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Oct 12 2022

Who Should Take the Medical History?

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This week on the podcast…

Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss relish in living in the shades of gray. We received a mailbag letter from someone who asked “Is it just us or do any other hospitals have the struggle of whether or not support staff should be taking a detailed history from clients before the doctors get in the exam room?… Should full medical history be the doctor's responsibility?” Andy and Stephanie get lively when it comes to should – it's a four-letter word in veterinary medicine, friends. They jump into a great debate about medical records and have a blast doing it so… let's get into this.

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Episode Transcript

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Stephanie Goss:
Hey, everybody. I am Stephanie Goss and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. This week on the podcast, Annie and I are diving into the mail bag. And tackling another question from a listener who is asking a “should” question. And I love this so much because it lets me talk about one of my favorite answers as a manager which is, “It depends.” If you are one of those people in veterinary medicine who struggles with living in the shades of gray, this episode might make you a little bit uncomfortable, because we're going to dive in and we are going to relish in the shades of gray here and talk about who should take the medical history in a practice and we're going to have a lot of fun with it. And let it be noted for the record that I hopefully have not actually been fired through the course of making this episode, but I'm not entirely sure. Will I be back next week? You'll have to tune in again and find out. Let's get into this one.

Meg:
And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie More is Better Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
I like it, how's it going, Andy Roark?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, it's so good. It's so good.

Stephanie Goss:
Good?

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's so good that I'm going to break one of my cardinal rules of social media and podcasting right now at the very beginning.

Stephanie Goss:
Uh-oh.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Uh-oh.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So, I have a rule where… I really don't like how social media is so performative, right? And everybody shows their front stage but they don't show their backstage and it makes people feel crappy about themselves. And you see people like Instagram influencers and they're on the beach and you're like, “I never go to the beach and wear a thong,” and you feel bad about yourself.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh God, is this …

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so anyway, that's why-

Stephanie Goss:
This is a 1-800 HR moment because I did not need to think about my boss in a thong in the same thought process there. Thank you so much, Andy Roark.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I am confident that the social media team pushes back on this post because of the fact that they're damaging to people's self-esteem, not because they have concerns about my thong pictures.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Okay. Fair.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Okay? Anyway. Anyway, I am not one to share things that make other people feel less than, but I'm going to right now so buckle up, peasants. I'm going to tell you about the thing that I have that is amazing.

Stephanie Goss:
I think this might be a record for us. We're not even a minute and 30 seconds in and we've gone off the rails.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh no, I had something to talk about when I sat down.

Stephanie Goss:
All right. Let's do it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So I have a yard which I talk about and it's in the woods and the front of the yard is up by the road as fronts of yards are. And I want to have plants up at the front of the yard where people … What are you laughing at, Goss? I haven't even …

Stephanie Goss:
Keep going, because I know where this story is going.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, you know where it's going? Of course, you do.

Stephanie Goss:
I know where the story is going.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So I want to have plants up at the front of the yard and I got empowered and inspired, and I called the plumber and I said, “I want a faucet in the yard up near the front.” And he looked at me and he came out to look at the [inaudible 00:03:28]. And he looked at me and I said, “I want a faucet.” And he looked at me and he said, “You mean a yard hydrant?” And I was like, “Yes, I do. That's exactly what I mean.” And he said, “What kind of yard hydrant would you like? Do you want a yard hydrant that stands up like a old school water spout or do you want a yard hydrant where it's buried under the ground under a trap door?” And I was like, “I want a trap door yard hydrant.” And he came out yesterday and I just want you guys to feast your eyes on a man who owns a yard hydrant.

Stephanie Goss:
I can't.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I watered. I watered so many things today at the front of the property and it is, God, it was everything I thought it would be.

Stephanie Goss:
When you talk about trap door yard hydrant, all I can think about is bugs and spiders that will be living in there before you know it, because you live in the middle of the woods.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Right now it's pristine. I had not considered the fact that's going to be a nest of spiders in no time. I just want to thank you for sucking the joy out of my … Stephanie's like, “Oh, you like that thing? Let me stamp on it. Crunch. Oh, did I break your thing, Andy? Oh, I'm sorry.” Thank you very much. Every month you're like, “Why am I not employee of the month at Uncharted?” And I'm always like, “Let's go to the tape.”

Stephanie Goss:
This is a moment. Case anybody's wondering, this is reason probably 200 why Andy has fired me and it's only September 2nd or two days into the month. This is probably reason 200.

Dr. Andy Roark:
That's fine.

Stephanie Goss:
No, I'm really excited for you and your yard hydrant. The first thing, the first thing-

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm not questioning my decision to get the underground yard hydrant. Thank. Now that.

Stephanie Goss:
The first thing I thought of when you were telling it was like, I'm just imagining the average run of the mill spigot just sitting in the middle of your front yard.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's in a hole under a trap door in the middle of my front yard.

Stephanie Goss:
Which is fantastic.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You're picturing like the Indiana Jones tomb when they unearth it, and you can see the floor is just snakes. It's not going to be that. It's not going to be that. It's not going to be that. I'm going to have a yard Swiffer to Swiffer out all the spiderwebs with.

Stephanie Goss:
So just so you know, I am never going to reach my hand in your yard hydrant.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh. It was going to totally happen 'cause I was going to be like, “Stephanie Goss, turn on my yard hydrant.” And that was going to happen.

Stephanie Goss:
That's a hundred percent a thing that will never occur in our relationship.

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right. That's fine.

Stephanie Goss:
You have bears. You have spiders. You have snakes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
See. This is why I don't flex on people online, because I always get knocked down like six pegs and I just suck the fun out of my thing.

Stephanie Goss:
But you've now given Kelsey and Tyler 10 million ideas for doing fun things with swim swimwear on social media. The memes are going to be epic coming out of this podcast episode, just so you know.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's fine. It's fine. Let's move on. I don't want to talk about my yard hydrant anymore.

Stephanie Goss:
I'm very excited for you. So what are you going to do with all the extra hoses?

Dr. Andy Roark:
No, I don't want to talk about this anymore. I think, are you trying to point out that there's no place to keep a hose in the yard hydrant in the front yard?

Stephanie Goss:
No, I imagine that there's lots of extra room but you don't need nine of them because now you have a yard hydrant. Right? That was the point?

Dr. Andy Roark:
That was the point. I just. Let's just move on. Let's just move on. We're here.

Stephanie Goss:
I've crushed.

Dr. Andy Roark:
We're here to answer mailbag questions.

Stephanie Goss:
The soul out of Andy today.

Dr. Andy Roark:
No, it's fine.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, we have a great mailbag question if you want to know what's happening today. So we got an email from someone who loves the podcast and loves the flaming, raging sort of justice. And I feel like Andy's about to smack me down with that sword today, probably more than once. So they were asking is it just us or do any other hospitals struggle with whether or not the support team should be taking detailed history from clients before the doctors get in the exam room?

Stephanie Goss:
One doctor in particular on their team keeps adding questions that they want the team to ask when they're already have a whole list of things that have to be done before the doctors can get in. And they were saying half the time doctors are walking into the exam room before the history taking's complete. And then they start asking either questions that have already been asked or different questions. And clients, or we've all been in the exam room when somebody takes a history that's not the doctor and you get one and then the doctor comes in and then you get a second history from the client that's completely different.

Stephanie Goss:
And so they're like, okay, we all know that all of these things are happening. So my question is, should taking a full medical history be the doctor's responsibility or is it the support team's responsibility, and or how do we find a balance between those two things?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I've gotten this question a number of times. First of all, this is one of the many, many, many consulting questions that they ask you. And the only answer is it depends. There is not a right way to do this. It depends. And so I always just like to put that out at the very beginning. So head space, let, let's start. I always like to look at problems like this and say why is this happening?

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I really do feel like that is the first diagnostic step in problems like this is why is this happening? I think, and I've gotten this question many times in my travels. The first thing is it's always pointed out that pet owners will tell the doctors things that they don't tell the staff. And so they'll say, “Well, I do it because…” Sometimes they'll tell me things and we have all been in the exam room and had the pet owner tell the nurse one thing and then tell the doctor I completely different thing.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I had a video. I think it's with Kelsey. I think Kelsey was in the video. No, it was Meg Pearson when she was doing videos with us. So I had a video of Meg sitting down with this pet owner and she was like, “So why is Boudreau having diarrhea?” And the guy's like, “I have no idea.” And then I walk in and sit down and go, “Why is he having diarrhea?” And the guy goes, “Oh, he ate a whole meatloaf,” and that's the whole video. It's like 30 seconds long and makes me chuckle every time I see it.

Stephanie Goss:
Cause it's true.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Totally true. So that is totally true. There's also, there's a list of reasons why we do this. Number one is there is a mentality that more is better. More history is better history. We should ask all the questions. And we have a lot of type A perfectionists who are like, they got trained in vet school and graded on the robustness of their medical records, which is, this is a trigger for me.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I hate it. I hate that in vet schools we positively reinforced volume of medical record creation. Like a medical record that's 10 pages long is clearly better than a medical record that is a page and a half long. And that is because if you're a completionist and you are like, “I want all the differentials and all the things it could possibly be,” then you want the 10 page record. That is wildly inefficient and ineffective in practice. Writing a 10 page medical record is no better to me. Hardly than writing no medical record at all because I'm not going to read it. ‘Cause it's 10 pages and I have 20 minutes for this whole appointment. And so anyway, I'm on a bit of a soapbox here and I know I'm speaking in some extreme terms, but it is true.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I think that a lot of us are like, “Oh no, we need to have a medical record that is large and has all the details captured in it. And I don't have time to get that. And so I'm going to send my poor assistant technician CSR into that room and make them invest the amount of time it's going to take to generate chapters one through six of this visit. And so that's part of it. There is pressure I think, and again this is not, I've not seen this published anywhere. There is some pressure on GPs from specialists to ask all the questions. So for example, and my other podcast, which if you don't listen do you should listen to, it's called Cone of Shame Veterinary Podcast. And I bring specialists on and I ask them how to treat cases and they come on and this is all the different specialists and they all are like, “Make sure you ask every pet owner this thing.” And every different specialist has got.

Stephanie Goss:
There's like, 19 different questions.

Dr. Andy Roark:
They're like, “Oh, well, clearly you want to do this.” And the nutritionists have 18 questions that you should ask every pet owner and the ophthalmologists want, they want their questions about eye health answered and I get it. And when that's your jam, you're like, of course you're going to spend your time talking about this thing. And so for a while I kept a list of the questions I was supposed to ask and when it broke into the second page, I was like, this is ridiculousness. As a pet owner, I would never fill this out. And so I think that that's a part of it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
There's a lack of awareness about what the techs have on their plates.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I say this as someone who has that lack of awareness. I think a lot, as a doctor I can be like, “Hey, look, why don't you just talk to them about this thing and then I don't have to talk to them about the thing,” or, “You talk to them and then I'll come back over and I'll ask the relevant questions that I need to ask on top of it.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And again, everybody is, everybody's looking at the world through their own lens. Everybody's looking at the world through what they have to get done and what's on their to-do list. And again, I'm not bashing on doctors at all and I am a hundred percent guilty of this. I know I am, but I really don't know what the techs have to get done this afternoon. I know what I have to get done this afternoon, but I really don't know. So I can have a tendency to be like, “Hey, why don't you just take care of this thing?” And really I'm piling extra work on a people who are already super busy just because I don't understand the other things that they're trying to do.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then the last thing that I will say as I sort of laundry list out the reasons why this happens, I do believe that there's a phenomenon where, and I've probably been guilty of this before too, if I'm running behind, I really hate the idea of the pet owners sitting in the exam room.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Alone. And so I'll be like, “What? Get in there. Get in there and entertain. Get in there and make them feel important by taking a significant medical, expand this history into basically a Late Night with Conan O'Brien style interview to keep this person entertained until I get there, so they won't be mad at me because I'm a half an hour late. They will feel like something positive is happening.” And again, I can't remember last time I did that, but I have a hundred percent felt that pressure of please go in there and make this person feel like their time is not being wasted while I dig myself out of the lateness hole that I put myself into or that someone dumped on top of me when an emergency came to the door.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, and I can tell you that as a technician a lot of the time that is completely unintentionally. I think that's how I approached. I am one of the, shocking, this is going to come as a shock to you, Andy Roark, or I am one of those people that the details are important and I will write more than probably a lot of other people. And unintentionally, I think that's how I approached it as the technician. If I was working with a doctor and I knew that they were running behind, I would totally go into the room and be that person to ask them the questions. And I would find myself taking way more of a thorough history because I was trying to come at it from a customer service perspective of I still want their appointment to start on time. I still want them to feel like they're getting value out of this visit.

Stephanie Goss:
And so I look at it as a technician from two perspectives. One, can I keep the client happy but also can I do a better job for you as the doctor? Maybe I can save you some time on the background by on the back end by asking all of these other questions. And at the same time, nothing would frustrate me further than when I felt like I had gone to that effort because I wanted to help you as I want to help you, Dr. Roark, and I wanted to take care of the client. And then you come into the room and ask the same questions, it would just make my head want to explode.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I think that's so valid. I said all the reasons like, oh, this is why the doctors do this and this and this. At the same time, it's not hard, I don't think for any of us to empathize with the person who just went in there and spent their time asking these questions, listening to these rambling stories about like, oh, what does she eat? Well, my sister Mabel comes over on Tuesdays and Mabel always says, and you're like, why are you telling me this? And you have to set through it, because at the end what happens is that she gets a dog treat on Tuesday from Aunt Mabel, and that's where this is going. But you have to listen to seven minutes of people talking about and Mabel coming and their stupid yard hydrants and things like that before you get to the thing you actually care about.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I know how it is. I get it. And so it's not hard to empathize with the person who goes in there, does all this stuff, and then just gets ignored because the doctor comes and goes, “Ah, just tell me what's going on.” I'm like, I get it. So I think that's true. So now sort of head space, right? Yeah. The good news in head space is this is one of those beautiful problems where sorting this out is good for everybody, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sorting it out saves the pet owner's time. It makes for better medicine. It can take work off of the techs' plate. It gets the doctors what they need in efficient way. By freeing up the techs, they can end up being involved in other parts of getting these cases out the door. Getting efficient in how we do this is good for the pet owner, the doctor, and the team that are in the room, the team.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so to me, the nice thing as I get into head space is this should not be conflict. There shouldn't be conflict here. This is a mutually beneficial problem solving exercise. And to me, I really like problems like that because I go, okay, I have to frame this the right way and I have to present it. But really we all want the same thing, which is for my time to be maximally valuable and for you to get what you need to do this appointment and for the client to feel heard. Let's just figure out what that is because I don't think that we're doing that now.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Yes. And I would say the last thing for me from a head space perspective is just remember as we dive into action steps, should is a dangerous word.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
It's a four letter word, friends. Because what should happen in one practice, not necessarily the same thing that should happen in another practice, right? And should is full of the best intentions. And so I think for me from a head space perspective, what you just said, Andy, about we want it to be good for the doctors. We want it to be good for the clients, and it is also important that it be good for the team. And so I think it's great that the question is being asked and I think this is a good, this is for me an example of where this can be excellently healthy conflicts, talking about this as a team and bringing up each bit of the team's perspective and their insight. You guys, it may be uncomfortable. The text may be like, “Dude, I don't want. I want to be respected. And when you go in and ask the same, I've had this conversation with my doctors, when you go in and ask the same questions, Dr. Roark, that I just asked, I feel devalued as a technician.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yep. I've had this conversation.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. And we think about it and we think about, oh, this is super negative. But you guys, this is good conflict. This is healthy. Being able to talk about it as a team and figure out what works best for us and for our clients, I think that's diving into the action items. But just remember getting out of the head space, think about should very much with a grain of salt because should what works in one practice is not necessarily going to work in another. And I think you can't compare yourself to other practices here. And I think that's why you said, Andy, it's all relative and it's not necessarily going to be the same answer for everybody.

Dr. Andy Roark:
No. It's not remotely going to be the same answer. I think that that's the first part of diving into this question. So there's really two things there. One of it was I really like how you put when I ask these questions and then you ask the same ones, it makes me feel devalued. I think feeling valued and feeling that our time is well spent. I do think that that's a big part of this. So like you said that. But the other thing too is I like this question because how you do history taking, it really fits in an important way with the identity of your clinic and your practice. And so, of course the technician who works for the veterinary nutritionist or the veterinary neurologist is going to ask a detailed history about those specific subjects because they are really digging into this.

Dr. Andy Roark:
The clinic that charges $42 for a physical exam and vaccines, I don't think that you expect to have that technician in there doing a 22 minute history for what's essentially a low cost visit. And again, nothing wrong with that model, but if you're lower, low cost or lower cost, and I'm not saying 42 is low or lower. It depends entirely on where you are and your area. But if you are a low cost practice or a lower cost, you're probably not going to be able to afford to have your technicians in there taking huge histories, right? Because you need to move efficiently through the rooms.

Dr. Andy Roark:
On the other hand, if you charge $89 for a physical exam and that seems, I think people will expect that your technicians would go in and spend some time and get a good history and talk to them about their pet to prepare the doctor and to flesh out the medical records so that they are going to get the white glove service that they're paying for and they expect. And again, it's not right or wrong, it's just about what is your practice and what are your cultural values? I do see a lot of times when there's a mismatch between how we get the history and who we are as a practice. And I always think that that's really interesting.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. And now I will tell you, I love that you said that and I think a lot of it has to do with how your exams are structured and timing and everything like that. And I can tell you, I was trained in a practice that had longer appointments and I will tell you, I will say straight up to my team, “I am not the technician to send into a room if I'm helping out at a clinic that is high volume, fast appointments. If you're 15 minutes double booked, I am not your tech, I not your technician.” And I'll tell you straight up because my process is one where at our appointments ranged anywhere from 30 to 75 minutes depending on what they were there for. And so I struggle, and I am not the one. And at the same time, if you are the kind of person who needs someone to build the relationship with the client and ask the probing questions, that's my jam.That's where I feel comfortable.

Stephanie Goss:
And so I think your point is spot on Indy. You have to look at who are you serving, what kind of clients are you serving, what is your culture as a team? And also who are the people that make up that team? And what do all the doctors need? And so for me, I think you're right, head space perspective, this is a good thing. Sorting this out is, no matter what, is a good thing for everybody, and I think the head space where I end head space and move into action for me is it's about balance and it's about figuring out that balance as a group.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, I love that example. I think that's fantastic. You are such a relationship building person that you in a role where you're supposed to get in and out in four minutes.

Stephanie Goss:
I can't.

Dr. Andy Roark:
First of all, it would be hard on you. But here's the thing too is it's such a missed opportunity for you to shine in this role. And we hear from so many people who think that they're bad at their job or they're a failure. And I'm like, no, you are in the wrong system.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You are struggling here, but boy, you'd be an all star down the road at the hospital that runs in a different way or runs in a way that matches your priorities. I'll tell you from personal experience, I had a technician who was amazingly skilled technical technician, not a people person. And she did not want to be a people person. And ultimately she did not work out at the practice that we were where, because it was a white glove, high touch, high communication practice.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And she went to another practice and was very happy there and it was a lower cost, higher volume practice. And she rolled in, she did a short history, went to work, and she was on it. Good for her. It's not about good or bad. It was about she did not match the system. But boy, when we get her into the right system, she absolutely blossoms. And I think a lot of us are there in that way. And so that's why I really like this question is there's not a right or wrong way. It's really, and I think you summed up so well, it's about the culture of the practice and also who are your people. And I will tell you another thing is it's my belief that those things change over time. And so you might end up shortening up your history taking. So for example, right now a lot of people are real shorthanded and they're really overwhelmed.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I would say you can tighten the nuts and bolts on your history taking and it might not be the history that you would love to have.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Or that you plan to have for the long term. But right now you say we need to be efficient in our history taking. We're going to take a stripped down version of what we had before because we need to be moving quickly between the rooms, and this is not how we plan to do it in the long term, but it is what we're going to do now. And so that history may get shorter and then it may link them back out later on.

Stephanie Goss:
And I love that you said that and that part of why I love this question and go ahead, you can make fun of me, but I love this because ultimately if you are a practice that is thinking about this and having these conversations, at the end of the day you are working towards systems and processes and that is going to help your team overall. And so I will tell you I love that. And ultimately the best system for me as a technician, as a team member, is a system where I know, okay, our ideal is this and our minimum accepted standard is this. And I get to make a judgment call. My doctors get to make a judgment call. We change it as we need, whether it's because of the patient's needs that day or the client's needs or the team's needs. But I feel like I have a guardrail on either side and I know what is expected of me and that's what I mean about this is a good kind of conflict.And we shouldn't be afraid to have these conversations as a team.

Stephanie Goss:
But a lot of us are because they're not easy conversations and they're hard conversations. And especially if you're a technician writing this question, it can be hard to feel like you are potentially challenging your doctors by saying, “Hey, when you ask these questions that I've already asked, I feel like you're just walking all over me.” That's a hard thing to stand up and say. Likewise, as a doctor sometimes I've had doctors be like, “I need the questions asked in this way and I know you're trying to help, but this doesn't get me everything that I need.” Those can be things where we take it personal and it's not meant to be personal.

Stephanie Goss:
And so this is where from a head space perspective, I think it's super, super important to say we are going to talk about this and we are going to look at this as a team, and we are going to look at it from a systems and structures perspective. And everybody has got to take a deep breath because there might be some hurting feelings here, but we're going to work through it because we're doing it for the needs of the patients, the needs of the clients, and the needs of the team.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I completely agree with that. I like that a lot. Now the other thing I would say too is if you are someone who's listening to this and you're like, “Oh man, that's really interesting,” and “What kind of practice are we? And what's our culture and should we be doing these longer things, then how does that work?” If you're interested in that and you just go, “Oh I see how the differences are between the practices,” you might be an uncharted practice, 'cause that's kind of how we roll. And it's beyond I think us sitting down here talking about history taking to figure out what kind of practice you are, but that's what we do in our community. It's getting in there and talking about how different people do it differently and why they do it that way and what works for them. And really digging into the culture of who your people are and who your practice is and how they communicate so that you can answer questions like this in a way that is going to work really, really well for your people.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So that's just sort of the last thing I was going to say. That's why I really enjoy this question I think is really great. Let's take a break and then we'll come back and then we'll get the action steps of like, oh great, we've talked about the philosophy. We've talked about the head space. Let's get into actually making this conversation happen and what we're going to try to accomplish.

Stephanie Goss:
I love it.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey everyone. I just want to make sure that you know about some upcoming events from Uncharted that you are not going to want to miss. We have a workshop that is happening in October and it is the wonderful, the amazing Melissa Entrekin LVT. For those of you who don't know Melissa, she is an amazing technician and she helps out our team on the Dr. Andy Roark side of things, on the medicine side of things, and she is doing her very first Uncharted thing. And I am so excited about this. Melissa is going to be leading a workshop for us in October. It is happening October 19th and it is called Leveraging Technicians: Making Practice Less Stressful for You, Them, and Your Patients. I cannot wait for this one. It is going to be happening at 7:00 PM Eastern. So that's 4:00 PM Pacific on the 19th and it will be a two hour workshop, which means it'll be over at 9:00 PM Eastern, 6:00 PM Pacific.

Stephanie Goss:
It is, as always, free to our members. So if you are an uncharted member, head on over to the website at unchartedvet.com forward slash events. You can click the register button and register for free. And if you're not a member of Uncharted, you can join us. It's $99 for the workshop. Or you can look at all of the awesome upcoming events that we have. And it may make sense very quickly for you to say, “Hey, I'd like to get an Uncharted membership because you get all of this stuff for free.” So come join us for Melissa's workshop. You don't want to miss it. And hopefully we'll see you in the community soon. And now back to the podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay, so now we've talked about how do we get into a good head space.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Let's talk about what do we actually do with this? So we asked the big should question.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
We both agree that should is a dangerous word, but we still have to talk about solutions here. So what do you with this challenge?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, a lot of it depends on who you are. And so I'm going to take this. Let's eat the meatballs off the top. That's a metaphor I just made up. I like it. I'm going to stick with it. Let's the meatballs off the top. That's when you take the good stuff and just handle it before you have to get into a bunch of noodles and sauce. If you are another doctor or if you are the practice manager or the medical director, just a little bit of coaching and feedback is really easy. Because the medical, the doctor that's like, “Hey, I'm going to add some questions,” or “Hey, make sure you add some of these things.” Stuff like that. They probably don't have any idea what the impact is.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You know what I mean? They probably don't understand of hey, you just don't think about, hey, these questions are getting long answers and they're asking them in every exam room and so they're in 15 exam rooms a day and it's adding an extra two minutes to the history and that's a half an hour a day that they have lost in productivity beyond asking these questions, which are just two quick little questions you wanted to answer or to ask.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so if you are the medical director, the manager, something like that, just a quick little coaching thing of “Hey, I need to talk to you real quick about the histories going into the exam rooms.” And then just say when we add extra questions to the techs, they ask in every room across every doctor, and it really backs everything up really fast. And so if there's questions you want to add to the history, just let me know and we'll talk it through or we'll run it through or we're compare it to other questions or things like that. But it's just, it's important for us to have consistency across the doctors as far as what's getting asked. And small questions, when all the doctors just add them, they add up really, really fast.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. Yeah. And I think you don't think about it and as a technician, your brain having to switch back and forth between, “Okay, what questions does Andy want me to ask? What questions does Dr. Sarah want me to ask?” When you make those switches a million times a day, it is exhausting. And also from the doctor perspective, having been the practice manager who strong armed, I'm going to say strong armed or forced my doctors to sit down at a table and have some of these conversations, the perspective afterwards from them was there are times where they get frustrated with each other because another doctor is not asking the questions that they would necessarily want to have asked. And so on a peer level, the benefits of being able to have some of these conversations and think about why are we asking what we're asking and are we more alike than we are different is super, super helpful process.

Stephanie Goss:
And so I would say if you've never, and particularly if you're a bigger hospital that has multiple doctors, if you've never taken the time to just run a poll and ask the doctors, say, “Hey, what questions are you asking? What questions do you want to have asked?” And as colleagues go back and forth and pick each other's brains about why are you asking that way, what are you asking? It was enlightening to me as a manager to sit in on that and hear the commonality amongst my doctors and also be able to pick out where are the differences, but in a really good way of, “Hey, I learned this time, this technique in school and here's why I do it.” And have other doctors be like, “Oh, I had no, that makes total sense to me, but I've never done it that way. Can we do it that way?” It doesn't have to be negative.

Stephanie Goss:
But to your point, starting with the coaching in the moment and just getting them to think about how it affects everybody and not just them, but then also being able to talk about it as colleagues I think is a unintended bonus side effect that for me in my experience has turned out to be really positive.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, I completely agree with that. It really depends on the relationship. So now I'm switching over to the technician side here. So you're the technician. You're doing this, you're taking this long history. The doctor's coming in and asking the same questions that you've already asked and you're kind of feeling like your time is not valued. The way I would approach this from the technician standpoint, the first thing I got to say is what's your relationship and how much trust do you have? And I would tell you that as a doctor, I aspire to be a doctor that my technicians can look at me and say, “Hey, Dr. Roark, I'm struggling because I feel like I ask these questions and then you come in and you ask the same questions and I feel like I could be using my time better somewhere else or I kind of feel like I wrote all this stuff down and then it gets ignored.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I want you to say that to me that is great. I think I understand that a lot of technicians would say, “I don't have that relationship with my doctor.” I want to be the person who's big enough to take that feedback in a stride and say, “I don't want you to feel that way when you work with me. And so let's, let me either explain why we do it this way,” and we're probably going to talk a little bit about how you might get things, different things than what I get and whether or not that's worth the time to suss that out. We might talk about why we do our medical records the way that we do, however it interfaces, but we can always talk about why. But I would like to hear that and I have heard that from technicians in the past. You can imagine. You know me well enough, Steph. You know that there's a protocol for what gets asked. And I walk in and I'm going to improvise. And I did that until one of my technicians said to me, “I write all this stuff down.”

Stephanie Goss:
And you're stressing me out.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then you come in and put on the Muppet Show and I'm just like, why did I do this? If you want to do your Andy thing, just do it, but don't make me do a 20 minute interview before you ignore it. And I'm like, unfortunately that's a very fair criticism at the time. But hey, this is the thing where it's like, one of my dad's favorite sayings was always, “Good judgment comes from experience and experience from bad judgment.” It's like I think that's how you become a good doctor. I think it's how you become a good anything is, you know, you make mistakes and hopefully when someone points them out to you or how they're affected by what you're doing, you adjust course and you get better.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So again, I'm very forgiving of doctors in this regard. So ideally, you have the relationship and you can say, “I'm just going to tell you how you made me feel because I trust you. Because I trust you and I believe you care about me.” And I think we should all aspire to that. That is the place that I want to work. That is the doctor that I want to be.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, yeah. No, I think that's great. And really I think for me, a lot of the answer to the should lies, the actionable answer, lies in the fact that we're a team and this is a relationship on all sides with the client, with each other as a technician team helping the doctors, as a doctor team working together to see patients across the board, and as a doctor tech team. And so I think for me a lot of the should falls in looking at that and trying to figure out what are our superpowers? And I'll tell you as a technician who, shockingly I know, likes to talk. You guys, I like to talk and I like to talk to people. I have worked with doctors who struggle building relationships in the exam room with clients and they have said to me, “I want you to take all of my histories because you get way more information out of them than I get, and that is helpful to me as a doctor 'cause I feel like I can do my job better.”

Stephanie Goss:
And I've also worked with doctors who are like, I want to do this piece and this is how you can best support me. And it's give and take. And so I think for me a lot of the action in the should is what are we trying to accomplish here and how can we best do it together collaboratively as a team? And it is a team of at least three, right? It's me as a technician, it's the doctor, or it's me as the history taker, however that looks in your clinic, and the client. And you got to be able to work together or else, let's be real, all of us will be in the exam room for two hours if we don't figure it out.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I completely agree. So yeah, it's a cultural thing and there's a big culture that I see. It's a cultural shift, and I feel like we're on the downhill side of it, which is good. But there for a while, it is different. Vet medicine is a team game and I try to hammer that into doctors' heads and I think the support staff have known that for a long time. I think the doctors kind of want to hold onto the old way, which is a James Harriet way, which worked a lot better when was one vet practices and you held, hung your shingle out.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And now though, as the demand for our services that have gotten higher and higher, we can't be a one person operation. We have to function as a team to, one, to meet the needs of pet owners, but two, in order to be able to have some downtime and to unplug and to not be on call. It is just a requirement that we have got to play this as a team game. And if you play it as a team game, then coming together to figure out what the history is and what it includes, it just makes sense. It's just a smart part of running our business and everybody should benefit from it.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I love it. So if we agree that it's going to be cultural and each practice is going to have a different approach based on who makes up their team and who their clients are, then how do we figure out whether we do or don't take history before the doctors walk in the room? Because really at the end of the day, that's part of the question here. How do we figure this out for ourselves as a team, right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes. Right. Perfect. So here's how we do it. So these are the action steps. So we got in a good head space. We've talked about where we're going, what we're doing. I'd love to have that trust in a relationship where I could just say this, I feel of us don't. So here's how I'd do it. So number one, I'm going to go as the tech and I'm going to ask to discuss this and I'll ask the practice manager, probably, especially there's multiple doctors. But remember when you're the tech and you go and you talk to the doctors, you talk to the practice manager, it's always smart and it's always safe to make it about the pets, the people, or the practice. And so those are big things for me, the pets, the people, or practice. And so you can absolutely go to the practice manager and say, “I feel like I'm being ignored and my time is being wasted.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And you could be a hundred percent right. That doesn't hit the eardrum in a way that stimulates warm fuzzy feelings for other people, even though it should. If you want to get heard, remember communication happens at the ear, not the mouth. And I was like, how do I say this in a way they're going to hear me? Make it about the pets, the people, or the practice. The pets, meaning how does reconsidering this end up in better medicine? How do we get better patient care from talking about how we're doing our history and talk about patient care. People, what is the client's experience with this? Do they find it confusing when they're doing all these things and they have to do them again? Are they frustrated when they have to answer these questions twice and they feel like this is a huge process that doesn't need to be there?

Dr. Andy Roark:
And the last thing is the practice and that's the team game. How does this affect the practice and our ability to get cases done? To be available? And again, I always phrase it, try to frame it into a positive way for the person I'm talking to is, how does taking history make me available to support you, doctor so and so?

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Let's talk about the best way that I can support you and I just want to make sure that the way we're doing histories is the best way I can support you as opposed to other things I could be doing to move things along and be a benefit to the practice.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And the other thing is you can even practice it, depending on who you're talking to. If you're talking to the managers, it could be a revenue thing where you say, Hey, I want our practice to be financially viable. Can we talk? I'm spending a lot of time doing this, and then the doctor's just asking these questions anyway. And so I don't know if this is a good investment in time and really which one you use of that, it depends on who you're talking to and what they care about. And so anyway, pets, people, the practice. And I would couch my request in that way, saying these are the things that I'm seeing and I wonder if we could do that. I would also start to sort of say, I want to understand what's important about the history. And I say it that way. I would say it to a doctor that way. I would say it to the manager, I would just sort of say, I think we should talk about what's really important about taking a history so that we can decide if we're doing it in the best way.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that's me getting into the culture. And so when I talk to the doctor, then I say, “What is the most important thing for you about the history?” What I would say if you ask me is I tend to get hyper focused on the problem I'm presented with.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And the most important thing for me is to make sure that someone is checking the major boxes to make sure this pet is getting the other things they need. And I'm not zeroing quickly on the focal point and missing other things. And so if it's my practice and they say to me, “What do you want?” I say, “I want us to come together and figure out what should we ask every pet owner when they come in to get any hidden information or information I'm going to miss.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then I would say, “I don't want you to spend a ton of time flushing out the specifics of the condition because I'm going to do that.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that's redundancy. And that's what I want. Other people may absolutely want different things or there's different things that are important to them about the history. What's important to you about this history? What's important to our practice about this history? What's important to our team about this history? Those are good, open, nonjudgmental, non-pointed help me understand questions that start to generate that conversation of this is what I like and this is what's important to me. And I guarantee you'll have one doctor who says, “Well, I want to know all of the things.” And the other doctors who see the world differently like myself will push back and say, “Well, I want to have technicians who are available to help me when I'm-

Stephanie Goss:
And not stuck in an exam room.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so I don't want my technician to wrestle that doctor. I am perfectly willing to wrestle that doctor on behalf of the technicians, for selfish reasons as I go. I understand that they want a million questions. I don't want the techs tied up doing history when I need them back in the treatment room, or I need them helping me with communications, or the other things that a well licensed, well leveraged team uses technicians for.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Anyway, that's kind of how I would do it. But as the technician, I would set the table for the doctors to, I'm looking for a metaphor, so the table. I'm actually, my metaphor, I almost said I would set the table for the doctors to dance and then I'm like, why do the doctors need the table set to dance? How are you going to bring this home, Andy? And I'm like, I'm sorry. I'm still reeling from the realization that my yard hydrant is going to be a spider pit. I'm going to lose a finger in there. It's just a dirt hole with a wooden flap on top and I feel like an idiot.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh God, it's fine. I'm getting fired. I think the flip side of that, also for me, is as a team member, whether you're a doctor who's questioning this or you're a technician or a CSR, it doesn't matter who you are in the practice. A great, this, you guys, this is a great topic for a team meeting. And it's a great thing for me to think about asking why are we doing it the way that we're doing it? And really everybody on the team understanding because again, every practice's makeup is totally different. And so if you're working in a practice where doctors are double booked, and what I mean by that is you're dancing. You have one doctor who's dancing between two appointments at a time and you have a fully leveraged tech team. It may be, the why may be that it's important for the techs to, in room A, to ask this set of questions because the doctor is in room B doing this portion of the appointment. And that may be part of your dance as a team.

Stephanie Goss:
And that why is very powerful and it's very important because to your point, it speaks to the client experience, it speaks to the practice experience, it speaks to the team's experience. It's okay to ask and it feels very non-threatening to ask why. I want to understand the why here, because you should want every member of your team to understand what that why is. And if by asking the why question, you unearth, “Well, Dr. Roark does it this way and it's just because that's the way he likes it. And Dr. Sarah does it this way and she doesn't really care one way or the other. And Dr. Smith on Thursdays does it this way because that's the way they do it at the other practice that they work at.” It may unearth some of those answers that allow you as a team to say, if this isn't working for us, we can ask the questions that help us change it in a way that is healthy and has that healthy dialogue and creates the space to ask those questions. And so I think that the starting with the why is a very powerful tool here.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, no, I completely agree. So anyway, I think that's how I would put it forward. I think this is a good, healthy conversation. I think every team should probably talk about this every couple of years.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I just think that what we're asking for or what we need or where we are, it just changes over time.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I think that this is a cool problem because it gets into culture and what's important and why do we do this job?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And how do we move appointments efficiently and effectively through our practice? And it's all fairly low stakes way to really talk about what matters to us. No one's like, “Ah, I went out of business because I asked the wrong medical history questions.” It's not that. It's just, it's good for the doctors to even talk to each other about what's important and why do we do this history and what's important to you? What's important to me? It is a very good team building discussion that I have found brings groups together pretty well.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I love it. I think this is a great topic to have, ask at a team meeting.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It's going to be fun, I think. And so I think we end up here with who should take the medical history? It depends.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, it depends. Yeah, absolutely.

Stephanie Goss:
This is my favorite answer of vet med. ‘Cause 99% of the time the answer is, it depends.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I hope that's helpful to our writer. I hope they're not like, they're listening to the end and they're like, “Ah. Sat through an hour for that.”

Stephanie Goss:
They're like, “That's the last time I send something in through the mailbag.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I sent them a question. I heard about this doofus's lawn hydrant. And the answer was basically, it depends. But I hope you don't feel that way. It depends on the practice, but you can reach a consensus in your practice.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Following our simple, simple system. All right. That's it. I'm done. I'm going to go water some plants.

Stephanie Goss:
Water your lawn.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I'll see you guys later.

Stephanie Goss:
Take care everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, gang, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. And as always, this was so fun to dive into the mailbag and answer this question. And I would really love to see more things like this come through the mailbag. If there is something that you would love to have us talk about on the podcast or a question that you are hoping that we might be able to help with, feel free to reach out and send us a message. You can always find the mail bag at the website. The address is unchartedvet.com/mailbag, or you can email us at podcast@unchartedvet.com. Take care everybody, and have a great week. We'll see you again next time.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: history, medical

Oct 05 2022

Should I Report My Practice to the State Board?

This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

When is a leadership practice or decision SO bad that you need to go to the state veterinary board? That's the question being asked today in our mailbag! Dr. Andy Roark and Maria Pirita wade into how we parse ethical questions, what steps our writer might take and when, exactly, do we “bite the hand that feeds us.”

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Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss. You got a second to talk about Guardian Vets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I'm sure you hear from these people as well, like, “Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.”

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about Guardian Vets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and Guardian Vets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support, and it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices, because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it. We've talked about Guardian Vets a lot on the podcast, and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with Guardian Vets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or at the front desk, check them out. It's guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardianvets.com.

Andy Roark:
Welcome, everybody, to the Uncharted Veterinary Podcast. I am your host, Dr. Andrew Roark. Guys, I am here today with the amazing Maria Pirita stepping in for her first time. I am so thrilled that she is here. Stephanie Goss is off traveling right now, so Maria is coming in. And we are taking a question from our mail bag where someone says, “Hey, I've worked at a vet practice that is doing some really shady stuff. When do you take your own vet practice to the state board?”

Andy Roark:
When do you talk to leadership, and they're the ones doing the shady stuff and nothing's changing and this is not okay. What steps do you take and how aggressive do you need to be? We get into ethics. We're talking about ethics and how do we draw lines and how do we weigh consequences and the need to take action with real world of survival and working in a job and having real needs and things like that. Knowing that is an imperfect world and that people make mistakes and balancing that with, “Hey, some mistakes are not okay and you guys are not fixing the problem.” So anyway, guys, it is a really interesting episode. We get right into it. Let's just let's get on into this episode.

Meg:
And now the Uncharted podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and the one and only practice manager, former practice manager, new employee goddess, Maria Pirita. Thanks for being here, Maria Pirita, stepping in for Stephanie Goss, who's traveling. How are you?

Maria Parita:
I'm good. Thank you so much for that. I've never been called Goddess before. That's amazing.

Andy Roark:
Oh, you're on the Goddess Squad. It's you and Stephanie Goss together now. There is no other Stephanie Goss, but you are your own celestial entity. Thanks for being here. So for people who don't know you, because even a lot of our Uncharted members are like, because [inaudible 00:03:41]. You haven't been at one of our live events yet, so we haven't even rolled that out. And so let's get a quick background on you. You want to tell a little bit about yourself?

Maria Parita:
Yeah, I'd love to. I am, as you said, a former practice manager. I started in veterinary medicine about 2013, and before that most of my experience was in management in other industries. And when I started veterinary medicine I actually took a pay cut to be a receptionist because I really wanted to work with animals and because I really wanted to work with for this particular doctor. And I found veterinary medicine to be this interesting time capsule, because it felt like the whole world was living in 2013 but veterinary medicine was living in like 1995. And it was just so interesting.

Maria Parita:
And so I quickly started helping out that practice owner with a lot of just marketing stuff that I had done at other practices. And I became their director of PR marketing for a few years, and then I became the practice manager for another few years. And in between there I went to conferences and met a bunch of people and loved everything about veterinary medicine and the community and people. And actually, I believe I was in a different podcast that was shared on a management group and I tagged Stephanie Goss in that, because I talked about how I love this podcast so much, and that's my first fangirl moment. Because she told me she listened to it in there and I was like, “Oh, my god. The Stephanie Goss listened to the podcast that I was in? No way.”

Maria Parita:
And from there, I don't know, I just kept doing things. And then when I had to move and looking for new job, the Uncharted team was looking and I was like, “No way. Everything is aligning.” And I had been a fan of Dr. Andy Roark since probably 2013 also, because I think that's when I found your videos. So it's really amazing to be here, really. I feel like the main character of the movie.

Andy Roark:
That's awesome. Yeah, Stephanie, you got to know Stephanie a bit and then, yeah, when, boy, Uncharted is growing like crazy and we needed some more help in all the things that we're doing. And Stephanie was like, “I know somebody who I've been getting to know, and I think she's our people.” And so yeah, I was thrilled to meet you and I'm super glad that you're here.

Andy Roark:
All right. Let's go ahead and I'm going to let you copilot the plane here, which is a scary thing. But let's go ahead and get into this episode. We got a mailbag question that I think that you are going to be great about. So here it goes. The subject line of the mail bag question was, “Dare I bite the hand that feeds me?” And good opener. Well played to our sender.

Andy Roark:
Can we talk about owners, manager, supervisors and leads that break the rules and continue to get away with it? And not just any rules. I'm talking about things that go against our practice act. Do you have advice to support staff that are conflicted about reporting their boss or bosses to the board? I have witnessed horrible things at a former clinic, but my colleagues chose to keep their heads down because the violators were the ones who signed their paychecks. A few examples of things that went on include not establishing a VCPR before prescribing medications, excessive restraint that resulted in death from asphyxiation.” Oh, my God. “Drowning as a form of euthanasia.” That's horrible. “And using expired medications on patients. After all, how can we hope for change in this field if we don't speak up for our patients or ourselves?”

Andy Roark:
All right, cool. So Maria, that's super heady stuff.

Maria Parita:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Let's go ahead and start at a high level here.

Maria Parita:
That hurt me to my core a little bit, because I felt so much when I read this. And I think ethically this person knows what they have to do, and so that's really important to me. And I think that where we're talking about this, it's a hard place to be. It sounds like the person that submitted this already left that practice, too, and it sounds like they left behind a few people, which also makes it hard, because I can see where they're coming from on that. But I think that a lot of this is going to be removing the guilt that this person's feeling, for one, and understanding that they're already being kept up at night by this even though they've already left the practice. And that's something to think about already.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. No, I agree with that, and I think you're absolutely right. I do get that vibe as well that this person has left and this is still bothering them. All right. So I want to go ahead. Let's start at a head space place with this. And the truth in a lot of these questions is that they come off as black or white. And people very much like to say, “Do this. Do that.” There's no questions. There's no gray. Well, there is a lot of gray. And I'm not saying with the examples that she gives, that takes all the gray away for me in this specific case, but I want to talk about it more. I think a lot of people wrestle with the ethics of when do I say something and when do I report the place that I work or when do I go up the chain to the regional director or go to the state board? Those are really big questions. And so I don't want to get so tied to the specifics of this case that we just spend our time ranting and righteously shaking our fists.

Andy Roark:
But I want to get more into how do you parse these things. When we start to talk about ethics, there's a lot of different shades of gray in how we look at this. So even the list of things that she gives, doing medications when you don't have the valid VCPR, it depends. The details matter. And that is not the same as euthanasia by drowning, for God's sakes. Those are radically different. Those are radically different things. Some people are like, “Why is Andy saying that they're different?” Again, legally they may not be different. Ethically, and I think it's a big point, right? There's three levels.

Andy Roark:
I saw a TikTok video. Her name is Tenasia. I think it's Crockett, I think, is her last name. I don't have it in front of me. But anyway, she's a veterinarian on Instagram is where I see her. I don't do TikTok. I mean, I get a lot of flack for not doing the TikTok, but I don't do TikTok. And she was talking about people asking her for advice and she was like, “What are we legally required to say and what can we not say? And people make you feel bad, and how do you handle these things?”

Andy Roark:
And it really got me thinking about where are the lines when we have to make these ethical decisions? And for me there's three lines. There's what's legal, kike what am I legally bound to do? What am I liable for? And what am I ethically okay with? And sometimes something is legal but I'm not ethically okay with it. And sometimes something is ethical, but legally it's not allowed. And so I think we just separate those things out. Are you on board with that?

Maria Parita:
Absolutely. And especially because so many different things can vary from state to state in general as far as legality in the first place. And so we have people that maybe started in one state and then moved to another one. And especially when you have people conversing back and forth about those things. So as I'm reading this mailbag entry and I see the VCPR thing, I thought the same exact thing. In some cases, depending on what is needed from the patient, it is a gray zone. And some of the other things that you mentioned, absolutely not. And so it is definitely I agree 100% with that.

Andy Roark:
They are kind of over the top examples with the VCPR thing where it's like this person is calling and they're in rural North Dakota and they're like, “I'm two hours away and there's no other help and this is happening.” And you go, “I'm the only vet for 200 miles.” That's not most of our realities and it's not willy nilly. But would I say, “Oh, my gosh, this veterinarian did a euthanasia without doing a physical examination and establishing a VCPR.” It's like the pet was dying and suffering and that's what was going to happen. I think the idea of putting them through a formal process of establishing a relationship, that doesn't make sense to me. And I don't think it makes sense to anybody else. I don't see anybody doing that.

Andy Roark:
But I'm just trying to inject some shades of gray into this insight. These things in my mind are not the same. Using expired medications. I was like you know what? I have 100% seen vets give expired medications to patients when the pet owners can't afford medications. And again, I'm not endorsing that. That is kind of old school, but I do remember a time when I've seen it done before and it's like, “Hey, this stuff is expired so we were going to get rid of it, but you do not have any money. You don't have two nickels to rub together and your pet is sick. Take this medication because we can't sell it. We're going to throw it out.”

Maria Parita:
Yeah, that's a very common one, too, that I would say is I've seen as well in practice. And again, same thing. You have a person standing right in front of you, can't afford medications. You have these expired ones that you can't sell anyway, and what do you do? And absolutely there's these lines that we have to follow, but at the same time, where do we come up with and how do we support our staff with making those decisions, too?

Andy Roark:
Well, if we don't explain what we're thinking to the staff, then they often will make their own assumptions about what's happening and why it's happening. I think that is as much a problem as the actual decisions that often get made is, “I made this decision.” Let's just say that I'm in the exam room and I'm talking to this person. They've made it clear to me they do not have any funds at all, and I've got some medication that's literally a week expired that I have to get rid of. And I'm like, “Hey, look, just take this.” And again, I would never do that because that would be illegal and I would never do anything like that. But if someone did at some point in the past do something like that because they really felt like it was ethically the right thing to do and someone else on the team saw that and didn't understand that conversation was like, “Is Roark unloading expired medicines?” I think that that's where some of that stuff comes from.

Andy Roark:
So anyway, I break that out into there's legality, which is what's the law say? There's liability, which is what can you get sued for? And again, that's not really what we're talking about here, but it is important when people ask questions, meaning you might be able to give advice to someone without seeing their pet, but if that advice is bad because you didn't see the pet, and I know this is a shocker, sometimes pet owners tell you that things are happening that are not actually happening. And sometimes what they tell you is going on is 100% not going on. And anyone who's ever walked into the exam room. What percentage of the appointments do we see that are schedule that's like pet owner says this is happening and you walk in, that's not remotely what is going on.

Andy Roark:
We see that all day long in the clinic. But then someone who walks up to us and just tells us what's happening and we just take it at face value. Anyway, it may not be illegal. You still may get burned badly because you gave advice based on what they told you that was not correct. And the advice you gave was good, but what you got was not. And now they said, “The doctor told me blank.” And so that may not be illegal, but you are going to get dragged through the mud because you stuck your neck out here.

Andy Roark:
And the last one is the ethical part, which is does this check your ethical boxes? So those are the big things. Those are the big things for me. I think asking … So we got this question from someone who said, “Hey, I'm seeing the higher ups do these things,” and so I'm going to put in action steps how to ask about this. But I really think a couple of things that come to my mind is seek first to understand. And again, some of these examples that are given, I go, “There's no seeking first to understand.” But I think for a lot of these questions, like the VCPR thing, the expired medication thing, I think that there may be value in saying, “What happened there? Why are we doing this?” and asking. And it's funny, because people go, “But what if I get in trouble for asking?” I'm like, “Well, good. Then they're making your life easier on you, I think.”

Maria Parita:
Yeah. And it definitely depends the type of culture that you're cultivating at your practice and what you have there. But if you're in a practice where you can't even ask, then they're making that decision for you definitely, because you shouldn't have to deal with that. You shouldn't have to deal with that at all. And I'm a big believer that I actually like people questioning me a lot because I feel like it really does make me a better person. And that's exactly how in the clinic it feels as well. When people question things, obviously seek to understand, 100%. But it does in the end make us better people, even in veterinary medicine as well. There's so many different ways in which we grow and we learn, and asking questions is number one always.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree with that. And there are people who don't like to be questioned, and I think that that's a flaw. I talk sometimes about when I was younger, I had this idea that being a good leader meant you were General Patton and you would just tell people what to do and they were like, “I don't understand, but he's a really great leader, and so I'm going to do what he says.” And you know what I mean? And I thought that that was what we aspire to. And that's garbage, man. A great leader is Kermit the frog, and Kermit the frog gets questioned all the time. Everybody's like, “But Kermit, what about this?” But the reason they question is because they trust him. And so if you work in a place where leadership is not to be questioned, to me that indicates insecurity by the leadership or a lack of trust by the people who don't ask questions. If you're a leader and nobody questions about your decisions, they don't trust you, and that's a real problem. And so I think that you're totally right.

Andy Roark:
There's actually some research in the human side of medicine which I think is really good when it comes to how do we ask questions or question decisions that are being made. And one of the things I really took out of it I think is really interesting is timing is your friend, meaning if you have questions about why [inaudible 00:18:15], it's a whole lot better to say them up front than to wait until we've done the thing and it's in the past and you're like, “Hey, I want to talk about what happened yesterday.” Because then that really feels like more of a decision was made and now I'm challenging the decision, which may need to happen, but it's an easier conversation if when it's happening and you are getting these medications together, that's the time when you say, “Hey, I'm getting this stuff together. Help me understand what we're doing here just so I know.”

Andy Roark:
And ask it and in that moment that it's going on, because obviously that gives the person a heads up to maybe reconsider their actions. But also, it doesn't feel as challenging as, “Hey, I want to come back and go over what we did yesterday,” in the heat of the moment. And again, that's just general how to question the decisions that are being made in a medical setting 101.

Maria Parita:
Yeah. And I think when we look at ourselves, too, most of us would rather be questioned in the moment. I'm the kind of person that if you come at me later on, it kind of hurts me a little bit. And it's like, “Why didn't you say anything yesterday? Why are we talking about this today?” And so timing is crucial. And if you've cultivated, like we talked about, that leadership where people trust you to be able to bring that up in the moment. I mean, that's important.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Well, the other thing is, I can't do anything about what I did yesterday. You know what I mean? There's definitely times that I'm not perfect and in the moment sometimes you're trying to help people. It's always coming from a good place, but you make a decision and then the next day someone goes, “Well, why did you do that?” And I'm like, “Well, why didn't you ask me that yesterday when we were doing it and we could have fixed it or we could have done something differently?” It's 100%. But again, you're right when you put your finger on it and say it comes down to that trust. It's like, man, I want to work with techs that trust me enough to say in the moment, “Andy, what are we doing here?” And I'll go, “Okay,” because if I cannot explain it to the techs without couching terms, I should reconsider what I'm doing.

Andy Roark:
It's just a good ethical check. And also, we're just talking about ethics, but honestly it's just a good medicine check. If my techs, who are smart and well trained, say, “Andy, what are we doing here?” it makes me stop and go, “What are we doing here, Andy? Let's run through the thought process and make sure that we're not doing something boneheaded, having a brain fart, things like that.” I really want my techs to say something. I don't want them to be like, “We thought you knew what you were doing so we didn't say anything.” And now you have to call the client and tell them that you gave them the wrong medication or whatever dumb thing I did. So anyway, I like that a lot.

Maria Parita:
I agree. And I'm so glad you said that, too, because I think for a lot of the listeners, too, it's really, really important for technicians to be able to question, especially in that moment. Because I will say this right now, doctors do make mistakes and I have caught some before and I still remember the first time that that happened. It was a minor dosing thing, but I literally looked at it and I was like, “That's not right. That can't be right.” And I did the calculations four times because I was like, “But the doctor did this so it has to be right.” And I'm doing it and I did it again. I did it again, and I was so nervous to be bring it up. And then I did, and the doctor was immediately like, “Oh, my God, thank you so much. I don't know where my head was when I was doing that calculation, and if you wouldn't have brought that up to me.”

Maria Parita:
And immediately I felt that sense of relief, because I knew that that practice that I was working at, it was giving me that opportunity to bring that up. And this was because I was new that I was nervous. That was the only reason. Normally I'm not as nervous to bring it up. And it was also, again, the doctor. And we have this mentality that doctors don't make mistakes, but they do, and it's up to us technicians or even receptionists, because receptionists can catch those, too. We should be able to have that openness, that trust to question things. And it sounds like at this particular clinic they might not have had that.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I completely agree. So yeah, I'm on board with you. Ask the question. I really, and I reached out to other doctors. I am a human being. I have made mistakes in my life. I have seen the best doctors I know make mistakes in my life. I remember at one point I was working with other doctors I respected absolutely, hugely. I mean, just a fan-freaking-tastic doctor. And we ordered atropine. We ordered a replacement of atropine. And small animal atropine, and forgive me if my numbers are wrong, but this is basically how I remember it. I think small animal atropine is one mg per kg, and large animal atropine, which is in a flipping identical bottle, identical bottle, is like 10 mgs per kg, and maybe it's small animal is 10 mg per kg and large animal is 100 mg per kg. It was a 10-fold difference in atropine strength between small animal and large animal. And the bottles were freaking identical except it literally said small instead of large and it was the milligram strength on the bottle in normal type.

Andy Roark:
And yeah. So the large animal atropine, which I don't know why we got large animal atropine or where it came from. It gets drawn up and it gets injected, and now we've got … Everything worked out fine. We had to sort the thing out. That dog did not spit for three days, because it was dry as a bone. But those things happen. If someone had said, “Hey, this is a different strength atropine than we usually use,” that would've been great. I don't think anyone noticed it. But those were the types of things that happened. I saw it happen to a great doctor, and I had no idea the bottle of atropine was different.

Andy Roark:
But anyway, I think I put that out because I always want to give people permission just to say, “Hey.” Come from a place of curiosity. We always say that with giving feedback is, “Hey, I just want to confirm I understand what's going on.” Or, “Hey, I just want to check and make sure I'm doing what you want me to do here.” And those are some of the words that I like, because I feel like they're very not challenging. “Hey, I want to make sure I understand so I can support you here. Why are we doing this? What's the story? Sorry, what's going on here?” And be able to ask those questions. I think that that is really good. I think that if you're in a culture where that is not tolerated, I think that that should be a huge waving red flag, especially if it's anything that has to do with ethics, with anything that has to do with medical care. If you're afraid to speak up, I think that that's bad. So just generally starting to get that stuff in my head.

Andy Roark:
Other big things when we come to ethics are so, because again, we're trying to say where is the line where I'm going to the state board with this? I'm going above and beyond. I tend to think of two things when I think of ethical questions. One is intention and one is harm. And I weigh those things in, meaning for me, people who are doing things that they're trying to hide, that's a big deal for me. To me that's a sign that someone knows that they're acting unethically and they're intentionally covering it up. And I go, “Ooh, you know this is bad, which is why you're hiding it.” That's a big flag for me. And especially when we get into ethics and stuff, especially if it's a pattern.

Andy Roark:
But even one time. At one time, I go, “Ooh,” and I check myself with that, too, sometimes and say, “Hey, if I make a decision and I would be embarrassed for my team to know that I made that decision, that's a red flag,” as far as me and just in my values and how I want to run my business and how I want to treat the people who work for me. I want to live my life in a way where you can't really catch me because I'm not going to do anything that I'm going to be embarrassed about. And that's what I aspire to. And I found it makes life simpler. I'm a horrible liar. I found that out early in life. I'm a terrible liar. And so just don't ask me to be untruthful, because I'm really bad at it.

Maria Parita:
It's funny that you-

Andy Roark:
Somebody would walk in the building and be like, “What's bothering Roark?

Maria Parita:
It's funny that you say that, because-

Andy Roark:
Oh, he's trying not to lie.

Maria Parita:
… I am the same way. I'm a terrible liar, and I learned that early on as well. And to this day people will ask me like, “Hey, Maria, can you keep a secret?” I'll be like, “It depends, because I'm a horrible liar. So if it's going to require for me to lie, then the answer is no. But if it's not going to require me lying, then yeah, yeah, sure, I could keep it.” But yeah, absolutely. When somebody's trying to hide something.

Andy Roark:
Can you keep a secret under questioning? I don't know.

Maria Parita:
Yeah, it depends.

Andy Roark:
The answer is no. If I'm questioned, no. Exactly. That's great.

Maria Parita:
If I'm questioned, no. But if it's, Yeah, no, no, no. Especially I have friends who I have to tell them that immediately when they're having, usually babies, “Can you keep a secret? I'm pregnant.”” I'll be like, Why did you tell me that? No, I can't keep a secret. I need to not talk to anybody for nine months or however long you want me to keep the secret.” Obviously not nine months, but absolutely.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, if they keep it a secret for nine months, I'm like, “That is a secretive person.”

Maria Parita:
Nine. I think it's going to show after a few months. No, but I need to let people know immediately I can't lie. And especially I agree with you. When they're trying to hide something, and to me the repeated pattern is the big one. When you have that repeated pattern of doing something and then trying to hide it, that's a big thing. And we talk about wanting to own up to our mistakes all the time, because you do. You have to own up to your mistakes, and people make them and it's okay. And when you're trying to hide them, that's where you're crossing a line of, well, that's now not okay, because we're not learning from that and we're not growing.

Andy Roark:
I like that. And also to me, it is admission that you know this is not right. And yeah, you know it's not right and you're not moving to fix it. And so that's a big thing for me. I said attention. I said harm. And harm is the big one. Our veterinary oath is to do no harm. If people are making decisions that are causing harm, that's a big deal for me. Failing to write up your medical records, you shouldn't do that. You should write your medical records and they should be good. That to me is not in the same realm as not providing the pain medications you said you were going to provide.

Andy Roark:
I had experience one time early, early in my career, and this is actually, it was back when I was still in training. There was a technician. I did not know until it all went down at the end. But we had someone who was stealing drugs and replacing the injectable opioids with saline.

Maria Parita:
Oh, no.

Andy Roark:
And they're injecting these painful pets with saline. And man, I hope that guy burns in hell. Pardon me, but I was really bothered by that because that hits right on my harm button. When I say harm, harm is real. I'm much more open to problems with record keeping or clear communication. But for me, those are big things is what are the intentions here? And if they're negative intentions or the intention to hide things, that bothers me. Is it a pattern? That bothers me. Does it cause harm? That bothers me. All of those things. I'm just trying to lay down from a headspace standpoint how I parse those. You know what I mean? The ethical things in my category of severity. There are some things where I'm going to talk to the person. There are some things when I'm going to go to the person's boss, and there are some things where I'm going to go to the state board. And you have to decide where on that spectrum you are.

Andy Roark:
And I hate to say it, but some of it depends on who you are, meaning if there's a doctor in the practice who's doing things that I have ethical problems with, if I'm a doctor, I'm going to go talk to that person, and I'm going to go talk to the practice manager. If you're a technician and you have to work with that person and under that person and they have organizational power over you and they can make your life really hard, I don't blame you if it's harder for you to go and confront that person. I think a lot of times we say, “You should just go do it,” and I go, “Let's be realistic here.” You need to do what's right.

Andy Roark:
But at the same time, let's not kid ourselves about the consequences of engaging someone who's higher up the chain. And you just need to be ready to deal with those consequences. And if you are a single parent struggling to make ends meet, working your butt off, and this is the only job in the area that you can get, you're probably going to feel differently about having these bold, righteous conversations with the doctor. It doesn't mean you're not going to do it. And again, it goes back to those degrees. At some point you say, “My soul is worth more than anything else.” But I would not look down on somebody who said, “I was afraid to do it and I was in a place where I couldn't afford to do this, and it didn't rise to the level that I was like, ‘I'm out of here.'” I understand that. I guess I'm just trying to inject some nuance into it.

Maria Parita:
Yeah, and it's very situational in so many different ways, too, because for me, one of the things that I thought about, as I said earlier, is if this is something that's keeping me up at night, it's affecting my mental health. How much anxiety is it giving me? How much is it affecting me outside of the scope of the practice? And in those kinds of cases, you do need to make a decision and it's going to require you thinking about everything. This is where I also as a manager, I feel like it's extremely important to have something in place to give your employees that ability to report things that they might have not agreed with, even in an anonymous stance, so that they can be investigated later on. Because that is something where-

Andy Roark:
Yeah, totally.

Maria Parita:
… you might get somebody, and as a manager you want to know when those things are happening because you can't be everywhere, and you want to give your team members that ability to maybe I don't feel comfortable enough to bring this up to management because I'm afraid then there are going to be repercussions here in the clinic about it and I don't want to get fired over this. But at the same time, it does need to be reported internally within the clinic. And that's where having a system to report things, whether anonymously, giving the facts and that then can be investigated is going to be important in your practice.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I love that you say that, too, and that's really a leadership management button is to say you should have systems in place where people who see things that they don't like or they don't think are acceptable can report those things up. And it doesn't have to be a huge thing, but there should be some way that they then can pass these things up the chain or deliver them in a safe way, even if there's like, “Hey, I'd love it if you came forward and talked to me, but if you feel afraid to do that, I'm happy to take anonymous information, especially about ethical violations and run that down.” That's just kind of management 101. I think when we get to the place where leadership is actively doing this stuff, I think that must be a much harder place.

Andy Roark:
Maria, let's take a break here and then we come back. Let's get into really the meat and potatoes of what do we do about this?

Maria Parita:
Okay. Yeah, yeah. Sounds good.

Andy Roark:
Guys, I just want to jump in real quick with two updates. Number one, the Uncharted get shit done short-handed virtual conference is right on top of us. It is October 6th through the 8th. It is online. Grab Your spot. It is all about efficiency. Getting things done when you don't have a lot of manpower and when people are tired. That's what it's all about. You can check out the information on unchartedvet.com to learn more about that conference, but 6th through the 8th. Get on it.

Andy Roark:
And then I want to put another thing on your calendar. This is October the 19th. This is Leveraging Technicians: Making Practice Less Stressful For You, Them, and Your Patients. This is with Melissa Entrecki, who is an LBT. She's amazing. She's fantastic. She's been working with us over here in Uncharted on the Dr. Andy work side of the house recently. I'm a big, big fan of hers. She's going to be running this from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM Eastern. That is 4:00 PM to 6:00 PM Pacific Time. This is free to Uncharted members. It's $99 to the public. Put links to both of these down in the show notes. Guys, I hope to see you there. Let's get back into this episode.

Andy Roark:
All right. So let's get into the action steps here. And I'm going to keep this at the general level of I have ethical concerns about what's happening in our practice and I don't know what to do. I think the first thing for me, I think you and I started with this with a headspace pretty well. I try to always assume good intent about people. If people are doing something that I don't understand, I try not to assume that they're doing something shady, that they're trying to keep secrets or skirt the rules. Seek first to understand.

Andy Roark:
And of course, obviously it's like if I see someone stabbing someone else, I'm not going to be like, “I'm assuming good intent here.” No, I got it. That's bad. But for most things, when I go, “What is happening here?” It's better for me to come from a place of curiosity than from accusation, and at least until I know what's going on, and then we're going to make decisions based on that. But jumping to conclusions is often a mistake. So I would start with that. How does that feel to you as far as an opening position?

Maria Parita:
I love what you just said about jumping to conclusions, actually, because it reminds me a lot of when I'm driving. I like to imagine that everybody has a big pot of chili in their backseat, because that's usually when I get angry as I'm driving and somebody cuts me off and I get angry immediately and I'm like, “Oh, this person just cut me off for no reason.” And I have to think, “No, they have a big pot of chili in the back.” Maybe that person has got somewhere that they really need to be and maybe they've got an emergency going on. And it's something that you can apply within your own clinic all the time, too, is don't jump to conclusions. Look for the intention. Look for what was happening and understand.

Andy Roark:
Okay, I have a question. To you, having an emergency, having somewhere you need to be equates to a big pot of chili in the back. Is that-

Maria Parita:
No, first of all, that can be an emergency in a lot of …

Andy Roark:
I can imagine them having a baby in the back. And you're like, “No, they have chili.”

Maria Parita:
It could be. So it depends all about … The pot of chili comes from one time we were driving very slowly because I had a big pot of chili in my lap and it was warm because I wanted it to get there warm. And we were driving really slowly, and somebody got angry at me because we were driving slowly. And so I think about that moment is because I had a big pot of chili. So to me, that's what I go to is I have to imagine that they have a big pot of chili. It's a metaphor for there could be something else going on that you don't know about.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I was just wondering at what point did Maria become food motivated to the point that she's like, “I bet there's chill involved in this situation.” That totally makes sense. I love it.

Maria Parita:
Well, I am food motivated, so you're not wrong about that.

Andy Roark:
No, I am as well. Which is when you said that, “Maybe they got chill,” I'm like, “Well, you don't want to spill that.” So yeah, anyway, Okay. No, I'm on board. I'm glad there's a story to that. I was like I'm missing this whole chill emergency. There's something I feel I should be worrying about that I've never worried about before. Okay. Number one is assume they have chili and good intentions.

Andy Roark:
And the second one is ask the question. And when we talked about ask it in the moment. Just ask the question like, “Hey, help me understand what's going on here. I want to make sure I'm supporting you well. I don't understand this decision.” And if you're too afraid of where you work to ask that question, that's not good, and I don't want that for you. I think that, and again, I want to give people grace here and say I understand everybody works for different people. In some places that really would be a hard ask and there would be negative repercussions that most of us wouldn't have to deal with. And I get it.

Andy Roark:
At the same time, you pick your poison in this life, which means you can either wonder about what was going on and what you were involved in or you can ask the question, and those are your two options of ask the question and get some more information or don't ask the question and continue to wonder or have to ask the question later on, which is, as we said, less ideal than just asking it now. And so at some point you have to pick your poison. And I would say if this is bothering you, just ask. Again, that ties into assume good intent. I'm not trying to accuse anybody of anything, I just want to understand what's going on, and just ask the question.

Andy Roark:
And then you brought this up before. This is number three for me is document. And I don't think that people, when there are things like ethical issues, bullying is really a big one for me. Anything that borders on sexual harassment, anything like that. If you're involved in these things or you see these things, write them down. It doesn't have to be anywhere public. It can be on your computer. Write down the date, write down the approximate time, write down what you saw, write down as best as you can remember what exactly was said. Just write it down.

Andy Roark:
And if you never use it, that's great. But if it comes down to a thing where you say, “This happened,” and somebody else said, “It did not happen,” if you can reach into your locker and pull out the document that says, “On this day in this room at this time, these people were there and this is what you said and this is what you did,” then that is a huge deal compared to someone saying, “You did this,” the other person saying, “I did not do that.” And so whether you report it up or not, you should go ahead and start to just to document things like that that you're concerned about. You'll never be like, “Darn, I'm so angry I wrote that down.” You can 100% feel the opposite way. And so I really like your idea of documenting.

Andy Roark:
So where do we go from here, Maria?

Maria Parita:
I think like we talked about this, it's really going to be dependent on the situation and what was going on. But I agree 100% with the documentation, with everything that you said earlier about the situation. If this is something that is where it's completely unethics, and you can tell and you documented it and you went from here and you've brought it up to management and this is nothing that you can do about it, then you have no choice but to go ahead and go to the board and do what you need to do. I mean, there's no ifs, ands, and buts about it. If you've tried to bring this up internally and there's no changes, because at the end of the day we did take oaths, most of us. Even if you didn't, we went into this field to help animals, and this is something that's not helping animals. And so as much as we don't ever want to have to be in that situation, you've done what you could and now you're at this point and you have to do what you have to do.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree with that. I don't know how to advise someone beyond what we said of weighing intention, weighing a pattern of behavior, and weighing harm. Is harm being done to animals? Is harm being done to people? Is harm being done to the community? Is harm being done to the coworkers? And all those things factor in. At some point you always have to … There's an idea in Buddhism I talk about a lot, life is suffering. And it's just this idea that life is always hard. And the greatest empowerment that we have is choosing how we struggle. And I think that this is very true with ethical issues. At some point you have two choices. You can go on as you are, or you can push to make change. And while I say it that way, everyone's like, “Oh, yeah, Andy's saying you should always push to make change.”

Andy Roark:
And I'm saying no. Sometimes you choose to struggle as you are because it's a bridge too far or it's not an infraction that you think warrants going to the state board. You're not being lazy. Yeah, it ticks me off that I went to the boss and the boss didn't do anything, but do I want to go through this headache, this effort of going on to the state board? I have to ask myself that question, because that's really the only question is is this how I want to struggle? Do I want to do this, or do I want to struggle living with the knowledge that I did not go to the state board? And that's it. That's 100% where we end up in the end. And I think that's a lot to balance.

Andy Roark:
I think it's very nuanced. I think and this person who's writing, they give a long list of serious things. To me, I go, That's pattern. That's a pattern, and there are things that cause significant harm. To me, those check all of my ethical boxes of I'm appealing up the chain because this is not okay with me. It's not okay. Yeah, it's not okay with me. And I feel emotional pain having been involved in this or knowing that this is here and it's continuing on. And from an ethical standpoint, I'm not okay with this. And I have chosen. I picked my poison and it is I am going to stand up and say something and say, “This is not okay.”

Andy Roark:
We all have to make those choices. It depends on the individual thing that you're dealing with. And then also, when things become a pattern, to me that's a big deal. Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes, and it's just part of being human. And again, there's some mistakes that you don't get forgiven for. And that's true. Most of us make human mistakes. When we have a pattern of mistakes, that's something different. When we refuse to correct or apologize for mistakes that we have made and we show no intention of changing our behaviors, all of those things matter to me a lot in trying to make these decisions.

Maria Parita:
Yeah, I completely agree with you on that.

Andy Roark:
Is there anything else that I'm forgetting here as far as trying to make this call? It is kind of a messy one, but boy, ethics are generally messy.

Maria Parita:
Yeah. I feel like, honestly, we could make this six episodes, because it's such a messy situation and there's so many different things that need to be involved for this to all go the right way. And situations are different and people are different and clinics are different and laws are different in different states, too. So we could talk about this for a really long time, but at the end core of it, it's exactly what you said, Andy. It really is.

Andy Roark:
Oh, well, thanks, buddy. Hey, thank you so much for being here with me, Maria. I appreciate it. Guys, thanks for tuning in. Take care of yourselves and we'll see you next week.

Maria Parita:
Thank you so much.

Andy Roark:
And that is our episode. Guys, that's what I got for you. I hope you enjoyed it. Thanks to Maria coming out, first time having her on the podcast. I cannot wait to have her on many more times with me and with Stephanie. And gang, I got to stop right here for a quick second and just say thanks to [inaudible 00:45:58]. I got to give them a shout out. Guys, they sponsor our transcripts. They are all about inclusivity and accessibility in our profession, and they made transcripts responsible for our podcast, which we cannot otherwise do. So big thanks to them. Find them at uncharteredvet.com. Guys, that's it. That's all I got for you. Take care of yourselves. I'll talk to you later on. Bye.

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Sep 28 2022

They Hired A B*tch So Now What Do We Do?

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss dive into the mail bag and come out with a wonderful question from a lead LVT who is struggling with a new hire that they are hearing some not so nice things about through the local vetmed grapevine. The world of veterinary medicine is a very small one – does that mean it is unfair to judge someone before you even get to work with them? Let's get into this.

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Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody. I am Stephanie Goss and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. This week on the podcast, we have another great e-mail through the mail back from a technician at a small GP who has a new hire coming on that they feel like might have a bit of a bad reputation. Andy and I get into talking about the fact that vet med is a very small world, and answer some of the questions that this tech asked about. Are they catastrophizing? And if they are, how do they actually deal with this? This one is so fun and I'm super excited to share it with you all, so let's get into it, shall we? Oh, and real quick, if you're listening to this episode and you have kids around, there is some language in this one. Andy and I try, but we don't always succeed at censoring ourselves here. So, you might want to hit pause if the kids are in the car with you and now let's get into this.

Speaker 2:
And now, the Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and the one and only, Stephanie “I'm the bad guy” Goss. Oh, not my best.

Stephanie Goss:
That's okay. I don't mind being the bad guy once in a while. How good is Andy Roark?

Andy Roark:
It could be worse. That's where I am. It could be worse. I feel like there's a lot of people who are struggling with things these days and I've had some of my close friends reach out really recently and say things like, “Boy, I worked so hard on the culture of my practice and now, everyone has quit. No money.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I've had other people who'd say, “I'm going through a really hard time and I've had a lot of pets that I care deeply about passing away and I'm not strong enough to not let that affect me. And so, if I act different when we're together, I just want you to kind of know that's going on.” And I think about those things a lot. I hear advice to other people say…. So for example, with the turnover thing, when I say, “I have a friend who's struggling and he's had a huge staff turnover.” I know there's people out there who say, “Well, maybe he's not setting the culture the right way,” or “Maybe he's not leading the right way,” or “Maybe he's not hiring the right people.”

Andy Roark:
And I hear those things, but I've been really thinking a lot about this, Stephanie. I just kind of want to put it here at the beginning because it's something I'm really rolling around with. I've got this idea that there are sages, and hustlers, and backpackers.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
Okay. So, sages, and hustlers, and backpackers. And the sages are the people who try to convince you that if you are smart enough, you will get this right.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
The key is there's knowledge that you don't have, but if you had the knowledge, if the person told you the right things, then you would be one of the smart people and you would-

Stephanie Goss:
And you could change it.

Andy Roark:
… You could change it. You'd avoid it. You would avoid the pain because you are smart and you know the thing. And the hustlers are the people who are on Facebook and Instagram talking about how they're grinding, and they're working hard, and they're up early and they're seizing the day, and they're making it happen because they're working so hard. And I think both of those people are largely full of shit. I'm sorry, I do.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I think we're all backpackers.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
And what I mean is, we are all out there just walking in the woods, and we're making our way. And some of us are carrying heavy packs and some of us are carrying light packs and generally, we have cycles, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
That's just backpacking, as we have a full pack and you go in the woods, it's real heavy, and at the end of the trip it didn't weigh as much because you've gotten a lot off your back and you've eaten a lot of food and stuff. And so, some of us have heavy packs, and some of us have light packs, and sometimes your pack is heavy, and sometimes it's light, and sometimes you're getting eaten by mosquitoes.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Sometimes you're not, and sometimes there's beautiful views, and sometimes there not. And sometimes, it just rolls up and it rains on you for days and days, and you just walk in the rain, and you didn't do anything wrong and you're not failing, you're just walking in the rain, and I think that that's really important. And yeah, if you're smart, you can do better packing job and you can pick a better trail sometimes. And there are some people who just hike in circles and they come back to the same roadblocks, the same landmarks, and they don't realize that they're going at circles. They're like, “There's that same pain in my butt again.” [inaudible 00:04:38]-

Stephanie Goss:
Guess I'll keep going.

Andy Roark:
… right around and they just do it again. If you're seeing the same landmark, you should change what you're doing. And we all need to rest on our backpacking trip, everybody needs to rest. If your ideas, I'm going to walk, and walk, and walk, and never rest, never take care of myself, you're in trouble. At the same time, there's a lot of people who take a lot of rests and they don't get very far. And so anyway, that's where my head is these days and I hope that that's helpful for other people because it's been really helpful to me recently. I'm like, “You know what? We're all just backpacking. And sometimes, you backpack in the rain and there's nothing you can do about it other than, except that it's just going to rain and you're going to walk in the rain for a while and you didn't do anything wrong. You don't outsmart the rain, you don't outhustle the rain, sometimes you walk in the rain.”

Stephanie Goss:
Glad that you talked about this and I think the metaphors is very appropriate, and it's one of the things that makes me love what we do here on the podcast and what we do in the Uncharted community because I think it's so true. And I think even the most experienced backpackers get hit with rain. And the only way to get through it is you just keep picking your foot up and put one foot in front of the other. And it's one of the things that I love here because this is kind of a safe little space because the reality is like you can be really good at your job and you can have done it forever and you're still going to get hit with rain once in a while. And so, I think about our friend too and it's like, you can do all the right things, you can have all the right systems, and protocols, and processes, and it still falls apart.

Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And that's one of the things that I love about our community, is the willingness to recognize that. ‘Cause I think, especially on social media, there's this pressure to feel like you have to make it look like everything is perfect. And we get caught up in like, “Oh my God, their clinic has it all together.” Nobody's clinic has it all together all the time. It's just total BS, you guys.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Honestly, that's what I love the most. That's what I probably would've loved the most about Uncharted is, one of our core values is vulnerability. And so, there's nothing that makes you feel better when you're walking in the rain, and you've had this problem, and you've gone through this thing. And then, someone that you respect, someone who you knew is just objectively successful, comes up and says, “Oh, man. I did that. I remember walking through that. God it sucks.” And you go, “Oh, you've been here? You've got something like this?” And they're like, “Oh, yeah buddy.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And when you go, one, it's someone showing you that you're going to come out the other side, which is valuable. And another thing is it convinces you that it's not a foolish mistake, it's just sometimes, you get rained on, and everybody gets rained on. So anyway, I've been thinking a lot about that recently. But if you're out there and you're struggling and you're feeling like, “Man, things are not going well. This must mean that I'm failing, or I'm not strong enough, or I'm not smart enough.” I don't think that that's true. I think we're all making our way. And hey, if you want to walk with some people, come and join Uncharted, and we walk together, that's what we do. But we're all still walking, and you still got to carry your own back, and you're still going to get rained on, but at least you won't be alone. And other people can tell you what they've seen on their journey as well.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
So anyway, that's that. Anyway, I don't know who needs to hear that, but I suspect someone does.

Stephanie Goss:
I think there's more people that probably need to hear it than don't, because it's hard right now. And honestly, I'm stoked about, we've got GSDA Conference coming up in a few short weeks. I can't believe it's already September. The clock is just moving on by.

Andy Roark:
[Inaudible 00:08:28].

Stephanie Goss:
And I think that's where a lot of us are at. Life is crazy. Everybody's shorthanded. Everything is nuts for everybody. And so. I'm really excited about spending that time in that space together as a group to just say, “Look, sometimes it's great, and let's lean into the positivity because when it sucks, it's really hard to find that positive motivation.” And there's nothing better than being on that trail and having another group of backpackers to just sit and wait out the rain with.

Andy Roark:
Yeah,

Stephanie Goss:
It feels good.

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
But we have a great mail bag question for this week. Speaking of waiting out the rain, we got a question from a technician in practice who is a leader and they're asking for some friends or some advice for waiting out the rain. So, they are the lead in RVT in their practice or lead tech, and they have someone who's been hired, they have a practice manager. And so, the practice manager has hired somebody, and they said the vet world's very small in our area. And fun fact, the vet world in general, is very small. Doesn't matter where you live, you can live in New York City or you can live in the middle of nowhere Kansas, it is small no matter where you live. And so this tech is like, “Look, I'm hearing some pretty negative things from mutual acquaintances in our area about this new hire. They have super [inaudible 00:09:57] words, like they have super strong or super dominant personality. And one person said, ‘Look, this person is a straight up, capital B word.'”

Stephanie Goss:
And so, their practice managers was like, “Look, we're shorthanded. I think that we need someone, particularly someone who has a level of experience as this hire, badly enough to give them the benefit of the doubt and just see what happens.” And so, this technician is torn because they're like, “Look, I get it. We do need help. And we've worked really, really hard to get to a place as a team where we have, a great team, not toxic, works together, and they're afraid. They don't want that to change.” And so, they were asking, “Hey, how do you approach onboarding someone where you might know some things about their history? Do you view it differently than you would a new hire that nothing about?” They were asking themselves, “Am I being unfair to judge before this person even starts? And they're just worried about, “Am I catastrophizing this or is there actually potential that this could be a train wreck?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Both. Guess, it's both.

Stephanie Goss:
Right?

Andy Roark:
Yes. Yes, yes, yes. Yeah. Wait. Here we go. We actually get a fair number of questions like this about like, “Someone new is joining and this is what I've heard. What can I do?”

Stephanie Goss:
This is 100% going to be another one of those episodes where people are like, “Are they talking about my practice?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I'll tell you the other part of this, this is not the question that we got, but this is a version of this question that I've gotten before, it's the owner or the medical director writes to us and they're like, “I just hired this person and now the team has come to me to tell me they have a horrible reputation. This is information I would've liked to have had yesterday.”

Stephanie Goss:
Again, true story.

Andy Roark:
We've gotten those gotten letters too.

Stephanie Goss:
True story.

Andy Roark:
All right. Well, let's already unpack this. So, let's start with headspace as we do.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
Do you want to start with sunny headspace or not sunny headspace? What do you like to start with?

Stephanie Goss:
Let's start with the sunshine.

Andy Roark:
Great. Let's start with the sunshine. How about the golden rule? Like, Okay, if I was going into a new job and someone there had heard that I was a jerk, I would want the people who didn't know me to at least give me a chance.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I would want that.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I'll tell you a story. I don't think I've ever told this story before, but I'll tell you a story. I remember at a Facebook group, it's been years ago, and it was a group and there was a bunch of technicians in this group, and I had posted something that had been shared from the Doctor Anywhere page into this group, something like that. And I was looking around, as you do when you see something show up in a group, you're like, share that and wander. And people were like, “Oh, this is really good, and blah, blah, blah.” And then, there was this one person who said, “If you want to know what it's really like to work with him, let me know. I have the dirt,” in the comments.

Stephanie Goss:
Seriously?

Andy Roark:
And I look at this person. I never met this person in my life. I'm like, “I have no idea who you're.” But I was bothered.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
It was very conspiratorial. And so, I commented back to this person and I said, “What's the dirt? I would really like to know.” And I thought that they would kind of back down or maybe delete their comment. But no, they wrote, they grabbed their flaming, raging sword of justice and said, “Ah. The fact that you would comment shows how defensive you are and then you clearly have-“

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, gosh.

Andy Roark:
At that point, I was done.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
But they went on the attack that I had said, “What is the dirt? Because I've never met you and I'm curious as to what you think you know,” and it just escalated. And I thought about that and it really bothered me because I was like, “I don't know who this person is and they're telling other people they have the dirt on working with me.” And so, I went back to my text and I was like, “Hey, what's the dirt on working with me? What could possibly be there?” And they looked and they were like, “Oh, this person works with someone who left our clinic a while back.” And so yeah, there's probably some gossipy stuff going on over there.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I wouldn't worry about it. And I ultimately said, “Dude, what else are you going to do?” So, you let it go.

Stephanie Goss:
Let it go.

Andy Roark:
But man, it always bothered me because I really bend over backwards to be good to work with. And if I'm not good to work with, I want you to tell me I'm not good to work with. Because I, honest to God, take the feedback and change or at least change what I can do, because it's real important to me that the support staff and the other doctors enjoy being around me, and that I treat people well. And so, to see that or have that reputation put out, man, that hurt me and that bothered me, enough that the fact that I still remember the interaction today. And so, I can empathize with the person coming in and being like, sometimes, people say stuff or put stuff out that hopefully, is not remotely true, but man I would hate to have people judging me and making decisions about how they're going to treat me based on some rumor about how I'm supposed to act.

Stephanie Goss:
And the other piece of this that I will say that has been one of the most powerful lessons that I have learned as a manager but also as a human being is, sometimes, things are a result of environment. And so, I have worked with technicians, and support staff, and doctors in my career where I have worked with them in one environment, and it was an awful experience, and then, they go on to a completely different clinical environment and it's like night and day. And so, I think for me, give people a chance is really important. And I think, again, I'm looking for repeated instances of problems but you got to give somebody a chance. And so, I think that's how I try and approach people when I do reference checks or background checks as a manager and I'm talking to people who have worked with somebody before and I'm asking them questions, one of the things that I'm trying to figure out is situational.

Stephanie Goss:
What is their environment? Yes, I want to hear the information that they're sharing, and if someone shares something to me, that's deal breakers, obviously, that's important. But if somebody's like, “Well there was some drama, there was problems with gossiping or whatever.” I'm going to ask more questions because I want to know what were the circumstances? There's a million different reasons but I want to know and because what I'm trying to figure out is, is there a higher potential for this to be replicated in my practice environment? Because we all have different teams, we all have different makeups within our practice. And so, I agree with you, I think everybody deserves a chance. And also, I want to know what is potentially different about my circumstance and situation then than theirs.

Andy Roark:
Well, totally. I have a good friend and her mother passed away, and man, she was a different person for six months.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
No shade. But boy, it was a hard time, and I'm confident she's not alone and having an experience like that-

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, yeah.

Andy Roark:
… that really rocked her to the court. And it wasn't like, “Oh, she's having a bad week.” It was like, no, it was six months. Again, I know this person as a friend. Was it depression? I don't know. But they definitely changed, their behavior changed for an extended amount of a period of time, and then, ultimately it changed back. But all that to say, sometimes, we meet people at a hard time, and it's something they're going through. I really like your point about environment matters. I remember friends growing up that they were together, and boy, they were both kind of mean. And then, their friendship broke up, and suddenly, one of them was the coolest, nicest person I ever met.

Andy Roark:
I'm like, “How are you cool?” And they were like, “I didn't realize being around this other person was really affecting me in a negative way.” It was incredible to see this turnaround in this individual. So, I think you're really right in that. There's a lot of things like that. They change over time. I don't know. I think giving people a benefit of the doubt sometimes, it makes a lot of sense. And we all kind of cycle through things now. That's the sunny side. Now, there's not sunny side as well. There's a difference in behaviors and patterns-

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
… and I put a lot of weight on this.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
I hear people misspeak all the time, or say something that's hurtful, or snap at other people, and that's a thing that happens to the best of us. We all get angry. We all have hard days. We're all carrying heavy backpacks.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And just we wake up and we don't have enough spoons to get through the day. If you know spoon theory, it happens to all of us, and we act out. And that's not a pattern, that's an action. There are other things that are patterns.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Where this person snaps a lot and this person routinely gets frustrated and raises their voice as opposed to the person who has raised their voice literally one time in 10 years.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
We've all seen practice owners at the end of their rope raised their voice, and it was like, “Boy, was that wildly out of character for her,” or “Boy, that's just another Tuesday for her.” But that pattern matters. It matters.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And so, the only reason I bring that up, is if you have multiple people come to you, pointing out a type of behavior that they have experienced, or seeing, or heard about in different times and places, then I start to say, “Maybe this person didn't have a bad day. Maybe there's a pattern of behavior here.” And I definitely would be foolish to not, at least file that away. I don't want to judge that person, but I would also be foolish to dismiss that out of hand and not consider the possibility that there is truth to what is being put forward.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. And I think that's truly true. And when I thought about this, I thought about this letter and thought about what they were saying. To me, things like strong or dominant personality, or acting like a straight up B, my question is, what does that actually mean? Is it behaviors that they're seeing? What do those behaviors look like? Is it things like tone of voice? Is it the way that they talk? What does that actually mean? Because that could mean a million different things, and that could be something that is in my control to influence or affect change, or it could be completely out of my control if it's truly personality. And those are two very, very different things for me. And so, I agree with you. I think it's worth looking at, “Is this something I can impact or influence or is it not?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Well, one last example I want to give, because you were there, you were with me when I was talking to Ron Souza, our executive director for Uncharted. And he talked about when he lived in New York City and became a New Yorker, and he left New York, and he had to change the way he communicates because the way that he would be like, “No. Do this, I need this, get this.” And apparently it was culturally acceptable in New York City and that's how people communicated very directly. That's not how they communicate during in other parts of the country. And I realized that I was like, I would tell people it's to do things and they would cry and I was like, “Oh my God.” And it's like we all have these different ways and styles where we behave in one way and it changes later on anyway. Yeah, I guess just my point is we all have behaviors. We are all making our way. Pay attention to behaviors and patterns especially, but again, everybody should get a chance. I think that that's my thought on giving people a chance

Stephanie Goss:
And I really believe strongly in that. Because on the flip side of that question, I know you were going to turn us to a little bit of the reign, but I would also say from a sunny side perspective, what if it's great? And I say that from my own personal experience. When I was a manager and I left my first clinic and I went to work as a practice manager for the first time and I went to work in a practice, and it was very appropriate here. I had heard some things about the practice but I was like, I have evaluated things for myself and I feel like there's potential here and I am excited about having a chance. And so, I was like, “I'm going to set those things aside and I'm going to think about it. What if it could be great? What if those things aren't the experience that I have? If I say no just because of someone else's experience, am I going to be passing up on an awesome opportunity for myself?”

Stephanie Goss:
And so I was trying to go into it with a great head space and a dear friend of mine who I've known since I started in the industry and they're in industry, she's a works for one of the manufacturers, came by and I was so excited and I was just like, “Hey, guess what? Guess where I'm going to work?” And I told her I got a job as practice manager and I'm super, super excited, she literally burst into tears.

Andy Roark:
Oh no.

Stephanie Goss:
And she was just like, “Please, tell me that you're kidding.” She's like, “Take it back. Don't go there.” She's like, “Please don't go there.” And I was so taken aback and I was just like, “Oh, no. Okay, this is not a good sign.” But I was just like, “I'm going to be cut.” This is me sunny, hopefully optimistic. And I was just like, “But I'm really excited about the opportunity and so I'm still trying to frame it in a good way.” And for me, it was interesting because ultimately I learned so much in that practice, and there was a lot of negative, and a lot of bad. And looking back with hindsight, as only you can with hindsight, it's like high school, would I choose to repeat that? Not a chance in hell. But I learned so many lessons that I would not have learned, I don't think if I hadn't taken that route.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, for me, part of it is, from a head space perspective, is when you choose to give people the benefit of the doubt, sometimes for yourself. And sometimes, the question that I ask myself is, “What if it's great?” And I think that there can be a lot of good in that, not in a toxic positive kind of way, but I do think it's worth the mental exercise to ask yourself, “What if your team needs a strong personality? What if your team needs somebody who's a straightforward, shoot from the hip kind of communicator? What could be great if someone like that came into your team? Maybe there's possibility there.

Andy Roark:
Oh yeah. I'll tell you, I definitely have some good friends who rubbed other people the wrong way.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I have some prickly friends. But as I say that, I have some prickly friends who are, you don't want to cuddle them and they don't want to be cuddled. They're like the cat. If you hug them, they're just going to freak out. It's not going to go well. But they're still a good companion to have around. And so, the fact that someone doesn't get along with other people, you could only put so much talk in that you have to go and make that decision for yourself. The other thing that I've really been focusing on a lot recently, which has worked really well for me, I am very much about protecting my peace these days, as the world is tumultuous and there's plenty of things to get upset about. Very few of more things that I can actually control.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
I've really settled in a lot into, I'm going to protect my peace and focus on the things that I can control. And part of protecting my peace is, for me, is trying not to fix problems that don't exist. That seems like a no brainer, but a lot of us spend a lot of time trying to fix problems that do not actually exist yet. We're like, “But it's going to exist but it doesn't exist yet.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And so, don't spend too much time on it. I think it's a mental game we play. We're like, “Well, I'm going to go ahead and think about what would happen because I'm prepared.” And what I would say is you are fighting over a problem that has yet to occur.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And I have found that that's generally a waste of my time and a limited emotional energy. And so, in this case, that's exactly what I would say to this person too, it's give grace, golden rule, recognize patterns and go ahead and think about what that means, and don't expose yourself foolishly if you have reason to be cautious. Other than that-

Stephanie Goss:
You'll reach when you get to it.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly right. Well, especially since you are not the one who decides whether or not this person gets hired.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
They're hired, they're coming. As of now, they have created exactly zero problems for you. They have done zero things that are worthy of concern or response. And so, protecting your piece to some degree is the ability to put this down and say, “Well, we'll see what happens, and when it happens we'll deal with it at one way or another.” And so I know that that seems simple, but I got to tell you, a lot of people really miss that trick of like, “Oh, you are fixing a problem that does not actually exist. You think it's going to exist but you have no idea if it actually will.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
The other part is say, fix problems that are in your control. And so you say, “You didn't get to choose whether or not this person was hired.” That was not your decision and this out of your control. They are coming and you can't control that either. And so, in this space, I would say, put your feet up in a lot of ways you should. The best advice from a headspace standpoint is I don't know what any of this is going to be. I'm going to wait and see and then I'm going to react to it based on what actually happens. Not just what I'm worried is going to happen.

Stephanie Goss:
Any other headspace thoughts?

Andy Roark:
Yeah. That's the big one. I guess the last thing I would say in headspace is, you got to have faith in the culture to some degree. Cultures are not made of glass. Now, they can be broken, they can be toxified, sure. But a good culture is not fragile. And honestly, high performing teams tend to self-regulate.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
It's a piece of advice that one of my mentors gave me is if you have people who get along and they work well together and they get things done, toxic people who come in, they often just get excluded or pushed back out. They generally, they have a bad time in a team that works well together and stays positive. And that's not always the case, but a lot of times it is.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think that that's super true as a leader in the practice, when you have a good culture and this person was like, “We've worked so hard to get here.” When you have that culture, you'll know. And I will tell you, having been in a place that had not so great culture and growing to a place that had great culture, when I read this letter I was like, “Oh, this could have been me writing this letter at one point in my career.” And I'll tell you, that person came into our practice and when things started, I was the first one to know. The rest of the team was like, “Look, we already tried talking to this person and this is what happened. We need your help.” And you'll know. And it won't be a long process if you do have a good culture, to your point, the team will self-regulate either, they'll stand up and take care of it themselves because you've taught them really well, and they are going to protect and communicate well as a team, or they will try their best and then they will let the practice leadership know.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So, that's exactly my point too, is a lot of times, these people will come in and they won't make it through the first time. If they're really a problem, they're not going to make it the first 90 days or into the first 90 days. If you're a leadership team is honest and committed to having a good culture, they'll catch this.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
And again, I think sometimes, here's the thing, I think a lot of times we think in very absolute terms where the practice owner is like, “Hey, we need some help. We need some help, we need some skilled labor, we really need it. And so, I'm going to hire this person and give them a chance.” And it's easy to say, the only options were don't hire this person or hire this person and commit-

Stephanie Goss:
And everything's-

Andy Roark:
… having them forever.

Stephanie Goss:
Yup.

Andy Roark:
It's like, “Nope.” The owner said, “We're going to try this out.” And he brought this person in and I will tell you that's the position that I take a lot of time to say we really need someone and I feel good enough to give this a try, but also I'm going to cut mate, if this doesn't work, we're going to pilot and try it out.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And this sort of goes back to the stages that I was talking about at the very beginning. I think a lot of times people are like, “Oh if you hire the right person there will be no question and the person will appear.”

Stephanie Goss:
And everything will be magic.

Andy Roark:
And they will match your core values and achieve immediate spiritual alignment with the rest of the staff. And you all go in harmony and never would there be a way of a wave of discord. That's not-

Stephanie Goss:
Total bullshit.

Andy Roark:
… a lot… Exactly. It's total BS. If you find a perfect person, hire them. I am a huge believer in hire talent when you find it, make it work. Get them on, and if they're great, get them on and figure out how to make it work. And that has always worked out for me. I am also a realist who says sometimes you need help and the help that is available is not the help about which legends are written, the help that's there, and you say, “I am going to try to make this work and if it doesn't work then we're going to cease and desist.” And that's okay too. That's a very likely and possible in survival law.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. And ultimately, and seriously the last thing now, this is really the last thing, but I see people wrestle with all the time, and it came into my mind too, is we don't change. People don't like change. How many times have we had a friend group… You have a friend group and you're like, “This is my group of friends.” And then somebody, what a jerk, brings a new friend into the friend group, and you're like, “Oh, the dynamic changes, we're doing different things, we're talking about different things.” At first, that's weird. And a lot of people like myself, I'm like, “I don't like this friend group anymore.” And-

Stephanie Goss:
And it's painful, sometimes.

Andy Roark:
… It is painful. And then, the friend group adjusts and it's a different experience hanging out with the friend group. That is life.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Your team is going to change.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
There will be people who will come in and there'll be people who will leave, and it will never end. There's the old Buddhist saying that you can never step into the same stream twice. That's true. You put your foot down, you pick it up, the water moves on and you put it down again and everything is different. The molecules are different, the part of the stream is moved on it. It's the same thing with teams is, there is no permanence, there is no stasis. And it's always scary to add new people or shake things up. Not shaking things up is impossible. The Buddhist definition of pain is trying to hold on to time and keep it where it is and that's yeah, that's fine.

Stephanie Goss:
And again, on the flip side of that, what if it's great, things are great now, but what about if you add somebody and it could be even more great. Just because things are good doesn't mean that you should stop moving forward. And for better or for worse, it could go not so great, but what if it gets even better?

Andy Roark:
Absolutely. So anyway, that's the head space. Okay. I think should probably just sort of leave it there. I think we've sufficiently muddied the waters to say a lot of things are out of your control. Don't try to fix problems that don't actually exist,

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
… yet. And then, do unto others while still being smart.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
They pay attention to reputations and at the same time give people a chance. I messed up. I'm going to figure how to make this head space thing into an action, Steph, and then we'll do the next section.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
Let's take a break. And after that, I'll figure out how to put in the action step to make it sound good.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay. Sounds good.

Andy Roark:
Hey Stephanie Goss, you got a second and talk about GuardianVets.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phone never stopped ringing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up, and the doctors are busy, and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them book for your appointments and give them support, and it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now, is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so, we talk about it, we've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast, and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, What is “that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up the front desk, check them out, it's guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So, check it out guardianvets.com. All right. You want to get some action steps?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, let's do it.

Andy Roark:
All right. So, you are the writer here. This person is coming in, this person does not have a good reputation. Among people that you trust and you are worried about the culture and the impact this person's going to have. Well, let's make some action steps. What are you doing here?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. Okay. So for me, the first thing that I have to do is answer one of the questions that was asked, which is, how do you approach onboarding with someone that you've heard things about differently than any other hire? And my answer to that is, “No.” You treat them in the exact same. And so, for me it's a head space thing, but it's also an actionable thing. I just pretend when I'm interacting with that person, I don't know any of the things because you got to give everybody a chance. And the only way you can do that is if you try and forget. Now, we all know that that's easier said than done and that we're going to have bias and judgment. So, actionably, it's about two twofold. One is a little bit of pretend, a little bit of fake it till you make it. And the other is what we talked about in headspace, which is being aware.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, if things do happen, make note of them, but don't treat them any differently. Don't approach it any differently. In fact, I think you actually have to work harder at onboarding a person that you might know some things like this about, because I want to try. I don't want it to be at the end of the day, the worst thing for me would be to feel like I was in control of this piece of the experience and I screwed this up. At the end of the day, as a leader, I wouldn't want to look backwards and say, “Oh, I could have done better.” Maybe that's the overachiever in me, but I'm going to probably work harder to get to know them, to try and set a good stage. So I wouldn't approach it differently in a negative perspective, but I might approach it a little bit differently from a positive perspective, if that makes any sense.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, yeah. No, I agree with that. I would tie on to that and say, assuming good intent. Again, we talk about this. Every week, is just, “Hey, I'm going to assume that this person is trying hard and I want to be a good person.” And then again, that's just me getting into a good head space where I can work with them and feel good. So, I would say assume good intent. The next part of this, which may or may not have been the part I won't really want to talk about in the last [inaudible 00:39:38]. The next part of this is, be kind first. Okay? So, be kind first. Now, there's this book called Give and Take by the psychologist Adam Grant.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
And you can read the book if you want. You don't have to. I'm gonna tell you the whole book right here. This is the whole takeaway. In this book, Adam Grant says, “There's three kinds of peoples. There's givers, there's takers, and there's matchers.”

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
And givers are people who give off themselves. They give their time and energy and to other people. And there's takers, who are people who do not give. They only take from other people. And there's matchers, who are people who basically keep score. If you give to me, then I will give back to you. And if you take from me, then I will take from you. And I did something for you, now I expect you to do something for me. And those are the three types. Now he looks at givers, takers, and matchers, and says, “When you look at success, however he defined it, where do these people fall out? Who is at the top of the success ladder and who's at the bottom? And what he found was it's givers, at both the top and the bottom. They're very bimodal.

Andy Roark:
And the difference between them is that givers who never stop giving, they get parasitized, they get taken advantage of, and held down, and they end up unhappy.

Stephanie Goss:
At the bottom.

Andy Roark:
… and at the bottom. And other people have just taken their credit for them, taken their heart and soul. But givers at the top, also give. The difference is the givers at the top start by giving. They are the first ones that jump in and help to give their time and their energy. But then after they jump in and give, then they switch to a matching strategy, which means I'm going to give first.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And if you jump in and give as well, and we have a mutually beneficial giving relationship to each other, I'm going to keep giving. But if I jump in and give and give, I suspect that you're a taker and you are not giving back.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Then I'm going to switch to a matching strategy and be like, “Well, I'm not giving you anymore.” And if you change strategy and decide to be a giver, then I'll jump back in, I'll switch back to being a giver. And that sounds really simplistic and it probably is, but gosh, how powerful that is. And I really believe that there's a lot of truth in that is you should be a giver. We should all be a giver. But also, we should be realistic about the truth of the world and say, “I'm going to give first without expecting compensation. I'm not matching, I'm giving, but I am also going to pay attention and I'm not going to get taken advantage of and held down and things like that. I would say the same thing with this person as they're coming in, I'm going to be kind to this person.

Andy Roark:
Yup.

Stephanie Goss:
I'm going to put myself out there and try to support them and try to make their onboarding easy. And if they jump in, and they're appreciative, and they accept this help and show that they want to be here, I'm going to keep supporting them. And if I jump in and try to help them and they blow me off or act like I'm inconvenience them or things like that, then I'm not going to be there to support them. I'm going to step back away and I will support as needed as desired, but I'm not going to throw myself into this in a way that's going to allow me to get taken advantage of.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think that this person who wrote to us has the unique opportunity to set the tone for the rest of the team-

Andy Roark:
Yes.

Stephanie Goss:
… because the reality is it's small world. And if you're hearing things, some other members of your team might be hearing things too. And so, you have the opportunity to set the tone and be the leader here. And on the flip side, you have an opportunity because you were there first. You are a senior member of the team, and I would hallucinate that your practice owner and your practice manager trusts you. And so, as an owner, as a manager, if my lead tech came to me, if there was challenges and told me what those challenges were, because we have built the trust bank, which you talk about a lot, I'm going to look at that and say, “Your word is not the be all, end all, but I'm going to have a whole lot of faith in what you're sharing with me and your perspective.” And so, you are going to have the ability to influence on that end as well.

Stephanie Goss:
And so this person was like, I don't have a lot of decision-making power. The practice owner was like, “I think we're going to do this.” And they've already hired the person. And so, it feels crappy to feel like you don't get to make that decision. And at the same time, that does not mean that your hands are tied. And so I think from an action perspective, I think you're so spot on, Andy, about let's be kind here. And you have the potential to set the tone for the rest of the team, and you're going to assume good intent, you're going to give this person a good opportunity and a good chance, and you're going to be observant, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And you're going to say, is this a one off? Are these repeated behaviors? And It's hard because it's easy to think, Well, I'm just going to watch them and I'm going to keep score. It's not what you're doing either, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It's really truly about giving someone a good opportunity but also being open and honest and saying, “Is this working? Is this not?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree with that completely. The other part of that was really dovetails on all of it says, “If you want to be able to influence this new person coming in, then creating a relationship with that person as quickly as possible-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
…. is your best option because you're not going to be their boss.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
We talk a lot about trust and relationships, and that was really important. And so, this person coming in, you giving first, you assuming good intent, you trying to support this person as they come in. They might not be a nice person, but if you have a relationship with them, at least you're going to probably, hopefully, be more comfortable in that. And then, also, you're going to be in a place where you can maybe affect those behaviors, maybe be able to sort peer mentor this person because they are looking to you, or they know you, or they feel like over the first couple of weeks that they were there, they built up some trust, and you might very well be able to help guide this relationship.

Andy Roark:
The worst case is that you try to build that relationship and it just does not work. And we're back to our matching strategy and you say, “Hey, I tried to get in there and tried to build this relationship, and tried to help this person, and give to this person, but it's not working.” At some point you have to say, “I did the thing. I gave it my honest try. I really wanted to make this work, I set myself up there.” And that brings me to the last action step, which is, never forget that you are not trapped. And a lot of times, you don't get to decide what happens in this life, but you always get to decide how you respond to it. And so, if you are losing sleep at night and you're like, “This person is coming, and what if this is terrible? What if it's awful?” Then I would say, this is the best job market in a hundred years. Just pile that away, for what it's worth.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
You've always got options. You're never going to be trapped.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
So anyway, the last thing I would say is,” I'm going to give it my best and maybe it'll be amazing.” And the worst case is it won't be amazing and it will be this person will toxify the place and leadership will not intervene, and I'm going to communicate to them, and they're still not going to intervene. And ultimately, I'm going to decide that this is not how I want to spend my days and I'm going to go somewhere else. And I would say to you, “Is that really the worst scenario that you can imagine? Is that really a horrible, horrible, horrible thing?” Probably not.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. And it's hard because in the moment it feels crappy. You think, “Oh, I've worked so hard and we're in this great place, and what if it's all ruined?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, I think the thing to remember is, it's not permanent. This person getting hired doesn't have to be permanent. But also, to your point, Andy, like you being where you are, also doesn't have to be permanent. And I think our human nature brains are like, we're going to… Then a writer asked, “Am I catastrophizing and is this going to be a train wreck?” Well yeah, you are catastrophizing.

Andy Roark:
Definitely, catastrophizing. Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It is it going to be a train wreck? Maybe. Maybe it's not. Maybe it's a great thing for you. Maybe it's a great thing for your team. And there have been plenty of times where I've looked back in hindsight and in the moment, and I can tell you I felt that way, really honestly, leaving my last three practices, in the moment, it felt like the end of the world, for differing reasons every time. But it felt like the worst possible thing that could happen, to walk away from that. And yet, I will tell you, that with hindsight in perspective, it was the right thing for so many other reasons.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, I think we tend to feel that, we just see that, feeling trapped, and we get so afraid, and for me, that's where, “Oh, man.” Living in that emotional place and it is not fun. It's not ugly. I mean it is ugly and it feels crappy. And so, I think, just don't forget that, what you said, Andy, is so true, that you can only control how you respond to it. And so, don't feel like you're trapped because you're not. And to your point, it is the best possible job market that it's been in forever.

Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah. Exactly. Right.

Stephanie Goss:
Just [inaudible 00:49:14] that away.

Andy Roark:
And I stand here and say this like, “Oh, and you can do this and give grace and blah, blah, blah.” It's like, “I am a master catastrophizer.” Let me say, “How many times have we talked about me up living in a box next to the river?” For a long time, that was 100% a staple in the podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
Pretty much.

Andy Roark:
That was me talking about how this decision was going to have me living in a box alone.

Stephanie Goss:
Probably the first two years that you and I worked together, that was a regularly occurring conversation. I was talking Andy off the ledge because tomorrow him and his girls were going to be living in a cardboard box in the forest 'cause everything was going to fall apart.

Andy Roark:
Most of the staff meetings were people saying, “You're not going to live in a box, Andy.” I was like, “That's it. That's it. We're all out jobs.” And they're like, “We're not out of jobs.” At the time, everybody was super part-time, they're like, “This is not even our real job, Andy. We're all fine.”

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, man. I love it.

Andy Roark:
That's all I got. I hope that's helpful.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Remember that we're all backpackers. And sometimes, you see big thunder clouds ahead, and sometimes they blow on by, and sometimes you get rained on and you're going to have to walk at the rain a little while, but it's nothing you can't handle. It's really not.

Stephanie Goss:
Super great analogy, I love it. Have a fantastic week everybody.

Andy Roark:
See you guys. Take care.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, gang, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. And as always, this was so fun to dive into the mailbag and answer this question. And I would really love to see more things like this come through the mail bag. If there is something that you would love to have a stock about on the podcast or a question that you are hoping that we might be able to help with, feel free to reach out and send us a message. You can always find the mail bag at the website. The address is unchartedvet.com/mailbag or you can email us at podcast@unchartedvet.com. Take care everybody, and have a great week. We'll see you again next time.

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Sep 21 2022

Do You Want To Be A Doctor AND A Tech? Can I Change This Practice?

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

Can you lead people to water and make them drink? This week's episode starts out with a mailbag question where the writer already has part of their answer. And life is always a little more complicated than at first glance so Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss dive into this mailbag entry from a veterinarian who is considering joining a new practice. This practice is quite different from what this vet is used to AND wanting. They want a practice that utilizes their technicians for more than nail trims, where the DVMs aren't doing tech work and that is more efficient. This DVM wants to know “Can I hope to change this practice and how do I start the conversation with grace?” This one is seemingly uncomplicated but Andy and Stephanie always find a twist. Let's get into this…

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Dr. Andy Roark:
Hey Stephanie Goss. You got a second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Dr. Andy Roark:
I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Like, “Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.”

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians knew about Guardian Vets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients to get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices, because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it. We've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up the front desk, check them out. It's GuardianVets.com and if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out. GuardianVets.com.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody, I am Stephanie Goss and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
This week on the podcast, Andy and I got an email in the mail bag. It is from a doctor who asked us ultimately a question, “Can you lead people to water and make them drink?” The answer to this is no. And therefore Andy and I are taking you on another journey to Camp Tough Love with this one.

Stephanie Goss:
That's right. We've got a doctor who is looking at a practice that maybe isn't all that they want it to be, and they're wondering, how do I change this practice? The answer is they are answering their own question in the email. But we've got some ideas and we had a lot of fun diving into this one, so let's get into it, shall we?

Speaker 3:
And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie you-can't-make-me-love-you Goss, that's how it is. No, I can't make you love me. Is that what it is? Can't make me. Help me out Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
I don't know. I don't even know where you're going with that

Dr. Andy Roark:
Can't make me love you. Now I can't even remember what song it's from. I Can't Make You Love Me. Is that what it's called? Oh, I had it in my head and then when the pressure was on, I was like, “I can't remember the lyrics.

Stephanie Goss:
I can't remember the song.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I Can't Make you Love Me? I did it anyway. Hello.

Stephanie Goss:
Anyways. Hi.

Dr. Andy Roark:
How are things?

Stephanie Goss:
Things are good. How are things with you?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, they're crazy. It's first week of school. Of new school. New school. So I got one kid that's going to middle school for the first time and I got one kid that's going to high school for the first time. It's been a-

Stephanie Goss:
It's been insane.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… hectic, stressful week. Oh it's insane. And the most insane part are parents learning the traffic pattern at the school. And that is a real problem. This high school, let's be honest, I think that the most tortuous part of taking my kid to high school was the idea… Picture this, this high school was taken and it was plopped down on a couple of two lane roads. And this is a big A high school. There is no way that the infrastructure of this high school can handle the number of students driving themselves, which is already horrifying. And parents dropping their kids off.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's just complete pandemonium, and absolutely baffled my wife on the first day. And I went the second day and I… First of all my wife is, she's a perfectionist, Grade A, near perfect score on the SAT. She gets it right and she knows the rules and she follows the rules.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And on the first day driving my kid, I was stuck in traffic and I see children everywhere just walking through down the road. And I'm like, “Where are all these kids coming from? There's thousands of kids wandering to the school. They don't live in this neighborhood. What is happening?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then I was like, “Oh, everyone else has already given up on this system and they're just dumping their kids off a block and a half away from school. That's the only explanation.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
So I started driving around the neighborhoods around the school and I saw, I was like, I see it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure. And I'm catching people. I went home and I told my wife and I was like, “Forget this. We're dropping Jacqueline off at Half Mile Lake, a half mile from the high school.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
It should be called half mile from the high school lake, and it should have a little drop off zone. And Allison was like, “Oh no. Oh no. You have to go through the car line and drop our child there. And then you have to drop the child off.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that brings me to something that I have really learned in the last few months. Stephanie Goss, I have learned that… I don't know why it took me 45 years to learn this. There are moments in my life when I can choose peace, or I can choose engagement and to defend myself in my position. And I have learned that I choose peace.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so she says, “No, you have to go through the drop off line.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I said, “Mm-hmm. Well I think it's admirable that you do that.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that was the end of the conversation. It was, “You know what? If you have to go through the drop off line, I'm not going to talk you out of it.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
The funny thing is that my high school daughter just looked at me was like… It was awesome. It was this inside, father-daughter. She gave me, she's in high school, she doesn't want to get dropped off by me and my Subaru in front of the high school. She's like, “Half Mile Lake it is, Dad.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm like, “Yeah.”

Stephanie Goss:
I can totally imagine the look on Allison's face. She's like, “No, You actually know the rules and do the thing.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. She's like, “Here's a series of eight different streets that you can take to get you close the drop off and then only one person has to be nice and let you in and then you can drop the kid off.”

Stephanie Goss:
Hard pass.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I was like, “Or I can just slow down and she can tuck and roll.”

Stephanie Goss:
Jump out.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Like a freaking air drop. The door's open. I'm like, “Go, go, go.” And out she goes. And we're both happy with that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
She's like, “How long were you in the car line?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I was like, “Car lines are, they're tough. They're tough. And that's all I'm going to say, car lines are tough.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
“How long were you in the line though?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
“Honey, it's not about the minutes in line.”

Stephanie Goss:
Oh my God.

Dr. Andy Roark:
“It's really about just being at peace with the choices that we make and how important an education is. That's really what I think about.”

Stephanie Goss:
It explains so much why we make such good partners, because I'm a hundred percent the same way. Literally, so my kids haven't gone to public school since the pandemic started, but when they were still at public school, I can't with the carpool line. And they have always taken the bus, but occasionally there would be some reason why they would have to get to school before the bus could get them there, whatever.

Stephanie Goss:
I'm like, “Do you have your backpack on? You strap into your car seat.. I'm literally going to roll up. You're going to open the door, you're going to jump out and I'm done. I'm not sitting here, I'm not messing around. Screw this, because those lines are ridiculous and fierce.”

Stephanie Goss:
And my kids were like, “Okay, we're on it. Like jumping out of a plane.” That was it. “Bye Mom.” Slam the door. Goodbye. Go on my own way.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, my rebellion really came and this is just… So the first lesson of this podcast is protect your peace. You don't have to be right. You can just let people believe things that they want to believe sometimes.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
45 years ladies and gentlemen, it took me to realize that I can just go, “Okay.” And go on with my life. I feel real grown up.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So that's the first lesson is, protect your peace. You don't have to be right. You can just let someone be wrong and just go on and be at peace with yourself. And the other part is this, and here's the story. All this started back when I had one kid in elementary school and one kid in middle school, so last year. Last year I kid in middle school, and a kid in elementary school.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And when you go pick your kid up at this elementary school, it is a well-oiled machine.

Dr. Andy Roark:
If the Germans ran a carpool line, like BMW put together a carpool line, this is the carpool line they would put together. Just plug in kids into cars, boom, boom, boom. It is like a three minute carpool line. The principal of the school has a walkie-talkie, and he is at the driveway, at the entrance of the driveway. And everyone has cards and he's pointing at each parent so that you were seen, because he points right at you. And you see him saying your kids' number into the walkie talkie. And people are just scurrying back at the school and they're just snatching kids up and just boom. And man, that line moves.

Dr. Andy Roark:
The middle school, which is dealing with kids that are-

Stephanie Goss:
Don't want to listen to adults anymore.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… sixth grade or over. But honestly, objectively speaking, they're smarter people.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Dr. Andy Roark:
They're smarter than the elementary school. Objectively speaking, they have twice as much life experience as the kid at elementary school.

Dr. Andy Roark:
This should go better because you're dealing with people with twice as much life experience. It is a complete shit show at the middle school. There is no one at the car line. Kids are literally wandering along the line of cars looking for their family. And they're not on the sidewalk, they're in between the cars, wandering. They're completely lost.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then one parent can't find their kid and so they just stop. And every [inaudible 00:10:57] Yes. And every other parent waits for… Boy into elementary school, if you can't find your kid-

Stephanie Goss:
Get out of line and come back.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. You get out of line. And they are on it. They will shift your car if you don't move it.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I tell you, I'm only so aware of the middle school line, because once you've been through the elementary school line, you're spoiled.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You know what I mean? And the two schools share a piece of land. There's like a big field and one school is in one corner and the other school's in the other corner. And one of them, you could just see the elementary school parents just plowing through and you're sitting there for long periods of time. And the fact that you can see someone else who is running a system that is working, and you are just sitting still, makes you so painfully aware and irritated. Because you know how much better this could be, and it's just not because people don't have their stuff together.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so that is the other lesson in leadership is, boy if people see what a good thing is and then you don't give it to them, they recognize it. And anyway, those are my two life lessons from the carpool lane so far this year.

Stephanie Goss:
So everybody's like, “Okay, they're off the rails already.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
They were like, that was a solid 10 minutes of carpool metaphors. But I'm telling you there's gold in that. Listen to that 10 minutes again.

Stephanie Goss:
I actually think that there's some lessons in that last story about our question today. So we got a great question in the mail bag from a doctor who is looking at starting to work with a practice now. They are not currently employed at this practice. So, that's how it has to start. They're not currently employed but they're looking at a practice. And they have recognized that this practice does not utilize the team in a productive way. The doctors are basically being doctors and technicians, because there is one technician for three doctors. And the technician is doing assistant work like nail trims and drawing blood work versus utilizing her technical skills as a licensed technician. So that's problem number one.

Stephanie Goss:
Problem number two is that they said, “Okay, well so of course because of that it seems like the doctors are on the edge of burnout. Maybe some of them are already there.” And they said, “I'm a doctor, I've been out of practice for quite some time. And I've worked in plenty of practices that just have given up saying that, ‘Well we just have to work with what we've got because we're rural and we don't have a lot of a large talent pool. And so it just is what it is.'”

Stephanie Goss:
And so they are like, “Well if I join this practice, I'm going to have more experience than some of the other doctors. And so I am wondering could I even hope to come to them as the new fresh face and be able to bring my experience to the table and say, ‘Look, I think we could change this. I think we could be happier. I think that we could be more productive. But it requires change.'”

Stephanie Goss:
And their question was, “Can you lead people to water and make them drink? Can I hope to change this practice? And how do I start that conversation with grace, if there's any hope there?”

Stephanie Goss:
I just thought that this was such a great question and I do think that there's some hidden lessons in your carpool soapbox that relate to this.

Dr. Andy Roark:
If people haven't learned, the reason that I tell stories at the very beginning, it's often that they do tie into the point. I will say not always. Sometimes I'm just chasing deer out of the yard with a cowbell, and it doesn't have anything to do with anything else. But often these things are tied together. And it's because I'm thinking about what we're going to say and then I'm just thinking about what's happening in my life and I put them together.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Anyway, I love this question. This person doesn't need an answer from us. They literally said, “Can you lead people to water and make them drink?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, I'm sorry if you're writing an email to the podcast about leading people to water and making them drink… The whole reason people say the whole thing about the horse leading to water and making him drink is that you can't do it. It's the whole point of the saying. That's where… Guys, you can't.

Stephanie Goss:
I was like, “Well you could force them to drink. If you force people to inhale water, they drown. And a lot of times they probably die.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Here's what I love is the person who wrote to us sees the situation so clearly they actually summed it up as, “Can you lead these people to water and make them drink?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Your read on this is so good. It's so good that I have bad news for you it's real good.

Stephanie Goss:
You've given us the answer.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Yes and no. Yes and no. But I wanted to hit on that, at the very beginning, because let's call a spade a spade. I don't want to drag people along like… Yeah, I can't make you love me, you can't make me love you. I don't remember. It was one of those. You can't make them love you if they don't. I think is how it goes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Anyway, the person writing it has got a pretty good read on this. I'm going to call a spade a spade here and say, this looks dicey. I'm just going to be honest. It looks dicey. There's some things we can do that might work, but it's going to be a bit of a long game.

Dr. Andy Roark:
My question to this person was why do you want this job? Why do you want this job?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
In all seriousness, and again, I hate when people ask us questions and I say things back to them that are hard and I don't want it to shake people up. But my question back, and I get the impression this is a mixed animal practitioner who's got a pretty matter-of-fact style. And I would say to this person, Why do you want this job?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You're looking at this and you see these people working themselves to death and not using their techs, and just hustling all over the place. And you're like, “Yeah, that's the place for me,” with the job market that we have now? Why is that?

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I suspect that there's probably a good reason. It's probably they're in a very rural arrow, something like that. But that'd be the first thing I would say is, given that you're already looking at this and wondering about it, you sure that this is a job you want? And so let me just ask, if you're going to take this job, I think the first… and we're talking headspace now as we always start out with headspace, my first thing is realistic expectations.

Dr. Andy Roark:
This is the way this practice has run for a long time. And you might be the most senior vet when you come in. That doesn't matter. That's how they've done it from the top to the bottom. Everyone has run this way. This is their normal and that's how they feel comfortable. And even if you try to get them to change to a better way, change is still scary. Even if it is undoubtedly better, it's still hard and scary. And you're getting a big group of people to move.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And these people don't know you. You're brand new, you don't have strength of relationships or a lot of trust built up in the trust account. And so can you make this work? Yeah, I mean I think you can. There's a chance you can. It really depends a lot on how they respond to the things that I'm going to recommend for you to try. But it's possible. I would just say have realistic expectations that this is going to be an ongoing source of… I hope it's not frustration, but it's going to be a sustained effort on the part of our writer to integrate into this and to not get swept up in the chaos.

Stephanie Goss:
My thought from a headspace perspective was very similar to yours, which is that asking yourself the question, why this job? For me it was like, this feels, from what the writer has given us, a situation where don't be blind. Look at it. Look at it and call the spade a spade, and then ask yourself the question of why. Because there may be a real driving factor, geography plays a part for a lot of areas of the country where people are there because maybe their parents are there or their spouse has a job there or whatever.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
Whatever the reasons, you've got to understand your why before you go into it, because you cannot go into this blind. You've already told us this is a situation that is less than your ideal. And so for me, in order to get into a good headspace and think about what an action plan would look like, I agree with you, it has to start with why are you doing this? Don't be blind about it. Do your homework, and then figure out how do you move forward with all of that in mind.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think the other piece of headspace for me, other than what we've already talked about, there was really only one other one for me, which is recognizing from the beginning, that if it doesn't feel like it could be a perfect fit, and it feels like you already have significant challenges, I think you have to go into it recognizing that there is probable impermanence to this decision. And so I don't think-

Dr. Andy Roark:
Probable impermanence. Yeah, I like it.

Stephanie Goss:
It may go wonderfully, and surprise you, and could turn out to be your dream job. But from the descriptor we got, this is not your dream job. And so the probability that this is an impermanent situation, and this is a trial run is very high. And so from a headspace perspective, for me, it's about recognizing that. And if you are okay with that, sure, go ahead. If all the other reasons line up, there's got to be some driving factor. Or to your point, Andy, with all of the jobs out there, if there wasn't driving factors, you wouldn't even be asking this question. So, recognizing that the driving factors exist, fine. But you also have to, don't go into it blindly. Recognize that this may not be a permanent solution and be okay with that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yep, totally. And I think that's really key. And again, it just goes back to expectations. One of the boundary things that … and I say this because it has helped me a lot in my career. There are times when you go into situations like this, and the healthiest thing you can do is in your mind headspace decide this is just a job. This is not defining me, this is not my dream job. This might not last for more than a year. It might be a one and that's it. You sign a one-year contract for the moment.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I think it takes a lot of pressure off people. People are like, “I have to take the right job.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, “It's a one year contract. We're going to do this for a year. And then you're going to decide.”

Stephanie Goss:
See what happens.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly. “Am I staying here or am I going to go do something else now?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that is all the weight that there is to it. And if you put that in your mind, it will take a lot of pressure off of your shoulders to get things right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So anyway, this is a one-year contract, it's just a job. We're going to see how it goes. It is not going to make or break your success as a veterinarian, anything like that. So those are the big things for me as far as just headspace, protect your peace. Just like I said at the very beginning, this might not end well and that's okay.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You might try to tell these people, and honestly, this is exactly why I told the story. You might tell these people there is a better way. And they go, “But you can't do it that way. You have to go in the car line.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And you have to be able to say, “Okay, okay, you know what? That's the thing. I don't have to go in the car line, but okay.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
But that's, again, I don't even really like that. I'm always someone who's like, I want to get on board with what people are doing. But at the same time, I am not going to sacrifice myself, my happiness, my mental health just because everyone around me is doing that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Anyway, those would be the things I'd put forward in headspace is, protect your peace going in. So that's it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Now I think we have done a good job of being like, “Oof.” Now it's time for us to actually talk about what are we going to do here? So let's say we take this job and we're going into it. I am not fatalistic. I am a positive, optimistic, upbeat person. I'm going to play the best game that I can with the cards that I'm dealt. And so before we do this, actually let's take a break, and then you and I will come back and we will talk about how do we play these cards? What is our best shot for making this into something workable in the short term that might actually turn into something really good in the long term?

Stephanie Goss:
Yep. I like it.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey everyone, I just want to make sure that you know about some upcoming events from Uncharted that you are not going to want to miss. We have a workshop that is happening in October. It is the wonderful, the amazing Melissa Entrekin, LVT. For those of you who don't know Melissa, she is an amazing technician and she helps out our team on the Dr. Andy Roark side of things, on the medicine side of things. And she is doing her very first Uncharted thing. And I am so excited about this.

Stephanie Goss:
Melissa is going to be leading a workshop for us in October. It is happening October 19th and it is called Leveraging Technicians, Making Practice Less Stressful for You, Them, and Your Patients. I cannot wait for this one. It is going to be happening at 7:00 PM Eastern. So that's 4:00 PM Pacific on the 19th. And it will be a two-hour workshop, which means it'll be over at 9:00 PM Eastern, 6:00 PM Pacific.

Stephanie Goss:
It is, as always, free to our members. So if you are an Uncharted member, head on over to the website at unchartedvet.com/events. You can click the register button and register for free. And if you're not a member of Uncharted, you can join us. It's $99 for the workshop. Or you can look at all of the awesome upcoming events that we have, and it may make sense, very quickly, for you to say, “Hey, I'd like to get an Uncharted membership, because you get all of this stuff for free.”

Stephanie Goss:
So come join us for Melissa's workshop. You don't want to miss it. And hopefully, we'll see you in the community soon. And now back to the podcast.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Alright, so we are going to go ahead and talk about, how do we kick this thing off? So, Stephanie, you've taken the job. You are the doctor. You have signed on the dotted line. You're in this thing for a one-year contract. What are the steps that you're going to start to take to actually try to make this thing fly?

Stephanie Goss:
The question that I have, that is part of my answer to your question is, are you… Because I think, so they asked two more questions, right? They said, “Can I hope to change this practice? And then how do I start the conversation?”

Stephanie Goss:
So for the can I hope to change this practice piece, I think the other piece that falls between headspace and action for me is are you stepping into a position of positional power within the clinic where you actually can enact change? Are you buying into the practice or are you stepping in as a leader, medical director, senior doctor, whatever? Because the path I think that you take to addressing it, there is one path that is, “I've signed a one-year contract, I'm just a staff veterinarian. I'm an associate. I don't have a responsibility or the authority to implement changes.”

Stephanie Goss:
That feels very different than, are you actually stepping into a position where you can make decisions and can impact it? So that would be part of the question for me because going back to where we wrapped up with headspace, I think if you are stepping into a position as a leader, the headspace piece of it there, as you pulled it out is this is a long-term play. If you're stepping in and you can make change, this is not a one-year change plan. This is a long-term change plan.

Stephanie Goss:
And so, I think that's important to think about for a minute. But if you're stepping in and you're like, “I'm an associate vet. I'm going to sign a one-year contract and I'm going to see…” That's where I think, for me, the third question they asked is most relevant. Which is, how do I start the conversation? How do I start that process? I think that looks a lot different from that seat than it does from a seat of, “I actually have power and authority to make some of these changes on my own or with the rest of the group.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I don't think it looks as different as most people would believe it does. I hear what you're saying about being the medical director and coming in. You do have some positional power, but I think I just want to dissuade anyone out there who hears this and goes, “Oh yeah, if you're the medical director you can totally change it.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, I don't-

Stephanie Goss:
Oo, I don't think it's any easier.

Dr. Andy Roark:
No. That's exactly it. Yeah. It's different. I do agree it's different. I'm not that much more optimistic in being the medical director versus being a regular doctor, because having positional power is nice. Relationship power is what gets people to actually change. They have to trust you and believe that what you are doing makes sense, and that they can get on board with what you're doing, and that they're going to be successful themselves if they come along with you.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I think some people think it like, “Oh I'm the medical director, of course they're going to trust me now.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, “No. I've never had that experience really.” I think that people overestimate what being a manager or medical director does for them as far as getting people to change. And they underestimate what they can do as a non-positional leader. They underestimate the impact that they can have without a title. And I think that those things are important.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So I do think that that is a good distinction. Are you a formal manager or not? Based on this letter, I'm going to assume this person is not a formal leader. Just that they have may have more experience than the other doctors, but they're not coming in into a leadership, a formal organizational leadership position.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I do like that.

Stephanie Goss:
I agree. And so I think for me, how do I start the conversation? I think the answer is you have to give it time, because there is no relationship, right? And so you're talking about the most effective way to lead from the middle is relational power. There is no relationship. You're a brand new doctor, you're new to this team. And if you're asking this question before even taking a job, it's a great question to ask, but the answer could change dramatically once you get to know people. And so that, for me, is a bit of the pickle here is I don't think you can… I mean you could walk right in the door and be like, “I want to change this. How can we make this happen?” I don't recommend that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I don't. No.

Stephanie Goss:
Probably not going to the way you want it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, no.

Stephanie Goss:
Probably not going to go so well.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. So I agree with you on this. So step one for me is, relationships are going to be your biggest tool. So the first thing to do is just build relationships. Just meet people. Just get to know them. Get to know what they care about, get to know what their pains and their frustrations are. Don't do anything, except figure out what bothers them, and what is important to them. And why do they do this job? And what are the values of this practice?

Dr. Andy Roark:
And you say, “But I don't know what the values are. They're not written down anywhere.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I would say, what gets celebrated here? What gets positively reinforced here? Those are the values. And so figure out what these people care about. Figure out what their pain point is.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And people always say, “We know what their pain point is. They're working themselves to death.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I say, but that may not be how they perceive their pain. Their pain point might 100% be, “We're not able to see all the pets.” And if you go in and start talking about saying fewer pets, they're going to fight you even though you are clearly trying to help them in your mind. They're freaking out because they're not seeing all the pets, and you're trying to talk to them about seeing less pets. That's a mistake.

Dr. Andy Roark:
What is the alternative? The alternative is to say, “Well they care about seeing all the pets.” You need to talk to them about resting and about being able to keep themselves up so they don't burn out. And then they don't see any more pets. And that's how I approach that. It's not, “We're going to see fewer pets.” But, “We're going to keep you healthier and keep you around here, so you don't burn out and quit. Because that is the antithesis of seeing more of the pets.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
So anyway, but you can't take that approach if you don't know what they care about. So, number one is you've got to get to know them.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Number two, and this is really tied into that, is start with why. What is their why? Why are they doing this? Why are they working so hard? Why are they working the way that they're working? Is it because the doctors don't trust the technicians? Well then we need to figure out how to get them to trust the technicians. Is it because they have never had any sort of a structure or a program and they just simply don't know how to not step on each other's toes? It's always been this way and just no one ever got organized, and got consensus about what we're doing? Is it because the doctors all practiced wildly different medicine so we can't have a protocol?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Those are all very different. They can all be addressed. None of them are snap your fingers easy but they can all be addressed. But for God's sake, if you don't know which one is the number one cause, then you are going to be over there talking about what you care about and it's not even connecting to what other people are seeing or feeling. So build their relationships, and then figure out what their why is.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And then when you start to talk to them, talk about what your why is. And your why should be them. It should be about compassion for them.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It should not be, “I don't want to work this hard.” That's not motivating. It should be, “I've never seen a place working as hard as you guys are working, and I'm worried about ya.” And that feels very different than, “I don't want to work this hard.”

Stephanie Goss:
I agree. You have to connect with them. And in order to do that you have to know what matters to them. And you have to be able to frame your needs inside of what matters to them for this conversation to be most successful. And so I think it's important to lead with the fact once you've made that connection that they matter.

Stephanie Goss:
Right now that's a potential. They could matter to you, but you're not even coworkers yet. So you can't say, “You know, matter to me, I care about you.” You could say it, but it's going to come off as false if you don't have that relationship. So you have to take the time to connect to them and then you have to lead with the why, which I think is a pretty obvious one. And you said it really well. You don't want people to burn out. None of us want our colleagues to burn out. And so, you can talk about that in so many different ways, but you have to be able to make that connection.

Stephanie Goss:
And for me, the second piece of how do you approach it, comes with the in-between because getting to the place where you have the connection to them, that's going to take time. You have to build the relationship, you have to get to know each other. And there are things that you can do to build relationships more quickly. But it's still going to take getting to know each other in a little bit of time.

Stephanie Goss:
Let's just hallucinate and say that you're really good at building relationships. You got to work with them, I would think for at least probably a few weeks before you could start to maybe even broach the subject. And so before-

Dr. Andy Roark:
Before you even start to needle along, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
What do you do in those first couple of weeks while you're doing that? And so to me, the answer there goes, okay, you could lead by example. So if you've decided that this is the job you're going to take for whatever the reasons are, you don't have to work the same way that they are. You can lead by example. You can have a conversation with that technician and say, “Hey, I want to leverage your skills, I want to utilize you more. So when we work together I would like to work in this way. Is that okay with you? How does that work for you?”

Stephanie Goss:
You can then show them things and do things and try things. And say, “Hey guys, I've noticed that you do this this way. Tell me more about that because I'm used to doing it this way. And I would love to understand the why.”

Stephanie Goss:
You can start to poke at some of those things and lead by example, which goes directly to your point Andy, about the carpool line. Allie's going to do it her way, and that's okay. And you're going to be okay doing it your way. And Jacqueline's on board with that. And when she's with you, she'll hop out of the car two blocks away and be just fine. And when she's with Allie in the car, she's going to hop out of the car at the school's door, and she'll be fine with that too. It's that same thing with the rest of the team, the technician and the support staff. It's figuring out how do you lead by example while you're concurrently building those relationships I think.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Okay, so I'm going to put a little framework on this. Okay, so we started off talking about what do we hope to accomplish? Where strategically are we trying to go? And now I think with the last thing you just said, we have switched over into that's a great idea, that's a great plan that we're trying to go. If we're taking this job, how do we tread water and not get sucked into the chaos that is here while we build that trust? And so I think you're exactly right. I think leading by example is a super positive thing, A good way to go.

Dr. Andy Roark:
As I said at the beginning, I think a lot of us underestimate how much power we have as a non-positional leader. Remember your positive reinforcement. It's so funny, people are like, “Is it okay for me to give feedback?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, positive feedback is always okay. No one is going to say, “How dare you praise me for being good at something. How dare you point out a success that I had and how impressed you were. How dare you?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
No one does that. It's just funny when we say “Can I give feedback?” What we mean is can I give negative feedback?

Stephanie Goss:
Right. Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that's how much we discount positive feedback is that when we say feedback we mean negative feedback. And I go, “No, you can a hundred percent see the things that you like and praise them and you can go ahead and start training your techs the way you want them to go, just by telling them what they do that you love and asking them if they'll do more of it. And telling them that how much of a difference it makes and say, ‘Hey I love that you do this. Could I make you a little request of you? When you do it this way, which is awesome. Would you be willing to make this modification or would you willing be to try it this way? Because I love what you're doing, and you would blow my mind if you did exactly what you're doing plus this one other step. Would you be willing to do that extra thing for me? It just makes a big difference.'”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And that's all positive, it's all grateful, it's all thank you stuff but man you can read with lead positive reinforcement. And the last thing that I say, and I think this because I think this is real important because I said I'm going to call a spade a spade here. And I don't want to hand wave away this or act like, “And then that's the answer.” Because that's often not how this goes. This is always hard.

Dr. Andy Roark:
The best thing that you can do, and I say this especially to this writer because they have indicated that they are a senior doctor. And I don't know how you do this when you're a young doctor. But if you've been in the game 10 years, 20 years, you have a pretty good idea of what your boundaries are, or you should. You should know what you're willing to do and what you're not willing to do, and how you're willing to be contacted on the weekends and how you're not willing to be contacted, or if you're willing to be contacted. You should know those things. How blood work is handled when on your days off and things like that. And so part of it is setting personal boundaries, if you want to set personal boundaries, you don't want to set them up when you're in the middle of a relationship, if you can help it. The best way to set personal boundaries is to set them up at the very beginning before … you know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You set some boundaries before you go on your first date, and then they're a whole lot easier to enforce than trying to establish them later on in the relationship. And so being upfront about just asking the questions, it's not making demands. I would not be like, “Hey you're going to do this and you're going to do that.” But I would ask very pointed questions about, “How do you do this? And how do you do that? And if I wanted to have a technician with me to do this thing, could I have that and how would that be scheduled?” And it's just asking those questions.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So what's funny is a lot of people will say to me, “But Andy, what if I ask these questions and just sort of say, ‘Hey, I just need you to know I'm not going to come in on my day off.'”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And people go, “You would say that at a job interview?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, “You would.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And they were like, “But what if you don't get the job?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm like, “But what if I do get it and they make me come in on my day off? I would much rather not get the job.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'll give you an example. So when I moved to Greenville, this has been a decade or more ago, I went to this practice and I was interviewing there and I really liked this practice. They were mixed animal practice, and I only do small animal. And they said, “Great.” They said, “We are mixed animal, and we a notice you don't do mixed animal.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I said, “Yes, that's true.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And they said, “Well would you be willing to take call? Because in order to have mixed animal, we do take call and the other doctors all take it. And so, you would be seeing mixed animal on call.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I knew that I was doing… I mean I was already traveling and speaking and doing all these things and I had a young family. “Guys, the truth is, and no shade on anybody. I'm not taking call. I'm just not.” And again, I don't-

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. That was a need for you.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly right. That's just where I was. And so I just said no. I said, “I would like to be here, I think this is great. I don't do mixed animal, and so I would not be able to be on call. And I totally understand if that doesn't work for you guys, but I just need to be honest upfront about what I need.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And they still hired me. And whenever it came up, “Why doesn't Roark take call?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I said, “Like I said at the job interview, that I'm not doing it. And I have always said that and that was the deal when I came on.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And after a year or so, our clinic quit taking call. We quit doing mixed animal. We quit taking call. I put that forward. It's because I wanted that job. I wanted that job. And every instinct in me was, “Tell them you'll do it. Just tell them that you'll do it. You'll figure it out. You'll shadow another doctor and get it down enough.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And it just was me saying, “No, no, I'm not going to do this and I'll go find another job if I have to. And I understand if it doesn't work. If you guys are going to be resentful because I don't take call then don't hire me, because I don't want to be in a place where I'm going to be resented. But I'm just going to be open with you about what I want to do.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
So anyway, I put that forward as far as personal boundaries, the more of these things that you can set up, not in a jerk way, not in a make demand way. Ask questions so that you can open up the conversation and just say, “Hey, this is really where my lines are. This is really what I need.” And if they say they're not going to hire you because you are not willing to dance in the streets of CrazyTown, then move on.

Stephanie Goss:
You dodged a bullet.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You dodged a bullet. Yeah, you just did.

Stephanie Goss:
And that's the hard part, right? Is that, I get the sense from our writer that they may end up be in a position where they feel like they don't have another choice. And that's okay. Sometimes just calling that spade a spade and saying, “Look, right this second, I don't have a choice. So if that's the case, how can I make the best out of this situation?”

Stephanie Goss:
And so you could have looked at that and said, “Right now I need this job. It feels like it fits. I will agree, concede, do on call in the short term, and in the back of my head I know I'm going into this knowing that this is not going to work for me long term.” You could have done that.

Stephanie Goss:
The other choice that our writer has is if they're back at… And sometimes that's okay. You guys, we're humans. Sometimes life throws curve balls at us. And sometimes we are choosing between the lesser of two evils and sometimes that's okay. It is okay to look at a job and look at it with that level of impermanence and say, “Right now, while I have parents who are dealing with terminal illness and I need to be right near them for the next year, I am okay making that sacrifice.” That is an okay thing to say. And that's a personal thing to have to decide.

Stephanie Goss:
If your back is not up against the wall, that is where it goes back to that do your homework. If there are things that matter to you as a doctor when it comes to being a technician, if you're like, “I don't feel comfortable doing these things. I don't have the skillset to do these things,” you need to be asking those questions upfront.

Stephanie Goss:
And I love that you said during the interview process, Andy, because too many people wait until they've accepted the job and then start asking those questions. And then they're disappointed and frustrated. And so if there are boundary lines for you, especially because the questions that this doctor has is about being a technician, because the other doctors are working as a doctor and a tech because they're not utilizing the technician that they do have and their skill set. I would ask those questions as part of the investigative process during the interview.

Stephanie Goss:
“Do I have to answer on weekends when you call me? Can I take a tech and ask them to do these things with skills that I would expect them to have?”

Stephanie Goss:
I'm going to just give an example, if you're in a state where technicians can do dental extractions and you're a doctor who normally lets your texts do it, if they have that skillset, you should be asking that question. Because if their answer is hard no, you have to decide if that's a line in the sand boundary for you or not.

Stephanie Goss:
And to your point, it is far better to know what those things are, like on call, like answering your phone on the weekends, like not being able to utilize your techs to do the things that they're allowed to do by the state's law. Whatever those boundaries are, it's far easier to have those conversations before you get into it, than already signed the contract, not have your back be up against a wall, get two or three weeks in and be like, “This was the wrong choice.” Because you just wasted your own time, plus their time.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yep. I completely agree. And again, some of that comes from experience. Being a doctor who has worked in a couple of places… And I don't even know if you can do that really well if you've worked in one place. I think you have to work in a couple places and be like, “Okay, let's see. I see general variances, these are the questions I want to ask.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But what I would say on the flip side is, it's funny, both doctors and practices have this twisted idea that the point is to hire the other person and I want to hire them. And the reality is no, you want to understand the other person, and make sure it's a good fit.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And so I think that a good practice asks those questions. Because it doesn't benefit anyone to get someone hired and then have them be angry or resentful or to refuse to play the game. And so if you are interviewing a young doctor, you should say, “Hey, just so you know, this is how we communicate with doctors on their day off. Or this is the level of communication we expect with doctors when they're not in the hospital.” [inaudible 00:46:17]

Stephanie Goss:
How do you feel about that?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly right. And people go, “Oh my god. Andy, you ask them that?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I would say, “Yeah, because I sure as heck rather find out if we have a problem now than when they're board.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
And again, there's a lot of people who are so focused on getting a doctor hired that they don't want to ask questions they might not like the answer to. And they promise the moon to the doctors. And then ultimately, I don't know how that ends other than-

Stephanie Goss:
Not, Well

Dr. Andy Roark:
Not well. But I swear to God-

Stephanie Goss:
I tell you [inaudible 00:46:46].

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly. But you see what I'm saying though, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Those practices are out there and I go, how do you think this is going to end? I don't know.

Stephanie Goss:
That's the most powerful lesson I learned in interviewing as a manager. And what you're talking about, Andy, there's a great story about the guy who founded Zappos and his cultural belief. The idea was he would pay people during the interview and onboarding process to not take the job. And I remember learning that story and I remember the first time I heard it and I thought, that's like you're crazy. Why would you pay people to not take your job? Aren't you trying to get people?

Stephanie Goss:
And his belief, and the culture that he was creating at the company was, “No, look, we want to know who we are and we want to find people that are a fit for us.”

Stephanie Goss:
And I will tell you guys, that is the most powerful lesson that I ever learned as a manager when it comes to interviewing. Because the reality is my interview process now is dramatically different than it was when I started out as a manager, as a result of learning that, and some painful lessons by making wrong hires along the way or giving into that, “Oh my God, I need a body in a seat and so let me just hire somebody.”

Stephanie Goss:
And every single time I regretted it. And now I have no problem asking those questions during the interview process. And I love teaching. Because to your point Andy, it's hard to learn that if you don't have the perspective of having worked in multiple places. Because the grass is always greener, you don't know what's happening on the other side of the fence.

Stephanie Goss:
And I love working with vet students and talking to them about, “Look, these are questions that they should ask you, but if they're not asking you the question you need to ask them. Because it's just as much about finding the right fit for you as it is for them trying to find the right fit for themselves as a clinic.”

Stephanie Goss:
And so asking those questions, I would far rather go through an interview process now as a manager and have somebody say to me, “Thank you for your time. I don't think this is the right fit for me.” And I have designed my interview process to be supportive of that, because I would rather have that than have somebody take the job, not have it be the right fit for them, and go to lunch the second day and never come back.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, no, I completely agree. I think that's a great analogy. Tony Shay, I think his name was. And he would offer people $5,000. I can't remember if it was to not take the job or if it was that 90 days to quit, it was one of the two.

Stephanie Goss:
To not take the job I think.

Dr. Andy Roark:
To not take the job. Yeah. Anyway, no, I'm on board.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So anyway, that's it. The big things to come back around to are, it's not impossible to go into the situation. It is very hard. And I just want to be upfront about that. If you're going to do it, set a plan that involves change over time. Realistic expectations. Protect your peace. Just set good personal boundaries for yourself so you don't get sucked up into this. Get in there, start meeting people, figuring out what they care about. Start building trust and ask them about what's important to them and why they do things the way that they do. And then that's going to give you the best opportunity to have these conversations and to make some changes. That's all I got. Stephanie. Anything to add to that?

Stephanie Goss:
No, I love it. That's it. Hopefully, this was one of those ones where the trip to Camp Tough Love wasn't too painful. But, this is another Camp Tough Love, because I think as our writer gave us the answer in their questions. You can impact change, but you cannot force this to happen.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Well if nothing else in this episode, I came up with the phrase dancing on the streets of Crazy Town, which I'm sorry, I heard that coming out of my own mouth and I'm like, “This is gold. I'm going to protect my peace from people dancing on the streets of Crazy Town.”

Stephanie Goss:
I love it. Have a great week, everybody. Take care.

Dr. Andy Roark:
See ya everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey friends. Have you been over the website lately to check out all the fun and exciting things that are coming from the Uncharted veterinary team? If not, you should stop right now and head over there, because we have got some awesome stuff coming late summer and into the fall and winter. And I want you to be there with us.

Stephanie Goss:
We have our Get Shit Done Conference coming in the fall, that is happening in October. Before that, we've got a workshop coming in September from my dear friend, Dr. Phil Richmond. He's going to be talking about avoiding toxic teams, how to create psychological safety in our practices.

Stephanie Goss:
We've got the amazing and wonderful technician, Melissa Entrekin, who is leading a workshop in October about leveraging technicians, making practice less stressful for you, them, and your patients, and all kinds of other fantastic things you are not going to want to miss out on.

Stephanie Goss:
So, if you haven't been over there lately, head on over to unchartedvet.com. You can hit forward slash events if you want to go straight to the events page, but that will show you everything that is coming. And remember, if you are an Uncharted member, your membership gets you access to all of these workshops that we do on a regular basis for free.

Stephanie Goss:
And if you are not currently a member, you can check out the membership information, because it will save you big bucks throughout the year on accessing all of the workshops and it scores you access to the conferences when we have them, like Get Shit Done, for less money. That's right. Get a discount. And who doesn't love a good discount. Thanks so much for listening, guys. We'll see you soon.

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Sep 14 2022

I Tried To Unplug On Vacation… and Failed

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

Stephanie Goss has gone rogue! She invited Tyler Grogan, Veterinary Technician and Uncharted Social Media Goddess as well as Eric Garcia, Marketing and Social Media genius/guru of Simply Done Tech onto the podcast. Fair warning – when Stephanie gets to have dear friends on the podcast, shenanigans ensue and this week is no exception. You may have heard Eric lecture or write about a topic near and dear to his heart – #unplugging. If you haven't heard about it, you are definitely in for a treat. Stephanie and Tyler were both inspired by Eric's invitation to veterinary medicine to unplug from social media and technology and lean into being present for periods of time in your life. All three of them lined up time this summer and this episode is their get-together to discuss what went wrong, where they struggled the most, what went perfectly right, and whether they will do it again. You all be the judge – let's get into this.

PS – As mentioned in the episode, you can check out Bored and Brilliant. All things Eric has written on unplugging can be found here https://ericgarciafl.com/unplugged/

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Andy Roark:

Hey, Stephanie Goss. Do you got second to talk about Guardian Vets?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah. Whatever you want to talk about.

Andy Roark:

Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing. And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up, and the doctors are busy, and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:

They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:

I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about Guardian Vets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and Guardian Vets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:

Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after-hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it. We've talked about Guardian Vets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, what is that?

Andy Roark:

Guys, if you're not familiar with Guardian Vets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up at the front desk, check them out. It's Guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardian vets.com.

Stephanie Goss:

Hey everybody. I am Stephanie Goss. And this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. I have got an intro coming to you as part of the episode because I am being joined today by some very special guests. This is a very special episode for me. It is the subject that is very recently near and dear to my heart. It is near and dear and a bit of a passion project for one of our guests and is something that our third guest experienced along with me this summer. We are talking about unplugging. Let's get into it.

Andy Roark:

And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Stephanie Goss:

Hey everybody. Welcome back to the Uncharted Podcast. I am Stephanie Goss. And today I am joined by two of my favorite people in the whole wide world. I have my fellow teammate, Tyler Grogan from the Uncharted team. Tyler is a veterinary technician. She is a social media mastermind, marketing guru in training and an aesthetic genius. Tyler brings you all of the things that are beautiful as far as Uncharted goes. And we are also joined by my dear friend, Eric Garcia, who is a marketing guru and social media genius. He's not here to talk with us about any of that today. The three of us are here today because we are going to talk about one of Eric's passion projects, which is unplugging. Welcome to the podcast, you guys. Hi.

Eric:

Hi. It's so good to be here.

Tyler Grogan:

Hey, Stephanie.

Stephanie Goss:

Hi. I am so glad you guys are here for our listeners. This is going to be an episode filled with giggles and laughter because we have literally been talking for the last few minutes, getting ready to start recording. And I have already cried with laughter, so be prepared. This will have even more shenanigans than Andy and I's normal episodes, and I appreciate every bit of it.

Eric:

I'm excited for it.

Tyler Grogan:

I have no idea what to expect.

Stephanie Goss:

Poor Tyler. So those of you guys who listened to the podcast regularly, poor Tyler got voluntold for this. She was listening to an episode for her job trying to pull quotes out to post the social media quote and heard me say, oh yeah, by the way, we're going to have an episode upcoming with Eric, and Tyler's going to be on with us. And she was like, I'm sorry, I'm what?

Tyler Grogan:

I was like, that's a great idea. I'm so glad that I knew that it was happening, but I guess I'll see you guys on the podcast soon. And here we are, the genius of Stephanie Goss.

Stephanie Goss:

Eric said before we were recording, that's probably your style and he's not wrong.

Eric:

It is. Totally is. That's a hundred percent Stephanie Goss.

Stephanie Goss:

If you were ever wondering what it was like to work with Stephanie Goss, that's a preview ball and told. But we are here. I am super excited for this episode. So Eric, tell us a little bit about unplugging and how you got there. You talk about this a lot. So a lot of people may have heard it, but kind of give us the origin story.

Eric:

Yeah, so the origin story actually started about nine years ago, I was reading fast and company, and there was this guy who was talking about how he spent a whole 24 hours without technology. He was talking about the effects that he had when he did it and how he was able to.

Stephanie Goss:

Did his palms sweat? Was he shaking?

Eric:

Believe it or not, from the article he actually did very well enough to the point where it didn't scare me away.

Stephanie Goss:

Okay, fair.

Eric:

I think you're starting to share some of your perspective, which I'm very curious, and I have a prediction about how your experience went. He did it for a day and he talked about how amazing it was. I challenged myself to do it for 10 days because I thought if I'm going to do something, I'm not going to do it small. I'm going to-

Stephanie Goss:

Go big or go home.

Eric:

Exactly. And it came at a time where I was just experiencing this fatigue from constant connectivity. I think a lot of people don't realize how much of a distraction email, text messaging, social media, our fricking phone and all of the technology around us actually is in our day to day lives. It causes stress, anxiety, and I'm not someone who is normally an anxious person. I'm not someone who normally becomes stressed easily. I started feeling all of these symptoms. And when I read his article, it really opened my eyes that maybe this is something that I could benefit from. It really hit home because that prior year I had the opportunity to go to Europe for just vacation first time ever. And I remember we went to France, we saw the Eiffel Tower. It's like this magical moment. But the moments leading up to that were filled with checking my email, being on social media and consuming a whole bunch of content that ultimately kind of carried into my experience and my vacation.

Eric:

I think a lot of times we don't realize that when we're on vacation, we consume content on social media that doesn't necessarily always make us feel good. We will get an email maybe about a problem that's going on at work about a new project that landed on your plate. And here you are supposed to be in this moment. For me, it was supposed to be enjoying this beautiful Eiffel Tower, but I couldn't stop thinking about those things that were distracting me prior to. And so I said, I'm not going to let this happen anymore. And so I decided to take 10 days of unplugged, which unplugged to me has there's dual benefit to me, it's not just unplugging from technology, which is perhaps the biggest part of it, but it's also to unplug from work and to have conscious efforts where you're saying, I'm going to truly enjoy myself. I'm not going to be tied to work. I'm not going to answer emails, text messages and things like that. And so I did it and I did it for a whole 10 days, and it was amazing.

Stephanie Goss:

That's so freaking impressive because that's like zero to 900.

Eric:

Yeah. 100%, ten days. It is, but it's amazing.

Tyler Grogan:

What you said about how there's a couple different components to you of what unplugging means, which was unplugging from technology in general and then unplugging from work, that was something that Stephanie and I, I think we both did seven days where we tried to do seven days of unplugging. And right from the get go, my first question was, well, wait a minute, what does that mean? Like defining what it was and from what your experience was, it sounds like you really completely unplugged, like weren't texting, weren't checking email. Were you communicating with people on the phone? What's the level of unplugged from technology that you did?

Eric:

Tyler, I'm actually really happy you asked that question and shared that because I think sometimes I forget to define what it actually means. I'll kind of share with you how my thought process has evolved since I started originally, and it still rings true to today. Unplugging means you're not sending text messages. You're not on social media. You're not going online on websites and surfing. You're not doing YouTube, anything like that. For me, the exception was that I would use my phone to listen to music. Everyone knows music transports you to wherever you want it to go and to take you. And so music was a big part of it, but my phone was always in airplane mode in the beginning years of it.

Eric:

For example, my mom watches my dog. So she knew where I was going to be at to be able to get a hold of me. And so for me, unplugging was just no technology at all from your phone mostly and iPads and things, don't try to get creative with it.

Stephanie Goss:

He's looking at me, you guys. He knows about the iPad stash in my bag.

Eric:

From this phone, but I can still use this phone. So not anything like that. Don't try to get creative. So I was very staunch on saying that if you're unplugging, you've got to do it like that, and that's the only way. And I felt that way for years. And I still feel that you have to truly unplug by doing that for a certain period of time, Jay Sheti who has this great podcast and great guy that really kind of gets into the mindset, very positive mental mindset, he talks about how you need to go through both extremes. I didn't really find this out until recently. And I thought he'd really eloquently put it together to say that you have to experience both extremes. So you have to experience the extreme of constant connectivity, right? So all the messages from all the things, and then to experience the complete opposite extreme, to be able to then find that balance between the two. So for me it was that one extreme, and I would bounce between the two extremes.

Eric:

Where my thought processes evolved is I've had friends tell me, well, it doesn't just have to be that. I've had friends tell me that maybe it's just selectively choosing what you want to unplug from. So if you think you have a toxic relationship with social media, then maybe unplugging for you would be not going on Facebook or Instagram, maybe it's unplugging from email or whatever it is that you want to try to escape. So I'm fine with that. And I call that unplugged moments where you have periods of time throughout the day or on the weekend where you do that. But I think to truly harness the benefit of it, it's just nothing. All of it goes away.

Stephanie Goss:

So, Tyler, tell us a little bit about your experience this summer. So both of us had known about Eric's idea from an industry perspective in how toxic social media can be and just how connected we are. And both of us had for different personal reasons had talked about, okay, let's make this the summer of challenge, and let's do this. And so, Tyler, tell us a little bit about how you came to your unplug journey this summer.

Tyler Grogan:

Sure. Right before I was about to travel to Canada to speak at a conference there and spend some time with my friend Saye that you guys probably know from Uncharted and beyond, but we were going to go to explore the national parks there. I had basically a three week trip planned to Canada. I saw Eric's post on Instagram. It was like, hey, guys, I'm unplugging for the next month. And I was like this might be the opportunity to try this. And so I messaged him and was like, I'm going to do this for a week. And he was like, okay, let know how it goes. I was like, okay, I will. Well, then I hear Stephanie later on the podcast right before I leave.

Stephanie Goss:

You can't put something like that out publicly and post on Instagram and then not expect me to jump on that and be like, oh yeah, okay, you're voluntold. That was the moment. Just in case there was any doubt. I saw the message on Instagram from Tyler and was like voluntold, done, over with.

Tyler Grogan:

So I set myself up for that. But anyway, so right before I was about to leave, I saw that and I was like, okay, well now I really have to do this. I said, I'm doing it. I have to do it. So my plan was that I was speaking at a conference. So I wanted to share about that experience while I was doing that but then right after we were going to travel to the national parks, and I already knew I was going to have limited connectivity just because of where I was going to be. I was only going to be with Saye, and that was going to be about four days and then three days following in Ottawa with her. And so I decided that was the week.

Tyler Grogan:

So, much to my dismay, when I got to our Airbnb in Yoho National Park in a small town of 200 people called Field, I found out they had fantastic wifi. And I was like, oh, okay, well, this takes away some of the barrier for me to be using technology, but I'm going to power through. I had a really interesting experience with it because like it kind of came in phases. So the first few days we were very like, we're going to be out hiking. When you're out hiking, obviously you're not on your phone, but right from the beginning, I was like, but my camera is on my phone and we need the GPS on my phone to get to the places we're going to go hiking, and we need music because we're going to be in the car for a really long time. And I've got to check on my cats. And I've got to make sure that the person we're meeting in a few days knows where we're going to meet. And I'm like, oh my gosh, how am I going to do this?

Tyler Grogan:

I was like, logistically, how am I going to actually do this? And so I had this conversation with Saye, I was like, look, I have to do this. I've been told, I'm doing a podcast. I have to do this. So how are we going to make this work? And she's like, okay, in classic Saye fashion. She was like how are we going to define success of you doing this? I was like, this is some coaching. I like it. And so I have notes that I wrote down. I'm like, what are the rules? And I was like, no social media and no email. Before I left, Ron, our executive director disconnected me from Slack, which was incredibly helpful. It was very easy for me to go and just in my kind of like almost automated motion, I realized click on the different icons of social media or of Slack just to open, and it almost was like an unconscious thing.

Stephanie Goss:

Muscle memory.

Tyler Grogan:

I removed the icons from the homepage and Slack, the first time I tried to open it, inevitably, even though I said, I'm not going to do this, the first time I tried to open it, it was like, you can't do this because you're not even-

Stephanie Goss:

Access denied.

Eric:

I love it.

Tyler Grogan:

I was like, oh, that's good.

Eric:

Go Ron.

Tyler Grogan:

There were a few phases where like I could go into ad nauseum amount of detail. But I think the first, really big question that came to mind was like, what are the rules? That's why I asked, what does unplugging actually mean? Because to me, I was like, if I'm not completely unplugged from technology, then I failed unplugging. But the reality was like, I actually needed the tech. I felt like I needed it, and maybe we could have found ways around it. But I felt like I needed the technology for a significant number of reasons that I was like even traveling outside of my normal day to day, this is going to be really difficult.

Stephanie Goss:

You and I talked about, okay, you're using… Eric was doubled over dying in laughter as Tyler was describing what she's using her phone for. But it's true. Tyler and I had this whole conversation about, we have these computers, like it's more than just a phone, right? So we have these computers in our hands. And we don't think at first glance about all of the ways that it's interconnected. And so Tyler and I had this conversation about, well, I'm taking pictures with my phone, and I don't want to disconnect from that because I want to be able to capture moments and much more intentional moments, I think, than normal. Tyler and I had some conversation about how it forced her to think about how often she's using it for that and what she's capturing versus like, oh, let me just selfie.

Stephanie Goss:

When we think about let's do it to post on social media, we don't think about it with the same level of thought. I think that we think about it when we're looking at it as this is my camera. I'm not lugging camera equipment with me. This is my camera. I'm trying to capture this moment. And it's hilarious to me because as Tyler and I were having this whole conversation about what we each did, Eric, you're going to laugh, neither one of us thought about airplane mode. Both of us were just like we… This is our moment of there's a light switch, dummy, and you just flick it on and off. Neither of us thought about airplane mode. And we both were just like, what are the rules?

Stephanie Goss:

Like it's funny because both of our heads went to what are the rules? How do we define this? We were like, let's channel Eric. What would the rules be? And so when we had the conversation afterwards, Tyler and I were both like, we have so many questions for Eric about what are the rules and how do you define it? Because neither one of us thought, oh, that one button does all of the things. But to Tyler's point, she needed GPS. So there are pieces of it. And that was one of the questions we had for you because you and I have had that conversation, Eric, about using your phone to use Pandora stream music or whatever.

Stephanie Goss:

And I think that was part of the big picture thought for me this time was what am I going to try and use my phone for? And figuring out like Tyler, are there hacks and easy things that I can do to make my phone more restrictive so I don't just muscle memory hit that button and be like, oh, let me text or let me send a Slack message to everybody? And still be able to access the pieces of technology that don't count yeah or are needed to your point.

Eric:

I'm sweating because this is just so funny, and I feel like I've led you to failure.

Stephanie Goss:

Let's be clear, you're sweating before I even tell my story.

Eric:

I'm excited. This is like-

Stephanie Goss:

Also, let's be clear, you have not failed. You have not failed us. In fact, that's part of why we wanted to do this podcast because-

Eric:

This is great.

Stephanie Goss:

… we had conversations with you, both of us individually, before we did the thing and asked you for input and guidance like, hey, we're going to do this thing because both Tyler and I recognized one of the core things for Uncharted is, look, if you don't have a partner and somebody to help keep you accountable, it doesn't actually happen. And so Tyler and I both recognize we need accountability partners, and so we approached it from different perspectives, right? For Tyler, one of her accountability partners was having the conversation with you and trying to figure out what are some of the rules and then continuing that conversation with Saye and people who she was going to spend time with. But also one of the accountability partners for her was Ron. How do I unplug from work? And I approached that in a very different way, which is part of my failure.

Stephanie Goss:

But I also had a conversation with you about like, look, let's get real. Eric knows me very, very well. For those of you who have not heard this story, Eric and I met and really started our friendship probably about six years ago when we were at Fetch in San Diego. And I actually went there so that you and I could sit down and have some conversation about social media. But at Fetch, you were doing a workshop on unplugging. And it was really funny because I was still in practice, and I was very active on social media at the time. And one of the things that I had volunteered for was live tweeting the conference.

Stephanie Goss:

And so I find myself sitting in Eric's lecture about how to unplug, and I'm literally like sitting there with my phone in my hand thinking I have this assignment, there's this thing I'm supposed to do, and I'm in this class telling me not to do the thing. And I was sitting there and my palms were literally sweating. And I put my phone in my back pocket and thought, okay, if I sit on my phone, maybe I can actually listen to him. I caught myself in the first five minutes taking out my phone to repeat something on social media that Eric had said, because I thought it was great. But then I was like, dude, I'm not actually even listening to this, and so I was really trying. And so I literally put my phone in my back pocket and like leaned over to one side so I was sitting on it.

Eric:

You did well.

Stephanie Goss:

My hands were sweating, but I made it. It was like a 50 minute lecture, and I think I made it through like 35 minutes without touching my phone. And that was the first time. But I'll be honest and candid with you guys. That was probably the first time in I don't know how long that I went 30 minutes without the phone being in constant reach because I recognized in that and then in followup thought and work on myself that I have an addiction to my phone, and it is a very powerful one. And when I started looking at my own life and recognizing I am using it for good things, I am capturing my kids' childhood, I'm capturing moments, but I'm also missing a lot of things because of what I'm doing with my phone. And so that led Eric and I on our friendship journey about sharing this also recognizing that I have been in long term recovery for a very long time and recognizing that's one step at a time.

Stephanie Goss:

For me, I cannot go zero to a hundred because I will fail. I have to take it in small bite size pieces. And so that was the first step that day recognizing I have a problem and then starting to work on it. And now six years later, it's taken me six years, but six years later I was at the point this summer where I was like, I'm going to do it. I'm going to actually unplug for days on end. And unlike Tyler, I was like, I can't go to seven days, but my family had a trip planned, camping. We were going to kind of be out in the middle of nowhere. So like Tyler, I thought, okay, here's a physical barrier to being able to get online. Also like Tyler, I get there and discover, hey, the whole world has wifi now.

Stephanie Goss:

And so we're camping with kids. We're not really that off the grid. So there's wifi where we were. But my thought was, okay, I can do this. We were going to be there for four days. And I thought three nights, four days, I can do that. That feels like a sustainable amount of time for me. I had very mixed results. Not going to lie. I'm going to tell you guys, Tyler probably earned a B plus on her unplugging. I don't know how she graded herself.

Eric:

We're grading now, okay?

Stephanie Goss:

I would say she probably earned herself an A minus, B plus. She did a really good job. I was like, these are the things. I wouldn't say that I got an F, because I did ultimately unplug for two days. I would say a D minus was where I landed.

Eric:

I'm curious about that. Tyler, why would you grade yourself a B plus?

Tyler Grogan:

Those were not my words.

Stephanie Goss:

How would you grade yourself, Tyler?

Eric:

Yeah. How would you grade yourself?

Tyler Grogan:

I think I would've given myself probably like a C minus on unplugging.

Eric:

Let me reframe something and then see if this changes how you grade yourself. So unplugging is mostly about constant distractions. So constant distraction would be social media, would be texting, would be email, would be those things that we interact with consistently. There are exceptions, using GPS isn't breaking the rule, right? I've been places where I've had to take it off of airplane mode to turn it on for GPS. Admittedly, I've had places where I've gone because I was going somewhere on vacation and I had to message the guy’s Airbnb. You can do those things, it's what you can't do is you can't, you kind of start to fall out of it when you go on social media or you take a peek at email or when you see a text message or thankfully you were disconnected from Slack, or if you went onto Slack. It's okay to use it to convenience you for those little situations. Or did you relapse when it came to work and social media? Where do you feel? Would that help you give yourself a better grade?

Tyler Grogan:

Well, yeah, let me elaborate a little. The work side of things, I was disconnected from Slack, and I absolutely was very conscientious not to check my work email. So I feel like that was an A plus, like work disconnect was an A plus. I felt the outcome of that when I got back. I was able to do that for that entire trip, disconnect from work. And I came back feeling recharged and ready to get back to work. So that was definitely A plus.

Eric:

Can I just quickly jump in on that? I think what Ron did well, and I think a big lesson to take away from here is that Ron took the initiative of disconnecting you from Slack. I think as a leader… Wait, did that not happen? Did you ask him to?

Tyler Grogan:

I'm laughing because Stephanie and I had two different experiences with that because Ron, as a leader did succeed but also did ask us if we were okay with us being disconnected. The first day I had to answer, I knew I had one email for work that I needed to pay attention for before my trip started. And I answered it. He saw me answer the email, and he messaged me immediately and was like, I am going to disconnect your work email. And I was like, no, you don't have to do that. It's okay. I knew this one thing was coming. I promise I won't do it again. But, Stephanie, when she was asked, gave a much different answer than what I said.

Stephanie Goss:

So it's funny. This was really part of what I was curious to talk through with you, Eric. I run everything for my calendar and my whole life through my work calendar. Better or for worse, my work calendar is where I keep all of the info. And so like Tyler, I also did some preparation and was like, okay, and I told the team I'm going to go, I'm going to unplug. And I thought that I set myself up for success in that I had the autoresponder on. I had been telling people, I think about your basic rules, you communicate ahead of time, you let people know, you put on your auto message, so people know that it's coming. I did all of those things. And then for me, my plan was I have a couple of days where I'm going to be somewhere else, but I'm going to be working remotely, and then I'm going to unplug and I'm going to go.

Stephanie Goss:

I worked those days, and I reminded everybody, hey, starting this day, I'm going to unplug, I'm going to do the thing. We didn't have the conversation about Slack or any of that. And I actually am kind of glad because my immediate gut response was I don't handle that loss of control. Even if it was my boss, if someone told me I'm going to take this away from you, that would have had a visceral response. I would not have felt good about the experience because I wouldn't have felt like I was an active partner in it. If it was a discussion about like, how would you like to do this? I think that I would've been more open to that. And that was part of what Tyler and I were talking about.

Stephanie Goss:

Because Ron was like, hey, this worked out so great for Tyler, maybe this should be our company response moving forward. And several members of the team were just like, absolutely not. We will lose our shit if you tell us that you're going to do these things. And so it was a conversation about how do we come up with rules that support each other as a team? So my immediate gut response was that. I recognize that that's part of the addict talking is that I need to be in control here.

Eric:

A big part of the addict talking, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

And so I do recognize that. We'll come back to that. Anyway, I set myself up. I did what I thought was the prep work to be like, I'm going to be gone. I had update meetings with everybody. I met with Andy right before I left. We ran through all of the things like this this is a sit rep, this is a status report, this is where everything is at. I'm going to hit the pause button. Everything will be fine for the four days. I've gotten everything to a place where I could drop off the face of the earth for four days and it should be fine.

Eric:

So real quick just on that point. You know you're unplugging.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Eric:

You told everyone.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Eric:

So why did you still feel the need to be this connected if you made the conscious effort to leave it behind?

Stephanie Goss:

Because for me, I knew because I was choosing not to remove… I was like, I'm not going to turn things off of my phone. I'm not going to… I knew the messages would still be coming. People are used to me having the instant response. And so for me it was like, hey, I'm going to go. But also I need you to understand that I'm serious about this. I'm really not going to not going to answer. Then I immediately failed.

Eric:

Yeah. And that's normal by the way. I mean, I don't ever expect anyone to come back from this the first time and either, A, love it, or even, B, have done an amazing job at it because it's an entirely different thing that you have likely never done in your entire life, except from before you started working and we relied on our parents and depending on that.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah, when we had actual phones? And if you left the house, no one could find you for days on end, and it was fine.

Eric:

That's a very normal feeling. I think it's really important for people to recognize that that's a very normal feeling. But you're right, that response that you had is exactly the reason that you should continue to try to work on that. I feel that companies and practices should have very strict disconnect policies, and I think it would make people like you very anxious but I think at the end of the day, it would-

Stephanie Goss:

I took my Xanax before we recorded this, so I'm fine. We can talk about it.

Eric:

I wish we were all sitting down at a bar and having this conversation, but I think it's very important for the businesses that we work for to set those examples. For example, we have a very strict unplugged policy. When you're hired on board, there's an unplugged policy that you sign that says when you are out, you are out. Email gets turned off. Slack, all of that gets turned off because that employee is going to be a million times better when they come back and they weren't bothered at all.

Eric:

We don't purely do it because we want them to be better. We also do it to help them because not everyone can do it. And so I hear what you're saying, and I genuinely like the approach of, well, let's tailor it to that person, but I don't actually think that would be helping you in the long run.

Eric:

Because unplugging isn't about checking messages and triaging, that's not unplugging. That's just going to work and checking your email. Here's the reality, Stephanie. If I were in your situation, if I were quote/unquote unplugged, but I still triaged email, I would be in 100% your shoes. In fact, I had a similar situation happen. I had both extremes happen. I remember one time I came unplugged, this was a few years in, we had a brand new employee working for us. I came back, and as you can imagine, one of the reasons people don't unplug is because like there's millions of emails. I expected that. That is built into my unplug time. I come back, I spend a day and a half just doing email.

Eric:

This one year, and this was the most bizarre experience for me, and I learned to like it, but I didn't in that moment. I came back, I probably had easily 300 emails or whatever, and that employee responded to a majority of them because it redirects to that person to say you should go to-

Stephanie Goss:

If you need help, this is your person.

Eric:

Right. They were asking specific questions. Someone had a negative review. How do I respond? This person wasn't really hired on to do those things. They know what they're doing, but that's not what their job was. And so this person responded to everything. I came back, and I'm reading it. And I was like, I probably wouldn't have said it that way. And then I read some emails and I was like, wow, that was actually probably better than I could have said it. I remember when I was done, I'm not kidding you, I was probably caught up within two hours after being gone for over 10 days. I was like, I don't like this. I don't like this at all because you just did my job, and, yeah, you didn't do it in the way that I would have done it, but you really didn't do it in a way that was going to lead us to the company was going to crash.

Eric:

And I remember thinking like, oh, letting go of that control and letting someone step up to the plate and fail to learn from those failures actually ended up being one of the best things that could have happened because now that employee is the one who things are directed to, and I have the confidence knowing. And they know what they did wrong, and they know what they did really well. And so I think that's a very normal response though, and I know that letting go is hard, but I think slowly letting go… And I don't think maybe four days is probably the best thing for you right out of the gate. I think for some people, it works. I think, Stephanie, you just need to start with like a Saturday.

Stephanie Goss:

But I hear what you're saying, and I actually recognize that. And so for people who are like super control freaks, I recognize the addict in me says, don't take away that control. And that is actually what is needed. And so I do the work. I recognize that. So I would do it differently. And so for me, I felt like this is a total failure. And Tyler and I were having this conversation. And one of the questions we had for you is I said, I know Eric has policies, and I know that his company is set up that way now. And so the question Tyler and I had was, you jumped into this zero to 60 on a personal level, how do you then start to have those conversations with your team? Because I'm thinking about all of our listeners who are like, I would love to go. I mean, that was me as a practice manager. I would have loved to step away literally for a 12 hour shift and not get 19 text messages and phone calls.

Stephanie Goss:

How do you move in that direction so that you do have company policies, that you do have protocols, that you do have processes in place and still have buy in so it's not just me, Eric, as the business owner saying, this is how we're going to do it and you either take it or leave it, but how does the team be a part of that?

Stephanie Goss:

Because Tyler was like, well, this is what we did. And I was like, oh, I don't know if that would work for me. And I know other people on our team felt the same way. And so we were like, can we have a discussion about this? And maybe ultimately the decision is still, this is the policy and protocol, but everybody in order for there to be buy in, everybody needs to feel heard. Right? And so for me, as the manager mind was turning, I was like this is where we need to have the conversation with Eric about how do you get there as a leader? How do you start to have those conversations with your team? Because it's not easy.

Eric:

Yeah. I think it's really critical because this is what happens sometimes is people will say, well, can we have a copy of your policy? We'd love to institute it. And then they go back to their practice and then they just distribute it in their com boxes or by email. And they're like, hey, we now have this policy. That's obviously not how we should ever implement a policy. It's like a cell phone usage policy or social media policy. It's like, hey, I heard from this person. We shouldn't be using our phones on the clock sign this policy and it's like, well, hold on. So to that point, it's really important, I believe, to have a conversation with your team during a team meeting where you carve out ample amount of time to talk about, A, the benefits of saying, hey, listen, we value your mental health, it's extremely important. We want you to be able to leave work and enjoy life outside of work. It's to say that we're doing this to prioritize you and what we're going to do so you can relax is we're going to have redundancies in place.

Eric:

There are going be other doctors that are going to see your cases. There are going to be other technicians that are going to fill in shifts. And everyone's going to have a turn to where they will eventually be on vacation and we'll be able to do this and kind of explain the logic behind it. Talk about how it prioritizes the employees.

Eric:

I think this is funny because a lot of times practices are like, oh, we prioritize mental health and it's like, well great, but how do you do that? And this is one of the many examples of how you actually do that and how you actually say, well, we can say one thing, but here's how we're going to prove it. And then I think a big part of that conversation is to say, you might not like it, but we're doing this for you, and we're doing this for us, because you're going to be a better employee at the end of the day, and you will learn to enjoy a life outside of work. And I think what's dangerous though, and I can say this about the practice that I used to work at with peace and love, I even saw the person yesterday. I think where we start setting ourself up for failure is when we are accessible when we're on vacation. And the message that we're sending other people is to say, well, if I'm accessible on vacation and you can ask me questions, then you're going to be expected to do the same.

Eric:

And we kind of champion that. We're like, yeah, oh, you can do it, email me. I love work. It's not about that at all. It's about just-

Stephanie Goss:

I'm in the hospital, but you can message me anyways.

Eric:

But let's be real, that probably happens every single day. Right?

Stephanie Goss:

I say that because I've been that manager literally in the ER sending my team that message. It's fine. I have cell phone reception in the ER, just message me. It's fine.

Tyler Grogan:

My gosh.

Eric:

Oh gosh. Listen, now, part of that would be, I just don't want to focus on what I'm actually dealing with.

Stephanie Goss:

That's true.

Eric:

I can see validity in that, but yeah, I see where you're going.

Tyler Grogan:

Well-

Stephanie Goss:

But it is. Go ahead, Tyler.

Tyler Grogan:

Well, there's another piece of the conversation though, that I think that we didn't have as a team, which was, let's agree to put these things down until this person comes back. I see how you would feel saying, look, I need to pause this because I'm going to take a break. But when I come back, it's the first thing on my list. And then someone saying, oh, it's fine, I can definitely send that email. But then having a very important piece of information, like you said, not available to them and then something gets blundered while you're away, I can 100% see why that would be really hard to deal with.

Stephanie Goss:

And that was my first response, right? I was just like, I had this conversation with Andy. He knew that this was where things stood. Why didn't he tell you? You know what I mean? At first, I was mad at Andy because I was just like, dude, I handed this off to you. And then in further conversation to Tyler's point, it was about, we didn't have team agreements. And so the team was like, Ron said, no, Andy actually told us that. He said, you should wait until Stephanie gets back because this is her thing, and she's doing the thing. And so I was like, okay, immediately all the misplaced anger at Andy goes away. And he's like, but we were trying to help. And we just thought, oh, we'll just check it off and it'll be done and we can move on. And it was that learning lesson.

Eric:

What also kind of goes with that though is I believe that there's rarely anything that needs to be addressed right in that moment. Right? Continuity business will continue whether you're there or not, but there's rarely… That was a problem I had myself was I'll tell you for example one of the biggest challenges was I unplugged maybe a year ago. I don't know. The pandemic is kind of a blur. It was during the pandemic, and I was literally unplugging in between this massive project that I was working on with Royal Canin. I remember I was plugging back in hours before I was set to kick off this multiseries event being translated in seven different languages. Like it was this big thing, and I could have easily said, well, I don't want to. I'm not going to plug in until after this, but I did. I unplugged right in the middle of that.

Eric:

I did all of the most core things that I needed to do, but there was nothing that would've been urgent that was going to change the course of that project because it was already set in stone. And so I don't think that there's hardly ever anything. I think Stephanie kind of going back to this also reminds me of when, and I don't know if you remember this or not, if you were tweeting, but in that session then… What was Fetch called?

Stephanie Goss:

I was CVC then.

Eric:

CVC sorry. At that CVC conference-

Stephanie Goss:

We're dating ourselves because we're old.

Eric:

I know. We really are.

Stephanie Goss:

I had to reach for them like, oh wait, it's not CVC, it's Fetch. Let's call it by the right name. But it was CVC then.

Eric:

Yeah. I remember this veterinarian toward the end of the session, and she was crying and she was saying that she could never unplug because a pet owner, a client of hers, sent her a message on Facebook and was asking a question about her pet that was in some sort of emergency. This veterinarian who's a solo practitioner decided to unplug, take vacation, prioritize herself, not be online, not answer any questions. When she finally plugged back in and she checked on that pet owner, the dog had died and the owner said, well, it's your fault because I was waiting for a response from you. And she started crying and she said, I could never unplug again. And that was a really heartbreaking story because I've heard that numerous times since then, and I don't agree.

Eric:

I think it's easy for me to say because I'm not a veterinarian, but I don't agree because there are systems that can be put in place. There should be auto responders on Facebook that should link to the emergency clinic when you call. So there are things that you can do. And our dear friend, Megan Brashear, in the lecture that her and I give together on setting boundaries, she said, you're not the FBI. You're not that important. I don't care who you are. You're not that important. And there's nothing that needs to be done right in that instance.

Eric:

Now, it would be different if you were leaving for 30 days at a time, but what's really cool is there's also a book called No Rules Rules Netflix. For me, it was also a life changer because they talk about how there's no vacation policy and people can take as much vacation as they want, and they can do it at whatever time they want because they let people know… They set this expectation that you're not going to do it at a time where there's a million important things going on. You're going to find the right time and you're going to end those projects. And anything that comes in after that isn't going to be urgent. And I think about this is executives do this, all level employees, engineers, people who are responsible for the streaming, all of these employees will do this. And one of the cool things that Netflix does is that when they kick off their team meetings, if someone was on vacation, they actually put that employee on the spot and they say, hey, what'd you do? We want everyone to know what you did, and we want you share pictures.

Eric:

And even the executives will kick off a team meeting. And they're like, I was just in Fiji for five days and I loved it. And here's what I did. And they do that because they want other people to see that they can also do the same thing and they also should do the same thing. And so I really think it's important to kind of always keep that in back of mind. It's easier said than done, right? I mean, it's definitely easier said than done, but I think it takes practice, but it can definitely be done with the right practice.

Stephanie Goss:

It can. I will say I felt like I failed miserably. I had a meltdown. Jenn talked me off the ledge. I put my phone away for the remaining 48 hours of my unplug time. And I had a great time with the kids and my family and was like, okay. And I stopped. I didn't check email after that, because I was so upset. I didn't check email and I didn't set check Slack. I did a really good job of that. I used my phone for pictures and stuff like that, but I didn't post on social media. That was a hard and fast no go for me. I was like, I can't be on social, it's toxic.

Eric:

Awesome.

Stephanie Goss:

I did really good. I felt really good about it. It was like, okay, it was a little win. And then since then, I have had several… You were not wrong. Go take it one day at a time. And so that has been my challenge for myself, and I'm stretching it into longer, longer periods of time. So it's like can I spend the whole day, and can I really be present? For me, I've recognized that like the temptation of having the phone in my hand is huge and I've recognized, and this is part of the recovery process long term for myself, is recognizing that I am one of those people where the addiction tendencies are really strong and I can't have the temptations.

Stephanie Goss:

It's the same way with me with caffeine. If it's in the house in any format, it doesn't matter if I don't like it or not, I will consume it. And so for me it has been about that with my phone as well. It's actually been a benefit because I have leaned back into… I used to be an avid photographer and loved using my camera and had almost quit using my camera for years because I had my cell phone and the cameras on cell phones get better and better. And why wouldn't I use what's in my pocket. Right? And I don't have to lug gear. But the kids and I have been doing adventuring this summer, and I have picked that back up. For me it is about I have to leave it at home and it's making sure that if we go somewhere, I leave it in the car or I leave it in my purse, and I will catch myself.

Stephanie Goss:

If it's in my purse and the kids are doing something or they're playing with their friends, we just recently spent a day up at the lake, and they're in the water. I was sitting there drying off and was like, oh, just pull out my phone. I was like, I can't. I can't do it because the next thing you know I'm on social media and stuff like that. So for me, it's been a really painful, but good personal journey and recognizing I am so in awe of people like you and Tyler who were like, let's jump in and I'm going to do seven days or do 10 days. Also, part of why I wanted to do this was to say there are people listening and I see you.

Stephanie Goss:

I feel you because that was me. I couldn't make it through a 50 minute lecture the first time I met Eric, but here I am six years later, and I've made it for days now at a time, and I am working my way up. So the learning lesson for me was that I want to do what Tyler did. Maybe not in the same way that she did, but I want to go longer. I want to be able to do things. And so I'm working my way towards that. I think Tyler had a similar experience where it was like I went and some things went really, really well. And I gave her a really high grade on purpose because she's too hard on herself. And she did do things really well. And she also recognized… Tyler, I would love to hear from you, what are the things that you would want to do different next time, and how do we take our own personal experiences?

Stephanie Goss:

And to your point, Eric, how do we bring that into the company? And how do we start having those conversations as a team? Because we both independently and together recognize the impact that it had on us, but also the ripple effects of that experience on the rest of the team intentionally and unintentionally.

Tyler Grogan:

The other half of my grade was outside of the work piece. And this was where I had a lot of questions for Eric because things I would do differently, I was like, I don't really know how or why I would want to do this differently. And part of the experience on the personal side of unplugging, where like unplugging from technology completely was, what about the downtime? Because I don't know if this was your experience because you said your first unplugging experience, you traveled to France, and I'm not sure if you were on your own or if you had people with you. But part of that was, I was with somebody else. So they had access to their phone. So they'd be showing me things on their phone or things like that, which I felt like, okay, that is what it is. I'm not picking up my phone and doing this.

Tyler Grogan:

But there was a lot of downtime, especially when you're traveling. And then also the second half of that week was spent back in a normal kind of environment of like we're not always going to be out hiking all day where we don't have service and we're not being present in a moment of sitting on the couch and watching something together on TV can be much different than being present actively doing something. And I was like, that was where I struggled because we got back and suddenly we're in a normal home environment. And we're spending some of our time in between going to have meals or doing things together, just hanging out. And so you're normally on your phone scrolling through whatever or talking or, oh, let's look up this new thing that we both want to know more about.

Tyler Grogan:

Those were the parts that I was like, okay, how I would want to maybe do this differently, but how could you do it differently? And also I felt like there were times I wanted to talk to tell my mom about how my trip was going or tell somebody how it went speaking at the conference the week prior. I was like, is unplugging from that taking away from me?

Speaker 1:

Tyler asked me, am I actually breaking the rules?

Eric:

Yeah, so-

Tyler Grogan:

Yeah, because that actually is something I want to spend my time doing is talking to somebody. And so I was like, it's the two extremes and then what's falls in the middle I was like, this is okay.

Eric:

That's just it. Again, first off, I should have kicked this whole thing off by saying I'm not an unplug expert. It's just my experiences and the experience from my friends. But I think, Tyler, what you bring up is really important because even my unplugging has evolved. So for example, in the early stages of it, for the first few years, like I said, my phone was on airplane mode. It's evolved in the sense that my dogs are older now. My mom does watch my dogs. Elvis had a back issue, so I'll keep my phone on, but it'll be on do not disturb. And I'll FaceTime my mom. So that'll be like, hey, how are things going? How are you? I have a very close relationship with my mom. My friends on the other hand hate when I unplug, because I even unplug from them, and I got a lot of crap from my friends.

Eric:

And then I'll see threads of text messages that they'll forward me or that I will be on that I won't see until I get back. And they're like, oh, he's probably unplugged. And he's not talking to us. And this is unacceptable. I do think to your point, one of the things I'm learning is that maybe it is okay to send text messages to my friends and be like, hey, how are you and check in. It's just making sure. But see, I've had the experience of knowing what a true unplug is to know that that won't leak into something else. My biggest fear with that was, and the reason I went cold turkey with text messages, is my biggest fear is I would get a text message that would be related to something that I'm trying to avoid for an extended period of time.

Eric:

But I think there are ways now, like you can prioritize messages from friends and suppress other ones. So I think there're apps within our phones that give us better control than we had before. I think another thing that's really important, two more items. One, is I had someone I remember one time she's like, well, it sucks when you unplug and you go out to dinner with your friends and no one else is unplugged because at some point during dinner everyone's on their phones and I'm just sitting there. And I told her, I said, well, try to make it a game. I'm not condoning people to drink or anything like that, do what you want. But what I told her was like, if you happen to be at a bar or somewhere where there are drinks and that's what you're doing, then make it a game. Make everyone put their phone into a hat or something. And the first person that reaches for the phone has to pay the tab for that night.

Eric:

And so challenge your friend to do that. I remember that person that I recommended that to followed up with me months later. And she was like, I got to tell you that was a lot of fun. We started having these in depth conversations that we didn't. And this happened to me as well. I was friends with someone for my whole life, and there are things that I didn't know about them that were going on. And it's just amazing how the moment that we pick up our phones and everyone else starts to follow along like a domino effect that we lose that ability to connect deeper with that person.

Eric:

And then the third thing is is you're going to be bored, and you have to embrace that boredom. And that was a learning curve for me is like, I'm bored. I don't know what to do. And it's interesting. I'll be honest. I was never a reader. Now, I love reading. I'm reading all kinds of books now. I wrote an article while I was unplugged. You can choose to channel that in productive ways. I started my book a few years ago, albeit haven't gotten back to it. But I started that when I was unplugged. You can find things that you can do. I had someone one time tell me that she cleaned out her house that she's been needing to do forever. It doesn't sound fun, but the feeling that comes from setting goals or from cleaning your house out or from writing an article or accomplishing something, psychologists approve that dopamine hit that we get from that.

Eric:

And so it's that productive, that good feeling that you leave from it. And I will tell you when I'm unplugged and I'm bored, that's where I come back and I create some of my favorite lectures. That's where I come back and I'm truly inspired to do new things. My recent unplugged, it's been two weeks now and I have been exercising again because that's been a goal that I've set. And so these things, if you let your mind get to them, will actually allow you to be happier at the end. The problem is is we're so distracted that we never get our chance to let our mind be bored, to tap into the most creative part of who we are.

Eric:

Even at a stoplight, we pick up our phone and we're like, let's check Instagram. You don't get to be bored anymore, and boredom is such a brilliant thing. Yeah. So

Stephanie Goss:

It's totally true. I feel like I gave myself a D minus on this whole unplugging.

Eric:

I'd give you both an A. I don't think you're giving yourself credit.

Stephanie Goss:

Wait, I will say like the thing that came out of it… I feel like I failed, and I also was exceptionally proud because ultimately for me one of the pieces was I love to read. And for me, I was so looking forward to I'm going to unplug, I'm going to sit by the campfire and I'm going to read. I read 12 books in the week that I was gone. I was like, I feel really, really good about this.

Eric:

That's awesome.

Stephanie Goss:

It felt really accomplished. And to your point, Eric, the creative juices were going, I worked on website. I felt good, and I felt good about some of those choices in technology. I know, Tyler, you felt similar in a different way.

Tyler Grogan:

Yeah. I felt like in the end I realized that my relationship with social media in general had already changed where I wasn't really looking to it for entertainment as much anymore. And I was just kind of like, while it was muscle memory, it wasn't something I missed a whole lot. So that was an interesting discovery. But I also kind of journaled each day just to keep track of… And one of the things I would journal was a moment that I felt most present. I really feel like I was looking out for that. I shifted my perspective from looking at it. I don't know. I just paid attention for those moments a little bit more. And when I realized that I maybe was taking that away from myself for the opportunity to feel that, I think I can see that differently now.

Tyler Grogan:

And then some of those memories that I felt like now that I have when I was really present in the moment, those are some of my favorite memories from the trip. So more than the pictures that I took on my phone. But I feel like once I figured out, once I called it from the beginning an experiment, and I figured out what unplugging worked and what didn't for me, it was overall like a really good experience. My challenge now to myself is to translate that into my normal day to day life like Stephanie's kind of experimenting with. Like one day at a time still implementing those moments, like you called them unplugged moments, that's what I want to work on now.

Stephanie Goss:

I would agree with that and take it one step further, which is I think you were spot on Eric about for me especially, it gets one day at a time, but what I recognized with this experience was I did, although I was upset and there was a lot of turmoil and stuff I had to work through in regards to work when I came back, I recognized that I read all these books, I hung out with my kids, I spent quality time with my family, that felt really good. When I started talking to my therapist about it, analyzing myself, I recognized that I don't even get a weekend. I don't even give myself that on the weekends on a regular basis.

Stephanie Goss:

And so to Tyler's point, I started looking at how can I apply this first to having what lots of people would consider a normal life and actually leaving work at 5:00 PM on Friday and being able to have Saturday and Sunday where you don't work and you do a thing. Like, for me, that was the first challenge. And I think I probably will set myself up. I haven't put the dates on the calendar yet, but I am looking ahead to next year of what does that look like, and can I go a little bit longer baby steps, right? I'm not going to try and go 10 days. I'm not going to a retreat where nobody talks for days on ends. That is not me. I can never do those things. But how do I take it one step up? And the rest of this year, it is about how do I make that apply to my life as a whole so that I start to have a little bit more balance because it's very unbalanced.

Stephanie Goss:

I think our whole team has learned from this, and we have talked about it. I just have to say thank you to you because it has sparked conversations for us as a team about how do we change ourselves as a business recognizing that first step starts with admitting it, right? It's recognizing we have a problem, and how do we work together to figure out how to meet the basic needs, but also to the points you brought up earlier, sometimes that is the addiction talking and sometimes the control has to be taken away from you. And that is probably okay. And it took me quite a while.

Stephanie Goss:

I did my unplugging and so did Tyler in the beginning of summer, so June. We're two months after that, recording this, now it took me two months and multiple therapy sessions to work through my emotions. Let's be real. I was not in control and I was real mad, but I feel really good about it, and I feel positive about the changes that we want to make. I think, Tyler, you want to do this again, right?

Tyler Grogan:

Oh, 100%.

Stephanie Goss:

And I know you're addicted to it, Eric, because now it's multi times a year. When it first started, Eric was like I'm doing this once a year, and this is a thing. How often are you doing it now?

Eric:

It depends.

Stephanie Goss:

It's not a process.

Eric:

Yeah. There are times, there are definitely two extended periods of time throughout the year that usually fall within a holiday period because it's important to spend-

Stephanie Goss:

Schedules.

Eric:

Yeah. But sometimes I just do it when I'm like, I've hit my limit.

Stephanie Goss:

Need a break.

Eric:

Yeah. And when I know I'm responding to emails in a short manner when I know I'm getting frustrated, when I know I'm getting mad at things that I shouldn't, and then I know that's for me. And, listen, to both of you. I think it's very critical for people to share their experiences with unplugging, and the two different perspectives that you have I'm not surprised because everyone's going to have an entirely different experience with it. Everyone's going to have their own rules. Everyone's going to have their own thing that they're trying to accomplish. I think as long as we can celebrate the art of being able to unplug and celebrate the different ways that we do it and that we talk about it and that we encourage other people to do it, I think it can really help our colleagues, our friends and our peers be their better selves and be happier and more productive.

Eric:

And so I appreciate the platform and I appreciate both of you taking on this challenge and doing it yourselves. Stephanie, I'm going to be honest, my prediction originally was going to be that you hated it a hundred percent and that you never wanted to do it again. And you proved me wrong. You hated it 90%.

Stephanie Goss:

Let's be real, I hated it a hundred percent. Well, that's not true. There was moments like Tyler said where I really enjoyed. I was like, dude, I'm engaged. I love my family. This is the whole freaking reason I went on vacation because I actually do love them. And I love my siblings and my parents. I want to spend time with them. And so those moments were good. The rest of it, you're not wrong. In the moment I hated it a hundred percent, and I was like, screw this, I'm never going to do it again. But I will say, the gauntlet has been thrown, the challenge has been accepted. I will work on Andy Roark because I think that this would be a fun challenge. And then we'll have to have you back for round two to hear how Andy handles it.

Eric:

I'm very curious, very curious.

Tyler Grogan:

I think we all are.

Eric:

Not just Andy, how everyone around Andy handles it.

Tyler Grogan:

That's true.

Stephanie Goss:

Fair. I love it. Poor Andy. He's going to listen to this and be like, I did not sign up for this, guys. You're fired.

Eric:

This podcast will not air.

Stephanie Goss:

No, I love it.

Tyler Grogan:

One thing I want to say before we're done is that I do think that the timing of this was kind of the right timing because I think the last few years with the pandemic and the level of connectivity has increased to such a degree that we were seeking each other out because we couldn't physically be together, and a lot of the connection was taken away. And so coming out of that and having the first opportunity to spend quality time with people that were really important in my life in person and just one on one was I think that that was the right time to try this.

Tyler Grogan:

Thanks, Eric, for really throwing that out on social media; Stephanie, for volunteering us to do this podcast so that I felt that I would disappoint everyone if I didn't actually do it.

Stephanie Goss:

Voluntold.

Tyler Grogan:

Because it was exactly what I needed. It just made me appreciate that much more the personal time that you get with people in your life. So thanks, guys.

Stephanie Goss:

I love it.

Eric:

Thank you both.

Stephanie Goss:

I love you guys. This has been so much fun. This might be our longest Uncharted episode to date, but hopefully everybody's hung in there. They're like, oh my God. This conversation was so great. I had so much fun, and I think Eric would challenge all of you.

Eric:

I would.

Stephanie Goss:

Wherever, if you want to go in, all in, and you're like, I'm going to do 10 days or you're like can I do 50 minutes, wherever you fall, we are here for it. And I want to hear on our social media how it's going because I love this challenge. Eric, we will follow up because there will be a discussion with Andy.

Eric:

Done. I cannot wait. This is part of the reason I want it this year. I can't wait that long.

Stephanie Goss:

I love it. Take care everybody. Have a fantastic week.

Stephanie Goss:

Hey friends, have you been over to the website lately to check out all the fun and exciting things that are coming from the Uncharted veterinary team? If not, you should stop right now and head over there because we have got some awesome stuff coming late summer and into the fall and winter. I want you to be there with us. We have our Get Shit Done conference coming in the fall. That is happening in October. Before that we've got a workshop coming in September from my dear friend, Dr. Phil Richmond. He's going to be talking about avoiding toxic teams, how to create psychological safety in our practices. We've got the amazing and wonderful technician, Melissa Entrekin, who is leading a workshop in October about leveraging technicians, making practice less stressful for you, them, and your patients, and all kinds of other fantastic things you are not going to want to miss out on.

Stephanie Goss:

So if you haven't been over there lately, head on over to unchartedvet.com. You can hit forward slash events if you want to go straight to the events page, but that will show you everything that is coming. And, remember, if you are an uncharted member, your membership gets you access to all of these workshops that we do on a regular basis for free. If you are not currently a member, you can check out the membership information because it will save you big bucks throughout the year on accessing all of the workshops, and it scores you access to the conferences when we have them like Get Shit Done for less money. That's right. Get a discount. Who doesn't love a good discount? Thanks so much for listening, guys. We'll see you soon.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: culture, management

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