engaged. There's a high risk that those people are going to be angry or be embarrassed because they feel like they competed and were less than.
And again, we don't want those emotions, but I think we can all imagine how we might feel those emotions. You know what I mean? It's not hard to empathize. And so whenever we start this process, the best thing is to have a lot of thoughts about what are we going to say and how are we going to say it and how we set clear expectations before we get started. Because once you're in it can be really hard to get out.

Stephanie:
That's so funny because that was at the very top of my action item list was, if you could go back in time and do this over, here's some things to think about, just in case maybe they already thought about them and maybe they don't apply in this situation. But definitely, I have something like that at the top of my list. And also I was thinking about headspace and how do we get into headspace about this? And you just said the three things that I thought of which are like, I think it would be impossible to look at this situation and not expect that there would be emotions, because it is personal. It is personal and professional development for each person, and so there will be some sort of emotion from each person.
And the reality is that there could be hurt emotions that come up because of disappointment, anger, frustration, or just feeling unappreciated, the things that you were talking about. And so recognizing the fact that there will probably be emotions. And so from a leader perspective, I think is really important to get into the headspace of… and you said empathy is critical here, and it's important to approach the conversations when you have them with empathy because the reality is we're all human and it sucks to hear that you… I hate to use the word win, but you didn't get the thing that you wanted and that sucks. And everybody's going to process that differently.

Andy:
Well, at some point it really does feel like you wanted a thing and you went for it and someone else got it. And so it shouldn't feel like they won and you lost. But it's really hard not to feel that way.

Stephanie:
Yeah.

Andy:
So headspace, I'm with you. This is a delicate situation. I think why people take it so hard is really important to think about because that is the path to trying to manage this.

Stephanie:
Yes.

Andy:
And so the reasons that people really take it hard, I think, is they get their self-worth tied up in this idea of my value is not as high as this other person's value and that's why I did not get picked for this thing. And their self-identity, they see themselves as either the person who didn't win or they believe that they are a leader and they don't have a leadership role and that bothers them, or they see themselves as being the boss and that's now not true. And there's incongruence there between how they see themselves or how they've come to see themselves or the ideal version of themselves and what's true. So that self-identity is a problem.
There's a thing about titles, and this definitely ties into self-worth, where some people take titles really seriously. And Stephanie's laughing really hard because I rant about this a lot.

Stephanie:
That sounds familiar.

Andy:
Sounds familiar. So here's my thing, I don't care about titles. I don't. I care about the work that people do and how they treat other people. That said, I have come to understand very clearly…

Stephanie:
Painfully.

Andy:
Other people do care about titles, and it means a lot to them. So again, I think that titles, I think they interface with people's self-confidence in a big way where people are like, if I had this title, I would be confident. I think they interface with self-worth of like, I've risen to this place or I have performed at this level, or I have this internal value. But titles really matter to people and people can get tied up in them.
And the last thing is a piece of advice that my old mentor used to give me. He would always say to me, Andy, don't fall in love with the idea. And that was a bad habit that I have. I've gotten a lot better. I've gotten a lot, lot better. This is an area I think I've really grown. But I used to get an idea and just fall passionately in love with the idea. The idea that I'm going to get this job or I'm going to do this thing or I'm going to go and work at this place. And I would love that idea. And then as more facts about the opportunity came to light, I was unable to see them clearly because I had romanticized this and decided this is what I must do. And if I had not done that, I could have looked more clear-eyed and said, “Wait a second, this deal's getting worse by the minute”. You know what I mean? And I'm going to play.
And I would say I got a lot better at it. I'd like to think I got a lot better at it because I got wiser. The truth is I got beaten up a lot, I've had a lot of scars and bruises from falling in love with an idea and taking a beating that I could have avoided had I been less emotionally attached and more clear-eyed about what I was walking into. And that's just a life lesson. But I do think a lot of times when you have things like this, people can fall in love with the idea.
It's funny, you can take people who didn't give a crap about being the team lead and talk to them about their potential and the opportunity that's there and you can get them to fall in love with it and be devastated about a thing that they never thought about before and didn't even really want when you first told them about it.

Stephanie:
Yes, yes.

Andy:
But people can come to love this, and then it really is this sort of emotional letdown, breakup sort of thing. So those are all the big things for me when we talk about this really is delicate. We need to empathize.
The second part of headspace for me that I really want to get into, is this idea that I just want to call out. I don't know if this is true here, but a lot of us crystallize roles and jobs in our mind, which means we had a head front desk person, her name was Stephanie, and she was amazing and these were all the things that she did. And now Stephanie has left, she's gone onto other places, she took a job with the CIA, she's undercover in Russia. She's doing things that I'm not allowed to talk about anymore. But just trust me when I say, wow, okay.
So Stephanie has gone on, she's no longer the lead of the front desk, she's doing these other things. Well, there is this innate bias, it's just this bias that we have that I need to find a replacement for Stephanie. That's what I need, is a replacement for Stephanie.

Stephanie:
Yes, yes.

Andy:
And it comes from this desire that we have to keep control and to keep consistency. And so we're like, “I need a clone of Stephanie to step into Stephanie's role”. And I see so many practices do that. They're like, “This is the role, we made it for this person, that person is no longer here. And so we're going to take someone who's not that person and we're going to shoehorn them into the role that we created for someone else”. And we're going to wonder why they're never as good as Stephanie was. And I just want to call that out up front and say, just because you have had one team lead in the past, or just because this was the job description of the team lead in the past, that does not necessarily mean that you need to have one team lead or that the team lead job description that you had for the last person needs to be what you applied to the new person.
It is a hundred percent, in bounds, legal and possible for you to look at the people that you were grooming and think about what a new system might look like that leverages the talent that you have. Because I guarantee you the three people you're looking at, they're not all the same. They have different strengths and they probably have different interests, and it may be possible to put all of them into positions to really shine. And this is just something that I have done again and again and again in my career. And you can see how this links up with my not caring that much about titles. Because I don't really care about titles. I really care about people kicking butt and taking names.
And so I'm much more open to say, you know what? We don't have a team lead in this case, we have co-leads and they have different responsibilities based on their strengths and interests, and this is how our co-leads function. And it's not as clean as saying this is the job description and a job description is always going to be, however, if you are able to manage it and willing to manage it, I do think this is a path to really grow people. And it's also going to let people really shine with their own strengths.
The downside is it means that your team is going to change because the team lead doesn't mean what it meant a year ago, it's a different position now and you're going to have to get people along and on board. So it takes more finesse and team leadership to have this. But the upsides to it is you can really engage more people and you can engage people specifically in the ways that they shine. And if you set people up so they're doing things that they like to do and that they do well at, they tend to stick around and they tend to continue to grow.
So anyway, I'm not saying that's what should happen, but I'm saying don't get caught in the crystallized idea that there's a glass slipper that the last person wore and I need someone else who can fit this exact glass slipper.

Stephanie:
I agree with you. And my thoughts on that piece have to do with the action plan, for sure.

Andy:
Okay. And the last thing I'm just going to say is, if you can, as much as you can, and this is hard, but as much as you can, start with the end in mind. What does this successful job applicant look like? What do they look like when they are installed into the role and they are comfortable and onboarded and when they are thriving in the role, what does that look like?

Stephanie:
Yes.

Andy:
Because if you know what that looks like, one, it will help you making your selection of candidates. But two… so it'll help you making your selection candidates, it will help you with your interview process because you know a lot more clearly what you're looking for and what's going to be important.
And then the last part is it's going to help you with your onboarding and training because you're going to say, I see who this person is and I also see the idealized version of the role. And now I can take the delta between those two things, break it up into steps and make a training program that makes sense, where I can intentionally get this person from where he is to where I want him to be. And I can put it on the calendar so I don't feel overwhelmed, but I can march this person from point A to point B, which is up and fully functioning, I can do that in a very intentional way. But in order to do that, you have to know what done looks like, what the outcome you want looks like. And I'll be honest and say, it's often really hard to do that. Do your best.

Stephanie:
How about we take a break because you're speaking my nerd language here and I want to talk about if we could rewind history, where do we start? Because what you were just talking about ties to my first action step thought, which has to do with job descriptions. Do you want to take a quick break and then come back and talk about action steps?

Andy:
Yeah, yeah. Let's take a break and then we'll do action steps. We'll do action steps, if we could go back in time, we'll do action steps for…

Stephanie:
How do we actually do the thing, how do we have the conversation?

Andy:
How do we do the thing, and then what I'd like, I got a little bit on how do we take the person who we chose and get them plugged in the best way possible as well. So we got three different sort of clumps of action steps. So let's take a break and let's get back and get into it.

Stephanie:
Sounds good.
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So I'm biting my tongue, sitting on my hands to not jump into the action steps the last 10 minutes because I was like, there's not a lot of head space here for me beyond the emotions. So if we could rewind and go back in time and say, this is our imaginary practice, how do we set ourselves up for success, action stepwise?
The first thing for me has to do with some of you were just talking about, about the clarity. And for me it is about the end in mind. What is the actual job description? And sometimes, like you were talking about in the earlier part of the episode, when you have a shift, when you have a change and Stephanie, the lead CSR, goes to work for the CIA and is now doing top secret things in Russia, when that happens, what is the role? What is the job? Is the job Stephanie was doing, the job that Stephanie was doing because it played to her strengths, or is it the job that we actually needed being done?
And so for me, the first step is what is the actual job description? What do we need to have happen? And this can be an opportunity to redefine and shake things up. And we experienced that as a team where we had someone who was doing a job and they did their job really, really well. And when they left the team, it gave us a good opportunity to say, do we need to keep doing the job the excellent way that this person was doing their job, or do we have a growth opportunity here and are there things that we also need done that would be better suited to a different candidate? And let's look at the candidates and evaluate the job that we think that we need now compared to the candidates, versus trying to find someone to fill that person's shoes.

Andy:
Thank you for saying that, because I think that's exactly true. That hire was really, really hard. And it was really, really hard, and it was because… and this steps back to before the break when I was talking about trying to see the end in mind. I really, really tried hard to see the end in mind, and so what I really looked at then is we had this really high-performing awesome rockstar who had another opportunity and they needed to take it, and they did need to take it. And so they went on, and so we had this hole, and I will tell you my immediate knee-jerk reaction was, we need to fill that hole.
But as I sat with it, I really pushed myself and said, okay, stop. Let's look at what all this person was doing and then let's look at what else we want to do as a company and other opportunities that we have and let's lay them all on the table. And so I would say, before you make the job description, you should come up with all the things you want to accomplish. And then those things are what make up the job description. Because I think if you just say, we're starting with a job description of what the last person had, you've already boxed yourself into the past in some way. And it may be a hundred percent that you say, nope, we don't have anything else that we want to do and this is what we need to do and this is just the job. But you should at least have that check.
So for us, we were growing rapidly and it became apparent that I could either try to find someone who had the same skillsets as this other person, who honestly was a unicorn. It was a unicorn to find another person who had this exact skillsets. Or I could say, let's step back and look at what we're trying to accomplish and how our company is growing. And it might be that we're going to add these new things into the mix and shift them around and we're going to have two new jobs.

Stephanie:
Right.

Andy:
You know what I mean? And they're each going to be part of what the other person did plus new things. And that's ultimately what we end up doing, and it really opened up our ability to hire other people, to bring people in, stuff like that. But that was very challenging to try to get my head around and lay out. But ultimately, it was so worth the effort of getting out of my head about what it meant to have that job and say, let's stop about what the job is, let's talk about what we need and then figure out how to take those needs and turn them into jobs. And we ended up making two jobs, but it worked really, really well. And I have been so happy with the people that we brought on and they have really flourished, and I feel like we got people into places where their strengths are really on display. But yeah, I completely agree with you going back in time and laying these things out.

Stephanie:
And I think in our experience as a company, the person who was on our team, they had strengths in editing and journalism, and at the time that they joined the team, that was the strength and the skillset that we needed. And then they grew and took on other stretch roles and started doing other things because they could do it and because we needed those holes filled, that doesn't mean that that was what the job meant to be. And so in that process of evaluating it, we also had the opportunity to look at their feedback of, hey, these are the things that are problematic and that maybe we could, when we look at it in depth, say, oh, hey, we want to go in this place, in this direction as a company, and here's an opportunity to use this feedback and say, “Oh, well, we were filling this role in this way because this person had a skillset”.

Andy:
Sure.

Stephanie:
But we could open our minds, and to your point, maybe we have two jobs. Maybe we still need somebody who has editorial talent, maybe we also need somebody who can do business pieces, because that was part of the stretch role. They went together because somebody stepped up and said, “I'll do the thing”. I've been in that role and I'll talk about myself as head CSR, Stephanie. I love teaching. It was a huge passion for me. And so when I was at the front desk, I did a lot of educational stuff for our clients, and I was in charge of, not really the marketing piece, but I created our bulletin board displays in the lobby for all of our marketing months and wrote client education pieces for our newsletter. Does my lead CSR need to do all of that? No.
We made that a portion of my job because I loved it and I was passionate about it, but at the end of the day, do I need the person in that specific role to fill that hole? I don't. Somebody else from the team might step up, or maybe we decide that we don't need to keep doing it because it's not as important of a part of our business as it once was. But it is an opportunity to look at all of those things through a clear lens, versus through the lens in the moment of this is the path, these are the decisions we made and why we made them, and look at it from a fresh perspective.
And so I think if I could have a magic wand and rewind time for this clinic, I would say, what is it that you actually need? What is the job? And the reason that I start with the job description, what is it that this role is actually going to be, has to do with all of the things we just talked about. But it also, for me, has to do with helping make the decision because the details of what we're looking for and why we're looking for it really matter.

Andy:
Yes.

Stephanie:
And that can help you with avoiding discrimination and biases in the selection process. And so if you don't already have a job description, if you're just like, well, we know we need somebody to lead, but you don't have a clear idea of what that actually means and the job that they're going to be asked to do, you have to start there.

Andy:
Yeah, I do agree with that. I think that that's really important as far as giving people opportunities and getting candidates that aren't the candidates you immediately think of a chance to shine. I think that's really important. We definitely have to get there.
I think you kind of reminded me of it. Think about all the jobs that you've had that started out as a clear job, and then they just metastasized as people were like, “Hey, we need somebody to run the snack room”, and “Hey, does anybody know how to do this thing with the graphic design software”? And you're like, “I mean, I can do it”. And so now you've got this strange accounting/HR/public relations job. Let's be honest about how people's jobs happen.

Stephanie:
Yes.

Andy:
It wasn't that strategic when you built it.

Stephanie:
No.

Andy:
And to now act like, this is what it has to be. I'm like, you have the weirdest hodgepodge of jobs stuffed together. And it's because that's what Stephanie who went to Russia could do. Those were her skills. And so again, chop that stuff up and reorganize it, but then to your point, it needs to go into a clear job description. I completely agree with that, and I hope it was clear when I was saying first start with what do we need to happen? And then take that into that description. But you're right, you need to get in that job description. Yes.

Stephanie:
Okay. Is there anything else, if we could rewind time, the job description piece of it was the big piece of it for me. There's one other piece. I think the other piece besides the job… if I could rewind time and maybe this clinic already did this, but when you're going to do an internal, I have made this mistake very painfully, which is why I'm going to talk about it. When you're going to do an internal promote potential situation, it is very important to have a process and guidelines for what you're going to do and how you're going to do it, and make that known to everyone involved. The candidates should have expectations for what the process is, how are they going to be evaluated, how are they going to be measured, what you're looking for. And that's why that job description is so important.
But I have made that mistake very painfully and emotionally of we know we need somebody to step into this leadership role, but we're not really clear what we're looking for. We know we want them to be able to have this skillset and this skillset, but beyond that, it could be really flexible. Going in the direction of creating the role for the person versus what is the actual role that we want, creates challenges in particular when you're internally promoting.
And so I think if I could rewind time, I would say make sure that you have a plan and that you're communicating that plan to the candidate so that they know we're going to have initial interviews and this is what we're going to talk about and this is what we're going to look at. And then we're going to do whatever comes next. Are they going to shadow you for a day because they're looking at management versus not having… whatever that looks like. What is your process, so that they know. And then what is the expectation about how you're going to make your decisions and what they can expect in terms of a timeline and a process and all of those things.

Andy:
Yeah, I have that in my, where do we go from here steps. But your point about laying those expectations down before you get started, I think you're absolutely right. I think you're absolutely right. And so when we shift into, where do we go from here, I'm going to go back across that area in a very similar way, but it all works much better if you set the expectations up front. I really like that.

Stephanie:
Anything else for you, if you could rewind time?

Andy:
No, I mean, if I could turn back time… I'm a Cher fan, as Stephanie Goss knows. I may not be as big a Cher fan as Stephanie Goss likes to believe that I am. Or I might be a bigger one.

Stephanie:
Or you might be a bigger one. I might get videos of Andy dancing to Cher in the supermarket.

Andy:
Oh, they play…

Stephanie:
He's got some hype music happening and there are videos that happen.

Andy:
I think of you, when I'm at the grocery store and I'm in Publix and Cher is on, first of all, the music of Publix is banging. I could go just drive around the Publix shopping center and listen to their soundtrack all day. But If I Could Turn Back Time was on the radio, and sent Stephanie a little video of me singing and then using a sausage as a microphone, and I sent it to her. Anyway. All right.

Stephanie:
Straight track.

Andy:
Okay. If I could turn back time, I would… I think I'd be good. I think we got it. All right. Cool. So let's talk about where we go from here. So we've got this thing, and now we come to the actual question that we were asked.

Stephanie:
We've just talked for a half hour about…

Andy:
At the 30-minute mark, we're in this, and now we come to the question, which is, what do we do here? The big thing is clear is kind. Clear is kind. Say it, be empathetic, be kind. Yes. Be empathetic, be kind, be supportive, go slow. But most of all, be clear and honest and just let them know what is happening. And let them know why it's happening. But the first thing you need to say is when the decision is made, you need to talk to the other candidates first because you don't want them to find it out from somewhere else.

Stephanie:
Thank you. Yes.

Andy:
You need to bring them in and you need to tell them this is the decision that has been made, and start with that.

Stephanie:
Yep, I agree. So step one for me was make a plan, because everybody has to hear about it at the same time, or you're going to open yourself up for gossip and drama in your practice. So you can't tell the person who is getting the job and then wait a week to talk to the other people. That kind of gap creates drama that you want to avoid at all costs. So there has to be a plan and everybody has to hear it, to your point, clear is kind. But hear it in the same timing.

Andy:
Yep. I would say…

Stephanie:
Oh, go ahead.

Andy:
No, I was going to say, so in that conversation, clear is kind. You always say give people space to be human, and I always like that phrase a lot. There's probably going to be tears and there's probably going to be people who are very upset, and I want to be supported. Of course there is, because it's funny, even people who didn't really want it that much when they hear that they didn't get it hits like a hammer.

Stephanie:
Yes.

Andy:
It hits you in the chest and it's hard. It's really hard. And so just recognize and expect that that's probably what's going to happen. I would not expect to have a huge conversation with people because if they just got bad news, they probably don't want to sit and talk to you a whole lot. So give them space to be human. Let them know, tell them what was great that they did and what they do. Tell them that you want to keep them at the practice and you think there's going to be other opportunities for them, and only say it if it's true. But there's other opportunities and there's ways that we want to continue to work and grow with you. And tell them that if and when they're ready, if they would like to review the application and talk about what they did well and where they could grow for a leadership role, that you are open to doing that.
And I would not try to have that feedback conversation at the same time I broke the news to them. I would be ready to have it, but I would try not to have it. I would try to tell them that… clear is kind, tell them what happened, give them some time to process it. Tell them that they had plenty of strengths. Let them know that you want them to continue to stay and that you think that they can continue to develop in your practice and you want to try to make that happen. And then tell them that when they're ready, you can go through the evaluation of the interview process and you'd be happy to give them feedback on their interview. And then I would be done.

Stephanie:
Okay. I agree with that. It's funny, it's like you and I have worked together for six years at this point, because my next step was, do it face-to-face and let them be human. Because here's the thing, you're not wrong, there are going to be emotions. And there have been times where, to your point, I fell in love with an idea, and when I stepped back, I wasn't actually in love with the idea. But I still was massively disappointed when the thing didn't come to fruition. And with hindsight, was able to see, oh, okay, I didn't actually want this anyways, I just fell in love with the idea. But in the moment, there was frustration and tears and disappointment, and give them the space to be human.
And I think as a manager, the other piece that I will tack onto that is, when people are being human, you need to be able to control your emotions because it is very easy in this conversation as a leader, to over empathize. And I am one of those people where I am a reactionary puker, but I'm also a reactionary crier. And so if someone starts crying, I have to actively work to not… it is a physical response, and I have to actively work to overcome that. And so if you are someone who tends to get sucked into emotions, and/or, if you are a leader and you're in the position of telling somebody that you have a friendship with or a closer relationship with that they didn't get the job, you were going to have to work extra hard to be human, but not too human. Because it can be really easy to fall into the commiseration trap and over empathize and say things or do things that you might not want to say.

Andy:
Sure. Yeah. And I think related that too, I think you should be upfront about the decision. There's the people who try to soften the blow, and so they dance all around. It's like, no, just…

Stephanie:
Nope, just say it. Rip the bandaid.

Andy:
Just tell them. Yeah, just rip the bandaid off and just kindly tell them.

Stephanie:
Kindly, and clear is kind.

Andy:
Oh, yeah. Absolutely. Empathetic and kindly too. I mean, you can do both of those things. You can be upfront and clear and kind about what the decision was.

Stephanie:
Yeah.

Andy:
No, I think that's true. It is funny, to your point, I have literally told people, “You did not want this job. This was not… I know you applied for this, you would not have…”

Stephanie:
I believe you've actually told me that.

Andy:
Yeah. I think I've told you. I've done it more than once. And again, you have to be careful with that too, because I'm not trying to be condescending and say, I know better than you. But in another way, sometimes there are people and you say, “You are a beautiful dolphin. You don't want this job that involves climbing trees. You don't want it. You're not going to like it. You're not going to be good at it. But you have such a beautiful, wonderful set of skills”. It's not a personal thing. It's not a self-worth thing. It's a, this is not a good fit for you, I don't think.

Stephanie:
So I love your point about keeping it short. There are some people who are self-aware and could have the step two of that conversation in the context of the same conversation. There are some people who would be like, “Okay, I'm bummed”, but you might have somebody on your team who then would say, “Can you tell me what I could have done differently”? Or ask for the feedback. There are people who are self-aware. So being prepared to have that conversation is really important. And I would prep for that ahead of the conversation so that if it does go there, great. But also recognizing people need to be human, and sometimes people need to process.
And so for me, I love this piece of it, and I think it's so important because developmentally we want to talk to them about why we considered them in the first place. And that's your point about the dolphin. What are those things that made them stand out? Why did you consider them? What is the positive? What are the things that they're great at? What are their skillsets? And then what are the areas of opportunity for them for growth? It has nothing to do with you're not doing this well or you're not doing it right. Sometimes it's, you haven't had any experience with supervisory positions before, and one of the other candidates on the team did, and so we need somebody who has some supervisory capacity. And so while I think you could do great in this role, right now, that was the edge. And so then it becomes a developmental conversation about here's a piece that was needed, here are things you could do to gain experience in that area without stepping into this role. And then it becomes about what they can do to grow and develop themselves.
And I think your part about asking a dolphin to… They didn't really want a job that involved climbing trees because don't ask a dolphin to climb a tree. I want to ask them what they want and why they wanted it. Tell me why you thought you wanted that job. Because ultimately, they may not be disappointed. The reason for their disappointment or sadness or frustration or anger at not getting the job might have nothing to do with the job itself. It may be they wanted the job because it came with a pay increase and that they're in a situation where they need to increase their pay or they might have to leave the practice.
That's a completely different conversation, developmentally, than you didn't get this job. If I know that as a manager, I might still be able to help in that situation. And so part two for me is, what do they want and why did they want it? Because the developmental plan is going to be most successful when it's coming from them. And so if they tell me they want to be a leader, or they tell me they want to be in a position that has different hours because their current schedule is a big conflict for picking their kid up at daycare. That's a completely different conversation than the conversation about they're disappointed because they desperately wanted this specific job for these specific reasons.
And I think being prepared to have that conversation and evolve it into who are they as a person, what do they do really well, where are the opportunities for them to continue to grow, and what does a plan for them to move forward look like for you. And I love that you said, let them know what the future potential is. You want to make sure you're not setting a developmental plan that has false hope or false promises. So it's like, hey, look, there are opportunities for you and let's work on these things. But be very careful to… I've watched managers make this mistake where it's, “Oh, the next time we have a promotion, you're next in line”. Don't say that.

Andy:
Yeah, don't say that. Yeah.

Stephanie:
Because things could change. And so finding out what they want and why they want it.

Andy:
Well, I know why people say that, right? They're trying to cushion the blow.

Stephanie:
Yes.

Andy:
And they're like, “Oh, but you're next”.

Stephanie:
Absolutely.

Andy:
And then the world changes, and then you are going to regret having said that, so yeah, that's exactly the stuff that I have learned. The other reason I think that these conversations can be so hard, and this is kind of a little bit of a paradigm shift, but I think a lot of people really want these jobs, even though when you actually get into what is the job, they're like, “I don't want to do any of that”.
But it's because there's such limited upward mobility in so many parts of the practice where there's a lot of people who believe. And in a lot of practices, it's true that the only step upward, as far as development, responsibility, compensation for the CSR is the lead CSR job. And you say, “But you would hate it”. And they would say, “But it's the only developmental opportunity, pay bump, chance to do something different that I am going to have here. And if I don't get it and someone else gets it, then the clock on me being able to do something different to make any sort of an upward move just resets”.
And I think that that's really sad, it goes all the way back around to my beginning statement when I just said, just because this is the way we've always done it in the past, doesn't mean it's the way we have to do it now. I really am a big fan of trying to figure out lots of different developmental opportunities. Maybe they're smaller, but they're more spread out so more people can get them. I think as a profession, we need to continue to work to not put such a hard ceiling on the opportunities for development for people, so when there's one job that's a bad fit for them opens up, they feel like they desperately need to get it. And I go, that's not good. So anyway.

Stephanie:
Absolutely. I love that you said that. That is a huge passion soapbox for me. The ability to create outward opportunity and not just upward opportunity is so important, and I think that it's a trick we miss. And to your point, if you really step back and think about it, there are probably at least a dozen, if not a hundred, different things in your practice that could be areas of opportunity of ownership for someone. It doesn't have to be about a title, doesn't have to be about positional power. For most people, development is about ownership and about growth, and there are endless opportunities for that. And it is something that we over overlook. And so I love that you brought that up.

Andy:
Yeah. So let's talk real quick about, we've made this selection, let's talk about setting the person we selected up for success. Can we do that?

Stephanie:
Okay. Yep.

Andy:
So got just got three quick ones, because I do think this is important. I have seen a number of times people make a promotion like this or make a hire like this, and they're like, great, you're the one, good luck. By the way, there's a couple really angry people you're going to be working with.

Stephanie:
Right. Now you have to supervise.

Andy:
I wouldn't leave my lunch unsupervised. They say something like that, and then they let them go. And I go, that's terrible. So you picked your person, obviously you should do the things that we recommended as far as breaking the news to the other people. After that, make sure you have a good onboarding program to get this person up to being the person that you imagined them being. Remember, when we imagined what a fully functional person in this role, well-supported, well-trained looks like? What was that? And then what are the steps we need to take to get them to that place? And that's your training program. That's your onboarding program.
So make sure that you've got an intentional way of getting this person up and going, because one thing that you don't want is to have a couple people in your organization all go for a job and one person gets it, and then they struggle in that role because that opens the door up to criticism, I told you so. Why did that person get it and I didn't get it? You want them to hit the ground running and start to make some strides, and you want them to get wins under their belt very quickly. Because often that will put this issue behind you, and so make sure that you have a plan to onboard them and to get them some wins under their belt.
So that's the first part for me, show full support of this person. So it sounds like with our mailbag writer, there were a number of different stakeholders in the decision who all sort of came together about who they were going to choose. There is no mixed decisions anymore. Once that decision is made, all the stakeholders need to get on board and get united and get behind this person and support this person in that role.

Stephanie:
Yes. We can't be behind the scenes, well, I didn't agree with it, but we made a decision anyways.

Andy:
I've seen that. I know you've seen that.

Stephanie:
Yep. You're just separating them.

Andy:
Yeah, exactly right. You're making this worse and it will fester, and nope, everybody needs to come together behind this person as they pick up some wins. And then the last thing is you need to own your role in any tension. And so if there's some resentment, if there's tension, do not put it on the new person that you elevated to figure it out. You were there, you ran the interviews, you did these things. You need to own the fact that you may have had a role in creating any sort of tension or competitiveness, and you need to take a lot of responsibility in resolving that and getting things back to normal. It's just amazing how many times I've seen people be like, well, that was messy. Well, we've made the decision. Let's see how he does. And then they wash their hands. And I'm like, that's not okay.
And again, at this point, this is all about stabilizing the ship now and making everybody just accept what has happened and understand that there's no going back and this is not a wishy-washy decision that might change. Nope, we're in this, this is where we're going. And the people who were involved in running the process need to own any tension that comes from it and try to protect the new person from having to deal with that tension. Because again, the thing that will make this most in the rearview mirror is that person having success and starting to move forward and move the practice forward.

Stephanie:
Yeah, I love it. Oh man, this was fun.

Andy:
This was a good one. This was super fun.

Stephanie:
I think that's it. You got anything else?

Andy:
No, that that's all I brought.

Stephanie:
Oh, man. I hope this was helpful, maybe, to our mailbag writer, or to some of you facing this kind of decision. Have a great week, everybody.

Andy:
Have a great week, everybody.

Stephanie:
I was like, is there anything else? Nope, that's it. Have a great week. Take care of yourself, gang.

Andy:
All right. See you everybody.

Stephanie:
Bye.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: hiring, management

Mar 29 2023

Will Pet Insurance Be Like Health Insurance (i.e. Broken)?

This week on the podcast…

Alison Lambert joins Dr. Andy Roark to discuss what can be learned about pet insurance in the United States from pet insurance in the UK and Australia. Both the UK and Australia have traditionally had much greater utilization of pet insurance by pet owners, and as a result, pet insurance in those countries looks quite a bit different than it does in the US. Now, as the market for pet insurance in the United States grows by leaps and bounds, what changes can we expect as more and more pet owners acquire insurance?

ABOUT OUR GUEST:

Alison Lambert is a proven business leader having created an award-winning business from scratch. Seeing a niche and creating innovative products and services that have created real change in a conservative business sector, Alison has led the Onswitch team to become the brand leader in their sector in a challenging economic climate and with a very conservative profession.

Alison has coached start-ups and mature businesses to business improvement and has a certain way of enabling change in even the most “traditional” of characters. At the beginning of her business career, Alison spent time coaching non-Vet sector businesses ranging from Anglian Water to Norwich Union now Aviva. Prior to starting her own business. Alison spent 10 years in FMCG with MARS and Colgate Palmolive. Alison is Honorary Associate Professor in Business at Nottingham Vet School and was awarded the Australian Veterinary Association inaugural “Business Thought Leadership” award in 2019 and the RCVS Impact Award in 2021

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 999 – Will Pet Insurance Be Like Health Insurance (i.e. Broken)?

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Episode Transcript

Dr. Andy Roark:

This episode is brought to you ad-free by our friends at CareCredit. Welcome everybody to the Uncharted Veterinary Podcast. I am your host, Dr. Andy Roark. Guys, I got a great one here today with the one and only Dr. Alison Lambert. Guys, if you don't know Alison, you are in for a treat. I love my conversations with her. She's a dear, dear friend of mine as you're going to hear us talk about. We go way back, we've had many adventures together. She's just fantastic. She is a veterinarian. She's a veterinarian in the United Kingdom. She runs a company and started a company called Onswitch, which is an award-winning customer experience company. So she helps practices with their customer service that they deliver to pet owners and potential clients. And she's amazing. You guys should check out Onswitch if you have not heard of it before.

Anyway, her experience with customer service has interfaced her a lot with pet insurance, and so she has a lot of experience with pet insurance in the United Kingdom. And we talk all about it. As you'll hear, she has feelings, she has opinions, and she's willing to share them. And I am here for it, and so I hope you guys will be too. One thing I want to make super clear in this episode, Alison is a veterinarian in the United Kingdom. She is not a veterinarian in the United States. She's never been a veterinarian in the United States. And so when she talks about pet insurance and we're talking about it, she's specifically talking about pet insurance in the UK, where market uptake is much higher than in the US. And this is why I want to talk to her, because my point in this episode is I want to understand what the future looks like.

What does it look like if we get 25% of pet owners onto pet insurance? What is that? How does that work? How is that different from where we are now? And I'm really digging into this to say pet insurance in the UK has always had much more traction than it has in the US. But we're moving in that direction and pet insurance usage in the US is climbing up. And so this is really me trying to peer into the crystal ball, talk to my friend who has seen a different reality of pet insurance than I have, and to start to draw some pictures about what pet insurance in the United States might look like in the future and what pitfalls there are and what wonderful benefits there could be. Guys, when we talk about pet insurance, we often think about health insurance, and the experience of physicians with health insurance in the United States has not been great.

And I want us to think about what that looks like. And I want us to make good intentional choices as a profession, as doctors, as healthcare providers, about how we interface with pet insurance. And so guys, this is my intention with this episode. I think you're really going to enjoy it. I love this episode. I got a lot out of it. It is going to make you think. I got to say real quick upfront, views expressed by our guests on the Uncharted Podcast are their own, and their appearance on the program doesn't imply any endorsement of them or any entity that they represent. I always got to say that, especially when we start talking about insurance, things like that. Gang, let's get into this episode.

Speaker 2:

And now, the Uncharted Podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Welcome to the podcast. Alison Lambert, thanks for being here.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

It's delightful to be here on a freezing cold day in the UK.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Oh yeah. We are having our annual meeting early. Generally, you and I have a cup of tea in Orlando in January and we're going to just talk a little bit earlier this year. So this is brightening my day.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Those cups of tea in Orlando are particularly dire, quite frankly, because I think the concept of tea requires a tea pot, tea leaves and some preparation and just some moments of reflective time. And that isn't Orlando and tea. So there we go. But it's good to see you. And it's freezing.

Dr. Andy Roark:

It's good to see you as well. For those people who don't know you, you are a business consultant based in the UK. Your company is called Onswitch. You do all sorts of things across the UK and Australia. You are sort of a multinational communication and consulting, marketing, strategy.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

I'm an individual conglomerate, if there is such a thing, if that's not an oxymoron. We'll debate that one later.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I met you years ago. There was a time that I was on Twitter and it was years ago. And I think you were the best thing that happened to me on Twitter. You and a couple other people were people that I met, I think, through Twitter.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Wow. That's a long time ago.

Dr. Andy Roark:

And then we met in person at… I know. Twitter's a cesspool. But way back then. And then we met at VMX and our friendship has rolled on through the years to the point that pre-pandemic I came to your house.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Yes. This very house here.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Your house is older than my country.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Correct.

Dr. Andy Roark:

And I came there and visited with you and your husband Donald. And for people who haven't been to Alison's house, and there's some of you out there, it is-

Dr. Alison Lambert:

There are some left.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Exactly. It is what you imagine the traditional English house to be. It is older than our country, it is beautiful stone. And we stayed there and we went, we left and we walked through town past the stone walls and houses to the pub. And we walked in and the whole town was there.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

The town.

Dr. Andy Roark:

The town, the village.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Yes, you had too many beers that night if I remember rightly.

Dr. Andy Roark:

That's possible. It's possible.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

It's possible.

Dr. Andy Roark:

It is exactly the pub experience that you're imagining. It was magical. It's a warm memory of mine, so thank you for that.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

But I also recall a time in Barcelona as well where it all went a little bit awry. Without going into… At the top of that building and dinner. But we won't go there.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Okay. Let me just say that you see me when I'm doing international travel. And that's not representative of how I am at the vet clinic. That's a different thing.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Different person.

Dr. Andy Roark:

It is basically a different person. Okay. Here's what I want to talk to you… Changing the subject radically.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Really quickly.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Here's what I want to talk to you about. Yeah, exactly. Before this goes any farther, what I want to talk to you about, I want to talk to you about pet insurance. And the reason I want to talk to you about that is you and I have had a rolling conversation about pet insurance for years. And the reason is because you work in the UK and Australia and the insurance culture, especially around pet insurance, is very, very different than it is here in the US. And so I think I'm going to go ahead and open up and provide some context to the discussion I want to get into by saying to you, can you tell me the story of pet insurance in the UK and what that's looked like over the last five to 10 years?

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Yeah, it's a really important geopolitical positioning for pet insurance. We do need to just go, look, here's a tiny little island, the UK. Then there's Europe, which has Scandinavia, which has a very strong insurance culture. And then Australia's over there. Keep going, go right, go right, drop down a bit. 24 hours later there's Australia. And we have different insurance approaches and different insurance penetration. So the country that has nailed pet insurance historically is actually Sweden. The Scandinavian Nordic bloc have a very high uptake of pet insurance because it came from a very collaborative relationship with the kennel clubs, where it was to do the right thing. We want to do the right thing by our pets, therefore we'll find a way of enabling interventional pet care to happen in a way that makes it affordable for everybody and sustainable as well. So you're looking at 70, 80% of pets insured in that bloc of Northern Europe.

That's massive, that's the biggest in the world by miles. Then you come to the UK and we did our own version. We didn't copy what was working in Northern Europe, we kind of did our own thing. And it started with Petplan as a group then, when nobody did pet insurance. So somebody started, Patsy Bloom started it because she needed something for her own dogs. So there was a historical heritage position, which you're familiar with I'm sure. And it became a very veterinary introduced, that the conversation was started at the vets and the vets saw it was a good thing for people. And that kind of evolved to where we now have at the last count probably, I don't know, 350 insurance policies out there. And you can get pet insurance from the supermarkets, the garage forecourts, through your own health insurance, your house insurance.

It's part of a multi-book play. So have your house insured, get your travel insurance, get your dog insured. It's part of everybody's insurance bucket. But there are still some pet insurance-only players, fewer of them, but they're still there. So now insurance is, pet insurance, it just is. So we're allegedly somewhere between, I don't know, 30, 35% of pets are insured in the UK. But we'll come to that, because who knows whether they are or they aren't? We know that 3.7 million people bought insurance last year. We know that; that's the number of policy holders. We know the number of policy holders, but we don't know how many dogs there are in Britain, we don't know how many cats there are in Britain, so we're guessing the pet percentage. But we know 3.7 million people do have a policy. That is an absolute, because that's the Association of British Insurers, that's public data. So we know that one.

Our history, if you look at Australia, Australia are 5% insurance maximally. So they're in a very similar position to you guys. It's not yet happened. And they're catching up quite quickly as a newer generation of in COVID pet ownership happened. The people who took pets out in COVID were younger, did their research and decided insurance was necessary. So we've had a spike of uptake. So that's happening in Australia, it's happened here, it may well have happened in the US as well. So insurance for us has become… It started as interested, motivated people in the kennel club in Northern Europe, and then the vets in the UK embraced it because they saw the good in it. So that's the heritage position, I suppose. That's where we came from.

But we're small, remember? One single veterinary organization, one single group of people in Northern Europe that were like, we are the vets of Sweden, we'll do it this way. We are the vets of Britain, we'll do it that way. So there wasn't the herding of cats with states and jurisdictions and boards. And so it's a smaller group of people to influence. They're influenceable because they go to one conference. There aren't multiple conferences. I think that's why we started differently, to be fair. But where we are now is crazy.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Okay. [inaudible 00:10:39] crazy. So hold on, I'm looking at global pet insurance rates, and we're looking at 16.7% increase projected global pet insurance rates for 2022 to 2030. And then I can say in the US we've seen the number of pet insurance policies double in the last four years. It was up 28% in 2021 over 2020. And so we're seeing really rapid growth. When you say things have gone crazy, is that what you mean?

Dr. Alison Lambert:

No, not particularly. We've had a 4% uptake on numbers of policies and gone back up. Our policy numbers were dropping pre-COVID. We weren't doing this, we were kind of going, oh, we got to that point, but it spiked back up because of COVID. So 16% uplift in the UK would be an astonishing number, and I would not anticipate that that is the case. So how many policies is that then? I mean, percentages, it could be a hundred percent of one, or a hundred percent on a million. How many written policies are there in the US?

Dr. Andy Roark:

I didn't write that down. I don't know. I did, I was so proud of myself for doing research ahead of the podcast and then you ask me a question, I'm like, [inaudible 00:11:55]. You can see the depth of my research was I was like, pet insurance policies are getting much more common. I'm learning, I'm learning.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

That's so shallow. No, but the reason why, it's, oh, the listeners, really, I mean, I ask you. But the thing about data, or data, depending on how you say it, is 3.7 million people have pet insurance in the UK; we're a population of 65 million. So the number is, if that goes up by 20%, that's a big old chunk. Is that likely? No. Is it likely to stabilize and go down? It's likely to go down. We've got cost of living issues. People are seeing premiums go up and up and up and up, versus the payout. And they're going, I might as well just put the money in the bank. And self-insurance is now a thing. So early stage growth is easy. We had 100 policies last year and now we've got 116 policies will be 16% growth. So the numbers matter. The numbers matter. As Andy frantically Googles whilst talking to me.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I am, I'm frantically Googling.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

I know, I can tell. I can tell. But the key to it, though, isn't… It's going to get more because you've got so few. You're going to be more, aren't you? The question is how you get more and what you do with more. And that's the bit that we've discussed over the years around the answer to the veterinary clients can't pay their bills is insurance is a falsehood, because just because they've got insurance doesn't make your life easier as a clinic owner. It enables a patient to get the care, but with it higher insurance caseload brings other things.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Okay. Okay. All right. So let me unpack this. So first of all, 3.9 million is the answer to how many policies are in the US, so 3.9 million in 2022. But you have a much smaller country so just a much higher percentage. So it penetrates a lot more. Okay, hold on. So I want to approach this in an organized way.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

I should write that down so I remember that later.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I'll record it and you can listen back to it. There's a thing I do, so I can let you hear it.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

You should do that for a living.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Okay, let's unpack this in organized way. So you guys have had much higher percentage of people, pet owners with pet insurance for a long time.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Let's lay this out and just sort of think about it. What is the good part of this? So Alison, help me see, I always like to start with a positive. What's the good part of having a higher percentage of pet owners insured for practice? What does that get me?

Dr. Alison Lambert:

When we look at this, if a pet is insured, and when we break it down and we don't have time and head space to do it quite now, but for new puppies, new kittens, start of life, there's a higher uptake of that insurance because I want to do the right thing. So we start off on the right foot, particularly if there's breed disposition. So I've got a Westie or I've got a dachshund, the likelihood is there's going to be a thing I need to look after at some stage. With insurance in place, it enables a relaxed approach to plannable care from things like we need to do some investigations or some bloods, he's not well. So we take away the stressor of can I afford it, should I afford it, can I talk about it? So the vet teams have different conversations. The owners also have different conversations.

But what it doesn't do is directly mean that you as a vet in practice can certainly say, well, I'll charge more for everything, or I will do more of everything than I used to do, because I do good medicine now. So does insurance fundamentally change the fact that I do good medicine or not good medicine? The danger is that we start doing everything, whether it's needed or not is a debate. But there's a more, there's a lot [inaudible 00:15:51]. So where we would've maybe done an ultrasound and some imaging, we might now do a CT, so everybody wants CT, when actually we didn't need CT last week but now we do. So there's a plethora of potential. And the owners are going, hang on a minute, I've got this so I can afford care. Now you're spending all of this, I might still need to go to specialty, and I've got a limit of 5,000 pounds, $10,000, whatever it might be.

And it's all gone. And the bit I wanted it for was a bit that I know I can't fund, I could have funded that. So people go, hang on, this works when we are open about the insurance is there for that owner to be able to pay for the care that their pet needs. It's not the golden goose that's going to lay that golden egg for you as a practice owner to say, right, now I make money. That's not what necessarily has happened, but for some pockets, it changes the dynamic of they're insured so it doesn't matter, we won't have the conversation. They're insured so we don't need to discuss this. They're insured so that doesn't need to happen. The owner still needs to know what's happening. They still need to understand the rationale and they still need to understand that, do you know what? I've got insurance so I can choose to pay.

I might not use my insurance. I might put it on a credit card this month because it might affect my excess or my premium next year. So the very fact of being insured is there to help that patient get the care they need. It's not there to enable those folks who've maybe gone, we can charge more for stuff and do more stuff for this patient because it is insured. Whereas the dog in the kennel next door isn't insured, gets a different approach to the medicine. Still both find medicine. But I think that's been a kind of subconscious belief system that for some, not all, but for some, that because they're insured, we don't need to have the open, transparent conversations. And that creates barriers and those barriers don't go away.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I don't know that it was subconscious, Alison. I mean, I remember years ago, pet insurance companies would say, “Hey, if you get your pet owners on pet insurance, then basically you can do what you want and you can practice the medicine that you want.” I think the pet insurance companies kind of put themselves in a hard space, I think early on. This is 10 years ago. [inaudible 00:18:11]

Dr. Alison Lambert:

And maybe that's when we started having this conversation, where I was watching this happening, saying, “Do this, do this and then you can do that.” And it's like, no, no, no, no, no. It's an enabler of care. It is not the solution to your practice finances. And that's when we first started, I think, debating the tonality. I've just said what I've said with reference to the UK, which is we are at this 25, 30, 35% of pets are insured. And it's a stable number, it works. Could it be more? In some practices it may be 50, 60, 70% because they say, “Look, if you're not insured you can't afford to come here. We insist on it.”

Some practices have gone that route. Others have gone, we don't talk about it at all. They might be at 15% insured. Demography, regional variations, there's all sorts of overlays on this. But insurance is there for that pet. It's there for them to get what their owners wish to choose to do. Whether they use insurance or not's a different question, and lots of people choose not to use it because of the fear of the premium change.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Yeah. This is why it's so interesting talking to you, because you and I had these conversations early on. And the messaging in the US had been very much, get your pet owners on pet insurance and then you'll be able to practice the medicine that you want. And now you are seeing increasing numbers in the US pretty substantially, the COVID pet owners. I think, and I actually looked at what's driving these numbers, some of it is connection to the pet, human-animal bond, increased number of pets, people working at home so they're more attuned to their pet and they're more concerned about things that happen to their pet. I think a big part of it is that employers now are really leaning into pet insurance as an employment perk. We're starting to see some of the offerings that you were talking about earlier of, hey, I can get this as part of my home insurance package or my car insurance package.

And that visibility directly to pet owners just didn't exist in the past. And so now we're seeing the numbers of policies going up. And it seems to me, and what I really want to talk to you about was, there's a time coming when the pet insurance companies are going to start looking at their numbers and saying, this model of someone has pet insurance and we just pay for everything forever at the highest standard of care, it's just not going to fly. I just don't see how that happens. And so when I talk to you and you say, “No, in the UK we have this high level of penetration, and there are caps on the amount that people can draw and there are constraints we have to work inside of,” that fundamentally makes sense for me about how the system can work going forward. And so that's what I wanted to explore and hear more about from you.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

The sustainability, we have to talk about sustainability. Sustainability of the entire event. Your business model is a discussion for another day, but the sustainability of a pet insurance product that the pet owner purchases, then repurchases and recommends to their friends, has to do what it says on the tin. Get a pet insurance, don't worry about those big ticket items. If your dog is hit by a car, if your dog is bitten by a snake, if your dog gets a long-term condition, diabetes, whatever, it's relax. You can fund the care, makes the care possible and affordable. What it doesn't have to be is it pays for everything, it just makes the affordability piece work. It may cover all of it, but there'll always be an excess. There'll always be an element that isn't covered. Directed care is their way of making it sustainable. There's only so much money in the pot.

But it's also got to be predictable, and the actuarial data is we pay out for a lot of very predictable things, orthopedic procedures being one of them. If you want a certain hospital or a certain person, you fund the top up. And that's reality now. We've had that now for several years because we had to have, otherwise we would've literally killed goose that laid the golden egg. You can't push. And this is when we started having these like, ooh, just the tonality here, this conversation, it's the savior of the veterinary business model. No, it's the savior of the patient who is hit with a car and the owner's going, euthanasia or a tree. “Oh, I've got insurance, I can go ahead.” But there's a cap and it has to be capped in places which are predictable and known upfront. So my policy, which I've got a cat, Shammy, and a dog, Cato, five-year-old Labrador and a 12-year-old Tonkinese. I've got it for, I need a big thing, a big, big thing.

And that is where insurance is just like home insurance or car insurance. Some stuff you claim on, some stuff you don't. If you claim on everything, at a higher price point, without capping, you kill the golden goose. And that's what I was hearing at conference, and that's why we started talking. It's like, we've got to moderate this as a… It's a thing that helps an owner pay for patient care. And you as a practice can choose your pricing and your marketing and do what you want with it. But some people self-pay, some people don't need insurance. Some people self-pay, it's fine. We've got referral specialty centers that don't rely on insurance and we've got referral specialty centers who are entirely dependent on insurance. Got to be careful.

Dr. Andy Roark:

So as you look into your crystal ball, and we know how reliable crystal balls are these days, but as you look into your crystal wall, it sounds like what you would anticipate as most likely, probably more caps on the amount that pet insurance policies will cover. And then also it does make sense to me, as you say, of people not necessarily making claims, even though they have pet insurance when they come in for a lower cost [inaudible 00:23:52]. It makes sense that they would come in and choose possibly not to use pet insurance even though they have it. And I don't know that that's something that we've necessarily seen in the past, but it completely makes sense to me. Like I go back to human medicine and you say, well, I expect that there are caps and we have deductibles and we have limits to meat and things like that. And that answers some of my questions about how this is sustainable going forward.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Sustainability is really important. And if you are at the beginning of a rapid growth, if you're getting 16% year on year on year on year, that's pretty phenomenal. Yeah, it's a big market and you start from a low base. It's just make sure that the messaging is around for this to not hit unaffordable premiums because we've put pricing to the point where actually the premiums are now outside of the reach of the typical pet owner, and actually pushes the wealthier, more self-paying pet owner to go, I don't know why I'm bothering.

Because it's going to be a percentage of the population that never take pet insurance because affordability, cash flow, life, it's not their thing for lots of different socioeconomic reasons, is it's got to be sustainable from the get go so that we just go, there will have to be management of what is in and what is not in, and the behaviors within it. Just like human healthcare, if your dog is-

Dr. Andy Roark:

Do you anticipate the customer service conflicts with pet insurance companies increasing as we move forward? I mean, do you see more people butting heads with the office?

Dr. Alison Lambert:

There's a broad church, isn't there? There's a broad church of insurance policies. And within that broad church of insurance policies that we have, you've got fewer, but you'll get more and more. Within that broad church, there's the good, there's the bad and there's the ugly. They always pay up. They're fair. These guys pay up most of the time. They might ask a few questions but they're reasonable. And quite frankly, please don't use them. But we can't say that because we can't direct them to not use.

But when you broaden the church to 350, 400 policies available online and via insurance websites like any money supermarket or you buy any car dotcom type stuff, the default mechanism I'm paying, I don't know. I'm paying $400 a year for insurance. Great. Guess what? You've got my nothing. You just have got what you paid for, which is fresh air. And they're not going to pay up. They'll take your premium but they're going to challenge everything.

Dr. Andy Roark:

Okay. So given where we are right now and the market is growing and we're still early on, if you were queen of American veterinary medicine and had the power to influence the doctor side, the practice side, how would you do it differently? What would you like to see with your magical fairy godmother powers? What would you try to will to happen so that we ultimately ended up with the best system possible?

Dr. Alison Lambert:

My big bugbear with insurance at the moment, and I'm going to answer that question by going round the house to come back to answer that question. If I'm a pet owner, if we start with-

Dr. Andy Roark:

[inaudible 00:27:01].

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Exactly, but we've got to start with a pet owner, just a typical person who's nothing to do with the veterinary profession, but has just got a puppy. They want to do the right thing. Their motivation is to do the right thing. I want to give them the best start. I want to do all the right things. It's my first dog. And they will find they need pet insurance so they'll take it out. They're taking it out so that they're able to fund care as and when it may pop up unexpectedly. That's kind of their motivation is to have this thing. Then something horrific happens, and as I said, there's a $10,000 bill.

At the point where they now have a $10,000 bill, there's two ways this can go. One is they have to pay the 10,000 and then claim it back, or the insurance company pay the practice direct. Now, both of those ways are possible here. Direct claim is the practice is paid by the insurance company, or the owner pays and then there's a claim and the owner gets the money back. Both of those ways are currently possible. I don't pay my hospital for my human healthcare. I don't lay out the money. I don't pay a 10,000 bill to have my gallbladder out. My insurance company deals with it because I'm preauthorized.

I am preauthorized at the point of need. So I could have it done for free in the NHS, by the way. We have a brilliant healthcare system here where everybody can, if hit by a truck, be seen at no charge. But I chose to go to a particular surgeon who's done gallbladders all his life and does some with his eyes closed because I'm just a control freak when it comes to my gallbladder removal. Anyway, it's gone. I don't need a gallbladder. Who knew you needed a gallbladder for anything, really? So I didn't pay-

Dr. Andy Roark:

We drifted off, let's come back.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Yeah, no, I didn't pay my surgeon. My insurance company paid my hospital. I was pre-authorized. For me, as queen of let's make this better than wherever it is anywhere else in the world, is there has to be a pre-authorization step that means that that pet owner is not compromised. Because they haven't got $10,000, that's why they took out insurance. They haven't got it. They can't put it on the card because they haven't got that head space on their credit card. So they need to be pre-authorized as this pet is valid, this owner is valid, and they have a claim capability given what you, the doctor, has just told us you need to do. We are going to pre-authorize nine and a half thousand dollars to be paid to you so they don't have to pay. So pre-authorization clarity of going into the procedure. This is his pet, this is his patient, this is the cover, this is what they're covered for.

This is what will be covered. I pre-authorize you to do this procedure and we will cover nine and a half thousand dollars. That's 500 to pay from the owner and that is taken prior to procedure. That will be my fairy godmother wishlist is that policies are that sophisticated. And they're not, currently, in the main. The second thing I would like is for our profession, on a broader perspective, to understand the insurance is for the patient outcome and for the owner's peace of mind and that we don't need to see it as a golden goose. And when we have business seminars, and we've sat in the room, you've been speaking, I've been going, “No,” in the back and you've spotted me going, “She's not happy. She's not happy, I can tell she's not happy,” is we mustn't project-

Dr. Andy Roark:

Yeah, you have a face that you make when you're not happy. Or maybe it's just when I talk.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

You have this sometimes as well. We're projecting that the insured pet spends three times more than the non-insured pet. Yeah, well, he probably does, because it's presented with the things that might not have been presented for and goes ahead with a thing that it would've said no to. So yes, that's inevitable. In the same way a wellness plan patient, you see them one time more than a non-wellness plan patient, and an insured wellness plan patient is going to be the peak of the revenue-generating pet. Yes, that's true. That's factual. But there are patients without insurance, there are patients without wellness plans, and they should be in the same care principle as the ones who are insured. It shouldn't not be offered to them just because they haven't got insurance. It shouldn't not be the care pathway because they're not insured.

And that, you've got to be really careful you don't slip into because they're insured, we do it this way and because they're not insured, we do it that way. We don't talk about this, we don't offer this, we don't do that. We don't do those [inaudible 00:31:10]. We don't do that thing. We don't do that pain med. But they're insured, so we do everything. So I know, what about Bobby? Bobby's mom and dad are quite happy to pay for what you've just done, but you never offered it. And I think we need to just be upfront about that because we've drifted where there is a differential. And mostly, it's not deliberate. Sometimes it is. And when you ask the question, “Are you insured?” the owners go, “Well, does it make a difference?” “Well, no.” “Well, why did you ask me?” It's like, hmm, so why did you ask them?

Oh, they're insured. You better do that then. It's like, oh, just that behavioral science piece. Pet is insured. Oh, that's a relief. So yeah, it's a relief for the pet. It's a relief for that pet. So the care plan, the diagnostic pathways shouldn't be different because they're insured. The owner saying yes to them might be higher. And I think that's the finessing of this, which may not come across in a podcast, I don't know. But I think it's a workshop to just our language. So on your classic, what does this mean in reality? Reality, Alison, in reality, look at your consent form. On the consent form there will be a question: dog, cat, name, age, blah, owner, blah, blah. Then there'll be one which says, is this pet insured? There'll be a question about insurance. The moment we said, is this pet insured, the owner hears a different set of meanings to what we're actually asking.

We're asking, “Who is Bobby insured with? Who do we need to talk to?” So change the question.” Who is Bobby insured with?” “Oh, he's with X, Y, Z company.” “Is he insured?” Does it make a difference? It's an antagonistic question. And there's some subtleties in there. Very subtle. Very, very subtle. As soon as you change it to, “Who is Bobby insured with?” “Oh, he's not insured.” “Oh, we recommend it.” “Oh, do you?” “Yeah.” “Okay, great.” We've moved on. It's so subtle. So I think pre-authorization is essential and a whole team understanding of insurance is good for the pet because the pet gets the option to have treatment. The benefit to our clinic is that we all do good medicine and because owners will say yes to treatment plans. It doesn't mean we don't do good medicine for ones who aren't insured, and that needs to be nailed front and center. Because otherwise it slips into a two-tiered system.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I like this a lot. So the parts for me going away from this, I think sitting a little bit and considering the ethics of approaching cases wildly different based on the person's ability to pay, whether it's because they have insurance or because they just have a lot of money, and somehow I know that. I think that we can all see the moral quandary of that and saying, “Well, I offered it to these people, but I didn't offer it to these other people because they didn't have insurance, or because I didn't think that they'd be able to pay for it.” I think that that's fertile ground for just thinking on ethics and morality and what we want medicine to be and how we want to treat people. And the other thing that I'm going to take away a lot from this, I think, is the sustainability part of…

As I look at it, well, the cost of care keeps going up. And I talk a lot about this and I'm really focused on keeping care affordable, and how do pet owners continue to have pets that are well taken care of if prices keep going up? And I'm just a real pragmatist, and the idea that, oh, get them pet insurance and then prices can go up as high as they want and everything will get paid for, I go, guys, that's not how the world works in my experience. And that's kind of the too good to be true feeling where I go, I don't see how the insurance company… It's not going to work for them. And it's just looking at it. So I've taken a lot away from our conversation today in that regard.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

I think the claim rate is something as well. I mean, in the good old bad old days when I was employed, rather than being a business owner, I did actually work for the Mars organization as a non-vet as well as a vet, but as a non-vet. And at one point I was responsible for the insurance policy that Mars had in the UK, which was with the UK Kennel Club. And the claim rate is when people have pet insurance, most people pay, they have a claim. Most people with house insurance don't have a claim. Most people with car insurance don't have a claim. It's a rarity to claim on your car or your home or your travel, whereas you've got pet insurance, it's like, “Oh, I'm going to make a claim. I want to get my money back.” That's not insurance. Insurance is for those moments where you can't self-fund or you're in a position where you couldn't go ahead but the insurance enables you, that patient, to get the outcome.

And we've got a really peculiar mindset around pet insurance, which we need to be mindful that we the profession are not part of creating. And I think that's why the UK got it not right, whereas Sweden got it more right. And Australia is getting it more right, the way they have their gap payment, which is, again, paid for healthcare system. Australia's a really good model to actually look at because it's a paid for healthcare system with some social healthcare in the human sense. So people are used to paying for some stuff and getting some stuff through Medicare. Whereas the UK, we don't pay for human healthcare in the main so we're not used to paying for vet's bills. But you guys are and so are Australians, so the arguments all fall over when you start having that conversation.

One thing just on the pet insurance thing, when we look at where this goes longer term and when you see pet insurance rates going up, you start seeing people having things put in front of them, and then you start building specialty and referral centers that do that thing. You suddenly find referral specialty caseload starts moving. And so what you will find is there's a mirror to, as more and more pets are insured, there may be more and more tertiary level involvement and maybe more kit and equipment involved. So there's more, suddenly CT's needed and suddenly we need to do lots of scoping and there's lots of more magic things can happen, so there's more kits and equipment.

And there's a lot of people benefit from pet insurance other than the pet. And I think that's my perspective is the person who needs this pet insurance is that dog or cat. Actually, the fact you now have a CT and the CT companies have sold a lot of them, or there's now several multidisciplinary or single disciplinary referral centers doing quite nicely because they're doing lots of simple ops, lots of them day in, day out, like my gallbladder surgeon. There's a point where everyone has done very nicely out of pet insurance. But the person who's putting the money in the pot in first place, the pet owner, has to have a sustainable premium versus the claim rate versus the cost of what they're claiming. And when they say, I don't fancy it anymore, that bucket starts going down.

And that's where we were pre-COVID. COVID resurrected insurance. It'll go back down again. You can't keep pushing and pushing this goose. There's only so many eggs it can lay and we've got to be careful. A lot of people have done very, very well out of pet insurance outside of the profession; the manufacturers and magic equipment and centers and stuff. So it's a philosophical conversation, I know. But pet insurance is a good thing if it's sustainable for the pet owner. It's got to be sustainable for the pet owner.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I really like that. I think that fits with my worldview. That feels right. I've always believed it's a good thing. It is a good thing as long as it's tended and maintained and kept in order and make sure that it works. It's got to work for everybody. Alison Lambert, you are amazing. Where can people read more of your writing? Where can they find you online?

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Oh, excellent. If they're mad enough to think they want to do more of this then that's great. If you go to the web, onswitch.co.uk. Onswitch as in on, there is no off switch. That's why we're called On switch. O-N-S-W-I-T-C-H.co.uk. Best place to start the web, social channels. But quite frankly, I'm a little bit like that exclusive thing that if you really want to find us, you'll find us. But if you won't happen upon it [inaudible 00:38:55] because we only want certain people. We only like certain people. So if you find us, we'll probably like you.

Dr. Andy Roark:

I'll put links to Onswitch in the show notes. Guys, take care of yourselves. Alison, thanks so much for being here. Have a wonderful day, everybody.

Dr. Alison Lambert:

Take care, folks.

Dr. Andy Roark:

And that is our episode. Guys, I hope you enjoyed it. Hope you got something out of it. As always, the best thing you could do if you did was leave us an honest review wherever you get your podcasts, or share the episode with your friends. Anyway, gang, take care of yourselves. Be well. Talk to you soon. Bye.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: insurance, international, trends

Mar 22 2023

Is it Venting, Decompressing or Gossiping?

This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss are answering a question from the mailbag being asked by one practice leader who has a problem with gossip and negativity on the team. They have been facing it head on and working on their culture. And they are still wondering how to help themselves and the team balance the “need” to talk about a situation and/or interaction that impacted you while still following the expectation that there is no gossiping allowed. How do you walk the line between the “need” to vent/decompress and commiseration/gossiping. This one is spicy, let's get into this…

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 223 – Is It Venting, Decompressing Or Gossiping?

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Stephanie Goss:
Hey, everybody, I am Stephanie Goss, and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. This week on the podcast, Andy and I are heading to the mailbag. Know that this was a really fun episode for us to record. Not super confident that Andy was bought into this question when we started, but by the end, I think we landed on the same page and we were in alignment, as we say, about how to tackle gossiping, negativity, negative talk, and the need for decompression in our practices. Let's get into this one.

Announcer:
And now, the Uncharted Podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and the one and only, Stephanie, let's give them something to talk about, Goss. Oh, man.

Stephanie Goss:
Aren't you going to sing it for me?

Dr. Andy Roark:
(singing)

Stephanie Goss:
I love it so much.

Dr. Andy Roark:
No, very nice.

Stephanie Goss:
How's it going?

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's crazy. It is crazy. Spring is springing here. I know it's not where you are, but-

Stephanie Goss:
It is not. That is a true story.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But yeah, I got tulips coming up. It's Friday, I got a dump-truck load of mulch dumped in my driveway, and I am psyched about it. I am going to spend the week, the weekend just wheelbarrowing mulch around. When we get done with this, I got one more meeting to do, and then I'm going to pump up the tire on the wheelbarrow for maximum mulch efficiency. I got pitchforks, I got some of the vet assistants at Traveler's Rest Animal Hospital. We're like… I told them, I was like, “Ah, man, shoveling mulch. I really wish I could find some guys that would…”

Stephanie Goss:
[inaudible 00:01:45].

Dr. Andy Roark:
Guys, people, not gendered, of course. “I wish I could find some strong backs to come and-

Stephanie Goss:
To come and help?

Dr. Andy Roark:
… and help me. And Bryant just looks at me and then he goes, “Is this like a goodness-of-our-heart thing?” And I was like, “I'll buy you Subway sandwiches.” And he was like, “No.”

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, that's really, really funny.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Going to try to tempt him and David. I'm going to send them pictures of the mulch pile and then maybe like… I think I may… I'm either going to have to pony up some cash and be like, “You guys can come and…” or I'm going to text them a picture of me holding my back and looking really old and broken, like, “I don't know how I'll finish this job.”

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my gosh.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And see if I can play… I don't think it's going to work, though. They rather… They're dead inside. They're tenured-

Stephanie Goss:
You're so ridiculous. Wait, wait, wait.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… vet assistance, they are dead inside.

Stephanie Goss:
I highly doubt that they are dead inside. But don't you have two kids that you can put to work? Like, what's up with not using the readily-available-

Dr. Andy Roark:
The Roark girls?

Stephanie Goss:
… child labor at the Roark house?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. No. Well, I've got one of them. Jacqueline has already said… She was like… She's so smart. She was like, “I'll be there, Dad.” And I was like, “That's great. You are going to be there anyway, but the fact that you stepped up and said it before I told you it was going to happen, like, good politicking there, kiddo.” You know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my gosh.

Dr. Andy Roark:
She read the room, she saw where this was going, and she was like, “I'm going to volunteer and take credit for volunteering.” And like, bam, Daddy's girl.

Stephanie Goss:
That's funny.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Hannah, meanwhile, is home from school sick. She's laid out on the couch, and I'm like, “You know, you just stay on the couch.”

Stephanie Goss:
“You just keep your germs away from the rest of us.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Totally. Exactly.

Stephanie Goss:
That's my house too. Well, Riley called me yesterday afternoon, and she is at the gymnastics gym, and she is like… She would live at the gym if I let her. And she texts me at like 3:45, and she was just like, “I have chills and my whole body hurts.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, no.

Stephanie Goss:
She's like, “Can you come get me?” And I was like, “Oh, God. Yeah, okay.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, I hate hearing… Oh, man.

Stephanie Goss:
I know. And it just… She is tough, and she is just like, “I feel crummy.” And I picked her up, and I just took one look at her and I was like, “Oh, she does not feel good.” And so-

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, I hate that feeling.

Stephanie Goss:
… I feel you.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, they're so pitiful too.

Stephanie Goss:
I know.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Like, all of this gets right at you.

Stephanie Goss:
It makes me so sad. So she is here and she's really bummed, because they had their… It's funny because my kids love their school. Like, they actually ask to go to school on breaks, like Christmas vacation and summer break. All of the kids, not just mine. But they love their school. And so, today was book report day, and they've been working on these book reports for the last six weeks. And so, she was really bummed she didn't get to go and present her book report, so. But she's going to do it over their class Zoom, so she's-

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, well, that's good.

Stephanie Goss:
… in her room. I'm like, “Keep your germs in here, please. But also, don't forget to get on your Zoom.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I do wonder about my parenting. And I feel like I have a great relationship with my kids, and also, when they're sick, I do not go near them. I do not go near them. I'm like… And then they're like, “You guys are welcome to stay home from school. I'll be in the basement working on stuff, except when I've gone to the vet clinic for the first half of the day, and then I'll be in the basement, but…”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, that is their dad's MO. He is definitely not the sick caregiver. And when we were in… So we're recording this, and we had just got back from Western Vet Conference in Vegas, and I got a text while we were in Vegas that Jackson barfed in the middle of the night, one of the nights we were gone. And I was like, “Oh, no,” because their dad is not the…

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And he especially doesn't do puking. And so, it was just like… You know, as a parent, all the thoughts that are going through my mind are, “Okay, I hope Jackson feels good, and I hope he's being nurturing and not like, ‘Keep your germs away from me,'” but also, all the thoughts are going in my head, like, “Did the laundry actually get started then, or is there going to be a pile of-“

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
“… vomit sheets waiting for me when I get home?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
That's what Alison says to me. She's like, “You need to be nurturing.” And I'm like, “Look, I'm just… Look, it's time to look at cold hard numbers here.”

Stephanie Goss:
Kids are Petri dishes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's like, “We're past nurturing. We're down to survival, and it's me or them, and let's-“

Stephanie Goss:
“And I choose me.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
“Let's do a cost benefit analysis here, Alison. What's the benefit of me hugging that child? Really? Really? What's the cost of me going down for three days? It's significant. You need to harden your heart, make the… That's why I run the business and you're in academia.”

Stephanie Goss:
And just in case anyone is wondering this, this parenting style extends to his relationship with his employees too, because… Well, I will say that we went to Vegas, and I did not try and kill you this year. Every time we go to Vegas now, Andy's like, “Okay, we made it through a year, and you didn't try and kill me with COVID.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
You are… Well, you're just like… You're like that snotty kid that just has sticky hands, and whenever they're around, you're like, “That kid's carrying-“

Stephanie Goss:
10-foot pole.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly right. You're like, “Don't… Just don't let that kid touch my face.”

Stephanie Goss:
“Stay out of my space bubble.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
“If that kid touches my food, I'm going to go hungry. And I don't go hungry.”

Stephanie Goss:
I'm like, “Hey, Andy, let's take a selfie,” and he's leaning.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, totally. I'm like, “Yeah, just-“

Stephanie Goss:
Leaning away.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Why don't you take a picture of you and then take a picture of me and then we'll-

Stephanie Goss:
And put them together.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… Photoshop them together. How's that?

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, man.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, it's true, all right?

Stephanie Goss:
Like, “Yeah.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I do have a cold, pragmatic streak. It's not that I don't care about you, it's just that I don't feel the need to care about you while you're sick. There's 360 other days out of the year that I can care about you and you can have my love.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, God.

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right, let's do this. Let's do this episode.

Stephanie Goss:
All right. I love this one. So we got a mailbag question that is, I think, fantastic. So they don't actually know what their position is. I assume that it's someone in practice management, but the questions that we're working on, we're constantly working on our practice culture and areas of improvement for us. And two of the big challenges that we have been tackling have been gossiping and negative talk amongst the team, like talking negatively about their co-workers or talking negatively about clients or patients. And so, they said they recognize that the negativity and the negative talk kind of goes hand in hand with gossiping. And so, “We've talked about it as a team, and we've set the expectation that those two things are not going to be tolerated,” which is great. The question comes from, “How do you balance the need to talk about something that happened to you or an interaction that you experienced that affected you?” So like, how do you have something happen and talk about it while still following the expectation that you're not going to gossip and you're not going to talk negatively? How do you walk that thin line between needing decompression and commiseration versus it actually turning into gossip? And this was a great question.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I thought this is an interesting question. I thought this is interesting.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I had to really sit and roll this around.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I wonder… It feels to me… This feels to me like a position that my children put me in when they get me to agree that something is true, and they get me to agree that something else is true, and they get me to agree that something else is true, and every step is a little bit more of a stretch until ultimately they end up at a ridiculous position. They were like, “And that's why I need to have a candy jar in the bathroom.” I'm like, “What?” Like, you heard them-

Stephanie Goss:
“How did I agree to this?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
You know what I mean? Yeah, exactly. You're like, “What?” And so, I do… I have that experience when people are like, “But Andy, sometimes we need to talk (censored) about a (censored).” And like, they'll… We need to bleep that out. But they'll say things to me that are that off the wall, and I'm like, “What did you say?” And they're like, “We have to say bad things about these people.”

Stephanie Goss:
Sometimes you just need to.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, like, “We need to serve the tea.”

Stephanie Goss:
Sometimes you just have a doodle that's so bad that you just need to talk smack about doodles.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly. They're like, “And some people just need to be judged by us.” And I'm like, “What?”

Stephanie Goss:
I'm reserving all my judgment for you, Andy Roark.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I could… I'm interested in your thoughts on this too, and when we need to have negative talk.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I am being honest when I say I'm struggling a little bit with this need to have negative talk.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I do wonder how much truth there is to it. I think I understand what they're saying, in all seriousness. I think I understand what they're saying.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But I just… I need to work through it a little bit. I wonder if there's not other ways to approach the situation that don't involve us having this negative talk, but still making sure everybody feels heard and supported.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay, I'm with you. It's funny because I read this and I immediately was able to put myself in their shoes in a specific context, and so I'm… I could be totally in the wrong context, but I read it and I was like, “Oh, I know those moments.” And for me, there was a very clear definition on what it is and how it manifests. And so, yeah, let's talk about it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. All right, cool. So let's start with some sort of headspace here. So the first thing, I just… I always have to throw out, whenever we have negative talk, we have gossip, we have things like that, I've always got to get… And just, headspace for me is, “Just remember, remember, remember that you got to check your diagnostics here. Like, make sure that you know what this problem is.” And I just say that because a million times I have seen people wrestling with a gossip problem, a negativity problem, and the truth is they had a toxic team member problem, they had a bully problem-

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… they had some sort of a engagement buy-in problem, and the negative talk was coming out of frustration or out of bad behaviors from some other problem. And it's funny, I have seen a lot of, lot of, lot of practices say, “How do we fix the gossip? How do we fix the gossip? We're talking to the team about the gossip. We're coming together about the gossip. We've got a workflow on the gossip. We had a vision session about what a practice without gossip looks like.” And it's like, “How did it end?” “Well, we fired Donna, and it went away.” “Oh, okay. I got it. I see that.” And a lot of times-

Stephanie Goss:
So you didn't really have a gossip problem.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… that's how it goes. You didn't.

Stephanie Goss:
You had a Donna problem.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It was like, “Ah, turns out it was just Donna.” And I do see that. So in all seriousness, the first part of this is, make sure you run your diagnostics, root cause analysis. Where is this negativity coming from?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Are we really having this many negative client interactions, like over-the-top client interactions that require negativity? You know, are people… Is it all different people and everybody's responsible for this, or are there chronic offenders that are driving it and who are not changing their behavior because they're not getting that feedback or just because they don't want to?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. So I think that what you just put your finger on is this, and when you said, “Is this chronic people or chronic behaviors?”, that was a fundamental difference-maker for me in the conversation. So my question when I read this was, “Okay, are we gossiping? Are we talking directly about another person to other people? Are we venting, like a situation happened, a thing occurred?” And this is where I could easily put myself in their shoes that like, you know, you have a client who comes in who is super rude or who is really hurtful to a member of the team or to yourself. It is human nature to want to let that out, because bottling up the frustration or the emotions is also not good, and so I recognize that. And the third piece of it for me is this, “Is this is a one-and-done, like, I need to vent because I'm frustrated or I'm angry, I have emotions about this situation, or is this complaining? Is this a constant chronic thing that is happening with one or two people?”
And so, to your point, like, is this a Donna problem or Donna is having repeated behaviors that are complaining or gossiping or other that is impacting it? And so, for me, the headspace starts with some self-reflection and analysis of the situation to try and figure out, to your point, like what is actually happening here, and then be able to do the root cause analysis on the problem itself.

Dr. Andy Roark:
There was a definition of a toxic person that I saw a long, not long time ago, but a little while ago, and I really liked it. And basically it was something along the lines of, “A toxic person is a person who participates in negative activities and has no interest in improving them.”

Stephanie Goss:
Mm-hmm, okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Like, something along the lines of, if a person switches from just being a regular person who has a problem to a toxic person, a regular person who has a problem wants to fix that problem.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
A toxic person does not want to fix that problem.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
They are happy to make the problem persist or even to grow, even to spread, to have more people involved with it. That's what a toxic person wants.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
They want to light the fire, and they don't want to put it out. They want it to grow and they want it to spread. And I've thought a bit about that as well. And so, anyway, when we start thinking about these types of behaviors, I'm always going like, “Just root cause analysis, make sure we understand the diagnosis here. Where is this coming from? Make sure that we don't have a toxic individual or a small group of people who are just driving these behaviors. And if we do, we need to manage them, manage them, manage them, and possibly manage them out if it continues on.”
So anyway, that's kind of my opening place. My opening place here is that. So it sounds like… Let's take this letter at face value and say, “Hey, they work a lot on culture. We don't think it's a toxic person. We just continue to have this sort of negativity.” And the question is really about, what do you do about keeping a positive communication culture while still recognizing that sometimes we need to have an outlet for negative thoughts, emotions, frustrations, things like that?

Stephanie Goss:
Sure. Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. All right. So I think that that's an okay question to ask, and we'll sort of get into it. So I don't know, just in general headspace, seek first to understand, “Where is this coming from? Am I understanding the problem that I think I'm understanding?” And then, “Where are we going to go from here?” is the next sort of question philosophically that I like to talk about. I think it's important when you start to look at problems like this, is, “What does done look like? What does the end look like?” So in a headspace, they go, “Okay, well, if we want to make our practice into a good, wholesome, positive practice, what does that look like when it's finished? Where does that go? Does that mean that people don't say negative things, or does it mean that they say them in a certain way?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“What is that way?” And once we have that kind of figured out, of what a healthy practice looks like, then we can put steps into place to get there.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep. Yeah, I love that. And I think that is super… To me, it has always been an indicator of a really healthy culture when the team understands what that looks like and what done is. Because for me, part of having a code of conduct that the team has agreed to… And I'm assuming that no gossiping or no negative speech that was talked about here is part of a code of conduct. Everybody has to understand not only what does that mean, like really, truly, “What is the definition of that for us and the team?” But also like, to your point, “What does done look like? What is not? What is the end? What is not tolerated?” And what is the expectation for how you handle the negative interactions or the conflict when it arises or the frustration that happens. You know, “How are we going to handle that?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. So you said you had an idea in your mind of kind of what this looks like of having some negativity that sort of needed to come out. Can you give me more of a clearer context of what that looks like in your mind?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, totally. So for me, the question was, “Okay, decompression and the commiseration gives me pause, for sure.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right.

Stephanie Goss:
Because those two things are very different. Needing to have an outlet, get something out, not bottling up the emotions. And this is years of my own therapy coming out here. So as humans, it is far healthier, at least for me, it is far healthier to deal with emotions and get them out than to stuff them down and not deal with them, right? So, a long time ago, I recognized that there are situations where I need an outlet and I need to express those emotions safely. And that can look a bunch of different ways. That, to me, is decompression, like, that letting off the steam.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Mm-hmm.

Stephanie Goss:
Commiseration, to me, falls into the line of negative talking, gossiping. Because when you are… To me, commiserating means finding someone who is going to agree with you and participate in what you're doing. That feels radically different than, “This thing happened, and I'm insert-whatever-emotion-here, angry, sad, frustrated, whatever, I just need to get it off my chest,” right? That feels very different to me. Gossiping, to me, feels like saying something about someone else, when there are other people present, that you are not saying straight to their face.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, I think, for me, I could totally see situations in the practice when a team member maybe has not interacted with me in the best way possible, or I interpreted how they interacted with me in a way that frustrated me or triggered me in some way. And before I'm ready to have a conversation with them, I need to get out those emotions and process, right? That, to me, feels like the decompression, versus commiserating, like, “Oh, hey. Oh, God, I was just in room B with Mrs. Jones, and she's so snotty, she always comes in and treats us like we're her hired help. And don't you hate having to do appointments with her?” Right? That feels like commiserating, where I'm looking for somebody else to get into that space with me and join me in that negativity. And then the gossiping would be like, “Oh, hey, Andy, did you see what Jamie brought for lunch today? There was so much junk food in her lunch,” right? Something like that, where you're talking about somebody or you're saying, “Hey, did you hear how drunk Sarah was at the bar this weekend?” Those kind of things, where you're talking specifically about another person to another person.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Do those illustrations kind of help?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And you can imagine those things happening, I think, in a practice, right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Absolutely. Yeah, yeah, definitely. So I think the thing for me, I don't… I still struggle a little bit with the idea that we have to do negativity, but I'll flesh it out a little bit. And I guess maybe this is the part I should put into headspace right here, at the front.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So, to me, communication should be intentional. Professional communication should be intentional.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Which means you should know what you are trying to accomplish. And when you seek commiseration, that's not intentional usually. What that really is, that's code speak for, “I'm angry, and I need to vent anger out into the world.”

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And even when we talk about decompression, guys, the research is pretty clear. Venting, it does not help you. It really… It helps you maybe feel more satisfied, but venting and putting negativity out in the world actually does not make you better able to handle problems. It just ends up sort of perpetuating negativity. And so, you can look at happiness and satisfaction and outcomes when we talk about venting and we say… This sort of spewing of negativity, it genuinely does not make us more effective, I think. So this is where I push into intentionality. And so, what I would say to people really when I start talking about headspace as negativity is, “Communication should be intentional,” which means, if you're angry and frustrated, I think that you can say, “I'm really angry and frustrated about this thing,” and then we need to state our intention. “I need help processing this,” or, “I am seeking validation of the scenery,” or, “Can you tell me if I'm off base?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And guys, that's just an evolution of how we communicate. And I think a lot of times we get mad or we get angry, and we open our mouths, and we don't really know what we're trying to do. And I would say the evolution of these communication issues is to say, “Before I vent, I need to understand, what am I trying to accomplish?” And if I'm not trying to accomplish anything other than to hurt somebody or to take the anger or the pain that I feel and try to make someone else feel pain, that's not something that I want to actually do. And it's not healthy as much as we want to think that it is.It's just not.
And so, anyway, I think that that's just the big thing for me as we start to look at this, is, the rollover here, and honestly, this is a big part of professional communication as you move up into corporations and companies, this is corporate training, we don't vent. You don't make angry statements, you speak intentionally. And I will tell you that if you stop and process it, you can generally be much more productive and also expressive of the problem that you're facing without negative talk. You can 100% say, “This client who came in earlier was really nasty, and he said these things that I thought were very hurtful. And my question is, what do I do about this? Is there a way that I can escalate it? What steps can I take? Am I supposed to shake this off?I'm feeling vulnerable. Have other people had these experiences?” Those are the sort types of ways that I can talk about this thing in a way that I'm not client-bashing. I'm being honest about, “This person came in, and what they said was really… It seemed to me to be very out of line, and I'm looking for validation here. Has this person acted this way in the past?” And anyway, I can still 100% turn and get support and also not just lean into the negativity on the issue. Do you agree with that?

Stephanie Goss:
I do. And I also… And maybe this is just because I have a temper, and I am by no means perfect when it comes to communicating. And I will also say that there have been plenty of times where I have, in the heat of the moment, said things or done things that, if I had stepped away and taken the time to get the clarity that you're talking about, it would've been way better off, right? And also, I'm human, and we don't always do that. And so, I think what you were talking about, for me, has been a very healthy guardrail to recognize that, in order for processing emotions… Because I used to… There was a long period in my life where, especially as a leader, I just stuffed it down and I didn't process, and I would get mad or I'd get frustrated, and I just wouldn't say anything, and it would build up, build up, build up, and then I would explode.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Mm-hmm.

Stephanie Goss:
And going to therapy, I recognized how unhealthy that is and how much I need to process things more in real time.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, for me, what that turned into was, “Okay,” going in the direction that you're talking about, recognizing that there are going to be times where I trip up. Nobody is perfect. And having a system like you're talking about, having someone, and I think this is really, really important, especially from a leader perspective, having people who are the right people for you to be able to have that conversation and do that processing with is really, really important.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, it has… But that isn't a natural… I don't think it's a natural inclination. Our natural human-nature, caveman brains, it is far easier to be like, “Oh, hey, Andy, did you… Like, this happened, and I'm super irritated about it,” right? Because you're right in front of me and it's easy to commiserate with you versus to take the time and intentionality to be like, “I need to step away, and I'm going to go outside of the building so nobody else can hear me, and I'm going to call someone who is not immediately involved in this situation,” right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
That takes intentionality, it takes self-awareness. And I think a lot of us have to learn how to do that. And so, I'm all-in with you on that being a healthy process, and it is certainly one that I have adopted now, but it took me a long time to get there. And I also think it's really important to recognize that we're all human, and no matter how-

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, of course.

Stephanie Goss:
… good we get at it, you're going to screw it up, and you're going to have to…

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And there are things like… Immediately, when I was thinking about this episode, I was thinking about times where I was like, “Oh, dude, we have a straight-up no gossip rule in my teams, and I really try really hard to adhere to it. And also, I can think immediately of times where I broke that rule.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
And do I feel good about it? No. And so, you know, but how we deal with it and what we do also matters.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, I think creating that goal… I think, good on this team for working on trying to create the culture to change the expectation. I think having the expectation that this will never happen just because you have the rules and systems in place is unrealistic, because we're people, and there's going to be slip-ups. I think having the expectation of what comes next is the really healthy part, and that's the part that I would love to see more teams get to.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. So yeah, I agree with that. And I also think that you're right about being human. This is hard. It is a real challenge, and we all get it wrong. And I'm not going to be like, “Oh, no, I don't get mad.” Of course I do.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But the hard professional truth, though, is that getting angry or getting nasty feels good, and it's generally self-damaging.

Stephanie Goss:
For sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Like, think about a time that you got angry or you got nasty and it turned out great, and that was the exact right move-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, no.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… and it opened doors for you, and good things happened. You might have a time, I assure you there's a lot of times that you got angry, you got nasty, and you did damage that you don't even remember or know about, but other people remember it.

Stephanie Goss:
For sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I mean, it's one of those things about being the better person, about being the leader, is carry this. There's the old saying too, and this is kind of a Buddhist meditative thing, is, “Between every action and a reaction, there's a pause,” you know? And I was reading an article recently about this guy who had gone to anger management, and he talked about anger management. One of the big keys in anger and anger management was taking ownership of how he would communicate and being intentional. And so, he said that one of the big things that happened for them is he switched the way of his thinking from thinking things like, “Man, that guy made me mad,” to, “That guy behaved in this way, and I got mad.”

Stephanie Goss:
Mm-hmm. Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that gave him so much more ownership of like, “Oh, I got mad. He did this thing, and I got mad.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“And it's understandable that I would get mad, but getting mad was a choice that I made.” And that can be extremely hard, but it is what I think that we should aspire to.

Stephanie Goss:
For sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Cool.

Stephanie Goss:
For sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Let's take a break and come back and get into some action steps in kind of how we start to lay these things out, and how we can set ourselves and our team up to be successful in this regard.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay, sounds good.
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Dr. Andy Roark:
All right. You said in the first half, Stephanie, you talked about having leaders that can help you process or are willing to process with you was really important. I really like that a lot. If we want to get to the place where we get this negative culture, and we're not talking about gossiping, we've done episodes on that stuff before, but really talking about how do we support people who have legitimate complaints, problems, things they're working through, while still trying to keep our clinic positive, I think there's a number of things that we need to do. First of all, culture comes from the top, you know?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that's really… Our leadership needs to behave in a professional way and communicate in a professional way. It's funny how often the doctors talk to me about negativity of the staff, and the truth is they're showing that behavior, that they do it just as much and it trickles down from them. But a big part of it is to say, “Okay, we know that people are going to get frustrated. We know they're going to have problems. We know they're going to be angry.” Have you given them appropriate avenues to communicate-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… those frustrations through?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so, if you say, “Yeah, you know what? Sometimes the clients come in and they're horrible, and we don't want to feel alone. We want support,” I think that's totally understandable. Do we have avenues for people who have had those experiences? Do they know that they can come and talk to someone? Do they know that they can go to the head technician and say, “Hey, I need a minute. This happened, and I'm really upset about it.” And what's funny is the difference in coming and saying, “This happened, this guy behaved this way, and I'm really hurt, or I'm really upset about it, or I'm really angry, and I need a moment,” that's an entirely different experience from walking out of the room and going-

Stephanie Goss:
“That guy's a dick.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
… “This a-hole over here…” You know?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It is.

Stephanie Goss:
100%. 100%.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's an entirely different experience, but the feelings are the same. And I think you get better support in the first example, where you say, “I'm really hurt by this, and I need need a moment.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I think you get better long-term outcome and support if you go that way. But people should know, if the staff feels like a client was abusive to them, do they feel like there's a place they can go?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Is there an open door? Do they know that they can come right into the practice owner's office, or the medical director, or the practice manager, or the head CSR, that they can come straight to her and say, “I want you to come and tell me if this happens. I want you to come and tell me what happened, and let me support you.” But do they have appropriate avenues for bringing these things up?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I love that. And I think that goes to what this mailbag letter started with, which was like, “Hey, this is a thing we're working on, and we have talked about it.” And so, when I first read it, I was like, “What does ‘talked about it' mean?” Because I think that it could mean, “Hey, we said this thing is happening, it can't continue to happen, full stop,” and that was the conversation, which feels very different from, “We've come together as a group and we've talked about, ‘Hey, we want to have a code of conduct, and we want to have a set of rules that we hold each other accountable to. And one of those things is we care about each other, and so, therefore, we don't want to talk about each other. We also don't want to talk about our clients.' And so, here's what that looks like, good and bad, right?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Examples. And also, “When the situation occurs,” to your point, “here's what we can do about it instead,” right? Those two things feel very different. So I'm all-in on having a code of conduct. I think it's super, super important. And I think, for me, the only way that I've had it truly be successful in my teams has been for the team to be a part of it, because if they're not bought into it, it won't work, it won't be successful.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And the best way to get them bought in is to have them be a part of that process.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You know, our friend Maria Pirita, who works with us and who is magical and amazing, she has an exercise that she uses with teams. And so, it's the high-performing team exercise, where she would work with her teams and she would say, “Okay, guys, I want to talk about and I want a list from you guys about what a high-performing team looks like, what they sound like, and what they feel like.” And she would have the team make a list of what a high-performing, happy team looks like, sounds like, and feels like. And then, from them, she would write down the things that they thought that a high-performing team would do, and say, and act like, and how it'd feel to be a part of that. And then, once she made the list from them, she would ask them, “How do we achieve this? What are the things that we want to change to do this?” But they're creating the vision of what it feels like to be on a great team or have a great place to work.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then Maria just ties them to their aspirational goal that they created there together. And I just… I've always thought that that was really… I thought that that was really good, and so I… But I completely agree with you as far as like, they need to be a part of what this future looks like.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And it also is funny when you say, “Stop doing this.” I know we're talking a lot about kids today. I don't exactly know why. Probably because Hannah's here sick, and I'm acting… Because I have a glass wall, and she's on the other side of it, and I've sealed myself. She's beating on the glass. I'm podcasting. Go lay down.
See, but I was talking a lot about kids, but it's like when you start to turn around, you yell at your kids, like, “Stop fighting!” But you don't actually give them a mechanism to resolve the complaint-

Stephanie Goss:
Right, the conflict.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… which is maybe a genuine problem they have-

Stephanie Goss:
Right, right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… and they don't have the tools to not come to blows. And you're like, “Just stop fighting!” And they're like, “Okay, Dad. But how, then, shall we resolve the issue of Roark vs. Roark in the case of the missing hair clip?”

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Yeah, no, it's totally true that we have to give our kids the tools, we have to teach them the tools, and we also have to give our teams the tools, because we don't… These are learned things, and we don't often… We don't focus on it enough. And I love the idea of the exercise that you shared for Maria. And I think the other piece of that for me is that I want the team also to define what great looks like and feels like.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Mm-hmm.

Stephanie Goss:
I want them to define what it doesn't look like and feel like to help us figure out some guardrails and some things that we want to steer away from. And then the last piece of it for me is that they have to be a part of, “Then what does accountability look like?” Because accountability cannot look like me, as the manager, momming everybody all the time and doling out the punishments, because that's not how I want my team to work. I want it to be something that they're bought into, and I want them to be able to solve their own problems. And the only way that you get there is to teach them, and give them those tools, and equip them to solve those problems themselves. And that is not an easy thing. It's not a one-and-done conversation. That's a journey.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I completely agree. And so, taking exactly what you said, because I agree with every word of it, and dial it down more tightly to what we got through the mailbag where they say, “well, you know, it sounds like we've got gossip and stuff under control, but what about these specific circumstances when we need to be negative?” I think, to… The way I go with this is, it sounds like we feel like we've addressed the gossip thing pretty darn well, and so I suspect they… And they said they're always working on their culture. I suspect they've done a lot of these things.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so now it's like, “Great, you've got the tools, and you've taken care of these big pieces. Now it's time to dial in on these little pieces.” And the way that I would do that is, if it's a consistent enough problem that you're writing to Andy and Stephanie and saying, “What do we do about these specific little things?”, what I would say is, the tools that got rid of gossip will help you get rid of these things. Put them under the microscope, which means go to your team and say, “Guys, I recognize that we have this tendency, or these are the trends. And what I want to do is talk with you guys about how we would handle different circumstances and what it looks like for a high-performing, positive team to handle these circumstances. So last week, we had a case where a client behaved this way…”
Or I would change it up and say, “Let's just pretend that we have a client who comes in and they do this thing, and it's really awful. Guys, how does a high-performing team handle this? What do we say, and how do we say it?” And then… And this may sound silly. I promise you there's nothing more powerful than some role play like that to get them to talk about, “What is a positive way to process this? What is a way to get support or get the help that you need, and feel good about it, and not resort to, ‘The client was mean to me, and so I'm going to put meanness out into the void around me.'?”
And that's the definition of toxicity, is that someone is in a bad spot, and they radiate this darkness out of them that then infects other people and spreads. That's why it's toxic. And so, they don't want to be in a toxic place either. And I think that this is a great collaborative way that we can give them the tools they need and say, “Hey, I've paid attention to times that we've had problems. I'm not going to maybe use those exact problems, because I don't want people who were there to feel judged, but I'm going to recreate those problems in a different way, and then ask the team to break into teams and to figure out what they would say, or what they would do, or how a high-performing team handles these problems or processes them without turning it into a toxic dump.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Or without allowing… And again, I wouldn't put it on them and say… And this is really important. I would not be like, “You guys are screwing up, and you are making it toxic.” I would say instead, “You guys are working hard, and I know how much you want to have a really positive place to work. And I feel like we're a really positive team.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“When people bring this negativity into our practice, I want us to talk about how we can handle it so that we don't become that negative team.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so, then we're not doing this because it's punitive.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
We're not doing this because they messed up and they failed.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
We're doing this because I want us to have the tools to handle adversity when it comes to us.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I love that. And I think part of… I agree with everything that you just said, especially the part about making it forward-facing and not punitive, right? It's disconnected from them, because the reality is we all have bad days. Even the sunniest, most positive person sometimes has interactions that really make you feel things, right? And so, for me, it was about talking to the team about, “Okay, what does safe space look like?” And recognizing that we're all going to have bad days, and we're all going to have moments where we maybe need some support from each other as a team. And so, my team was like, “Okay, what are our safe spaces within the practice?” And so, one of the rules that we agreed on as a team was that we needed a way for anybody to take a timeout. Like, whatever it was, whether you're having a bad day at home, or you're getting super frustrated with a difficult patient or a client or whatever, that there was a way for us to recognize, “Hey, I need a timeout,” and then we defined what are those safe spaces in the practice, like, “Can we go for a walk? Like, go in…” We had a backyard in the clinic. And so, that outside was a great safe space.
We also had a team bathroom that was in a part of the building. This is going to sound crazy, but we had a team bathroom that was in a part of the building that the clients didn't access. And so, we kind of made it into half rage room, half positive space. So we had all of these memes and positive quotes that the team had brought and stuck up on the wall, like things that made them happy. And then that was also the dark room that you could just go in there and scream if you needed to scream into the void for a minute. Look, it worked for us. It's not going to work for every practice, but it worked for us. And then the third space was the office space.
And so, it was… The conversation was, “Look, my door is always open, except when it's closed, but it is always open, and it is a safe space. And you can come in here, you can just sit and have a moment. You can say, ‘Hey, I just need five minutes to myself.' Totally fine. I'm going to ignore you. I'm going to keep working. You also can come in and say, ‘I'm feeling feels, and I need to talk, but I need to process it.'” And so, my golden role for the team was, “You can come in my office and you can say whatever it is that you need to say. You're going to have to deal with it, and I'm going to ask you what your plan is for making it actionable before you walk out the door. You don't get to just come in and go off without there being a forward-facing, ‘What is the plan and how are we going to deal with this?'”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, if you were not ready to get to that stage where you could talk about it with somebody else, maybe going and screaming into the void was the good choice, or going and taking a walk out in the backyard, but it allowed everybody to be met where they were in that moment, right? Because we created the safety as a team to say, “Okay, I need to take a timeout.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, I think that that's really important, figuring out, as a team, what are those safe spaces? What does it look like? And I love your example from Maria. What does it look like? What does it feel like?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Mm-hmm.

Stephanie Goss:
And making them be able to see and recognize, “This is the expectation.” So to your point, when a client comes in and somebody is really struggling with the way that they interacted with that client, instead of being like, “God, Mrs. Smith was such a jerk in room two,” they have the ability to be like, “Hey, that was a really hard appointment for me, I need to take five,” right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And then they can go and do with it whatever it is that they need, because sometimes you just need a moment.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And sometimes I can go take a moment, and I can come back and be like, “Okay, I'm good now.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And other times, I need to go have a moment and be like, “Hey, this is… I actually need help with this, because it's more than a moment, and I need to deal with it,” right? And so that is the second part of it for me, is setting the expectation honestly for myself of… One of my hard and fast personal rules is like, “I need to deal with the emotion and let the emotion out in a safe space, in a safe way.” And then the second piece of that is, “What do I need to do with this?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And sometimes the answer is, “I'm going to let it go.” If I'm going to let it go, I'm really going to let it go.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Mm-hmm.

Stephanie Goss:
And the accountability piece is, for me, with my bosses, was, “Hey, if I tell you that I'm choosing to let something go, and then I bring it back up again, I need you to hold me accountable and be like, ‘Hey, you told me yesterday you were going to let this go, and now we're having a follow-up conversation about it. This sounds like you need to do something about it, so I'm holding you accountable. Let's have the conversation about what you're going to do about it.'” Right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, figuring out, are you actually going to let it go, or are you going to action it and figure out how do you deal with it? And then, if so, the safe space continues. I will totally help you. We can talk it out, I will role play with you, I will just listen while you talk out loud if that's what you need. Everybody processes those things differently. But my role as a manager, as a leader in the practice is not to be a therapist.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree.

Stephanie Goss:
I want to give professional support to all of my team to have access to, because counseling should be something that everybody on our team can access. And at the same time, my role is to listen, but then I also want to help you grow. And so, as a leader, creating that safe space, helping them create that safe space, but also setting the expectations for, “How do we deal with it?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree. I think there's a couple good leadership phrases that push people this way. And I'm just going to warn you, if you use these people, they'll stop venting to you, which is real good for you, but if they just take it somewhere else, it cannot be good. But the basic soft things, I agree, to Stephanie's point, is again, it's about intentionality, right? And so, if I assume intentionality on the other person's part and they go, “Ah, this thing is happening, and God, I hate it so much,” the most productive thing you can do is say to them, “How can I support you in this?” or, “What is your plan for addressing this and going forward?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“What are you going to do with this?” But the big, like, “How can I support you?”, that's the one that I use a lot, is, “How can I support you?” And they'll look at you like you're dumb, and then they'll go, “I just… No, I was just… No, I mean…”

Stephanie Goss:
“I just wanted to bitch.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
“I was just mad.” And you're like, “Oh, okay, okay. So you don't want to take action on this?” And I'm really honestly not trying to say this in a jerk way.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm not doing it in a condescending way. But generally the real truth is, if you come and you tell me that something is terrible, my honest, well, question to you is, “Okay, how can I support you? What can we do to either correct this or try to address this situation, or at least to make you feel like you can accept the situation and go on in a good place?”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“What is our plan?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You know, it's that, “Can we change it, or can we accept it? Those are sort of our options.” And so, anyway, I put that stuff forward. I think the last thing I want to make clear here is, I think you already pointed it out pretty well, but when I do the role play and things like that, I really do like making this forward-facing about, “What are we going to do in the future? How we can we handle this? What should we do?” Not about what we should have done last week or how we didn't handle it well.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And the reason I say that, one is, that's just a good growth mindset position, but number two, how many times have you been angry, and then your spouse criticizes you because you're angry? And how did that go? You know what I mean? Like, it's like, when you are like… Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, I'm like rage cleaning the kitchen, and my wife is like, “Look, if you don't stop banging those dishes around, they're going to break.” And I'm like, “I'm rage cleaning, and you are critiquing my rage cleaning, and it's terrible.” And so, all that to say, giving feedback to someone who's having an angry, negative response, is something you should do at your own peril. It's much, much easier to do things that are forward-facing and encouraging about where we're going. And I'm joking, but if people continue to have these reactions, we're definitely going to have to talk about them.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Like, we're going to have to give feedback, and we're going to have to coach them out of that.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But it's a whole lot nicer to try to give them the tools in a forward-facing away, not in a, “Hey, you got really angry, and that was the wrong thing to do, and now I'm going to make you embarrassed about the thing that you did or said when you were angry.” I'd like to avoid that if possible.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I think the last thing for me is just sharing one of the most impactful rules, honestly, for code of conduct with my team that I ever learned, and I learned it at my very first practice. But there's the golden rule of “Do unto others,” right? But for us, the golden rule really became, “Take it to the person who can do something about it.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I like that.

Stephanie Goss:
And what that meant was different things in different times, but when it came to gossiping, or it came to talking about other people, when it came to negativity, because we had that rule, it enabled us to listen, because, look, if I am mad at Maria, and I'm having a conversation with you, Andy, about how I'm mad at Maria, if we have the rule to take it to the person who can do something about it, me talking to you about Maria does nothing, because you can't do anything about the situation. You weren't there, you weren't a part of it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Right.

Stephanie Goss:
You can help me, you can listen to me, you can ask me what my plan is, but you ultimately can't solve the problem.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Right.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, part of that rule was, “Hey, look, I can't do anything about this. I can help you practice this conversation, but ultimately you need to go have that conversation with Maria, because the two of you are the only ones who can work this out.” And it applies with clients, it applies with the team, it applies with our bosses. And so, setting that role and then really deciding, as a team, who are those people on the team? And it's going to look different for everybody, but this goes back to your defining what the expectation is, right? Like, who are those people on the team that are going to shoot you straight, who are going to help you identify what is happening in this situation, who are going to help you brainstorm ideas, and then who are going to ask you what the next move is to encourage you to go back and talk to that other person who can actually do something about it?
And as a leader, a lot of the times you have positional power. And so, sometimes talking to your manager, your floor lead, your practice manager, whatever the situation is, sometimes talking to your leader is still talking to the person who could do something about it, because maybe you've already had that conversation. Maybe Maria and I have been beefing, and I have had that conversation with her, and I'm like, “Okay, I don't like the way you're talking to me, and it's really hurtful to me when you use this tone of voice. Can we figure out how to make our communications go better? Because this is not feeling good for me, right?” Maybe I've had that conversation with her, but it's continuing to happen, and now there's that kind of toxicity happening between the two of us. If I have had that conversation once, twice, three times, then it makes sense that I would say, “Hey, Andy, I've had this conversation with Maria three times, and just today, this was another situation that occurred. I'm at the point where I need help, because I don't know what to do next. I've already tried talking to her as the person who can do something about it. It's not working, I need your help.” Right? So it still allows them the space to go to someone who maybe can do something about it.
But that golden rule made the biggest impact for me probably in my entire career in terms of team communication and how we eliminate a lot of the talking about each other, the gossiping, the negativity, because it was something that we all came up with as a team. Someone suggested it, but we all got on board and bought into it, and then we bought into, what does that look like accountability-wise? And it made the biggest difference.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Mm-hmm. Yeah. No, I love that. I think that's great. I think that's all I got. You got anything else?

Stephanie Goss:
No. I think this is… Now that we're at the end of it, do you see why I thought this would be a fun one?

Dr. Andy Roark:
It is a fun one. It is a fun one. Yeah, it is a fun one. Again, I'm not saying that people shouldn't get mad. We're human beings and we do get mad. I really do think that there might be a problem with the idea that everyone has to get negative and angry in public, and so we should give them an outlet for that. I think that we need to figure out what the intention is and what people need, and give them avenues to get what they need so that sort of negativity out into the team is not necessary. So anyway, I think that that's how… I think this has been a really… It's been a really interesting one for me.

Stephanie Goss:
I want to know, after people listen to this episode, what is safe space? What does the timeout look like in your practice? I cannot be the only practice who had the rage room. I have peers who have giant coloring things up on the wall, and you need to take a timeout and go color, right? I'm super curious, what are people doing to give their teams that outlet? Because there are times where we all just need to take a timeout, whether it's someone on the team is frustrating us, or there's a bad client interaction, and I think creating that safe space is really important, and I'm super curious. I always love when we get messages after the fact. So if you're listening to this and you're like, “Ooh, this is what we do” in your practice, I would love to hear from you in the mailbag, because I think that's a fun part of making our practices unique.

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right, everybody, thanks for being here.

Stephanie Goss:
Take care, everybody. Have a great week.
Well, everybody, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. Thanks so much for spending your time with us. We truly enjoy spending part of our week with you. As always, Andy and I enjoyed getting into this topic. I have a tiny little favorite ask. Actually, two of them. One is, if you can go to wherever you source your podcast from and hit the Review button and leave us a review. We love hearing your feedback and knowing what you think of the podcast. And number two, if you haven't already, hit the Subscribe button. Thanks so much for listening, guys. We'll see you soon.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: behavior, culture, management

Mar 15 2023

Airpods and True Crime at Work?

This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss are answering a couple of questions about what is professional in the practice. At first glance, these two things might not appear to go together. Hang in there with us because Stephanie and Andy tie them together to have an fun conversation about professionalism and how we draw those lines at work. We've got a manager who has CSR at the front desk wearing airpods and listening to podcasts while they work and a front desk team at another practice who are using the front desk Alexa to listen to true crime podcasts while they work. The managers involved are worried that maybe they are just too old to get it because they feel like it when they view it through their lens – this feels like a hard no due to lack of professionalism. Is that the right answer? It might be. And we talk about why we might want to redefine professionalism in the context of our individual teams, today. Let's get into this…

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Episode Transcript

Stephanie Goss:

Hey, everybody. I am Stephanie Goss and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. This week on the podcast, Andy and I are tackling a couple of questions that at first glance, I wasn't sure actually went together. And when we boiled it down, we decided that they all had to do with what professionalism looks like in our practices. This one was so much fun, we might take the latest set break that we've ever taken in a podcast episode, but we had so much fun and laughed so much doing this. This one might not be so safe for work, although we did try and edit ourselves, but just a warning. Let's get into this one.

Speaker 2:

And now, The Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:

And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie, hiding in my headphones, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:

Oh, I was laughing when we started because Andy asked me, “Are you ready?” And I said, “Yes”, and then I was not ready.

Andy Roark:

You were not ready at all.

Stephanie Goss:

I was not actually ready.

Andy Roark:

You just clearly reflexively said, “Yes” when you were not –

Stephanie Goss:

Yes, I'm giving you the answer that you want to hear.

Andy Roark:

And I was like, “All right, we're going”.

Stephanie Goss:

Oh, man. How's it going?

Andy Roark:

It's good. Yeah, it's good. I cannot complain. This year is off to a pretty darn good start. Pretty happy with where we are, that's for sure.

Stephanie Goss:

It is busy. It was like the craziness of holidays and then we immediately launched into the craziness of the new year and travel, and I can't believe it's February already.

Andy Roark:

I know. I was just thinking, I was like it, “It's the new year”. I'm like, “Nope, it's February now as we record this” so yeah, it's flying by.

Stephanie Goss:

It is. It's crazy. Well, it's interesting. We have got some great asks that have come in and I've had some conversations with some managers recently. I think this is going to be one of those episodes where there are going to be some people who are like, “Are they talking about my clinic?”.

Andy Roark:

Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

But they're two radically different things, but they are two radically different examples and they have a lot of commonality and so you and I decided we're going to do these together.

Andy Roark:

Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

So the first one was some asks about team members, and I've heard it from a variety of different positions, from really honestly, the front desk to the doctors to the kennels wearing earbuds or AirPods while they work. And one of the asks was about specifically their front desk, and it had been other people in the hospital in areas where there were no clients who had been wearing earbuds while they did laundry, out in the kennels, no problem, right?

But then it came up that there was a CSR who was wearing AirPods and they have long hair so when their hair was down, it wasn't noticeable for a while. And then someone noticed and the conversation happened and it was, “Well, I'm listening to music or I'm listening to podcasts or whatever while I'm working and if I have to answer the phone or have a conversation or whatever, I take it out. But otherwise, why can't I listen to something while I work? It helps me focus, it keeps me paying attention to what I'm doing”, but the message came from a manager and they were just like, “I feel like this is… Maybe I'm just old, but I feel like this is really not professional, but I also want to gut check, is this the new normal? Everybody just looking at their phones and am I just old?”

And I resonated with that because I was like, I have had plenty of times where I've asked myself, “Am I the crochety old man yelling, ‘Get off my lawn' here?” And then the other one was quite interesting to me, which was some team members, who happened to be younger, all working at a front desk and they were apparently listening to true crime podcasts at the front desk. And so it wasn't over the lobby loudspeaker stereo system, but they had an Alexa or Google or whatever that was playing a podcast for them. And this manager was like, “People come in and come up to the front desk and no one has said anything. We don't have a lot of clients hanging out in the lobby because we do checkouts in the room. And so it's really just the people who are coming in to pick up meds or checking out the front desk, but still, if a client comes up, nobody said anything, but is it wildly inappropriate? Do I need to solve this problem because will a client eventually say something?”

And it was interesting because they were like, “I talked to everybody to see how did they all feel about it? And apparently none of them seem to mind”, but this manager was like, “This seems wildly unprofessional to me”. And so you and I were like, “Ah, this is fun”.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. I think this is interesting. I think shifting social norms are always an interesting conversation. This reminds me of, I mean, I'll tell you other things that people have reached out to us over the years, were tattoos.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

I had someone email a while back, and before anybody reacts, they are in a rural town in Texas, and this was a practice owner reaching out, and her perception was that they had a very conservative client base and there was an older area and they had seen us celebrating a practice in downtown Boston and there were lots of tattoos in that practice. And they said, “My staff showed me these pictures that you guys had shared in this practice that you really liked and celebrated, and all these people have tattoos and nose rings and things. And they're saying that I'm a fuddy-duddy for not letting them have it”.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And my response was, “I'm not saying that things that are totally normal in downtown Boston are going to be totally normal in rural Texas”.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And even in Boston, if you're serving one clientele in Boston, something might be totally fine, but if you're serving a different clientele in Boston, it might not be totally fine with that clientele, so there's not an answer is what I'm getting to. But when we talk about the true crime, I thought that was interesting. I think the AirPods are interesting. I lump them together and I would lump the tattoos in with that as well, of things that are socially normal that we see a lot of places. But I think that there can be some concerns about how are these things being perceived. And I think the conversation on tattoos has evolved even more in the last couple years as they continue to become more and more common, but you get the point of changing social norms and that's why I lump these things together.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah. Okay. So where do we start? Both of these ask questions about, as the manager, “Am I just old to be worried about this?”

Andy Roark:

Yeah, “Am I just old?”, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

Which is also your ask was the, “Am I the fuddy-duddy?”, right? That, I think it's a legit question and also have to do with defining professionalism, which I thought was a really interesting question.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. So okay. Let's start with Headspace.

Stephanie Goss:

Okay.

Andy Roark:

First thing that I would say is the idea of a professional-level agreement on what it means to be professional does not exist and is not going to exist.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And there are things out there that I see some of our colleagues advocating for that I would say, “I would never do that”. That's wildly unprofessional.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

But they are out there beating the drums and saying, “This should be totally normal”. I'm not saying they're wrong and that I'm right, I'm just… At some point, it comes down to what are your values? What are your goals? What are you trying to accomplish or create? And I really think that therein lies the answer. And I think… I'll give you an example that will get us immediately into hot water. The term vet nurse is a thing.

Stephanie Goss:

Sure.

Andy Roark:

And at the national level, there is no end of this debate coming. It is like there are people who hate the term vet nurse, they hate it.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And there's people who love it and think that it is the path forward for the profession. And at this point, it is absolutely clear that this whole thing is a toxic soup that is just a quagmire. There is no forward progress in this discussion at the professional level.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

Quietly, at the practice level, people are doing what they want. They are coming up with the terms that work in their practice, that match their goal and their clientele, and they are moving forward with making decisions at a local level or a practice level based on their culture and their values and what they think is important and what they want to do and what their needs and desires are. And so I put that forward as this thing where you say, “There are some things that we are never, as a profession, going to agree on” and I think we need to be okay with that and just say, “Yep, I'm going to be respectful of all people and all views and know that other people have their own opinions for me and that's fine”.

But I want to look at what I'm doing and what my practice is, and I'm not beholden to what the practice in downtown Boston does or to what the practice in rural Texas does. Those people are going to make their decisions. And so I think that's the first place of headspace is say, there's not a right or a wrong. There's really not. There's just us and what we decide to do with our little team, and that's it. So that's the first thing I put forward. The other thing that I want to put forward too, classic leadership when we talk about professionalism is, and this is really hard, but it is a is Headspace thing, the old, “Because I said so” is not a valid reason in the eyes of your team as to why they can't wear headphones or have tattoos exposed on their arms or whatever. That doesn't work.

Neither does, “Because it's unprofessional” because there's not a written-down description of what professional is and what you think is professional, what they think is professional could be entirely different. And so it's such a subjective term. It doesn't move things forward, you know what I mean? It's not going to be a motivating idea for them. And so I just think you need to get comfortable with that, of you can say no. And I think when we get into this, there are some things I'm going to be like, “I wouldn't do this and I would be strongly opposed to it happening”, but I'm not going to tell my team, “Because I said so” because that's not fun. That's using that authority lever to lead that I really don't like to use. I'm a big relationship lever guy, which means I want people to feel heard and I want them to understand where I'm coming from and I want them to be on board with where we're going, but I don't want to say, “I'm your boss” and “I said so, so you're not wearing headphones”. I really like to avoid those things.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

So anyway, that's this opening Headspace for me. What do you think about that?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah, no, I agree. I do not think that, I think we have changed culturally, we have changed societally. I don't think we're in a place anymore where that top-down leadership style of, “I say you do because I said so”, right? I even find myself at home with my kids. I can't use, “Because I said so” because then, when they ask me, “Well, but why?”, I don't actually have an answer for them, right? And so it's… I think that that era has shifted in the world and I think it's compounded by all of the changes that we've gone through as a world over the last few years where we have experienced this blend of our personal and professional lives in a way that we never had previously as a whole because we were working from home and now, all of a sudden, you could be on a Zoom and your suit and tie, and if your toddler that's at home comes running into your camera or your cat jumps up and there's cat butt in the picture, those are things we can't control.

We never had to face that before. And so I think even just in the last three years, we've gone through this tremendous shift of trying to redefine, define, redefine, redefine again, what does professionalism mean, and I think it's not just us in veterinary medicine, I think it's the world as a whole. And when I think about, I think about it from a Headspace perspective. I think part of it, for me as a leader in trying to find the right answers for myself and my team always was asking myself some questions about what do I think that this looks like? But also really drilling down into what are the things that are important to me. And you were talking about what works in one place doesn't necessarily work in another, and I do believe that there is absolute truth in that. And I think about Disney as a classic example of that as an employer. They have, for years, had very clear-cut dress code rules.

And if you didn't like it, that was totally fine, but you didn't work at Disney like that. It was just that it was who they are, and there was no hiding it. It was like, “This is who we are. If you don't want to do this, fine”. And they have gone through dramatic shifts in the last few years about really wanting to accept their people as wholes and starting to loosen up as whole people and loosening up some of their standards as well. And so I think we're looking at things like that as employers, and like the tattoo example was a good one. For me. It was tattoos, it was piercings.

I remember, there was a time where I literally had to write myself up because I violated our policy for hair color and found myself laughing at the absurdity of that. And also looking at why do we have these rules? And so when I think about it, and I would say from a Headspace perspective, it's a worthy exercise to ask yourself, “What do we think defines professionalism?” Because for me, the answers, I found a lot of answers in what that actually meant to me and what it meant to my team.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. So I agree with this very much. I think this is a great example of shifting definitions of professionalism and shifting social norms. I think that that's really good.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

I also think if you are a little bit cynical, you could look at Disney and say, “Did they make those adjustments because they wanted to accept people or because they realized it's a tight labor market and they really want to not be excluding people based on things like, ‘Do they happen to have a tattoo?'”

Stephanie Goss:

Could be, could be both. Right.

Andy Roark:

But I'm sure it's about loving everyone and not capitalistic hiring practices. I get it. I'm sure. So anyway, but regardless of the reason, I mean, I'm sure it's some of both –

Stephanie Goss:

Well, you have a cynic Andy hat on today.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. Look, I'm like, “Yeah, is it because you love everybody or because you need labor? I don't know. Maybe some of both?” Maybe some of both, I think that's probably the answer. So anyway, but you get the point. Regardless of the reason, these things change and they evolve. And so I want to start with that. Okay. So that's where I want to start. Now, I also want to say there's a difference between people having tattoos and having headphones.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

What? There are a lot of differences. They're different things.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes. Yes, they are.

Andy Roark:

They're different things.

Stephanie Goss:

They are.

Andy Roark:

All right. So Headspace in this is at some point, you have to step back and say, “Because I said so” and “Because it's unprofessional”, those aren't valid rules, or that this in and of themselves don't make a difference.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And so I challenge people to step forward and say, “Okay, seriously, what is my problem with this?”

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And yeah, and it shouldn't be about morality, it shouldn't be about what's proper, it should be, honestly, give me a case against these behaviors. And so cases that I would consider is what is the goal that we, as a team, are trying to achieve?

What are we doing here? Right? What is our brand? Especially things that are client-facing, what is our brand? Are we telling people that we are a fun place to be and we love pets, or are we telling them that we are a white glove, highly-attentive practice that prides itself on communication and listening?

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

They're not wrong and one's not better than the other, but they're different brands.

Stephanie Goss:

Right. Yes.

Andy Roark:

And the last thing is, what is the client experience that we're trying to create? And how much emphasis do you put on that client experience?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

What do we want it to feel like when you're a pet owner coming in to our practice? And the last part is what is the worker experience that we're trying to create? What do I want it to feel like when I come to work here?

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

Right?

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

And so I think all of those are really important questions that I would sit down and put these behaviors against. So it's having True Crime podcasts playing. Are they playing in the lobby? Are they playing in the treatment room?

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

Or it's someone at the front desk with headphones in? I go, “Well, what's your brand? What client experience are you trying to create? What worker experience you're trying to create?” And just like everything in management, Stephanie, this is going to come down to balance.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

It is. There's going to be like, well, the people at the front desk like to listen to this music and it may help them focus. And at the same time, some clients are going to come in and they're going to feel ignored or they waited on hold earlier today and they showed up and somebody's got headphones in and they're going to make assumptions about how seriously their call was taken earlier. And that's a real thing that could potentially happen. And maybe it won't happen, but maybe it could.

And so anyway, there's a lot of that, “Well, there's this and there's this” and it is not going to be a one side is a clear obvious thing, it's going to be a balance. And I think honestly, if we talk to the staff, we should be transparent about that balance and recognize that yeah, I get that people will enjoy this or that there's a reason that people behave this way. And I would not try to shame anybody by being like, “How could you not be this professional?” But I would also be realistic about what my concerns are on the other side. And I would be willing to hear what other people's concerns, pros and cons are. And I would also really want to make sure, from a Headspace standpoint, that I gave people a confidential way to express their concerns because we have all been around things that were happening that other people seemed on board with, and we really didn't feel super comfortable expressing our true opinion, so we went along with it.

Stephanie Goss:

Right. Yes. It's very easy.

Andy Roark:

Well, we decided it wasn't that big a deal, so we're not going to say anything, but we didn't really care for it. And I don't want to be the person who raises their hand and gets headphones banned or gets the true crime turned off that one of the doctors really loves.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

That is a risky political move for me, and you should just be wary about that when you start to have these conversations.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes. Yes, I agree. I think the Headspace piece there for me has to do with the fact that when we think about whether it's professional, the definitions of professionalism often lead to conversation about appropriateness and inappropriateness, and I think the Headspace piece, for me, is recommending or remembering that whether something is appropriate or inappropriate is truly subjective. And so to your point about creating safe space, that is a risk factor. As a leader, you have to recognize the fact that that subjectiveness is a risk factor because there might be people who are swept up in that peer pressure and just didn't say anything, but really aren't actually comfortable with what is happening. And so you really need to really do your job well here. I think you're spot on in creating a space that is private where you're eliminating the risk factors for them, the political risk factors of speaking up and saying, “Hey, I actually don't feel comfortable with this” or “I have concerns and here's the concerns that I like about the earbuds”.

I might look at it and go, “I don't know that I can really come up with any strong objections or reasons why I wouldn't be okay with this, but you may have a team member who has a valid concern that you don't think about”. And so I think from a Headspace perspective, it's really important to just really hold on to remembering that what is appropriate, what is professional is subjective on our parts and on the parts of our clients, like you were saying.

Andy Roark:

Sure.

Stephanie Goss:

There could be clients who were like, “I don't have a problem with it”. There will be other clients who will be like, “I have a big problem with it and here's why”. And so thinking about it from those different perspectives is important. And I think to your point, doing what we can to see how does the team actually feel about this is really important.

Andy Roark:

Yeah, no, I completely agree. I'm going to take this a whole, I'm going to take this, what is appropriate is subjective and turn it up to 11. We got a letter. We got a letter, it's been a couple years and we didn't do it. And it's funny, I was talking to you about this before and you didn't remember it.

Stephanie Goss:

No.

Andy Roark:

I don't know if it just came to me. It must have been, maybe it's an email that I got, but I got a letter from a practice owner that had an associate veterinarian that was listening to an explicit podcast. Explicit.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

It was called Guys I Blanked or Guys We Blanked, and the blanked was not blanked. And it was.. And so I was familiar with the podcast because it was in the top 10 on the Apple iTunes Store podcast.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

It was very big because it was explicit and people are dirty.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

But it is what you think it is, it was that. But here's the thing that was interesting, is the doctor was listening to this in the surgery room and the techs didn't want to say anything to the doctor because apparently, the doctor was not open to suggestions or feedback, really, but they were like, “Hey, she's listening…” “She's listening to this stuff and it is obscene in surgery”, and I have to sit there and monitor this pet for anesthesia for an hour. And the person reached out to me and was like, “Have you ever heard of this?” And I was like, “No, I'm sorry, I haven't”.

And so I thought about it later on. I was like, “In what world would you be like, ‘Let's put some porn on'?” And so I always try to argue things in the other direction, right? I always try to take the other person's side and see if I can argue their position effectively and what would that look like? And it helps me empathize. And so I think what I would say on the other side is I would say, this was number three this week on the Apple iTunes podcast list.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

And so clearly, it's not obscene or pornographic because this is mainstream media.

Stephanie Goss:

Culturally. Yeah.

Andy Roark:

And culturally, this is there. And of course, again, I was just like, “This is an HR nightmare. There are so many bad things here. This cannot fly”, but it was just amazing to me. One, that it happened, and I'm sure it's happened a number of times in different places, stuff like that. But it just goes to your point of clearly, this person did not think this was obscene or bad. And I go, “It used to be when…” And again, let me talk about back in the day when I walked to school in the snow.

Stephanie Goss:

Barefoot?

Andy Roark:

Barefoot, yeah. Things that were obscene were clearly labeled as such, and you didn't have ready access to them.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And I feel like there was much more agreed-upon norms of this is socially acceptable, and this is not, and I'm not saying it's bad that things have changed because we have definitely diversified and broken out and the world is different and richer and more robust in a lot of ways, but we are now in a place where a lot of things that people don't like or don't agree with are readily available over the counter, if you will.

Stephanie Goss:

Well, it was-

Andy Roark:

And so I just think it's an interesting shift, but the True Crime podcasts, I'm not likening them to The Guys We Blanked podcast, but I do use that as example of content that is put out through easily accessible channels that some people might feel is okay and feel has been culturally validated. And other people would say, “I don't know about this”.

Stephanie Goss:

Well, it's funny because when you were asking me before we started recording about the letter, and I was like, “I do not remember this” and I looked it up and I was just like-

Andy Roark:

You immediately subscribed.

Stephanie Goss:

I was like, “This is 100% something that Stephanie Goss would listen to. Why is this not on my radar?” And also, the flip side of that was I was like, when I read the email about the True Crime Podcast, I was like, “Absolutely not” because I'm one of those people where I am highly sensitive to suggestions. And I do not watch horror movies, I do not like true crime and forget true crime stuff, I do not watch violent movies. I really struggle mentally with a lot of that, and I intentionally go out of my way to remove that. And so to me, I would have found that radically offensive and would have really struggled as a team member because I would've felt like, okay, now I either have to sit here and know that I'm going to go home at night and have nightmares, or put earplugs in so that I don't hear it just to be able to work with my team members.

And I would've really struggled with that. And it was interesting because I was like, “Oh, okay, wait a minute. This is a really good empathy moment from the perspective of what about team members who would find the other podcasts wildly inappropriate and uncomfortable for them to be listening to?” And I think for me, that was that moment of, “Oh, I could put myself in somebody else's shoes”. And as the leader, our job is to think about the fact that it is subjective and what would other people think. And I told you, I remember at my first practice, I'm going to date myself. It was back when satellite radio first was a thing and came out and I vividly remembered one of our technicians getting a satellite radio and bringing it into the practice and was just like, “I want to listen to the Howard Stern podcast”.

And we had a fairly young team at the time, but that also was one of those things that some people are going to find it wildly inappropriate. But the team was like, “Yeah, this is great. Let's listen to it”. And you immediately brought up the concern, as a practice owner, that if you have team members who are doing something like that and you know about it, what happens if somebody doesn't find it appropriate or is offended by it? How does that look on paper, in a lawsuit if somebody sues you?

Andy Roark:

Yeah. I have three things that spring into my head. Again, and we've talked before about I can catastrophize, I can take a situation and tell you how it's going to end in my financial ruin and me living in a box next to the stream in the forest. I can take that. And here's how you listening to Howard Stern ends up with me in a box.

Stephanie Goss:

Okay.

Andy Roark:

Right?

Stephanie Goss:

Okay.

Andy Roark:

[inaudible 00:28:45] living in the forest. Right.

Stephanie Goss:

We're in our imaginary vet clinic. Tyler will find this out. Okay.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. So there's three things that I go to, is what does a one-star review look like? What does a court reporter, or reporting look like? And what does the euthanasia experience look like?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

And that's it, is like, I can be like, “What if you are…” And again, bear with me here for a second, but what if someone said, “I went in to get my faithful pet of 18 years euthanized, and I could hear Howard Stern through the wall”. I would go “Ooh”, and it depends on what's going on, but you get my point, right? You go, “Ooh”.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes, absolutely.

Andy Roark:

What does a one-star review look like when someone says, “I was in the waiting room or I was in the treatment room and I was listening to Howard Stern and they were having this conversation while I was waiting for my pet to come out”? I go, “Okay”. I don't like that necessarily, and there are some things there, but the biggest thing is what does the court reporting look like? What happens when you get sued for a hostile work environment and the court reporter reads out the transcripts from these sections-

Stephanie Goss:

What was playing on Howard Stern.

Andy Roark:

… from Howard Stern and said, “This is what, this is examples of things that were played in the treatment room when I worked there”. I go, “Oh”, and that does sound extreme. Like I said, I can catastrophize, but as soon as you said that, I was like, “Hostile work environment”, and I'm like, “I can 100% see that”.

Stephanie Goss:

Well, and as soon as you spelled it out like that, that was the mind-blown moment for me as the manager of like, “Oh, God” because I actively, in the moment, I was like, “We're a young team, everybody is like, ‘Yeah, let's listen to it'”, didn't think twice about it, right?

Andy Roark:

Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

And didn't think about it from that context, but as soon as you said that, I was like, “Okay, mind-blown. This is an opportunity for putting yourself in somebody else's shoes, but also thinking about it”. I love your comment about the bad review, but also the euthanasia perspective. And I think a lot of us think about it in that way. And so the comment from the manager who asked about the True Crime Podcast was like, “It's not full volume, it's not over the lobby stereo system. It's quiet, and they're just listening to it” and they had concerns because they were like, “What if a client approaches the front desk and hears this? So far, nobody has said anything, but what happens when someone does?” Right?

Andy Roark:

Sure.

Stephanie Goss:

And then the question becomes, it is assuming that it is our responsibility as leaders to help the team navigate these waters, like where do we even start with defining what that looks like in our practices?

Andy Roark:

Yeah, totally. So I would tell you with the True Crime thing, I had two thoughts from a Headspace. So True Crime for me, number one is what about that person in the waiting room who's here for euthanasia and there's True Crime stuff on?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

And again, I was telling anybody, bear with me. I'm not saying, “Oh, I can imagine this thing, so the answer is clearly ban it, ban it, ban it”. I'm not saying that, but I'm saying I'm still going through the process of processing and balancing.

Stephanie Goss:

When you asked that question, I immediately had that heart… It immediately pulled at my heartstrings. And I can't imagine in the almost 20 years that I've been in veterinary medicine, I can't imagine a single person that I have ever worked with, including people that I really didn't like. I can't imagine any one of them not being able to empathize with that client and go, “Oh gosh, I would never want a client to experience that”.

Andy Roark:

Yeah, sure.

Stephanie Goss:

That is who we are as a people and so I think if you asked your team that question, it would hit them in those feels.

Andy Roark:

And again, I'm not trying to bully them, but I am honestly trying to think through this and be positive because here's the other thing, I want my people to be happy. And if there's things I can do to make them happy that don't negatively affect the client experience, I want to have as good a workplace as possible. So you better believe, I want to root for them and I want to be cool, fun Andy, but also, it's my job to balance these things. The other thing I would say is this, and it goes back to what you said earlier, but my wife, the only podcast she listens to are True Crime. And the only podcast I don't listen to are True Crime. I don't like True Crime. And again, no shade on people who do.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

I'm not saying anything, but that stuff is upsetting to me. I don't like to hear about those things really happening in the world. You know what I mean? And as a parent, and again, I know I'm a softie, but I don't want to hear about, as the parent of a 15-year old daughter, I don't want to hear about the college girl or the high school kid getting butchered. I don't, that's really upsetting to me. And so I just don't engage with that stuff, but I'm not opposed to other people like, “Go on, do your thing”. And I don't think it makes other people bad people or anything at all. I just, it's upsetting to me and so I step away from it. If I came in and the whole staff was listening to True Crime, and I'm an associate vet or a relief vet, I'm not going to say anything. You know what I mean? Because I don't want to be the guy who's like, “Hey, all you people who are into this, I don't like it and so I'm turning it off” and I'm just being honest about that.

It's like I would just suck it up and be like, “It's not that big a deal, but I don't like it”. And if I had to do it every day, I think my perception might change over time, or I think at some point, I'm not a shrinking violet. At some point, I would say, “Guys, I don't like this. Let's listen to something else”, but a lot of other people would not do that. And I would have to be pretty sure about how I felt before I played the fun police because I don't like to be the fun police.

Stephanie Goss:

Right. Well, and I-

Andy Roark:

But it would bother me.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah, and I think about it on really… The same thinking about it and listening to you say that, I'm thinking back to when I first started in veterinary medicine, and it was not dissimilar. The feelings that you got when we did put on… Clients were all out of the building. We weren't allowed to play music that was not classical or elevator music. When clients were in the building or when clients were out of the building, we could put on whatever we wanted and it's not dissimilar to that feeling that I got when everybody was like, “Let's listen to heavy metal” and I was like, “This is not my thing”, and it's really hard for me to concentrate and I can't finish doing the day-end deposit. And so I would literally put in earplugs and it's that same, it's a much hipper, newer version I guess, of that than old Stephanie, but it's that same argument of how do we make sure that we're providing, to your point, a comfortable work environment for everybody?

And I think it feels, I remember then feeling like maybe I'm just the fuddy-duddy, like really, I'm the only one who doesn't want to listen to this. But I think it is an important point as leaders that we have to think about. And it's funny because when I was thinking about the True Crime piece, and I said at the beginning, I promised these two things tied together because my solution was, okay, if that's what is happening and everybody else is okay with it, I'm going to want to stick my EarPods in and tune it all out so that I can actually keep working and get the work done.

And then does it become a problem if I'm sitting there at the front desk trying to do the end-of-day reports or trying to get through chart audits and I have earbuds in, and then I am now becoming the person or the persons in the first example of, well, still is this professional if people are wearing earbuds and listening to whatever their choice is because they're then not affecting anybody else on the team because it's streaming straight into their ears, but how does that affect the client experience? How does that impact their interactions with their teammates? Do they hear the phone ring? Do they hear when people are trying to talk to them, but they have something else happening in their ears? So I think they're good questions to ask.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. And now, we're spinning up too, because of this behavior, these other things are now happening, which are also things. And at some point, you get this weird cacophony of different things happening, all that come from this underlying thing. And you go, “I don't know. I don't know if this is a good idea”. Okay. So I want to try to… I'm going to try to make one more pass at this and I want to frame it up a little bit more to try to give it some structure. Okay, cool. So the first thing I want to put down is remember what we said about, “Because I said so” and “It's unprofessional”? Those are not arguments that hold water with your people. And so you need to work beyond that. And also, the world has changed. And I think this is important just for thinking about how we provide work environments.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

We made a lot of our work habits back when people did the work that is now automated by machines, right? When they worked on assembly lines, things like that, they showed up, they did manual labor or things that are largely replaced by machines at this point. And when that used to happen, we got into the habit of tracking time as an outcome, right? We're like, “I'm going to pay you for an hour of your labor”, and you could do that because people were on assembly line making widgets. You know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

But if you look at the goal of our business, which is to provide care and to get pets taken care of and people taken care of, tracking people's time, boy that's really removed from actually taking care of people. It's a really sloppy, crappy metric, right?

Stephanie Goss:

Sure.

Andy Roark:

And so I've been enjoying recently thinking a lot about what do we really do? And so one of the things that's interesting about Uncharted that I really like about the way that we work is we're all remote. Everybody works from home. I have no idea what you guys do. Also, I don't track your hours. You don't clock in, you don't clock out, and you have unlimited vacation. You can just go, if you want Wednesday off, you can just take Wednesday off. That's how we work at Uncharted.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And people go, “That's bonkers” and I go, “Well, why would I do it any differently?” Because I know what work we do. You know what I mean? I know what our projects are, I know what our deliverables are, I know what timetables we need to meet. I know you guys are working hard. And if you can get a day's worth of work done in five hours, I'm not going to make you sit at your desk for three hours. You know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:

Right. Yes.

Andy Roark:

That's good, that's good for you for being efficient and getting things done, but the work is getting done.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

And so I flipped my mind a long time ago to paying people for the work that they do and the outcomes that they create, the effects they have, the impacts they make instead of the hours that they work. Now, I know that's a different part and our business is weird, and it's not a vet clinic where we have to have people there at certain times when the pet owners come in, but I want to make this point because I think it's really important, the idea that the only way to compensate people is for the hours that they put in behaving in very specific structured ways, I don't think that makes a lot of sense and I think the younger generations are really not on board with that.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes, I would agree with that. And I think it applies to the vet clinic. I remember young manager Stephanie, I remember thinking about those days where a team member would come up to me and they'd be like, “We're done with appointments. We've gotten all the stuff done. Can we go early?”, and feeling this pressure of like, “I can't let them go early. They haven't worked their eight hours” because that is the mentality of we're trading the time. And so I remember times when I said yes and then felt guilty, and I also remember times that I said no and felt guilty because I can see both sides of that argument, right? And I think that it has to do with the fear as a leader of not knowing how we're defining things and how we're defining that value.

Andy Roark:

Yes, and that's exactly where I'm going. That's exactly my point, is how do you measure success? How do you measure value? How do you measure the outcomes? How do you define the experience that you want to create?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

Is it the amount of time that people are clocked in? Is it whether or not they have tattoos? Is it whether or not they have headphones in their ears or not? Right?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

How are defining success? Right?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

I'm a huge believer in hiring good people and training them and then giving them as much autonomy and freedom as possible so that they can innovate, create, do good work, control their own life and schedule. People are not automatons, they're not robots, they're not widget makers, they're people. And so I want to give them this freedom, and I want to pay attention to what the outcomes that I want to create are, okay?

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And so I'm putting that down because that's really important with where we're going. All right? Now, that said, I'm also, I'm realistic, right? I can't be 100% hands-off. Everybody needs support, everybody needs clear expectations, everybody needs boundaries, everybody needs to know what is required of them, right? But I do try to balance those things.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

And so as we start to think about what is this? What is unprofessional? Is it unprofessional? I would say to you, what is your outcome? What does success look like? And so then my questions really are, when you look at what it means to be successful working in the kennel, is that impacted by wearing headphones?

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

And it might be that, yes, you can't hear anything and we call for help and you don't come because you have your headphones in. And I would say, that's it. That's the answer. Right there. We're done.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

The experience is not being created the way that if one of the ways that we measure the work quality of our kennel is how quickly they can appear to interact with the medical team when needed, and headphones are reducing their effectiveness in that way, I would say headphones are hurting their performance and hurting the outcomes.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

And so that makes that decision for me, but it's not about what's professional, it's about what is the impact.

Stephanie Goss:

And?

Andy Roark:

One of the impacts… I know, I see where you're going. I'll say one more.

Stephanie Goss:

Go for it.

Andy Roark:

One of the other parts too is, I said before, success for me is a lot of times about how it feels to work in our hospital. And if people have headphones in, do they feel like their coworkers are inaccessible, or that they're not being heard or that they're being ignored? You know what I mean? That they're not getting the attention that they need. And if that's true, then that's a problem. And if the answer to all those things is you know what? It makes zero difference if someone in the kennel has one headphone in listening to a podcast. They're responsive, they listen, the work is getting done, there's no slowdown in our output, then for God's sakes, go have fun. Listen to your podcast.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

If are the clients, they're not engaging with the clients or they're popping them out of their ear before they go talk to the clients, then go with it.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

So that's that. The last thing that I want to say, and this is where all this is coming down to, as the Buddhists say, the answer's generally in the middle. And so we're like, do we say, “Go forth and crank up your True Crime podcast and everybody has headphones or they're banned, don't speak of them again, or you'll have to sit in the corner”? That doesn't have to be the answer. There can be some middle ground here. And it doesn't have to be that because the kennel tech can listen with one earphone, the front desk can listen with an earphone while they're answering phone calls and talking to clients face to face, it's a different job. It's like, that's basically the front desk being like, “Why can't I do surgery?”

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Andy Roark:

That's because it's just not your job. It's a different job, it's a different person with different credentials, different skills handling different problems. And just because you can't listen to headphones at the front desk doesn't mean that you can't listen to headphones when you clean the kennels. And that may not mean that you can't listen to headphones after we lock the door and the clients aren't allowed in the building, I don't know, or that that… Anyway, it's nebulous, but the answer is usually in the middle. And there are ways that we can bend. As long as we know what's important, what our values are, what success looks like, what outcomes we're trying to measure and create, what the client experience is, what our concerns are and how people feel, a lot of times, we can try to be reasonable and compromise while still protecting the things we care about.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah. No, I love that. And what I was going to say is I think if, to your point about, okay, if you have a team member who is in the kennels and is wearing earbuds and they're not responsive because they can't hear, I think it is very easy to go to the black and white answer of, “Okay, then the answer means you can't wear headphones or you can't wear earbuds”. And I would also say that I'm glad you brought up about finding the middle ground because that young manager Stephanie would have been like, “It's black or it's white”, like it is one end of the spectrum, or it is the other. And currently where I am in my career is very much about how do we find that middle ground.

And so the question that I asked back was, okay, well, I asked the questions you did, which is are they responsive? Are they still interacting with their teammates? Are those other things still happening? Because if they are, then what's the problem? If they're not, is there still a middle ground? Are they responsive to a… I'm going to date myself here. Are they responsive to a page? And I don't necessarily mean with a pager, although yes, I had.

Andy Roark:

When their beeper goes off?

Stephanie Goss:

Yes. When their beeper goes off, do they come?

Andy Roark:

Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah. When the beeper goes off, do they come?

Andy Roark:

When the landline rings and they have to go pick it up off the wall, do they answer?

Stephanie Goss:

Hey, we actually had wall phones in our kennels, so don't knock it. And-

Andy Roark:

When a fax comes in, do they grab it?

Stephanie Goss:

I can't. Oh my God, I can't. Okay. Where I was going with that though is are there modern versions of that? This is not their beeper, but if they get a page on their Apple Watch and it vibrates on their wrist and then they come when somebody needs them, is it still accomplishing the same thing? And so where current manager Stephanie would lean very much into, how do I find that middle ground where we can still do the job? Everybody is getting… We're serving the clients, we're serving the patients, and I want people to be happy at work. I want them to… We're spending so much time together. At work, I want there to be opportunities where they do interact with each other. So I don't want to remove and intentionally disconnect them from each other. And I've been that, like my kid wears her earbuds all the time and she's usually listening to a podcast and I'm fine with that some of the time, but some of the time, I want to sit there and have a conversation with her, right?

Andy Roark:

Yes.

Stephanie Goss:

And so I think it's about finding that middle ground so that if the team can still interact with each other and they can still build those relationships and there are times, to your point, throughout the day where they can pop their earbud in and listen to it, I don't care. I'm cool. I am fine with that because I want them to be happy to be at work. And so, to me, part of the gift, if you will, that Covid has given us is that blurring of our personal and professional lives to the sense of, this is something that makes me happy. If I'm the True Crime junkie and the new episode comes out on Thursday, can I create a space for them to do that at work and still get the work done? Why do I care? Right? I shouldn't, I don't want to. I want them to be happy.

If we can blend those things together and support each other as human beings, great. There is also still, to your point, I think they were three great questions, which is how does this impact the client experience? What would a client, who is here to euthanize their pet, what does that look like to them? And if it impacts that in any way, it's going to be a hard no for me, right?

Andy Roark:

Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

And I'm okay with drawing that line in the sand. Also, what would it look like? What would it look like on a court report? And I think that that's a really great HR safety mechanism for, could anybody possibly read anything into this? If so, then how do we do that? Now, if somebody wants to sit there and listen to The Guys We Blanked podcast in their earbud during their time in the kennel, great. Go for it. That is to me, finding that safe space where like, “Okay, it's not impacting other people”.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. If it doesn't affect anybody else and yeah, there's no downside, yeah, sure.

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

No, I agree with that. That's why I am in favor of employees having tattoos on one arm and half of their face is because it's like middle ground. We let them do it, but not so much. And they know which employee gets to only look at the right side of their body or which staff, which clients see the right side of their face, which side see the left.

Stephanie Goss:

Stop it.

Andy Roark:

All right, let's take the latest break we've ever taken just for a moment and then we're going to just bang out action steps real fast because I'll tell you how I think about this. All right.

Stephanie Goss:

Have you done it yet? Have you headed over to The Uncharted website, the one that's at unchartedvet.com/events? And have you clicked on that link for the April conference? If you haven't, friend, you need to head over and click on that link. And then you need to hit the register button because I want to see you with us in sunny Greenville, South Carolina. In less than 80 days, we are going to be diving deep into tackling internal communications this Spring. We want to talk about how do we improve our communications amongst our teams in a whole myriad of ways. How do we set boundaries? How do we have conversations about affordability of pet care and communications outwardly towards our clients as a result?

How do we use language and maybe think about changing some of the language we're using to have better communication as a team? Just previews of some of the awesome stuff that we're going to be talking about. So if you haven't done the thing, if you haven't put your fingers to your keyboard and typed unchartedvet.com/events, go do it now because I have hugs waiting for you in Greenville and you should not miss out on this. And now, back to the podcast.

Andy Roark:

And we're back for the fastest second half of a show ever. That's right. It's the second half in-

Stephanie Goss:

10 minutes or less.

Andy Roark:

10 minutes or less. All right, here we go. So what do we say to the staff when they're talking or when they got the True Crime stuff or they got headphones, or number one, clear is kind.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

I think what most of us do is we're like, “I don't want to deal with this-“

Stephanie Goss:

“So I'm just going to ignore it”.

Andy Roark:

“… so I'm just not going to say anything” and then half of them wearing headphones and the other half are resentful and there's no system at all. And the clients are like, “What is this? My tech's got one earbud in when she's talking to me about my pet. That seems weird”. And we just don't engage. At some point, clear is kind.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

Tell people what the expectation is and we'll talk about how to figure it out in a second.

Stephanie Goss:

I think the other alternative to that is we avoid it or we want to push it up the chain and make it somebody else's decision because we don't know how to make the decision. We're like, “I don't know how I feel about this. I feel conflicted”, and so in talking to one of the managers, she was like, “I just want to give this to the practice owner and dump it in her lap and say, ‘You figure this out because I have no idea how I feel about it'”.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. Yeah. I agree. So clear is kind. We need to talk about this. Putting your head in the sand and just going, “I don't want to deal with this, so I'm just going to let them figure it out themselves”, that's probably about enough.

Stephanie Goss:

Right. Not a strategy.

Andy Roark:

The big question to the team is, “Hey guys, what's important about this and what are the impacts? And so I like to ask the team, what are the pros of headphones? Why do you guys want them? Why do they make… Tell me, articulate to me why they're good. Articulate to me what's important to you about them” because otherwise, I'm just guessing. But they need to tell me why do they want this thing and what's good about it and when do they use it and how do they use it? And then I'm going to ask them, what are the cons? What are the ripple effects? If we do this, how could it go badly for us? And I said before, I really like the idea of giving people a mechanism to confidentially share concerns they have.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes. Yeah.

Andy Roark:

And so the ripple effects are, “I don't feel like people are hearing me”. We worry about what if the true crime stuff is on and you can hear it through the euthanasia room wall?

Stephanie Goss:

Right.

Andy Roark:

That's a thing. We need to talk about what those cons are because a lot of times, they just don't think about what the concerns are. But I just think honestly putting them out and saying, what are concerns that people have? How could this be problematic? And I say, “I'll tell you what some of my concerns are, they're these things”. And then say, “Are there ways that we can address these concerns and still let people do what they want to do? Is that possible to try?” And I will, again, always, always frame up as pilot programs, pilot programs, pilot programs, which means I want it, I want you guys to be able to do what you want to do, but these concerns need to be addressed. And so if there's a way that we can address these concerns and still do some of this stuff, I'm open for trying it, but if it's a problem, we're going to be right back here again and we might not be able to do this.

Stephanie Goss:

I love it.

Andy Roark:

So last part, clear expectations. I don't have to necessarily decide this in front of the team, but I need to hear them and what the concerns are. I would really like to have their input on how we might try to move this forward. I'll open the floor to those guys, let them come by the office and tell me, let them put forward suggestions, concerns, complaints, things like that. And then finally, tell them what the policy is. Clear expectations.

Stephanie Goss:

Yep.

Andy Roark:

This is how we're going to go forward, this is how we're going to try it. These are the things that I'm going to be really watching. And if response time in the back drops down, if we have people waiting up front, if we get a single client complaint, if any of the clients feel like they don't feel like they're being heard or we're not being attentive to them because of headphones, then that's going to be the end of the pilot program.

And I want you guys, I don't want you to be surprised. I want you to know, going in, what my lines are and let's see how this goes. And the last thing is remember, balance is key. It doesn't have to be ban them or it's the wild west, it can be a little bit of what's important to you guys, how can we make the things that are important to you happen while making sure the concerns that other people have are addressed? And guys, that's just what it means to manage a team that's healthy, that we try to support while also balancing the needs of the pets and the clients in the practice.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah, I love it. I love it. That was the first [inaudible 00:56:01].

Andy Roark:

That's all I got. I told you it was going to be a short second half. By definition, not a half, but you get the point.

Stephanie Goss:

Oh, man.

Andy Roark:

One half was significantly smaller than the other half.

Stephanie Goss:

We landed.

Andy Roark:

Those are not halves, Andy.

Stephanie Goss:

We landed the plane. That's the point. I think, no, I'm with you there. And it was interesting because your action steps are all of what I watched unfold in some of the conversations with a group of managers where somebody had asked the question, and it was the shades of gray, right? The perspectives and everybody is going to have a different perspective and so making them feel heard I think is really important. And I love your three questions about what is the client experience, especially from the euthanasia perspective, because I think that is the ultimate empathy tool for everybody on your team. From a leadership perspective, what does it look like potentially in a court document? Because it's a super valid question to ask yourself.

Andy Roark:

Yeah, the what's the euthanasia experience? What is a complaining client with euthanasia?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

What does the one-star Google Review look like?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

And what does it sound like if a lawyer reads it back to you?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah.

Andy Roark:

Those are three just general guidance questions.

Stephanie Goss:

I love it. I love it. This was fun. I have a new podcast to listen to this weekend.

Andy Roark:

Yeah. Just not, this is why we're virtual. So you can look, you can go listen to it.

Stephanie Goss:

It's not going to impact anybody else.

Andy Roark:

You can listen to it on headphones at work because nobody's there.

Stephanie Goss:

I'm in my closet. Have a good week, everybody.

Andy Roark:

See you, everybody.

Stephanie Goss:

Well, gang, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. And as always, this was so fun to dive into the mailbag and answer this question. And I would really love to see more things like this come through the mailbag. If there is something that you would love to have us talk about on the podcast or a question that you are hoping that we might be able to help with, feel free to reach out and send us a message. You can always find the mailbag at the website. The address is unchartedvet.com/mailbag, or you can email us at podcast@unchartedvet.com. Take care, everybody, and have a great week. We'll see you again next time.

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