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Dec 07 2022

What Do We Do When Accidents Happen?

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This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss are tackling some serious questions that Stephanie lumped together from the mailbag. We've received some asks from veterinarians and managers facing the angry clients, online mobs, in-person harassment/bullying from people when the horrible, unexpected things happen. When a pet slips a leash and runs into the road in front of the clinic; when a patient dies with no warning during an exam; when a pet in boarding is gravely injured trying to escape their run during a thunderstorm. Things we all hope don't ever happen to us but are out of our control for the most part. These stories matter and the questions being asked by these brave leaders facing these situations matter, maybe even more than the story. Questions like “how do I emotionally support my doctor who is berating themselves for not knowing that pet was suddenly going to die with no warning?” or “how do I be there as a leader and support my team when we are getting death threats on our voicemail and people are being called out by name or their personal information shared online? How do I make sure we are all mentally okay at the end of the day?” These are wonderfully compassionate questions that Andy and Stephanie enjoyed looking at from multiple angles. Let's get into this…

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Episode Transcript

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Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss, you got a second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, what do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing, and I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and Guardian Vets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk, and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime, as well. Which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded, everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it, we've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast, and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up at the front desk, check them out. It's guardianvets.com, and if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardianvets.com.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody, I am Stephanie Goss, and this is another episode of The Uncharted Podcast. So this week's episode is brought to you courtesy of a handful of letters that we've received over the months in the mailbag. And they are all the big picture questions that have to do with when we have a catastrophic event in the clinic, something that involves a patient or a client. A patient dies under anesthesia, a pet getting walked in from the parking lot escapes, slips their leash and escapes, a pet who is boarding during a thunderstorm escapes and gravely injures themselves, those kind of things. When it's catastrophic, what do we do to support ourselves as the medical professionals involved in the cases? What do we do to support our team when we're leaders?
Because we've gotten some letters from leaders who have gone through these situations and are really struggling with feeling like not only are they trying to keep it together and deal with the lawyers and deal with the liability and the weight of all of that sitting on their shoulders, but they're also trying to deal with the weight for the emotional toll that it has not only on themselves but on the team, particularly when clients go on the warpath and there is cyberbullying or people coming into the practice and harassing or berating the team, when there's death threats, nasty voicemails, all of those things that we've talked about in prior episodes that can happen when something goes sideways and people go on the warpath.
These questions all have to do with how do we support ourselves mentally and emotionally, and how do we support the team? How do we be good leaders in times of crisis? Andy and I leaned into some of our own experiences and really wanted to talk through what do we do and how do we do this. I hope that this helps. I hope that it is a really good episode. Andy and I really enjoyed this conversation. So let's get into this one.

Speaker 3:
And now, The Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and Stephanie, she drives me crazy, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
I was waiting for a good one. Are you going to sing me the song, please?

Andy Roark:
She drives me crazy. I was thinking, we're like 200 episodes and change, and it's getting progressively harder to find names for you.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey-

Andy Roark:
I do want to say something to you because I've got a website here.

Stephanie Goss:
You started this game.

Andy Roark:
The 1,001 awesome nicknames, is what it is. And I'm like, I need to pull from this. And so I'm looking at it, and how do you feel about, and we are back, it's me, Dr. Andy Roark, and Stephanie, the talent, Goss. They've got-

Stephanie Goss:
Awkward.

Andy Roark:
Stephanie Tomahawk Goss. They've got animal themed ones. Stephanie the Mastodon Goss, or just Wild Cat Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
It puts me back to grade school when dumb boys used just random things to make fun of you.

Andy Roark:
Stephanie, Lord Privy Seal, Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
I can't with you.

Andy Roark:
What if I just called you subwoofer? Okay, I don't know what to do with this list, but someone put a lot of time into this, and these are good. Cornflake. If I could go back to being a child, I would have a friend and his nickname would be Cornflake. And I don't care, it would get tagged on someone.

Stephanie Goss:
For me, it was Snuffleupagus.

Andy Roark:
No. Really?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, that was about the fifth-grade dumb boy teasing. Got pretty epic with Snuffleupagus for a long time.

Andy Roark:
Oh, man. I told you I gave myself a nickname, right? The camp story. My brother and I were going to that summer camp and my mom was like, “It says here, it asked if you have nicknames, do you have nicknames?” And I said, “Yeah.” I said, “I'm Hawk and he's Ace.” And my brother and I were Hawk and Ace when we went to camp that year.

Stephanie Goss:
Did anybody actually call you Hawk or Ace?

Andy Roark:
Oh, yeah. Oh, they went with it. They were like, “We're supposed to call him Hawk.” Yeah, they called me Hawk. I was embarrassed by it by 10 minutes after I was there. I was like, this was a bad idea. It was one of those things where like three months before summer camp when you're filling out the paperwork, it seemed like a good idea. When you were actually there and people did it, it was like, no, this was a mistake.

Stephanie Goss:
That's fantastic. I love it.

Andy Roark:
Oh man. How have you been?

Stephanie Goss:
It's busy. It is full-fledged fall. We had our first storm of the season out here yesterday, and it was crazy. I live in the boonies so we lose power. I went to try to go to the post office to mail actually something to you and something to Tyler, and there was no power. And I was like, I guess … I'd been carrying it around in my car for a week and I was so proud of myself. I'm like, I'm finally going to the post office. No power. He's like, “I can't help you. I can't print stamps.” I was like, “Gosh darn it.”

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Oh boy.

Stephanie Goss:
How have you been?

Andy Roark:
Oh man, living the dream. I was like how have I been? Just running as hard as we can, building out next year at Uncharted. It's going to be amazing.

Stephanie Goss:
I feel like it's the time of planning this, it was always this way for me in the clinic too. Fall hits and you've got all of the craziness of the end of the year, but then you're also excitedly thinking forward to the new year, of what are we going to do? What changes are we going to implement? What are we doing for marketing and social media and all of that kind of stuff? And I always enjoy this time of the year, but I feel like it adds a whole layer of chaos to the chaos that already exists in the fall.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I do agree with that. I will tell you that part of growing a business is planning farther and farther forward. So when you have a small business, you don't have to plan all that far in advance. And then the more people you have to coordinate, the earlier you have to plan and start communicating what you're doing. And I'm not saying this as a joke, this is really what I've learned.
And so it used to be that December was the time of planning for the next year, and then it was November and now it's October, pushing into-

Stephanie Goss:
July. August.

Andy Roark:
Honestly, it was like by September we really need to be working on what we're doing next year, like really need to be working. And I'm like, it's just interesting that things change, and I think that everybody wants to believe that there is a plan that a quote unquote good business runs. And I'm like, it wholly depends on where you are in the lifespan of your business and the size of the business and the type that you have.
And just one of the big things that you and I talk a lot about is it's not one size fits all. It depends on your culture and your team and your location and your objectives and your challenges and the skillsets of your people. And all these things play into how you run your business. But that also means that as those things change, the way you run your business is going to continue to change.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, and I think it's funny because we get asked questions a lot where the answer is if you have a team of three, you have a doctor and a technician and a CSR, the answer's probably vastly different than if you have a team of 100 or 30 or 23. And we talk a lot about that scale, and it's funny because you think about it uniquely siloed to the perspective of the clinic, but when you zoom out, those same problems exist in a different way in every business as it grows and as it scales.
And it's funny, I've been reflecting a lot on how a lot of what we're going through as a team in Uncharted is very similar to a lot of the things, different specifics, but same rules apply to a lot of the questions and things that you struggle with in the clinic. So on one hand, it's nice to know that you're not alone because everybody has the same kind of challenges.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I remember I was in vet school and there was an essay contest, and it was a business essay contest. And I was like, I'm going to crush this. I'm going to tee up on this essay contest. And it was about, I can't remember the specifics of it now, but it was something about you're having this sort of toxicity or whatever inside this practice, or they're trying to get the practice organized. I can't remember. There was a growth thing going on.
Anyway, but I distinctly remember it was a one vet practice is what it was. And I think based on the finalists of the essay among which I was not one, it became clear that they were looking for this organizational idea, and the winner was like, “Well, we need to have department meetings and a surgery department meeting and all these other things.” And I remember just sitting there and looking at it and saying-

Stephanie Goss:
They have one doctor.

Andy Roark:
It's a one vet practice. What are you talking about? In my thing, I was very much like, these are important conversations. I thought on an individual level, I would make sure this person is on board with this and talk to this other person about this and understand their feelings on that. And that was not what they were looking for. They were a hundred percent looking for an org chart of how these things are going to go. But I just remember being like, “A surgical team meeting in a one vet practice?” You know what I mean? And it was so overbuilt, and I just, I've never gotten past that.

Stephanie Goss:
That's funny.

Andy Roark:
Anyway, just the dissonance of what they said it was and then the organization that they celebrated, I was like, these things are not compatible. What are we doing? Anyway.

Stephanie Goss:
It's just funny.

Andy Roark:
I hold that up not because I'm still bitter about losing the contest in vet school.

Stephanie Goss:
Uh huh, sure. Nope, not at all.

Andy Roark:
But because it goes to my point of I think that a lot of people think that there is a way that a practice is supposed to run, and I'm like, that's not correct.

Stephanie Goss:
So all of this has nothing to do with what we're going to talk about today. Storytime.

Andy Roark:
We should note the recording time and just let people know you can just skip to the four-minute mark if you like.

Stephanie Goss:
Storytime with Andy and Stephanie. No, we have a good one today. And so this is going to be an episode. It's interesting we've gotten some, I've been kind of collecting a few asks from the mailbag and they're all very different, and I don't want to share specifics from any one of them because I think they're representative of a bigger concern. And they were situations where something catastrophic happened in the practice from a medicine perspective.
So a patient escaped, got off the leash and escaped, or they had a death under anesthesia, or a patient was not under anesthesia, was just in the care of the hospital, and died. Things that are really either accidents or out of our control where there actually wasn't anything wrong. When you zoom out, and bless you all for giving us specifics, when we zoom out and look at the questions we would ask to make sure that we did the right things along the way, all of those boxes were checked but something catastrophic happened and you have the reactions of the clients and the people immediately involved.
And in all of these situations, obviously there was upset and anger and hurt and emotions on the part of the clients. And that is then all getting directed at the doctors, at the team, at the hospital. And in several circumstances, we've done episodes on this before, it explodes into the online arena. And then there is bullying and cyberbullying and people who are not a part of the immediate family berating the clinic and the team. And in some instances, personal information is getting shared online, people are being called by name, they're getting attacked.
So unfortunately we've seen enough of these circumstances in veterinary medicine in the last few years, and I was holding onto these because I wanted to talk not so much about what do we necessarily do in the moment, although a little bit of that, but there was some questions that were asked in each of these that really stood out to me because they were not so much related to the how do I deal with this, right? Should I get an attorney? Who should I talk to? But they were about, when we think about the bigger picture, how do we keep the team safe? How do we lead the team through challenges like this? And there were several cases where people were like, I feel like I did the right, we got an attorney, or I work for a company that has an HR and a legal department, and they were there to help us with all of the paperwork pieces of it, but how do I support the people who are involved?
And my heart went out when I read some of these because these are good people who are trying to do the best for their teams and their patients, and they're just feeling really, really overwhelmed with how do I create the space, the emotional space, and how do I deal with it? And I thought this is really good for Andy and I because so much of it is headspace, which is what we spend a lot of time talking about on the podcast.
And then also, there are actionable things and what can we do to help the team in specific. So some of the questions that I really liked is when the worst case happens, when clients are angry about something, how do we keep the team safe? How do we lead them through the challenges, and really, how do we handle the extra sticky situations like this?

Andy Roark:
Yeah, no, I'm glad you brought this up. And I really like the fact that they broke this apart and said just the people part. And I go, great, because this is a big sticky wicket. And depending on the specifics of the case, I would give you different advice on handling the other things. I really like the way they set it up and they were like, “We got our lawyer, we got our liability insurance people involved. We are checking the boxes, we are covering our bases, we've got the social media part under control. We've locked down things, turned off comments, we've done stuff.” All right, so I really like this a lot.
So what do we say to the team? I think one of the big things is the way that we address this with the team is the way that we address trauma with any group of people, whether it's family or any group of people who are going through a hard time. I think the first thing we do is acknowledge the elephant in the room. And that may sound silly, but a lot of people miss that trick because they're like, “I don't want to bring it up because they might not know.” It's like, they know. They are acutely aware, and you not talking about it, it doesn't show leadership, it makes them feel isolated and cut off, or it makes them feel powerless. It makes them question what is being done? What should we expect? Are we just being left alone in this?
And so I think it starts there. I think the first thing is start with the elephant in the room, is having some clear conversation that just says, “We see that this is going on.” And I don't want to heighten it. I don't want to say, “Boy, really hope people's addresses don't start getting posted online.” Don't give them ideas, don't heighten this beyond where it is. Resist the urge to let this spiral into something else. And I think that's a big part of bringing it back.
So I'll talk about the spiral part in a second, but that's how I would open it up, is to say, “The first thing to know is the staff is aware of this.” I think your job in leadership is reassurance. You don't have to fix the problem, you don't have the power to fix the problem, but let them know that they're not alone and you see it and we're this together. I'm not going to let you sit up at the front desk and be abused while I stay back in my office and pretend this isn't happening.

Stephanie Goss:
And on the flip side of that, I think, you said that the team is aware that this is happening. And I think that that's true. And I think that our first inclination, my first inclination, I had a situation where we had a patient who was in a carrier, we were bringing it in from the parking lot. The client was walking beside the member of my team. And it was a large cat, and they got freaked out by a noise in the parking lot and shifted their weight, and the carrier dropped and it popped open and the cat exploded out of the box and took off and was gone for three days. And it was hugely scary.
And the team who was there at the time that day knew what was happening because the person ran inside and said, “Hey, I need a couple of people to come help me fan out. We're going to look for the pet.” But then the rest of the day goes on, we still have patients, other patients that are being seen. Not everybody knows. And I think my inclination at the time was to try and control the potential for the game of telephone. And so I was like, “I only want to tell them what they need to know.”
And I think there can be the inclination to lean into not telling people because it's like you just keep doing what you're doing, don't worry about what's happening over here. And so I think on the flip side of that, it is important to know that when something like this happens, particularly if you have a larger hospital where team members aren't present, it's really important I think from a headspace perspective to think about how do you make sure everybody is aware of what happened and not so much everybody needs to know all of the details.
Because I think that is an important piece of the action. They don't need to know all the details. And sometimes, especially if it's a case where it's a legal situation, you might not want to tell them all of the details. But I do think it's important to make sure that everybody does know what happened. So the next, if you're on shift and you have a death under anesthesia, man, that is freaking hard. Those are some of the hardest days in veterinary medicine, and I hate to say it, but when you come in the next day, maybe you've been able to tamp it down and you're trying not to think about it, but it usually doesn't mean you've shaken it off.
And if you're working with somebody who wasn't on shift the day before, they're not going to know what happened and they're also going to not know maybe why you're acting the way that you are or where your head is at. And so I think it is important to make sure that everybody knows, hey, this is what happened. And that there is a process to talk about those things when they do happen.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I think that that's a really good point. I think one of the things that I, one of the first things I want to talk about with the team, and now we're shifting away from dealing with medical mistakes, which we have a podcast episode about that and communicating that with the team and things like that. I'm shifting a little bit away from how we communicate medical mistakes inside our team to the client component. Because that's specifically what we're talking about, is when the clients go on the warpath and they go on social media and there's this external nastiness coming in.
I think one of the things that I want to do, so we start with communication about the elephant in the room, and the next thing that I want to talk about is valid versus invalid anger. And it's about, I think part of the communication stuff with the team is hey, we empathize with people and we try to understand where they're coming from and how they're feeling.
And I feel like we have done that. We want to do that, we want to think about this from their perspective. And at some point, there is a limit to what is valid in people's behaviors. Can you be upset because your pet escaped for three days? Of course you can. Can you make death threats to the people who own the building? No, you cannot. That is not normal, rational behavior. And sometimes we just have to call it out, especially for the people who are dealing with the client, because people will say, “You are horrible, you are a terrible person. I hope your children are injured,” blah blah blah. And sometimes when people say that to us, a voice in our head says, “Do I deserve this? Did I mess up this bad? I know this went really badly, but do I deserve this?”
So I think bringing your people together and saying, “We are going to empathize with these people, and then also, we are going to be clear about what is acceptable and what is not acceptable and what is unreasonable and what is unwarranted.” Because I do think that a lot of people struggle, especially, I tell you, I can remember cases in my past where things have not gone well and the clients have blamed me for things to my face. And I have eaten myself alive, saying, “Why didn't I anticipate this? Why didn't I see this coming?”
And I needed another doctor, my friend, to come to me and say, “What are you talking about Andy? You're not omniscient. You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't imagine everything that a pet might do in that moment. That's not failure, that's being a human being.”
And I just think it's really important to have those types of conversations about what happened and then about what is a reasonable reaction that pet owners can have and what behaviors are over the line. And that gives people permission to put up some barriers. It gives people permission to feel sadness for this person, responsibility, upset, and also say, “And at the same time, you posting online in every forum you can find that I'm a terrible person, that's not okay and that's not warranted and that's not justified, given what actually happened.” And so sometimes it is those conversations to validate what is okay and what is not okay.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I like that. I like that a lot. I also think it creates an opportunity, too, for the team to talk about some of the things that might actually have nothing to do with this situation that's currently going on, but that may have happened in the past, that kind of got set aside, like the emotional blackmail situations with clients. It opens up the doors and creates opportunity to talk about those things, particularly with your front desk team, who gets it really, really bad sometimes from clients, about what is invalid anger, what is invalid behavior? Not just in terms of they're in the lobby shouting, but the specifics of what they're shouting. Where do we draw those lines?
And I think the good part is that it opens the door to having those conversations because in the moment, I think a lot of the time we may not take the time to have that because we're trying to let the emotions process and dissipate, like let's calm down before we have this conversation. And then I think a lot of the times the chaos of every day, it comes into play, and we have the best of intentions, but I'll be honest, I didn't always circle back and have those conversations.
And so I think taking it as an opportunity to say, “Hey, let's talk about some things that we have experienced, and we don't need specifics. We're not going to rehash old situations, but what are the specific behaviors? What are the specific instances that you guys feel like would be invalid behavior, invalid anger from a client?”

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I think those types of conversations are important, because here's the thing, and this is why it's important to have the conversation too, is the question is how do I help support the staff? I can tell you, Stephanie Goss, that I think what you're dealing with is complete garbage and no one should talk to you that way or no one should say that to you. Me telling you that is never going to be as powerful as you coming to that conclusion for yourself. And so me asking you, well, what do you think is valid and what do you think is over the line in the interaction that you had with this person?
And if you can say, “Well, I understand them being mad, and I would be mad too.” I would say, “I agree.” And you say, “But I do not think that they should use homophobic, racist language, slurs, whatever, profanity, whatever they're doing. I don't think that they should do that.” And I would say, “I agree with you. I do not think that that's acceptable.” And now it's not me just saying, “Hey Stephanie, that's not acceptable,” and I'm telling it to you. You're coming to that conclusion on your own, and there's real power in hearing your colleagues say, “Well, this was not okay,” and just coming to that consensus.
And so I'm trying to build solidarity, and that's why we have these conversations about what do you guys think about this? Now, the important thing is I think it's good to go here and have this conversation about what do we think and what is over the line in how we're being treated, how do you guys feel about what's happening? I think that's good, but we want to bounce out of that area fairly quickly. I want people to be able to say and validate and reach a consensus about what is justified and what is not, and then we need to move on.
And so I want to evolve the conversation from that to, okay, what will we do or can we do to prevent things like this from happening again in the future? And the answer may be nothing. It may be this is a hundred percent out of our control. This was a lightning strike thing. The owner put the cat in the carrier, and the carrier was not put together well, and it didn't even make it across the parking lot to us. I don't know what we do. Maybe send people a text reminder to make sure if they have any questions about assembling their cat carrier, they can call us. I don't know.
So for example, we had a case years and years ago, I worked at a place and we had dog boarding, and a thunderstorm came up and this dog that we did not know was storm phobic just went bananas. And I can't remember how he got out of his run, but it was something that should not have happened, meaning he tore through chain link or something. Something you go, superhuman panic. It's heartbreaking, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
The panic. And then the dog sprints down the hallway, jumps up, hits the bar on the emergency door, and is gone into the night in the storm. And it's just like, oh my God. The question is, what can we do differently? Is it questions, direct questions about how does your pet respond to storms? Things like that. Maybe if we can't do anything to, we should lock the fire door. You can't do that. That's not going to go over. But are there questions we can ask? Are there other things? Maybe pets that have storm phobias, they go into different areas. Maybe there's a different monitoring, I don't know what's possible. We can get creative.
It's called credibility. And when I teach dealing with angry or complaining clients, I talk a lot about credibility. Credibility is figuring out what happened, why it happened, and what we're going to do to prevent it from happening in the future. And I like it for a couple of ways. Number one, it's one of the most powerful things you can say to the pet owner. You can say, “This is what happened, this is why it happened, and this is what we're doing to prevent this from ever happening again in the future.” And it's owning the mistake in an appropriate, productive way and talking about how this is going to be taken care of and it's not going to happen to anyone else again. And that is a very powerful thing that often doesn't happen.
So I like it because it is cathartic for the pet owners. It makes them feel like justice is being served and moving forward and this has been owned and it's being fixed, but also, it puts the power of the situation back to some degree into our hands as vet professionals and say, “All right guys, what in this situation do we have control of? We have control of what we do to prevent this in the future.” And so it's giving some power back to people who might otherwise feel powerless.
Finally, it also gives you clear talking points. So if you are being attacked from the outside, on social media, things like that, I don't want my people engaging on social media. However, if we're going to communicate, we can communicate what we are going to do or what policy changes we are making to make sure this does not ever happen again. It shows how much we care, it shows that we're working on it. It is a positive thing to put forward to say, “We are reviewing all of our policies and protocols. We plan to make some updates to things that will prevent accidents like this from occurring in the future.” Things like that. And again, without knowing specific, without talking about specific instances, I can't tell you exactly what the wording would be.

Stephanie Goss:
And I think one of the things too, and this certainly does not apply in every situation, but I think that there also creates opportunity there. And it's why I feel really thankful that I have the tool in my toolbox of knowing that I can always apologize for the impact to somebody. I can't apologize for something that was out of my control. Like your example, I can't apologize that a storm hit. I do not control that. But I can absolutely apologize for the impact that it had to them because I am sorry, I am so sorry that their pet was so scared and that it escaped and that whatever happened to it happened. And even in that worst case scenario, I can empathize with them, and that is a superpower here.
And I've been in the situation where empathizing with the owner, and to your point, Andy, having the conversation with them to say, “I can't change this for you. I wish that I could. I can't change it for you. I can't make them come back.” I remember being a very young practice manager and having a situation happen in our clinic where a pet that was supposed to have a private cremation was not tagged and they were group cremated. And I remember it was my first time handling something big like this, and I remember sitting in an exam room with the client and I remember just looking at her and saying, “I wish that I could fix this, but there's literally nothing that I can do to solve this for you. But I want you to know that I am hearing you, I am seeing you, and if I could make this different for you, I would. And I need you to understand that I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure that this doesn't happen to somebody else.”
And that may not bring them comfort in the moment, but being able to say that opened the door for that client, who actually called me a couple weeks later and said, “I've been thinking a lot about what you said, and I have some questions about what you do do.” And they were wonderful. Unfortunately, it was one of my all-time favorite clients, but she had this conversation with me and she asked me questions that I hadn't yet thought of, of what were our processes in the clinic.
And it actually helped me figure out how could we help prevent this from happening again. Because they weren't looking at it from the narrow inside perspective that I was, which is like, what are we doing? How can we fix this? She was asking different questions, and it enabled us to look at our protocols and processes in a way that was completely different and helped us solve some of the challenges. And I think we don't get to do that if we don't open ourselves up for that vulnerability. And it's not always right. There are absolutely circumstances where I would not touch that conversation with a 10-foot pole and without an attorney present, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah, sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And at the same time, I think we can always apologize for the impact.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I like that. I just start tying credibility and apology together. I think it's important.
I met this vet one time, and we were just talking and we were just telling stories. And I wasn't speaking, I was at a CE event, I was totally doing my own thing. And I met this guy and we were just talking and it was kind of, you sort of bump into somebody and you're just killing time and one thing kind of leads to another and you end up having this really weird, deep conversation. You know what I'm talking about?

Stephanie Goss:
Yep.

Andy Roark:
It was that. I was talking to this guy and he told me this story, and I don't remember if I asked him for a, I don't remember how in the world I got him to tell me the story, but he said, and I swear this is true. He said, “I've got a story for you.”
He said, “I was doing a dental cleaning on this cat, and the clients were wonderful clients. They had multiple cats who came to our practice.” And the cat had a mouth gag when it was intubated, and they extubated the cat and put it into one of the dens to recover, and nobody watched the cat. And it comes to the end of the day, the cat's dead in the den. And he goes and he looks and the mouth gag was still in. Nobody pulled the mouth gag.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh no.

Andy Roark:
And so the cat suffocated and died.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh no.

Andy Roark:
And he said to the pet owners that there was an unexpected complication during recovery and the cat died.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh no.

Andy Roark:
And the owners were just distraught and they went home. And he sat there and he just couldn't live with himself. And so he leaves the clinic and he goes and gets in his car and he drives to their house, because he has their address, and he knocks on their door and he tells them, “What I said was not true. This is what happened.”

Stephanie Goss:
Oh no.

Andy Roark:
And, “I am so, so sorry.” And he said, “I'm going to figure out how to make sure this never happens again.” And those clients were involved with him figuring out what the protocols were going to be in the future, and he kept them in the loop about what they would do. And he kept them as clients, and they continued to come back because they were like, “You came and you sat here in our house and you owned up and you told us what happened and then what you were doing about it.” And he kept them as clients.
I have never forgotten that story of just like, I get it. You know what I mean? It's the human experience on display where this is a terrible mistake and you can't fix it. And I understand panic and saying, well, just tell them there was a complication. Which is technically true. I get it. I get that impulse. I also get the impulse of being eaten alive by guilt and saying that's not true and that's not fair.
So anyway, but I've never forgotten that story of just owning it. This is what happened, this is why it happened, and I'm going to figure out how to make sure it never happens again. And I'm serious about that. And so I do think that those types of conversations about what can we own here, again, after setting aside what is, as far as anger, what is valid and what is invalid, then we can say what are we going to do about it? Because if you don't set aside valid and invalid, you make people feel like they deserve, we made a mistake and we deserve this. You have to pull those apart. I think that's really, really important.
I think that when we start talking about where do we go from here, one of the things that you're going to battle in yourself for very, very valid reasons, and in your team, is defensiveness, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
I mean, when people are online attacking you, it feels awful. And you do get defensive and you feel like your reputation, which you have worked so hard for, is being destroyed. And I've got a news flash for people. Brace yourself, buckle up. You're not going to hear this coming. You're not always treated fairly in the court of public opinion.

Stephanie Goss:
Imagine that.

Andy Roark:
And I talk a lot about this too, and this is one of the things I'm really anti-social media, I'm really anti-social media in general these days in a lot of ways. But this is one thing I'm specifically, intentionally, very much over the top focused on, is the fact that veterinarians make great villains online. Everybody hates a hypocrite. It's why Ellen DeGeneres got torn down, like career ended when people found out she wasn't nice. If people found out Clint Eastwood isn't nice, they'd be like, yep, that tracks. You know what I mean? Like yep, he's a grumpy-

Stephanie Goss:
He's a grumpy man.

Andy Roark:
Being nice is not required for adoration unless you're Ellen DeGeneres, who has this reputation of being the queen of nice. James Corden is getting torched right now because of being crappy to a waiter. And I don't know whether he deserves that or not, but you can't convince me he's not getting torched entirely because his whole persona is Carpool Karaoke, happy, fun guy. And people go, “He's pretending to be happy and fun. In reality, he was nasty to a server.” And so they torch him for it. People hate a hypocrite.
And the problem that we as veterinarians have and vet professionals is, is that we have Ellen DeGeneres' reputation, we have James Corden's reputation of being the fun, wonderful, happy, loving people who would do anything for you. And then when things don't go right or when we're not able to do anything for you, we take the fall like Ellen and James Corden do. Because if your attorney, if someone's like, “My attorney screwed me over,” people are like, “Welcome to the club. Are we getting mad about that now?” It's kind of a thing that they're known for. And my brother's an attorney, I can say that. But no one gets their hackles up when people say, “My attorney is a crook.” They're like, “Of course he's a crook, he's an attorney.”
And that's not fair to attorneys. But I just use that to illustrate the difference between them and veterinarians. And in this social media world, being dubbed a loved profession, it has a downside. And it's that you make a great villain, you make a hypocrite, you make a horrible villain. And so I don't know that attorneys get mobbed the way that we do by strangers who don't have any idea what's going on. And maybe I'm wrong in that. But I do think that we are uniquely situated to get absolutely hammered on social media by faceless mobs.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I think that makes sense. And we know that the keyboard warriors exist because there is the facelessness, right? People can say whatever they want and there's no consequences because there's a screen and a keyboard between them and the people. And I think that we've talked about this lots of times on the podcast, how social media has this ability for people to be able to be big and scream and rant and have it be this huge thing.
And I think it makes sense, what you said was a light bulb moment, because it totally makes sense. People think about veterinarians as the big hearts, the all creatures great and small. And it's at the heart of a lot of our challenges in veterinary medicine, particularly when it comes to things like money, but also when it comes to problems like this because then we make a really good, easy villain.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, that's my point. So I think that we get unfairly targeted or we draw passion from online mobs in a way that a lot of other professions don't. Nobody mobs the auto mechanic. Not that I can see, but maybe, again, maybe if you're in the auto mechanic Facebook group you're seeing a lot of things I'm not, I don't know. But it doesn't feel that way to me. It really is, everybody online hates a hypocrite. And when people say, “These people could have saved my pet and didn't. They charged me for money that I couldn't afford and they wouldn't take care of my pet,” we hit that-

Stephanie Goss:
It's an easy target.

Andy Roark:
… button in their mind. And we get torched in a way other people don't. And that's why I think I specifically look at social media as being bad for vet professionals. Now what I was saying was, resist the urge to get defensive. The reason is because it does not help. If you are wading into an irrational mob, it does not help. And again, I've had lots of debates with other people about responding to negativity online. And I will be up front, I own my position and I have had plenty of people who are very, very smart argue with me on it. My position remains unchanged, with very rare exception. It is better not to engage.
And people are like, “No, you should do it.” No. You should talk to the individual who's involved, you should communicate, you should do things like that. But wading into online drama does not tend to go well. It just doesn't. All it does is re-attract attention, stimulate people to post more, to write more, to call more. And it keeps the drama going, as opposed to laying low and letting it go.
And again, this is very much about the specifics of the case, but I think people feel too much of a pressure to respond to the masses. And I don't think those people deserve a response. They don't know what's going on. They don't have the information. And you are not going to change their mind because they don't want to have their mind changed.

Stephanie Goss:
Right, exactly. Yeah.

Andy Roark:
You can choose to be righteous or effective, and if you want to be righteous, you can wade into the crowd with your flaming, raging sort of justice, seeking to defend your honor. You can do that, or you can be effective and to say, “How do I make this go away as fast as possible?” And a lot of it is don't engage with it, and it's going to run its course in three days and it will be a distant bad memory in three weeks.

Stephanie Goss:
How do you feel about taking a break and then coming back and talking about some of the actual, like some of action steps in particular for how do we support a team?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey friends, it's Stephanie, and I'm jumping in here for one quick second because there's a workshop coming up and it is one of the last ones for this year of 2022. And I want to make sure that you don't miss it because it is coming to you from my dear friend Maggie Brown-Bury. Maggie is a former emergency veterinarian who lives in Newfoundland, Canada. And a few years ago, Maggie made the decision to make a change, and she moved out of ER medicine into being a relief veterinarian. And I remember Maggie telling us within weeks of opening up her schedule, her whole first year was booked.
And so we asked Maggie to come and do a workshop for how to get the most out of the relationships that you build as a practice with your relief veterinarians. Because more and more practices, as we face the veterinarian shortage, are struggling with needing to have relief doctors on their schedule, maybe more regularly than we would have previously. And Maggie's got some great ideas after working with a ton of different practices on how you can leverage that relationship and set yourself up for success, set your relief veterinarian up for success, and set your clients up for success. So if this sounds like something you'd be interested in, head on over to unchartedvet.com/events and find all of the information about the workshop and how to sign up. I hope to see you there. And now back to the podcast.

Andy Roark:
All right, let's start to transition a little bit. I've ranted about the internet and mobs and negativity.

Stephanie Goss:
You, Andy Roark, getting on a soapbox?

Andy Roark:
I know. All right, let's change this into some actual action steps. So number one, like I said, open communication with your team about what's going on within legal boundaries. Obviously we don't fill you in on the details on something that may be going to the state board. But they need to know what's going on, especially if they're getting hate from outside, the phones are ringing. They need to know what's going on. So part of it is they need to know that this is not being ignored. It is being worked on, that it's being addressed. That's number one.
Number two, we should have a conversation about what is valid here and what is not valid here. And so that we're all in agreement and we can have this conversation and support each other. We can start to shift the conversation from there into what are we going to do about this? Where do we go from here? How do we prevent these things from happening in the future? And part of that is making our people feel empowered. And it's also about coming up with what our talking points are going to be.
And that's the next part for me in this, and this is still equipping your people, but it's figuring out what are the talking points that they're going to have? What are they going to say when people call? What are their options? And they don't have to talk everyone into pieces. My favorite thing is called the broken record defense, is where you say, “This is what we can say, this is what we're working on, this is where it goes from here. And that's really all that I can tell you.”
And when people ask questions, basically you end up with-

Stephanie Goss:
Repeating.

Andy Roark:
Those little three pieces of information, and we give it, but we're not going to get drawn off track. We're not going to comment on other things. No, we're not going to connect you to the doctor. This is where we are. And it's helping people know what to say so they feel prepared and they feel supported.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I think for me, when I think about the question of how do we support the team, it struck me because in one of the mail bag letters we got, they were like, “We had the legal side of this covered and that was great.” And I think it's important to say this is when the worst things happen, right? We're talking about the really unexpected and the things that are really catastrophic for an owner. Do not DIY this. Do not go it alone. This is where you pay professionals.
And my fellow private practice owners, this is where we have to say, we're going to dig into our pocketbook, because you should not, and [inaudible 00:50:31] is wonderful and they have attorneys on staff and obviously you should utilize all of the liability resources that you have. But this is also, especially, especially if people are sharing, calling people out by name on social media or in reviews and stuff, giving personal information about your team, you have to outsource this. You have to get a lawyer and get help because there's so many ways that they can help. And even if it's not something that they can provide, they can provide you additional resources that you should have at your disposal for those catastrophic situations. So don't go it alone.
And I think for me it's the same when it comes to supporting the team. This is where we need to lean into thinking about our responsibility as employers. And so I'm going to put on the HR hat for a second and step on that soapbox because at the end of the day, it is our responsibility to provide a safe workplace. And so if we have catastrophic situations which are inevitable, we can't control everything in veterinary medicine and accidents are going to happen, we have to still provide a safe workspace for our teams.
And so if there are situations like this and a perception is that we're not doing things to make it safer for our team, we can absolutely be sued as employers. And so I say that not to create fear and make you panic and go, “Oh God, that's another thing that's going to keep me up at night,” but it is something that we should think about.
And so for supporting the team, you and I, Andy, talk a lot for a variety of reasons of why, and employee assistance programs or EAPs are great, that is a really easy first step here in terms of supporting the team. So having a program in place where they can get assistance, including counseling, because when we have situations like this, where especially if a mistake was made, having access to counseling, having access to professionals who can help your team talk through those situations and deal with the emotions that they are going to feel, is really, really important. And if you don't have an EAP, or even if you do, depending on the circumstances, you may want to consider outsourcing additional help, like bringing in a grief counselor to talk to the team as a whole or individually, offering ongoing therapy for your doctors.
Generally, every time I had a doctor have a board complaint, part of it was that they needed to have access to talking to somebody. And if they declined, that was fine. But I wanted them to know that, hey, this is hard. You're going to have to defend yourself, and even if you did nothing wrong, that is a hard thing to go through as a human being, and I want to recognize that and provide you the opportunity to have someone who is professional. It's not my job as the manager, it's not my job as a practice owner, and I'm not qualified to do it, but you should have access to somebody. So providing them the support and resources that are professional I think is really important.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I agree with that. So at Uncharted we have BetterHelp as an employee benefit, and it's not a plug for BetterHelp, but it's the one that we use and we have. So the way it's set up, I actually like the way it's set up. The way it's set up basically is you set it up as an employer and then if people want to schedule time with a counselor, they can. And I don't know those who use it and who doesn't. I get a breakdown on how much it was used and things like that. And that's it. It's not super cheap, it's not super expensive, but it is a thing that we've done as an employee benefit.
I don't see anything wrong with having it as a short term employee benefit if your staff is going through something like this, and what if you said we're going to offer this for three months and anyone who wants to have a counselor for three months can have it, and that's what we plan to do. It was not hard to set up. It has got some nice privacy controls on it as well, and it was just a thing that we were able to make available and our people can use it as they need to.
And so anyway, I like the EAP a lot. If your EAP has limitations in how much counseling there are or if you feel like your team needs something more than that, there are other ways that you can access professionals and get them some support as well.

Stephanie Goss:
I think the last thing in terms of resources and professionals that ties to this, and it's a little bit of the in the moment, but also a little bit of the abusive behavior, and so your team should know who to call for help. And I say that because I had a situation where we had a client who was being verbally abusive. It started pretty mildly in the lobby and escalated very quickly. And when I found out about it and then they went out, they finally left the building and they were hanging out in the parking lot. And when one of the team members went out to get another patient, they physically accosted the team member in the parking lot.
And when I was asking the team about what happened, because I wasn't there at the time, they were just like, “We were fine. We felt like we could handle it.” And I asked the question, I was like, “Did anybody call the police?” Literally the police station was across the street from the practice. They were like, “No.” I was like, “Why not?” And they're like, “Well, because it didn't feel serious enough.” And I was like, “You guys.” Then it opened up an opportunity for us to talk about it as a team because the person involved didn't think that it was a big deal. But when I looked at it, I was like, dude, if they're physically accosting us in the parking lot, you should have called the police because that's what they're there for. They're there to help protect us.
And I think it goes back to what we were talking about earlier, Andy, which is you want them to bring up the ideas, but also, we're all going to have different ideas on what the level of invalid is, righteous, or sorry, valid or invalid anger. And so for me, I was like, this is invalid behavior. This is a line in the sand. And it created an opportunity for the team to talk about it and for us to talk about those protocols of what do we do for personal safety, what does that look like, at what point? And we had a wonderful conversation, and it helped pave the way for me to create this rule with my team, which is no one should ever feel like they cannot pick up the phone and call 911.
If there is truly, they feel threatened or intimidated, that's what I want them to do before they do anything else. Get a professional there to help you. And I can think of a whole multitude of situations in veterinary medicine where that might be applicable, but your team won't necessarily use that if they don't feel like you're advocating for it.
And so I think part of it was having the conversation open the door to me in my mind, even as a manager, of like, hey, remember when you're in grade school and you do the safety drills and you know to get under the desk and duck and cover when we have an earthquake? I lived on the West coast as a kid, obviously. That's a thing for a reason and it kind of stops in adulthood, but it shouldn't. Like when we think about our practices, for me the last piece of this is we should be prepared for what we can be. And some of that is the safety drills. It is knowing who to call, when to call, and having those ongoing conversations, but also practicing it so that everybody knows this is what we do when those catastrophic things happen.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, I like that a lot. I think that that's really good. I think that those are some hard and fast resources for keep taking care of the team. There's one more sort of soft resource that I want to add to this, and I need to couch it just the right way because I don't want it to come off wrong. When people are going through cyberbullying or they're feeling this pressure from clients, they're feeling a lot of negativity, it's important to [inaudible 00:58:21] everything that we talked about, justify them, validate them, support them, all those sorts of things. I find that it's really important to try to point to the good things that are going on in the practice and what is going well and the good that we do in the world. And I'm not saying that in a way that invalidates the bad feelings that they have.
So there's two things that I point out. I picked my daughter up from high school yesterday and I was taking her out, she wanted to get a birthday gift for one of her friends, and so we had to drive. So I pick her up at 4:30 and we're going right into traffic. And Greenville is a growing city and we're going into the city part, and it sucked. The roads were packed, and there was this guy in this like BMW SUV and he was driving like a maniac. He came shooting down the road, he did that thing where he was in the left lane, he cut right behind me. He literally missed my back bumper by three feet, you know what I mean? As he cut all the way over in the other lane, and you just see him cutting people off and cutting back.
And he's doing that thing where he's driving wildly, aggressively, and he gets to the stoplight one car length ahead of where he would've been if he had just calmed the eff down, you know what I mean? And driven. And you see the guy and he's cutting through and just, he's driving like a maniac. So I get my daughter through all this stuff and we get back home and my wife goes, “Well, how was it?” And I was like, “Traffic is terrible. People are crazy.” And I thought about it later, I was like, you know what, I was probably next to 800 cars. There was one guy that was crazy, one guy. That's like a 0.01% of the population. But that guy wildly affected my interaction, my perception of this interaction I had with a thousand other drivers.
And I bring that up because it's negativity bias. We have this one thing that we, oh my God, and it deeply affects everything else. Well, the same thing is true when we have bad experiences like this, if something goes wrong or people really go over the edge in being negative or angry, and that same thing of, oh my gosh, traffic was horrible. The truth is, it's one guy. It's sort of the same thing with this.
And so getting people to realize and say, so I talk about, it's called negativity bias. It's our natural instinct to remember the negative things and give negative things more weight in our mind because it keeps us safe. That's why it's hardwired in, because it keeps us safe. And so putting those sorts of things out and just talking to the team and saying, “Hey, when we have a negative experience, we tend to see negativity everywhere. And I want you guys to remember that we do great work, and there's so many people that we help and so many people who are supportive of us, and don't forget those things.”
And then don't make it a big deal, but go the extra mile to call out the things that you see people doing well. And it's not about, hey, don't worry about this other thing because of blank. It's like, no, it's just, “Hey, I saw you doing this thing and it was really great. Thank you very much. You're really great at your job. Hey, those people were just completely smitten with you and how you treated them. That was really amazing to see. Thank you.” And lift people back up because they're getting beaten on, you know what I mean? You can make their day a little bit better just by recognizing them and appreciating them for the work that they do, to try to offset the crap that's falling from above.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I like that. I think the other thing too, besides seeing the good things, and this is going to sound silly and it is a little bit silly, but it's also not meant to belittle it, is sometimes leaning into things that really make us happy in veterinary medicine. So find the puppies and kittens, man. Bring a petting zoo to your team. Do the things that are positive. And it's small and maybe it is silly, but I remember a period in my career where I was helping, I was working off the floor as a manager, but we had new people at the front desk and the area that they hadn't gone through in terms of training yet was euthanasia. And so I got called to come in and do the front desk piece for all of the end of life cases that came in.
And it sounds strange, but I enjoy that piece of work, but it also is not without a toll. And so I remember feeling really, really negative because I was like, dude, I get all the crappy sad all the time. That's all I'm focusing on. And I remember venting about it to one of my technician friends at the time, and I just needed to say something. I wasn't saying it and actually asking for help. And I remember, I don't know, half hour, 20 minutes later, she comes in my office and she's like, “Come with me right now.” And I was like, oh God, another case, I can't, I can't. And she brings me into an exam room and there's a literally a bucket of puppies in the room.

Andy Roark:
Oh man.

Stephanie Goss:
And it was so good. She's like, “You needed puppies.” And she's like, “You just need to sit in here for 15 minutes.” She's like, “We're not even ready to deal with them. Just sit in here and entertain them.” And it was so good and it was so simple and it was silly and it was what I needed to break out of that.
But I think thinking about those little things that we can do to think about what is really good about our jobs and get them to think about smiling, because we can't fix it. The reality is we can't make the behavior stop right away. We can't make the negative reviews stop coming in. I mean, we can kick a client out of the building, but we can't do anything to take away that feeling in the moment. And so I think your point about what is the positive, what can we control in this situation, and what are some of those things that we can do to just bring a little smile to somebody's face? Even if it doesn't take it away, for that moment it felt really good to sit there and cuddle puppies.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. You remind me of what we talked about not long ago. It's like sometimes you have to walk in the rain. You may not have done anything wrong, but it just, it's going to rain on you. And that's just life. We all have to walk in the rain. Yeah, I've been thinking about it a lot recently. It's like we go through hard times, and you can't make the rain stop. You know what I mean? It's out of your control.
But you can find little things to enjoy on your walk in the rain. You know what I mean? You can find little warm spots, maybe little dry spots along the way. You know what I mean? And I think a lot of times that's the best that we can do. I don't know. I think that's all that I got. I think we've kind of worked through.
I think sometimes it's really hard, and these things are a lot like a force of nature. It's about motivating your people to walk in the rain. It's about trying to make them find enjoyment in what we do. It's not invalidating the fact that we're walking in the rain. It's walking in the rain with them. And just being a part of it. Make sure you get them all the support that you can, but then just be there for them and know that sometimes we can't fix things, sometimes we just have to walk through them. But my experience in all of these things is that this too shall pass. It will pass.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Well, Stephanie High Octane Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
Was that from your website?

Andy Roark:
It was.

Stephanie Goss:
Ace. Ace was-

Andy Roark:
How about Stephanie Half Pipe Goss? Mustang. There's literally 1,001 of them here.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay, I think we're done for the day.

Andy Roark:
I think that's enough.

Stephanie Goss:
Take care, everybody.

Andy Roark:
See you, everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Well everyone, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. Thanks for tuning in again this week, as always. We love spending time with you. And before we go, I just wanted to say I am getting so excited to head to Greenville in just a few short weeks. We will be there for our Practice Owner Summit, which is happening December 8th through 10th. This is a giant, giant thank you shout out to our sponsors for helping make this event happen. This is one of my favorite events of the whole year. It is so much fun.
If you are going to be there, I can't wait to see your face. I have all the hugs for everybody, including our sponsor friends. And so I just want to shout out and say thanks to Royal Canin, Hill's, Care Credit, IT Guru, and Chronos for making this event happen. Take care, everyone. Have a fantastic week. Be kind, and we'll talk to you again soon.

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Nov 16 2022

Overwhelmed and Won’t Give Up! Part 2

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This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss are picking up where they left off last week! That's right, this is part 2 of our first cliffhanger episode (click here for Part 1). This week, we will dive into the action-step ideas for the challenge facing our repeat mailbag writer who was previously feeling squashed and stubborn. They are still at it and just as stubborn as ever, only this time, they are struggling with not letting client frustration over scheduling woes get them down. They are booked pretty far in advance and doing all the things they can to manage the schedule and clients are still really frustrated. They are voicing it to the team and it is starting to crop up in online reviews this doctor is asking for help in getting into a good headspace and not letting it get them or the team down. And also looking for help on how to communicate to clients that they have to wait and why it's okay to wait in some cases, without clients feeling brushed off. Let's get into the action…

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Dr. Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss. You got a second to talk about Guardian Vets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm sure you hear from these people as well, “Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.”

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about Guardian Vets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and Guardian Vets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after-hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded, everybody is drowning in phone calls and so we talk about it. We've talked about Guardian Vets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with Guardian Vets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up the front desk, check them out. It's guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardiansvets.com.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody, I am Stephanie Goss and this is another episode of the Uncharted podcast. In fact, this is Part 2. This is the second part of last week's episode where we started talking about feeling overwhelmed, but not wanting to give up. We tackled head space last week, so if you missed the episode, go back and listen to number 204, so you can hear what Andy and I had to say about how do we handle feeling overwhelmed about a certain issue in practice, but not wanting to give up on it.
This is a repeat writer from Squashed But Stubborn and we really appreciated their question about how do we manage it when our clients are frustrated that we can't get them in. And they're letting us know and we are doing everything we can to help them out, but it's still not fast enough for them. And now, maybe some of them are communicating it to the staff, but also leaving online reviews and it is hard to not let that get to you. So, Andy and I spent last week talking about head space and this week, we're going to dive into some of the action steps for how do we handle it when we feel overwhelmed. Let's get into this, shall we?

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And now, the Uncharted podcast

Dr. Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and Stephanie “Taking You to the Streets” Goss. That's right. We're taking it to the streets. That's right. It's taking it to the streets because this is an all-action episode.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
If Arnold Schwarzenegger made a veterinary business podcast, it would be this podcast. It would be this podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
I can't. I can't.

Dr. Andy Roark:
We managed the practices in an aggressive way.

Stephanie Goss:
I can't.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You will set boundaries for yourself. Get ready, crash cart. All right. I could have ended this thing. This is the best thing that has happened to this podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, God.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I know. That's if Arnold was slightly German.

Stephanie Goss:
Right?

Dr. Andy Roark:
That was. And much, much smaller.

Stephanie Goss:
Much, much shorter.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Much shorter, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Much less muscles.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Less impressive, yeah. He's like Mr. Universe.

Stephanie Goss:
I mean, it is almost Halloween.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm like Mr. Corner.

Stephanie Goss:
That could be a good… that could be a Halloween costume for you.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Oh, and I would… I mean, what do I need to do? Take my shirt off. That's it. Done.

Stephanie Goss:
Andy Arnold.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. It's like-

Stephanie Goss:
Same thing.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Same thing. Oh, my God, I thought you were him. Yeah, I get that a lot.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, my gosh. If you're tuning in, you're like, “What are these two going on about today?” We're back. This is going to be totally different for us. This is Part 2, our last week's episode. We got to the end of head space and said, “You know what? Rather than give you guys marathon episode, we are going to break this into two.” And we are going to tackle the action steps next week because there's some really good ones and we want to dive into that. Andy, do you want to give a recap of what we started off with last week in case anybody missed the episode?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Yeah, I do. So, let's go ahead and talk about the… we got a letter from the mailbag. And we have a veterinary practice owner who is trying not to burn out. Yes, she is overwhelmed with cases. She has lost… I'm saying she. I don't know if it's a she. It's just a guess. She's lost half of her technician staff in the last year and two and a half doctors this year. Only, it's two and a half because one of the people retired and has come back.
She can't get her regular clients in and she's really bothered because she can't get clients in who need to get seen. And they're saying, “Hey, I don't want to go to the emergency clinic.” And she's really hanging on. Seeing negative reviews is starting to bother her, even though she's really trying not to be bothered by this negative feedback from the clients who are frustrated that they can't get in. It's taken a toll and she does not want to give up. She wants to do the thing that she came to do and serve the purpose and take care of the pets. And at the same time, this has taken a toll on her. And she's like, “I don't know what else to do to keep the wheels on.”
And so, Stephanie and I talked last week and we talked a lot about… I talked about walking in the rain and I talked about the death spiral, which are different ways that we can get into this predicament. I talked about how common this is in Vet Medicine right now, how nobody can hire. It's very, very difficult to hire. There's a labor shortage. And so, a lot of us are having problem. We have unfilled job positions, things like that. A lot of us are working this way.
We talked a lot about sunk cost fallacy and how we get used to seeing a certain caseload and then our capacity to do that caseload falls off and we are unwilling to make adjustments with our new capacity. Things like that. We talked about responsibility that we have as far as pet owners deciding whether or not to take their pets to the emergency clinic and spoiler alert, it's not our responsibility. We have to be honest with them. We have to be honest about what we can do and it's their pet and we can't make them do anything. We talked about how it feels to have pet owners go to other practices and how maybe it should feel a lot less like a big deal.

Stephanie Goss:
It was a really great episode and if you missed it for some bizarre reason because…

Dr. Andy Roark:
So good.

Stephanie Goss:
… who wouldn't listen to us every week? If you missed it, you should go back and listen to the last episode because it was great. And we are going to pick up where we left off, which was we talked about head space. We talked about all of the things that Andy just recapped and we are about to dive into, “What do we actually do about this?” Because this is not a single-person problem. This is an industry-wide challenge to the point that you just brought up, Andy.
There is a labor shortage. Everybody is struggling with this. Everybody is struggling with feeling like they're a bit overwhelmed for a variety of different reasons. And there is this rebel fighting spirit of like, “I am not going to go down without a fight, so how do I actually fix this?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, so the first step in this, for me, is to step away. The first thing is strategy. We need to disconnect ourself from working in the business and step back and work on the business because this is not as it's put forward, this is not a problem that's going to change. We're talking about we're a couple of technicians down, we're a couple of doctors down and it is hard to hire. There is no scenario where six people are going walk in…

Stephanie Goss:
Magically, yep.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… and take jobs next week and be ready to go. It is not going to happen. This is your new reality. And so, acceptance is the first part. And then strategy. All right? Guys, let's be honest with ourselves about who we are, what our capacity is, what our purpose is and what we're able to do. And separate ourselves from the pet owners in the exam room looking us in the eye asking for our help. That's working in the business. We're working on the business.
And so, it's about stepping back and saying, “All right. What can we do?” And so, my advice to you is to step back and say, “How many doctors do we have and how well are we able to support them with technicians? If we were opening up a brand new clinic, but again, setting aside our history, if we were opening up a brand new clinic, how many exam rooms would we use? And how many appointments would we see in our new clinic to service these doctors and keep them busy, but not burn them out?” And that is a painful exercise.
And I'm not saying you have to do exactly this, but I challenge you to unemotionally sit back and figure this out. And then, when we have these numbers and we say, “This is how I would do it and this is how we would staff,” I would say, “Great. Are our prices in line to do those things and to keep the doors open and to retain the staff and to make payroll, and things like that?” Because that is another thing where our pricing model was often built on us having a much bigger team and a much higher capacity and that changes. And I go, “Yep, that is an unfortunate thing.”
I hear from a lot of practice owners out there who are chewing their teeth and saying, “We can't raise prices.” And I say to them, “I'm sorry.” You, guys, if you've listened to my other podcast, Cone of Shame, you know that accessibility of care is a big deal for me and I want people to be able to get in and I do not want that to be a luxury item. And I promise you that I fight with this and I wrestle with this. At the same time, support staff salaries are going up. Inflation is a real thing.
Prices are getting more expensive. I mean I don't know about you, guys. Let's take gas out of this. Man, my grocery bill has gone steadily up and I buy the same thing. I'm a creature of habit. I buy the same thing. I swear I pay twice as much for it as I did a couple of years ago. It is valiant for us to want to fight these prices. At some point, it does no good for you to undervalue yourself and your staff and your staff leaves and goes to work somewhere else because they're able to pay a better rate. This is part of acceptance is let's be honest about the amount of work that we can do and then let's set prices to support our team in what we're doing.
And the good news is when people complain and they might, when they complain for us to say, “Hey, there's inflationary pressure. We are taking care of our staff. These are changes unfortunately that we need to make to stay in business.” To me, that is a very, very defensible position. I'm not saying that people will go, “Okay, that sounds great.” But I think at some level, it should not be unexpected for people and guys, it really doesn't matter because it is what's required for you to do your job.

Stephanie Goss:
And here's one of the things, this is, I see a lot of my peers and colleagues struggle with maths and let's be real. Maths are really hard, maybe second only to time zones being hard in the universe. But it is really a simple math equation. And walk with me here for a second, everybody, because if you take a step back and you look at your people and you say, “Okay, if we have one doctor now and we had four and we have two technicians and we had four, what can we do now?” I think that's a wonderful exercise and you do.
I love that you have to consider your pricing, Andy because that is the next piece. You have to think about, “Okay, if I'm now changing this patient load, what is my output going to be? And is that going to be enough to cover our butts and keep the lights on?” Okay? And then most of us look at it and say, “Okay, well, the only choice I have here is to drive up prices.” That's the first lever that a lot of us reach for. It's like, “Well, if I have less people, I'm just going to drive up the prices.”
And that's I think where the panic you're talking about, Andy, comes from our practice owners who are like, “But I can't raise the price from $20 to $40 for a thing because that's double. And owners will flip out and they'll never come back.” Okay. The thing that I think a lot of us have to keep in mind is that math is an equation. There is an equal sign in the middle and there is room on both sides to help balance this out. And so, too many of us look at it and say, “Well this is my only option.” But I will tell you if you increase a little bit on one side and you increase a little bit on the other side, you can still get to the equal in the middle, you guys.
And this is where so many of us look at it and panic and think, “This is the only button that I can push. I can only push more cases through the door or I could only push more money.” And really what this is about, the exercise for each one of us, because it is individual and every one of our clinics is going to be different. And if you do the work that you're talking about, Andy, if you step back and really work on the business instead of in it, you have to look at what is right for you and your team. And maybe the answer is your pricing model wasn't set up great and you should increase prices maybe even by more than double. That may be the answer in your clinic.
And also, there are plenty of clinics where the answer may be that, “Could you figure out a sustainable way to do a little bit more volume? Not a ton, not twice the caseload with half the people, but could we do a little bit more volume and keep our prices where they're at?” Maybe, right? But the answer is that there is room on both sides of this equation to balance things out. And I think that's a step that a lot of us, myself included, have missed because we stand there and panic and think the only option we have is to jack up our prices.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yep. Yeah, I completely agree with that. Okay. I want to get into that in a second. Let me start here with, I want to talk for a second about capacity. And so, I talked about this in our last episode, but it's important enough I need to bring it back here and put it at the top. Okay. You, as an individual and your practice, but we're just talking about you as an individual. You, as an individual, you have a capacity.
There is a certain amount of work that you can do at a day in a healthy way. There's stress and there's distress and a healthy amount of stress is good. That means we're pushing ourselves, we're working hard. At some point, there is a capacity above which you are not stressed, you are distressed. Meaning, this sucks. You feel crappy at the end of the day.

Stephanie Goss:
And you go home crying.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And you don't look forward to coming back tomorrow. That's it. That's the line. You switch from, “Boy, I worked hard today. I'm kind of proud of myself,” to “That was sucky. And I'm going to be right back in it tomorrow and I feel crappy about it.” And if you are having those thoughts as you leave practice, you, my friend have switched. You've pushed past stress into distress. That's capacity.
Now, you can push past healthy capacity into distress and you can do that for a day or you may be able to do that for a week. You may be able to do it for a month or even three months or six months or maybe a year, the bill comes due and you need to know that. The other thing is, it is, I have never seen a scenario where the doctor is pushed to distress, but the team is happy.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. I was going to say.

Dr. Andy Roark:
If you're feeling that, you better believe your team is feeling something very similar and you might be motivated and dedicated and you might own this practice or you might not. You might just be like, “But I don't break. I don't give up.” Other people, that's your own weirdness that you came up with that, yeah, you can take that on for yourself if you want, but you are also dragging other people into that. And they may not feel the same way because they're healthy. They have a healthy perspective. Maybe that's why, but-

Stephanie Goss:
They have boundaries. The other thing that I think is really important here to call out and I'm going to call this out because I have been this leader. No matter how much of a poker face you think you have, no matter how well you think you hide your distress, my team doesn't know how worried I am. They know.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes, they do.

Stephanie Goss:
They know. And to your point, Andy, you might be able to hide it for a day, but if you are a leader and you are operating in the place of distress for any sustained amount of time, no matter how good you think your poker face is, your team knows.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Well, everybody has a bad day. But if you have a bad day after a bad day, after a bad day, after a bad day, that radiates out, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Culture comes from the top and stressed out, that's a type of culture. We have all seen a stressed out culture. It comes from the top. And so, if you're the medical director, if you're the practice manager, if you're the practice owner and you are just stressed every day then that's radiating out. And so, I say this because it's important. The goal for you in practice should be to do good in the world, the most good in the world.
And if you work past your capacity and your staff quits and now, you're shorthanded, you are doing less good in the world over the long term than you would have been had you rationed it down to a reasonable capacity and kept your staff intact. And if you want to do good in the world and you see all the pets and you burn out in four years and you leave the profession, you're going to see way less pets and do way less good than you would have had you done less and stayed in the profession for 20 years. And not by a little bit like a couple extra pets like…

Stephanie Goss:
A lot.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… by orders of magnitude. And so, if you say, “I'm here for the pets. I'm here for the community,” what I would say to you is, “Are you here for the community in the year 2022, 2023 and 2024? Is that what you're saying? Or are you saying that I'm here in the community for the next 15 or 20 years until I retire?” And you need to make that choice. You need to make it now because my friend are running this race like a sprint and you're in a marathon.
And so, anyway, but we have to put that forward. And if you don't buy into that, if you say, “Nope. I don't believe in this idea of a capacity. I can just work hard forever and not break,” I can't help you.

Stephanie Goss:
Good luck.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I'm sorry I can't help you. I would say you are kidding yourself and it's time to get realistic about you being a human being and your own mortality. But once you do that then we can settle into the real work of saying, “How do I maximize my benefit to society, to pets, to people, to my community?” And also, “How do I balance my own enjoyment of this one trip that I get on this spinning globe?” Because you only get to go through the ride one time and this is your life right now and you better enjoy it because it's all you get.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay, so if we accept the fact that we have capacity and we need to figure out what that capacity is, then where do we go?

Dr. Andy Roark:
All right. Great. So, we've got a couple of things that, and they're all interconnected, which is why it's a little bit of a tricky fish. All right, so access Step No. 1 is efficiency. Well, first of all, you might look at your capacity and how you're priced and you go, “Yeah, that's it. We're going to make some adjustments to our current schedule.” Guys, let's actually start with that.
So, I'm going to start with scheduling. Scheduling is one of the first easiest things to help people out and I'm amazed at how many people do not feel good about their schedule or how they do scheduling. If you need a little bit of extra help in scheduling, we do have a course inside. It's the Knowledge Library in Uncharted, it's run by Dr. Saye Clement. It's actually really, really good. It's a way that Uncharted teaches scheduling. She does a fantastic job with it, laying it out. But if you really want help with scheduling, there's an Uncharted course that we have in the knowledge library and we should probably run that again before long.
Anyway, big things for me. You need to have a plan, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You need to have a plan and if every day you're just getting overwhelmed, you have a bad plan. If you are not doing schedule blocks, meaning, when we look at our schedule, we need to be intentional about what we're doing. And as we always say on this podcast, if you're surprised by something again and again and again, at some point, it's not a surprise, it's your business model. And it's amazing to me how many practices still fill their appointment slots up with wellness appointments and then act surprised sick pets have the audacity to show up on of them.

Stephanie Goss:
Thank you for saying that. Oh, my goodness. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

Dr. Andy Roark:
So, if your doctors are continuously running behind and they're stressed out, and I'll push you on this and say, if your doctors are, as a group, all staying late at night to write up charts, I would say you are pushing them past capacity, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
They need to have time to write up their records as they go along. And there's a fall off the medical quality when people put off records to the end of the day, saying, “Oh, we are keeping up because we're not doing this essential part of practicing medicine.” That's not keeping up, friends and it's bullshit. Pardon me. It's bullshit to run the doctors as hard as you can and say, “You get out of here at 6:00,” and then they're here until 8:30 because they're doing this thing that is essential for their job. That's not okay.

Stephanie Goss:
I think we have to stop for a second because there are so many practices, my own practice included, where the model was, “Let's keep the clients on time. Let's get the clients out on time. Let's get the team out on time.” And then the expectation is that the doctors are calling back clients and writing on medical records for anywhere from one to four hours after the rest of the team has gone home. And I agree with you, Andy, that is total. And it is something culturally that we absolutely have in our control to change.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Now, I did say as a group, and I have to throw this caveat in because I 100% have worked in a practice where I am out on time and there is one doctor that's staying there until 9:00. And I would say that is a personal problem and I think a lot of doctors really struggle with that. If you are insisting on writing up three pages of medical records for every appointment that you see and not being efficient in your records and not looking at what other doctors are doing and not figuring out how to get out on time. That my friend, that is a personal problem that I think is often tied to a perfectionist personality and things like that.
And that is something that some people have to really struggle with and work with. And so, that is why I said, we need to look at the doctors as a group. But if the culture is everybody stays and writes up their records at the end of the day, I think that's a problem. And so what do we do? We need to be honest about keeping up and the first thing is to put some catch-up blocks. If you have a walk-in practice or a walk-in practice that takes appointments and also walk-ins, boy, if your doctors are always 30 minutes behind, by 3:00 PM you need to have a block. You need to stop taking appointments at 3:00 PM and have a block and say, “This is catch-up time.” And so, that's one of the first easiest things is be honest about how your doctors are running. And at some point, you can't take an appointment because they need to catch up.
The other thing is, again, if you have walk-ins, same day appointments. I'm a big believer in if people are going to walk in and your doctors are getting swamped, you need to have some appointments that are blocked off that cannot be filled until the day of the appointment.

Stephanie Goss:
And I have to say this because I see it every single day in the communities that I am a part of, including in Uncharted, where somebody asks the question still, we are how many years into this pandemic and the changes that we've had with our schedule. And somebody says, “But we have three sick pet blocks on the schedule for the day. And everyday, it's just not enough and it's not been enough for three years.” That is the problem.
You have to step back and look at that. Like you said, Andy, if you're asking the same question over and over again. Good, if you're surprised, it's your business model. And the reality is no practice, not even a single doctor practice most of the time, I would argue, and this is one that I would… well, this is a hill I will die on, can have three sick pet appointments in a day and not fill them. We are in a place where we all have clients coming out our ears and what used to work for us having two or three sick pet appointments per doctor doesn't work anymore. When's the last time you only saw three sick pets in a day?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
It's been years. Sometimes, we go through waves where there's not a lot of sick patients, but be honest with yourselves and your team. Sit back and ask yourself the question, “When's the last time we only saw three sick pets in a day?” And really, I think, I'm so glad that you brought it up because I think we need a radical overhaul of how a lot of us are approaching scheduling because we are doing it to ourselves.
We are letting ourselves be surprised over and over and over again and it has become our business model. And I see it and it drives me crazy because it goes back to what you said about in the head space piece, about we don't have to keep doing what we've always done and this is the prime example for me when it comes to scheduling. Well, but we are leaving two or three spaces. Ask your team that question. Ask your CSRs, “When's the last time we only had three call-ins in the morning for sick pets?”

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, yeah. I completely agree. At some point, some of this probably starts with auditing. It's, “Take a moment and we're going to work on the business.” Look. Look objectively at what's actually coming in. Are you getting a ton of sick pets? Are you getting single sick pets that are really sick? Are you getting a ton of sick pets that are mildly sick? Are you getting sick pets that really could be, they could wait another day or two but they just they don't want to? Are you getting really sick pets that are getting turned away because mildly sick pets got those appointment slots first thing in the morning? All of those things can be adjusted.
I've come a long way on charging emergency fee as well and I still waffle back and forth. And what I'm going to say is it depends. It really depends on what you're looking at and how you're looking at it. There are downsides to charging an emergency fee to get in. Meaning, that some pet owners don't like it. If you are looking at a place where you have a certain number of sick pet slots a day and those are getting grabbed by people that could conceivably wait a little bit longer, they just don't want to, then it may be time to put an emergency fee on there that says, “Well, if you're going to come in as an emergency, you're going to pay more.”
And the idea of that, honestly, is not about making money, it's about making it a bit of a barrier so that people are incentivized to wait an extra day or two if appropriate, obviously. And we're going to have to teach our techs or our front desk on that.

Stephanie Goss:
And that's where you think about the human emergency room. That you go to the emergency room when it's truly emergency and there are lots of people who are like it's not “I don't want to wait.” Sometimes, it's “I don't feel like I could wait and I'm not sure.” And I think that that is medically acceptable. And there's also lots of people, and I hate to say this, but having kids, I've been that person where I'm like, “I can't wait another two weeks to get in. I will just pay the extra money to go.”
And I know full well I'm going to sit in the ER and so, I time it, so that I have the time to sit there with my kid. But when they've got an ear infection and I need to start meds now, not three days from now or four days from now, that's the price I'm willing to pay. And I think we have that model in human medicine. And let's be honest, it does not come without problems. It is part of why the emergency rooms are overwhelmed, both in human medicine and in animal medicine. And I recognize that and I'm not advocating for it because I don't think that is the only solution.
But I think your point, Andy, about there are always going to be clients, who are willing to pay no matter or do whatever, no matter the barriers you put up. And so, I think we have to acknowledge that and recognize that it's happening and also have a plan to help discourage the majority, so that we can help more people.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. And that's where the line in this. It's not about trying to punish people who have emergencies. It's really not. And so, I'm not like, “Charge more and more.” It needs to be enough ideally that it incentivizes people who we think that their pets can wait. It incentivizes them to just wait a couple of days and leave spots open for people who really need it. At some point, it's not about punishing people who have true emergencies.
The other thing is if you're at capacity and you say, “We cannot turn away sick pets. We just cannot do it and we're at capacity and these are coming in on top.” I would say, I think an emergency fee is absolutely warranted once you hit capacity. So, you might even have same day slots that can be filled, but once those same day slots are filled, if you still want to take emergency, you can. But that my friend is a bonafide emergency and is getting emergency fee. And I would figure out how to take that and give it back to the doctors or back to the staff because they're getting this extra stuff dumped on them. And while I'm trying my best to reduce that load, if I can't reduce it, I'm at least going to try to do something that is nice for those people.
And so, anyway, I'll give you a quick example. If you have doctors that are paid on production or pro-sal and you add an emergency fee, they're at least getting some extra compensation for taking that emergency over just another appointment that's being dropped on their plate. And that's just something to think about. In doing scheduling, we need to have a system for communicating from the back up to the front.
And so, if you're going to take walk-ins, one of the big things I see is the back is completely slammed. It is pandemonium and people are crying and the people up front are blissfully unaware. They know it's busy, but they don't see the chaos going on in the back. And so, they're taking walk-ins and sitting them down and things like that and the back gets super mad at the front. And the front is like, “What? We're doing our job. We have no idea.”
I really am a big fan, if this continues to be a problem where the back is getting angry at the front because the front keeps letting people come in, we need a communication system. And that can be, I've seen some light systems where people in the back can flip switches or hit a button. And there's a little green light that's front which means, “Hey, we're good if people walk in.” And there's yellow, which means, “Tell them that there's going to be a 30-plus minute wait.” And then there's red, which means, “We are not able to see anyone for the next three to five hours.”
And then at least the front desk knows if someone walks in, you can say, “We are not taking any more walk-ins. It's going to be at least a five-hour wait. We recommend you going somewhere else. We're not going to be able to see you today.” A lot of this stuff is clear communications and it's amazing how we suck it up and we don't tell pet owners. And again, if the pet owner is willing to pay the emergency fee and they're willing to wait five hours and it's not going to put us working past close, okay.
But it should at least be like a restaurant where you go into a restaurant and we've all walked into restaurants and the place is packed and they're like, “Oh, we might have open tables at 9:00 PM.” That's it. “We might be able to seat you at 9:00, but I can't even promise that.” And I go, “Well, I'm going somewhere else.” And then I leave, but at least I'm given that information. So, anyway, that's sort of back to front communication. Clear expectations, I think are the other part that I was just saying is we need to let clients know we are completely filled up. And if you want to be here, you're going to pay an emergency fee and you're probably going to wait four to five hours.

Stephanie Goss:
I love that and I think the other piece about communication, I was thinking while you were saying that, I think the other piece about communication is a lot of us are afraid. I have felt afraid to communicate outwardly to clients what is happening for fear that of I guess, of judgment of that they're going to think that things are falling apart. That we don't have our ish together. I've been there when you have gone from four doctors to one and it's like, “Do I tell them?” And the answer is yes.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yes. The answer is yes.

Stephanie Goss:
If you are not communicating to them and you are not setting expectations, you are failing them. And a lot of times we make those decisions because we're afraid. Like, “Oh, but we're working on hiring other doctors. We're working on getting relief, so I'm just going to hold off on telling them.” It's all done with the best of intentions and I say that because I have been there. And at the same time, we are doing them a disservice when we are not communicating to them the expectation for reality.
And I have seen more and more clinics start to be open and honest about that and I think that there's ways that we can do that that are more successful than others. And I think a lot of us communicate from that place of panic and it can outwardly look a lot more chaotic or discombobulated, which is not what we want. So, I think it has to be strategic and smart. But look, if your reality is you were a four-doctor practice and you're now a one-doctor practice, you have to communicate that to your clients.
You are going to change your business model. You cannot go from seeing 50 patients in a day to seeing a one-doctor caseload and not have clients hacked off when you tell them, “It's three months from now before I can schedule you.” You have to take control of that situation and do some communicating. And so, I love your ideas, Andy, about communicating in the thick of it in the day between front versus back and also, with the clients as well.
And I've seen more of my peers start to have and share outwardly their local clinics and ERs have spreadsheets that they're using together to communicate, “Are they taking patients? Are they closed to patients? What's their wait time?” I've seen more of my GP colleagues share that kind of information outwardly on their Facebook pages, websites, whatever, for their clients to have access to it. Which helps them cut down on the volume because if clients can get that information themselves and see that there's a wait, it cuts down on the calls that the GP and the ER are both fielding, which is brilliant.
But also, being able to communicate that if within your own practice as well, but also the long-term piece of it. If this is not a short, if everybody is out with COVID, that's one thing. If you're closing temporarily because you've got a stomach bug going through a clinic, whatever, but when your reality is going to change for an extended period of time, it is your job to communicate that to your clients as well or we are failing them.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. You can be vulnerable, honest and a professional at the same time and you should. This falls right into our category of pick your poison. Do you want to not tell people what's going on or the realities of the situation because they might think less of you and deliver a crappy customer service performance because their expectation is that there's nothing going on and you should be functioning at full capacity? Or do you want to tell them this is our reality at the moment and thus, what you should expect in your visit and have them be disappointed that they're not going to get in, but also not be surprised?
Remember people don't get mad about what you give to them. They get mad about the difference in what they got and what they expected to get. And they're expecting to get what they've got in the past and they're going to be mad even though you do your absolute best. And I think that that is really important point.
I've got an article that just came out in today's Veterinary Business this month and I looked at it yesterday, I had completely forgotten what I have written. But I wrote about being in Charlottesville, Virginia with my wife and we were on vacation. We were just driving and hiking and stuff. And I went to this bougie little breakfast place with Allison and it was $8 for a cup of coffee.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, my God.

Dr. Andy Roark:
$8 for a cup of coffee and it was very good coffee, still eight bucks for a cup of coffee. And then I ordered a breakfast thing and they brought a biscuit, but they didn't have any jelly for it or anything and it was not where I feel comfortable. That's not where I eat and especially, it made my wife extremely uncomfortable because I asked if I'd had to pay for refills of coffee. And I asked her if the water was free because I was looking into the menu and I'm like, “Is water free? Do I have to pay for more coffee?” And because I was like, “This is ridiculous.” So, anyway, so there I was-

Stephanie Goss:
I could just imagine Alli's face. Okay. Keep going.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I was like, “Is water free?” And she was like, “Ah.”

Stephanie Goss:
Again, “I can't with you.”

Dr. Andy Roark:
I see her jumping back 25 years and going, “Why did I agree to marry this man? This is the man that I married.” So, anyway, so there we are. And I'm drinking this $8 cup of coffee and it's great, but then it's gone. And so, I've got an empty cup of coffee and I've got this biscuit that does not have any jelly on it and this biscuit needs some jelly.
And there's one server and she is busting her hump. She has a smile on her face. She's seating people. She's running around. She's taking orders. Honestly, she's amazing. But there's one thing she's not doing and that's getting me more coffee or coming over, so I can ask for jelly for my biscuit. And minutes and minutes and minutes and minutes go by, and I'm sitting there. I'm turned around, trying to get her attention and she is working as hard as she can.
And so, at one point I get up and I go to the restroom and she's at the bar making this coffee drink for someone. And I said, “Boy, you're really working hard.” And she was like, “Yeah.” And I said, “Is it always this busy?” And she said, “Oh, yeah.” And I said, “Do you always work alone?” And she kind of pursed her lips and she made eye contact and she said, “No.” And I'm sure that someone…

Stephanie Goss:
Called out. Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
… or called out or they have a new hire, anyway. Anyway, I tell this whole story because that person was busting her butt. She did not stop moving and the smile on her face never wavered and I didn't get a refill on my $8 coffee and I never got a jelly on my biscuit.

Stephanie Goss:
Right. You're still frustrated by this. Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And I'm still frustrated. And guys that's life sometimes, is that everyone can do the absolute best they can and it's still a frustrating experience. And so, I bring that up now because that is how a lot of us live. And so, tell them that you're working by yourself. Tell them how, we know what to expect and know it's not pleasant and know you'd rather not do it. But a lot of that, and a lot of it us start doing some weird Weekend at Bernie's thing where we're like, “No, he's fine.” We're acting like our corpse friend is alive. It's ridiculous. Everyone can tell. It's not exactly.

Stephanie Goss:
We've just dated ourselves because there's a ton of people listening to the podcast who have no idea what that movie is.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Oh, yeah. If you want to see something weird and ridiculous and you don't know what Weekend at Bernie's is, go and YouTube, the trailer for Weekend at Bernie's and say, “Andy Roark says that's what we're doing.” A lot of us are pretending like we're fully staffed and we are not.
And so, anyway, pick your poison. Be honest. You can be vulnerable. You can be honest and you can be professional. You can set clear expectations and set them up front. And I tell you a lot of the stress goes away. Practice. Talk to your staff about how to communicate that and then let pet owners know what their expectation should be. And if they don't like what you're telling them and they decide to go somewhere else that is okay.

Stephanie Goss:
Be okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And it better be okay because you're burning out.

Stephanie Goss:
Yep, yep. Yeah.

Dr. Andy Roark:
And the last part is when we talk about training our staff, train them how to tell people that we're not taking any more walk-ins today. And set a time. If you close at 6:00, tell people you don't take walk-ins after 5:30 and mean it. Don't make it some, “We don't take walk-ins after 5:30 unless the doctor says that it's okay.” And they say, “Well go ask the doctor if it's okay.” And remind them of all the times I've come here and tell them how far I drove to be here and that I'm having terrible hardships in my life. And then they tell the doctor and the doctor folds like origami every time.

Stephanie Goss:
Every time. Every time. Bless their hearts. And I love my doctors for doing it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sure.

Stephanie Goss:
And at the same time, this is where it's really important. When you're in this overwhelmed mode, this is where as a leader, a lot of the head space pieces that we talked about in last week's episode, it has to start with you. And this is a piece, the communication piece, the training piece, the decision-making piece about what are we doing has to involve the team. And there's a lot of practice owners that are like, “But I have to decide what's best for the business.” And that is true.
And your people are going to leave if you don't take care of them. That is also true and so, this is where asking them for their input. It doesn't mean that you're going to go the way that they want you to, but they have to feel heard. And this is where you have to step back and say, “Okay. My doctors want to take care of all the patients.” And a lot of them are paid on ProSal. And so, a lot of them are motivated by taking care of all of the patients, so that they get paid. Those two things are true.
And it doesn't mean that the team having lives outside of the practice is not as important as paying your doctors. Those things have to exist together and this is where you have to have the conversation. And the team has to be able to agree on some of what your standards or your timelines or like you said, Andy, like if your cutoff is going to be 5:30 or 6:00, there has to be conversation. Because no one is set up for success if your hours are 8:00 to 6:00 and you see patients literally from the minute you're open until the minute 6:00 rolls around on the clock, your hours are 8:00 to 6:00, but your team is going to be there at least until 7:00.
And if you're staffing them to only be there at 6:00, you're setting yourself up for failure every time. And so many of us do it because we think we're going to say no at 5:00 and we think we're going to say no at 5:30. And we might have all of the best intentions in the world, but if the whole team isn't on board, if there hasn't been a discussion about it, if you don't have an actual plan like you were creating the business model that your team is there until 7:00.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yep. And if you want to let people walk in and you're going to take these cases and you know that you're not going to turn people away, that's not wrong.

Stephanie Goss:
No.

Dr. Andy Roark:
It's not.

Stephanie Goss:
Nope.

Dr. Andy Roark:
But own it, and staff for it and budget for it. And have a fair system about determining, who's going to stay late so that the nice doctor and the nice tech don't get screwed over again and again and again. And the people and I say nice, but the people who go, “Nope, I'm not doing this,” they benefit every time.
And so, I just see that all the time of like I say, I'm like, “Hey, who stays late?” And they're like, “Oh, Carol. She's single.” I'm like, “That sucks. That's not fair. That's not remotely fair.”

Stephanie Goss:
What happens when Carol has something to do?

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. You can do an on-call system, but for God's sake, schedule it, communicate it, talk to the team about it. The Uncharted approach that we teach a lot, there's nothing wrong with sitting down and talking to the team and saying, “Guys. This is the reality and people come in and they want our help. At the end of the day, what do we want to do? Do we want to say no and make it no? Do we want to take it on a case-by-case basis? Do we want to plan on this and make a system?”
And you don't have to commit to anything the team says, but man, you can go a long way in making them feel heard. You got to really listen to them. But if every one of them is like, “No, no, no,” then that's your policy. And you go, “Listen, we talked to them. They said, ‘No, no, no, no, no.'” They told you. And if you say to pet owners, “I'm sorry. We do not have the staff available to do this. We cannot see you. These people, their shift is over and they're going home.” And I wouldn't say exactly that, but you get my point.

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Then that's what it is.

Stephanie Goss:
Yes. And I think goes back to your point about when you go into a restaurant and they tell you it's going to be two hours for a table, they are setting clear expectations for you. You can wait two hours for a table or you can leave. Those are your choices. And I think in Veterinary Medicine like so many of us reach for the, “We want them to understand.” We want them to not judge us. We want them to not look at us negatively and so we overshare.
And so, this is why a lot of us don't communicate when we've gone from a four-doctor practice to a one-doctor practice because we do it and we either overshare or we're afraid we're going to tell them too much and so, we just don't say anything at all. And the reality is this requires finesse and it requires education and your team has to know what to say and how to say it.
But you can absolutely educate them to channel that front desk host at a restaurant and be able to communicate to our clients, “This is what I can do for you. I can seat you in two hours. I can see Fluffy in two hours,” or “You're welcome to call and see if any of the other practices in town can see you sooner,” like that. There's nothing wrong with communicating those boundaries. And I think systemically in Veterinary Medicine, we want to help take care of everybody and so, we've been afraid of that and we have got to get over that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yep. That's like the hostess at Olive Garden is not going to run after you and be like, “Please, don't leave. Please, please, wait.” No. We need to move a bit more than that.

Stephanie Goss:
You're 100% right.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. We to move a bit more in that direction of putting our oxygen mask on ourselves. I want to move past scheduling here.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I want to talk about sacred cows.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Sacred cows are the core beliefs that you have that you believe cannot be touched in your practice and so, part of this is examining your sacred cows. What are the restraints that you have put on yourself and your practice because it just seems like this can't be changed and it's holding you back. And I'll give you an example of this. Well, first of all, the first example of sacred cows is referring to other practices and saying, “We can't get you in, but here's another practice that could see you,” or “Yeah, there's three other practices nearby who might have availability.” And you go, “That's heresy.” And I go. That's your sacred cow. I just poked your sacred cow.”
The other one is we have to be open every day. We have to be open on Saturdays. Surely, we have to be open on Saturdays. It's our busiest day of the week. And I'm like, “It's your busiest day of the week and you're burning out and drowning.” It is not heresy to not be open on Saturday if you can't staff for six days a week. I mean that's it. We have practices in Uncharted that are closed on Wednesdays and people are like, “That's not allowed.” I promise you it is. No one is going to show up and be like, “You have to be open on Wednesdays.” We have practices that are open Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday half day and that's their week. And they're like, “Yeah, everybody is off on Wednesday. Everyone gets Wednesday off.” That's great.
Or they'll have one front desk person there or they'll have one front desk person who works from home and like yeah, you're on the phones, but you can be in your pajamas and you can be home and that's what it is. You could do a million things. What are your sacred cows? If you are buried, you don't have to be open. We have lots and lots of practices, I see it especially on smaller practices or one vet practices, they're not open on Saturday.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. And I think that from a leadership perspective, I think, I'm going to speak for myself here, a lot when I was a younger manager, I was afraid to poke the sacred cows. But I was also afraid to change those kind of things because I didn't know how to smartly make the decision. I looked at it and I said, “Well, I can't staff Saturdays and everybody's burning out.” And so in my head I think, “Well, it seems like closing Saturdays is a good idea.”
And I think a lot of us struggle with like, “But is this just a gut feeling? Do I go with my gut here?” And a lot of us struggle with knowing, I did, with how do I crunch those numbers? How do I look at those things? How do I smartly measure? And this is where numbers need to be your friends, because to your point, Andy, you should be able to look at that. Is Saturday really your busiest day of the week? You should be able to audit that in your software and tell down to the minute what your busiest day is. And if you can't do that, you can grow in a lot of ways by learning how to do those things.
And don't like don't be afraid of what you don't know. Don't be ashamed that you don't know how to do any of that because there are plenty of us, myself included, who have sat there and gone, “I have no idea. How do I calculate that?” And that's where I love our community, the Uncharted community because…

Dr. Andy Roark:
I was just going to say.

Stephanie Goss:
… how many times have I gone, “Okay, I need to do this math in the clinic. How do I actually do this?” And phone a friend and just ask. There's no shame in saying, “I don't know how to do this,” because most of us didn't go to business school. That's why I went to vet school. There are some who also have MBAs, but lots of us didn't go to business school.
And so being able to say, “How do I make these decisions?” Because you shouldn't make it in a vacuum. You should listen to your team. You should weigh in and you should be able to poke those sacred cows. And also then, a lot of us sit in that place of fear and paralysis in terms of decision-making because we don't know how to make the decision.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. I feel like we're plugging Uncharted a lot and it's just, it's because we're talking about big action steps that we don't have time to unpack everything. Stephanie Goss teaches a course in Uncharted and it's in the Knowledge Library and we run it fairly regularly on key performance indicators and financial dashboards and things like that. So, if you're like, “I have no idea how to even figure these things out,” we got you buddy. Check out the Uncharted community.
But anyway, you don't have to be open on Saturdays. And I'm not saying, I don't want people to go, “Andy Roark says we shouldn't be open on Saturdays.” I didn't say that. I'm saying it's not a sacred idea. Here's the other thing. I'll really blow your mind. What if you're open one Saturday a month? What if you're open every other Saturday and say, yes, there's communication challenges there, but that's not out. It's not illegal.
The other thing is just because you're not open for Saturdays right now, it doesn't mean that you're not going to open back up for Saturdays in three months. What if you said, “Hey, we need to hire two doctors and when we do hire two doctors, we're going to open back up on Saturdays.” And doctors coming in will know that that's the plan and that's where we're going.
It doesn't have to be a scary thing. It can be, “Right now, we're not able to keep Saturdays open.” And that's where we are. And we hope to open back up on Saturdays, so when people say, “I wish you were open on Saturdays,” you could say, “Me, too, buddy. We are working toward towards it.”

Stephanie Goss:
We are working towards that.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Exactly.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. And it goes on both sides. You have to communicate that to your clients and you have to communicate that to the team. And I think that that's important. We have to set expectations, and that's where a lot of us struggle.

Dr. Andy Roark:
I agree. So, look at your sacred cows. There's a lot of people who just the idea being closed on Wednesday or every Wednesday afternoon, that seems terrifying and wrong to some people. And I go, “No, it's not wrong. We got a lot of practices that do it.” If that's what you need in order to serve your capacity, if you say, “We're closed on Wednesday and we are working at maximum capacity every day we're here,” I'd say, “You're doing it right.”
Are you priced appropriately, so the numbers make sense and your business is healthy? If the answer is yes, then go forth and carry the torch. That's awesome. And the last thing I'm going to talk about before we run out of time, and a lot of people think this is the first thing, it's not, it's the last thing. It's efficiency. And people are like, “Yes, tell me how to not change anything except get more work done, doing things exactly the way that I'm doing them now?” And I go, “That's not what this means.”
You might be able to increase efficiency. The problem, the honest to God tactical on the ground problem, is increasing efficiency often involves training. And if you're already overwhelmed and drowning, it can be extremely hard to do the training required to change your operation system while keeping your nose and mouth above water. And so, I'm not saying you can't do this.
Generally, like most things, a multimodal approach is going to be your saving grace. And so, you might close on Wednesdays and then use Wednesdays as training days to reevaluate your workflow, how you're moving people through the clinics. And guys, the biggest thing we talk about efficiency, the easiest go-to in most practices is, “Are you leveraging your support staff? Are your techs doing stuff that they could be doing or is everybody waiting?”
The quick thing I'm just going to say on efficiency and making it work is just like we started at the beginning and said, “You need to do some analytics. You need to look at your workflow.” You need to look at what's actually happening and gather some data. You need to do some data gathering on how pets are being seen in your practice and you need to look for bottlenecks. Where are the places where support staff are standing around waiting for a doctor? Where are the places where the doctor is standing around waiting for support staff? And we need to make adjustments.
And that honestly often runs into your sacred cows. People will say, “Well, our support staff get the histories.” And I'm like, “Is the doctor waiting in the treatment room for you to get this history.” I say, we need to look at that and have an audible that can be called where the doctor is free and we're going to have a modified-

Stephanie Goss:
They're just going to have to do it.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, we're going to have a modified doctor's ready to-go history that gets us into that room. And even say to people, “Guys, this is a way that we're going to run this while we're shorthanded and we're going to come back to it.” Are there things that the doctors are doing that the techs could do? And that's an easy one. It's like, “Hey, buddy. You got three technicians for every doctor, or you got one technician and an assistant for every doctor.
You need to get smart and look at how things are getting done and reallocate the workload there because a lot of times I can take some work off that doctor's plate and that is the rate limiting step. And so, anyway, and last of all, you look at efficiency, but know that you're probably going to have to poke some sacred cows. You're probably going to have to set some boundaries and change some scheduling stuff up. You're probably going to have to figure out how to do some training, communication training, maybe technical training to make this happen.
It is not simply, “Let's shift some things around. This is a bit of a process, but if you're committed to it, it's going to take some time. But week after week, walking in the rain, put one foot in front of the other and walk that training through your practice. Get people on board. Make small steps. Make small changes and keep making changes, you will be okay and you will come out the other side.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I love it. Ooh, this is a good one.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah. Boy, I'm really glad we decided to split this into two. Now, that we're in it, I'm like…

Stephanie Goss:
Could you imagine?

Dr. Andy Roark:
… I was rushed at the end. They are trying to get everything out and holy moly, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, okay. Our first two-parter in the books. Have a fantastic week, everybody.

Dr. Andy Roark:
Yeah, everybody.

Stephanie Goss:
Take care.

Dr. Andy Roark:
You guys take care yourselves.

Stephanie Goss:
Well, gang, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. And as always, this was so fun to dive into the mailbag and answer this question. And I would really love to see more things like this come through the mailbag. If there is something that you would love to have us talk about on the podcast or a question that you are hoping that we might be able to help with, feel free to reach out and send us a message. You can always find the mailbag at the website. The address is unchartedvet.com/mailbag, or you can email us at podcast@unchartedvet.com. Take care everybody and have a great week. We'll see you again next time.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: culture, fatigue

Nov 09 2022

Overwhelmed and Won’t Give Up! Part 1

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This week on the podcast…

This week on the Uncharted Podcast, Dr. Andy Roark and practice manager Stephanie Goss jump back into the mailbag to make history. That's right, we got a topic we loved so much this week that we are splitting this episode into two! This week, we will dive into the headspace of the challenge facing our repeat mailbag writer who was previously feeling squashed and stubborn. They are still at it and just as stubborn as ever, only this time, they are struggling with not letting client frustration over scheduling woes get them down. They are booked pretty far in advance and doing all the things they can to manage the schedule and clients are still really frustrated. They are voicing it to the team and it is starting to crop up in online reviews and this doctor is asking for help in getting into a good headspace and not letting it get them or the team down. And also looking for help on how to communicate to clients that they have to wait and why it's okay to wait in some cases, without clients feeling brushed off. This was a super fun challenge of an episode – don't forget to stay tuned next week for part two – the action steps! Let's get into this…

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 204 – Overwhelmed And Won't Give Up! (Pt. 1)

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Episode Transcript

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Andy Roark:
Hey Stephanie Goss, you got a second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. What do you want to talk about?

Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing. And I'm sure you hear from these people as well, like our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians knew about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre pandemic it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded, everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it. We've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you could use them help on the phones or up the front desk, check them out. It's guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardianvets.com.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey everybody, I am Stephanie Goss and this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. And this week on the podcast, Andy and I are making history. That's right, we had a fantastic email from the mailbag and I'm going to set it up in just a second. But it was so good that we decided to split this episode into two parts. That's right, we're tackling headspace and we're tackling action steps, but we had so much great conversation about this specific topic that we decided to make the headspace part one and the action part two. So if you love this week's episode, stay tuned because next week will be part two. We're going to cover all the action steps and we hope it's worth it for this little bit of a lengthier than normal episode because this is a fantastic topic that came to us from Squashed but Stubborn.
I just want to take a quick second and give a big shout shoutout to our friends at Banfield Pet Hospital for making the transcriptions of this podcast possible. The podcast transcripts are brought to you, thanks to a generous gift from Banfield Pet Hospital, which is striving to increase accessibility and inclusivity all across the veterinary profession. If you would love to find out more about the DEI initiatives for Banfield, you can head on over to the link in the show notes. And now let's get into this, shall we?

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And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Andy Roark:
And we are back. It's me, Dr. Andy Roark and the one and only Stephanie, I'm a hard working Goss.

Stephanie Goss:
I do. I feel that this week. It is a hard working time of year. How's it going Andy Roark?

Andy Roark:
It's insane. It's insane and it is a very hard working time of year. Holy cripes, we got a lot going on.

Stephanie Goss:
Hell yeah.

Andy Roark:
We got two new uncharted team members last week. Last week we got two new and they are both bad A, bad mamajamas. People aren't going to even recognize Uncharted in about three years. We've got Batman's secret lair and we've got a lot of people down there building a bat mobile or two or three. It's going to be freaking nuts. So anyway, we've got awesome stuff going on here. How are you doing?

Stephanie Goss:
I'm good. It is busy. We have a lot on our plate. And it is that time when we're recording this, it's right before we do Get Sh*t Done. And I'm super, super excited about that. And then you and I and one of our other team members have an event the week after and it's just busy, busy, busy. And it's busy with the kids. So it's that time of year the weather is changing and it is crazy, but it is good. I'm here for it. I'm along for the ride.

Andy Roark:
Well, you write the book you need to read. It's like we put on the conference, we need to have… I'm like, “Boy, we really need a Get Sh*t Done conference.”

Stephanie Goss:
When you're overwhelmed.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, exactly right. When you're overwhelmed. That's exactly… Like, let's get some smarter people than us in here. Yeah, no it's funny. Boy, it's a stressful time here. Two stressful things. Tomorrow we go to the hospital. Allison's going to get the nasty little lump in the breast tissue under her left arm removed. And so that's a big time for us and our family and so a little bit stressed about that. And then the other stressful thing, I would say equally stressful, is on the advice of behaviorists that I interview on the other podcast I do, Cone of Shame-

Stephanie Goss:
Oh, no.

Andy Roark:
I moved my bad dog, Skipper, to food puzzles for his meals because he needs intellectual stimulation and he-

Stephanie Goss:
How's that working out for you?

Andy Roark:
He does not agree that food in a food puzzle is one of his two meals. That's it. He has chewed up the measuring cup and all the other things. He is still convinced that he is supposed to get food in a bowl twice a day and a certain amount of food in a bowl. What is being introduced in the food puzzle, he does not see that as a substitute for it.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
Which I kind of get because if you gave me a lasagna in a lockbox and I got into it and you were like, “Well that was your dinner,” I'd be like, “Oh no. Dinner comes on the table.”

Stephanie Goss:
Right.

Andy Roark:
“Dinner's on a plate. This was just lockbox lasagna. This is extra.

Stephanie Goss:
Lockbox lasagna. I love it.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. So I get it. But he'd chewed up the measuring cup this morning.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh gosh.

Andy Roark:
Yeah, that's where we are.

Stephanie Goss:
He's one of a kind. That's going to work.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Oh wow.

Stephanie Goss:
Oh man. Well, I am-

Andy Roark:
Well, that's how things are going here.

Stephanie Goss:
I am super excited. We have got a letter from a practice owner, and this excites me because I think it falls in line with a lot of the kind of questions that our community members have been asking and we're getting ready to Get Sh*t Done in a week, but then we're already thinking ahead to December for our Practice Owner Summit. And I'm super excited to tackle questions like this because I think so many practice leaders and practice owners in particular are feeling overwhelmed but also feeling this fighting spirit of like, “I'm going to figure this out.” So I love seeing questions like this.
It came to us from our previous writer in the mailbag who said, “This is how you know me. And I'm still stubborn, but I am in a new place and I am feeling a little bit apathetic, which is not me.” Their clinic is scheduled weeks out and have gotten to the place where they're not taking new clients. They lost half of their licensed technician team in the last year and they lost two and half doctors to it sounds like retirement and life. So nothing that anybody can control. Just had some changes. “I say two and a half because one of the doctors that retired this year has already come back part-time to help us out because we're so overwhelmed.”
They said, “I can't get my regular clients in. I'm struggling with what to say and how to say it when it comes to us not having an appointment for their first time issues for things like never been itchy before and now has flaming allergies or has crazy diarrhea.” These are things that they know that they need to be seen for and they want to get them in and they just don't have a space to do with them and to put them.
This practice owner was like, “Look, I know what to do with the immediate, urgent fire things that we can't handle, but what do I do with those things that I know need to be seen but won't go to the emergency room and I can't see them for days or weeks and I'm struggling to explain it myself. And also my team is struggling to explain it to clients in a way that isn't then opening up the doors to negativity and criticism.”
And so this doctor was like, “Look, I've been the anti negative review person for a long time, but really the client's reviews matter to me. Don't tell anybody. Don't tell, but it does. I take it to heart. It matters. And they're struggling. What do I say? Like, ‘I can't help you because my client or my doctors are about to go get other jobs because they're too overwhelmed and they're too overworked'? I feel like I'm running out of ideas and I need a strategy.”
They are just in that rut where they are overwhelmed, they have too small of a staff to handle their patient load. Everybody's constantly in training and they just don't know how to direct that energy at clients in a way that doesn't feel negative when it feels like clients are just like, “Help me, help me, help me.” And so he said, “I need help. Sighed. I can't give up. I won't.” And I just loved this question because they are not alone. We get this question a lot. I think it's just such a good one for us to tackle as we head into what's another usually crazy part of the year for most clinics.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. This is the defining question of vet medicine right now, in my experience. This is the question that people ask me all the time. There is no beautiful, “Hey, I have the solution you haven't thought of answer.” But there are absolutely best practices, and I think that's really important. I was really glad to see this question come through the mailbag because we got a lot of experience answering it at this point. There are best practices, there is really good headspace that I personally think is really, really important. And I want to try to lay it down eloquently today if I can. But headspace, it really matters.
And then the other thing is what can you actually do and what can you actually control? I think that there are things that you can do and that you can control.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, totally.

Andy Roark:
I'm excited to get into this and start to lay this stuff down. You ready?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, let's do it.

Andy Roark:
All right. So let's start with some head space.

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
Okay. All right. I don't know what happened with their doctors, things like that. There's two contributing factors. One of them is what I call walking the rain and one of them is called the death spiral. So I'm going to talk about both of them in kind of how I see this, but I know that I don't have any more information than what you guys just heard from this mailbag. So anyway, that's it.
All right. I mentioned starting this podcast that tomorrow my wife and I are going to the hospital to deal with this breast cancer. And it sucks, my friends. I do not recommend… If anyone's like, “Hey, you want to try breast cancer?” You should say no. You should say no. If you are given the option, hard pass. Hard pass. My wife is… She wouldn't mind me saying this. She's 43 years old. Why does someone who's 43 have breast cancer? Why does that happen? And the answer is, I don't know. I don't know what happens. I don't know why sometimes we end up with a bunch of patients and we can't hire people. You know what I mean? I don't know why sometimes really great staff members move away and go to somewhere else. I don't think we did anything wrong. You can't convince me that we did anything wrong.
Sometimes through no fault of our own, we have to walk in the rain. And that's kind of how I put it, is because I don't have any control. You guys have probably heard me talk in the podcast before. I think that I say we're all backpackers. And that's really what I believe. I believe that we're all out exploring this profession in this world and we're all walking. And hopefully we find good partners to walk with. Sometimes we walk with a team. And that's great, but at some point we're all walking. And we all walk and sometimes we get beautiful views and sometimes we get eaten by mosquitoes and sometimes it pours rain on us.
There's really not a lot of options that we have other than be smart in how we pick our paths. And if we find ourselves circling back to the same spot again and again and again, we need to pick a different path. We need to change that. But there is truth at some point you're just going to walk and sometimes you're going to climb big hills and there is no path that does not have hills on it and there is no path that doesn't have mosquitoes on it and there is no path that doesn't get rained on.
And so sometimes guys, we just get rained on and we have to walk in the rain. We can be angry about it or we can be sad about it or we can sing a song while we get rained on. That is generally the power that we have. But we have the power to choose our path. But you should still know that every path gets rained on. And so I put that forward first when I say sometimes staff leave. So many of us are shorthanded. And guys, it's really, really hard to hire people right now. And I'm talking about across the US and Canada. Boy, it is very, very difficult to get people. We have a labor shortage. And so if you're looking around and you're like, “Gosh, I can't hire people and we've got a ton of work,” I want to put forward the idea that you're probably not doing anything wrong. You're probably just walking in the rain like the rest of us are. And so I want to remove those feelings of guilt first of all.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, I think the other thing that's really important about the metaphor, because I think it's such a good one and it's certainly more positive than thinking life sucks sometimes, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
That's how I looked at things for a really long time. But I love the idea that yeah, it does, but you just have a choice. I think the danger is that there are people in the world who are eternal optimists and who always try and look at things on the sunny side and who will look at this and say, “You can choose to sing while you're walking in the rain.” There are certainly times where that is the tool that I want to reach for. And I also just think that it's important to say like, “Sometimes you need to just sit in the rain and cry,” right? And that's okay too. Sometimes somebody joins you and then you have a friend. Sometimes you run to try and outrun the mosquitoes.
The reality is the choices that you're making are not wrong. I think this is one of those places where it's really easy to beat ourselves up because we are perfectionists in veterinary medicine and it's really easy to focus on, “Well, I feel really, really crappy about this and I'm sad and I'm mad and I don't know what to do to help my team and I feel lost.” And it's really easy to add more emotions to that by letting yourself sink into the guilt by feeling like, “Well, I should figure out how to sing in the rain and be happy about this.” I think it's really important to acknowledge all of the emotions are valid and you're going to go through all of them. That's the whole point. It should always be this cycle.
And at some point, if you sit there in the rain too long, you're going to get pruny and you're going to have side effects from it. And so yes, you shouldn't sit there forever. There should be then the place where you pick yourself up and you figure out how you start walking again, right? But in the moment, don't let yourself feel bad for wherever you are on that journey. And if you need to stop, you need to stop. That's why I loved how they started with, “Okay, well I thought a stopping point would be not taking new clients. And so I did that thing,” right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah, totally.

Stephanie Goss:
So I think it's really important to acknowledge that there are places along the way that all of us are going to stop and there's nothing wrong with that.

Andy Roark:
Right. I agree. Well, that's another part that I put to this backpacking metaphor, is if anyone who goes out in backpacks, you better take breaks. There's no scenario where you get up and you put your pack on your back in the morning and you walk all day and you never stop and drink some water. Breaks are required to enjoy backpacking. If you're walking and walking and you never stop to rest for a minute or have a snack or have a drink of water, I think you're doing it wrong.
There are some people who sit down and take a break and just never get back up and get going again, and that's not good either. But again, and I'll move on past this metaphor in a second, I really like the idea of just imagine that you're walking in a crappy place. There is a desire to hustle to get through that place. And I think that that's good. However, there's also a thing where you say, “This is a big stretch of bad place. I'm going to have to take some breaks here. I cannot sprint five miles down this trail. I can't. I'm going to have to walk. I'm going to take care of myself. I'm going to take breaks. Even though it's not where I want to be, but I'm going to rest because I can't push myself and I can't push my team hard without stopping to get through this to come to the other side.”
And again, if it's raining, you can push yourself as hard as you want. It's still going to rain. So anyway, that's it. But I want to put that forward because I feel like when we start talking about this, I think a lot of people are wrestling with a lot of guilt. And I just want to put forward that, “Hey, this is probably not about you. This is a hard time for a lot of practices.” And there's not a magic answer. Sometimes we walk in the rain.
And so I think to our writer I would say, “Hey buddy, you're walking in the rain, and that's all right.” I don't expect most of us to sing in the rain. I'm not pushing those sorts of things. But I would say the most enlightened of us can still enjoy the views even when it's raining when we come to them. And I really think that's the key. If you are miserable in the rain and you can't enjoy the views and you can't enjoy anything at all because all you can focus on is it's raining, I think that's a really hard, really dark place to be. I think enlightenment is being aware that it's raining and still saying, “You know what? I'm going to appreciate where I am and I'm going to appreciate what I have. I'm going to stop and I'm going to celebrate the beauty that I find even though it's in the rain.”
So anyway, that's the first thing I talk about. So I want to put that head space out and say, “Hey, sometimes we walk in the rain and we need to put the guilt aside.”

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
The other part of that I see in a lot of practices that are in this place is what I call the death spiral. The death spiral is this, it's where we say, “I am super overwhelmed and we have so much to work to do. There's nothing we can do but put our head down and work, work, work really hard to get through it.” And what happens is, and we have the best of intentions, it is 100%. It's not about, “I want to make all the money. It's not that.” It's, “People need my help and I need to go and there's no other alternative but to put our head down and just work, work, work.” And what happens is you burn out your people.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And they quit because they don't own the practice. And so they say, “I'm miserable. I'm stressed. I'm burned out. I come home and I cry at night. My spouse is telling me that this is not acceptable.”

Stephanie Goss:
[inaudible 00:20:12]. Yeah.

Andy Roark:
“This is affecting me. I have to take care of myself and I'm going to leave.” And basically going back to our backpacking metaphor, this is someone that we forced marched to the point that they say, “I'm not hiking with you anymore. I'm getting off this trail.” And they leave. And now you're in a worse place because you have fewer team members. You know what I mean?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
And I saw that. I saw this during the pandemic it was a big one because I saw people put their head down and work because they thought that was the answer. And then they burn their people out and their people quit. And now they have just as much demand for their services with a smaller team. And so that goes back. And all that stuff ties together and it's really important. Like I said, a lot of times people leave because their spouse gets another job or they get another offer.
I had one of my favorite doctors in the world say to me that he had just lost one of his licensed technicians and he said, “I can't blame her. She got a job 30 minutes closer to home and at $6 an hour more than I can pay. I can't blame her for taking that.” And I was like, “Good. You shouldn't blame her for taking that. And you also shouldn't feel guilty if you can't magically make her be 30 minutes closer to…” I mean the 30 minutes is a big deal and then $6 an hour. If you can't pay that, then you can't pay that and you shouldn't beat yourself up about it. But you should also not hold it against her or feel bad that she went to this other place.
So I think a lot of it is that accepting where other people are and knowing, “Okay, I cannot drive these people. If I drive these people until they quit, then now I'm making this worse. I can't control the rain, but I can control whether or not we let people rest and how we take care of them and how we respond. And so anyway, the death spiral is the other part of this that I see where people say there is no answer but through as hard as we can go. And you end up burning your people out and then you lose them. The patient number doesn't go down, it stays the same but you're more shorthanded.

Stephanie Goss:
Hey friends, there is a workshop coming up that some of you are not going to want to miss. This last weekend was Uncharted Get Shit Done. There was a lot of conversation about workflow challenges in our practice and how a lot of us are struggling with things not working very well. Things feel pretty inefficient. We're all struggling to do more with less, less time, less people, less resources. There was a lot of conversation about how do we get more efficient and effective in our workflows.
And so while a lot of you were there with us this weekend, not all of you were. And so I want to give you all an opportunity to join us coming up in November, November 30th at 5:30 Eastern, 2:30 Pacific, we are offering a two-hour workshop with my dear friend, Senani Ratnayake. Senani is an RVT. So she is a licensed technician, she is a general badass, she is a practice management consultant and she loves talking about workflow. And so Senani has agreed to come back and lead a workshop that was voted one of our most popular in all of 2021 in Uncharted, and that is the Secret Sauce to Optimizing Workflow. This two-hour workshop is here to help you and your team dissect your workflow so that you can get out of the place where everything feels inefficient and ineffective. So if you are struggling with efficiency and effectiveness in your practice, head on over to unchartedvet.com/events and sign up for the workshop. We would love to see you there. And now back to the podcast.

Stephanie Goss:
I think this is one that is really hard for a lot of leaders to wrap their heads around because they care so much about their patients and they care about their teams too. They care about their clients, they want to make everybody happy, right? We're a field full of perfectionist people pleasers. Let's be honest about what we are. And so there are a lot of leaders who look at it and say,” Well I just want to take care of the patients. Everybody let's huddle together and let's support each other, but also let's lean in and just do the thing.” I think that it's done with the best of intentions.
The thing that I always struggled with, and I had several partners in practice, whether it's medical director or a co-owner, where we butted heads about this because it is not a single option here because the other side of this coin is that there are people to take care of and there are people to consider as well. We want to do right by our patients and at the same time we also need to do right by our clients and our team. It's really easy to reach for the pet lever and pull it because we all have empathy. And even the people who are here because they people care about the patients and care about the animals. And so when we say like, “Let's just put our heads down. Let's take care of all of our patients. We want to be there for them,” that's a really easy one. And I think it's one to remind ourselves like, before you pull that lever is really important to take the step back and look at it from the people perspective as well.
I say this for two reasons. One, to the point you brought up, Andy, which is that if you put your heads down and just work and work and work, and I saw this with lots of my colleagues during the pandemic, people will leave. They will 100% leave. They'll get overwhelmed, they will burn out and they will leave. And then you are worse off.
And also we are superheroes, all of us. We do amazing things for our patients every single day. And at the same time, what level of medicine can we practice when we're down three or four people? Can we be our best team of superheroes when we are not rested, when we worked a 16 hour day, we went home and slept for five or six hours and then we come back and do it again? The reality is you can do that for a short period of time, but that's not sustainable long term. And that's where I think it's important to think about the people side of it.
The other piece that I encourage a lot of us to think about that I think we don't, we should think about it more than we do is the client piece of it. Because just as much as we are there for our patients, we also need to be there for our clients. And are we serving our clients if we are driving our teams to take care of our patients and we are overwhelmed and we are running behind. And now we shift the business model so that clients are constantly on hold, they're waiting hours because we've taken in more patients than we can see, they're not getting calls back. And we are doing our best. Don't get me wrong. We are trying to take care of those clients. But are we serving them in the best way possible when we just put our head down into, your point, go into that death spiral and focus solely on, “Let's just take care of the patients. We have to be there to take care of the patients”?
And so I think it's really, really important to consider that you cannot pull one of these levers, either of them, pets or people, without it becoming a lopsided equation. And so I think it's really, really important from a head space perspective to consider the fact that we have to consider both sides of it and really try and figure out how do we strike that balance. And it's hard. Don't get me wrong. I have done this. I have done this wrong. I have had it go well, but I've also done it really wrong. And so I think it's important piece of head space to keep in mind because so many of us immediately, myself included, can lean into the patient piece of it because that's what we're here for, and forget about the people piece of it, and it is equally important to the balance.

Andy Roark:
Well, that is the leadership challenge, isn't it? I mean, it's the classic challenge of getting the most out of your people so that you can pursue your goal, your mission, your purpose, the reason that we do this. We need people to work hard and we want to get the most out of them. But you can push that too far until they break and people say, “Well, where is that line?” And I go, “Boy, that line is a moving target, isn't it?”

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
And sometimes your people… I mean, I've had it with our team. With our team, there was a time everybody on our team was sick. It was funny. We had COVID go through our office, which is funny because we're virtual and we lived hundreds of miles apart from each other, yet we all got COVID. Like within two weeks, I got it.

Stephanie Goss:
It is true.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. We had that happen at one point and you go, “Boy, cracking the whip and really pushing people.” Not “We crack the whip,” but you get the point. We're really trying to push people hard.

Stephanie Goss:
We had a ton of deadlines. Yeah, It was crazy busy.

Andy Roark:
I was like we were busy but also our people were just down and sick and you go, “Look, we're not going to get the work done that we would get done when people are healthy. And trying to get that same amount of work done right now is a bad idea because all we're going to do is really break people.” So it's always that balance of as the leader, you have challenge that every sports coach has, which is “How do I motivate? How do I inspire? How do I get the most out of my people without pushing them to the point that they get injured or that they don't enjoy playing this game anymore and they don't come back?” That's the real challenge that we all have here. And so we need to keep that.
When I talk about getting the most out of people and sort of building this thing and the mission and the purpose in where we're going, the last part I want to bring up in headspace is the sunk cost fallacy because I see this really messing with a lot of people's heads right now.
What happens in the sunk cost fallacy, the sunk cost fallacy is the idea that I have invested so much to get here. Stepping back or changing what I'm doing now feels like I wasted that energy to get here. And so what that looks like right now in a lot of places is we built our clientele up to a certain level. We built, we have 10 exam rooms now and we have been seeing X number of clients a day and not using some of those exam rooms feels like failure. Significantly, reducing the number of clients we see a day, that feels like mega failure.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
Like, “I worked 10 years to get to this place where we did this amount of cases and everything and now going back down feels like all the energy we spent to get here was wasted.” And that's the sunk cost fallacy. And so the last thing I'm going to call out head space wise before we go into this is to say, “Hey, I see you there. I see you overwhelmed. I see you struggling. You need to not think about what you've done in the past. You need to do the mental exercise of thinking, if you were starting your practice right now today with the team that you have, how many exam rooms would you run and how many patients would you see? And the number of patients that you saw two years ago, that doesn't matter because it's not two years ago, it's today.”
Realistic expectations about if we were starting right now today, what would we service? And the fact that we serviced more last year when we had two and a half more technicians and two more doctors than we have today, that doesn't matter because that ain't where we're living right now.

Stephanie Goss:
Nope. And listen, this is one of the things that I struggled with the most in practice, particularly in my journey as a corporate practice manager, and I'm going to talk to my fellow colleagues here for a second, because when we run our practices from a leadership perspective, it is our job as business people to be concerned about the numbers. I'm not going to lie, that is part of your job. As the business side of the leadership, your job is to think about the numbers. And to your point Andy, our practices should be built on what can we do when we are efficient and effective, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
How can we maximize seeing and doing the best work for the best number of patients? And we know that when we practice good medicine like that, the revenue follows. And that is good thing, right? And at the same time, it's really, really easy to get caught up in micromanaging or being micromanaged to the numbers. And so a lot of us, particularly those of us who have managed in corporate medicine, say, “Well, we have to see certain number of cases because our whole structure is built on that.”
The thing that I will tell you, and don't get me wrong, it got me in trouble more than once, but I will say I stand by it. The reality is, if your practice, any practice, private corporate does not matter, if your practice can't stand to say, “This month we are going to change things and it's not permanent, but right this second this is what's best for the people. Whether it's the clients, your team, a combination of all of the above, we're going to step back and we are going to see 10 patients a day instead of 25,” or whatever it is that you need to do-

Andy Roark:
That's quite a step.

Stephanie Goss:
But here's the thing, if you go from four doctors to one, going from 25 patients a day to 10, maybe your only option, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah.

Stephanie Goss:
So even if you can't, you have to be able to take even a radical step like that for a short period of time. If your practice can't sustain that, you weren't running a good business in the first place. You should be able to sustain that for a short period of time, right? You should be able to pivot and do what you need to do for a short period of time. And that short period of time is going to be different for all of us. We are all in different places in our business. We all have different levels of buffer. We all have different levels of reserves in the bank. I recognize that all of those things matter. But if we're running it so close to the line that we have to live forever in the place of sunk cost fallacy and we can't look at things and say, “I am going to make these changes temporarily to take care of my people, to take care of my clients,” whatever the reason is, then we have to change the business model because it's not going to work for anyone long term.

Andy Roark:
Boy, leadership in modern vet medicine is more about advocating up the chain than it's ever been before. Don't you agree?

Stephanie Goss:
100%.

Andy Roark:
Boy, wouldn't it be great if there was a place like a community that you could go and you could work with other people who have the same struggles and advocate up the chain for their people and that would provide ongoing support and guidance and lessons learned and hard fought battle experience? Wouldn't that be amazing?

Stephanie Goss:
Uh-huh. That would be so amazing.

Andy Roark:
God, I can't think of a place like that.

Stephanie Goss:
Neither… I wonder where one might exist.

Andy Roark:
Oh, there's a place, it's called Unchartered Veterinary Community and that is what we do. We have literally hundreds of leaders who are in corporate practice that are also leading teams on the ground. We work with them because that's what we do. And yeah, we 100% help people advocate up and down the chain. And you're like, “No one's ever told me how to communicate up the chain to take care of my people.” I was like, “Well, that's the thing that we definitely do at Unchartered.” So if you're interested in that, then check us out.
Wait, there's one more thing. I said that was my last thing to say and now I'm like, “Oh, there's one more thing I have to say because, and I hadn't planned on talking about this, but then when you were going through what this person said in their letter, there's one thing that popped out and it hit me like a thorn. It was like a splinter and I'm like, “That's going to hang with me and it's going to bother the heck out of me.”

Stephanie Goss:
Okay.

Andy Roark:
This person said their clients won't go to the emergency room, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Uh-huh.

Andy Roark:
And what they were saying was like, it's like an allergy flare up.

Stephanie Goss:
Sure.

Andy Roark:
And they won't go to the emergency room. And it's like, I get it. I can 100% understand the person saying, “I don't want to pay that money to go to that emergency room and I don't want to go there and wait for hours to get seen.” I totally get it for sure. But this is a thing, and this is going to sound maybe a bit harsh, but I need everybody to hear it, right? It is not your responsibility to solve the problem of a pet owner that won't go to the emergency room or they won't go somewhere else. That doesn't mean I'm heartless, it doesn't mean don't care. I totally do care. But in order for you to keep your sanity, you need to know that that's not your pet, and all you can do is advocate and be honest and compassionate and do the best that you can do without burning yourself out, right?

Stephanie Goss:
Yes.

Andy Roark:
Because you giving everything you can today and leaving this profession in three years, that is not the best outcome. And I say this because I can see it in the writing of the person who wrote in. I see all the time guys, the trap in vet medicine is people jump in, they say, “I'm here for the pets and the people and I'm going to take care of them.” And they do everything they can for five years and they burn out and they leave the profession. And I say, “You know what? If you had made some hard calls and set some boundaries that made you unpopular at the time, you would still be here 10 years from now and the net number of people and pets you would've helped is much greater.”
And so the greatest outcome over your life is not seeing everything that you can see and taking responsibility for everything. It is being honest about what you can do and taking care of yourself, working hard of course, but still setting those boundaries. And so it sounds awful when I say it's not my responsibility to handle problems when the pet owner says, “Well, I'm not going somewhere else.” And I would say, your job is to present them honestly with their options and to set clear expectations and let them know what you can do and what you can't do. And that is what they have to decide. So maybe they're not going to take their allergy dog to the emergency clinic.
And here's another thing that's really, really hard for vets to hear. If I can't see your pet because I am swamped and overwhelmed, I'm going to recommend you go to a different vet practice. And people go, “That is harassing. Oh my god.” There's some competitiveness to it. There is some scarcity mentality. There is the fear that one day I'm not going to have enough clients and I'm going to go out of business and we're all going to live in a box by the street.

Stephanie Goss:
Under the tree. Uh-huh.

Andy Roark:
Under the trees. All of those things are scarcity mentality that kick in. But I'm saying is in order to feel whole, is to look around and say, “I can't see you. You're not willing to go to the emergency clinic and pay emergency prices. I don't see this changing in the near future and your pet is having an allergy flare up. My recommendation is that you need to go find another veterinary clinic and I'll send your records over. I hate it, but I'm just being honest with you. I can't get you in and I don't want your pet to suffer and this is what I'm doing.”

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah. I think that is such a struggle for us in veterinary medicine for so-

Andy Roark:
People hate it.

Stephanie Goss:
… Oh my god, for so many reasons. But I'll also tell you it feels like this boring concept, and it shouldn't. Because at the end of the day, we are in the customer service business. And let me tell you, when I was really young, when I was at university, I was a manager for a book chains. It's not around anymore, but I worked for Borders and was the manager for the children's department. I was covering at the customer service desk one day and we had a customer come up to the desk and they were looking for a particular book and we didn't have it in stock and I wasn't going to be able to get it for two and a half or three weeks. And they were just like, “Thanks, but I really wanted to get it.” And I said, “Well, hang on. Do you have just a moment?” I said, “Let me see if anywhere else locally has it.”
The next closest Borders to us was like 45 minutes away. So it was like this poor customer is looking for this thing. And they had told me why and it was for school and it was really important. So I picked up the phone and I called Barnes & Nobles, which was 10 minutes down the street, and I said, “Hey, do you happen to have a copy of this? I'm calling from Borders.” And they put me on hold and then they said yes. And I said, “Great, I have a customer here.” I gave them her name and I said, “I'm going to send her over. Can you set it aside for her at the front desk?” And they were like, “Yeah.”
And that client was like, “Oh my gosh, I can't believe. Did you say Barnes & Nobles? Are you sure?” And I said, “Yeah, it's right down the street. Go ahead. They have it waiting at the front desk for you.” She went. And it was so funny because it was on and she went on her day and I didn't think about it. Later that night I got a page to come to the customer service desk and I go up to the customer service desk and the woman is standing there and she has a bag in her hand and a coffee and she's just like, “I had no idea what you liked, but I just wanted to say thank you. You saved my day for school.” She's like, “I picked it up.” And she's like, “But I just want you to know I'm going to come back here.”

Andy Roark:
Wow.

Stephanie Goss:
“It made a huge difference in my day. And the fact that you would send me to your competitor, that means something to me.” And then I saw her over and over because she would come in once a week to do school stuff. It stuck with me because I just didn't think twice about it. I had a conversation with my manager about it. And they were just like, “Well, but you sent her to a competitor.” And I was like, “Yeah, but she's a loyal client now. She's a loyal customer. She's coming back. So what? So we lost the $10 on that book sale, but look at what we've gained in the long term in that relationship.”
I think it's really important and it stuck with me and I have used that for myself and with my team, especially my client service team. Because at the end of the day, we are here to take care of our patients and our clients. And if there's something that we can do that is better for that pet than the care we can provide, or different care that we can't provide for that pet, we should have no doubt in our mind to send them to someone even just down the street, right?
And so if that client is telling you, “I can't go to the emergency hospital for whatever reason,” but their pet is miserable, then I love that you said that because sometimes the answer should be, “Okay, I really feel strongly that this shouldn't wait. And so if you're not willing to do this, here's my suggestion.” Because you know what the alternative is? The alternative is they're going to go home and they're going to do what that customer would done, which is look it up herself, see that the Barnes & Noble down the street has it and go there anyways. So they're going to go home, they're going to Dr. Google and they're going to either find somebody else's care or they're going to try and treat things themselves. So it really matters to me that we keep in mind that we are in the customer service business at the end of the day.
And so I will tell you, there have been times where I've spent sent really good clients to our competition. Because here's the thing that I know, I know that if I take care of those clients, if I help them, they will on an overwhelming average comeback, even really good clients. And people are like, “Oh my God, but what if they have a better experience at that hospital? And what if we lose them as a client?”, then we weren't doing our jobs. If they could go for a one and done appointment and be so impressed by somebody else, that's okay. That teaches us some lessons about where we have opportunities as a practice. And if you're not willing to take those risks as a leader, I think you're selling yourself and your team short.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Well, we create this inescapable trap for ourselves where it's like we are overwhelmed and we can't see all the pets. And also the idea of referring them to someone else is-

Stephanie Goss:
Yes, but nobody else can [inaudible 00:43:48].

Andy Roark:
… absolutely unacceptable. And they go, “Wait a second, you have 100% created this soul sucking trap that's burning you and your people out.” And I go, “This isn't worth it.' The other thing too is I would say let your purpose guide you. I have just found in life that if you have a purpose and that's what you follow, everything else seems to work itself out. You know what I mean? If you believe, I say, “I'm going to do what's best for pets,” and you set your prices appropriately, you will have a healthy business because you will take care of pets and make sure that the money makes sense and it works. But you can 100% focus not on the money, but on taking care of the pets and the money will take care of itself.
The same thing is true with this, is if you want to take care of the pets, at some point, that might mean I can't get these pets in and I'm sending them away, then you're going to sleep well at night knowing that you did what was best for pets and you're not going to burn out and quit and you'll be here years from now.
And so anyway, the idea that you would send people away because you're overwhelmed and then all of a sudden you can't get enough people to come in and support your business, I don't buy that. I don't believe that. I think that's a scarcity mentality and it's a recipe for disaster.

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah.

Andy Roark:
Hey, we are about 40 some minutes into this episode and I feel like this has all been really good head space, and I know a lot of people are really struggling with this. I don't want to sprint through the action steps. Are you okay Stephanie, what if we split this episode and then next week we'll come back and we'll just do action steps?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, let's do it. We're going to try something different, everybody. I love this because we've got some good action steps and I don't want to rush into these, Andy. Let's take our time and let's do it. So let's do our first two parter.

Andy Roark:
Our first two parter. Yeah, I think that's it. I'm looking at the action steps and stuff I have kind of laid out here that I want to unpack them. I think they're really helpful. So let's not rush. Let's just do head space right here. We're going to call this an episode.

Stephanie Goss:
Part one.

Andy Roark:
And then we'll see guys back next week and we will run through the rest of our action steps.

Stephanie Goss:
Stay tuned overwhelmed and won't give up because we'll be back.
Well, again, that's a wrap on another episode of the podcast. And as always, this was so fun to dive into the mail bag and answer this question. I would really love to see more things like this come through the mail bag. If there is something that you would love to have us talk about on the podcast or a question that you are hoping that we might be able to help with, feel free to reach out and send us a message. You can always find the mail bag at the website. The address is unchartedvet.com/mailbag, or you can email us at podcast@unchartedvet.com. Take care everybody and have a great week. We'll see you again next time.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: culture, fatigue

Sep 14 2022

I Tried To Unplug On Vacation… and Failed

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

Stephanie Goss has gone rogue! She invited Tyler Grogan, Veterinary Technician and Uncharted Social Media Goddess as well as Eric Garcia, Marketing and Social Media genius/guru of Simply Done Tech onto the podcast. Fair warning – when Stephanie gets to have dear friends on the podcast, shenanigans ensue and this week is no exception. You may have heard Eric lecture or write about a topic near and dear to his heart – #unplugging. If you haven't heard about it, you are definitely in for a treat. Stephanie and Tyler were both inspired by Eric's invitation to veterinary medicine to unplug from social media and technology and lean into being present for periods of time in your life. All three of them lined up time this summer and this episode is their get-together to discuss what went wrong, where they struggled the most, what went perfectly right, and whether they will do it again. You all be the judge – let's get into this.

PS – As mentioned in the episode, you can check out Bored and Brilliant. All things Eric has written on unplugging can be found here https://ericgarciafl.com/unplugged/

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 195 – I Tried To Unplug On Vacation… and Failed

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Andy Roark:

Hey, Stephanie Goss. Do you got second to talk about Guardian Vets?

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah. Whatever you want to talk about.

Andy Roark:

Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing. And I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up, and the doctors are busy, and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:

They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:

I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about Guardian Vets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and Guardian Vets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support. And it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:

Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after-hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls. And so we talk about it. We've talked about Guardian Vets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, what is that?

Andy Roark:

Guys, if you're not familiar with Guardian Vets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or up at the front desk, check them out. It's Guardianvets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free. So check it out, guardian vets.com.

Stephanie Goss:

Hey everybody. I am Stephanie Goss. And this is another episode of the Uncharted Podcast. I have got an intro coming to you as part of the episode because I am being joined today by some very special guests. This is a very special episode for me. It is the subject that is very recently near and dear to my heart. It is near and dear and a bit of a passion project for one of our guests and is something that our third guest experienced along with me this summer. We are talking about unplugging. Let's get into it.

Andy Roark:

And now the Uncharted Podcast.

Stephanie Goss:

Hey everybody. Welcome back to the Uncharted Podcast. I am Stephanie Goss. And today I am joined by two of my favorite people in the whole wide world. I have my fellow teammate, Tyler Grogan from the Uncharted team. Tyler is a veterinary technician. She is a social media mastermind, marketing guru in training and an aesthetic genius. Tyler brings you all of the things that are beautiful as far as Uncharted goes. And we are also joined by my dear friend, Eric Garcia, who is a marketing guru and social media genius. He's not here to talk with us about any of that today. The three of us are here today because we are going to talk about one of Eric's passion projects, which is unplugging. Welcome to the podcast, you guys. Hi.

Eric:

Hi. It's so good to be here.

Tyler Grogan:

Hey, Stephanie.

Stephanie Goss:

Hi. I am so glad you guys are here for our listeners. This is going to be an episode filled with giggles and laughter because we have literally been talking for the last few minutes, getting ready to start recording. And I have already cried with laughter, so be prepared. This will have even more shenanigans than Andy and I's normal episodes, and I appreciate every bit of it.

Eric:

I'm excited for it.

Tyler Grogan:

I have no idea what to expect.

Stephanie Goss:

Poor Tyler. So those of you guys who listened to the podcast regularly, poor Tyler got voluntold for this. She was listening to an episode for her job trying to pull quotes out to post the social media quote and heard me say, oh yeah, by the way, we're going to have an episode upcoming with Eric, and Tyler's going to be on with us. And she was like, I'm sorry, I'm what?

Tyler Grogan:

I was like, that's a great idea. I'm so glad that I knew that it was happening, but I guess I'll see you guys on the podcast soon. And here we are, the genius of Stephanie Goss.

Stephanie Goss:

Eric said before we were recording, that's probably your style and he's not wrong.

Eric:

It is. Totally is. That's a hundred percent Stephanie Goss.

Stephanie Goss:

If you were ever wondering what it was like to work with Stephanie Goss, that's a preview ball and told. But we are here. I am super excited for this episode. So Eric, tell us a little bit about unplugging and how you got there. You talk about this a lot. So a lot of people may have heard it, but kind of give us the origin story.

Eric:

Yeah, so the origin story actually started about nine years ago, I was reading fast and company, and there was this guy who was talking about how he spent a whole 24 hours without technology. He was talking about the effects that he had when he did it and how he was able to.

Stephanie Goss:

Did his palms sweat? Was he shaking?

Eric:

Believe it or not, from the article he actually did very well enough to the point where it didn't scare me away.

Stephanie Goss:

Okay, fair.

Eric:

I think you're starting to share some of your perspective, which I'm very curious, and I have a prediction about how your experience went. He did it for a day and he talked about how amazing it was. I challenged myself to do it for 10 days because I thought if I'm going to do something, I'm not going to do it small. I'm going to-

Stephanie Goss:

Go big or go home.

Eric:

Exactly. And it came at a time where I was just experiencing this fatigue from constant connectivity. I think a lot of people don't realize how much of a distraction email, text messaging, social media, our fricking phone and all of the technology around us actually is in our day to day lives. It causes stress, anxiety, and I'm not someone who is normally an anxious person. I'm not someone who normally becomes stressed easily. I started feeling all of these symptoms. And when I read his article, it really opened my eyes that maybe this is something that I could benefit from. It really hit home because that prior year I had the opportunity to go to Europe for just vacation first time ever. And I remember we went to France, we saw the Eiffel Tower. It's like this magical moment. But the moments leading up to that were filled with checking my email, being on social media and consuming a whole bunch of content that ultimately kind of carried into my experience and my vacation.

Eric:

I think a lot of times we don't realize that when we're on vacation, we consume content on social media that doesn't necessarily always make us feel good. We will get an email maybe about a problem that's going on at work about a new project that landed on your plate. And here you are supposed to be in this moment. For me, it was supposed to be enjoying this beautiful Eiffel Tower, but I couldn't stop thinking about those things that were distracting me prior to. And so I said, I'm not going to let this happen anymore. And so I decided to take 10 days of unplugged, which unplugged to me has there's dual benefit to me, it's not just unplugging from technology, which is perhaps the biggest part of it, but it's also to unplug from work and to have conscious efforts where you're saying, I'm going to truly enjoy myself. I'm not going to be tied to work. I'm not going to answer emails, text messages and things like that. And so I did it and I did it for a whole 10 days, and it was amazing.

Stephanie Goss:

That's so freaking impressive because that's like zero to 900.

Eric:

Yeah. 100%, ten days. It is, but it's amazing.

Tyler Grogan:

What you said about how there's a couple different components to you of what unplugging means, which was unplugging from technology in general and then unplugging from work, that was something that Stephanie and I, I think we both did seven days where we tried to do seven days of unplugging. And right from the get go, my first question was, well, wait a minute, what does that mean? Like defining what it was and from what your experience was, it sounds like you really completely unplugged, like weren't texting, weren't checking email. Were you communicating with people on the phone? What's the level of unplugged from technology that you did?

Eric:

Tyler, I'm actually really happy you asked that question and shared that because I think sometimes I forget to define what it actually means. I'll kind of share with you how my thought process has evolved since I started originally, and it still rings true to today. Unplugging means you're not sending text messages. You're not on social media. You're not going online on websites and surfing. You're not doing YouTube, anything like that. For me, the exception was that I would use my phone to listen to music. Everyone knows music transports you to wherever you want it to go and to take you. And so music was a big part of it, but my phone was always in airplane mode in the beginning years of it.

Eric:

For example, my mom watches my dog. So she knew where I was going to be at to be able to get a hold of me. And so for me, unplugging was just no technology at all from your phone mostly and iPads and things, don't try to get creative with it.

Stephanie Goss:

He's looking at me, you guys. He knows about the iPad stash in my bag.

Eric:

From this phone, but I can still use this phone. So not anything like that. Don't try to get creative. So I was very staunch on saying that if you're unplugging, you've got to do it like that, and that's the only way. And I felt that way for years. And I still feel that you have to truly unplug by doing that for a certain period of time, Jay Sheti who has this great podcast and great guy that really kind of gets into the mindset, very positive mental mindset, he talks about how you need to go through both extremes. I didn't really find this out until recently. And I thought he'd really eloquently put it together to say that you have to experience both extremes. So you have to experience the extreme of constant connectivity, right? So all the messages from all the things, and then to experience the complete opposite extreme, to be able to then find that balance between the two. So for me it was that one extreme, and I would bounce between the two extremes.

Eric:

Where my thought processes evolved is I've had friends tell me, well, it doesn't just have to be that. I've had friends tell me that maybe it's just selectively choosing what you want to unplug from. So if you think you have a toxic relationship with social media, then maybe unplugging for you would be not going on Facebook or Instagram, maybe it's unplugging from email or whatever it is that you want to try to escape. So I'm fine with that. And I call that unplugged moments where you have periods of time throughout the day or on the weekend where you do that. But I think to truly harness the benefit of it, it's just nothing. All of it goes away.

Stephanie Goss:

So, Tyler, tell us a little bit about your experience this summer. So both of us had known about Eric's idea from an industry perspective in how toxic social media can be and just how connected we are. And both of us had for different personal reasons had talked about, okay, let's make this the summer of challenge, and let's do this. And so, Tyler, tell us a little bit about how you came to your unplug journey this summer.

Tyler Grogan:

Sure. Right before I was about to travel to Canada to speak at a conference there and spend some time with my friend Saye that you guys probably know from Uncharted and beyond, but we were going to go to explore the national parks there. I had basically a three week trip planned to Canada. I saw Eric's post on Instagram. It was like, hey, guys, I'm unplugging for the next month. And I was like this might be the opportunity to try this. And so I messaged him and was like, I'm going to do this for a week. And he was like, okay, let know how it goes. I was like, okay, I will. Well, then I hear Stephanie later on the podcast right before I leave.

Stephanie Goss:

You can't put something like that out publicly and post on Instagram and then not expect me to jump on that and be like, oh yeah, okay, you're voluntold. That was the moment. Just in case there was any doubt. I saw the message on Instagram from Tyler and was like voluntold, done, over with.

Tyler Grogan:

So I set myself up for that. But anyway, so right before I was about to leave, I saw that and I was like, okay, well now I really have to do this. I said, I'm doing it. I have to do it. So my plan was that I was speaking at a conference. So I wanted to share about that experience while I was doing that but then right after we were going to travel to the national parks, and I already knew I was going to have limited connectivity just because of where I was going to be. I was only going to be with Saye, and that was going to be about four days and then three days following in Ottawa with her. And so I decided that was the week.

Tyler Grogan:

So, much to my dismay, when I got to our Airbnb in Yoho National Park in a small town of 200 people called Field, I found out they had fantastic wifi. And I was like, oh, okay, well, this takes away some of the barrier for me to be using technology, but I'm going to power through. I had a really interesting experience with it because like it kind of came in phases. So the first few days we were very like, we're going to be out hiking. When you're out hiking, obviously you're not on your phone, but right from the beginning, I was like, but my camera is on my phone and we need the GPS on my phone to get to the places we're going to go hiking, and we need music because we're going to be in the car for a really long time. And I've got to check on my cats. And I've got to make sure that the person we're meeting in a few days knows where we're going to meet. And I'm like, oh my gosh, how am I going to do this?

Tyler Grogan:

I was like, logistically, how am I going to actually do this? And so I had this conversation with Saye, I was like, look, I have to do this. I've been told, I'm doing a podcast. I have to do this. So how are we going to make this work? And she's like, okay, in classic Saye fashion. She was like how are we going to define success of you doing this? I was like, this is some coaching. I like it. And so I have notes that I wrote down. I'm like, what are the rules? And I was like, no social media and no email. Before I left, Ron, our executive director disconnected me from Slack, which was incredibly helpful. It was very easy for me to go and just in my kind of like almost automated motion, I realized click on the different icons of social media or of Slack just to open, and it almost was like an unconscious thing.

Stephanie Goss:

Muscle memory.

Tyler Grogan:

I removed the icons from the homepage and Slack, the first time I tried to open it, inevitably, even though I said, I'm not going to do this, the first time I tried to open it, it was like, you can't do this because you're not even-

Stephanie Goss:

Access denied.

Eric:

I love it.

Tyler Grogan:

I was like, oh, that's good.

Eric:

Go Ron.

Tyler Grogan:

There were a few phases where like I could go into ad nauseum amount of detail. But I think the first, really big question that came to mind was like, what are the rules? That's why I asked, what does unplugging actually mean? Because to me, I was like, if I'm not completely unplugged from technology, then I failed unplugging. But the reality was like, I actually needed the tech. I felt like I needed it, and maybe we could have found ways around it. But I felt like I needed the technology for a significant number of reasons that I was like even traveling outside of my normal day to day, this is going to be really difficult.

Stephanie Goss:

You and I talked about, okay, you're using… Eric was doubled over dying in laughter as Tyler was describing what she's using her phone for. But it's true. Tyler and I had this whole conversation about, we have these computers, like it's more than just a phone, right? So we have these computers in our hands. And we don't think at first glance about all of the ways that it's interconnected. And so Tyler and I had this conversation about, well, I'm taking pictures with my phone, and I don't want to disconnect from that because I want to be able to capture moments and much more intentional moments, I think, than normal. Tyler and I had some conversation about how it forced her to think about how often she's using it for that and what she's capturing versus like, oh, let me just selfie.

Stephanie Goss:

When we think about let's do it to post on social media, we don't think about it with the same level of thought. I think that we think about it when we're looking at it as this is my camera. I'm not lugging camera equipment with me. This is my camera. I'm trying to capture this moment. And it's hilarious to me because as Tyler and I were having this whole conversation about what we each did, Eric, you're going to laugh, neither one of us thought about airplane mode. Both of us were just like we… This is our moment of there's a light switch, dummy, and you just flick it on and off. Neither of us thought about airplane mode. And we both were just like, what are the rules?

Stephanie Goss:

Like it's funny because both of our heads went to what are the rules? How do we define this? We were like, let's channel Eric. What would the rules be? And so when we had the conversation afterwards, Tyler and I were both like, we have so many questions for Eric about what are the rules and how do you define it? Because neither one of us thought, oh, that one button does all of the things. But to Tyler's point, she needed GPS. So there are pieces of it. And that was one of the questions we had for you because you and I have had that conversation, Eric, about using your phone to use Pandora stream music or whatever.

Stephanie Goss:

And I think that was part of the big picture thought for me this time was what am I going to try and use my phone for? And figuring out like Tyler, are there hacks and easy things that I can do to make my phone more restrictive so I don't just muscle memory hit that button and be like, oh, let me text or let me send a Slack message to everybody? And still be able to access the pieces of technology that don't count yeah or are needed to your point.

Eric:

I'm sweating because this is just so funny, and I feel like I've led you to failure.

Stephanie Goss:

Let's be clear, you're sweating before I even tell my story.

Eric:

I'm excited. This is like-

Stephanie Goss:

Also, let's be clear, you have not failed. You have not failed us. In fact, that's part of why we wanted to do this podcast because-

Eric:

This is great.

Stephanie Goss:

… we had conversations with you, both of us individually, before we did the thing and asked you for input and guidance like, hey, we're going to do this thing because both Tyler and I recognized one of the core things for Uncharted is, look, if you don't have a partner and somebody to help keep you accountable, it doesn't actually happen. And so Tyler and I both recognize we need accountability partners, and so we approached it from different perspectives, right? For Tyler, one of her accountability partners was having the conversation with you and trying to figure out what are some of the rules and then continuing that conversation with Saye and people who she was going to spend time with. But also one of the accountability partners for her was Ron. How do I unplug from work? And I approached that in a very different way, which is part of my failure.

Stephanie Goss:

But I also had a conversation with you about like, look, let's get real. Eric knows me very, very well. For those of you who have not heard this story, Eric and I met and really started our friendship probably about six years ago when we were at Fetch in San Diego. And I actually went there so that you and I could sit down and have some conversation about social media. But at Fetch, you were doing a workshop on unplugging. And it was really funny because I was still in practice, and I was very active on social media at the time. And one of the things that I had volunteered for was live tweeting the conference.

Stephanie Goss:

And so I find myself sitting in Eric's lecture about how to unplug, and I'm literally like sitting there with my phone in my hand thinking I have this assignment, there's this thing I'm supposed to do, and I'm in this class telling me not to do the thing. And I was sitting there and my palms were literally sweating. And I put my phone in my back pocket and thought, okay, if I sit on my phone, maybe I can actually listen to him. I caught myself in the first five minutes taking out my phone to repeat something on social media that Eric had said, because I thought it was great. But then I was like, dude, I'm not actually even listening to this, and so I was really trying. And so I literally put my phone in my back pocket and like leaned over to one side so I was sitting on it.

Eric:

You did well.

Stephanie Goss:

My hands were sweating, but I made it. It was like a 50 minute lecture, and I think I made it through like 35 minutes without touching my phone. And that was the first time. But I'll be honest and candid with you guys. That was probably the first time in I don't know how long that I went 30 minutes without the phone being in constant reach because I recognized in that and then in followup thought and work on myself that I have an addiction to my phone, and it is a very powerful one. And when I started looking at my own life and recognizing I am using it for good things, I am capturing my kids' childhood, I'm capturing moments, but I'm also missing a lot of things because of what I'm doing with my phone. And so that led Eric and I on our friendship journey about sharing this also recognizing that I have been in long term recovery for a very long time and recognizing that's one step at a time.

Stephanie Goss:

For me, I cannot go zero to a hundred because I will fail. I have to take it in small bite size pieces. And so that was the first step that day recognizing I have a problem and then starting to work on it. And now six years later, it's taken me six years, but six years later I was at the point this summer where I was like, I'm going to do it. I'm going to actually unplug for days on end. And unlike Tyler, I was like, I can't go to seven days, but my family had a trip planned, camping. We were going to kind of be out in the middle of nowhere. So like Tyler, I thought, okay, here's a physical barrier to being able to get online. Also like Tyler, I get there and discover, hey, the whole world has wifi now.

Stephanie Goss:

And so we're camping with kids. We're not really that off the grid. So there's wifi where we were. But my thought was, okay, I can do this. We were going to be there for four days. And I thought three nights, four days, I can do that. That feels like a sustainable amount of time for me. I had very mixed results. Not going to lie. I'm going to tell you guys, Tyler probably earned a B plus on her unplugging. I don't know how she graded herself.

Eric:

We're grading now, okay?

Stephanie Goss:

I would say she probably earned herself an A minus, B plus. She did a really good job. I was like, these are the things. I wouldn't say that I got an F, because I did ultimately unplug for two days. I would say a D minus was where I landed.

Eric:

I'm curious about that. Tyler, why would you grade yourself a B plus?

Tyler Grogan:

Those were not my words.

Stephanie Goss:

How would you grade yourself, Tyler?

Eric:

Yeah. How would you grade yourself?

Tyler Grogan:

I think I would've given myself probably like a C minus on unplugging.

Eric:

Let me reframe something and then see if this changes how you grade yourself. So unplugging is mostly about constant distractions. So constant distraction would be social media, would be texting, would be email, would be those things that we interact with consistently. There are exceptions, using GPS isn't breaking the rule, right? I've been places where I've had to take it off of airplane mode to turn it on for GPS. Admittedly, I've had places where I've gone because I was going somewhere on vacation and I had to message the guy’s Airbnb. You can do those things, it's what you can't do is you can't, you kind of start to fall out of it when you go on social media or you take a peek at email or when you see a text message or thankfully you were disconnected from Slack, or if you went onto Slack. It's okay to use it to convenience you for those little situations. Or did you relapse when it came to work and social media? Where do you feel? Would that help you give yourself a better grade?

Tyler Grogan:

Well, yeah, let me elaborate a little. The work side of things, I was disconnected from Slack, and I absolutely was very conscientious not to check my work email. So I feel like that was an A plus, like work disconnect was an A plus. I felt the outcome of that when I got back. I was able to do that for that entire trip, disconnect from work. And I came back feeling recharged and ready to get back to work. So that was definitely A plus.

Eric:

Can I just quickly jump in on that? I think what Ron did well, and I think a big lesson to take away from here is that Ron took the initiative of disconnecting you from Slack. I think as a leader… Wait, did that not happen? Did you ask him to?

Tyler Grogan:

I'm laughing because Stephanie and I had two different experiences with that because Ron, as a leader did succeed but also did ask us if we were okay with us being disconnected. The first day I had to answer, I knew I had one email for work that I needed to pay attention for before my trip started. And I answered it. He saw me answer the email, and he messaged me immediately and was like, I am going to disconnect your work email. And I was like, no, you don't have to do that. It's okay. I knew this one thing was coming. I promise I won't do it again. But, Stephanie, when she was asked, gave a much different answer than what I said.

Stephanie Goss:

So it's funny. This was really part of what I was curious to talk through with you, Eric. I run everything for my calendar and my whole life through my work calendar. Better or for worse, my work calendar is where I keep all of the info. And so like Tyler, I also did some preparation and was like, okay, and I told the team I'm going to go, I'm going to unplug. And I thought that I set myself up for success in that I had the autoresponder on. I had been telling people, I think about your basic rules, you communicate ahead of time, you let people know, you put on your auto message, so people know that it's coming. I did all of those things. And then for me, my plan was I have a couple of days where I'm going to be somewhere else, but I'm going to be working remotely, and then I'm going to unplug and I'm going to go.

Stephanie Goss:

I worked those days, and I reminded everybody, hey, starting this day, I'm going to unplug, I'm going to do the thing. We didn't have the conversation about Slack or any of that. And I actually am kind of glad because my immediate gut response was I don't handle that loss of control. Even if it was my boss, if someone told me I'm going to take this away from you, that would have had a visceral response. I would not have felt good about the experience because I wouldn't have felt like I was an active partner in it. If it was a discussion about like, how would you like to do this? I think that I would've been more open to that. And that was part of what Tyler and I were talking about.

Stephanie Goss:

Because Ron was like, hey, this worked out so great for Tyler, maybe this should be our company response moving forward. And several members of the team were just like, absolutely not. We will lose our shit if you tell us that you're going to do these things. And so it was a conversation about how do we come up with rules that support each other as a team? So my immediate gut response was that. I recognize that that's part of the addict talking is that I need to be in control here.

Eric:

A big part of the addict talking, yeah.

Stephanie Goss:

And so I do recognize that. We'll come back to that. Anyway, I set myself up. I did what I thought was the prep work to be like, I'm going to be gone. I had update meetings with everybody. I met with Andy right before I left. We ran through all of the things like this this is a sit rep, this is a status report, this is where everything is at. I'm going to hit the pause button. Everything will be fine for the four days. I've gotten everything to a place where I could drop off the face of the earth for four days and it should be fine.

Eric:

So real quick just on that point. You know you're unplugging.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Eric:

You told everyone.

Stephanie Goss:

Yes.

Eric:

So why did you still feel the need to be this connected if you made the conscious effort to leave it behind?

Stephanie Goss:

Because for me, I knew because I was choosing not to remove… I was like, I'm not going to turn things off of my phone. I'm not going to… I knew the messages would still be coming. People are used to me having the instant response. And so for me it was like, hey, I'm going to go. But also I need you to understand that I'm serious about this. I'm really not going to not going to answer. Then I immediately failed.

Eric:

Yeah. And that's normal by the way. I mean, I don't ever expect anyone to come back from this the first time and either, A, love it, or even, B, have done an amazing job at it because it's an entirely different thing that you have likely never done in your entire life, except from before you started working and we relied on our parents and depending on that.

Stephanie Goss:

Yeah, when we had actual phones? And if you left the house, no one could find you for days on end, and it was fine.

Eric:

That's a very normal feeling. I think it's really important for people to recognize that that's a very normal feeling. But you're right, that response that you had is exactly the reason that you should continue to try to work on that. I feel that companies and practices should have very strict disconnect policies, and I think it would make people like you very anxious but I think at the end of the day, it would-

Stephanie Goss:

I took my Xanax before we recorded this, so I'm fine. We can talk about it.

Eric:

I wish we were all sitting down at a bar and having this conversation, but I think it's very important for the businesses that we work for to set those examples. For example, we have a very strict unplugged policy. When you're hired on board, there's an unplugged policy that you sign that says when you are out, you are out. Email gets turned off. Slack, all of that gets turned off because that employee is going to be a million times better when they come back and they weren't bothered at all.

Eric:

We don't purely do it because we want them to be better. We also do it to help them because not everyone can do it. And so I hear what you're saying, and I genuinely like the approach of, well, let's tailor it to that person, but I don't actually think that would be helping you in the long run.

Eric:

Because unplugging isn't about checking messages and triaging, that's not unplugging. That's just going to work and checking your email. Here's the reality, Stephanie. If I were in your situation, if I were quote/unquote unplugged, but I still triaged email, I would be in 100% your shoes. In fact, I had a similar situation happen. I had both extremes happen. I remember one time I came unplugged, this was a few years in, we had a brand new employee working for us. I came back, and as you can imagine, one of the reasons people don't unplug is because like there's millions of emails. I expected that. That is built into my unplug time. I come back, I spend a day and a half just doing email.

Eric:

This one year, and this was the most bizarre experience for me, and I learned to like it, but I didn't in that moment. I came back, I probably had easily 300 emails or whatever, and that employee responded to a majority of them because it redirects to that person to say you should go to-

Stephanie Goss:

If you need help, this is your person.

Eric:

Right. They were asking specific questions. Someone had a negative review. How do I respond? This person wasn't really hired on to do those things. They know what they're doing, but that's not what their job was. And so this person responded to everything. I came back, and I'm reading it. And I was like, I probably wouldn't have said it that way. And then I read some emails and I was like, wow, that was actually probably better than I could have said it. I remember when I was done, I'm not kidding you, I was probably caught up within two hours after being gone for over 10 days. I was like, I don't like this. I don't like this at all because you just did my job, and, yeah, you didn't do it in the way that I would have done it, but you really didn't do it in a way that was going to lead us to the company was going to crash.

Eric:

And I remember thinking like, oh, letting go of that control and letting someone step up to the plate and fail to learn from those failures actually ended up being one of the best things that could have happened because now that employee is the one who things are directed to, and I have the confidence knowing. And they know what they did wrong, and they know what they did really well. And so I think that's a very normal response though, and I know that letting go is hard, but I think slowly letting go… And I don't think maybe four days is probably the best thing for you right out of the gate. I think for some people, it works. I think, Stephanie, you just need to start with like a Saturday.

Stephanie Goss:

But I hear what you're saying, and I actually recognize that. And so for people who are like super control freaks, I recognize the addict in me says, don't take away that control. And that is actually what is needed. And so I do the work. I recognize that. So I would do it differently. And so for me, I felt like this is a total failure. And Tyler and I were having this conversation. And one of the questions we had for you is I said, I know Eric has policies, and I know that his company is set up that way now. And so the question Tyler and I had was, you jumped into this zero to 60 on a personal level, how do you then start to have those conversations with your team? Because I'm thinking about all of our listeners who are like, I would love to go. I mean, that was me as a practice manager. I would have loved to step away literally for a 12 hour shift and not get 19 text messages and phone calls.

Stephanie Goss:

How do you move in that direction so that you do have company policies, that you do have protocols, that you do have processes in place and still have buy in so it's not just me, Eric, as the business owner saying, this is how we're going to do it and you either take it or leave it, but how does the team be a part of that?

Stephanie Goss:

Because Tyler was like, well, this is what we did. And I was like, oh, I don't know if that would work for me. And I know other people on our team felt the same way. And so we were like, can we have a discussion about this? And maybe ultimately the decision is still, this is the policy and protocol, but everybody in order for there to be buy in, everybody needs to feel heard. Right? And so for me, as the manager mind was turning, I was like this is where we need to have the conversation with Eric about how do you get there as a leader? How do you start to have those conversations with your team? Because it's not easy.

Eric:

Yeah. I think it's really critical because this is what happens sometimes is people will say, well, can we have a copy of your policy? We'd love to institute it. And then they go back to their practice and then they just distribute it in their com boxes or by email. And they're like, hey, we now have this policy. That's obviously not how we should ever implement a policy. It's like a cell phone usage policy or social media policy. It's like, hey, I heard from this person. We shouldn't be using our phones on the clock sign this policy and it's like, well, hold on. So to that point, it's really important, I believe, to have a conversation with your team during a team meeting where you carve out ample amount of time to talk about, A, the benefits of saying, hey, listen, we value your mental health, it's extremely important. We want you to be able to leave work and enjoy life outside of work. It's to say that we're doing this to prioritize you and what we're going to do so you can relax is we're going to have redundancies in place.

Eric:

There are going be other doctors that are going to see your cases. There are going to be other technicians that are going to fill in shifts. And everyone's going to have a turn to where they will eventually be on vacation and we'll be able to do this and kind of explain the logic behind it. Talk about how it prioritizes the employees.

Eric:

I think this is funny because a lot of times practices are like, oh, we prioritize mental health and it's like, well great, but how do you do that? And this is one of the many examples of how you actually do that and how you actually say, well, we can say one thing, but here's how we're going to prove it. And then I think a big part of that conversation is to say, you might not like it, but we're doing this for you, and we're doing this for us, because you're going to be a better employee at the end of the day, and you will learn to enjoy a life outside of work. And I think what's dangerous though, and I can say this about the practice that I used to work at with peace and love, I even saw the person yesterday. I think where we start setting ourself up for failure is when we are accessible when we're on vacation. And the message that we're sending other people is to say, well, if I'm accessible on vacation and you can ask me questions, then you're going to be expected to do the same.

Eric:

And we kind of champion that. We're like, yeah, oh, you can do it, email me. I love work. It's not about that at all. It's about just-

Stephanie Goss:

I'm in the hospital, but you can message me anyways.

Eric:

But let's be real, that probably happens every single day. Right?

Stephanie Goss:

I say that because I've been that manager literally in the ER sending my team that message. It's fine. I have cell phone reception in the ER, just message me. It's fine.

Tyler Grogan:

My gosh.

Eric:

Oh gosh. Listen, now, part of that would be, I just don't want to focus on what I'm actually dealing with.

Stephanie Goss:

That's true.

Eric:

I can see validity in that, but yeah, I see where you're going.

Tyler Grogan:

Well-

Stephanie Goss:

But it is. Go ahead, Tyler.

Tyler Grogan:

Well, there's another piece of the conversation though, that I think that we didn't have as a team, which was, let's agree to put these things down until this person comes back. I see how you would feel saying, look, I need to pause this because I'm going to take a break. But when I come back, it's the first thing on my list. And then someone saying, oh, it's fine, I can definitely send that email. But then having a very important piece of information, like you said, not available to them and then something gets blundered while you're away, I can 100% see why that would be really hard to deal with.

Stephanie Goss:

And that was my first response, right? I was just like, I had this conversation with Andy. He knew that this was where things stood. Why didn't he tell you? You know what I mean? At first, I was mad at Andy because I was just like, dude, I handed this off to you. And then in further conversation to Tyler's point, it was about, we didn't have team agreements. And so the team was like, Ron said, no, Andy actually told us that. He said, you should wait until Stephanie gets back because this is her thing, and she's doing the thing. And so I was like, okay, immediately all the misplaced anger at Andy goes away. And he's like, but we were trying to help. And we just thought, oh, we'll just check it off and it'll be done and we can move on. And it was that learning lesson.

Eric:

What also kind of goes with that though is I believe that there's rarely anything that needs to be addressed right in that moment. Right? Continuity business will continue whether you're there or not, but there's rarely… That was a problem I had myself was I'll tell you for example one of the biggest challenges was I unplugged maybe a year ago. I don't know. The pandemic is kind of a blur. It was during the pandemic, and I was literally unplugging in between this massive project that I was working on with Royal Canin. I remember I was plugging back in hours before I was set to kick off this multiseries event being translated in seven different languages. Like it was this big thing, and I could have easily said, well, I don't want to. I'm not going to plug in until after this, but I did. I unplugged right in the middle of that.

Eric:

I did all of the most core things that I needed to do, but there was nothing that would've been urgent that was going to change the course of that project because it was already set in stone. And so I don't think that there's hardly ever anything. I think Stephanie kind of going back to this also reminds me of when, and I don't know if you remember this or not, if you were tweeting, but in that session then… What was Fetch called?

Stephanie Goss:

I was CVC then.

Eric:

CVC sorry. At that CVC conference-

Stephanie Goss:

We're dating ourselves because we're old.

Eric:

I know. We really are.

Stephanie Goss:

I had to reach for them like, oh wait, it's not CVC, it's Fetch. Let's call it by the right name. But it was CVC then.

Eric:

Yeah. I remember this veterinarian toward the end of the session, and she was crying and she was saying that she could never unplug because a pet owner, a client of hers, sent her a message on Facebook and was asking a question about her pet that was in some sort of emergency. This veterinarian who's a solo practitioner decided to unplug, take vacation, prioritize herself, not be online, not answer any questions. When she finally plugged back in and she checked on that pet owner, the dog had died and the owner said, well, it's your fault because I was waiting for a response from you. And she started crying and she said, I could never unplug again. And that was a really heartbreaking story because I've heard that numerous times since then, and I don't agree.

Eric:

I think it's easy for me to say because I'm not a veterinarian, but I don't agree because there are systems that can be put in place. There should be auto responders on Facebook that should link to the emergency clinic when you call. So there are things that you can do. And our dear friend, Megan Brashear, in the lecture that her and I give together on setting boundaries, she said, you're not the FBI. You're not that important. I don't care who you are. You're not that important. And there's nothing that needs to be done right in that instance.

Eric:

Now, it would be different if you were leaving for 30 days at a time, but what's really cool is there's also a book called No Rules Rules Netflix. For me, it was also a life changer because they talk about how there's no vacation policy and people can take as much vacation as they want, and they can do it at whatever time they want because they let people know… They set this expectation that you're not going to do it at a time where there's a million important things going on. You're going to find the right time and you're going to end those projects. And anything that comes in after that isn't going to be urgent. And I think about this is executives do this, all level employees, engineers, people who are responsible for the streaming, all of these employees will do this. And one of the cool things that Netflix does is that when they kick off their team meetings, if someone was on vacation, they actually put that employee on the spot and they say, hey, what'd you do? We want everyone to know what you did, and we want you share pictures.

Eric:

And even the executives will kick off a team meeting. And they're like, I was just in Fiji for five days and I loved it. And here's what I did. And they do that because they want other people to see that they can also do the same thing and they also should do the same thing. And so I really think it's important to kind of always keep that in back of mind. It's easier said than done, right? I mean, it's definitely easier said than done, but I think it takes practice, but it can definitely be done with the right practice.

Stephanie Goss:

It can. I will say I felt like I failed miserably. I had a meltdown. Jenn talked me off the ledge. I put my phone away for the remaining 48 hours of my unplug time. And I had a great time with the kids and my family and was like, okay. And I stopped. I didn't check email after that, because I was so upset. I didn't check email and I didn't set check Slack. I did a really good job of that. I used my phone for pictures and stuff like that, but I didn't post on social media. That was a hard and fast no go for me. I was like, I can't be on social, it's toxic.

Eric:

Awesome.

Stephanie Goss:

I did really good. I felt really good about it. It was like, okay, it was a little win. And then since then, I have had several… You were not wrong. Go take it one day at a time. And so that has been my challenge for myself, and I'm stretching it into longer, longer periods of time. So it's like can I spend the whole day, and can I really be present? For me, I've recognized that like the temptation of having the phone in my hand is huge and I've recognized, and this is part of the recovery process long term for myself, is recognizing that I am one of those people where the addiction tendencies are really strong and I can't have the temptations.

Stephanie Goss:

It's the same way with me with caffeine. If it's in the house in any format, it doesn't matter if I don't like it or not, I will consume it. And so for me it has been about that with my phone as well. It's actually been a benefit because I have leaned back into… I used to be an avid photographer and loved using my camera and had almost quit using my camera for years because I had my cell phone and the cameras on cell phones get better and better. And why wouldn't I use what's in my pocket. Right? And I don't have to lug gear. But the kids and I have been doing adventuring this summer, and I have picked that back up. For me it is about I have to leave it at home and it's making sure that if we go somewhere, I leave it in the car or I leave it in my purse, and I will catch myself.

Stephanie Goss:

If it's in my purse and the kids are doing something or they're playing with their friends, we just recently spent a day up at the lake, and they're in the water. I was sitting there drying off and was like, oh, just pull out my phone. I was like, I can't. I can't do it because the next thing you know I'm on social media and stuff like that. So for me, it's been a really painful, but good personal journey and recognizing I am so in awe of people like you and Tyler who were like, let's jump in and I'm going to do seven days or do 10 days. Also, part of why I wanted to do this was to say there are people listening and I see you.

Stephanie Goss:

I feel you because that was me. I couldn't make it through a 50 minute lecture the first time I met Eric, but here I am six years later, and I've made it for days now at a time, and I am working my way up. So the learning lesson for me was that I want to do what Tyler did. Maybe not in the same way that she did, but I want to go longer. I want to be able to do things. And so I'm working my way towards that. I think Tyler had a similar experience where it was like I went and some things went really, really well. And I gave her a really high grade on purpose because she's too hard on herself. And she did do things really well. And she also recognized… Tyler, I would love to hear from you, what are the things that you would want to do different next time, and how do we take our own personal experiences?

Stephanie Goss:

And to your point, Eric, how do we bring that into the company? And how do we start having those conversations as a team? Because we both independently and together recognize the impact that it had on us, but also the ripple effects of that experience on the rest of the team intentionally and unintentionally.

Tyler Grogan:

The other half of my grade was outside of the work piece. And this was where I had a lot of questions for Eric because things I would do differently, I was like, I don't really know how or why I would want to do this differently. And part of the experience on the personal side of unplugging, where like unplugging from technology completely was, what about the downtime? Because I don't know if this was your experience because you said your first unplugging experience, you traveled to France, and I'm not sure if you were on your own or if you had people with you. But part of that was, I was with somebody else. So they had access to their phone. So they'd be showing me things on their phone or things like that, which I felt like, okay, that is what it is. I'm not picking up my phone and doing this.

Tyler Grogan:

But there was a lot of downtime, especially when you're traveling. And then also the second half of that week was spent back in a normal kind of environment of like we're not always going to be out hiking all day where we don't have service and we're not being present in a moment of sitting on the couch and watching something together on TV can be much different than being present actively doing something. And I was like, that was where I struggled because we got back and suddenly we're in a normal home environment. And we're spending some of our time in between going to have meals or doing things together, just hanging out. And so you're normally on your phone scrolling through whatever or talking or, oh, let's look up this new thing that we both want to know more about.

Tyler Grogan:

Those were the parts that I was like, okay, how I would want to maybe do this differently, but how could you do it differently? And also I felt like there were times I wanted to talk to tell my mom about how my trip was going or tell somebody how it went speaking at the conference the week prior. I was like, is unplugging from that taking away from me?

Speaker 1:

Tyler asked me, am I actually breaking the rules?

Eric:

Yeah, so-

Tyler Grogan:

Yeah, because that actually is something I want to spend my time doing is talking to somebody. And so I was like, it's the two extremes and then what's falls in the middle I was like, this is okay.

Eric:

That's just it. Again, first off, I should have kicked this whole thing off by saying I'm not an unplug expert. It's just my experiences and the experience from my friends. But I think, Tyler, what you bring up is really important because even my unplugging has evolved. So for example, in the early stages of it, for the first few years, like I said, my phone was on airplane mode. It's evolved in the sense that my dogs are older now. My mom does watch my dogs. Elvis had a back issue, so I'll keep my phone on, but it'll be on do not disturb. And I'll FaceTime my mom. So that'll be like, hey, how are things going? How are you? I have a very close relationship with my mom. My friends on the other hand hate when I unplug, because I even unplug from them, and I got a lot of crap from my friends.

Eric:

And then I'll see threads of text messages that they'll forward me or that I will be on that I won't see until I get back. And they're like, oh, he's probably unplugged. And he's not talking to us. And this is unacceptable. I do think to your point, one of the things I'm learning is that maybe it is okay to send text messages to my friends and be like, hey, how are you and check in. It's just making sure. But see, I've had the experience of knowing what a true unplug is to know that that won't leak into something else. My biggest fear with that was, and the reason I went cold turkey with text messages, is my biggest fear is I would get a text message that would be related to something that I'm trying to avoid for an extended period of time.

Eric:

But I think there are ways now, like you can prioritize messages from friends and suppress other ones. So I think there're apps within our phones that give us better control than we had before. I think another thing that's really important, two more items. One, is I had someone I remember one time she's like, well, it sucks when you unplug and you go out to dinner with your friends and no one else is unplugged because at some point during dinner everyone's on their phones and I'm just sitting there. And I told her, I said, well, try to make it a game. I'm not condoning people to drink or anything like that, do what you want. But what I told her was like, if you happen to be at a bar or somewhere where there are drinks and that's what you're doing, then make it a game. Make everyone put their phone into a hat or something. And the first person that reaches for the phone has to pay the tab for that night.

Eric:

And so challenge your friend to do that. I remember that person that I recommended that to followed up with me months later. And she was like, I got to tell you that was a lot of fun. We started having these in depth conversations that we didn't. And this happened to me as well. I was friends with someone for my whole life, and there are things that I didn't know about them that were going on. And it's just amazing how the moment that we pick up our phones and everyone else starts to follow along like a domino effect that we lose that ability to connect deeper with that person.

Eric:

And then the third thing is is you're going to be bored, and you have to embrace that boredom. And that was a learning curve for me is like, I'm bored. I don't know what to do. And it's interesting. I'll be honest. I was never a reader. Now, I love reading. I'm reading all kinds of books now. I wrote an article while I was unplugged. You can choose to channel that in productive ways. I started my book a few years ago, albeit haven't gotten back to it. But I started that when I was unplugged. You can find things that you can do. I had someone one time tell me that she cleaned out her house that she's been needing to do forever. It doesn't sound fun, but the feeling that comes from setting goals or from cleaning your house out or from writing an article or accomplishing something, psychologists approve that dopamine hit that we get from that.

Eric:

And so it's that productive, that good feeling that you leave from it. And I will tell you when I'm unplugged and I'm bored, that's where I come back and I create some of my favorite lectures. That's where I come back and I'm truly inspired to do new things. My recent unplugged, it's been two weeks now and I have been exercising again because that's been a goal that I've set. And so these things, if you let your mind get to them, will actually allow you to be happier at the end. The problem is is we're so distracted that we never get our chance to let our mind be bored, to tap into the most creative part of who we are.

Eric:

Even at a stoplight, we pick up our phone and we're like, let's check Instagram. You don't get to be bored anymore, and boredom is such a brilliant thing. Yeah. So

Stephanie Goss:

It's totally true. I feel like I gave myself a D minus on this whole unplugging.

Eric:

I'd give you both an A. I don't think you're giving yourself credit.

Stephanie Goss:

Wait, I will say like the thing that came out of it… I feel like I failed, and I also was exceptionally proud because ultimately for me one of the pieces was I love to read. And for me, I was so looking forward to I'm going to unplug, I'm going to sit by the campfire and I'm going to read. I read 12 books in the week that I was gone. I was like, I feel really, really good about this.

Eric:

That's awesome.

Stephanie Goss:

It felt really accomplished. And to your point, Eric, the creative juices were going, I worked on website. I felt good, and I felt good about some of those choices in technology. I know, Tyler, you felt similar in a different way.

Tyler Grogan:

Yeah. I felt like in the end I realized that my relationship with social media in general had already changed where I wasn't really looking to it for entertainment as much anymore. And I was just kind of like, while it was muscle memory, it wasn't something I missed a whole lot. So that was an interesting discovery. But I also kind of journaled each day just to keep track of… And one of the things I would journal was a moment that I felt most present. I really feel like I was looking out for that. I shifted my perspective from looking at it. I don't know. I just paid attention for those moments a little bit more. And when I realized that I maybe was taking that away from myself for the opportunity to feel that, I think I can see that differently now.

Tyler Grogan:

And then some of those memories that I felt like now that I have when I was really present in the moment, those are some of my favorite memories from the trip. So more than the pictures that I took on my phone. But I feel like once I figured out, once I called it from the beginning an experiment, and I figured out what unplugging worked and what didn't for me, it was overall like a really good experience. My challenge now to myself is to translate that into my normal day to day life like Stephanie's kind of experimenting with. Like one day at a time still implementing those moments, like you called them unplugged moments, that's what I want to work on now.

Stephanie Goss:

I would agree with that and take it one step further, which is I think you were spot on Eric about for me especially, it gets one day at a time, but what I recognized with this experience was I did, although I was upset and there was a lot of turmoil and stuff I had to work through in regards to work when I came back, I recognized that I read all these books, I hung out with my kids, I spent quality time with my family, that felt really good. When I started talking to my therapist about it, analyzing myself, I recognized that I don't even get a weekend. I don't even give myself that on the weekends on a regular basis.

Stephanie Goss:

And so to Tyler's point, I started looking at how can I apply this first to having what lots of people would consider a normal life and actually leaving work at 5:00 PM on Friday and being able to have Saturday and Sunday where you don't work and you do a thing. Like, for me, that was the first challenge. And I think I probably will set myself up. I haven't put the dates on the calendar yet, but I am looking ahead to next year of what does that look like, and can I go a little bit longer baby steps, right? I'm not going to try and go 10 days. I'm not going to a retreat where nobody talks for days on ends. That is not me. I can never do those things. But how do I take it one step up? And the rest of this year, it is about how do I make that apply to my life as a whole so that I start to have a little bit more balance because it's very unbalanced.

Stephanie Goss:

I think our whole team has learned from this, and we have talked about it. I just have to say thank you to you because it has sparked conversations for us as a team about how do we change ourselves as a business recognizing that first step starts with admitting it, right? It's recognizing we have a problem, and how do we work together to figure out how to meet the basic needs, but also to the points you brought up earlier, sometimes that is the addiction talking and sometimes the control has to be taken away from you. And that is probably okay. And it took me quite a while.

Stephanie Goss:

I did my unplugging and so did Tyler in the beginning of summer, so June. We're two months after that, recording this, now it took me two months and multiple therapy sessions to work through my emotions. Let's be real. I was not in control and I was real mad, but I feel really good about it, and I feel positive about the changes that we want to make. I think, Tyler, you want to do this again, right?

Tyler Grogan:

Oh, 100%.

Stephanie Goss:

And I know you're addicted to it, Eric, because now it's multi times a year. When it first started, Eric was like I'm doing this once a year, and this is a thing. How often are you doing it now?

Eric:

It depends.

Stephanie Goss:

It's not a process.

Eric:

Yeah. There are times, there are definitely two extended periods of time throughout the year that usually fall within a holiday period because it's important to spend-

Stephanie Goss:

Schedules.

Eric:

Yeah. But sometimes I just do it when I'm like, I've hit my limit.

Stephanie Goss:

Need a break.

Eric:

Yeah. And when I know I'm responding to emails in a short manner when I know I'm getting frustrated, when I know I'm getting mad at things that I shouldn't, and then I know that's for me. And, listen, to both of you. I think it's very critical for people to share their experiences with unplugging, and the two different perspectives that you have I'm not surprised because everyone's going to have an entirely different experience with it. Everyone's going to have their own rules. Everyone's going to have their own thing that they're trying to accomplish. I think as long as we can celebrate the art of being able to unplug and celebrate the different ways that we do it and that we talk about it and that we encourage other people to do it, I think it can really help our colleagues, our friends and our peers be their better selves and be happier and more productive.

Eric:

And so I appreciate the platform and I appreciate both of you taking on this challenge and doing it yourselves. Stephanie, I'm going to be honest, my prediction originally was going to be that you hated it a hundred percent and that you never wanted to do it again. And you proved me wrong. You hated it 90%.

Stephanie Goss:

Let's be real, I hated it a hundred percent. Well, that's not true. There was moments like Tyler said where I really enjoyed. I was like, dude, I'm engaged. I love my family. This is the whole freaking reason I went on vacation because I actually do love them. And I love my siblings and my parents. I want to spend time with them. And so those moments were good. The rest of it, you're not wrong. In the moment I hated it a hundred percent, and I was like, screw this, I'm never going to do it again. But I will say, the gauntlet has been thrown, the challenge has been accepted. I will work on Andy Roark because I think that this would be a fun challenge. And then we'll have to have you back for round two to hear how Andy handles it.

Eric:

I'm very curious, very curious.

Tyler Grogan:

I think we all are.

Eric:

Not just Andy, how everyone around Andy handles it.

Tyler Grogan:

That's true.

Stephanie Goss:

Fair. I love it. Poor Andy. He's going to listen to this and be like, I did not sign up for this, guys. You're fired.

Eric:

This podcast will not air.

Stephanie Goss:

No, I love it.

Tyler Grogan:

One thing I want to say before we're done is that I do think that the timing of this was kind of the right timing because I think the last few years with the pandemic and the level of connectivity has increased to such a degree that we were seeking each other out because we couldn't physically be together, and a lot of the connection was taken away. And so coming out of that and having the first opportunity to spend quality time with people that were really important in my life in person and just one on one was I think that that was the right time to try this.

Tyler Grogan:

Thanks, Eric, for really throwing that out on social media; Stephanie, for volunteering us to do this podcast so that I felt that I would disappoint everyone if I didn't actually do it.

Stephanie Goss:

Voluntold.

Tyler Grogan:

Because it was exactly what I needed. It just made me appreciate that much more the personal time that you get with people in your life. So thanks, guys.

Stephanie Goss:

I love it.

Eric:

Thank you both.

Stephanie Goss:

I love you guys. This has been so much fun. This might be our longest Uncharted episode to date, but hopefully everybody's hung in there. They're like, oh my God. This conversation was so great. I had so much fun, and I think Eric would challenge all of you.

Eric:

I would.

Stephanie Goss:

Wherever, if you want to go in, all in, and you're like, I'm going to do 10 days or you're like can I do 50 minutes, wherever you fall, we are here for it. And I want to hear on our social media how it's going because I love this challenge. Eric, we will follow up because there will be a discussion with Andy.

Eric:

Done. I cannot wait. This is part of the reason I want it this year. I can't wait that long.

Stephanie Goss:

I love it. Take care everybody. Have a fantastic week.

Stephanie Goss:

Hey friends, have you been over to the website lately to check out all the fun and exciting things that are coming from the Uncharted veterinary team? If not, you should stop right now and head over there because we have got some awesome stuff coming late summer and into the fall and winter. I want you to be there with us. We have our Get Shit Done conference coming in the fall. That is happening in October. Before that we've got a workshop coming in September from my dear friend, Dr. Phil Richmond. He's going to be talking about avoiding toxic teams, how to create psychological safety in our practices. We've got the amazing and wonderful technician, Melissa Entrekin, who is leading a workshop in October about leveraging technicians, making practice less stressful for you, them, and your patients, and all kinds of other fantastic things you are not going to want to miss out on.

Stephanie Goss:

So if you haven't been over there lately, head on over to unchartedvet.com. You can hit forward slash events if you want to go straight to the events page, but that will show you everything that is coming. And, remember, if you are an uncharted member, your membership gets you access to all of these workshops that we do on a regular basis for free. If you are not currently a member, you can check out the membership information because it will save you big bucks throughout the year on accessing all of the workshops, and it scores you access to the conferences when we have them like Get Shit Done for less money. That's right. Get a discount. Who doesn't love a good discount? Thanks so much for listening, guys. We'll see you soon.

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Aug 24 2022

How to Compete For New Grad Hires

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This Week on the Uncharted Podcast…

Jason Szumski, a soon-to-be new grad c/o 2023, joins Dr. Andy Roark to share some research on what new graduating veterinary students are looking for in a first job hire and to answer the burning question so many independent veterinary practices have: “How do I even compete to hire new grads?!” Let's get into this episode!

Uncharted Veterinary Podcast · UVP – 193 – How To Compete For New Grad Hires

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Andy Roark:
Hey, Stephanie Goss. You got second to talk about GuardianVets?

Stephanie Goss:
Yeah, whatever you want to talk about.

Andy Roark:
Man, I hear from people all the time that are overwhelmed because the phones never stop ringing and I'm sure you hear from these people as well. Our caseload is blowing up and the doctors are busy and the phones just don't stop.

Stephanie Goss:
They never stop. That is a true story.

Andy Roark:
I'm amazed by how few veterinarians know about GuardianVets. This is a service where you have registered technicians who can jump in virtually and help you on the phones. You can flip the switch and GuardianVets can jump in and take some of the load off the front desk and they can handle your clients and get them booked for your appointments and give them support and it really is a godsend.

Stephanie Goss:
Pre-pandemic, it was amazing to me how many people hadn't heard about it for after hours call help. But at this point, I can't believe how many people don't realize that they are offering help during the daytime as well, which I would think right now is a huge benefit to practices because everybody is shorthanded. Everybody is drowning in phone calls and so we talk about it. We've talked about GuardianVets a lot on the podcast and every time we do, we always get somebody who says, “What is that?”

Andy Roark:
Guys, if you're not familiar with GuardianVets, if you think that you could use some help on the phones or at the front desk, check them out. It's GuardianVets.com. And if you mention our podcast, me and Stephanie Goss, you get a month free, so check it out, GuardianVets.com.
Welcome, everybody, to the Uncharted Veterinary Podcast. I am your host, Dr. Andy Roark. Stephanie Goss is not getting to do the introduction this week. Oh, no, I get to do this. In fact, Stephanie Goss isn't even on this episode. I am talking to a good friend of mine, a young almost doctor that I am so proud of and I am so pleased to mentor. He is someone that I expect amazing, outstanding things from in this profession. And I am so thrilled to have him here to talk about a question that a lot of people ask me. “How do I hire new grads, Andy? How do I even compete with the big dollars and the big budgets that are out there? How do I even get access to these people when other groups are able to go straight into the vet school? What do I do?” I have a magnificent fourth-year veterinary student who has got his thumb firmly on the pulse of the vet students in the United States and he knows the stuff and he's got some research he's going to unpack for us on what vet students want in their first job. It's a really good episode. It's really fun. You guys are going to really fall in love with Jason, if you have not heard him before. He is really amazing. But anyway, guys, that's enough. Let's get into this episode.

Meg:
And now the uncharted podcast.

Andy Roark:
Welcome to the podcast. Jason Szumski, how are you, my friend?

Jason Szumski:
I'm doing great. How are you, Dr. Roark?

Andy Roark:
Man, I'm good. It's good to see you again. For those who don't know you, which is probably, let's be honest, that's probably most people because you're just getting started. You are a fourth year vet student at Illinois College of Vet Medicine. You are the current class of 2023. You are the class president. You have been the VBMH chapter president at Illinois. You did an externship with me, which is super rare, because I quit doing those a long time ago, but you just wore me down, to be honest, and finally convinced me to take you on. And so you came and you stayed with me at my house with my kids and my wife and then helped me put on the Uncharted Conference back in April, and so you and I know each other really well. I am super glad to have you here because I have some questions that I have gotten through the Uncharted mailbag that I think that you're the guy to answer. Are you ready?

Jason Szumski:
I'm ready. Let's rock and roll. I'm glad to see you too, and thanks for having me.

Andy Roark:
Oh, man. My pleasure, my pleasure. Well, you actually, not only having you on the podcast, you are definitely the first veterinary student who's ever going to speak at an Uncharted Conference and so you've got that coming up, which is going to be pretty … No pressure. No pressure at all. We're definitely not going to do this again if you drop the ball.

Jason Szumski:
Right. Yeah, no pressure on that one.

Andy Roark:
But yeah, I'm sure you'll be fine.

Jason Szumski:
Yeah. I'm ready to rock and roll. It's going to be great.

Andy Roark:
It won't end your career before it starts. It will just cripple it if it goes badly.

Jason Szumski:
I can't wait. It's going to be a blast.

Andy Roark:
It's going to be great. All right, sweet. Here's what I got for you. Here's what you're talking about. At the GSD Conference in October, you are doing a presentation on effectively recruiting graduates from med school. And what I want to talk to you about was the number of questions that I get from frustrated, independent practices, small business owners, who say, “I don't know how to talk to vet students or how to get them to even look at us because there's so much noise and there are bigger companies that have big budgets and I just don't feel like there's any chance in the world that we can recruit a new graduate to our practice.” That just doesn't seem right to me, so let me go ahead. I'm going to open this up broadly and can you just speak at a high level, looking around, class of 2023, what do you think are the main concerns that new graduates have? What are they looking for in an employer?

Jason Szumski:
Right. Yeah, that's the question, right? And as a little guy, it's hard to compete with these offers that the corporate groups are offering, right? They can offer, they have deep pockets and big budgets. And so really, we wanted to try to figure out … I put a survey together, me and a classmate of mine, Natalie Whalen and now Dr. Aaron Kaplan over at Virginia, Maryland, put together a survey that just asked people, what are you expecting from an employer as a new grad and then a ranking system. What do you rank these things? We talked about schedule flexibility, corporate versus private, continuing education loans, location, the number of vets, the benefits, the salary, and the mentorship and then we had everyone rank it. We got 300 responses from four different schools around the country, so we have a good base of what we wanted to do and the results were overwhelming. Everyone wants mentorship. By far, the number one thing that people requested was mentorship. And that's not breaking news to anybody, but what is mentorship, and that's different. That's person by person and that's why I think it's different.

Andy Roark:
Well, I was writing that down as my next follow up question. What is mentorship, because we throw this word around all the time. And I got to be honest, from a practitioner standpoint, it's super frustrating because vet students are like, “I want mentorship.” And you're like, “What does that mean?” And they're like, “I don't know.” I want to go through the rest of this list and then we're going to come back and I want to crack into mentorship with you a little bit, because I want to try to figure out what people mean when they say that and how to ask questions so I can figure out what they're saying when they say they want mentorship. So mentorship, number one with a bullet, what else did you come back with?

Jason Szumski:
Sure, so mentorship, by far, number first, the first thing that people asked for. And then number two, three, and four were pretty variable. I'd say upwards of 80% of people wanted mentorship as number one. Benefits and salary are number two and three, but not a close number two and three. It's mentorship, by far number one. And we also broke it down by class to see which class wants mentorship more than other classes and it's pretty interesting. There's a huge jump from second year to third year, where people are starting to realize mentorship is really important. When they start to get those looks for jobs and they're starting to break down the barrier, it was a huge jump.

Andy Roark:
Well, the clinical rotation part, too. When you're doing textbook work, when you're taking exams like you've always taken, you're like, “I got this.” And then when you actually have to stand in the room, you're like, “Oh, I don't got this.” Yeah. I think it makes a lot of sense to me that you would see this increase at that time.

Jason Szumski:
Right. Yeah, until you're standing next to your first spay in junior surgery, you don't realize how important having someone that can help you out that knows what they're doing is, right?

Andy Roark:
Yeah. It's a security blanket.

Jason Szumski:
Exactly, a security blanket, and that's one of the many things that we saw, was what people wanted in mentorship and it's very, very different, which was great. That was one of the questions we asked. What is mentorship?

Andy Roark:
Okay. Before we get into that, let's tease out the other two that are easy, so benefits and salary. What are you seeing as far as benefits and salary? I know the students talk. I think that there are some things that vets underestimate and there's some things that vets wildly overestimate. Can you talk to me just in general, broad terms about that? When vet students say benefits, what do they care about? What are the things that seem to impress people or that seem to make a difference?

Jason Szumski:
Right. And right now, most benefits packages that I'm seeing are pretty similar. I mean, you talk about health, you talk about disability insurance, you talk about liability insurance. I include CE in benefits. Some people put it separate and say they want a different CE balance, but I think that's included in benefits there. And those are the kinds of things that are looking for. PTO is a big one. Right now, there's three job openings per vet student, so the market is crazy for vet students right now and vet students know that if they want a couple extra days off per year, they're going to ask for that, so those are the kinds of things that they're asking for in terms of benefits. PTO and CE are really important right now. Those are the two of the bigger ones.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. That totally makes sense. All right. And then salaries, I'm assuming that you see pretty broad variation, depending on where people are going to go practice.

Jason Szumski:
Yeah. It's definitely dependent on where they're practicing and what they're practicing. I mean, mixed animal veterinarians will make a little bit less, but as I heard on an earlier episode with you, we're breaking the six figure mark pretty standardly now. And then I know it's different from even the last couple years, but most of vet students coming out are expecting an offer to be at or around six figures right away.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. That's what I'm seeing as well so yeah, I think that's definitely a trend. I think that's good for veterinarians. I think it's good for practitioners. I think it's where we're going. I think a lot of vets, a lot of practices get stuck in their head and they're like, “Well, why do these people make more money coming out of school than I ever made coming out of school?” And you go, “That's not an important question. That doesn't help you at all.” The question you need to ask yourself right now is, “This is what's happening. What are we going to do about it?” Not should we adapt, but how do we adapt? How do we make these things happen so we can be competitive?
Well, let's give the answer to that. Let's start to tap into mentorship because if you've got 80, 85% of vet students saying this is the number one thing for me and putting it over salary and benefits, well then obviously, this is a differentiator. And one of the things I think is really great, it actually makes me really happy as an entrepreneurial, optimistic, innovative person, is to say, “I think this is great,” because I think this is where individual practices can shine. I think this is where you show your culture and your values. I think it's where you can make up a lot, as far as dollars and cents, by giving people safety guidance feeling, that they're going to be brought up, grown, and developed. I think that's worth a lot more than dollars, once you hit a certain dollar threshold for sure. And so what is your take when we start to talk about mentorship, how it applies to different people? How do we crack this open, Jason? Are there broad categories that you think exist when people say mentorship? How do I start to get my arms around this concept?

Jason Szumski:
Sure. I think the number one most important thing that you can do with regards to mentorship is be flexible. Every single vet student that's coming out of school is different and their experience is different and what they want is different, so be flexible. Don't go in with the standard, “We're going to do hour appointments for the first six months and then half hour appointments after that.” Be flexible. Meet with your vet student weekly, biweekly. Get the get gauge on how they're doing comfortability wise. Do they want to move up? Do they want to see more sick patients? Do they want to see less sick patients because they're not comfortable yet? So those are the kinds of areas that you can really get a leg up, in terms of the competition and being flexible because you have that flexibility as a smaller practice to be able to leverage that.
We ask that question, what is mentorship? What does that mean to you? And we got so many different answers. Everyone answers it differently. And the great thing is that we have tons of ideas on how people are thinking. So some people like to walk through cases, just, “Hey, for the first three weeks, let's just walk through some cases. Let's make sure that I'm thinking about things correctly.” Like you mentioned earlier, the security blanket, “I know how to do things. I just want someone to be there in case something goes wrong.” And then after a little bit of time, you realize that you know what you're doing and that security blanket is less and less and less. Some people like that.
A big one, comfortability, asking questions, you have to be open to receiving questions from new grads. And I know that's time consuming, but that's what new grads want and they want to be able to, “Hey, I'm struggling with this lung pattern. Can you help me out and help me differentiate a couple of things that I'm looking at here,” and being able to, “Oh, of course. Let's go look at it right now,” is huge for vet students. That's what we're looking for. We're not looking for someone to do the cases for us. We're just looking for someone to help us along in areas that we're not super confident in quite yet.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. I'm working with a recent grad in practice right now and I think the world of her. I'm so I really like her a lot. I think she's going to be such a great doctor. And I was asking her recently, “So how are things going? Are you struggling with anything?” And she said, “Honestly, would you listen to me do some phone calls, because my phone calls take forever.” She's like, “I feel like I'm on the phone all the time and I don't know if I'm not doing it right. I don't know …” It was funny. I was talking to her. And so she's on the phone all the time or for a long period of time and she's like, “I can't get out of here. I'm on the phone all the time,” and she was asking me about it. And I said, “Yeah, I'll listen to your calls,” and we started going through it and talking through it together.
One of the things I think is fascinating is she thought that she was on the phone for a long time because she was slow. The truth is, I think the other doctors in this practice have been there for a long time and they have an established clientele. And so they get all these wellness appointments when people come in and say, “I want to see this doctor. I want to see this doctor.” And because she's the new doctor, she's picking up all the walk-ins and the emergencies and the people who are like, “I don't care, just get me in,” and that's just part of being a brand new grad. And so she's going, “Man, I'm spending so much time on the phone,” and I say, “But my friend, it's because you are doing these deep, hard cases,” and her whole day is full of sick things because she hasn't built a clientele yet, where she just has people asking for her to do wellness things.
I am overstating as far as her whole day, but you get the point of she thought she was not doing it right. But the truth is like, “No, no, you're doing fine and there's some dials we can turn and some nuts and bolts we can crank down,” but I was really impressed that she figured that out and said, “Well, this is what I think,” but now that we're going through it, I see that this is the pattern.
I say that just to your point of everybody's different and she does not want you to do the case for her. She's a very competent, impressive doctor. There's just stuff like that she goes, “Check me on this and make sure I'm not doing something wrong that's making these phone calls go on much longer than they should.” I think that's really insightful. Let me circle back around. Let's talk about some language here. Let's say that I'm a practitioner. I'm really trying to convince a new graduate to come and to be mentored and to grow in our practice and things. For a long time, there were practice management gurus who were saying, “You need to have a mentorship plan, a mentorship program.” I still agree with that to some point. You can't blow this off. You have to be serious about mentorship, but I think what you said really resonated with me before about, don't just say you're going to do hour long appointments because maybe that's not what I need or maybe I've seen that before.
People say for the first six months, hour long appointments, and there's a very gung-ho veterinarian who, six weeks in, is dying. And they're like, “Come on, You're killing me here. Let me do some things.” I think it's a balance, isn't it, of having a plan of saying, “This is how we're going to start out and we're going to have an assessment period in four to six weeks. And depending on how you feel, we're going to make some adjustments to that and it's going to grow with you.” I don't think I've ever heard that really laid out that clearly, but as you said that, it made a lot of sense to me. Does that sound correct in your ears?

Jason Szumski:
Exactly. And that's a great way and that's exactly what vet students look for and that's a great way for you to leverage your practice is, everyone should have a mentorship program and you should be advertising that you have a mentorship program, 100%. But what's within your mentorship program is what's really important and you have to be able to communicate that to the new vets, because if you look on ads on all those websites that have the ads, every single one of them's going to say mentorship, but what is that mentorship? So if you can articulate well what your mentorship program looks like … It's flexible. We meet weekly and talk about your goals and your comfort level and we go out to lunch and we talk about the cases that you had the previous day and make sure that you're comfortable with follow-ups and make sure that you're comfortable with your client communication or that your phone calls are taking too long and you want someone to overlook you there.
That's exactly what we're looking for and it's really flexible. So to have a super structured mentorship program, where every single new vet does the same thing, I don't think that's going work. I think that you should definitely make it flexible and adjust it as needed. Like you said, gung ho veterinarians are going to just take off and hit the ground running, but there are some people that need that reinforcement right away and that's okay, too. Some people just need that little extra, “You're doing great. Keep going. I'm here if you need me.”

Andy Roark:
Well, I think you just called out one of the real truths in all of this, is the talk is cheap. And every advertisement for a recent grad out there is going to say mentorship. We do mentorship. It's ubiquitous. Everybody says it. Most practices don't really have it. I have a strong suspicion that if you asked the practices, “Do you mentor your new grads?” and you recorded how many said they do, you would get a wildly different answer than if you went to those grads and said, “Do you feel that you were well mentored?” Those are just very, very different numbers, I think. I think a lot of us practices go, “Oh, no. They're getting what they need,” and the person is saying, “Hey, I'm really not being engaged this way.”
These are skills that were never taught to doctors in vet school. At no point in vet school coming through do they say, “This is how you're going to invest into new graduates when you are a seasoned doctor.” And of course, there's only so much time in vet school. How do you even teach that? Most of us are flying by the seat of our pants.
Let me give you a hard question here, Jason, and say let's pretend for a second that you have a vet practice and you are 3, 4, 5, 6 years out of school. You've got your own little startup now. You are trying to hire your second doctor or maybe your third doctor and you're talking to a new graduate and you say to them, “Hey, I'm really serious about mentorship.” And she looks at you and says, “Yeah, buddy, you and everybody else says that they're really serious about mentorship. What do you mean when you say that and how can I know that you are telling me the truth when you say this is important?” And so role play that scenario for me, Jason.

Jason Szumski:
Sure. I think first things first, if you are hiring a new grad so that you can get time off, you're hiring a new grad for the wrong reason and new grads will pick that up very quickly, very quickly. That is number one big red flag, as you're saying, “Oh, yeah. You're going to get all the time and whatever hours you want,” and then you leave, “I'm going to go on vacation because I have a new grad,” big red flag, so I'm going to make sure that I am very clear that I will be there as long as you need me there. And I know that can be frustrating, but in order to develop your practice and to get it bigger and better and to develop this new grad into someone that you're proud to have in your practice, you have to put in that time and effort, so I'm making that very clear.
And one other thing that you can do is not just new grads. You can get vet students in the door through externships during their first or second year. Especially like I talked about that jump from second to third year, that summer of your second to third year is a great time to get vet students in the door, bring them into your practice, let them see what the culture is like really before they're job hunting. Let them get used to who you are. Teach them, start to mentor them, give them little nuggets here and there about, “This is what I like to do in a surgery. Do you want to scrub in so that you can feel what an ovary feels like so that when you go into junior surgery, you're prepared for it?” Stuff like that really, really helps.
And one other thing that's a little bit small but it's really helpful, paid housing for externs. I mean, there's a lot of externs that would be like, “I'd love to go to your clinic, but I'm in so much debt right now that I can't afford to go to your clinic.” And if you pay for their housing and their travel, so many more vet students will flock your away. So that's just a little thing and it's not too much of a hit to the pocket, but that's a little thing that could definitely get a little bit of edge and get someone in the door.

Andy Roark:
And an Airbnb can be a good investment and probably pretty darn reasonable. It's just something that I think a lot of people don't think about, but that's the difference between me getting a student to come and not getting a student to come. That's a small price. That's some play money that I'm hoping pays off, but I can put it up, even if it doesn't work out.
I think you're you're spot on. I think your answer's really simple, as it stunned me in that way to say, “Well, the best way to convince them what you mean by mentorship is to get them in for two weeks and show them what you mean,” because talk is cheap. But if they came for two weeks and they said, “Oh, he's really easy to ask questions to and he sticks around and he walks me through cases and he lets me try things and he does and he doesn't get irritated when I ask him questions. He's open and happy and genuinely makes me feel comfortable asking him,” that's really smart. And again, it's so simple and I go, “Oh, that sounds right.” I was waiting for some, “Okay. Well, you show them this and you tell them that.” And they're like, “No, you just get them to come for two weeks and then do what you're going to do and then they see it,” that makes a ton of sense.

Jason Szumski:
Exactly.

Andy Roark:
Hey guys, I just want to jump in here real fast and give a shout out to Banfield, the pet hospital, for making our transcripts available. That's right. We have transcripts for the Cone of Shame Vet Podcast and the Uncharted Veterinary Podcast. You can find them at drandyroark.com and at unchartedvet.com. This is part of their effort to increase inclusivity and accessibility in vet medicine. We couldn't do it without them. I got to say thanks. Thanks for making the content that we put out more available to our colleagues. Guys, that's all I got this time. Let's get back into this.
Talk to me a little bit about externships. How do you think that vet students become aware of externships? How can veterinarians, who are like, “Hey, I am totally open to having a student for an externship. I think I would have a good program,” how do that students find these programs?

Jason Szumski:
Sure. And as a completely separate survey, I wanted to get the gauge of what my graduating class before me was doing, how they found their first job, and answers were widely different. No one found their first job the same, so there's no real way that these are what the good people are doing. The best thing that I can say is get into schools and talk to students, whether it's through clubs, like the VBMA. We at Illinois, our VBMA brings in speakers all the time and our goal is to set up students and speakers together, students that like speakers, speakers that like students, and then get them matched like that. So you can go into schools, give a little lunch lecture, buy some lunch for some students, get your name, your foot in the door, and get those students thinking about you.
That's a great way to get your foot in the door and get some students to come see. And then once your foot's in the door and you have these students interested in you and your clinic, you can bring them in for that externship. And when I talk about externships, I'm just talking about one to two weeks, get them in your clinic, let them do some things, make them think like a doctor, but support them. Those are great things that you can do and during that summer is the perfect time to do it. Bring out a vet student for a week, pay for their housing, and show them what your clinic's all about. And if they're a good fit for you and you guys will hit it off and they'll be looking to come back.
And at the end, this is big and so small. Again, these are just small little things that are really helpful. Make sure you tell them how you feel. If you really enjoyed them, tell them that you enjoyed them and that you would really like the opportunity to continue moving forward and talking. Make sure you are saying those things out loud, because you might think, “Oh my gosh, that student was awesome,” and you're telling the whole hospital how great it was, but unless you tell the student that, they don't know that you're thinking that. And they might think, “Oh my gosh, that one answer I missed, he probably doesn't even want to think about me anymore.” But if you say, “Hey, you did a great job. I really enjoyed you. Let's keep this conversation going,” great way to get in the door there.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. Recruiting is a lot like dating, I found out early in my life, and everybody wants to be wanted. That is a huge thing. I have been really blessed and lucky in my career for making fantastic hires. And you know this from working with the Uncharted team, I have great, great people that work for me. And I go, “Man, that's been amazing.” The greatest strategy that I have had is going to those people and saying, “I see your potential. I see what you do well. I want you to be on our team and this is why I want you to be here with us.” It's an approach that has always worked for me and it comes from the heart and I'm always honest.
But everyone, they love to have someone come up and say, “I see what you're good at. I see your potential. I see how well you work here. I see what your talents are and you're going to fit well here and I would be really happy to have you.” That sounds so simple again, but man, it really does make a big difference. And especially you've got vet students coming in and they're a bit insecure in their talents and they want to work with someone who wants them to be there. Not just tolerates them being there, not who says, “Ah, we really need a vet and yeah, you're a new grad, but I mean, we're going to take the long view and hope this pays off.” Man, that's not attractive. That's not the dating opening that you want, like, “Ah, you're a six, but I'm pretty desperate and we'll see if this works out.” That's not what you want.

Jason Szumski:
Exactly. Red flag. Those are the red flags we're talking about.

Andy Roark:
Red flag. Red flag. Yeah. I think that totally makes sense to me. I love the ideas of getting into the vet schools. That does make sense. I love that you mentioned some specific ways that people can get in there. More and more of the vet schools are having job fairs. Have you seen these? Have you attended some of the vet school job fairs?

Jason Szumski:
I have. That's another great way. A lot of our vet school fairs are within our state. So people travel down for the day, meet tons of vet students, and these can be … Make sure that you're open and clear that you're looking for first and second years to do externships. That's a great way. But yes, of course, meet with the fourth years and try to get them to come to your clinic too, but those first and second years and upcoming third years are great people to recruit to come check out your clinic as well and that's a great way to get your foot in the door and get an initial conversation going. That's an excellent point too, Dr. Roark.

Andy Roark:
So you've seen these, and I know you and I have talked about them before a little bit in the past. Give me a quick prep run through what I should do to be ready to come to these job interviews because everyone thinks of them like speed dating. They seem super awkward. They're really intimidating, because you're like, “I'm going to go talk to these people and they're not going to want to hear about my little practice.” I think we get up in our heads and there's a lot of insecurity about having these conversations.
I think the point you already made about one really great play is going there not trying to hire someone that you just met in this awkward environment, going and trying to get them to come for a week, come up and just check out our practice, see what I'm doing. Come for a weekend. Come up, work Friday afternoon and spend a Saturday with me and just see what we do.
Again, I go back to dating. I keep going back to dating. It's really a great analogy, I think, as far as how you build relationships is. You don't ask someone to go on vacation with you the first time you meet them. Ask them to go to lunch and just, “Can we get some coffee?” That's basically what we're trying to do here. It's just too weird to, I think, walk these places and say, “Hey, you never heard of me. I've got a three vet practice 200 miles from here. Want to come and spend years of your life there?” It seems like too much of a jump for me. So beyond that, beyond smaller starting point, other advice that you have for people going in here? What do they need to have in their mind? Are there things that can bring with them that students actually find value and are going to take away, they're going to consider? Anything like that?

Jason Szumski:
Sure. And now that you've heard this students are looking for mentorship. You could hit them hot with something about your mentorship program right away. “Come out. Hey, this is how we train our new grads. This is what we like to do for new grads.” And understand that yes, you're going there as a small practice a little bit insecure, but these students are also a little bit insecure. They're nervous that they're not going to find the right first job. They're nervous that they're just going to be another number. Let them know that they're valued and that you would really appreciate the time to bring them into your clinic. And that you have a great mentorship program and that this is what it looks like and you can have examples of …
And another great way is if you are, I know some of the one doctor practices, it's a little bit harder, but if you do have a new doctor that you did mentor, bring them with, too. Have a little two person attack. “Hey, this is my mentee. Ask them whatever you want to ask them.” And then there you go. Now your mentee is talking about, “Oh yeah, he had a great mentorship program. I'm two years out and now I can do spays in 15 minutes and I'm starting to do cystotomies and I'm doing this and my client communication is … And it's all thanks to him.” And then now I'm like, “Wow. That's awesome. I've seen that firsthand that you do know how to mentor someone and that you have mentored someone and that it worked well enough to the point where they're coming with you to these job fairs.” So mentorship, we've talked about it the whole time, but it's so, so, so important to vet students right now. And the imposter syndrome is so real in vet students and making sure that you're acknowledging those feelings and making them feel comfortable, that's a huge, huge way to start.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. That totally makes sense. It's funny you say that. I think bringing another doctor that you've had that you have mentored along, I think it's a great idea. It's funny. When you were saying that, I was thinking about it. It feels like testimonials could be really valuable. So for example, if you had a doctor who was mentored, even if you just said, “Hey, is there a testimonial that we could say …” If I'm going to do a leave behind say, “Hey, Dr. Soandso, hey, I started my job here. It was the best decision I've made. I really got this great mentorship,” I think that's awesome.
If you have vets in your practice, this is the only job they ever had, so they came as a new graduate and they've stayed along, I think featuring those doctors, talking to those doctors, bringing those doctors along if you can, to say, “Hey, I got what I needed here. I grew here. I really felt very good about how I was supported,” I think that stuff is irreplaceable. There's nothing else other than them actually coming and participating, that I think works that well, so all of that totally makes sense to me.
Let's see. Anything else? I think that makes a ton of sense as far as resources, setting these things up. The last thing I want to ask you is, what pitfalls should vet practices look out for? What are the things that you have seen, don't name names, for God's sakes, don't name any names, but what are things that you have either seen or have heard that are mistakes that practices have made to try to recruit new graduates?

Jason Szumski:
Sure. Yeah. I mean, that's a tough one. I say this out loud because some people just need to hear it and be like, “Oh, yeah. That's obvious,” but I say this because it's not that obvious because I've heard stories of these things happening, where you are leaving the new grad alone, you jump into a room by yourself and say, “Oh, I don't know where the vet student went. I'm just going to hop into a room.” And now they're standing in the treatment area and they don't know anyone else because it's their first day and they don't want to step on anyone's toes but they want to be helpful, but they know that there's no liability insurance for them and now the vet is gone and now things are awkward and you're just waiting for them. So make an effort to grab the vet student and bring them into the rooms and engage them in these conversations and supervise them when you can because especially on that first day, that is a tough day.
I struggle with first days myself because I'm like, “Oh my gosh, I don't want to step on anyone's toes but I want to be helpful. How do I balance that? I want to make sure that people know who I am, but I don't want to come off overbearing and I don't want to waste people's time.” So grab these students and bring them in and then as they get more comfortable, they can start to spend a little bit more time here, spend a little bit more time here. But for those first couple days, grabbing those students and making them a part of what you're doing and making an effort to make them feel included is super valuable.
And it's way too often I just feel like I'm too busy to have a vet student follow me. If they're not with me, I'm just jumping in the room. And I'm like, “This is a person that you're going to mentor, but you can't even bring them into a 30 minute appointment?” Those are not good things to do. That's, again, just a little thing that you bring a vet student, you grab them, you bring them in the room with you not, physically grab them, but make sure that they're with you and that they know what's going on.

Andy Roark:
I just get them.

Jason Szumski:
Yeah. I know you just grab them, but …

Andy Roark:
That's why they wear white coats, just so you can just snatch them.

Jason Szumski:
Exactly. Exactly, so that's just a good one.

Andy Roark:
I think you're right. Well, I think one of the things I've seen work really well in that regard is you don't have to go this alone as the mentor either. Bring the students in. Get your techs on board, say, “Hey, don't let this person stand around without knowing what to do or where to go. If you see them, if I run off into a room or something and you see them, bring them to where I am. I want them to be there. I might have to run off and they're doing something else where I don't know where they are. When you see them, bring them to where I am. I'll introduce them and get them right back in.”
The other thing is mentorship doesn't have to be a one on one game, and I think a lot of people say that. “Well, there's a mentor and there's a mentee.” And I go, “Well, yes and no.” I think that there's value in young doctors working with multiple other doctors. I don't think that I am the one who has to teach this doctor everything. I think that working with me is great. Working with the other doctors around our practice are great. I think where people make a mistake is they don't have that clear communication with the other doctors or with the support staff about, “Hey, would you help me with this? Would you support the mentorship program? Would you be willing to take this person? And this is generally what I'm looking for,” because a lot of times people will turn to you. I mean, I remember being an associate doctor early on and somebody would be like, “Hey, we got a new grad coming. Will you mentor them?” And I'm like, “I have no idea what that means.” And it would've been really nice to say, “Hey, would you be willing to take them into the rooms with you? Make sure they know what's going on, show them what you're looking at. Walk them through these processes. Just make them feel comfortable.” Just make sure they have other people that they can turn and talk to and ask questions to, not the one person.
We've all said, and I don't know about you, I feel like I've been this person a million times, of the lost puppy who has exactly one contact and that person disappears and I'm just looking around and the techs are looking at me like, “What is this man doing standing in the back in the back of the building? I don't think he's supposed to … Sir, did you get lost?”
It can be a team game. I think a lot of people get really overwhelmed. They go, “I don't have time to mentor a person.” Well, great. You need to pull three other doctors together and you guys all get coordinated on this and tag team it and pass the person around and do a half day each for two days and they're going to cycle through and you're going to have them for half a day. Then you're going to see how that goes and then we're going to modify as we go along. It's doesn't have to be everything on one person, but I really do.
As a busy doctor, I can empathize with the people who disappear and go, “Look, I got to go,” but that's a bad, bad investment choice for sure. All right. Any final pearls, Jason? Anything that you feel like people really need to get right? Anything that you think are keys to success that people might need to hear one more time?

Jason Szumski:
Sure. I think also one of the things that you can do for mentors is if they're volunteering their time to take on a new grad, give them a little bump in pay. Make sure that they know that their time is worthwhile, so just a little something actually that you can do there. And like I said, this is all about building relationships. Get that foot in the door, build a relationship with these students, make sure that you're in it for the right reasons because if you're not in it for the right reasons, then the vet students are going to pick that out and that's not going to get into a good situation.
So make sure that you're in it for the right reasons, you're in it because you want to develop your practice. You want this new grad to have a great clientele in the area. You want your practice to be more profitable and you know how to develop your new grad. Take that time to do that. Build that relationship with that new grad starting in early year, especially that second to third year jump. That's a huge time where people start to really value that mentorship. Get into schools, job fairs, clubs, give lunch lectures. You could even do little wet labs, where people can come to your clinic and do some supervised spays and neuters with your doctors and those are things that can get people in the door, too.
So little things like that, and schedule flexibility. I mean when you're talking about mentorship, making sure everything is so flexible, you're checking in weekly, you're checking in biweekly. You're there if you need them. For the first couple weeks you and the new grad are on the same schedule. You're always there if you need them. Those are little things that the small guys can do that cost no money that give you a huge leg up.

Andy Roark:
Yeah. That's the last thing that I would add to this, and this is a philosophical thing, but I think it's really important. I understand when this happens. I feel like a lot of vets are overwhelmed and they're like, “Oh, we really need this help,” and they think about themselves and they think about getting someone in who can help them and help their business, and I think that's very understandable. We all know how people can get in that mentality, but it's almost this weird paradoxical trick.
If you can get past that mindset into the more Buddhist zen way of thinking, if you can really convince yourself that, “I want to hire this person because I want to work with good people and I want to grow this person and I understand that this person might outgrow our practice. They might work with us for three years and then go on.” And rather than being resentful of that or saying, “Oh, I really messed up because I had them here for two years or three years or four years and then they left,” if you can say, “I had this person here. I'm going to be proud of the time that they were with us and I'm going to feel that we did right by them and supported them in the three years that they were here,” and who knows what's going to happen in life?
We've all had spouses that got new jobs and we moved or we've had family members get sick or we've had just our general life change. I don't think you can hire someone with the idea, and I think a lot of people do and I think it's a big mistake. I think it's a mistake to hire someone with the idea that you are going to have them for 20 years. And if you don't have them for 20 years, then they somehow let you down or this was some a failure. I don't think there's anything productive in that. I don't think that's the way the world works anymore.
I think you should hire somebody because you want to work with them, because you want to grow them, because you think that you can help them and they can help you and know that they might move on at some point and you need to be okay with that. And honestly, you should feel good about that because you can feel bad about it. The outcome is still exactly the same. It's only how you feel and how you perceive this. And what I found, though, the crazy thing is that when you decide that you are taking this long view and you're just going to do your best and try to hope that it works out and you're going to feel good about it, often you end up with a much more positive, healthy, happy relationship, and the person's more likely to end up staying around. It's funny the way that works.
The last thing I would say is, I brought this up a number of times. Whenever I'm talking with Stephanie on the podcast, I'll talk about the cartoon. There's this cartoon I've seen and it's got two veterinarians and one of them looks at the other and says, “Well, what if we train these people and they leave?” And the other one says, “What if we don't train them and they stay?” And I think that's true too, so I think about that a lot as far as investing into new talent. Jason, thank you so much for being here, man. I really appreciate you.

Jason Szumski:
Yeah, of course. I'm glad I got to hang out with you and I'm really looking forward to your October conference, where we can dive deeper into this and really figure out what new grads want.

Andy Roark:
That's right. Guys, October 6th through the 8th is our Get Sh*t Done Shorthanded Conference. Get Sht Done Shorthanded. It means recruiting people too, and that is going to be one of the things that we're going to be talking about. We've got workshops. Jason is running a workshop for us. We'll have discussion groups. We'll have all sorts of things to make your life easier if you're feeling overwhelmed. So block your time off at the clinic and it's virtual, but you can do a little clinic time and then get in and work with us in the day. So anyway, guys, take care of yourself. Jason, thank you again for being here. I cannot wait to see you in October.

Jason Szumski:
Can't wait. It's going to be a blast.

Andy Roark:
And that is our show, guys. I hope you enjoyed it. Hope you got something out of it. Like I said, if you haven't registered for the Get Sh*t Done Shorthanded Virtual Conference, it is October 6th through the 8th. Get more information at unchartedvet.com. Check it out. You're going to want to block some time on your schedule at the clinic because you don't want to multitask. You're going to want to be a part of this because our conferences are super interactive. Jason's running the workshop for us on hiring new grads. It's going to be really discussion based. You're going to hear a lot more than you heard here today and there's going to be other practitioners that are talking about what they do and it's going to be really an awesome time. Don't want to miss it. Guys, thanks again for being here. Be well. Talk to you later on. Bye.

Written by Dustin Bays · Categorized: Blog, Podcast · Tagged: culture, New Grad, New Hire

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